I bet this guy was squirming when Dave told him to use his $45k in savings to pay off her debt. I know I would be.
@chrisfamos3 жыл бұрын
It’s emotionally demoralizing. Like a chunk of your life gone.
@28goldenboy3 жыл бұрын
@@chrisfamos Completely agree. Even if one is not obsessed with money, there's still an emotional attachment to your savings because it represents your hard work, grit, sacrifice, and discipline. I also agree with John when he says that you shouldn't be tiptoeing on conversations with your significant other who you are about to marry. That's a ticking time bomb waiting to explode once the honeymoon phase is over.
@chrisfamos3 жыл бұрын
@@28goldenboy Exactly. All those early mornings, lost time, discomfort brings in emotions. It’s important to not get lost in the cascade hype of marriage as reality quickly sets in. Be prepared and long term sustainability will follow.
@Jay-om8gr3 жыл бұрын
@@chrisfamos so why even do it
@chrisfamos3 жыл бұрын
@@Jay-om8gr Reality setting in isn’t a bad thing when everything is set up reasonably by both parties.
@minervagalvez47483 жыл бұрын
If your hesitant, DON'T DO IT, be honest with yourself in the relationship you are in...Be Honest Bro...
@riverdaletales84573 жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t marry her sorry I won’t go into debt for anyone.
@lawv8042 жыл бұрын
If you ever have that feeling in your gut that you shouldn't commit to someone, trust that gut feeling.
@F1R3EMBLEM4 ай бұрын
Utterly terrible advice here from Dave and Dr Delony
@aaronjensen74113 жыл бұрын
Don't pay it off brother. When Dave said drain your life savings I about lost it. She is going to say thanks ✌.
@untouchable360x3 жыл бұрын
Then she goes back to Chad and Tyrone.
@dabd81753 жыл бұрын
She will peace out
@nicolcacola3 жыл бұрын
"After marriage" is the key. Rebuilding the savings will be a non issue.
@johnnyboy58693 жыл бұрын
@@nicolcacola what difference does "after marriage" makes?
@regb69893 жыл бұрын
@@nicolcacola unfortunately marriage doesn’t mean too much anymore. If she isn’t aggressively attacking her debt now she won’t do too much to rebuild the savings once married.
@RJLuna103 жыл бұрын
Should still have the conversation without telling her that he would be paying almost all of her debt after marriage to see her response before buying an engagement ring.
@billnyeisafraud3 жыл бұрын
@Heinrich Himmler when you get married, it's is for rich or for poor. If you're not ready to get on the same page, don't get married.
@billnyeisafraud3 жыл бұрын
@Heinrich Himmler clearly you are not ready to be a part of 50% that succeed!! I would advise you to stay away from getting married!!
@billnyeisafraud3 жыл бұрын
@Heinrich Himmler if it's "cheaper to keep her" my friend you have found the wrong woman!!!! Hahahahaha
@riverdaletales84573 жыл бұрын
Nahh I would run away and not marry the chick 🤣. That or stay as girlfriend and boyfriend.
@grizzlybear27023 жыл бұрын
@@billnyeisafraud for rich or for poor. Correction. This only applies when it benefits a woman at the expense of a man.
@BagsNBaguettes_3273 жыл бұрын
Why would he use his 45k that he sweat and saved for??! She hasn’t felt any pain so debt will be running rampant. Don’t listen to this advice. I follow Dave’s advice but I wouldn’t do this. You’ve been warned.
@marcusj973 жыл бұрын
AMEN
@lauromartinez89483 жыл бұрын
True. I don’t know why Dave said that, his savings are the only think preventing him from going into debt.
@Posting73 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!!
@97I30T3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, Dave gives great advice most of the time but I don’t agree with his views on relationships. He always takes the woman’s side. He’s teaching guys how to be simps.
@bigidiot1233 жыл бұрын
The idea behind marriage is that you become one unit, that includes money. Everything you own becomes theirs and vice versa. So by getting married he's basically handing over that $45k to her anyway. This is the reason so many marriages end in divorce. Human beings are inherently selfish. I don't want to pay off $55k of someone else's debt with my hard earned money either, so I won't get married to someone with $55k in debt. Marriage is not for everyone. Actually it's probably not for the vast majority of people. It's weird that a religious ceremony invented by desert people 2,000 years ago is even still a thing.
@tuna023 жыл бұрын
Hope this dude is reading these comments because there's better advice in here than what he received from Dave
@perotal3 жыл бұрын
Preach !!
@shutupandeatasmr44983 жыл бұрын
I hope he gets a prenup also. Lol
@Jesseg-rj6xf3 жыл бұрын
Amén!
@Rampage0863 жыл бұрын
I totally agree!
@davidcopperfield22783 жыл бұрын
the strangest thing in this story is the fact they hadn't have a conversation about it in 3 years while planing to get married, these two guys just played it down, it's much weirder than they made it sound. I just can't smell a healthy relationship here
@zolozek33273 жыл бұрын
He's a millionaire they get tax breaks
@betruetoyourself71623 жыл бұрын
When a couple do not talk of their dreams, they don’t plan on being together long.... it may just be a convenience arrangement
@davidcopperfield22783 жыл бұрын
@@betruetoyourself7162 totally agree
@zeal4god4023 жыл бұрын
Many people did not grow up having regular financial discussions so it is challenging for many when they are adults, but for a healthy and stronger marriage it must be done
@SilhouetteASMR3 жыл бұрын
He’s spending 45k of his life savings on a woman he’s known for 3 years. Sheesh, I hope the marriage works out.
