My Husband Is Upset That I Called Him Out For Ruining Our Hawaii Honeymoon r/Relationships

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: I’m noticing a pattern with age gaps relationships, especially since op is 28. He wants a ‘mommy’ for his children. He doesn’t want anymore kids, which is his choice, but he doesn’t want a partner.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

He wants a mommy for his kids and a Bangmaid for himself but who won't try and argue with HIS decisions. Dude's like him, if he isn't cheating already, he will in the future. He doesn't see his "wife" as his equal, just someone to watch over the kids, keep house, and do what he says. Eventually, he will need a woman who won't put up with his BS and bangs him all the time. He won't want her as a wife, just a FWB.

[@NigraeLegiones]

That's more of a common pattern for single parents in general. Except when women go looking for a father they want it for themselves and their children with their expectations of support.

[@GaskyChan]

Imagine infantilising your own sister and only see her as her disability. Big oof

[@nineblackgoats]

"He never pulled his gun on me." I think Satan just stubbed his hoof on the bar.

[@CanyonALynn]

I usually say he trips over it... smh

[@CircusoftheMoon]

He is looking up at OP with a face of both disgust and pity.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Idk how we even got here! I was so confused by the entirety of point 2!

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

@@CircusoftheMoondudes like that one wasn’t me but I might hire him one day

[@krisCrashTV]

Because it came right after the part about BJs I first thought it was some euphemism

[@carlrood4457]

Think about it. This guy unraveled his entire web of lies and gaslighting over the very reasonable assumption that a one week honeymoon would just be with the married couple. Tragically, those kids will be seriously messed up with him for a father.

[@hilaryc3203]

#2 Unfortunately there are a lot, I mean A LOT, of people in this world who do not believe people with disabilities are sexual beings like the rest of us. It's harder for family, but there has been a lot of work done on this in health industries. So many people insist that disabled people aren't capable of making that decision, as if they are forever 6 years old. The brother needs a thorough education.

[@DominosAndHearts]

This 100% i was going to comment this exact same thing until I saw your comment

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

A comment that wasn't posted that elucidates a lot about hubby's behavior is that he's a cop.

[@idamay4590]

Omfg it all makes sense now fr

[@meiimacca4054]

It's always a fkn cop! Why why why do women get with cops still after knowing their reputation????

[@markanthony1004]

So par for the course m? Man some things never change

[@HarleysCompass]

🫡 thank you for your service! That gun comment gave me such whiplash I couldn't focus on the rest of the story because there was no explanation for it. The entire time I was like "but what prompted the gun comment!?" This makes a lot of sense now 😅

[@Bala_Niranna]

that age gap made my eyebrows raise so hard i think i gave myself wrinkles

[@ohboy-zi1yf]

and then every single note op added made the eyebrows rise even higher

[@OnomatopoeiaOlly]

She was 24 and he 38... OP had those red flags twerking in her face and just shimmied them off

[@Greenwren]

​​@@Shadow-zf5ucWhen they started dating they were 24 and 38. Maybe consider being nicer, cos at the moment you're super condescending and rude.

[@OnomatopoeiaOlly]

@@Shadow-zf5uc did you miss the part where she said they had been dating for 4 years by the time she stated their ages? Get your ears or even your eyes checked before you wanna go off with the attitude

[@OnomatopoeiaOlly]

@@Greenwren but apparently I'm the one who needs their eyes tested 😂

[@kountzanthony7021]

Not only he's a narcissist but he's also a liar. He don't care about his kids he only cares about himself.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

That's what I'm saying. If he really did care about his kids he would treat their stepmother properly instead of driving her away and forcing them to lose yet another mother that they loved and had a bond with. Of course he's not going to see it that way though of course he's going to blame it all on her. Oh my god, and then he decides to hurt his children further by basically blaming the breakup on them saying that she couldn't stand them and that's why she left. That is so sick. You're going to intentionally hurt your children just to win at whatever little game you're playing? That is disgusting. He's such a piece of s#!t

[@kountzanthony7021]

@@troubleinthevalley5884 he will have to live what he done to them children and he will also be alone for the rest of his life.

[@Shadow-zf5uc]

@@kountzanthony7021 hopefully but it's a lot easier to leave and break up with a partner then a parent.

