My Husband and I Are Poly

[@apriljones1329]

This lady has said everything in my head out loud!! I tell my husband, "I live with you not for you." O. M.G!!

[@AndreCHatchett]

This is so mature. I’m poly as well. I’m glad people are having conversations in the open. It’s a new day.

[@jeffr4805]

I enjoyed your discussion on Poly and I hope more couple(s) have “open dialogue” on evolving as people. Monogamy is not the final frontier for everyone growing. Learning is ongoing plus guilt and shame has to end.

[@Sandra-jo1lj]

I lowkey think I may have always been poly 🤣😂 Lawd knows I stayed in triangles with family, friends and my past partners may have been cheaters towards the end of our relationship them triangles was always toxic though.

[@alexisricky2]

A very good interview as poly person myself i think she did a great job answering questions and that's actually proved that she did do her research on the topic

[@chereeselavonne]

I came out as polyamorous to my family at 30 and they completely disowned me. It's such a balm to the soul to see this conversation between Black Women. I share soooo many of the sentiments expressed; fundamentally I don't believe I own anyone.

[@gloriag8341]

first time coming across this podcast. Love this. Will definitely be following and following mikki.

[@lifeisrocqi]

Mikki was AMAZING representation for the polyamorous community. Loved this convo! -A Polyamorous Wife

[@MsRrude]

She explained everything perfectly. I love this !

[@koereyelle]

Thank you so much for watching! We hope you'll subscribe for more 💕

[@mschesley]

This interview was phenomenal!! Bff Mikki, you truly are Everything! Love love love the transparency of the journey, and just fully embracing who you are. It's POWERFUL!! xoxo

[@Getmikkibey]

Thanks BFF!!!!

[@BeautyyByL]

What’s blowing my mind is marriage is taught to be a bond. I would rather not share my soulmate with anyone intimately.. luckily I’m 26 and being exposed(reading/listening-to) to different forms of relationships so I may not do marriage at all.

[@ericgrahamsr.1918]

Great Questions- Get Answers… Would Love Part 3 with the Husband’s Vantage Point ….

[@danio2332]

Very informative. Also, I respect & appreciate Mikki’s perspective & transparency about her life. I’m actually “cool” with her partner & never had this much insight. It’s a respectful union w/ boundaries & an agreement. Plus, ppl need to understand that every person who’s ENM and/or Polyam isn’t sexing the entire world. Keep living in your truth!

[@FreeSpiritMom]

Wow. She explains what I’ve been feeling. I’m emotionally connected to two men and I refuse to pick. They both know about each other and they can leave me alone whenever they please. I also have no desire to be married so poly is really what I’m looking to. My whole life is already non-traditional in the first place 😂

[@sarahsimpson9848]

This is a woman that truly knows herself and knows what she wants and needs, and is not confined to societal norms. I understand the concept, but I don't think I am emotionally mature to handle it fully. I can concur about the sex part when she said her sex drive is not compatible with her husband's. Instead of him being unfulfilled go find someone that can do that for you no need for divorce or cheating because it is communicated WELL that there is an understanding. This lets me further know I need to communicate more and better.

[@koereyelle]

I'm not mature enough either lol

[@kungfukenny1540]

@@koereyelle😂

[@shalenahackney]

This topic needs to be discussed more on the media because some are so un educated on this I taught myself as well for my SO to understand. Queen did her thing In teaching!!

[@pamelasbutterflylife1312]

Cousin Mikki, you were so articulate, direct, knowledgeable, confident, open-minded, and so evolved and hella dope💫! Koereyelle is so funny....."I don't want her getting my husband's donuts🤣! But seriously, you asked great questions and were very open-minded and respectful! My only complaint.....I wish that it were longer❤! We def need a part 2 ladies🌹! Congratulations to your beautiful podcast and I am so proud of my cousin Mikki for living and loving her life and choices unapologetically🦋!

[@koereyelle]

Thanks so much for tuning in! Be sure to subscribe for more great content!

[@AsheztoAshez]

This was a great interview! Great questions and responses.

[@saundraburgess692]

Interesting interview. My personal opinion is that people or couples that live this life style, may love their spouse, but are not in love with them.

[@poocilla]

Fantastic interview. Very informative. I appreciate Mikki’s openness.

[@koereyelle]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@stephaniefuller5020]

Not for me at all but the information was eye opening and educational. Very transparent 😊

[@Misscourtneywicks]

Thank you so much for sharing Mikki! I am in a poly relationship and your insight was extremely valuable.