@perotal3 жыл бұрын
It won't
@chrisfamos3 жыл бұрын
This is why i have secret accounts. No I only have 15k in savings lol
@chrisfamos3 жыл бұрын
@Michael Ellingsworth check out Coach Red Pill on here if you haven’t already. He’s great.
@Jay-om8gr3 жыл бұрын
He’s a fool
@BW_Reformation3 жыл бұрын
It will for her.
@corey407woc3 жыл бұрын
highly doubt SHE would drop HER $45k for “his/their” debt
@littleripper3123 жыл бұрын
Then she shouldn't get married. What's the actual reason for getting married if you keep your life separate? You might as well stay bf and gf. There's literally no point to a marriage then.
@ricolewis29492 жыл бұрын
You are CORRRRRRRRECT a mundo
@mkeptrangli Жыл бұрын
@@littleripper312 What if you already had a mountain of student debt and you paid it all off on your own? Why should you then have to drain your savings that you struggled to accumulate because of your own debt to pay off someone else’s?
@rachelmaddowswife87134 ай бұрын
@@mkeptrangli Because if you're trying to build a life with that person, their debt is costing you money one way or another. If you don't help them pay it ASAP, instead of your spouse's income going into your joint account and financing the life you want, it's going to endless interest payments for the next couple decades. If you don't want to pool resources and maximize your shared success, why are you getting married? Do the person a favor and dump them.
@krassimirpetrov71313 жыл бұрын
He’s gonna end up paying off the debt then she leaves him , hope he reads this
@brianwillis84473 жыл бұрын
Happens all the time.
@Haleh15 ай бұрын
Think about how this belief impacts your life.
@arminsohrab51553 жыл бұрын
Yeah... "Give her that gift"... pay off her debt so she can "roll her eyes" at you and leave you ;)
@Ricardo_C3 жыл бұрын
Bingo
@twincherry49583 жыл бұрын
Some girls are lucky ! The only thing is, even if he pays it she will not cherish it or be grateful because it's not a burden to her.
@ustinovclarke3212 жыл бұрын
But when it's the opposite way around she shouldn't marry him
@manuelusg3 жыл бұрын
Don’t Propose until she shows you guys are on the same page and starts paying off her debt.
@crisc58903 жыл бұрын
Lol write a check 45k that’s easy to say when it’s someone else’s money
@omarlarhdid19973 жыл бұрын
Dude needs to call Coach Greg Adams not Dave Ramsey
@allanneedham19433 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha - Zactly!!!!
@achavez783 жыл бұрын
"We just solved all of your problems" WOW..... Call him back in 2 years when he's at the family court house about to get washed after he paid those debts off for her.
@private4643 жыл бұрын
Exactly! This was horrible advice...and I like Dave. Let her prove with her ACTIONS in the first year or two of marriage how committed she is to paying off her debt and saving.
@descendantofgiants16783 жыл бұрын
😂😂.Dave has old school southern mentality. He thinks women from his era are the same type of women today.. They are far from it. Most young women today have that competition mentality as opposed to a complimentary one.
@johnbreitmeier32683 жыл бұрын
@@descendantofgiants1678 Most older women also have the competition mentality. The few that don't are still happily married. Remember Dave's wife isn't going anywhere because she is already married to a millionaire and if you listen carefully to Dave, Sharon Ramsey really runs the Ramsey house and money. Dave is the real wuss. Women seldom complain if you do everything they tell you to.
@descendantofgiants16783 жыл бұрын
@@johnbreitmeier3268 .I agree. From what i can deduce and by the way he speaks about relationships, Dave is a life long simp as well..
@judymckee59923 жыл бұрын
@@descendantofgiants1678 , I am coming from divorcing twice with men that are working and fruitful, after being married to them, they stopped working. I am now married a 3 rd time and we do have separate bank accounts but we share 50- 50 on expenses. I happen to have a fully paid condo, so bills are not that much including food. He cleans, does laundry ( because he does not want a house keeper, as I used to have one) and makes breakfast, I do lunch dinner and tea time. We are very happy with that arrangement ( 4 years married ), 2 years from now, we will combine our monies to buy a house instead. There is not just one way ( combine income ), I learned that lesson quick and would not do it except progressively.
@matthewbarry20793 жыл бұрын
No way I’d pay off somebody else’s debt, especially if It wipes out your entire savings
@InvalidFingerprint3 жыл бұрын
The DR perspective is that it's not "someone else's" debt once you're married. It's "your" debt, because you're married
@InvalidFingerprint3 жыл бұрын
@Heinrich Himmler why is that?
@InvalidFingerprint3 жыл бұрын
@Heinrich Himmler what if they started with ~75k and have since worked it down to 15k over the course of 12-18 months? I mean, that's some serious work to be getting rid of that debt, wouldn't you say?
@l.a62733 жыл бұрын
@Heinrich Himmler 15k not even bad she in 60k 15k can be paid within actually a year if you live poor.
@matthewbarry20793 жыл бұрын
@@InvalidFingerprint then don’t get married, it’s not his responsibility to pay off her debt. Especially if it clears his life savings. Forget that lol
@Bblock1503 жыл бұрын
Did he really just say use all HIS SAVINGS ON HER DEBT? What in the world that's insane!!!