[@kountzanthony7021]

@@Shadow-zf5uc that is so true.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

@@kountzanthony7021 well having to live with something insinuates that you actually feel bad about that thing or guilty. He may go on just fine. Sure he might be alone for the rest of his life but I mean he was able to pull that young lady by lying to her so that's not necessarily 100% inevitable.

[@holographicwing]

28 year old woman 42 year old man. She's the replacement mom doing all the childcare...do people just purposely seek out the worst possible red flag filled relationships?

[@BankruptMonkey]

Imagine being so hated by your family they try to prevent you having a life because they don't actually see you as a person. They don't love her, or they wouldn't treat her like trash just because her muscles are funky.

[@yusufsmith20]

Respectfully that’s not how I saw this. I would personally be pissed if a friend of mine I thought had a brotherly relationship with my disabled sister was having sex with her. It would feel like a weird power dynamic for me. That being said, we don’t know what her relationships look like with other ppl she’s met on her own. It wasn’t mentioned in the post. But again, there are just some things friends don’t do. Having sex with your sister is always one of them.

[@averlinbc5680]

@@yusufsmith20 that kind of works if they were still friends the second time op and sister are both growing adults The Family has a weird idea that sister can’t have a relationship with anyone because they think of her as less than capable of saying yes they are infantilising Her.😅

[@Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat]

The definition of a honeymoon is the newly married couple to celebrate being newly married. Its not suppose to be a family trip. It can be if its **discuss**, but it doesnt automatically mean if you have they are coming.

[@katrinasamuels-garrison825]

Story 1: He wants a mother for his kids, not a wife...

[@sgm8265]

And now he is mad he has to start all over, breaking in a new mom.

[@LovesGaming37]

​@sgm8265 and bet he will go younger

[@morganleanderblake678]

23:37 This comment is the gold comment. This is absolutely what her family is doing. Cerebral palsy rarely has a cognitive impairment. People can look impaired and still function fully in their minds. People can learn to type and write novels. What her family is doing is ab*se.

[@beata_maruda]

I've had a friend with CP, who had some trouble speaking... And 2 PhD's by the age of 30, one in biotech. I've became severly disabled at the age of 20, so my family didn't infantalize my, even my grandfather was always interested about my partners and doubted my choices. But I've seen much worse in case of people disabled from birth and in medical settings. I'm tetraplegic, with no intelectual impairment, and many times doctors asummed I can't speak for myself. After 20 years of this I know how to make myself heard and advocate for myself (I'm assertive, always hint about my work in publishing), but I know many people, who find it hard. (English is not my primary laungage, sorry for any mistakes.)

[@brparis5964]

Story 2 - Man, Mary is a grown woman with no mental issues that would keep her from being able to give consent. The family sucks.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

1- He doesn't want a wife! He wants a free nanny for HIS kids and an adult fun time buddy!

[@kelleynymph]

So many red flags in the main story…. She never went on a 1:1 date with him? It honestly seems like he doesn’t even like being with her as a person and only sees her as someone he needs to care for his children and the home. Big age gap- even though they are both adults, it is concerning. She assumed all the mother/ caretaker duties very quickly. She frequently gives him oral to satisfy his “high drive” because she “doesn’t like telling him no.” She mentioned at one point that she finishes herself off later-he doesn’t care about her pleasure. He lied to her about his willingness and ability to have more children. He manipulated her and used the children’s emotions to hurt her. Edit to add because somehow I missed this: she named him not pulling his gun on her as a positive?! The bar is SO LOW. Honestly, I think it’s best she is far away from this dude. Girl, you deserve SO MUCH BETTER.

[@EnDB]

He said, "...stupid baby." Ohmymuthafckinggawd that is horrid.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 1. Nta. "You will have your stupid baby" wow what can you say after that. She really got out of there in the nick of time.

[@gremlininblue2601]

Fr, absolutely swooning lmao

[@catsncrows]

S1 the last update, okay this speaks to the sheer amount of manipulation and conniving in my family but the bit with the kids going to their rooms crying could be rehearsed. Even so he's unhinged dirt.