[@EJTheGod]

Watching this, I've learned I'm not strong enough in regards to this to live a life like this. Ain't no way me or my woman about to be actively dating, sleeping with, developing severely strong emotional connections, falling in love, crying about it, hell no. Lol that's not the life that I want to live. I'm good with the monogamy and all the pros and cons that come along with it because this polygamy shit is not for me, I see that right now!!

[@koereyelle]

Whew! This convo made my nerves bad LOL

[@Getmikkibey]

Yours!!!! I was about to smoke a cigarette 😂😂😂😂😂

[@eddie915]

You and them donuts!!!

[@aishapeyton6855]

I appreciate Mikki sharing her personal story, it was eye opening. While she sounds like she's navigating this relationship well I find myself asking: Why remain married? The definition of marriage is the union of two people as partners. This is just open cheating to me, which is better than doing it behind your partners back, but it still seems wrong. In my book if you say "I choose you" that means I choose to be with you and only you. It doesn't include adding others to this intimate thing you and I have. Having another sexual/emotional partner is not the same as having multiple kids or friends, it's a different kind of love. This is not a positive for society, especially black society. The low marriage statistic is a whole topic onto itself and poly relationships would make things worse, not better. We can try to rationalize it all we want but in the end there's a reason humans don't gravitate towards these relationships, hearts get involved and it gets messy real quick.

[@Getmikkibey]

I so appreciate your perspective. There simply are more than one way to do things. Why stay married? Because we want to do life together as married people. We do our marriage in a way that works for us. Black people can benefit from more love and understanding between us no matter how that comes about. Two things can be true at the same time. Thank you for watching and leaving a thoughtful comment ❤

[@lifeisrocqi]

Marriage has legal, medical, and financial benefits. Otherwise no one would sign papers with the government. Also cheating is based in lying, secrecy, deception, and betrayal. And in consensual nonmonogamy, that's not happening.

[@lifeisrocqi]

And choice is a huge part of my polyamorous marriage. But it was never "only you" for us. Commitment isn't limited to monogamy.

[@omuwakerobo]

Interesting video! A lot of interesting takeaways even for monogamous people. Thank you for sharing your story, Mikki! Also - Koereyelle, did you ever have that drink? 🤣

[@BeautyyByL]

Great topic. It’s not for everybody but interesting to hear her path in life.

[@NoneLikeMsTiff]

Manifestation is “SPEAKING THINGS AS IF THEY WERE” which is what the Bible says. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I don’t want to tussle…

[@Thee_sensualist_life]

Thank you for this conversation

[@koereyelle]

Thank you for watching! I’m glad this helped ❤️❤️

[@AngieLeeBlog]

I’m Speechless as I listen to her. This new generation of openness! Koereyelle, I can feel your heart racing as you try to understand her response!! Lol Men have been doing this with a mistress however women want the same advantages.

[@Getmikkibey]

I’m old! I love I get to be in the new generation of openness lol. Thanks for watching ❤

[@koereyelle]

LOL yes I was honestly mind blown most of the time but I loved hearing her experience and perspective!

[@lisaLisa-qq2ss]

Great video 🥰

[@koereyelle]

Please make sure you like the video! 😍

[@pamelasbutterflylife1312]

I am a new subscriber! I love your energy and you are funny and asked insightful questions❤!

[@keneshahilliard-catron8843]

Another question: You asked do we live our parents and siblings…of course these are a group of people we been around our entire life. But we aren’t Intimate with them…we don’t share certain aspects of our lives that we do with our husbands/partner. Where is the Intimacy in your marriage? How do you define that now that you are poly? Do you believe you are giving the idea that it’s ok to marry and allowing cheating while disgusting it as poly? What about soul ties? You are sharing a piece of yourself every time you sleep with someone and they the same with you. How do you deal with that? Loving family and friends is different from the person you committed to sharing and building a life with. I’m sorry this is a great episode and I’m just curious. It definitely opened up a doorway for conversation for sure

[@Getmikkibey]

It’s a deep and complex topic which I am happy to discuss next season! ❤

[@MompreneurLady]

It's so sad that this is how far gone our world has gone. Obviously, there's a lack of understanding on "love." Parental love, spousal love, and friendship love are all types of love! So sad💔💔💔 Koe... knows the truth and is just trying hard to accommodate the insanity.

