My Wife Got Scammed In An Online Affair!

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[@leslieroman5664]

If she has energy to be cheating, she has energy to go and work and get this payoff. I am not paying a dime for a cheater

[@Guglielmo-1960]

Well said!!😂😂😂

[@katsybo]

Exactly!!!

[@Chrisoula17]

I agree!

[@arfriedman4577]

She was cheating on a phone or computer. It doesn't seem like it was in person.

[@Twitz88]

​@@arfriedman4577 Doesn't matter it's still cheating

[@taylenzz]

Caller: “I’m not throwing away 25 yrs of marriage” Me: but she did though…..🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️

[@jovitarich7078]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@carmenross1077]

Sometimes you have to.

[@alex1vid]

Yeah. I'd throw it away because apparently it was trash to begin with to her. But at that point he should be very strategic in how he does the separation. it's what a lot of women do when they file (up to 80% of divorces are initiated by women and the majority of them isn't for infidelity).

[@formula112967]

Caller: 'My wife is cheating on me' Dave: 'What is your household income?'

[@texan903]

As long as Delony and Dave aren't the ones being cheated on, they couldn't care less.

[@PInk77W1]

There’s a news story online about a couple who were 90 or 99 and been married for a ton of years. The man found an old love letter she got from a Lover 10yrs after they were married. He divorced her the next day. LoL

[@anthonybrown06]

😂😂😂😂

[@thecurrentmoment]

Caller: "my household income" Dave: "ahhh....I can see why she cheated"

[@anniegreen9966]

He called for financial advice, not marital counseling. Dave gave him exactly what he asked for.

[@donaldo7656]

If she can cheat, she can work. Don’t make any excuses for her.

[@dustyrhodes2717]

This, put her to work. He pays this off and she goes to work.

[@TonyCox1351]

She’s 75 lol nobody’s going to hire her

[@Alexander44665]

This guy is NOT a "beacon of light." He's a door mat!

[@jaesall3519]

And people wonder why men are gravitating to this stupid red pill thing

[@chaaaaaaaaaaaad]

Exactly

[@formula112967]

When a woman is being used 'like a door mat', everyone comes to her rescue, but when a man is being used like a door mat, everyone thinks it's his fault. We truly live in a man-hating society and it needs to change.

[@Alexander44665]

@@formula112967 Preach!

[@personnesenki4521]

She cheats and he has to pay for it? Disgusting. She needs to go get a job or two.

[@drn13355]

He doesn't "have" to. He can leave and not pay.

[@RonnieMorgan-fw8qj]

They’re in their mid 70’s. I’d be shocked if anything physical happened, but she just got caught up in a scam. The POS played her emotions, & got her/their 💵. He admitted he had to work on himself, so I’d assume he probably neglected her for years. I am not condoning her “cheating” but the sad thing is her looking on the internet for companionship!!

[@sitcomchristian6886]

I mean that's what Ramsay suggested at the end of the video, providing she is in good health

[@Jane-rh7tc]

@@sitcomchristian6886 she has energy to cheat, she has energy to work. ppl who have health issues don't have energy to have an affair, physically or mentally

[@bruceellenburg429]

That's nothing. I was kicked out by my ex and I had to pay spousal support for 4 months. The worst part was that at the time she was making about $10/ hour more than me. Corrupt judge+crappy lawyer equals terrible judgment

[@TheChitowngirl23]

The wife needs to get a job and pay for these loans.

[@patty109109]

She does, frankly to prove she regrets what happened enough.

[@TheAshMcG]

I agree, but truthfully marriages don't work that way. People saying he should walk are not elderly and they don't know the dynamics of this marriage, maybe he was emotionally distant, maybe he was cheating as well. Maybe he feels guilty for it...who knows. It is their journey not ours.

[@probablynot1368]

He says they’re both in their mid-70s. At 7:25, Dave discussed her picking up a job to help pay off the debt and make amends for what her actions did to him.

[@timothygibney159]

​@@TheAshMcGAgreed which is why she deserves to get divorced. Have his attorney stick her with the debt

[@TheAshMcG]

@@timothygibney159 Let me guess you are in a perfect relationship and have never made any mistakes whatsoever. Actually it is their decision if they stay together, Dave is intelligent and wise enough to understand this concept. Good day.....

[@TotalWealth]

Wow… She stole their retirement money not knowing it was a scam… Thinking she was giving it to another man!!! I don’t know which is worse.😳

[@formula112967]

I think she wanted to give more than money to another man....what do you think?

[@MrPmsavage001]

I think she purposely did it to have money after divorce

[@ross-smithfamily6317]

Yes ... she is foolish and a cheat.

[@rogerhoward1900]

She would probably leave you anyway

[@adamchaifetz5876]

Being married to her

[@Gus_Chiggins]

Ma’am you ruined the retirement and the relationship

[@creeper2054]

And I am sure she could care less.

[@Sheryl777]

From what the man said, the relationship wasn't on good grounds in the first place, (he said partly due to his actions also). That's why he said he's going to counseling is to try to fix his part of this whole problem, the part he played a part in.

[@FourKingAwwSum]

Counseling won't help with the finances especially considering they are both in their mid 70's. This was reckless and she deserves to be put out on the streets. If the relationship wasn't on good grounds, agree to end it. He doesn't deserve this.