@Nick-bo3yq3 жыл бұрын
Dcd 180 Maybe could only use half his savings, for example put $22,500 towards the dept, and u would still have $22,500 left over in the savings for like an emergency or a down payment on a house etc.
@Bblock1503 жыл бұрын
@@Nick-bo3yq Half his savings on HER DEBT? Your crazy homie
@davem41933 жыл бұрын
There is no worse simp on this planet than Dave. I love his advice on getting out of debt but he gives the worst relationship advice to men I've ever heard in my life.
@montt37473 жыл бұрын
@@Nick-bo3yq siiimppppp
@sunset60103 жыл бұрын
I would NEVER pay someone else's DEBT. Sorry not sorry 🚨
@pawelwisniewski68493 жыл бұрын
Never say never 😂
@davinarobertson473 жыл бұрын
@@pawelwisniewski6849 😳
@johnhiggins39433 жыл бұрын
I have, and there both not in my life. One is family and one was a lover never again
@jillwilkerson20323 жыл бұрын
Obviously you’re someone who has never been married and if you do get married, won’t be able to stay married. LEARN TO SHARE!!!
@ryugurena33273 жыл бұрын
Someone pay off my debt plsss
@rebeccawcleung3 жыл бұрын
Dr John is soooo cringey.... “give her that gift”
@Backtobassics3 жыл бұрын
I thought Dr John was saying “give her the gift” of taking the initiative to bring the conversation of finances to the table
@Enigmalake3 жыл бұрын
Give her that...option to pay off the debt while you stay engaged
@johnkeeler53 жыл бұрын
People who don’t understand John’s mindset are the ones who become the divorce statistic 😂. There are too many keyboard warriors on here talking from a point of weakness
@Enigmalake3 жыл бұрын
@@TheAck201 kinda not funny or clever sarcasm 🤷🏻♂️
@wichaelmeston14923 жыл бұрын
Boy.. get your Nike’s and run
@ChavezDIY3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@olgagoncharova79183 жыл бұрын
😅😅
@gerardlead93213 жыл бұрын
Facts 😂😂😂
@josephcoatofmanycolors3 жыл бұрын
😂 just do it
@Vinhthitheu3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@benreilly5953 жыл бұрын
At least shes being honest before you put a ring on it.
@akg_table3 жыл бұрын
Or, she told him enough for him to believe that's all she owes. You never know with people who are deep in debt and looking to marry someone without much debt,
@elevate4eva3 жыл бұрын
@dachicagoan bro, she told you she had no debt but had you paying her car note (debt)? Is this a false story or were you completely oblivious.
@universalask3 жыл бұрын
@dachicagoan $1,500 or $15,000
@avataz3 жыл бұрын
@@akg_table maybe he should run a credit check on her lol
@clarifyingquestions3 жыл бұрын
@dachicagoan She is being honest and he is not listening. This happens everyday between couples. Then they blame each other when it does not work out. No one uses a mirror anymore.
@LG123ABC3 жыл бұрын
It sounds like he thinks she's out of his league and that's why he's tip-toeing around having "the conversation" about her debt and poor spending habits. Dude, you need to man-up and have a "Come to Jesus" talk with her about debt and spending or you're going to have nothing but problems with this relationship. You HAVE to be ready to walk away if she's not willing to take this subject seriously. Time to put your big-boy pants on.
@andrew81683 жыл бұрын
Her looks will be gone before the debt...
@od24373 жыл бұрын
Prenup
@twincherry49583 жыл бұрын
Well, maybe he's not ready to walk away
@kurtjames94873 жыл бұрын
if he needs to have a "Come to Jesus" talk with her, then she wouldn't be out of his league. He's got savings. She's got debt and poor spending habits. If anything, he's out of her league.
@quietsignal3 жыл бұрын
He’s hooked for sure...
@oliverwhite303 жыл бұрын
Dude Debt free with Savings, Girlfriend Hugh Debt NO Savings. The guy must surrender ALL his savings when entering into the marriage contract. Clearly there's no upside for him. If she's rolling her eyes at the conversation of money it's a BIG red flag for him.
@achavez783 жыл бұрын
This caller is overdose'd on the blue pill
@ceciliapreziose37833 жыл бұрын
cecilia preziose 1 second ago Here's a novel idea......let her show you how wonderful she is with money. Give her two years to pay off the debt and then you will marry. This will show you how much she wants to marry you and not your wallet, and it will show YOU how she can handle money too. Paying her debt off, you become a daddy and you still don't know how she handles money. After car, mortgage, kids, cutie will not balance the budget.................COME ON DAVE, THE GUY IS A SAP, TELL HIM, MAKE HER SHOW YOU HOW SHE CAN HANDLE HER MONEY AND LET HER PAY IT OFF HERSELF BEFORE MARRIAGE
@diannathornton29113 жыл бұрын
The money in savings will be hers too.
@Power_Verse_3 жыл бұрын
In she there's someone he can find with no debt. ...it's not many but he could tho lol.. s
@Anonyme673 жыл бұрын
Plus when they divorce she takes half 😆😆😆😆😆
@TheLuxeTraveler7023 жыл бұрын
If I were him, I'd let him let her pay her debt off. She accomplished nursing school, she can accomplish paying off her debt.
@davysmith85692 жыл бұрын
you a good woman lady.