[@sksunshine4860]

Cerebral Palsy (CP) is a spectrum somewhat like autism and while may incapacitate enough to require physical aids such as crutches or a wheelchair does not make the person incapacitated in other ways. My cousin has 6 kids, 4 of which have varying levels of CP of whom 3 are married with 2 kids each and one has just graduated high school. The youngest is the most affected physically but is exceptionally gifted academically and has learned ways to work with the CP. It would be one thing if Mary was developmentally and cognitively impaired and not able to make decisions but this is not the case and she is a grown woman who can do as she wishes.

[@francissobotka8725]

He's a cop too? She needs to be careful .

[@neru1584]

"i dont like to turn him down" dude you need to get a therapist girl wtf

[@alyzu4755]

This is very concerning. She's taking care of his kids AND him, and he's not only not taking ANY of her needs into consideration, he's demanding she take care of his all the time . And yes, he's controlling and guilt tripping her. Also, um .."He's never pulled his gun on me"?!?!? Update: Holy carp! This guy is a sociopath! OP's parents need to wake the eff up. Oh, and BIG surprise, he lied to his kids about OP. Those poor kids. He's going to screw them up.

[@sleepwalking3345]

Bro is a pig. I'm not surprised he's a sociopath

[@redonyx5428]

S1: he has no interest in being a parent. Hes the type of man thinks women are just to be used. Hes also a PO so now im worried hes going to use those resources to stalk her S2: marys family sucks. She isnt a child, shes an adult and knows what she wants. These people are ablest and infantilising.

[@Lillireify]

That age difference! This is gonna be fun!

[@streamerssaymyname]

27:00 there is a girl who has extreme dwarfism that makes her look like a child, but has been public about being in her 20s for some time. People think her dating is horrible because they only see her as someone who looks like a child and thus she should have no sex life "for her own good." I'm sorry, an adult is not going to be sexless just because you decided their activity makes you feel weird.

[@spriken]

Are you talking about that Indian lady? I think she got married, they look really happy together.

[@TopazFire15]

This reminds me of a story where OP’s boyfriend said he doesn’t like flat-chested women because they look like children to them. Like yikes, i can’t believe that’s what you think of when you see your partner, who you should see as the sum of all their parts, but okay.

[@waitwhat1029]

So she's the new mommy/wife appliance. Gotcha.

[@robert4657]

Op you elope with Mary. That's the response both you and Mary can really give the whole family the finger with.

[@HackiePuffs]

Obviously not OP’s responsibility to take care of his kids but I still feel bad for those 2 kids. I can only imagine what kind of feelings would be brought up on them once they find out who their dad really is. Hopefully it’ll be when they’re old enough to advocate and take care of themselves so they’re not stuck in the same house with him much longer. Good on OP for getting out of that mess but I still feel bad that those kids still have a long way to go. Hopefully they at least have other support networks they can turn to if worst case scenario comes up.

[@derpydragon1227]

Story 2 in the future from Jakes point of view will be fucking wild. "What did I do to deserve NC when I was trying to protect my disabled sister who is fully capable of doing things on her own from having a relationship with anyone????"

[@invadernav3422]

'He never pulled his gun on me' I'm sorry, WHERE did THAT comment come from??!

[@vortechx7176]

thank you i thought i missed something but that whole list was so bizarre and came straight out of left field

[@delilahbelle2125]

I've heard this story before. Dude is a cop.

[@aubreymorgan9763]

i was like...that escalated quickly! lol

[@videofan1010]

The first story told me everything and too much all at the same time.

[@acatnamedm4529]

Oh, wow, these two are not comparable to start with

[@TryniaMerin]

Well honeymoon doesn't automatically equal family vacation. At least he didn't invite his mother in law. I'd rather have step kids on a honeymoon though than a MIL if given the choice.

[@Shadow-zf5uc]

Still not a great idea to take kids on a honeymoon and I don't blame OP for leaving.

[@thatonearoace]

I’d rather find someone better

[@Sherwoody]

Even sex is only about him. He doesn’t love her.

[@dsm4462]

First story I’m so proud of op, I hope her ex finds the post. What a humongous asshat! His kids will find out the truth someday and realize what an awful father he was and how his selfishness chased away their mother figure.

[@samr8005]

I can't wait to find out what happens!

[@GellaHumbug59]

Bang nanny is a thing?! I hadn’t really thought of that as a main reason for age gap relationships. Poor OP! She is naïve and does not know her worth.