[@creeper2054]

Oh really Sheryl. Did he go online looking to cheat? Or was that her?

[@WeBeatMedicare6969]

@@creeper2054 *couldn’t

[@robcook6120]

She's only pretending to be sorry so she doesn't get dumped and he will pay her bills. Leave her asap

[@angelasepi657]

She will most likely do it again

[@rvandoom]

And go where??????

[@CLTRealtyGroup]

She really needs to go back to work to pay this. This is absolutely horrible. She must go back to work ASAP!

[@ashleyjones5396]

Exactly!

[@timothygibney159]

No! She needs to get divorced. Then she can work

[@jworth7203]

Yep. That’s exactly what I said.

[@tubenachos]

Divorce FIRST

[@freebird7284]

absolutely, it's HER DEBT!

[@rays242]

She got catfished. These older woman fall for these romance scams constantly. She probably will repeat this behavior. It's like a mental disorder.

[@CRS-fe2zj]

Unfortunately I gave to agree with you

[@happyinparis]

There are plenty of men of all ages who are scammed by women. Fact.

[@georgeslupski5987]

And men, my buddy falls for this

[@drn13355]

dude you think guys don't fall for romance scams more than women? Vast majority are lonely dudes giving up all they ever made.

[@VioletEvans-yt2fd]

I’ve watched enough Dr. Phil to know it happens to men and women equally. If you’re a fat, bald, 65 year old guy and a gorgeous model from the Philippines or Russia is madly in love with you, she’s not real. If you’re a homely old lady and a 50 year old General,of the Army or oil rig worker who looks like Brad Pitt is in love with you, he’s not real. He’s a once poor Nigerian, now rich because you’re not the only one he’s scamming. Where do people get the nerve to even think these people are real and could be in love with them? Could I throw 25 years of marriage away if my husband spent our life savings on an online scam? You betcha.

[@MoonriseJT-Official]

A 70-year-old lady pulling off some cheating antics? That's a whole new level of shamelessness, isn't it?

[@RonnieMorgan-fw8qj]

I don’t think it was anything physical. The way he admitted he had to work on himself tells me he probably neglected her for years. She looked elsewhere for companionship. Sad thing is her looking on the internet for it. Got caught up with a 💵 scammer. I am in no way condoning her “cheating.”

[@kathyharmon2093]

@@RonnieMorgan-fw8qjand some people are just cheaters, this might not be the first time of cheating but might be the first time she got caught

[@avengingemmapeel]

Those old ladies fall for those internet love scammers. Dollars to donuts, it was a scammer who sent lovey-dovey emails, and she fell for it.

[@MikeBarbarossa]

@@avengingemmapeel Also dollars to donuts. they catfished a fairly handsome guy in his 50's ( stole his picture ) . and got her to believe a man of such value would fall for a woman in her 70s. The delusion is always shocking with these

[@Wythaneye]

John is thrilled that this guy is putting his broken marriage back together piece by piece. Dave: "What's your income?"

[@SarahR2D2]

😂😂😂

[@DNB7227]

Because he's an expert at helping people with money issues... but he also want to meet with them and their therapist, so he genuinely care beyond the money.

[@thekezzey95]

They both have a role in this call, and they both know their role.

[@daviddegea3373]

@@thekezzey95 What was John's role? would he have said the same things if a wife had called about her husband? NO. He's such a hypocrite.

[@Jenda-ld8dj]

John is a beta-simp.

[@iamdavis012686]

Sorry. I’d divorce her. How foolish to keep this woman around and take care of her debt. Guy needs a wake up call.

[@retrojay86]

No reason for even relationship counselling. Straight to divorce.

[@jaehwan123]

He’s in his mid-70’s. His life isn’t going to last much longer. A divorce wouldn’t be worth the time and energy and money.

[@Ryan_DeWitt]

The title alone unless it is inaccurate should tell you this is a case of divorce no exceptions.

[@williambonnet2439]

Idc there’s no coming back from that level of stupidness. File for divorce, she put an unbelievable amount of stress and debt on them for ppl in the last stage of life. Cut ties

[@creeper2054]

A simp is always going to be a simp.

[@s1234pro]

I've had 2 women come into my store selling their jewelry to give the money to these scammers. I have told them they're being scammed and begged them not to do this. They just don't believe me. It is heartbreaking. They have lost everything including their home. Both ladies are senior citizens, educated and widowed. It's absolutely unbelievable. They have never met their "fiances".

[@eugenemichael2362]

Justice is served

[@dianehess5520]

They are also irresponsible and perhaps don’t want help.

[@sandrabradley3703]

I think they were lonely, stupid and gullible. Some men know how to pry on vulnerable women

[@gorkyd7912]

@@sandrabradley3703 Some men know how to do this. Also, all women know how to do this.

[@DynAmisch69]

Natural selection

[@wahinepaddler4]

Oh William.. 25yrs isnt anything if after that amount of time she still did this. If she wasnt getting what she wanted out of your relationship she needed to communicate that to you..not turn to an online person who 'scammed' her. She isnt the victim here, you are William.

[@mmouseav8r402]

I agree with you, my ex wife had affairs, but I was young enough to leave. I’m now 41, remarried and have kids. If my current wife and I were to divorce, I wouldn’t be interested in marriage again. I think for someone in their 70s, nearing the end of their life, the idea of leaving a relationship to potentially end up alone, is frightening.