@rhoadestraveled3 жыл бұрын
I would’ve been interested to hear what kind of debt she had. Because if it’s consumer debt if he bails her out she might just go crazy spending again.
@iAbdosh3 жыл бұрын
They said student loan debt
@jennyhammond92613 жыл бұрын
Right! If it's student loans...not great, but if it's credit card debt gotta question her ability to do math and make good choices
@rhoadestraveled3 жыл бұрын
@@iAbdosh I didn’t hear that... thank you that’s a lot more forgivable.
@MakeupGaloreInc3 жыл бұрын
@@iAbdosh I rewatched the video. They NEVER said type of debt!
@iAbdosh3 жыл бұрын
@@MakeupGaloreInc oops...well she’s a nurse so safe to say she had to get an education for that field of work
@stuartclubb43023 жыл бұрын
SIMP away James. SIMP away.
@anthonylozano80353 жыл бұрын
SIMPIN AINT EASY
@achavez783 жыл бұрын
This is getting outta hand, Dave Ramsey becoming the simp hotline!
@LG123ABC3 жыл бұрын
Lots of INCELS posting here!
@Je.rone_3 жыл бұрын
"If you like it than you should've put a ring on it, after the debt is paid off" - beyoncé after 24hrs of Dave Ramsey
Give it 6 months, see how much “gazelle intensity” or how on board she’s willing to put in as a nurse & if the $55K hasn’t changed there’s your answer. I love Dave, but I would advise a trust but verify time period before marriage.
@ImVeryBrad3 жыл бұрын
wut
@GotFaculty3 жыл бұрын
I really don't like the idea of just handing out 45k even if it is the person I love the most
@sami-92333 жыл бұрын
Genius
@Austin-xx2nu3 жыл бұрын
In the end he did say that she needed to pay don 10K of it before they got married. Honestly if you can't trust the person you are marrying to pay off their debt, then why are you getting married?
@sunset60103 жыл бұрын
JQ : BINGO 🎯
@acorntree4043 жыл бұрын
Sort this out first. Does he want to spend his life savings to bail her out though....
@noname-oe9jy3 жыл бұрын
Dave is a traditional man living in a very non traditional world.
@jvm-tv3 жыл бұрын
That was his actual question
@juniorgod3213 жыл бұрын
Run, Forrest! Run!!!
@Coach__B3 жыл бұрын
$55,000 -$60,000??? You better get a prenup. She could skip out the minute the debt is paid. Nope. 10 year plan where the longer she stays the less she owes you back. After 10 years she is free and clear. Don't just pay it without some reassurances, otherwise you will be salty if she decides to bolt.
@SantoineBethel3 жыл бұрын
I like Ramsey’s plan, but despise his antiquated views on relationships. This girl will take him for everything he has and leave.
@mikeharper45293 жыл бұрын
What does "antiquated views" matter? I agree she'll take him for everything he has, but relationships themselves are antiquated but that doesn't mean they're bad or anything (as the slur suggests). What's not antiquated is our legal system that screws men over, and it's a tragedy.
@SantoineBethel3 жыл бұрын
@@mikeharper4529 There are videos when a woman would call in the exact same situation, and he’ll call the man lazy. There were two videos this past week. The antique: men are supposed to take of the woman. Modern society’s rules consider that to be a product of hyper masculinity and chauvinism. Everyone’s supposed to be, unless a man is viewed in negative light (in Dave’s eyes).
@eoinhernon253 жыл бұрын
@@SantoineBethel I just wrote a comment in another Dave Ramsey video, how he nearly always goes against the man. I don’t understand this because he seems like a very intelligent and reasonable person for the most part
@lawv8042 жыл бұрын
Ramsey has the typical boomer view on relationships, like being against prenups. Prenups are a must these days.
@davysmith85692 жыл бұрын
Absolut, Dave would never let his daighter mary a broke dead beat. I guarantee it.
@JakeStewart1343 Жыл бұрын
4:09 DAVE: Give her all your savings and you'll be debt free in 2 months! JON: This is the greatest call of your life! 😂
@theinsider64626 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 unbelievable
@crazeekids97443 жыл бұрын
As a woman, I have a huge problem with asking anyone else to pay off MY debt: husband, family, anyone. People need to take responsibility for their own mess.
@paulaaquino Жыл бұрын
Agree... I also would never ask a husband to be to spend his life savings on my debt
@velveder23 жыл бұрын
I would transfer 40k into a separate account she doesn’t know about and tell her that you will both work together to pay off her debt. Keep 40k as an emergency fund. It is your money.
@pep5903 жыл бұрын
So Dave, if I pay her debt off and then she leaves me in a couple of years, will she have to pay me back?
@Jay-om8gr3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@davem41933 жыл бұрын
Simpin' ain't easy
@ThaRedPitbull3 жыл бұрын
She's going to say, "It was a gift." lol
@jvm-tv3 жыл бұрын
Which is 50% chance statistically
@Jay-om8gr3 жыл бұрын
@@jvm-tv over 50%. Over 60% nowadays
@nantinee93 жыл бұрын
Have her pay off all her debts before getting married.
@dorkga10923 жыл бұрын
Yep. You nailed it. Why should he deplete his savings over her debt?
@leonardu60943 жыл бұрын
@@dorkga1092 because they're a couple.