[@Kzinix]

Story 1: way to traumatise your kids to get back at their beloved stepmum! 😨 What a POS. I feel so sorry for the children. I hope they learn the truth (or a simple version of it) so that they understand they were not abandoned or loved any less.

[@OD1261]

Only three minutes in, story 1 got me like "yeah, I'm noticing some issues here, very concerning- wait, WTF are these updates?!?!"

[@corrinaallman4338]

I feel for Mary. 😢 I have bipolar disorder (diagnosed when I was 32), now after many years of intense therapy I now I'm off all meds for 3 years still get family members asking if I need to go back on meds when I have a normal anger response to a situation. It is frustrating.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 1. To me the age difference isn't as much of a problem. Obviously, we only hear about the bad relationships which have large age differences. My MIL married her 2nd husband when he was 30 and she was 42. They are still very much happily married at ages 88 and 76. My sister is 35 and her wife is 46. Again, they are very happily married for the last 10 years. Of course no one is going to go onto Reddit and say, "I have been happily married to my SO who is 12 years older than me. We love each other, respect each other, and have a wonderful marriage. Should we get divorced?" Lol However, the biggest issue in OPs relationship is that she is with a man who doesn't truly love her. He simply needs a wife to cate for and raise his children as hiring a nanny will cost him money. He has gaslit OP, lied to her, and has no respect for her. I am glad she walked away because she is young and can still fall in love and have the family she wants and deserves.

[@trillionbones89]

I'm amazed how these people live in such toxic relationships completely unaware of it - but they know of this reddit subreddit...? How

[@nightmare_jeanie]

OP in story one should send the Reddit post to everyone in his family and to her parents.

[@dharma6481]

Story 1. Bang maid/nanny. Run, run, run!

[@crichtonbruce4329]

Story 2... Dear OP. Your story sounds romantic as all get out. 20 years later you re-connect with Mary immediately and deeply as if no time has passed. Why are you not pursuing this relationship further, as a true potential couple?

[@timbit8670]

That first story at first glance I wasn’t to worried about the age gap because OP indicated she pursued him but then she stated I do all child care and never had one on one time except for sexy time made me scream run away as fast as you can

[@heymikey4025]

Story01: if it wasn’t such a total cluster**** situation OP could have somewhat channeled BBC Sherlock and just started calling the honeymoon a sex holiday…and she could have told her partner ”you want to take the kids on a/our sex holiday!?”

[@lucariomew365]

*Story 1:* If I remember correctly, after emotionally damaging his kids by telling them that OP (the original poster) hates them, the daughter called OP a couple of weeks later. The dad already has a new girlfriend and is parading her around, claiming that he's so much happier now. The new girlfriend is a young single mom who likely doesn't want more kids. However, the dad was shocked when his two kids lashed out and rejected the idea of a new girlfriend and a potential step-mom. The step-daughter says he wasn't cheating, despite the dad and the new girlfriend being so close just 2-3 weeks after OP left him. Both the step-daughter and OP think he definitely was cheating, which was a suspicion OP had initially, especially after commenters suggested she ask if he had a vasectomy, which he also had. The step-daughter is angry at the world and needs serious therapy. Her sibling is just sad and moody. The step-daughter felt OP abandoned them too but is mostly just mad at the dad. She wanted to keep in contact with OP because she feels alone and OP was the only one she could talk to. OP really wanted to say no for her own sanity and to make a clean break, but she said yes as a reflex to the step-daughter. OP already knows she needs therapy and wants to cut off the whole family but feels too much guilt. Additionally, the ex-husband (more like ex-fiancé) is a cop, and sadly, his behavior is typical for a lot of middle-aged bad cops. Cops, surgeons, military personnel, and business executives historically have exceptionally high rates of divorce due to infidelity and/or spousal abuse on their part. It wasnt added to BORU (either one) yet and then op her account like a couple of weeks ago. So that update might either be lost (Unless someoke with roo much free time knows the exact title or uses a search tool), and rheirnlikely wont be more. [Edit:] found it.

