I'm Being Catfished By My "Friend" And She's Copying Everything About Me r/Relationships

[@justheretowatch1733]

OP's standards are: 1. Let's solve problems, not make them 2. Be clean 3. Going to the gym together 4. Like dogs IN WHAT WORLD IS THAT UNREASONABLE!? THAT'S THE BARE MINIMUM! Is the stalker just licking the bottom of the barrel?

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Maybe the stalker can be friends with Andrew Tate. I think they are a great fit. Both got no standards, no respect for others and get themselves thrown into prison.

[@amandasunshine2]

Yeah I don't think this was the real intention behind everything.

[@schwagecko5589]

​@@amandasunshine2 She was clearly already envious of OP and just looking for an excuse to be able to "justifiably" hurt her and take over her life. She'll have this victim complex of "why does OP get all this attention, she doesn't deserve it when I clearly do, I'd be a better OP than OP"

[@stephjovi]

Way too high standards 😂. When she's super fit she needs to accept someone with no similar interest who constantly smells unwashed. According to the friend who thinks she needs to be r'd to lower her standards 😑

[@dandotvid]

Story 1: OP should NOT have been the one to answer the door to the guy. What the heck are the other people there for if not to ensure SHE is safe???

[@theprotagonist9384]

My reaction exactly, why would the person in danger be the one talking to these strangers AND alone, that was an L moment for her brothers.

[@MGP2210]

​@@theprotagonist9384 OP is also at fault for answering the door alone.

[@helixxia9320]

Im guessing she thought the stranger would have just ran if a man opened the door or they saw she was with a guy and she wanted the stranger to recognize her right away so she could ask him and get him to believe her to help with the situation. the family members should have stayed more close by though and she should have kept some distance and been more careful since it was a stranger and she didnt take precaution enough

[@veezopolis]

Bunch of useless people around op

[@spicymayo8950]

The CNC part of this story can hopefully be used against Olivia. They have receipts and unfortunately video evidence to prove it. It shows that Olivia wanted these men to hurt OP, which is a HUGE escalation from the identity theft. I hope OP is safe, and I’m glad that they have evidence for all of this. Hopefully the violent guy can be caught too.

[@SidereusOfTheFallen]

She could actually be charged and tried for r*pe, proper. There's some precedents for it.

[@immortalsofar5314]

The thing about that is that nobody consents to being hit in the face. That guy deserves everything that's coming to him.

[@themayhemofmadness7038]

It can in a lot of countries. Conspiracy to commit assault and conspiracy to commit rape. Inciting violence against another person. Inciting sexual assault. Not sure if those are all the proper legal terms, but it would essentially be the same idea.

[@pippo17173]

@@immortalsofar5314 the fact that she tricked someone to think op is consenting to getting punch is horrifying.

[@flarewolf]

​@@immortalsofar5314plus the first rule of any kind of kink play is never do anything that can cause permanent harm. And you definitely don't do any kind of hitting within minutes of your first in person meeting.

[@Kirby-zp6cg]

Story 1: what OP is looking for isn’t even much. Wanting someone to like dogs cause you yourself have three dogs makes perfect sense. The “friend” sounds salty and childish.

[@immapotato1]

considering she was already months into her attempt at taking over OP's life that is not even a blip in the insanity of this situation

[@kaykay8855]

Not childish, insane

[@Azulakayes]

Psychotic.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Salty? She's a criminal

[@misfit1395]

Yeah. Sounds perfectly reasonable

[@Nyanx4]

That freak who attacked poor OP because someone else catfished him with her photo needs to be behind bars. What a creep! And that "friend" too. More like a stalker. She's a monster who deserves little sympathy. She could have gotten OP killed if she was sending unstable freaks to her door like the one that attacked her.

[@Vida7354]

As if she cared , maybe even this is what she hoped for since she wanted to literaly replace OP with herself

[@magiv4205]

I don't even want to think about what would have happened if OP didn't have backup that night. Olivia is literally trying to get rid of her, holy shit.

[@Azulakayes]

She is an monster indeed.

[@joshuapierce3085]

I don't think he attacked her because of being catfished, I think the "friend" was breaking so badly, especially with OP and her brother and his friends being onto her, that she was trying to get OP to back off and because of it branched into "r*** fantasy" territory. To that degree, he possibly didn't know or care about the sign on the door asking for info because you don't exactly start up a conversation before doing something like that to someone. But if I'm right, then that makes Nyanx4's statement about him belong behind bars even more true. Edit: I made that comment before the update so didn't know but was fearing I was right on that front.

[@sidhedanu]

Exactly. Even with CNC you wouldn't be asking to be physically damaged.

[@tephrafalls6321]

"Olivia" needs psychiatric help. There's this old case about a 15-year-old girl (Rachel Barber), murdered by her former neighbor and babysitter, Caroline Reed. Whilst in prison, Caroline completely changed her appearance to match Rachel's. In her diaries she also described how much she wanted to BE Rachel. Sickening. People like that are dangerous.