[@TheBobbyMetcalf]

these guys prove over and over what cucks they are. bullsh*t double standards. dont listen to these people, young men

[@rogers5622]

Right . He working for the household while she getting scammed for a hook up 😮

[@minimalistact7246]

And the thing is if that online hook up would’ve been something legit, she would have been gone with this other person. 😢

[@formula112967]

Simps do what simps do.

[@vkap1215]

This guy is beyond help. If she’s unfaithful…she’s out. You didnt throw away 25 years…She did. She could have spoken to you, discussed. She chose to be unfaithful. In a few years he’ll be back here.

[@augustalexander2647]

Gotta think WHY she's been unfaithful tho, if there's damage in your marriage cheating can just be a symptom of that.

[@timmyp34]

Stupid is as stupid does

[@sajeantet]

@@augustalexander2647 That does not give her the right to cheat. If the marriage sucks then be an adult and leave or go to therapy. People cheat because it's the easy way out. If the new lover isn't what they turn out to be then they could always go back to their spouse, if they are what they want then they leave their spouse and take half or in this case run up debt and run and take half to or go back with their tail between their legs.

[@AbhishekKumar7]

@@augustalexander2647 that’s blue pill thinking. She cheated on him because she knew he wouldn’t bail out on her even if she did. And that’s the problem.

[@augustalexander2647]

@@AbhishekKumar7 and that's conjecture lol

[@jaywooten8946]

Let’s not pretend that she wouldn’t have continued this affair or left him for this person if this didn’t turn out to be a scam. She can handle this mess on her own.

[@mcsd1250]

Cheaters don't regret cheating. They regret getting caught.

[@melindabaker6251]

Don't pay for a scam. You can file bankruptcy. Get a police report of the scam. Talk to an attorney.

[@kevinrehberg8758]

more than likely, she was scammed by a foreign national beyond the reach of LE.

[@craig162]

Dump her and move on.

[@TotalWealth]

BOTH… don’t pay for the scam and get a divorce!

[@Jenda-ld8dj]

You can file for bankruptcy, but you are not always awarded bankruptcy. Bankruptcy today is not as easy to obtain as it once was.

[@bettysmith4527]

It's a lot of money, and if they own a home, bye bye house!

[@captainawesome9380]

Listen, I don’t want to speak negativity into the universe, but… if he pays off this debt and then she leaves him, I wouldn’t be surprised.

[@hiview3977]

Good point!

[@lombardo141]

They both 70. Where the fck will she go ? 😂

[@annat6249]

@@lombardo141 Well she need to pay to learn, she can be involved in another romance scam and they both will be in another trouble. People need to pay for their mistakes to understand the consequences of mistakes.

[@TheSilvertrigger]

@@lombardo141 nursing home 😂

[@lombardo141]

@@TheSilvertrigger ha!

[@aaronnilestoussaint5672]

Poor guy has a fear of dying alone because anyone with a brain would leave this woman. She cheated and sent the man money what is left at that point? She was building a better future with another person with your money? And if it worked out she leaves you for that person?

[@freebird7284]

probably wasn't even a man.

[@allthingsnu4673]

Good points. If this online relationship had worked out for her, she would have left her husband with the financial debts she created and would have been happy with her new husband.

[@critterdude311]

This is so pathetic on so many levels. Not only does he tolerate this behavior, but then he willingly turns around and writes a check for it? People have lost their damn minds. This isn’t‘forgiveness’, this is insanity.

[@Sheryl777]

critterdude311 to be fair, the husband admitted that he played a part in the problems in the marriage, which is part of why the wife strayed. I'm not saying it's his fault, but he even admits himself, that he was partly to blame, so if he can be big enough to admit that and be willing to go to counseling to take care of his side of things, then why should any of us completely blame just one party in the marriage, even though she did do wrong, no doubt about that.

[@tartuffethespry]

He's in his 70s, it's not like he has many dating options and probably doesn't want to live the rest of his life alone

[@Sheryl777]

@@tartuffethespry 👍

[@NatalieS-kh3ck]

@@Sheryl777 problems in a marriage don't warrant someone going out and doing what she did. Whatsoever. And she didn't just cheat. She screwed them financially. What she did was literal insanity and she needs to be checked into a mental institution or put in jail.

[@Sheryl777]

@@NatalieS-kh3ck I agree that it sure sounds like she needs some type of mental help yes.

[@big_prev]

She was victimized?? Yeah I don’t feel bad for him or her sorry. Why not throw away 25yrs? She obviously did

[@wahinepaddler4]

People get stuck with the amount of time they are with someone.. I don't get it. If you show me who you are and it's this amount of betrayal-not just financially but emotionally.. throw her to the streets..

[@flybyav8tor]

Because marriages can survive affairs. Just because 1 spouse breaks their promise doesn’t mean the other one needs to. We made a promise and people can change.

[@JJ-gr7th]

@@flybyav8tor people don’t change, they just show that side less but they are the same.

[@kmaldonado8]

They are in their 70s....

[@big_prev]

@@flybyav8tor I agree marriages can survive affairs… but this wasn’t only an affair, she has now put him in a financial bind that she should have to deal with herself. Why should he have to suffer through his rightfully earned retirement years and have to work to pay off debts that she acquired? That’s just careless, selfish and shows how much she really cares about her marriage.