[@Troblack]

Thank you!!!!! 😭

[@pats6658]

It’s all good until he “fully expresses” himself and start completely providing and protecting for another woman that he loves. It’s easy and cost nothing for this woman to be intimate with other men. All the while she has a safety blanket at home. Not a comparable game for men and women. Not by a long shot. The HARD part for a woman is to get a man to commit to her in terms of provision and protection... why would a man give away his time, protection and resources to someone who is not his and his alone? Women know this, and she knows this and is taking full advantage. He should just be single or pay for any and all attention/sex that he wants with no other strings attached. Which would leave her without access to his full provision and protection... simply because it's not infinite. it runs out especially if you are sharing it.

[@TamicaHenry]

Koereyelle have the best podcast out!!!!

[@keneshahilliard-catron8843]

Question: Why are you guys still married? Why not have a non martial union while being poly? Do you feel like you guys are taking away the opportunity of marriage from those you are sleeping/dating, becoming emotionally attached too? You guys come home to each other while they may go home to no one. You said you guys aren’t swingers so it’s not couple swapping. You stated you addressed being jealous of him going on another date with the woman he spent time with in Napa. Is that you pulling the wife card in this moment? (Just curious). How are you guys planning your financial future…retirement etc? What does that look like? A lot of questions….but trying to understand.

[@koereyelle]

All very good questions! I'll have to ask her on the next episode!

[@keneshahilliard-catron8843]

@@koereyelle I will make sure to have wine on the next one cause lord Jesus 🤯🤦🏾‍♀️🥴😂

[@Getmikkibey]

Happy to answer all of this on the next episode. But I will say that your perspective is coming from a monogamous lens. We are non-monogamous which is a completely different lens in which the monogamous norms do not apply. Also remember, everyone is consenting to the dynamic including other partners. ❤

[@keneshahilliard-catron8843]

@@Getmikkibey 👍🏽

[@AngieLeeBlog]

@@koereyelle Do this on with a live audience… I definitely want to be there.

[@lovemusic4032]

People can do what they want, it's their life.....but the poly life ain't for me personally.

[@TheActivityPlayhouse]

I loved this interview, but I am not near this mentally or emotionally. Who is your therapist?

[@AB_1211]

Listening to this lady, I have the utmost respect for her. She's obviously very intelligent and highly opinionated. I also listened to the Shark Tank episode. It was obvious that she is a person with strong convictions but the Sharks are Sharks for a reason. She could not convince them because as experts, they did not 'buy' her definition of business. Anyway, just seems like an attempt to redefine what one wants or don't want to do. People really out here agreeing to 'share' partners. Wow.

[@TheActivityPlayhouse]

The rage! 🤯

[@Volleyball_Chess_and_Geoguessr]

Sister Wives is not polyamory. It's a religion, with one sided polygamy, where they are brought up to think they have to live this way to get to heaven, and sometimes the marriages are arranged "by God" (men). This is completely different. It's not just as valid, and it's not really a choice. They're brainwashed.

[@LashawnSmiley]

I couldn't understand this if I wanted to, she lost me at she would be okay if he wanted a same sex partner. Too many diseases... Condoms don't prevent every thing. I would rather be single and do as I please....marriage and open partners just holding on to a person but they truly aren't enough. I don't even like people to be involved with multiple people.

[@AndreCHatchett]

I love this for them

[@Volleyball_Chess_and_Geoguessr]

Christianity is judgey

[@kekeb1099]

Love this. My husband and I are polyamorous, V dynamic. I love his girlfriend, she and I have developed a close relationship. We have each other’s back and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

[@therealcoachross]

Fellas don't do this dumb ish. This is dysfunctional on so many levels.

[@JohnGamer77]

Disgusting. Some of you are only agreeing because you’re tired of the good men you have and want someone who can justify your fantasies of chatting around while still having a man to go home to. She mentioned that her husband helped her through her first breakup after she stepped out on him. That man is just her roommate now-no man who truly loves a woman would be okay with this. You women can keep fooling yourselves in 2024, but I bet she’ll write a book next, and you women will buy it.

[@lateiro6845]

But I thought most men wanted more than one woman so WHATS the issue?? A lot of BM push polygny so what’s wrong with this form of poly?

[@iaintprettyforabiggirl]

I get tired of one person I would be exhausted 😩. Hats off to you Queen .

[@Getmikkibey]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@pats6658]

That's how you can tell she is taking advantage. Because if he was 'fully and freely expressing' himself with other woman... his resources would be very limited. Women exchange sex for these resources and provision. The only women that give it up for free, are women like her. Ones who are already provided for and secure. This game is very easy for her. The other women will require A LOT more from him for consistent sex.