[@Azulakayes]

Gosh...wtf!

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

God I remember the Rachel Barber case, the police failed her from the beginning

[@kyuuchat]

@@browhattheactualfu-2659 Police just generally suck and rarely does it seem like they properly do their jobs. If they did, then what happened to Jaycee Dugard wouldn't have happened to the extent that it did.

[@mygrandma3041]

I remember the chase. She thought she can be Rachel and stole her life.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

What mental illness did Caroline have?

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Story 2: Why do I get the feeling that this guy is trying really hard to skew the details in his favor? Like, the fact that the coworker he kissed was the one to tell his wife about indicates that even if he regretted it, he still wanted to keep it secret from her and not own up to his actions.

[@gerble36]

Also trying to pass off responsibility for it too. " Sure, I know what I did was technically wrong... but my wife was cold, or this and this happened that pushed me to feel needed blah blah blah and I couldn't help myself!". Wasn't a small mistake at all, theres some huge red flags that point to much more going on here then the little cherry picked tidbits of info he gave out.

[@coreymartin6486]

Hes tried to cover and trivialize his cheating as a "small mistake". You could tell he really didnt want mention the specifics untill somebody directly asked him. Then he trows his ex under the bus for "poisoning" his relationship with his parents? Im willing to guess it was because she told his parents about the reason for the divorce. And I doubt that kiss was half a second(which even that is too much) I dont trust this dude

[@coreymartin6486]

@@gerble36 sounds like the reasoning used in many cheating stories. That type of gaslighting.....

[@AndyyWithAY]

Yeah this story got terrifying. I hope she can go to jail for this, but the burden of proof for some crimes is so high even though a fool can use circumstantial evidence to determine the person is guilty. That nonconsent part was the scariest for sure. Someone could have violated OP and thought she liked it. This woman is sick and needs to be put under the jail

[@Objective-Observer]

I'm hearing the probablity the friend is schizoprhenic. That generally manifests in their 20's.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

The "consensual non consent" stuff on the dating sites drops the "burden of proof" exponentially. It shows not only intent to harm but pure malice. And possibly added charges in aiding in a crime.

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@alexanderhenby1362 thanks for the info

[@Russman67]

There are levels of terrifying things going on in this story. The catfishing, sending multiple men to the house. Olivia trying to become OP. The assault. Holy cow!

[@RuminatingRaptor]

That’s happened before. A few women have been raped because of ads placed by other people. It’s absolutely disgusting.

[@crem-crem4070]

I don’t understand why that guy attacked her for being catfished AFTER being told he was being catfished. Makes me think that he was HIRED to attack her

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

I mean. The kind of person that goes to random homes for s*x is probably also the kind of guy that solves everything with violence the moment he doesn't get his way.

[@annienunyabiz6627]

I think he was a predator hunting CNC people so he'd have plausible deniability if they filed charges.

[@brianaschmidt910]

It states that Olivia told dude that op was cheating on her bf so she had to make it look convincing. (They think that's why he still ignored the sign).

[@pippo17173]

@Briana Schmidt yikes mans, like I get going threw emotions of getting cheating on but that is just nuclear.

[@amandasunshine2]

​@@brianaschmidt910 someone in the comments who's familiar with the BDSM community and CNC said that assault is a huge no no and not part of the fantasy. They speculate he was looking for people who mentioned CNC to have plausible deniability to just assault someone.

[@michamocha]

Story 1: After everything Op revealed about this lunatic, I'm starting to think her asking for Op's preferences were never for the dating sites but for her to take as well. From the sounds of it, she can't keep up with them herself so she probably shamed Op for her "unreasonable" standards and try to convince her to accept ones that she _can_ keep up with. I could be looking too deep into it but after everything we've read, this conversation just feels sinister.

[@coreymartin6486]

Thats what I was thinking as well. She was trying to get more info from OP for her own sake. OP suggested that her friend was slutty(penis and a pulse)....so it may boil down to the friend having a crazy need for validation from guys that she can't fulfill on her own.

[@bpw102896]

You know even if it was consensual non-consensual why the hell would you Hit somebody that hard like that's that. That's too much

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

And why not confirm before you start swinging? Guys a total idiot and he deserves whatever punishment he gets 🤦🏿‍♀️

[@bpw102896]

@@browhattheactualfu-2659I think it's something with that particular kink maybe

[@bpw102896]

@@browhattheactualfu-2659 another thing they have a house full of men and they have her answer the door

[@imdone9967]

Right! I hope she doesn’t back off on the charges.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

@@bpw102896 The house full of men is such a good point. Also like why you would let the person that could have a hit on them answer the door unattended?

[@luciferandassociates9255]

That dude who attacked her, needs to be in jail.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Story 1: The only standard should be compatibility?! Literally everything OP listed is what would make someone compatible with OP. None of it was unreasonable at all.