[@mattm597]

There's no counseling for stupidity.

[@Winnie-Kay]

She definitely needs to go to work. Good health or not, she can be a greeter at Walmart. And every penny goes toward those loans she made.

[@Winnie-Kay]

@@wordsalad01 👍

[@rarajean]

She can stop fantasizing about a run away relationship too!!

[@BlueDauntless]

Agreed. She needs to get a job.

[@cabayern9416]

Do not pay any of her debts! None. Take her to court to absolve you of financial responsibilities. Don't pay her bills! She scammed you.

[@Kysen10]

Divorce her. It's one thing to start an affair but to get scammed on top of it for those amounts.

[@keishamckenzie649]

They are in their mid-70s. 😂 they can just ride it out.

[@leapinglaura7343]

What the wife did is grotesque emotional violence, and he is severely gaslit.

[@iBryanDBrown]

What dude wants to cheat with a 70+ year old married woman? It really was all about the money. Lol

[@Dan16673]

Lol yes of course dude

[@mattlaeff724]

An 80 year old -

[@dudeorduuude5211]

Some woman or man in Nigeria, pretending to be a love interest, that's who.

[@VegasMilgauss]

Don’t forget the Vaseline

[@texan903]

Some dude who showed her a little attention that she liked being a sugar mama to.

[@Tap354]

I think if this was a woman calling they would have told her to separate, feels like double standards for men getting cheated on

[@peters3965]

exactly and this is not the first time

[@jimroscovius]

Then don't watch Dave if you don't like him. I don't watch things that I don't like.

[@peters3965]

@@jimroscovius Wtf are you talking about. Where did i state i dont like him. It doesnt mean i am blindly going to agree with him 100%. I saw multiple cases where if man cheated, he told woman to leave and "punish him" and if woman cheated he told man to stay with her. In this case woman cheated and man should stay with here and PAY the loans she made while cheating Lets imagine the same scenario with genders reversed

[@jgood005]

The caller already said he was going to stick it out and give it 1 year of effort. I don't agree with the decision but dude already had his mind made up.

[@clarifyingquestions]

I think you need to clean your ears our or send a link to the same story but with reversed genders.

[@DNICEANDFAM]

As soon as John heard "gift card" he knew what she was involved in sadly.

[@SonicCloudLink]

He might be perceptive, or he might have details on the caller before they get to ask their question.

[@georgewagner7787]

There are a couple of KZbin channels where the guys fight against these scammers. One is called pierogi. People in India sit there all night and call centers and call old people and try to scam them into buying gift cards and giving them the numbers. That's how he knew

[@godknowsimstupid7848]

Not only is she a cheater, shes stupid to boot

[@daviddegea3373]

@@georgewagner7787 thats the run of the mill telemarketing/bank scam. This one is worse, it involved lust.

[@carpediem6431]

@@georgewagner7787 he’s mostly financial. It’s harder for the romance scammer channels because it’s a much much longer scam of everyday texting, then calling each evening etc. I got in a phase where I watched a lot of these and by the end it was so hard to be sympathetic to the victims who’d emptied out their life saving for SOMEONE THEY’D NEVER MET.

[@allthingsnu4673]

I'm a woman and If I were willing to stay in a marriage and forgive my husband after did this to me/us, he would definitely be the one going back to work to make this money back! And I'd be separating our bank accounts and finances ASAP.

[@freebird7284]

they were seperate, otherwise it would all be gone!

[@sew_gal7340]

My husband is a stay at home dad, i'm a lawyer...i pay for everything including our house...he cheated on me with another woman in front of our kids. When i confronted him he said i was never around...uhm!!? I work 80 hours a week and he sits around watching tv, and then have the audacity to cheat!

[@tywebbgolfenthusiast8950]

Social media strikes again. I weep for humanity. We all need to get smarter and less narcissistic.

[@genxmurse7019]

I wholeheartedly disagree that this guy should work it out with her. She obviously placed someone else in higher value than his own. That is something that will never change no matter what therapy you go into!

[@rbraxton00]

What! This sounds unbelievable. At 70? Cheating? Okay 🤷🏾‍♀️. Yeah she needs to go back to work. I don’t think he she stay with her. Too old to deal with the foolishness.

[@texashobbies]

Man, if there was ever a time to file for bankruptcy, this would be it. These two 70+ year old have under 100K combined in retirement.

[@BillySeiling]

100%. $1500 or less to get out of $40,000 debt when you’re in your 70s and on a fixed income. No brainer. I’d be removing her from any bank account also.

[@alexisjankowski3281]

Definitely bankruptcy-able. She should file bankruptcy on her own.

[@texashobbies]

@@alexisjankowski3281 absolutely he has no reason to file at all, he wasn’t on the debt.

[@davidlloyd1526]

If they have a house, probably wouldn't work out too well.

[@godknowsimstupid7848]

Sunk cost fallacy. Poor guy doesnt realize the few years ahead of him are far more precious than the ones behind him.

[@Redtopper02]

True, I think he said he was 75. So he lives alone or stays with a person he really can't trust. A lot of people die alone. Sounds like he did not pick wisely.

