My Golden Child Sister Contacted Me After 10 Years Of NC, After My Entitled Parents Disowned Me F...

[@sambrown2322]

Story 1: Those parents were the TRUE villains. You know those parents are toxic as hell when they end up betraying their golden child as well

[@AmaryInkawult]

It's how Olga's parents treated her when Helga changed her grades. Golden Children were always set up for failure by their narc parents. That kind of pressure can break anyone, even the spoiled.

[@KittyKittyPeowPeow]

That's usually what happens when the scapegoat removes themselves from the situation. This is why it's important for victims to grow a spine and go low contact.

[@sambrown2322]

@KittyKittyPeowPeow I agree. Luckily for me I never grew up with a family dynamic like this, so it does upset and confuse me as to why some families are like this

[@rmhartman]

Of course it is only because they have turned on her. That doesn't mean that it's not genuine.

[@FrostLordOni]

Exactly. Of course she wouldn’t have changed if her parents didn’t turn on her, why would she change her opinion if everything was still going great?

[@mylw4387]

Lauren and OP were both in an abusive parental relationship. Lauren could only see what was happening after her parents turned on her because she finally had a perspective outside the one that her parents had been building literally since she was born.

[@adya7958]

Story 1: Very common dynamic in dysfunctional families with narcissistic parents. They always create a scapegoat and a golden child. The scapegoat becomes the recipient of their cruelty. When scapegoat leaves, they have no choice but to turn on the golden child, because who else will they vent on otherwise? This is very normal in narcissistic dysfunctional families.

[@gtc9966]

Does Emily not know burner email accounts are a thing…? The post office…?! I mean, come on lady.

[@RobinSiwula-w4h]

Story 1 i think op can talk to the sis an tell her everything an talk to her

[@Vipre-]

Story 1: If the parents had OP even a decade later still questioning if she really was the problem back then how would it be fair to expect Lauren to have seen things clearly at the time or hold it against her for not. Both of them were abused it's just a lot easier to recognize the scapegoat side of the coin.

[@RepellentJeff]

Story 2: 🎶Wheel of Morality, turn, turn, turn! Tell us the lesson that we should learn!🎶 And the moral of today’s story is: *_USE YOUR WORDS!_*

[@Khalith]

In 2nd story, he needs to go full no contact with his daughter. Forget she and his ex wife ever existed and move on.

[@RedditLullabies-q1c]

That must have been such an emotional and complicated experience to face after all this time. Reconnecting after years of no contact can bring up a lot of mixed feelings. I hope you're able to approach the situation in a way that protects your peace and well-being. Wishing you strength and clarity as you navigate this.

[@yourworstnightmare7343]

I think people standing with pitch forks at the ready to cut off the sister... you just need to chill & get perspective for a second. ... Of course she wouldn't have got in touch had she still been in the good graces of her parents coz her parents had her brainwashed, they'd conditioned her for years that her sister was a real villain, she never got chance to hear OP's side, what she heard was controlled from the word go! She had to be away from her parents to even begin to see that what she'd been told all those years was a form of control in itself, they didn't allow her to see it from anyone else's view. Now she's had the bubble popped the world looks different, think she deserves credit for reaching out to put everything right, it also sounds like she was respectful, was honest & ready to be responsible for just accepting what the mum & dad told her & how she should have seen through it & stood up for her a long time ago 🤷‍♀️. I hope that they can reconcile & heal from what their parents did to them both & find strength from the other because family isn't the be all & end all but it definitely makes life a little easier having your family around you for support. It sounds like an unpopular opinion but like I said, the parents are the bad guys in this story, they should've also punish each other or themselves when they've already cut the toxic oddlllllll

[@laurelrhodes744]

Story one: not to sound insensitive to OP’s struggles, but those parents sounds no different than Vernon and Petunia Dursley from Harry Potter. Just so cartoonishly obvious with how much they spoil one kid and a*use the other.