[@maddydavidsdottir9862]

My fiance and I literally shouted this at the screen 😂

[@tfrtrouble]

I disagree. I mean the friend is obviously a psychopath, but insisting on someone with a clear goal for what they want to do with their life seems a pretty childish/judgmental "standard" and I would not respect someone who had that as a deal-breaker. Some people have a vocation/calling, but not all do, and you can be a responsible hard-working person who makes a valuable contribution to society and would make a reliable partner without having a ten-year plan for your life. Maybe that is a compatibility question for you, but I don't feel like this is a question of fundamental character. Some people are really driven to make it to the top of their careers but then change their mind and realise they have other priorities when life circumstances change. Some people just don't know what they want to do with their life and then suddenly find their calling much later in life and become very goal-driven. This woman in no way deserved the illegal harassment and doxing but she does sound like a bit of a self-righteous jerk who thinks she's better than everyone else.

[@RenaDeles]

​@@tfrtroublemy dude the amount of projecting here. She wants a person at a certain place in life for her to date, and that is her choice. That wouldn't be on my personal list but that doesn't make her a snob for having a preference. It's getting someone with similar energy to her, much like the gym thing.

[@mandamakes.c]

Didn't accidentally kiss a co worker. You kissed your co worker and regretted it, that is also not something small

[@thebirdchannelforfans623]

I wonder if the OP was actually the one cheating and doesn’t want to admit it. I mean, it sounds like Ellie could have been cheating but could have also just moved on quickly as some people do

[@bloblovlalalulu3422]

Yea felt a little weird that he emphasised heavily on what she & went "whoops I kissed someone accidentally! Silly me!! "

[@bautistalover]

Kiss compared to the admitted emotional affair, the kiss pales in comparison. She kicked him out immediately she was already done with the relationship and wanted a quick out without taking blame. The kiss was her ticket out.

[@ksbs2829]

Emotional affair vs a regretted kiss? They don't compare. OP's ex was likely deep into her emotional affair and probably physical and that's why OP felt checked out of the relationship. The fact that the AP moved in and had a kid in just MONTHs after the split tells the story that the EX and AF had started the affair long before the break.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

That second story I'm not touching with a ten foot pole. It really sounds like A LOT of info was left out. It would be interesting to hear everyone else's side on this.

[@khaleesireyna731]

I will! OP is definitely trickle truthing and he sounds like a miserable ah. By the end of the story, I was just like "dude, hope they choose the ex over you because you sound obnoxious". Anyone who can find a million ways to minimize and justify their actions ("I was working long hours", "we were in a rough spot", "I felt appreciated at work") while crucifying their ex for moving on is not anyone worth having around (possible emotional affair isn't OK, but considering that OP lied and left out stuff, how do we know that his "emotional affair" accusation was just him covering for cheating himself?). I would bet money that the dude cheated (probably more than just a kiss at that party) and is butthurt that his ex didn't take him back and ended up moving on with the best friend and having a kid. Salty bish can stay home.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 1 - That “friend” is completely fucking unhinged. I’m also horrified that a man assaulted OP in the name of kink, it should have been confirmed first that the person still consented to CNC (which I am aware is a controversial kink) when meeting in person. I’d also be pressing charges against him because that was not okay.

[@brianaschmidt910]

As someone who has that kink, even my fiance did that when we finally met in person. And I was the one to go fly over to him! (Even if he believed op he still should've made sure that she could've signaled him that she was ok with it and if she didn't signal somehow, then that should have been the end of it.)

[@universal5313]

That man was stupid how did he ignore all the red flags and the "I'm cheating on my boyfriend" excuse honestly she should press charges on him too

[@gabrielgardner9844]

To top it off this story is actually a plot from a Law & Order episode, it's crazy!!!

[@ElleriaZer]

​@@gabrielgardner9844 yeah I noticed it was close but not quite the general plot of a law and order svu episode. The thing is, a lot of those episodes are already loosely based on real cases.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

@@brianaschmidt910 For real! Like no conversation about safe words or safe gestures? That man puts kink in a bad light and endangers anyone he plays with.

[@jameshutchinson2817]

I saw a story like this on a true crime show, some crazy lady was mad a couple bought her dream house so she watched them and found out when the husband was out for work, then created an account as the woman and told men she leaves the door open and has a r*pe fantasy and really wants to be surprised at home. The bish didn't go to jail and still lives in their development

[@kp2223]

I saw this one. her justification to the cops was that she thought it would make them move

[@vickiclarke8788]

This was a tv plot line on an episode of The Closer.

[@jameshutchinson2817]

The lady was absolutely insane, she sent dick pics to the husband's coworkers saying it was from him, she didn't go to jail because she had a handicap child and no one else to look after her. Attempting to get someone sexual assaulted should warrent 5 to 10 years in prison

[@paulagoeringer9466]

That's insane. It's basically conspiracy to commit sexual assault and possibly murder. How tf did she get away with that? I hope she gets a massive slap of karma.