[@SalisburySnake]

Men over 70 are in high demand. He could have 3 girlfriends before the end of the week.

[@mbyrd6713]

@@SalisburySnakehe’d have to be very careful or he would end up in the same situation. Too many gold diggers out here.

[@sitka49]

@@mbyrd6713 $ 45,000 in savings and about in same in his 401k he's living off his S.S. Its not like he's rolling in money?

[@GDuncan8002]

​​@@sitka49 He can go to Southeast Asia and have plenty of money, plus more girlfriends than he is able to count. I'd divorce her Monday morning when the courthouse opened.

[@madisonhruschka3718]

My sister works at CVS. She said these fraud cases happen all the time. The workers try to warn them. They are almost exclusively senior citizens. Please explain fraud to your parents, grandparents, etc.

[@robloxvids2233]

Not just there - nursing homes, too. Those ghetto ass fly-by-night workers in there are not only not changing your grandma's diaper - they are stealing her money. I know an old person signed over power of attorney to an Administrator who stole like $13 million from the person. They died and the thief was found out but nobody did anything bc the rich dead person had no next of kin. They literally didn't care that an administrator robbed a resident of $13 million.

[@floridahomesteader7983]

We would just be called conspiracy theorists.

[@madisonhruschka3718]

@@floridahomesteader7983 Unfortunately, the fantasy feels better.

[@davidlloyd1526]

"Try to warn them". Still take the money with a smile, though... Dialling 911 too much effort, I guess.

[@qloudz]

That man is a sucker.... For me, it's not just the money - it's the infidelity. I get that it is 25 years of marriage but she torpedoed that and any future nest egg for their children. I couldn't take the risk of being with a woman like that. Once bitten, twice shy.

[@hiview3977]

I agree completely except he was not a sucker, he simply trusted his wife, but yes, he will be on anxious guard for the rest of his life now. No relaxing for him unless he divorces her. No 100 percent trust ever again.

[@georgewagner7787]

You don't owe your children a nest egg. They can get a job also

[@isay207]

I bet the stud muffin was 40 hot body (stolen photo) shallow self centered narcissistic women

[@HaroldGuthrie-qc3xb]

I wouldn’t care whether she went back to work or not. It wouldn’t be any of my business. Because I would have been gone by sundown!

[@liberalmadness7248]

Get rid of this woman immediately! Men, STOP complicating your lives with these women.

[@krobdawg]

"I'm not going to throw away 25 years" so do you want 25 more of the same thing? (Assuming he's alive another 25 years given his age)

[@singlemamanodrama4546]

I guess she didn't actually physically cheat on her and her indiscretions give him some leverage in the relationship. Also, at 75 years, he may be hesitant to start over. She may be a good woman who just made a terrible mistake due to loneliness.

[@BruhZerk]

100% I'd be out of there so fast lol

[@texan903]

​@singlemamanodrama4546 she has probably cheated before this. Should he clean this up, it sends the message to her that this is not the limit of what she can get away with. This woman needs to pay her debt, and he needs to file for divorce immediately. Growing old single is a much better alternative than being miserably married and getting bled dry in the process.

[@singlemamanodrama4546]

@@texan903 It is not about being right, but rather about being smart. He doesn't sound miserable to me.

[@hiview3977]

@@singlemamanodrama4546 It wasn't a single mistake. It was multiple lies and complete fraud and theft. Physical or not makes no difference. Starting over is short term, hanging in there is a life sentence for anxiety and emotional stress that doesn't resolve with time like it would if he gets away from her.

[@sounds0fmeows]

The only one getting victimized in a relationship fraud is the husband at this point

[@PInk77W1]

Self inflicted

[@calibearplayer3398]

70yr old caught cheating and got scammed in the process. .go live the rest of your life bro

[@luminous6969]

How do people STILL not know about sending gift cards? That's ALWAYS a scam. How does someone asking you to send gift cards of all things not raise any alarm bells in your head? The only way she would realize it was a scam is if the acammer outright TOLD her that it was a scam.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Didn’t know gift card was still a thing.

[@luminous6969]

@@blackworldtraveler3711 Apparently some people still fall for it, I'm just surprised that not everyone has gotten the memo yet.

[@COINsimp2024]

Because they are older it's unlikely they spend all their time online.

[@personnesenki4521]

These scammers know that there is always a small number of people who don't know. Even if 99% of people reject these overtures because they know it's a scam, those 1% of people who don't know are a gold mine.

[@sabrinay9430]

Not just old people fall for this. My sister has a coworker who almost fell for a scam. She got an email from their "boss" to send him some gift cards. This man makes millions a year. He don't need you to help him with his 'financial crisis"🤦

[@Jim_Curtis]

He should have filed for divorce, but at the very least, separate all of the finances and not let her have access to any money. She has proven she cannot be trusted.

[@Jim_Curtis]

@@stephen-ng That makes the most sense.

[@lombardo141]

25 year marriage and he is 70 years old. At some point it does not even matter.

[@Jim_Curtis]

@@lombardo141 I suppose, but if it were reversed, she would have likely divorced him.

