My Husband Has Been Living A Second Life For Over A Decade r/Relationships

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

I don’t even have enough time for one life, nevermind a double life.

[@amandasunshine2]

Ikr 😅 _how_ can I find ONE partner 😭

[@jakemarie828]

Exactly! I have enough people to dissapoint as it is 😆

[@fyoutube9410]

Ikr!

[@WhtAbtBob10]

My thoughts exactly.

[@abluerainbow]

I can barely handle the stresses of my current life, let alone another one jfc how do people find the time to do this and for what x_x?

[@Lestaticate]

Story 2: ExBF: “My natural rage would’ve kicked in and I would’ve killed the guy!” Oh our knight in dripping brown pants. ❤️

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

I literally rolled my eyes and laughed!

[@linkinlady06]

LOL if anything I was curious to see what the natural Rage would look like! 😂😂😂

[@rogrove6325]

This is legit one of the creepier straight-up VILLAINS we've had in these stories. I feel the commenter in story 1 mentioning psychopathy hit it right on the head. The way the wife wrote about him was creepy, the way he replied, the way he didn't emote and didn't answer things. Just. Ew. Calling her the better investment. He's a real life anime villain

[@SailorMya]

Right! I'm sure OP is seeing EVERYTHING that seemed "off" now in hindsight... I hope she can make a clean break from all of this!

[@Davtwan]

He sounds like he literally has trouble with emotions to the point of social determinant. He doesn’t need a career or kids. He needs a psych ward.

[@recycledapathy7411]

He's got serious "got married as my cover" vibes. Full on BTK energy, even.

[@akl2k7]

This guy sounds like someone with absolutely no morals who'd kill someone if he'd get away with it.

[@pippo17173]

It has to be when the second wife legit knows way ahead of op contacting her. She fooled her in this.

[@madambutterfly1997]

I would burn notice him all over the Internet. I would make sure he could never do this again to any other women for as long as he lived.

[@VanityZERO]

Absolutely. To have the energy to do this over the course of 10+ years and would have still carried on had OP not found out is so wild though.

[@destinysphinx27]

wish she had recorded the last talk they had and used it to sue him (and maybe her) 6 feet under (the little girls can be sent to the grandparents to make up for lost time)

[@jakemarie828]

That would be a noble effort.

[@ndawn90]

Wow, OP #1's ex has to be a sociopath. The way that he was able to play "perfect husband" with her for over a decade while juggling this insane other life, the way he just switched the minute she called him out and was instantly ice cold, even the way he 'justified' his actions. "I cheated because I could. I decided which woman to marry and which one to string along by sizing them up like cattle. I decided to have a second child with my side piece because I can." I really hope OP quickly comes to realize that she was victimized by a master manipulator. This guy could have convinced anyone of anything, she's not stupid for falling for his lies.

[@paulastiles5507]

I'm always a bit wary of classifying these guys as sociopaths or psychopaths (though admittedly, my dad was a textbook malignant narcissist who ticked pretty much every box on that). The thing is that until very recently, even in the West, guys have had it pretty much all their way, for a long, long time. Their expectations of what they deserve and are entitled to have been skewed far outside of what is fair and normal from an objective perspective. There are still many parts of the world (some of them in the U.S.) where the guy can pretty much have as many sidepieces as he can afford and all the women are supposed to just suck it up and compete for the crumbs. Sociopaths and psychopaths are outside the normal for society and know it. These guys aren't, or at least they weren't a generation ago.

[@madambutterfly1997]

You’re right, he’s not 100% raise his 2,000,000% trash. The fact that he’s a ‘good’ father doesn’t mean shit. Anyone willing to do this to anyone is automatically trash and their parenting skills does not redeem them in the slightest…

[@ricaivory6571]

Yea, but you can't harm the kids just bcuz he's a shitty person. He's A shit spouse doesn't mean he is shit to the kids.

[@daisychain5087]

He's NOT a good father. He's the antithesis!! Good fathers WOULD NEVER live by the amoral code this scumbag deludes himself, is being a "savvy investor", nor the litany of cruel, traumatizing, immoral acts which are a direct outgrowth of said diabolically wicked belief system/mindset. He's a vile, manipulative, gaslighting abuser - pure and simple. Putting on an act with his child, causes the child IMMENSE, HUGELY DAMAGING CONFUSION, SHE'LL ONLY SPEND DECADES UNRAVELING, as it's horrifically painful to imagine, let alone accept what he did...then try to reason with your internal concerns that it must mean you're to blame and that there's something innately evil about you if someone as important as your father pulled this on you, before you can ever even begin to start getting to the truth, and realizing HE truly is ENTIRELY TO BLAME!!