[@Swimfishy1]

Her name was Kathy Rowe! She did it to a couple in San Diego because they outbid her on the house she wanted.

[@lunahix4815]

Story 1: Who needs enemies with people like OP's "friend", Olivia?

[@thomasjoseph5876]

All of that and no real ending??? That sucks

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

That first post is straight out of a Lifetime movie.

[@Azulakayes]

It happens in real life when vindictive Karens have time on their hands.

[@kp2223]

Legit my first thought was this has already been a lifetime movie

[@juliemcgugan1244]

Pretty sure they'll get the rights to this pretty soon. LOL! It is absolutely insane!

[@shuinoh]

Last story: Hell No. ESH. They moved hella fast and you don’t “accidentally” kiss someone unless your eyes are closed and you tripped on a slippery tortoise.

[@drako8343]

ESH sure. But OPs infraction is minor by comparison.

[@ChrisMr666]

@@drako8343 not to mention the ex was having a full blown emotional affair with his friend

[@philwill0123]

Nah. Definitely ESH. oP was properly downplaying his incident

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Wait. Poor turtle 🐢😭

[@alexanderhenby1362]

I dont know, the coworker imedently contacted the wife afterwards and friend moved into his house after a "few months" and now "miracle baby" I think wifey was doing more than just emotionally cheating. I think she was prego

[@jackchop1576]

OP in story 1 is better than me because Olivia would be found in a dumpster if I were her. Edit: Her lowlife sister would be too.

[@khaleesireyna731]

The sister is even worse imo. I've dealt with unhinged and (actually) psychotic behavior from family members. It's scary but you also still feel a twinge bad for them because you know they're not OK. But the sister? She's got no excuse and she seems to think that OP deserves it. I love my sister and she's honestly one of my best friends, but I would never cover for her on something like this. My sister and I have a rule of sorts: when you're 100% in the right, I've 100% got your back. When you're 100% in the wrong, I'm gonna tell you you're wrong and I'm not backing you up on it. Idk where people got the idea that ride-or-die/being loyal means just being a yes man and enabling bad behavior. Being loyal means standing up for your loved one but it also means telling them honestly when they're wrong.

[@Araraki-Itto1]

Wow just, wow. No words. OP is lucky to have such a strong support group. Hot damn that friend is psycho and that's putting it lightly. Be sure to have people in your corner and Protect yourselves people.

[@carolsh1983]

“One little mistake”. Yeah. Hope everyone is having a good day!

[@TsukiKageTora]

Half a second of kissing while drunk can be a mistake

[@coreymartin6486]

@@TsukiKageTora no, it was a choice to get drunk. You dont get to play off the results after that. Go tell the families of people killed by a drunk driver that it was a "a little/big mistake"

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@coreymartin6486 it was a second of a kiss, not a murder. Stop making cases of the extreme to denounce the littlest of stuff. It’s pathetic.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@coreymartin6486 lol YT doesn’t like it cause it’s not even in the thread. And how is me having a different opinion than you classify me as wrong? To think that, you have such a big ego And I said murder because you said “tell that to the people who had someone killed by a drunk driver”. Sorry to use a different word and triggered you so bad

[@coreymartin6486]

@@TsukiKageTora you need help and you definitely sound no better than OP. I can only hope that no woman I personally knows ever gets imvolved with somebody like you.

[@aentn]

Story 1: I think OP's friend is Jealous of OP and wants to be her atleast somewhat since no sane friend would go this far to "find their friend a partner"

[@addicted2mako]

Oh, Lord, this is turning into an IRL version of 'Single White Female' (Hearing latest update) What a relief, and I hope you heal soon, OP

[@AndyyWithAY]

What does the friend consider "compatibility" if not that? 🤔🤦🏾‍♀️ All of that sounds like compatibility (because it is, she's just not very smart). Anything less than that is just being desperate WTF.

[@thebladeofchaos]

given how the tale goes, I imagine it's less that OP has standards the lass doesn't think is realistic and more 'how do I copy her if she has a boyfriend? I can't have him mimic him'

[@pippo17173]

@@thebladeofchaos This women is basically a horror movie villain about a stalker trying to copy a life she wanted.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "You're asking for too much" God forbid people have standards past "Does this person treat me like shit? No? Perfect." "Compatibility is what matters" what is this if not compatibility?

[@hilaryc3203]

Just another reason why I never post photos of myself online and keep my social media securities up to date. People are bonkers.

[@maggpiprime954]

Holy smokes! 😱🤯 Glad you finished up with a "lighter" story. Which, my verdict is everyone majorly sucks. Clueless boomers, emotional/physical affairs, "accidental" kissing, glossing over details to push a favourable narrative... What a bunch of creeps. I feel sorry for that baby.