[@lombardo141]

@@Jim_Curtis to be fair we don’t know what the man also did. This is just one side of the story

[@lombardo141]

@@stephen-ng ​​⁠ if she divorces you unless you both signed an agreement she gets half anyways regardless of combined or uncombined. Might as well just use the same account 🤷‍♂️

[@Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries]

If I'm that age and a spouse blew through that kind of money, and on top of that it was for an online affair, I would file for divorce and say bye bye immediately, withdraw all the cash and cancel all the cards before it's all gone. Divorce before you're left with nothing at your most vulnerable. Screw this lady, she devastated their retirement.

[@alexisjankowski3281]

Most likely, half the assets would be granted to her. I doubt you have a good view into their relationship.

[@Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries]

@alexisjankowski3281 better to give her half the assets then have her spend it down to 0 on the next target lol. I don't need a good view into the relationship to know what he's dealing with. Common sense.

[@truebengalsfan]

Cheaper to keep her plus he probably feel he can't do better

[@firegirljen]

@@alexisjankowski3281💯💯💯

[@Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries]

Isn't cheaper to keep her if it costs you your sanity or throws you into a depression. Imho

[@DJRiyzen]

I would had left her ass, with the loans. 🤣

[@kenyattaknox5163]

That’s solid advice Dave cause I was squirming at the thought of you telling him to pay it all off 🤭😂😂 I like the concept of her going back to work to pay off the debts as a good faith move of making amends.

[@gmarie3053]

Divorce her after she’s paid it off so you’re not stuck with it after a divorce 😈

[@ArmageddonIsHere]

Oh, so we're going to completely overlook her infidelity, let aside the financial angle? Had their positions been reversed, you'd be baying for his blood! And if he "forgives" her this time, she's going to be doing again, because now she knows she can get away with it again. Let me categorically say this: in my younger days, I knew for certain, that once you'd had another man's woman, you could have her again any time you wished. Again and again, as long as there were no repercussions for her or for you. She's for the streets now.

[@dawnmichelle2017]

My Aunt got involved in a scam years ago. A new family started attending their church, and within a couple months, they were living in my aunt's vacant home, for free... Then was doing work on their other house, and my Aunt not only paid them, she also bought all new tools for them ... Then, the icing on the cake was, she took out a $20-$30k loan for them to buy a house... As soon as they got the money, they skipped town.

[@DNB7227]

How awful

[@jenniferspisak]

😳

[@tortureddummies1672]

It’s all your aunt fault a lot of scumbags are out there.

[@ButtmanAtHeart]

If she’s that stupid she kind if deserves it🤷‍♂️

[@sitka49]

Christians are the happy hunting grounds for narcissists

[@rdb0819]

When a person shows you who they are, believe them. The therapist only helps you make mental adjustments to accept the reality. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@misspapo3444]

As a woman I’m going to say, men know your worth, you too deserve the best. He shouldn’t be tolerating this.

[@NatalieS-kh3ck]

Dave telling him to pay this off is INSANE. Divorce immediately and let her deal with it!!! Oh my god!!!

[@texan903]

I think Dave tailored the advice this way because of the guy's advanced age. If he divorces now, he'll likely die lonely, alone, and heartbroken. Personally, if it were me, however, I'd see it as an opportunity to spend my remaining years peacefully.

[@ThomasSDavis-mc9of]

@@texan903 Every man dies alone. To hope that you, as a man, will be surrounded by loved ones when you pass is to embrace a comforting myth. Men in the West are seen as tools to provide comfort, nothing more. The moment you're not performing, you're forgotten and tossed aside.

[@leslieroman5664]

@@texan903 I agree with you, at this age peace comes first, but I will not be paying for this, she is.

[@timothygibney159]

​@@texan903It's religious. If a woman called saying her husband did this he would be up in arms and tell her to get a lawyer asap

[@lombardo141]

You have to try first and see if it can be salvaged. 5 years or less I understand, 25 years ? Try and work it out and determine why she cheated in the first place. If it can’t be fixed then go apart.

[@antionneanderson]

I guess a person is never to old to cheat

[@eugenemichael2362]

Dry bones

[@MegaMarVerde]

@@eugenemichael2362😂😂

[@carena8478]

It's not about throwing away the 25 years you are married It's about using the next 25 years you hopefully have left wisely.

[@GDuncan8002]

Bingo

[@juanrocha8544]

There’s no amount of “therapy” that could heal this… trust is out the window. 25 years are gone wether or not you remain with her. Some things are just unfixable. This is deff one of them.

[@Karagoldberg7]

I wasn't financial free until my 40’s and I’m still in my 40’s, bought my third house already, earn on a monthly through passive income, and got 4 out of 5 goals, just hope it encourages someone's that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing in the financial market is a grand choice I made.

[@Miaisabelle-yk6rd]

I knew someone would mention Chrissy Barymoer, he is perfect in helping beginners grow. I would not recommend anyone else.

[@StephanieQuake]

I keep seeing good recommendation about Chrissy Barymoer . He must be really good.

[@CharlesWalker-jb1yl]

Since my aunty introduced me to Prof Chrissy Barymoer,I can't help but to thank God,I have made so much that I can't mention

[@PioliAugusthus]

How's He contacted. I really need his assistance

[@adakkristinn]

Thank you, I have texted him, hope He replies me

[@Bo_Knows_Tecmo]

I think this couple was on the local news here in San Antonio. The scam cost them 40k of their life savings. She met someone at a location to transfer the funds into crypto. I recognized his voice.

[@braddavid902]

Is there a link to this ?