[@sherylsnell-massie3801]

and he is only a good parent because he doesn't have to be a parent. He is just a drop-in sperm donor and raging narcissist - check that....PSYCHOPATH

[@akl2k7]

Yeah, you can't be a good parent if you're a terrible person who sets a terrible example.

[@1911odisea]

You can only be 100% of something.

[@rclark8688]

I honestly don't know if I believe Jenny knew. This man is proven to be a liar so it seems it would be easy for him to try and villainize her

[@Guitarbarella]

Yeah but she wasn’t surprised -and seriously who would admit that to a wife-oh sure I know-coz you know a wife would either rage or hang up and Jenny wouldn’t be able to talk to her to get any extra info either-pretty sure she would have known she was his side piece and she needed his pay check. She prob know that support would be less if he divorced the wife coz that’s prob what the husband told her.

[@xelectrix]

She would have to know. How can you be with someone for 10 years, have 2 kids, only see him on weekends and not be suspicious that he might be cheating? For this to go on for 10 yrs with the same person that person would have to be in on it. Unless she is just incredibly naive or he is abusive.

[@pinklemonade8320]

I think it's likely she knew and went along with it because he was her source of money

[@rclark8688]

@@xelectrix I feel like he is definitely abusive. But I suppose it is a possibility she knew. I just wouldn't believe that simply because he said it.

[@abluerainbow]

@@Guitarbarella What if Jenny was forced to play along? What if he's also an abusive asshole? I mean, if he's willing to play with somebody like this for ten years, what's to say he hasn't been physically abusive? For all we know, Jenny's first kid could've been from rape, and the other one was ""Consented"" bc she's 100% dependent on him, which strokes his Ego I guess. Not saying that this happened, but I'm saying that I would believe it if it did happen...

[@goldenpaladin]

As someone who lost his sister while she was leaving her bf I’m really happy op got out safe and she didn’t end up like my sister

[@clairebear-96]

I’m so sorry that happened, I hope you’re doing okay, sending love to you and your family

[@toxigenic]

I'm so sorry you lost your sister. I always tell people that they don't have to break up with someone face to face. Some people think that you "owe" it to do it in person, but it's not always safe. Phone, text or email is a safe option.

[@mpo2706]

So sorry for your loss. God rest her soul 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@CreepyBlueAnimals84]

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your sister. I hope you and your family have been able to find some sense of peace or healing. May your sister rest in peace.😥💔

[@jakemarie828]

My partner's grandfather had a 2nd family that was a (poorly kept) secret. When his wife died, all the neighbors came by and talked about how perfect their relationship was, how they were high school sweethearts etc. Now in death, both families are making his wife the scapegoat for not wanting anything to do with the AP or their kids, since it's a "tragedy" the kids couldn't meet until adulthood. And Grandfather is the good guy...Absolute mess.

[@mbyerly9680]

Blame the victim. Typical.

[@akl2k7]

Why do I get the feeling the dead wife had no idea of the other people's existence, and even if she did, it was up to him to cheat on her.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

That's aweful! 😢

[@paulastiles5507]

Well, look at how a certain politician got censured for having cigar sex with a younger (but fully consenting adult) woman while at the pinnacle of his career...and everyone blamed his wife.

[@jakemarie828]

@@akl2k7 I'm honestly not sure how much she knew or what all the details are. I think she left him (for cheating?) at one point and then took him back? So family 1 was abandoned first and then family 2 was abandoned for family 1? It's really weird because there's this wall of vagueness around the whole thing. My partner doesn't even feel comfortable asking his mom for the whole story. What I do know from being in charge of photos from the funeral is that there's a 10 year gap where there's no family pictures, and on the other side, the wife's formerly confident smile isn't the same. I wish she were still here so I could get her side of things. At least the adult kids and grandkids are being friendly with one another. Like I said, a big ol mess.

[@BottledWitch]

The first story, at the end there where he looked all smug saying "have it your way", has me worried for OP....

[@dianasmith8248]

Well, he did sign the papers, and they are in the process of getting a divorce. So I think that was his way of just trying to guilt her into staying with him. But since she’s not, he is no longer going to waste his time. But Jenny is going to be in for quite a surprise when she realizes that he will not marry her at all and she will just continue to be the side piece while he goes and finds a wife who is good on paper .

[@akl2k7]

Yeah, it almost seemed like he thought he was going to get everything in the divorce. I hope it was only a bluff. The guy sounds like an amoral psychopath.

[@dianasmith8248]

@@akl2k7 I totally do think he is a psychopath. Thank God OP found that before she got pregnant. Or else she would’ve been tied to him, her whole entire life, plus had she gotten pregnant I don’t think he would’ve walked away as easy as he did.

[@owl7072]

Story 2: "I thought you were stabbed or worse" and proceeded to not check in on Op for an hour????? And then couldn't even be bothered to pick her up from the police station because your ego couldn't handle the mere thought of people, rightfully, laughing at you?