[@drako8343]

One kiss while drunk does not offset marrying and having a baby with the best friend within months and parents choosing to embrace the ex in laws new family as their family

[@robertx8020]

I still feel the wife sucks more ..1 kiss versus cheating for a longer time with a BEST friend of your partner ...

[@ndawn90]

​@@drako8343 They've been married for 3 years and he said the divorce was finalized 4 years prior, and the baby is 1 year old. Meaning that the baby wasn't conceived until at least 2 full years after the divorce, and at least a year after the ex remarried. Also, he says they moved in together shortly after the divorce, but divorces can take anywhere from several months to several years, especially if the one partner is digging in their heels. So it's possible that they moved in together a few months after the divorce was finalized, but several months after they separated and the divorce process started. Also, it's actually possible that they just moved in together really fast and there was no affair, emotional or otherwise. OP is really twisting his side of the story (obviously) so I don't know why anyone would just automatically assume he's correct about the emotional affair, when he's done nothing to prove it actually happened except provide a shady timeline that's obviously truncated to make his story look better. Maybe they did, maybe they didn't, but the baby wasn't conceived until at least a year after the ex and the friend got married, and at least 2 years after the divorce.

[@hendider876.4]

​@@drako8343 Yeah but since OP was hiding that fact I dont trust him to telling to whole truth. Feels like trickle truthing

[@pinklemonade8320]

​@@ndawn90 Exactly. OP actually physically cheated during their marriage. His wife at absolute worst had an "emotional affair" which is basically just thoughtcrime. Sounds like neither of these people wanted to be with each other so I don't feel bad that their marriage ended.

[@DarlingAshes]

JESUS! That first story is horrifying!! I feel so awful for OP.

[@AndyyWithAY]

It's pretty terrifying the lengths some men will go to to get their rocks off. 14 men in one night?? This reminds me of that episode of A Current Affair where the vengeful neighbor made sex ads for a couple and men were showing up all times of night/day. Banging on the door, calling.

[@Azulakayes]

That crazy sadistic neighbor is called Kathy Rowe. The thing that pisses me off to the ends of the earth is that she got away with it. No jail time, no fines, no remorse.

[@AndyyWithAY]

@MrsAzlChang oh no I guess there was another one. This one was a man. His name was Dipjit, not sure if I spelled that right.

[@OtisFlint]

Why is that terrifying? Ugly girls get 1000 likes in a weekend, it's easy to chat with some of the guys and get them to come hang out.

[@MrAlwaysOnTen]

It’s terrifying to you cuz you’re a woman, men don’t fear the same random one off encounters that women do

[@AndyyWithAY]

@MrAlwaysOnTen Why would I speak for men when I'm a woman and why would you belittle the fact that women have to be terrified of men who might try to harm us? 🤡🤦🏾‍♀️

[@GBunnyG]

I just heard a story a couple of days ago, where a woman was so angry that another couple bought a house she wanted that she went to great lengths to basically ruin their lives, including putting the wife's picture up on websites and saying she was a s** worker and liked when guys showed up unannounced and...took...from her. This "best friend" needs a restraining order and metal bracelets.

[@tacobelle6680]

I know of this story too, and the perp woman only got a slap on the wrist because she was the only caretaker to her adult daughter who has intense special needs. Its so infuriating how that sicko woman got away with it and I'm scared that this Olivia person in this story could get away with it as well.

[@GBunnyG]

@@tacobelle6680 I almost lost my mind when they interviewed that awful woman in the news story I heard. Like, no. She should be behind bars.

[@moonlightshadowpony]

This entire thing is crazy and I'm seriously wondering about the "Friend" and her end goal. Like did she just expect OP to dissapear and no one would notice a completely different person showing up in her exact place? I'm baffled.

[@queen_of_flatulence]

As someone who was bullied for deciding not to date until 22 I hate shit like this. Like, My twin sister still chooses not to date and other than some joking banter I respect that.

[@vhirsch4270]

other than some joking banter????

[@queen_of_flatulence]

@@vhirsch4270 yeah, I'll jokingly tell her to get a boyfriend from time to time lol

[@ksbs2829]

Story #1: Wow that's nightmare fuel. The PTSD from that situation is going to haunt OP for too many years. I don't think there was anything she could have done to protect herself from someone having a full mental breakdown. Hope the ex-friend gets help AND significant punishment. She knew at some level what she was doing was very wrong

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

Story 1: That's not a friend, that's a cancer. Cut that thing out!

[@HaleyJo1992]

That's fucking terrifying! What the hell is up with this "friend?"

[@HawkTHSS2893]

Geez that one crazy unstable 'friend'

[@QwerpOS]

OP from Story 1 could've end up with TMD due to what happened with her jaw, which is gonna be a massive source of insecurity for her and cause major pain and other problems, such as speech impairment, tinnitus, poor bite, etc. Hope she has a safe recovery because what happened to her is absolutely mad. Plus, that "friend" of hers needs serious jail time because she is nuts.