[@kelligreer3975]

SO glad to hear they are trying to help others by bringing light to this. These scammers need to be stopped!!

[@Bo_Knows_Tecmo]

@@braddavid902 will see if I can find it. The news story never mentioned anything about an online affair though😂

[@cantstandcamilla]

So the entire city knows...wow!

[@codypow2713]

Cant believe the advice wasnt simply "does she have life insurance and do you own a shovel?"

[@eugenemichael2362]

Absolutely 💯,if I knew him I’d lend him my shovel.

[@GDuncan8002]

​@@eugenemichael2362 I have wooded property...

[@adriandelgado896]

I'm proud of Dave. Saying she goes back to work I thought you would say something like you must walk with her during this journey

[@formula112967]

I am surprised Captain-Save-Ho Dave didn't tell the guy to come out of retirement and get two jobs to pay it off and let the cheating wife stay home and relax.

[@amydoran9987]

She cheated and got taken advantage of too.I feel bad for him,not her.

[@TShirtAndReeboks]

This man didn't call in asking if he should leave his wife, he already made that decision to stay before he called. He is only asking how to move forward.

[@brownsuga]

She threw away 25 yrs of marriage over online romance fraudsters... Hes delusional 😂

[@ayarborough12]

Me: Dave, my wife cheated on me Dave: What's your household income

[@ranbandz7566]

I hate when people say they’re not throwing away the amount of time they been together. So just throw away the rest of you life ?

[@cantstandcamilla]

He would probably end up supporting her, if he got a divorce.

[@JCNARB]

All the credit taken out was in her name. I’d divorce her and let her solve her own problems. Problem solved!

[@mariaesparza2690]

I just hope this man reads the comments for true advice.

[@rnt45t1]

God, just stay single men. Stay single. No sex is worth this madness.

[@JP-qb3ny]

Especially in western nations. As the man you are screwed.

[@texan903]

Most men want children and a spouse to grow older with.

[@hiview3977]

It's not a man/woman thing! It's a character issue.

[@crazykaitlyn]

promise you this doesn't represent women as a whole

[@rnt45t1]

@@crazykaitlyn Would love to meet one that's different. Still waiting.

[@wingwalker7873]

Dave is like. . Forget about your cheating wife we all have one of those. How much money you got?😅

[@kgak4079]

Let her clean up her own mess😅

[@VegasMilgauss]

I’m sure the cuck is used to it

[@gdolly166]

Right

[@finessegod2]

Caller has some balls to call in with this. Sounds extremely embarrassing.

[@LulaRoberts]

You are never too old to learn from older people mistakes 🧐🤔.

[@carmarasmussen8118]

I will never understand how people can fall for these romance scams. Why in the world would you think some random person you meet over the Internet would be in love with you having never actually met? Especially when they start asking you for money! I just dont get it! 😮

[@PInk77W1]

Absolutely run. People on the internet lie all the time. Who knew. LoL

[@annatar6453]

Women are stupid

[@sherrypeveto1868]

Vascular dementia? Crazy that people fall for this!

[@Fedgery007]

People who are lonely, depressed, and desperate.

[@garyv2498]

Look I know this is a weird thing to ask, but it would really really help me out a lot. Then I could afford to leave her and I'd come meet you. All I need is for you to get me an Amazon Gift Card. Then get a about 5 gaming cards. If the IRS and her lawyer don't notice, a small loan will put my situation over the top for sure.

[@landlordnation]

You aren't throwing away 25 years, she did!

[@thesmithing]

I'm actually disappointed in Dave on this. He's quick to tell a woman to leave a man. This poor guy has been victimized and more then likely won't recover from it. But they're proud He's working it out?😂

[@shachede6828]

He should leave her at almost 80 year old? And he will still pay alimony? The debt is in her name. They have always said they don’t decide what you do in your relationship. They said she needs to go back to work to clear her debt. What does leaving her achieve when he still loves her. 😂😂😂

[@GDuncan8002]

​@@shachede6828 I'd divorce her Monday morning when the courthouse opened. If I was ordered to pay alimony I would take my assets and go to Southeast Asia. She could sit around watching the mailbox waiting for the check to show up.

[@letcontango]

Caller misspoke right? Meant my ex-wife got swooned by online affair fraud?

[@jason618]

It's not throwing away that 25 years it's gaining the next 25 years.

[@amireallythatgrumpy6508]

He doesn't have 25 years either way. He ain't living to 100.

[@Alex-mj5dv]

She could be battling with onset dementia or something like that.. not to absolve her, but outbursts either violent or emotional, erratic behaviour .. it starts this way sometimes. She will most likely do it again until she’s completely not of sound mind.

[@WOOFBTBWP123]

THIS!!

[@texan903]

He needs to turn her over to a full-time care facility that specializes in dementia and Alzheimers care, NOW.

[@Alex-mj5dv]

Also. This call - when they said their respective ages - highlights how utterly useless John actually is in real-world calls and applications. He didn’t have any recourse or advise for when they may be elderly, retired and also - crucially - not of sound mind as they would have been had they both been 40 or 50. It’s quite possible they both have EO dementia or cerebral degeneration. He just didn’t have any guru advice to apply there. Or ask if she’s safe.. Well done Dave for once again, giving the solid advice.

