My Parents Promised To Buy Me A Car If I Paid For Half, Then Bought A Car And Gifted It To Their ...

[@SecretVoices25]

00:00 1st story: My dad couldn’t love me after my mom d!ed but had no problem loving his stepkids 12:04 comments 20:49 2nd story: AITA Parents bought younger sister with serious issues a 25k car for Christmas while all I got was a phone case, been needing a car for a couple years, parents promised one, but gave her one instead

[@novemBURRbby]

Story 1: How could you AS A MOM…willingly marry a man that has abandoned his kid?! You’re just as bad as the man! That just rubbed me the wrong way!

[@christofa1094]

It sounds like he never told her the full story, but if I were in her position I would definitely be rethinking the relationship. If it happened once it could happen again, and the dad never bothered with something like child support

[@lyraflow9154]

I'm annoyed at the grandparents for pushing him to go and stay at their house in the first place

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

these types are abusive in their own right. they aren't the ones' being abused.

[@HammerdWalrus]

Story 2 is even worse: OP comments under the second post saying that when he fell on hard times (job loss), they asked to borrow money from Mom, but she soon recalled the loan not caring if he could pay it back and he did at great hardship. He asked his grandma if he could borrow some money to get something to eat, when mom found out she got pissed and "had a go at him". Which is worse since Mom didnt want OP to live with grandma w/ his gf, and rather have OP struggle and for grandma to live in a nursing home even though their house is worth over 1mil, and have 5-6 empty bedrooms. This was 4 years ago, no updates and since OP's account was deleted and shows as "[Deleted]", its hard to tell if some comments are from OP or other accounts that got deleted.

[@garasu29]

If he "couldn't love" op, why tf should he care if she's going NC? Sounds like he just doesn't want to live with the knowledge that his kid couldn't care less about him

[@VoiceOfTheEmperor]

Because regret is stronger than gratitude.

[@LAOCHPadre]

Sounds also like he doesn't want to look bad in front of his new family. Now Sarah knows how bad he fucked up OP's childhood and He's losing face, so he needs OP to forgive him so he doesn't unravel.

[@cameron765]

Story 1: The first comment was spot on like bro why did his father's wife feel the need to constantly tell OP his dad was a good father to her kids like that just don't make sense whatsoever Not only that you telling me somehow she been married to him for that long but never knew that he didn't spend time with his kid yeah right

[@goodnightmyprince6734]

Yeah Sarah knew

[@MinisterManDan]

I think it’s possible the dad told her a very different story. Like she was told the OP had issues from the mom dying and had taken them out on the dad and been unfair to him. She might have been trying to say the dad was a good guy not someone who should be blamed for being alive. It’s hard to judge Sarah without knowing what story she was told. Ultimately this is all on the dad and nobody else.

[@Permenantlyexhaustedghost115]

Story 1: Sounds like to me even before the mom passed; the dad just wanted the benefits and aesthetics of a family but didn’t want to put in any effort into raising one. He’s garbage for abandoning his kid. Op doesn’t owe his “dad” anything.

[@VoiceOfTheEmperor]

Story 2: "Here's $10K! PLEASE don't take us to court!"

[@virtualatheist]

So... Damage control costs $10K... Got it.

[@rmhartman]

That's the conversation he should have had with you before they invited you to stay for a week and put on the "perfect father" act. If he'd done that first, they might have been able to reconnect.

[@SnowWolfAlpha]

Being told your father couldn't love you because you remind him of the wife he lost is the "final nail in the coffin" type deal no matter when its said. I'm not sure forgiveness is even possible at that point.

[@Solomon_of_Gray]

18:28 You didn't lose me. You left.

[@rmhartman]

Even if they planned to get a car for the birthday, they still got the sister a car first, and then got him a phone case? Not even a PS5 or something big?

[@asherdales]

Story 1: OP was still trying to rationalize that the dad was something like a parent while his mom was still alive "he was physically present but never did anything with me" like bro c'mon. You don't have to forgive someone to not care about them even more so when they obviously never cared about you. Story 2: OP got bought off. It was obvious that they had no intention to buy him/pitch in for a car. I can't wait for the update "My sister crashed her car, now my parents are demanding that I give her mine."

[@rmhartman]

This was clearly an attempt to make up for what they did, and was not their original plan.

[@goodnightmyprince6734]

Ikr

[@rmhartman]

He didn't help you with your homework, but he does with these new kids. So he's trying to make up his failure with you with them.

[@misterb3577]

The father has some audacity to show up at their meeting like, "I will never love you after your mom died, but please forgive me and spend time around me and the family you'll never truly be a part of. Please soothe my guilt while watching me give my stepchildren the love and devotion I will never give you."

[@georgeprchal3924]

His parents do not like him.

[@goodnightmyprince6734]

Parents are liars they just don't want op to disown them

[@EveHawk12]

Story 1 - 9:23 your mom would be so damn proud of you bc of this sentence. For one so young you are incredibly mature and a really really good human being. Wishing you the very best.

[@05_05Aquiri]

Why these grandparents want op to be a dormant with amnesia??

[@pablosanz2163]

If my partner has a son and had not meet him in year , i would cuestion everything about them the moment i discovered it, maybe i would try to fix it , but most probably i m ending that relationship

[@thatgayvillain3234]

right!?!? How can someone go YEARS of major holidays and birthdays without trying to invite the older child? like... sure I get maybe its very awkward to bring up but wouldn't you expect to "hear" about the other kid, see them do phone calls, or have a conversation about child support or gifts for that other kid even if you lived like states away (which wasn't their case since an UBER was an option to go home) Sounds like either he fully HID the fact he had another kid for a while or step mom was putting on an act for the kids that are finally at the age of asking questions.

[@rmhartman]

They take money from you to buy your sister a car?

[@HernanMartinez-n8l]

Don’t give them a inch and stay strong

[@AdubsVA]

Expired 💀

[@rmhartman]

If you had known? How could you not know? Had you ever seen OP before, in all your time with his father?

[@berserker135]

i am more interested in the video than the story

[@sdev88]

Wtf is the game in the background 🤣

[@sinbadwilliams7186]

GTA 5. It's one of the many modded challenge boards you can play

[@cynergy7985]

I can't watch this game & pay attention to the story as well.lol😅

[@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets]

*chapter* *chapter* *chapter* *chapter* Feels AI written

[@sinbadwilliams7186]

Day 160 of telling secretvoices to have a good day

[@novemBURRbby]

Story 1: How could you AS A MOM…willingly marry a man that has abandoned his kid?! You’re just as bad as the man! That just rubbed me the wrong way!