[@paperkay]

That's the definition of yandere: an obsessive stalker who would murder their interest's whole family to prove their love and devotion.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

It should be a law that you specifically can't make a dating profile or anything similar for another person. In cases like this where it puts the person in danger, it absolutely should have jail time and an automatic restraining order and no internet and/or social media for the offender for at least a few years and mandatory psych evaluation and classes on how not to be such a psychopath. Boot camp maybe. Some sort of serious punishment.

[@Goldenxbih]

Story 2: all sympathy fell out the window LMAOAOA

[@july_paradox3094]

Fr. My initial reaction after the revelation was "he is so full of shit" 😂😂😂

[@MaryTheresa1986]

​@@july_paradox3094 Right?! He's just mad that Ellie moved on and didn't his cheating ass.

[@niyanna]

For me it was ESH especially since his hex and ex friend moved in together after a few months and had a "miracle baby". She was probably cheating a little more than emotionally.

[@melissawitt3773]

@@niyanna they did not have a “too quick” baby. They have been married for three years but the baby is only a year old. Op and she divorced four years ago. He said miracle baby saying she apparently wasn’t too old to have a baby.

[@niyanna]

@@melissawitt3773 Ahh, I must've missed that part. I do remember them moving in together after a few months though.

[@shebakoby]

story 1 OP absolutely MUST press charges against the man who hit her. Doesn't matter what happened, dude must not attack random stranger.

[@LOLtz1]

That friend was crazy, it scarier how it's always the people closest to you.

[@AIBot929]

S1: That's giving "the roommate" vibes right there, absolute insanity 😬. I hope the poor op is going to be ok, and i hope for the safety of anyone who moves into that apartment. That lunatic is sending dangerous men to that house, who apparently punch first ask questions later

[@suestaley844]

This isn't a friend. This is identity theft. Report it as such. Block her everywhere.

[@FanFicnic]

Those are like basic standards for a healthy relationship. That friend is a child.

[@xxKillgorxx]

The sister to the catfisher needs to be charged as well. Not just given a slap on the wrist for giving false information to police.

[@artygirl66]

No matter how much I love my family, I would never condone this kind of batshit craziness. Glad the crazy is in police custody tho and I really hope op lives a safe and amazing life from now on

[@Spamnatv]

Story 1 went from retaliating to a “friends” bs comment about her dating standards (which aren’t even that hard to comply with) to Olivia almost wanting to become her?! That took a terrifying turn!

[@gigga143]

S1: That is one of the most insane stories ever, that was like a Lifetime movie of the week. i hope she presses charges against the guy who attacked her, even if Olivia did lie to him that still doesn’t excuse him assaulting OP. i’m honestly surprised on the mom though, my mom would never send pictures of me to some friend of mine she didn’t know herself personally and very well. what a crazy story.

[@wildridegaming874]

She made a mistake putting the sign up, when that 1st person came along they likely took a photo and messaged her about it, so the next guy she told about the catfish and for the essentially rape fantasy story. Glad she got arrested and hopefully the law can put her away on multiple charges for quite some time. This is absolutely scary I hope OP can move past this and never sees this woman again, but she sounds crazy and will most likely stalk her after being released from prison no matter where she goes and likely try to become her again. OP you are likely going to be wondering why she did this. Ill give you some advice, let it go, she isnt going to come clean on that front and use that as a measure to keep you in her life, something you definitely do not want.

[@aquaria13-notsoprogamer84]

Story 1. Omg… this story is just… unbelievable… who would actually do this? Even to someone they despise?.. I just can’t even.

[@cmsxcb]

Story 1: This is pretty much a straight lift from an episode of "The Closer". Story 2: Hey man, it's a damned garden party - your attendance is not compulsory. Stop using it as a 'them or me' ultimatum and just don't go! You're going down a rabbit hole, so stop digging.

[@thebirdchannelforfans623]

1st story also sounds like the movie Single White Woman.

[@leshyaedawnfire]

Jeez Louize this is some Perfect Blue levels of crazy stalker! For those who don't know, Perfect Blue is a Japanese animated movie about a former Idol singer turned actress who, on top of the usual struggles associated with those careers, also discovers that she has some very dangerous stalkers, one of whom has a full-blown psychotic breakdown and tries to literally kill and replace her. It's pretty scary.

[@Graves933]

*edit OH NO I KNEW IT THAT POOR OP 😭😭😭😭😭*Uh, did the friend send men over there to harm her?? Or was this just the run of the mill asshole? I've seen "jokes" of people hiring hardcore BDSM workers saying "I like it rough, it's all play, if I say no keep going" kinda thing. It never went too far from the 2 times I've seen it online, but it could go really bad really quick.

[@audreynothepburn7663]

I heard the first story a few times now, but never knew how she got free room Accommodations with her dogs. Now I know.