[@AfricaEric]

@@Alex-mj5dv Not sure if most people can be expected to know everything, although maybe not as uncommon as we think, still pretty uncommon. He may have been thinking 'leave her' and didn't want to say it out loud, which may be the right course of action but not great advise to say out loud

[@porchwookie]

Therapy is just convincing him to pay her debt and bills. What a joke.

[@GabrielMartinez-sd8pc]

Ramsey is legit telling this man to use his money to pay off his “wife’s” affair and loans. Why isn’t she paying for it?

[@GDuncan8002]

We can't have that.

[@adammarkowitz7944]

Sometimes Ramsey and Co. are way too forgiving. The debts are in her name, let her suffer the consequences of her actions. Better to be alone than to be with such a dishonorable person. Imagine waking up one day, in your mid seventies, and being told "honey, I shrunk the savings!". Awful.

[@ithinkigottalent4047]

I think they're being that way because we live in such sensitive times, where people are easily offended by any and everything.

[@adammarkowitz7944]

@@ithinkigottalent4047 Yes indeed.

[@dianehess5520]

I agree 100%

[@mrscreamer379]

They met in their 50s so they have no children together. She left whoever she was with and the father of her children to be with him and she has treated him as a meal ticket ever since. Just move on and leave her with her debts. She cheated on you and she spent that money, I don't think a court is going to see you as liable for her giving money to online boyfriends. Do your own healing to get over her. She's not going to change now she's in her 70s.

[@uscitizen1035]

Does the wife still have her cellphone and access to wifi?

[@fhuber7507]

So the wife has been financially and emotionally unfaithful. Guy would be better off without her and to mention the infidelity being the cause of the debts to pay fraud. He needs to stop being her walking wallet.

[@davesrvchannel4717]

I suggest having an attorney write up an agreement between husband and wife. If their life savings is spent on this, and next year she decides she wants a divorce, it would not be fair to the husband that everything be divided in half. At their age they should be embracing each other, not looking around the corner for an affair. A cheater today is usually a cheater tomorrow. I’ve been in 3 relationships and cheated on by all 3. I’m obviously doing something wrong to have this common denominator, I take responsibility for whatever my faults are. But I speak from experience, it’s HIGHLY likely this episode will repeat itself. The caller needs to cover his back now with an agreement drawn by a good lawyer.

[@sitka49]

I agree , Sounds like like sound advice. He also sounds a little desperate, and gullible, bad enough to have been cheated on ,but to put you in financial jeopardy too? I would be outraged! They were married for 25 yrs? ( married at 50? my guess second marriage for both?) and they had no issue problems till now? I don't believe it. And maybe not her first time cheating either in this relationship or maybe her other?

[@vivathecat7052]

Mid 70s, she should probably be checked for dementia, I had a few folks who did this and that was the first sign.

[@joygarrett8397]

Yes that is always a possibility too; people are so judgy . . . With that possibility, hubby needs to put some financial boundaries in place.

[@jamesharris6368]

I'm not gonna throw away 25 years" LOL She had no problem doing it.

[@marshamarshamarsha378]

Oh this is going to be good. 😬😬😬

[@PInk77W1]

Like General Hospital without all the makeup

[@ThaTurminator]

The moment he pays off HER personal debt with HIS money, she’ll divorce him and take half of whatever he has left. Divorce her now. Let her wallow in her debt.

[@pamcornelius9122]

He’s a big enough person to admit what happened was partially because of his own actions or neglect. People can go their entire lives having good moral character but still fall into one of Satan’s snares. The burden of rebuilding trust is now on her. I think this woman should also be evaluated for early dementia.

[@Lil-Whiskies]

Early dementia, I thought about that too! My mother started having small symptoms of dementia in her early 70's. She didn't have an internet affair and didn't lose any money, but she wasn't all there anymore in intellectual capabilities.

[@abark]

No. What people choose to do is their choice, and no anyone else's. Why is infidelity always a man's fault regardless of who did it?

[@2023Red]

San Antonio is great for loose women. Your wife included. I feel sorry for this man. He is an angel.

[@asarishepard8171]

Geez first caller should divorce her get a lawyer to have her pay some of this off so its not all on him. Reap your consequences woman.

[@rays242]

They are both about 75....no one is going back to work.

[@msjay5337]

She only ran back to him because she lost her money and he can help her take care of her mistake. Trust me if she was still okay financially she would not be trying to work on that marriage

[@AmazingChinaToday]

Listening to this call I pray for America. Holy smokes, we've become a nation of jellyfish.

[@angelalaskodi3459]

My guess is she will do it again. It's a mental health and vulnerability issue. I work in mental health and see this often. On one occasion there was a bank institution that loaned a woman with dementia a lot of money. The woman spent all the money and couldn't pay it back. The woman's family took the bank to court and won.

[@georgewagner7787]

He has to disable the computer

[@cj90014]

Pick up your tool kit and head out the door. Affairs are not mistakes. Mistakes are putting 2 different socks on in the dark. Affairs are over extended periods of time. Leave.

[@TJax123]

I agree with Dave. The wife should definitely go back to work and pay off those bills (as long as she doesn't have some kind of debilitating illness).

[@Sam-tg4ii]

He says he's not throwing the 25 years, But what is the value of 25 years if AFTER all that she cheats on him like this?!