[@rainbowunicorn2707]

Bro that story about Mary is extra wild because every time they slept together she was a consenting adult. Like that wasn't even a thing where they were sleeping together as teens, they were both college age. I feel so bad that Mary's family will never see her as an adult that can make these decisions for herself

[@angeliqueSeidlitz2388]

I'm 29 and my husband is 44, he isn't controlling, he respects me and loves the family, helping with children and house chores and brings home most of the $, as for sex and date night we do both, if he wants sex and i dont its nothing is on the tavble and vis versa unless one of us wants to get the other off but not have full blown intercouse. As for date nights, yes we take them just ourselves but its very little we get to due to work (his job and mine) and kids. We share the chores and kids, not equally all the time but its what relationships are give and take. Op needs to run

[@MaxPower-js1sk]

It looks like Markee converted his shower into a studio. Respect mate. 😁👍

[@petitmains]

Op1... BB run. You're not meant to be a bang nanny maid. Nobody is except statistically like four or five people who are super genuinely in that

[@Marstic666]

Hey also why are her parents OK with this?? Don't give me that 'she's an adult' crap. And her list of "good traits"... Omfg...

[@maiab.4894]

The parents are toxic, so they want her daughter to be with a spouse who is toxic. If OP had a healthy and loving spouse then she wouldn't be as easy to manipulate because she'd have a healthy self esteem. They'd rather she be treated like dirt so she's easier to trick and control, the parents included.

[@pinkgoblin5815]

Ugh. When are young women going to stop letting their heart rule over their brain? Hes 42 and she’s 28…. But I love him!! Love is not enough and will never be enough of a reason to be with someone. He has already lived his life. He just wants a live in nanny who gives him some action. MOST age gap relationships aren’t an issue unless said age gap requires you to lessen yourself, give up future goals and wants, the power dynamic is abusive, or plain and simple aren’t giving you the energy that should be matched. Just RUN.

[@spriken]

Story 2: My mom has Cerebral palsy, nothing wrong with her mind. She's also a toxic narcissist and I've been NC with her for over 20 years but that has nothing to do with Cerebral palsy.

[@Moomin-xy3ku]

OP is not a replacement mom. She's a nanny and a maid. He only agreed for marriage/wedding to shut OP up about it.

[@chimchimindiandragon]

This reminded me of that story where op's husband made her take vows with his children and then proceeded to emotionally and physically abuse her and when finally she left ..years later those kids find her to tell her she was a monster for breaking vows to them...op was set for that life.and he pulled the same crap..and I'm not cheating is a very low bar..why all these crappy guys so good at exploiting the desperate women who just want normal family with husband and children

[@xelectrix]

With no context, those edits were wild.

[@kristinadjurfors8280]

That MIL who came after 25 years. OMG what did she expect, I am more impressed that the father let her even step over his doorstep. The answers she gave to her grandchild🙈🥺, you mother needed her freedom and so did I 😳🥺 Did the mother not when she got pregnant again even think about the son she left. No one of them deserved this incredible young man❤. They had all time for such a long time to get in contact again, but didn’t. I honestly would die without contact with my children, even now as they are grownups. As my youngest was 3 I met the love of my life, I know of course I thought it was their father. But it wasn’t. He really proved that after the separation, by telling me - you know I never wanted kids ( perhaps he said it most too hurt me🤷🏼‍♀️) at all but two we got. I never told them because it’s nothing they need to hear. They have a good relationship today with their father. But to their “stepfather “, it was never a question for him they were from day one everything for him. He drove them everywhere always played with them. He did everything a real father would do, he even has a good relationship to their father. Even the bio father didn’t want to have so much to do with them I knew he would regret it in the end. So me and my husband agreed it is important they stay in contact. But we gave him free hands and could see them when he could. Another thing that we agreed on was that we want talk crap about him. First thing that happened was when the oldest was 7 she asked why are we calling our bio dad, dad? Because he doesn’t deserves it, because stepdad does because he behaves like a dad and loves us as a dad should. ( what do I even answer to that). My answer was maybe tell bio dad what you think and what you think he is doing wrong. She wondered why? I said he never been a father before and if he doesn’t know he is doing things wrong, he can’t learn. Then of course she said, but step dad knows he never had to learn❤. Then when they came in their 20, they said to me and my husband. We are so glad that you never talked crap about our bio dad, because today we know the truth anyway, but are so thankful for that you both didn’t do that🥹❤️. Now they both have talked with their bio dad and told him everything they think and how he hurt them. But they are still in good contact with him. I asked them if it would have been better if I just had let it be and they could have contacted him when they wanted. But both said no, that I am very glad for. My husband was born as a dad and he loves our daughters madly, and they are always on his side🤣❤️but that’s ok. I was very lucky to find a man with such a big heart and we been married for over 30 years now. But something I also think is important, when we met I said we live as a family otherwise this want work. So the first time the oldest one got a no from step dad, she obviously thought I was going to be on her side. I just told her as long as you live in our house, it is our rules. Even if we didn’t always agree we took that in private just us adults. Because in mixed families as it is today I honestly think that is very important. He come to a ready family but I also had to let him in. I have many friends that argued with their new partners about them yelling at their children, that can’t work. Because in a bio family we don’t act like that. Also when our daughter said that, it was only to test us both. Never ever did she said something like that again. So yes I am very lucky to have my beautiful family( no I couldn’t get anymore children sadly, because we wanted a whole football team ❤) Sorry for my long comment 🙈❤️