[@candiebarr6745]

Screw the element of "what if she was trying to help" .when she's sending complete strangers to OPs home, there's the element of "what if one or more of these men is a rapist "

[@browniewin4121]

1) Wow, as the saying goes, "with friends like that". OP NTA for her response. After update: That friend sounds like she has a mental health issue and it is crazy overstepping to have done this. next update: OMG, this is absolutely creepy and scary. I'm glad OP has an attorney, and should press charges. update: I'm glad OP got cameras installed and is not home, and won't be without a lot of backup. next update: It's too bad things didn't work out as OP was hoping. It's scary this former friend is so crazy and caused this problem. I'm glad OP and her dogs have a safe place to stay. After additional info: Absolutely horrifying. So sorry this happened to OP and that her attacker was arrested. This is scary. more info: This is an absolutely crazy, horrible thing to be happening. After update: It's so good crazy X friend was arrested. Not good the sister lied but is good the police gave her a warning. It's so sad OP was put through this and had he life turned upside down. I am glad she is doing better and able to get away from this situation. 2) OP does not have the right to tell his parents who to invite, but also OP has the right to nope out if the parents will disregard OP's feelings. However, one does not "accidentally" kiss someone. ESH.

[@sinakirainine1719]

I really need to know how that first story ends. That chick is a dangerous psycho and needs the max sentence

[@AnEnquiringMind]

😲 WOOOOOOOW! That first story is crazy! As for story 2, nah, you don't swoop in on your besties ex. That's just nasty. But yeah, kissing a co-worker is not cool, soooooooo..........

[@qnkendra1523]

In today's world especially the things the friend is sharing is not a friend action. I'm glad OP took it seriously I'm horrified by the number of men who came to their home.

[@gracehubbard282]

That was a lot. I'm glad that she's at least able to get legal help and she has a good support system behind her.

[@oodiedude]

Story 1: I'm sitting here like "you can use my picture to catch her if you want" 😅

[@blissfulmountain]

Funny how the guy cheating was a “small stupid mistake” but the wife starting dating the friend after she was already divorced is unacceptable 🙄

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 1: Well, I think we know who isn't getting a Christmas Card this year.

[@fufufuaru]

i'm gonna need more updates, that first story just left me hanging 😫

[@silverstarmoon5802]

The first story, I actually fear for op's life and safety because I heard and read this similar situations stories and worst case scenario that her copycat friend will actually take op's life as her own by ending op's life and impersonate as op as if she is op. While she did everything that I thought like going to the police, screenshots the evidences, getting lawyer and cameras. Those can be very helpful but seeing this situation and I heard like this one. Op really need some protections and possibly change her name and location and maybe her looks because her friend is really wanted to be op.

[@ksbs2829]

Story #2: Emotional affair vs a regretted kiss? They don't compare. OP's ex was likely deep into her emotional affair and probably physical and that's why OP felt checked out of the relationship. The fact that the AP moved in and had a kid in just MONTHs after the split tells the story that the EX and AF had started the affair long before the break.

[@july_paradox3094]

The second story: he is still YTA before the revelation. Afterward, i was dying laughing 😂

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

This situation is a nightmare; a friend betrays you, tries to steal your identity and turn herself into you, while actively sending strange men to your door, leading to a literal assault that might've turned into r*pe if her brother and friends hadn't been there.

[@Lugialuvr]

Story 1: I can't believe that CNC is equivalent to 'beat the shit out of your partner' There's kinky and then there's just being insane Also OP should not have been the one to answer the door at that moment. I feel so bad for her :(

[@romonaelrod7870]

Good morning, afternoon, evening, night to all of you cheeky Waffle loving so and so's. Hiya Mark and Poppy.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

I'm just glad Olivia was arrested because darn, with friends like that who needs enemies. Scary to know people can do that, and I'd be moving, too, if this were me.

[@thatdellgirl14]

Has anyone seen SWF. This is what story one reminds me of. Made me rethink life again

[@bernieheartdragon1888]

Why don't they or the police, catfish the catfish?

[@jenniferhanses]

Story 2: ESH. No, you don't get to make demands over who other people invite to their parties. Also you did kiss your coworker, that's not a little mistake. On the other hand, your wife divorced you and moved your best friend in. It's no surprise you would feel betrayed. And while your parents can invite who they want, they should have given some thought to you. On the other hand, you seem to have said that you didn't get on with your parents anyway, so maybe I shouldn't be surprised that they'd pick their friends and the baby over you. But no, you shouldn't have given an ultimatum. You' should have just not attended.

[@saratronus]

I beg of you look at the post OP legit continued a relationship with the person he kissed and that person. He kissed was the daughter of a family friend. O p added so much context after he's it's horrible the comments section is amazingly entertaining. It's horribly entertaining I'll link you

[@saratronus]

Like the op's main reason for interacting with this. Coworker was because his wife wasn't giving him attention. The wife had a medical condition.