[@toxigenic]

I think this guy has a warrant out on him and that's the real reason he's scared of the police.

[@allisonlong8857]

@@toxigenic I think you are right on the money with that!

[@patheon9541]

story 2: im sorry OP was in that situation but when he said if he let his natural rage take over he would have killed him i spat my water out in laughter i seriously thought i was gonna die from that it was so funny

[@thatonecooktone]

That gave me second hand embarrassment and cringed so hard 🤣🤣🤣

[@charliescott859]

A true neckbeard. I'm sure he has his katana, fedora, and Naruto skills at the ready

[@waffleattack3347]

I almost woke up my sleeping husband! 😂

[@damien678]

I have a very strong fight response and guys like this are so embarrassing. I've been able to talk down a scared schizrophrenic with a knife pointed at me before. Never once thought of backing down, never mind running and hiding. But I also get that he just can't admit he absolutely threw her to the wolves. No other way to spin it besides that utterly laughable line

[@Araraki-Itto1]

By natural rage he means his defense mechanism of fainting like an old woman. 😂

[@Tammohawk1]

1. I think only men are saying that OP and Jenny should be sister wives. I can't imagine any of what OP is going through. I want to know why OP and her husband weren't filing taxes together. That would have been very telling. 2. That guy is a coward. No man of mine would leave me alone while getting mugged. I'd go scorched Earth on that jerk. Telling OP that what he did was the best for both of them. Everyone we knew would know just how much of a coward he is.

[@sle7936]

Alot couples file separately to keep their tax liabilities low( especially if they are self employed).

[@emcustard]

I never understand the people who get upset about someone using their spouse's phone. What's the point of keeping secrets from the person who is supposed to be the most important person in your life? Maybe that's just because I grew up in a house where my parents know each other's (and my) passwords, and in return I know theirs. And my mom has told my dad before, "I've got a surprise for you. Don't look at the messages between me and my best friend or it'll ruin the surprise."

[@eowyn8340]

Story 1: wow, that man is pure evil. No morals or empathy whatsoever. OP is fortunate she was able to leave that sorry excuse of a man.

[@MizTameRumors]

I think he actually IS a psychopath. There was no emotion at all in his responses to her questions.

[@carolsh1983]

Generally, I would not want anyone to be in danger for my sake and would want a partner to get safe if possible. But that was straight up abandoning her to a dangerous situation that didn’t have to be as dangerous when it was the two of them. I’d be furious too.

[@cheekyftoro8962]

I don't see the running as the problem it's the hiding and then false bravery that deserves scorched earth.

[@carolsh1983]

@@cheekyftoro8962 Yeah, the running and the failing to send anyone to check on her.

[@cheekyftoro8962]

@@carolsh1983 100% who other than a scared child doesn't get help. What sort of grown adult hell even a teenager would just hide.

[@toxigenic]

@@cheekyftoro8962 If you're going to run, then you grab your partner by the hand and pull them along with you. You don't just straight up run away from your partner and leave them to deal with a mugger alone.

[@cheekyftoro8962]

@@toxigenic And what if you can't grab their jand and what if when they you do they don't run often one can run because the other is closer to the danger or because one has the attention of the danger allowing the other person a chance to run get help. If you both stay your both in danger your both at the mercy of the muggers one runs the mugger has a time limit because one would assume they went to get help. They also know their is a witness to their crime out of there reach so they are not likely to resort to violence only threaten it. I wouldn't expect my partner to stay if they had a chance to run same as I would run if I got a chance. She is a grown adult not a helpless child.

[@edisntavailable]

This man is a real life villain

[@Nyanx4]

Story 2 was horrifying! That was sexual assault, I feel so horrible for her. I understand fight or flight, and I'm not going to do the whole sexist _"why didn't da mannn protecc his womaaannnn"_ thing... but if you're going to run, at least make sure your partner is with you? If your instinct is to hide, take your partner with you? That guy's a coward. I'd feel the same way if someone dipped on their partners, kids, or friends while getting mugged. C'mon. Edit: EIGHHGHHHH, AND HE'S BERATING HER NOW? WHEN SHE'S THE ONE WHO GOT SEXUALLY ASSAULTED??? Nevermind then, throw him to the dogs. Literally, if you can. Poor OP... She needs to tell someone IRL and seek counseling, not just the internet.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

I literally rolled my eyes and laughed out loud when he said if he had stayed his rage would’ve taken over! Really? You are the most pathetic loser of a man I have ever heard of!!! Leaving your girlfriend to her own devices with a mugger 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️😡🤦🏼‍♀️

[@floraposteschild4184]

Agreed. I'm not one to berate someone for acting on instinct, but one hour while OP could have been lying dead in an alley is more than instinct. Call the police anonymously at least. Run and get help from passers-by. But he's a coward and probably a crook as well.