[@InvasionAnimation]

Story 1 I would have told the kids that Yup I do hate you guys, you suck and there would never be a woman that actually wants to be your mom. We are Only after the dad's money. That way it would screw up the dad's plans to get a replacement instead of being an actual parent.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

1. He is only looking for a house keeper and mom for his kids, he does not want her or...even being attractive to her, if he was he would want a lot of alone. Men that want someone, love someone will act like this, more like the opposite. No to that marriage. She did not even wanted to have one normal date alone with her...HE DOES NOT WANT HER.

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

The age gap… the amount of wrinkles my eyebrows put on my forehead would rival Chef Ramsay

[@BVBloom]

Wooooowwwww... What is OP DOING with this guy??? Speaking as someone who's spouse is over a decade older than me, this is NOT A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. Age gaps are not a red flag in and of themselves, but the way OP describes her partner, and the way she describes his 'good qualities'....I just...holy moley GIRL NO!!!

[@twiggygrl84]

Love seeing hat markee

[@velveteenrabbit5940]

I was waiting for the shoe to drop on the second story that Marry was mentally impaired, or WAY younger then OP or something but no, shes just a regular adult with a disability. Why shouldnt she be able to have a relationship?

[@keepdancingmaria]

"He's never pulled his gun on me." Wait, WHAT? While TECHNICALLY "no gun violence" is a positive, what kind of upbringing have you had that it's something that leaps to your mind right off when listing his positives?

[@youwereboringd59]

Story 2: NTA. He had it coming but he does need to consider how Mary feels...though I do get it, some people need to be checked and hard.

[@patty-pat-pat]

Wait, the nanny doesnt want to take the kids? What a crappy 'wife' !

[@kurotsuki7427]

Honey moons are for doing it on every surface. Kids should go get their own vacation

[@FelisTerras]

Remember all the "MIL on my Honeymoon" -posts? This is along the same lines, but worse. @Edit: O:M:G: That just went from awful to absolutely desspicable and terrifying. What a complete...I don't even have words for this

[@niharikamaurya6583]

I truly believe widowed parents should marry widower not single people nd women became so stupid to think they can give their family love while they got nothing in return.. heard so many stories nd still stocked how women can even fall for this stupid game of these men they just want to use you not to give you life

[@paolagutierrez2568]

Did he say by December he will know about his job? Know what? He needs an au pair for the kids and a wench for NSW activities! I am happy that the OP left. S1.

[@stellamccoy5259]

My husband told me that he had a vasectomy as soon as we got serious.

[@crawdaddy2004]

Okay, I am the first person to advocate for blended families working. But who the heck takes their kids on their honeymoon?

[@CodyJonesXD]

*Where's The Video With The Rest Of The Updates!*

[@Jogeta5]

That from the future comment. lol

[@BUGt95.]

No, but you gotta rethink this marriage (1st story)

[@ttjc3696]

My only issue with story 3 is that he slept with his best friend's sister. The whole sleeping with my best friend's family member thing always weirds me out. Like that dude in a relationship with his best friend's mom. But that's just me.