[@ChefRye1]

Story 1: I would let her explain and let her redemption but as soon as she’s to make amends with the parents or trying for money. Story 2: I’d have a hard time letting my daughter back in my graces because she made a choice by doing nothing.

[@Twist-The-Friendly-Hunter]

Story 1: OP opened the door laid flat on her back and became the new doormat. Story 2: Yeah OP is justified in cutting his daughter out for the time being... She knew for *YEARS* and never told him outright. Instead she kept it a secret until one day she decided to drop hints... and not just tell him. There are lines in a family you do not cross, and emily crossed it willingly for years before walking back across and dropping hints. She was 15, a teenager. She is now 21 a adult. So he should treat her like a adult because she has been one for a while whilst keeping the secret. She was the victim when she found out initially, she stopped being one when she kept the secret.

[@salixmoon8145]

Story 2 the mother is the true jerk in all of this she took advantage of a 15 year old who didn't know better. Emily was a child

[@NominDonutz]

Bruh, the insecurities those 2 Ops making me keep face palming myself. They are so indecisive. First story with her sister that is also a victim, and the second story with the daughter also a victim. With both OPs just so annoying with not talking and understanding the other person

[@HarryVibes36]

It’s not insecurity, it’s not wanting to be betrayed again. I know you’re probably to dense to figure it out so I’ll keep it simple They hurt there OPs. Why risk bringing them back in and hurting them again?

[@Waitt..reallỳ]

Maybe because OP has been betrayed before and can't afford to trust them again. Being a "victim" doesn't negate everything that occured, OP's sister was a part of the problem. Op is allowed to protect herself first.

[@NominDonutz]

@@Waitt..reallỳ But i still don't like it. It's pretty disappointing. Plus, it has been 10 years for her to move on

[@NominDonutz]

@@HarryVibes36 Another word. COward

[@NominDonutz]

@@HarryVibes36 It's called, Never move on. A terrible trade to have

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Story 1: OP shoukd have remained NC with her golden child sister. OP did fine without her in her life, why let her back in now? Its more for her, thsn it is for OP. She was not there for OP when her parents kicked her out, OP owes her nothing.

[@arikemeiziii5549]

Because the story wouldn't exist

[@toomuchsauce5599]

Story 2: OP is pathetic, he’s treating his daughter like she’s a full fledge adult. She was a teen and being emotionally blackmailed. By the time she was an adult she had already carried the burden of knowing for 3 years. The way OP sounds, he would’ve treated her the same if she told him at 18. I think OP is just an emotional deadbeat dad and is looking for any excuse to get rid of her. Lastly, although the wife is the biggest ah here, OP is a chump for not noticing anything for 6 YEARS!

[@Ash-nb9wq]

How would feel if you had this happen to you? You can't answer because you've never been through this don't tell me you'd instantly forgive your offspring who had kept this secret from you for so long. The daughter had time. She could have told him when she knew better and more mentally prepared. Clearly you have no empathy.

[@Afrogirrl]

@@Ash-nb9wqso the original commenter hasn’t went through these circumstances so doesn’t deserve to have an opinion, but you are? 😂

[@reneeharper84]

I get why he lashes out in the moment, but holding a grudge is something he doesn't need to do. Be angry and hurt, absolutely. But to cut her out and hold a grudge....no

[@reneeharper84]

​@Ash-nb9wq instant forgiveness? No. But completely destroying and cutting out your daughter? When you know she was manipulated by her mother, is chronically anti-confrontation, and tried to tell him in her own way? He says he doesn't want to lose her but then doesn't want to even have a conversation with her. It doesn't have to be instantly forgiven. Of course it takes time. But at least try.

[@MikeSVZ]

She was old enough to know better. OP feels disappointed in both her, and how he raised her so it’s a double dose of hurt for him. Time to find a new wife and get a do over kid, even a stepkid would do at this point

[@roberthickman2907]

I hate to tell you but you forgot the shortcuts.

[@millym5762]

It’s in the description if you really want

[@AmaryInkawult]

Why does this come off as a concealed threat from a cat to a mouse?