[@schwagecko5589]

I really hope OP blasts him/reports him to the police. I can understand fear makes you do stupid things that you regret. I'd probably still break up with him in any case but the way he responded to her genuine concerns about his reaction merits "blowing up his $hit" as she said.

[@recycledapathy7411]

I hope we eventually get an update after she talks to the ADA again where she says she casually mentioned that her boyfriend, X, ran and hid and is now harassing her because he's afraid of the cops for some reason. And then we get to find out that he's got a restraining order on him from his last girlfriend or he's secretly a drug dealer or something.

[@schwagecko5589]

@@recycledapathy7411 Yes! I am totally hanging out for an update

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

"He said had he not run, his natural rage would have taken over and he would have killed the guy." Sounds like my ex 😂 When I dated my ex I had a bunch of guy friends in my group. They said "if he ever breaks your heart we'll break his face" I told this to him in a joking manner. He looks at me dead serious & says "I'd like to see them try. I know jiu-jitsu." (or some form of martial arts, can't remember) WELL, two years after we broke up my ex slept with a friends gf... with the friend in the NEXT ROOM. Friend beat the shit out of him. Friend went back the next day because he forgot his wallet. My ex waved a box cutter out of the crack in the window & then threw it at my friend. Jiu-Jitsu my ass.

[@jonmendelson1104]

Last story: OP said she's afraid and puts her key between her fingers when walking alone now. DO NOT do that, you are far more likely to injure yourself than your opponent because when you actually hit something, the keys are going to fold over. If you hit something hard, you can potentially smash, cut, or even break your fingers. If you are going to use your key for self defense you should hold it more like a knife than putting it between your knuckles.

[@gmun2248]

It's a common piece of self defense advice for women/ in women's magazines etc. The general idea is to go for the eyes with the key, add a heel of the hand to the nose if also necessary & buy yourself time to run. It's not a prep for getting in a fistfight.

[@throwawayaccount9150]

@@gmun2248 also we typically don’t use them to punch like brass knuckles, we scratch like we’re wolverine

[@demonic_myst4503]

Job if u hit somthibg hard enough to bend a fucking netal key then youve hit it hard enough to break your knockle period as somone who actuaky does martial arts its easy to break tour lower knockes thats why you only hit with the first two but a key isbt likely break at aby force that u punch at unless u trying to break your hand

[@jonmendelson1104]

@@demonic_myst4503 I didn't mean bending the metal. I meant folding over as in swiveling.

[@invadersickness]

So, he treated the mother of his child as someone to screw not to love? Literally how does anyone think those words, say them out loud, and think it'll save their marriage/relationship?

[@PuffyRedCloud]

I hope both ops update a few years from now to tell us they're living their best life.

[@heatheraucoin5832]

I think Jenny knew of the OP but not about the marriage part. Like he could have said I’m not into marriage. I’m glad that Op didn’t get pregnant and perhaps Jenny did trap him for financial support. He think he won but not really, OP didn’t lose 10 years of her life, she gained 50+ years of happiness of not being lied to thinking he was a great man. She’s still young and can find happiness.

[@dianasmith8248]

Story one: yeah I do believe that Jenny knew, and she will be in for a surprise when he just continues to screw her and goes and looks for another wife.

[@calliew311]

Ya, I agree, she knew, she got pregnant thinking he would leave his wife and be with her.

[@irishgirl25891]

Story 1 The husband is a sociopath. No emotion. If Jenny indeed did not know I feel really bad for her. For 10yrs and having kids with him she was ok only seeing him weekends, being treated poorly, and always being ignored. That's sad

[@CircusoftheMoon]

I feel like this whole second family business should have harsher consequences. Also I doubt he wore condoms at all.

[@morganhorsediaries3316]

My husband and I were mugged walking to our car one night. My husband shoved me behind him while he had a gun pressed his forehead. I'd post about that AHole everywhere on social media and shame him. Let everyone know he let his girlfriend get assaulted while ran and hid. It's okay to be afraid, but that like hiding while someone drowns.

[@kissedbypalefirex]

story 1:...WOW...that husband is a scumbag....I wouldn't trust anything "jenny" says, i think she knew he had a wife, I also think she warned him that op called her, he wasn't surprised when op conforted him, I think she still wants him, they deserve each other. story 2: .....this guy is captain courageous, he ran to hide in the park & kept hiding when he heard sirens. Where was that "natural rage" when he believed she was "stabbed or worse". Go scorched earth on him -i really more updates

[@ldydragonbrn]

Stories like the first one make me sad for the betrayed person but at the same time so glad I'm staying single- there are some TRULY fucked up people out there...