[@BlankPageEmperor1334]

Yeah, OP2 should have asked Mary before going off on her knucklehead brother, but I get the sense, unfortunately, that she'd have to deal with her family's ableist nonsense regardless of OP's behavior. Oh well. 😞 At least she got some! /Doesn't Matter Had Sex 😎

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

1:54 this isn’t insensitive or selfish! It’s a _honeymoon!_

[@Sandstimes]

Ive never dealt with anything like cp but i do have another condition that gets severely infantalized despite it not inherently effecting intellectual capacity (autism) and i understand firsthand how absolutely demeaning and dehumanizing it feels to have your right to love and live a normal life stripped away from you like that. It is as disgusting and ignorant a form of ableism as the people who bully you and shout slurs at you. People like this have some sort of savior complex and they can't acknowledge your humanity or else they wouldn't be able to earn brownie points for playing the hero anymore, they only want to feel good about themselves and (like the brother) can't acknowledge your autonomy even after spending a majority of their life with you. They never truly get to know you, they dont care to, they don't think there is anyone to know because you are a prop to them. Deep down people like this feel some level of disgust towards disabled and nd individuals which is why they act so repulsed at the idea of us having love lives. Sorry for the text wall lol i get worked up at the idea of having to justify my humanity to people just for existing differently

[@lina9535]

Yes, vasectomies MAY be reversible, but it's strongly recommended to view them as permanent. The reason? The longer you wait after the procedure, the less chance of success you'll have with reversing it. It's not a 100% reversible thing. And he got it when the youngest was an infant, so 0-2 years old. Youngest is now 8. So 6 years. Yeah, it's not gonna be a 100% reverse rate for him

[@elsaflood6393]

S1. What does a 28 year old woman doing with a 42 year old man with kids?

[@DivaViews]

Hat wearing Markee should wear a bridal veil next, lol.

[@GellaHumbug59]

Yes, please! 👰🏼‍♀️ Bridal Markee!

[@AmberFerrariGirl]

erm.... okay, so why is Markee wearing a Scotland shirt... 🤔

[@charlie-hart]

ew, infantilizablism 🙅🏻

[@JettSettingBengal]

Story2: why didn’t op officially date her?

[@markanthony1004]

It baffles me how fully grown adults can’t see how shitty people are Story 1 started at a 50 and went to 100 by the end. Story 2 Starter at 100. Sometimes people just need to say “F*ck Off this ain’t your life so stay in your lane”

[@HoneyBakedHamlet]

Nope. JUST NOPE.

[@julesr6965]

story 2 makes me so mad. DISABLED PEOPLE ARE REAL PEOPLE, NOT DOLLS!!!!!!

[@JettSettingBengal]

I never recommend a woman chasing a man. This guy is using op

[@boogitywoogity248]

That first story, he’s a narcissist liar whatever etc, she’s so gullible she would’ve been buying bridges a 100 years ago. He was giving her legit, “the sky is green today” level lies, no solo date ever, I’m 42 but not ready for kids yet, and she was legit like, “oh no this man loves me!” Just , all I know for sure is that this woman shouldn’t be voting.

[@ammo19911]

The first stories comments confuses me by the amount of people that ignores the fact that she is the one that went for him. Knowingly going for a father of small kids, not wanting the package deal. Honeymoons when kids are in or out of the picture is a big difference. The vasectomy thing also, thats on her for not talking about it, and his answer about heavy flow was VERY fair. He certainly is a red flag, but hers flag is even redder. Sure I will get a lot of hate for this opinion. Turn the genders around ... Now had he been the one wooing her, things would be different, but by her own words, she is the one who went after him. For both their sakes, not being in a relationship is the best for them, but being togheter would also keep them both pf the market.

[@meiimacca4054]

Obtuse much? You just gonna glide over the fact he traumatized his own kids just to get back at op?

[@ammo19911]

He did? The vasectomy thing wasnt a lie, she just never asked. Bottom line is, the reason it ended was she not wanting to bring the kids on the trip. Sure, overkill and manipulation, but as a father, you are father first, husband / partner after. That should never ever change.​

[@VidGirl88]

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩sweet geebas run woman!

[@heyheyhey1081]

why did she randomly give all those details about her sex life lmao?????

[@meiimacca4054]

S1 DONT GET WITH PARENTS

[@hanoh2904]

Why was the details of thier intemate life relevant?

[@jaymzraulfin2227]

Why no HAT!?

[@kiraalexandraruizburgos1236]

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