[@princesssunshine874]

girl, you need a lawyer. Send a cease and desist. Normally that is enough to stop the nonsense.

[@Cheri8795]

Hi Mark, hope all is well. That story was so crazy! I was thinking at one point what if the "friend" had acted like she wanted to do the R_p_ fantasy scenario(I'd seen a show before about that happening)and OP had no idea. Then to find out that is actually what those guys were being told!! All those guys showing up in one day is so disgusting! To think there are that many guys so close to OP that want to attack a women and force her. That is so frickin scary!! I would never feel safe after all OP went through. I feel so bad that she has had all that happen. I hope she stays safe. On a lighter note, I hope things are good for everybody reading this. Make sure your loved ones know how much you love them and make sure you take care of yourself. Have a great day/night to everybody! 🌸🌷🌸🌷🌸🌷🌸

[@redonyx5428]

s1 that final update is a nice-ish ending, for now. op should def file charges against that guy because he had a choice to be violent. s2 dude should just stay away if he's that pressed. parents are more concerned about their friendship and the ex's baby. yea he fucked up but it feels like the ex was already checked out and moved on with the ex best friend. I always give the side eye to people who move on to a new partner extremely fast. just tells me there were already roaming.

[@ezekial7028]

A tip I would've given for the making a fake profile to catch her is to get a good make up kit and change your appearance as much as possible or use a picture from one of those Ai face generators.

[@katrinawendel2647]

Dear Mark, I just want to let you know that I appreciate the backgrounds (wallpapers?) That you provide abd change with the seasons. They are very cool looking.

[@stevebanner5609]

Last story: you need to go no contact with your parents until they understand that you were more important than non-relatives no matter how long they’ve been friends with them. If they do not understand that then you don’t have parents.

[@teamthoth]

Story 1….. op is a better person than me.... I'd dispose of that friend myself

[@OmniscientlyMe]

1. Even in something as dark as CNC, I can't imaging causing permanent injury is ever allowed. Charges should definitely be filed. 'Olivia' is clearly experiencing some type of psychological break and should be placed in an involuntary psych hold until completing whatever treatment is deemed necessary.

[@trainerlesseevee478]

The first story is so nuts and why you always, always, ALWAYS have to be careful with everyone

[@meghanmckenzie5273]

Story 1: wow, poor OP. That's horrible.

[@Z_err]

Op needs to press charges whether the attacker knew or didn't.

[@sgtwhisker26]

The op is 20, and Her “friend” treats her like an 80-year-old spinster who will die alone The next day if she doesn’t find a man. The op just wants a decent human being as a partner

[@BurningheartofSILVER]

Story 2: OPs an ass for cheating on his wife, but I also agree that it seems like she was already cheating with his friend. They’re both AH and so are the parents.

[@coreymartin6486]

Do you really trust anything this dude says? He trivialized it as a "small mistake" and had to pressured to specify what happened. Then he throws his wife under the bus for "poisoning" his relationship with his parents. Im willing to guess that hes bitter she told them what happened. And do you honestly believe it was a half-second kiss? He seems to do his best to make his ex the bad guy and make the smallest of mentions of his cheating. I cant trust this dude and what he says as far as I could throw him

[@NightcoreNewbie]

1st story. That "friend" is absolutely disgusting. She's sending the men directly to OP's home. Is it possible that the "friend" might actually be "in love" with OP and wanted her for herself? Also, it's really nice on that nearby hotel to temporarily house OP during all of this.

[@destinedtogame]

This was just posted today. So glad to see Mark get to it so fast

[@eleethtahgra7182]

5:37 no. Its similar with misery loves company. Shes a carousel rider...thus she wants OP to be carousel rider too.

[@CarinaCoffee]

Story 1: but that is compatability?! You own dogs - you need someone that likes them too/isn't deadly allergic to them; you're into working out - a sentinel lifestyle person will clash with you, etc

[@fjnxtgdjsjeeh6073]

I've had a lot of ex friends and acquaintances who copied me (looks and interests, one even lied about being the same race as me...) I always found it annoying but I never realized it could have escalated if I didn't cut them off...

[@KisameOwnsYouAll]

Eight heckin' updates. My body is ready.

[@haraldjensen3935]

LOL, a penis and a pulse, so we'll said, loved it😂😂

[@catzamutter]

I had a “friend” who wanted to make a dating profile for me towards the end of our friendship. She was going crazy (thankfully not to the extent in this story…that I’m aware of at least) and I finally left the friendship and blocked her . Luckily she didn’t have enough of my personal info but I did always wonder if she went through with the profile. Honestly I think she wanted to just pretend to be me while talking to the guys online. But hearing this brought up lots of memories I had forgotten about. Thankful my situation didn’t go that far!

[@Sakuraqueen]

Bloody hell! My jaw is still on the floor at story 1!! That's a different league of crazy!

[@BraveryWing26]

The "Friend" from the first story is a nightmare lol.