[@TriXJester]

Last Story: Honestly the most pathetic of men I have ever witnessed in one of these stories. I'd absolutely rain hellfire down on that coward's social life.

[@linkinlady06]

Story 1: Freakin wow it's stories like this that make me want to stay single for the rest of my life how do you cheat for 10 years!?! 10!!!! And then he's not the least bit remorseful at all I'm sorry but that's psychotic behavior and what's even more sad his daughters will grow up and find out just what kind of guy their father is smh sheesh Story 2: Omfg 😂😂😂😂😂 what a way to show that you won't protect the person you love

[@hannahdavis5725]

I worry for Jenny. I really worry for her and I have no doubt her self-esteem has been destroyed by that bastard.

[@rylashadow18]

S1) All I got to say is if this "Jenny" takes him back she's asking to be used. Good on you OP I hope your prenup had a cheating clause. Also if you feel like blocking her block her. Not your circus not your monkies. S2) Blow him up OP. As for the question a therapist that specializes in the trauma you went through would help. Talk to your family friends and loved ones. Self defense classes should be on that list of things to do as well. You're never too old to learn something new. Pepper spray, a small tazer, a small horn, something that makes noise as well as flashes and some other things that are small and easy to conceal. Ask friends to come to collect you if your interested in going places. If they know what happened they'll do things during the day and make sure your not alone. Take it one day a time and you'll heal OP. I'm sorry you had to go through that experience.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Sometimes red flags go missed by the love people have, and I feel so sorry for the OP and the other woman, especially her when she has kids and their father is there only 104 days of the 365 days a year! That’s less than 30% of the days in a year! These poor women. Those poor kids!!

[@SXLLYSTRXNG]

LOL OP in last story should have threatened ex with a restraining order, that would shut him up fast😂😂 Assuming the cops r already aware of him I’d possibly even ask the cops who helped OP 2 rattle their ex just a little

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #1: OP needs to be careful. She was smart to ditch him while he was still in his affair fog, but that will fade. Once it does, he will remember why he married her not Jenny and will want OP back. His life is about to change radically and not for the better, and he has no clue because he's that dumb. Story #2: I'm not sure who is worse in this story--the mugger (who was definitely engaging in sexual assault) or OP's cowardly ex. Light him right up, OP, especially since he's now stalking you. We've all got s'mores. Glad you made it through safely. Don't be shy about getting therapy.

[@marychoppins8140]

I heard this story earlier from another narrator, I cheated on you Mark😢 (sorry Waffle King). I clutched my pearls when she said that he has been cheating on her since their early days of dating. The affair partner knew about her and didn’t care, her esteem must be in the gutter to be content with being second place.

[@dcg590]

No, she’s a pos who doesn’t care about other people. She didn’t even have a place if he was married

[@catsncrows]

Foster care. Who knows what she grew up with. I accepted some really trash behavior though not the same. I also find the worst friends, last one was unhinged and got physically violent

[@tayflowers13]

To be honest, I don't know if she actually did know. The husband has shown to be a manipulative piece of shit, so I wouldn't put it past him lying about it to make them not communicate with each other.

[@marychoppins8140]

@@tayflowers13 I don’t buy it. He has been dating the affair partner for 10 years, she knew! Not to mention he didn’t see her or the children during the panorama. Where did she think he was staying? There’s no way she didn’t know he wasn’t married.

[@JordanDragonAs]

​@@tayflowers13 I agree with this. Op was too trusting when he said Jenny knew. Like if Jenny knew she would have lorded it over her

[@jrod1591]

“Looking through your SO’s phone is possessive and controlling.” She didn’t do this and this is what happened.

[@brietiernan7101]

The mugging story where the boyfriend ran away is similar to something that happened to me. My husband and I were walking down a street when 3 very large dogs came out of another connecting street and charged at us. My husband hauled ass and left me there to defend myself luckily I was very pissed off and I started screaming at the dogs and they hauled ass away from me. A lot of people nearby saw what had happened and told my husband that he was such a coward to save himself and leave me behind to be attacked.

[@AndyyWithAY]

If OP wants to choose violence, humiliate this guy and go scorched earth. Otherwise block him on everything and be done with it. I wonder if this was always intended to be a sex crime the way this guy felt OP up, special attention in the bra. I'm glad she's ok.

[@VanityZERO]

It takes a truly twisted individual to carry on an affair for this long!

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 2: What did you expect? He's not with you because he loves you, he's with you because you're practically a child to him and therefore easier to control.

[@AndyyWithAY]

4 months isn't a long time to not get pregnant, but sometimes the universe gives us a sign. Now OP's not strapped to this guy for the next 20 plus years. It wouldnt matter to me if he had kids with the woman or not. Having a double life for a decade is having a double life for a decade. It's easy to have an amazing life with someone when you're not all in.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

I'm glad she didn't get pregnant with him. And that she's only 30 years old. She still has a lot of time to find the loving partner she deserves.