@dorkga10923 жыл бұрын
@@leonardu6094 Yeah, but they're not married. She made the decision to take on the debt in the first place so, legally, it's her responsibility, even after they get married. Or she could at least try to pay most of it. And then, if he wants to help her pay off the rest, that might work better. But for him to cash in his entire savings to fix her financial problems doesn't really make sense. Imagine if a friend of yours borrowed money from another person and told them that you would pay it back for them. Is that fair?
@habeshasister112 жыл бұрын
@@dorkga1092 they’re going to be married. He said after the honeymoon to pay for it.
@JM-ev8wt2 жыл бұрын
The juice ain’t worth the squeeze.
@MR3DDev3 жыл бұрын
"What's her attitude about this?" I am thinking "yay I dont have to pay my debt anymore"
@woodside4life10 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@ginaf51563 жыл бұрын
The guy shouldn't propose yet, it seems that they are just getting to know each other ...
@ryanj3573 жыл бұрын
Never marry someone until they pay off their debt. If the girl was truly committed to her boyfriend she's do everything she can to pay it off herself.
@HisMajesty992 жыл бұрын
Poor guy is clueless. She’s just gonna leave him anyways.
@LifeofKairo3 жыл бұрын
Well at least we can assume that she doesn't listen to the show 😲
@chelsea72293 жыл бұрын
I personally wouldn’t marry anyone with debt like that. Tell her that if she wants to get married, you expect her to pay the debt down. If she doesn’t think you’re worth the effort that will take, leave her.
@littleripper3123 жыл бұрын
Same I think I would rather wait a few years and see how much progress she makes. If she's paying 1k/month off the principle I would be okay.
@jaym28353 жыл бұрын
Imagine writing a check $45k to pay off her debt and god forbid you lose your job.
@serioushamster3 жыл бұрын
$100k after taxes and insurance (those annoying little things that Dave forgets exist for most people) is more like $66000 take home.
@WaterspoutsOfTheDeep3 жыл бұрын
Give her the gift of your lifes savings when she hasn't even bothered to pay off her debt yet even though she can do it completely while they are married and he pays the bills. Unreal a life coach would give such naive advice.
@grantarmbruster65913 жыл бұрын
Dave I can't believe you are advocating that he marry someone whom he is unequally yoked.
@Paul.Archer3 жыл бұрын
Totally not what the scripture means about being unequally yoked, and yet 23 likes. Read your Bible, please 🤦🏻
@grantarmbruster65913 жыл бұрын
@@Paul.Archer yes I understand about being spiritually yoked but someone who takes on debt like this is obviously not operating the same as you spiritually speaking.
@jacobb5543 жыл бұрын
I have no choice but to marry someone who is unequally yoked because most females don't have huge biceps
@grantarmbruster65913 жыл бұрын
@@jacobb554 lol no but if she has the same fitness levels as you..
@clarenceoliveriii3 жыл бұрын
Once you get married, her debt is your debt...your wealth is her wealth
@globaltechmastery23933 жыл бұрын
Lol...
@globaltechmastery23933 жыл бұрын
A great mystery indeed
@untouchable360x3 жыл бұрын
But her wealth is HER wealth.
@tmerchead13 жыл бұрын
An her wealth is still her wealth.
@BW_Reformation3 жыл бұрын
Lol 💯
@DrJaredNelson3 жыл бұрын
It's a tough call! When married, you both need to work together on the debt. But it's hard to accept taking on debt when you did everything right.
@achavez783 жыл бұрын
2021 Update: He married her, paid her debts, she divorced him, he pays alimony. Hypergamy at work!
@tekonethemc3 жыл бұрын
Haha 😂 yes
@sleepychris30953 жыл бұрын
This same thing happened to a guy at work!
@RangerRickTV3 жыл бұрын
Monkey branching.
@achavez783 жыл бұрын
@@RangerRickTV you 100% right
@marcusj973 жыл бұрын
Unless you meet a christian woman that works, is responsible with money and so forth, I really dont see why any man should get married. The legal system makes it a business decision that a man can never win. Its a shame really that a man has to consider all the BS when getting married. .
@djpuplex3 жыл бұрын
Don't do it. Disaster in the making. She'll appreciate and her next dude will appreciate the debt being paid off. Tampa again 🤦.
@edwinl4233 жыл бұрын
If you're not that confident in a woman to clear her debt, you are clearly not in a position to marry her.
@landonlowe40293 жыл бұрын
@@edwinl423 lol fax.. to be honest I feel the same about prenups but I get it given how people are in 2020🤣
@anthonylozano80353 жыл бұрын
ouch!!! hahaah
@tmerchead13 жыл бұрын
@@edwinl423 Or he doesn't wanna get played for a fool ,whats in it for him to pay off his spouse debt? Both should go into a marriage with no debt.
@ryanj3573 жыл бұрын
@@edwinl423 You're obviously a simp. Why pay off someones debt when you have none. If she was truly dedicated to her boyfriend she would have no problem paying it off herself. I'd rather be single then pay off someone elses debt.
@CaseyBurnsInvesting3 жыл бұрын
Debt isn’t the issue, disposition can be. Are we moving forward or are we content being stuck in the mud? That’s the question.
@BW_Reformation3 жыл бұрын
This 💯💯💯
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@shutupandeatasmr44983 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯💯
@CaseyBurnsInvesting3 жыл бұрын
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@kalauj3 жыл бұрын
She’s definitely keeping him around to pay off her debt. Don’t do it. 🤦🏻♀️ She needs to have her own plan to pay it off as a commitment to her boyfriend. She’s a nurse so she makes money and just needs to pick up extra shifts.