[@tabithadearth7507]

How do people find the time to cheat is my ultimate question? I feel awful for both women in Story 1. That dude is a straight up jerk. Jenny must be brainwashed and OP was blindsided.

[@momshardrockvideos]

I’m sure Jenny knew. She probably thought that if she got pregnant he would leave you. They are shit people and you got duped. I’m so sorry for you. I hope the rest of your life goes amazing! Good luck.

[@JordanDragonAs]

I don't think so since she would have been very snarky about it

[@TheUnamedOne832]

I wouldn't bother yourself with anything he says. He's a manipulater ,they will lie even if they don't need to ,and we all already know he was good enough to get away with lying before

[@eowyn8340]

Story 2: Firstly, if I was OP I’d blast what that worthless “boyfriend” did all over every social media platform. Then, I really hope once OP feels better mentally and physically, she seeks some self defense lessons. Sexual assault is so traumatic, and no one deserves to be mistreated.

[@Pepperjack1986]

I would have chosen the scorched earth option for Story 2. That guy needs for everyone to know he left her and ran past police who could have gotten to her quickly and prevented her S.A. Especially now that he's blasting her for breaking up with him, and with the added suspicion of past criminal history to consider.

[@biancavilaverde551]

Nothing about the stories but i came to your channel like 35 minutes ago because i like to fall asleep hearing your stories and i was losing hope when I finally saw you had posted another video 🥰 well, have a good night and thank you for you hard work ! ✨

[@reasonpeason847]

Story 2: I’m only at the start of the first update and in my head is a steady chant getting louder “Burn it down. Burn it down! BURN IT DOWN!”

[@blakezummo264]

Damn the guy in story 1 sounds like a genuine psychopath. Wouldn't be surprised if he was diagnosed and just never told anyone

[@AndyyWithAY]

I like that the husband told the truth. It really is that simple sometimes, especially for men. I did it because I could. OP looks good on paper and for status, but Jenny let's him do what he wants, doesn't demand anything, has low standards, and is the sexual outlet he wants. And anyone with an ounce of self esteem and the sense God gave a fool would be done with someone who volunteers to abandon their children

[@JordanDragonAs]

He didn't tell the truth he got caught

[@JordanDragonAs]

You sound like a person who would do this

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@JordanDragonAs He DID tell the truth about why he did this. OP didn't figure that part out

[@akl2k7]

You don't know that he told the truth about anything. For all we know, he was lying about almost everything (same goes for the affair partner. She could have been telling the truth that she didn't know and that he was abusive, or she *did* know and he treated her fine). The guy's an amoral monster.

[@shylavender]

Holy shit… After that update I’m just…? The person in the comments who called him a psychopath hit the nail on the head. Definitely a psychopath. Jesus Christ. Disgusting. I hope “Jenny” dumps him too. She’s a damn idiot if she doesn’t, kids or not! He doesn’t deserve a damn thing. I really hope OP can heal from this and one day finds someone (when and if she’s ready to) who actually deserves her. (Not gonna lie, when she said his name Matthew at the end, my blood ran cold. That’s my ex abuser’s name from when I was 15-16, and his behaviour was IDENTICAL to this! He treated me absolutely horrendously and committed awful crimes against me too. But…oh my god. He was a psychopath too. God I hope they’re not the same person!)

[@nonyabiznez38]

The coward in the second story sounds like my friends husband. I regret not saying anything and letting her marry that coward without saying anything Story 1: the dude sounds like a complete psychopath and I hope she gets a clean divorce and never sees him again. I hope he doesn’t pull anything crazy with her

[@Guitarbarella]

Of course Jenny knew but she wouldn’t tell OP coz that would have painted her in a bad light.

[@kamicokrolock]

Story 1: Just me but I would have gone FULL BLOWN SCORCHED EARTH on that guy

[@MsTemptation]

S2: Damn. That has to suck when finding out that your boyfriend is a bloody coward. He literally scurried off to save himself. I would have posted this on social media to warn other women. Basically letting them know to arm themselves if they plan to date him after he becomes your ex. Cowards are definitely a major turn off.

[@cheekyftoro8962]

It's really not the running that's the issue why wouldn't you run if you could. Don't you think she should have ran. It's the not getting help that's the issue It's the hiding and not caring what hapoened to op.

[@KittenKouhai]

Im having super bad eye troubles and have to keep them closed to not get a headache or strain them anymore (im seeing double at all times), so listening to your stories has been a huge help in my adhd ass not getting bored!! thanks for all the content you always provide mark

[@violetmoodswing666]

I feel like the girl with the kids would want to keep it ok until it's all figured out. Works for both them to side blind her

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Some really stand up partners in this episode. I feel bad for these women.

[@mracula1667]

The part where the boyfriend ran away from the mugger had the image of Michael Scott out of the office when Dwight made the false fire in my head.

[@Obiwantuan]

Story 1: From OP's perspective, the hubby is absolutely trash to live a double life for 10 years. I am curious as to his attitude about it all, he is basically, if you want to stay, then stay, i will dump other chick, you're better on paper anyways. It's seems like in his head, they could just start over fresh like nothing happened. Maybe in his warped head, he figured she already had a side guy and he wanted to keep his side chick and even have kids. She is moving in with a guy right away, does she only have guy friends or orbiters?

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

How do you know the guy friend isn’t gay

[@AndyyWithAY]

You leaving your defenseless GF alone with a guy with a makeshift weapon and that was somehow best for everyone?? You run and hide like a coward? Why couldn't you CALL the police anonymously? The dispatch isn't going the laugh at you. OP was SA'd and could have been grievously injured or killed but you call her names because she reported a crime against her and people might laugh at you? I was gonna rise above it cuz I'm too old, but the more I think about it, the madder I get and I'm like destroy this guy's life. It's what he deserves

[@gngrblls2thwall]

16:15 OP's boyfriend just sees red, and bodies hit the floor

[@AndyyWithAY]

After 3 months, my passport is FINALLY in the mail on its way to me. I had the house to myself this afternoon, so of course I was cooking. I made some mashed potatoes, cabbage and some beef.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Yay

[@BonazaiGirl]

A bit off topic but that’s the first time I’ve seen that picture at 13:26 lol. Back on topic, that guy is all kinds of WTF. To maintain two double lives for a solid decade!? Poor OP… I can’t imagine finding out like she did. The only consolation is that she didn’t have kids with him, unlike the AP who knew he was married. This was just… goodness gracious…

[@belial3781]

"my natural rage would have kicked in and I would've killed the guy" yeah i think he just ran because he forgot his fedora and katana at home. on another note, I hope OP gets some psychiatric help, SA trauma is difficult to deal with at the best of times and it's important to talk about it to develop coping mechanisms that don't involve substance abuse or compulsive actions.

[@toxigenic]

I picture the guy Naruto running down the alley to escape.

[@angietyndall7337]

Yeah, the double life wrecks people. My grandma was one. She divorced him and he died of ALS[Lou Gehring's Disease].

[@Rjeda30]

First place I go when I read stories like this is, how in the world do they keep everybody’s names straight? This guy is serial killer scary. Wow

[@taylorslade961]

This dude is why women need those cheaters groups on FB.

[@fireflyinspiration639]

Should you find you are being cheated on: Take screenshots of evidence, send to yourself, delete from their history. Start packing up, if you can move back with parents, let them know what is up. Get all your ducks in a row, finances and a lawyer. Get the papers ready. Pick a day leave the papers and move out when he is gone. Then confront the person they are having an affair with. If they are volatile, block them. Get a restraining order even a temporary one if you fear they will get violent.

[@emmaloveslavie]

I had something similar happen to me, my heart goes out to the woman in the first story. These people are very good at covering themselves and lying when they feel they need to, so she should not feel foolish for not having seen what was going on.

[@duckducknight]

There are some really good manipulators out there. I had one also & it took a while to discover what he was up to. Then he got played.

[@livaugirard3383]

"Ok if this is what you want" What the actual hell? This word is often used to loosely but he sounds like a literal psychopath

[@sherylsnell-massie3801]

I feel for the other woman in story one - she has been deceived AND she has his kids.........at least OP can run.

[@albertgongora6944]

LOL nobody take this the wrong way on that last story but I'm happy that the original poster broke up with her dude but man I couldn't stop laughing at the excuses this guy gave especially when he says I was scared of freaking out and I would have killed the guy and it's like okay calm down Logan's goofy cousin you're not exactly Wolverine year but yeah thank God she had the balls to just tell this dude yeah we're broken up so good for the original poster and I feel terrible that she had to go to that situation and hopefully with enough time and therapy if she chooses to take that route she'll be able to you know get through that situation a lot more better and on top of that hopefully she ends up with somebody that actually acts like a real decent human being and more of a man and not a little boy that hides behind excuses and they're fake ass Wolverine fursona that they have going on there

[@riareed1269]

The Ex husband from story 1 is the devil fr fr

[@oakenshadow6763]

Story 2: I'm so sorry for OP. She was sexually asulted, and he just abandoned her! What a monster.