@achavez783 жыл бұрын
Year 1: married Year 2: debt paid off Year 3: child Year 4: family court Year 5 till 18: child support and alimony. This guy is gonna get washed!
@shutupandeatasmr44983 жыл бұрын
Period. My sister graduated this year and is a nurse. She literally pays 2k a month to her loan and will be debt free in less than 10 months.
@alycewich44723 жыл бұрын
@@shutupandeatasmr4498 GOOD FOR HER!
@habeshasister112 жыл бұрын
She was going to school for nursing. Highly doubt that was her plan.
@dazcrypto3 жыл бұрын
I hope he reads this. Bud don’t pay off her debt at all! You worked hard to get that money. It’s HER debt! You aren’t married yet.
@pmw383911 ай бұрын
Don’t get married! She is not a keeper.
@dvndroneography3 жыл бұрын
I’m in the EXACT same situation.. BUT. I asked my gf if she would pay my loans and if I could have her inheritance. No and no. Flip the tables before you ruin yourself bro. I would never pay someone else’s debt that I didn’t sign off on.
@chrisfamos3 жыл бұрын
This is why you put a mass portion of your savings in an investment account. Your name only.
@eddieperez81113 жыл бұрын
Did not know that. I’m glad a good amount of mine is invested
@jvm-tv3 жыл бұрын
Wouldn't matter at the time of divorce but at least won't clear get debt for free
@princesslamour19853 жыл бұрын
As a nurse she can work for 3 months and be COMPLETELY debt free with extra in savings. 👍🏾👍🏾
@emilyz39323 жыл бұрын
For sure and if you listen he says oh she “probably” makes 50-55k. I don’t think he knows how much she actually makes
@Martin_3030_3 жыл бұрын
You can tell that his goal was not to use his $45k in savings at all to help her pay her debt off. He did mention to her that they can pay off the debt together in 5 years..He doesn’t want to touch his money one bit.. you can hear him chuckle when Dave said pay it off
@kaileymarie22513 жыл бұрын
Too many people have lost faith in marriage. It’s so sad to see :(
@gracetinuagboola7373 жыл бұрын
Honestly
@DeltaLou3 жыл бұрын
So bro, remember when you had 40K in saving and you were debt free....yeah, well now you have to give all of that up to your wife in the divorce... - The ghost of XMAS future.
@eldermillennial20003 жыл бұрын
😂
@ianrobinson4763 жыл бұрын
The hope is that if he cant see this happening, he shouldn't get married in the first place. The bad decision would be to get married in the first place, not to pay off your spouses debt once you are married.
@davem41933 жыл бұрын
Dave just gave him the worst advice ever.
@MrCander0003 жыл бұрын
Nah, she would have to show some initiative in paying down her debt before I'd propose to her and make her problems mine.
@crissieasmr77653 жыл бұрын
True. I’m paying off all my debt for this reason. And I have no boyfriend.
@LG123ABC3 жыл бұрын
@@crissieasmr7765 Well, eventually you'll be a great catch!
@mrcander00053 жыл бұрын
@@crissieasmr7765 Way to go!
@marquestanderson13883 жыл бұрын
The debt shouldn't be the concern. The person that you are marrying should. People in general get into debt. The only factor that should bring red flags is what is their attitude about their debt? Are they intense and intentional about "eradicating" it out of their life to the point that they are getting two jobs(full-time and part-time), renting a room, cutting out " fun", and writing a budget. If they aren't, the debt can be 1000 dollars, you should reconsider. And at that point it doesn't become a financial problem, but a problem with their character.
@Finnerski3 жыл бұрын
Make like a tree and get outta there! You will resent her and hate yourself one day for paying off her debt. Did Dave just recommend you to empty YOUR savings account? That is horrible advice!
@anthonylozano80353 жыл бұрын
lol make like a tree. I thought trees stay planted in the ground xD
@kml.3 жыл бұрын
@@anthonylozano8035 "make like a tree and leave" is the real saying lol
@dtbristol3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! What's in if for him? Better to stay boyfriend and girlfriend. She'll drain his savings account and in a divorce, she'll be also draining his FUTURE savings and earnings.
@Finnerski3 жыл бұрын
@@kml. got it from Biff. Remember Back to the Future?
@domjohnson25793 жыл бұрын
Make like a car and fly away!
@foodloveryum86693 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately a lot of people get married in this situation they really really need to have the conversations before they get married
@hannesproductions43023 жыл бұрын
WHEN THERE IS DOUBT, THERE IS NO DOUBT
@texan9033 жыл бұрын
I've never heard Dave and Dr. John give worse advice, but it is 2020.
@private4643 жыл бұрын
Too bad Dave Ramsey never reads these comments! This was horrible advice...and I like Dave. As almost everyone here has said: let her prove with her ACTIONS in the first year or two of marriage how committed she is to paying off her debt and saving. He should not wipe out his whole savings. So much divorce now...way too risky.
@Backtobassics3 жыл бұрын
I agree with the idea of seeing where her mindset is with paying off debt, but I think the true true problem is like they said, it’s been 3+ years, he should know where her mindset is at this point. They’re planning the married step but don’t even know what they’re marrying into.