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 2- I don't even have to read the story, Nuke the 🐈ssy! ETA- definitely full Scorched Earth/Salted Fields! Also, Tae Kwon Do and weapons training. Start carrying a long @$$ umbrella with a crooked handle 🌂. Muggers are less likely to attack people carry something they can be hit with before they get in grabbing distance. The look up cane self defense on KZbin and use the umbrella like the cane. You'll never get stopped for a weapon. I'm taking mine to jury duty since I can't take my karambit. 😈

[@sweetoleander9048]

OP in the 2nd story needs to be careful and set up home security locks and cameras. The coward may break in to prove his "manhood" or something. He is angry and won't want to be seen as the weak cowardly bully that he is.

[@phoenixsky6124]

I don’t believe the other woman knew. He’s already proven to be a liar.

[@JohnSmith-zw8vp]

Story 1 -- PLEZ tell me this guy isn't for real...

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace ☮️, hugs 🤗 and love 😘!

[@BritInvLvr]

Damn. These are some crazy ass stories! I audibly gasped at story 2.

[@JadedJada]

It is POSSIBLE Jenny didn't know, and Matthew is just saying that because he doesn't realize OP talked with her, and wants to keep one girl in the dark. If that's the case, he's in for an unpleasant surprise when he runs to her. We can hope, right?

[@muhname6052]

Story2: I'd dump him if only for the lying about getting the police. Dude went and hid in a different park for over an hour. Like i get fight or flight but

[@elsemiekeanna]

Listening while waking up and getting ready for work

[@CodenameTurtle]

I doubt Jenny knew. He's a psychopath and knows how to manipulate and make sure they don't communicate further, I'm assuming. What a fucking creep, it sends shivers down my spine.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Wtf all these people on Reddit saying they should be sister wives 😬 What's the point saying that to a person who's heartbroken.

[@lilu3218]

Last story: it is not sexist to expect your man to protect you. That dude was a coward!. My husband protected me from a druggie not to long ago. He was all up on my window and I got really scared, my husband came out of the store and I told him. He didn't even hesitate, got out and kicked his ass 👀. Didn't expect that, but felt very safe.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Yea, but she was at the police station for an hour before he called her he got help. I understand some people act by fleeing at first, but after getting out of the situation he could've done a lot more than just sitting in the park.

[@lilu3218]

@@Nathan_Bookwurm yes, I agree. He heard police and assumed somet happened to her. I'm glad she left him.

[@MalkavianGhoul]

The sister wives comments. I know what kind of people those commentators are

[@Grace_x68]

S2 Think OP's ex is wanted by police. (maybe reason why he parked in alleyway in the first place )

[@albertgongora6944]

Oh I also want to put this the original poster in that last story should definitely let the cops know about her Shady X about his whereabouts to be really does have a warrant out for his arrest or something like that and see how real tough want to be Wolverine over here acts when the police are taking his ass to jail to get pounded down by Bubba or Big Bob

[@Josku2411]

Oop early and currently lowkey tempted to make some fanart of a musician Käärijä i'll go see live this summer..he's also Finlands Eurovision contestant this year honestly such a genuine and sweet seeming guy with the right sprinkle of absurd chaos to make him incredibly relatable

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Cool

[@Josku2411]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Yee he's pretty cool also my idea is possibly if i make the art i print it off and make a little sign and give it to him at the concert bc well..i'd still have the master copy so why not

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

​@@Josku2411 aw I hope he'll like it

[@karlat7880]

Sounds like the guys in both stories are sociopaths. The girl in the second story is luckier to find out sooner. I feel so bad for both of them.

[@jasoncarter4343]

He only makes $31k per year yet travels that much? Common. You can make that same yearly salary working full-time at McDonalds.

[@Cvvgrr.]

Last story blow his stuff up not because of the fear but way he act after calling you and everything else he butt so now you blow him up . He think he is bad butt now but he is something else.

[@thebeebz9511]

STORY 2 ex straight up harassed her - hope she involved police

[@michamocha]

I had to remind myself that idiots exist among us because who thinks asking a woman to be sister wives with the woman her husband cheated on her with. Unhinged behavior and they probably fall into the same category as Op's ex. I think that one commentator hit the nail on the head because I think this goes far beyond "entitlement". He's something for sure and it's a good thing that Op found out before she got pregnant. I wish her good health and luck after a crap show like that.

[@HawkTHSS2893]

Two beings in the same body? its just like Heckyl and Snide

[@violetmoodswing666]

My first husband cheated on me all the time, even before marrying. Some how I was obvious and he lied about his age. He wanted a sugar momma and I barely covered food and rent!!! Later his now wife had me tall to a fling and she was so sorry but also un alive the same night out of guilt. I knew her ex husband and I got left with sharing why she did it. My ex wasn't even good in bed! I tried not to walk down the aisle but got told it was cold feet from event staff when my dad was about to walk out solo to say it wasn't happening.