@Estiexo3 жыл бұрын
@@Backtobassics facts he should be having these conversations BEFORE they get married if she’s rolling her eyes then drop her QUICK
@EadsB70023 жыл бұрын
AGREED! Not something to play around with or take lightly. Marriage is no joke...then add financial issues on top of it and you're really asking for disaster
@ryanj3573 жыл бұрын
Don't get married until she pays it off. She needs to learn on her own how to manage money. Why pay someone elses debt off when you're perfectly capable of managing your own money.
@Backtobassics3 жыл бұрын
But isn’t the idea that once they become married there isn’t any “his” and “her”, everything collectively becomes theirs?
@ryanj3573 жыл бұрын
@@Backtobassics Debt puts a financial strain on a relationship. Yes everything becomes theirs only if she's paid it off before you get married. Don't just give women a free ride. You're better than that. Never marry in to debt. You'll regret it later. Find someone who is on your level and has the same values as you.
@young5ive4262 жыл бұрын
I would not do this … that’s ridiculous ! She gets to run up debt and he sacrifices and have to pay for it. People have these conversations before marriage. Bro if you haven’t don’t marry her if she’s not on board for paying her own debt
@deschainerideaux3 жыл бұрын
Glad I’m debt free now so my future husband doesn’t even have to have that concern... it’s nobody’s responsibility to take care of YOUR debt except YOU. It’s quite selfish to assume your spouse is “supposed” to take on the financial baggage you had prior marriage, in my humble opinion 🤷🏾♀️
@rayinspires3 жыл бұрын
@Heinrich Himmler 😂😂 your dame right
@lupita36893 жыл бұрын
If he offers to pay her $45k debt and she agrees right away then she's probably NOT a keeper.
@MatthewGraham0273 жыл бұрын
I think they missed his real problem. He has trust issues because he is giving up his money for the relationship and she is giving the debt.
@benreilly5953 жыл бұрын
Yeah well....I got my own problems
@lindsay8333 жыл бұрын
Get her an affordable ring and downsize the wedding. Downsize living/lifestyle/luxury expenses, etc. *Then* see how her attitude changes and if she gets on board. If not, call off the wedding. She clearly is not on-board if she can't compromise early in the marriage. Things just get harder the longer you stay married, it's not like Hollywood where it's all easy. If she can't change her lifestyle for her debt, what makes you think she can change her lifestyle for you?
@TheBlackDorothyZbornak3 жыл бұрын
She's a nurse, she can easily pay it off--he doesnt have to. The problem is does she WANT to
@EadsB70023 жыл бұрын
there you go! And thats the big red flag! She has the ability to...that's the scary part !
@qlili3033 жыл бұрын
Something tells me this woman will rack up the debt again . She will not be grateful he paid off her debt because it doesn’t seem to bother her .
@kevinjohnston83413 жыл бұрын
Don't just write a cheque for $45000. Build some responsibility. Tell her you'll match dollar-for-dollar from your savings any money she pays off on her debts each month until the debt clears. This way you each pay half and you've built in added trust and understanding.
@pmw383911 ай бұрын
I wouldn’t pay a penny.
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@johnk67493 жыл бұрын
This guy is a fool, and you know what they say about a fool and his money. Their incomes are approximately the same. After she is out of debt she is not going to stay with a man who makes the same money as her. When she gets pregnant and wants to stop working, she will not want to live on his income. He will either be divorced or he will be calling Dave to ask him what to do. Dave will tell him to deliver pizzas or drive Uber to make more money. Good luck, buddy. You will need it.
@danielvasquez37583 жыл бұрын
Good thing he KNOWS that and she’s honest with him. That’s refreshing to hear but she’s not committed to the plan it seems like. I’d rather not if I were him. Also, that’s significant debt too. It’s not like she owes 10k or 15k and he’s scared too but it’s not like he’ll listen to any of us anyways.
@CharlotteG7543 жыл бұрын
It takes education!! If she never spent time learning and thinking about her finances it doesn’t mean she isn’t worthy to be a wife! That’s right! Have conversations! I have a lot less income than my husband - and I’m more money-conscious than he is - I have been talking about doing budget and paying off debt. He initially didn’t really want to talk to me and include me in his business. We have talked and learned together - we started tracking and adjusting - eliminating bad habits. He trusts me now and appreciates it!
@andrew81683 жыл бұрын
He said its "about $60k" so he doesnt know, just knows what she admitted....
@andrewz43133 жыл бұрын
I think it’s interesting that the dude didn’t want to bring up that he had $45k in savings, LOL...sounds like he cried a bit inside knowing that money is going to pay off debt. Dr. D and Dave are right, there is a pronoun problem, but you can’t blame the caller too much since they aren’t married yet. You could just hear the silence on the call once Dave recommended using the savings to pay off the debt LOL 😂
@rickeyslake3 жыл бұрын
Ridiculous. He had no debt but he’s marrying someone with debt? No!
@EXEON7273 жыл бұрын
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@angelb68413 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@1jw2983 жыл бұрын
Nah, just use you big head more than your little one
@aaronvenema3 жыл бұрын
Acquire BTC
@EadsB70023 жыл бұрын
nah, just don't get married if there are any hesitations!
@chopsuey0619873 жыл бұрын
This viewpoint is really idealistic. If this guy is watching, I would say to save that money for a downpayment and let her show you she's serious about paying off debt. If you see that after a year or so that she's dead set on paying off the debt than absolutely offer to pay off the remainder with that money that he has saved what is left. I wouldn't just throw 45k to a new spouse especially within the first year of their marriage that is going to be the make-or-break year of your marriage.
@Guitarlvr013 жыл бұрын
Amazing how people don’t like the inconvenient truth that when you get married you inherit the person’s debt. I was a single mom but had no debt and tens of thousands of dollars saved. When I married my husband, I paid off his debt. But together we have rebuilt from ground zero. He learned. It wasn’t the end of the world. I loved him and decided I didn’t want to wait for him to be debt free to get married. However, we did FPU as soon as we got married.
@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo93033 жыл бұрын
I am surprised you stepped up and paid for him. That is pretty noble. I would have probably paid half and then told her (assuming I was in a relationship in this same situation) to pay the other half AT MOST. But actually, marriage does not necessarily mean you inherit another's debt. I mean think about what marriage once was before any of these laws were made. Marriage was actually a way to keep a husband accountable for his wife. If males went about and procreated like crazy, there would be tons of babies unaccounted for and females struggling everywhere.
@Angela-ne9cy3 жыл бұрын
In three years they haven't had a "dreamy" conversation about their future? Doesn't sound like a healthy, grounded, adult relationship to me. It sounds more like a "hey, we love each other and this is super fun and we want a wedding" relationship.
@moni55673 жыл бұрын
My husband was in 40k in debt and me in 15k in debt. Of course he told me before marriage but we both agreed that we were sticking to the debt free plan. So as long as she's honest about all her debt and y'all are on the same page and continue to then it will be fine. If she shows signs of not being on the same plan I'd push back the engagement
@HamiltonRb3 жыл бұрын
I might be reading into this a bit, but I think she doesn’t want to sacrifice her lifestyle for a few years to pay this debt off, and he is more anxious to clear this up than she is
@jaydee874033 жыл бұрын
Helping her out once married? Sure! Depleting his savings? Please don't!
@pgperezlife323 жыл бұрын
Don't be a Simp. She should pay down her own debts.
@DeadLkeMe3 жыл бұрын
Get her on Dave Ramsey and when she actually starts working the plan (ie changing her behavior and mindset to tackling debt), then consider marrying her.
@DustinOranchuk3 жыл бұрын
there is a middle ground here. Use at most 20k of his 45k savings to immediately drop the debt from 55k to 35k (nearly halving the amount of interest paid each month). Then only match her contribution to the debt each month. You're a team, but he should NOT be paying off all of HER debt.
@ryanj3573 жыл бұрын
He shouldn't pay any of her debt at all. There are plenty of women out there who don't have debt. This guy in the video is just young and doesn't have enough life experience. If she was committed to her boyfriend she would own up to it and pay it off herself.
@Samuels6913 жыл бұрын
This is a conversation in the first year. For me probably the first 6months before I even progress anything
@alphasia913 жыл бұрын
This comment section always makes me, a woman trying to pay off debt with a low income, feel so discouraged. Not every woman with debt is looking for a husband just to pay off debt so she can leave. It’s such a cynical point of view.
@clarenceoliveriii3 жыл бұрын
He better hope she doesn’t listen to the Dave Ramsey show too
@globaltechmastery23933 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha
@TAPPChannel3 жыл бұрын
Buhahaha never thought about my wifes debt when I decided be be with her
@anthonylozano80353 жыл бұрын
How about just marry a woman without debt hmmmmm
@nancyval3253 жыл бұрын
@@anthonylozano8035 because someone with zero debt is rare. Plus that's not something you find out until way later down the relationship. Everyone has to start somewhere. You want a house? debt. You need a car? Some sort of Debt for a little while.. Yes you can buy a cash car but thats a different conversation. Catastrophic accident? Debt. Education? Some debt. I personally wouldn't drain my savings for someone's debt but definitely would help tackle it.
@enhancedutility2663 жыл бұрын
@@anthonylozano8035 next to impossible
@robert89303 жыл бұрын
@@nancyval325 No, a woman with zero debt is rare. honestly, most men tend to work another job or get an extra shift or live frugaly and pay that debt off, whereas most women don't care much about it.
@nancyval3253 жыл бұрын
@@robert8930 maybe it's the women you have came across.
@Howtocreatewinningfocalsbeads3 жыл бұрын
He doesn’t want to dip into his savings account. He would’ve offered up that info earlier in the call. Sounds like he’s scared to talk to her
@2023Red2 жыл бұрын
Let me provide this young man the vision that he will start with that gift and it will be a gift that never stops giving. Dump that woman and find a different one. Women are everywhere and they all a man with a regular paycheck. No exception.
@Sam893653 жыл бұрын
Yeah if you're even asking the question than the answer is no bro.
@robertclontz37283 жыл бұрын
You have GOT to be on the same page, no excuses! If one person in the relationship is not on board, you need to go elsewhere.
@JP-ll8iy3 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@EadsB70023 жыл бұрын
for sure! and when money is involved, things can go from bad to worse in a hurry. this isn't something to take lightly!
@Raza__123 жыл бұрын
Why should the guy pay her debt? He worked his way through to be debt free and managed to save those 45K. Debt you accumulated before marriage should be only yours!
@BlakeBoege3 жыл бұрын
I didn’t know after the honeymoon and you become French, we we. Lol 😂