My Husband Keeps Sneaking Out In The Middle Out The Night I Don't Know What To Do r/Relationships

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Everything about story 1 pissed me off. The initial comments saying OP was TA, his crappy lying, the audacity of him pressuring OP to make a decision, then going to therapy….I hate it all

[@kaykay8855]

They are probably Cheater apologists

[@RedFreaderd]

The thing that kept killing me was, of COURSE the problem isn't actually him needing to run in the middle of the night! Nobody actually pointed out how if it wasn't an issue, why was his response "don't worry about it" I tell my husband everything, he's my best friend. We don't perfectly know where the other is at all times, but he'd tell me if he was doing something out of the ordinary, especially leaving the house while I'm sleeping. Not even just because of safety, that's just what you do when you love someone. I casually tell him everything!!! And she just didn't know where he was in the middle of the night for months! That's so flipping weird!!!

[@vanguardangel6912]

The comments have been kinda nasty these past few weeks. Hell, I’ve gotten some nasty responses to my comments on videos calling them out. People are just fucking gross.

[@kaykay8855]

@@vanguardangel6912 I’ve been noticing that

[@Rogue-bt4wp]

Ppl like this are just pathetic. I can't find it in me to feel sorry for them.

[@NJ-kp3wu]

It's insane how some commenters insisted that going for a walk for 3 hours in the middle of the night is legitimately a normal activity.

[@whitneybennett4857]

FR. If he went on a run maybe a few times a month for about half an hour to deal with his sleeping issues, then yeah, I'd be more willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. But THREE OR FOUR TIMES A WEEK for two or three hours at a time?! Yeah, something's not adding up there.

[@NJ-kp3wu]

@@whitneybennett4857 People with insomnia and other sleeping issues aren't magically full of energy to walk around for 3-4 hours. They feel tired and shitty, they just can't sleep.

[@jazzamethyst8225]

I did that when I lived in town, now I live out in the country where we have a high population of coyotes and a cougar that reside in the area. I struggle with PTSD flashbacks though and my then partner asked me to stop reorganizing our apartment at 2 am. My current partner jusr asks me to wake him up so he can come with me despite hating the walks 😅

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

I've done it. It's normal to share where you go.

[@JustAthena1]

I do. I love walking at night by myself. Sometimes I tell others sometimes I don't. 😅 or I sit in the car by the dam

[@karmagrl76]

OP needs to call CPS on the side chick. Not out of pettiness...okay, maybe a little bit out of pettiness, but mostly because those kids deserve better than a deadbeat dad, a drug addict mom, and her married, "insomniac" lover.

[@juliearmfield2634]

That is so true

[@brandi5126]

Seriously. It IS the right thing to do for the sake of the kids with a side of sweet poetic justice since the side chick called the wellness check on purpose.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Doing for pure pettiness basically kills 2 birds with one stone. A little revenge is garnered and at the same time, some kids are hopefully protected. One of my sisters had a long-time boyfriend who was cheating on her and got his girlfriend pregnant with twins. The cheating was a result of some drug action between my sister's boyfriend and his side piece. The reason why my sister never saw a reduction in money despite him paying for ALL of his side piece's needs was that, coupled with them doing lots of drugs, they were selling/distributing them on a large scale as well. The kind of scale where the drugs were coming from Mexico and being delivered in large quantities to the side piece's house and from there, they would sell some but most of it was distributed to other dealers. The cops nailed my sister's boyfriend and his side piece shortly after their Twin Girls were born. Because none of their family would take the 2 babies, they were destined to end up in Foster Care. My sister told me of a plan she had and I told her I would back her up (both as the "muscle", I am 6'7" 265 lb of solid muscle and I do MMA) and as a babysitter/nanny/mentor. She went to the County and after a background check they approved her to take the Twins in as an "Emergency Extended Family Member". After her boyfriend and his side piece got sentenced (both doing a minimum of no less than 10 years), they both agreed to sign away their parental rights not realizing my sister was in the process of going thru adopting them once the parental rights were signed away LOLOLOLOL. I visited both of them in prison one time once everything was settled and done with the adoption and explained to them the "facts of life" if I or my sister ever heard from or saw them after they got released from prison. I know my sister's boyfriend was scared as he had seen me in action with 3 guys who were harassing one of my other sisters ( I have 8 older sisters and me lol). He saw that I sent all 3 of them to the hospital after spending less than 5 minutes total working them over. Both of them are still in Prison and have at least 4 years to go and I have two additional nieces who are adorable and love their Uncle Tommy. Only my nieces and nephews and my mother and grandmother get away with calling me, "Tommy" LOL.

[@league-of-shadows]

100%

[@JB-bl6qo]

Lmao 😂😂

[@UndeadEyes]

I'm glad someone else touched on the 'you tell your spouse if you're just going to start walking in the night'. My first thought was; "If this was innocent, he would have told her out of worry that she might be concerned waking up to him not being in the house." It was the red flag that went off for me and I knew it wasn't going anywhere good.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

That first comment is a psychic. Also, what a selfish pos, not only did he cheat and do drugs but he’s putting all the burden on OP on whether or not to continue the relationship. He doesn’t care about her and the sooner OP realizes it the sooner she can leave his sorry ass.

[@GBunnyG]

Story 1: More women need to lean into anger. Anger is easier than depression, sorrow, grief. Start with anger, process the rest after. Poor woman.

[@BoxOKittens]

It's because women get trained to avoid anger. If a woman gets angry and starts yelling, she's called shrill, hysterical and crazy.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: ok, my question on why op’s husband didn’t call CPS on the woman who goes on week long benders was answered, he was doing drugs with her. Op needs to divorce this man and get into therapy. Her family and friends are telling her to, leave the AH.

[@angelaa7388]

I question his timeline. I bet he started doing drugs with her, then started sleeping with her, then started paying for her stuff. Probably in exchange for drugs.

[@kaykay8855]

@@angelaa7388 most likely. Depending on where they work since they are coworkers, if she’s known for being absent from work a lot, some of their coworkers probably know about her addiction.

[@paulineisme]

Simple answer for you: he is a bad and selfish person.

[@kaykay8855]

@@paulineisme yeah I figured.

[@marie34K]

Ow ...half way to the first story it reminded me of a guy who just did exactly the same thing and after months and months of the police unable to catch a serial r ( more than 10 women ) he was caught while assaulting another poor xoman . And his spouse was devastated when the police told her . She said she could never have guessed , he was so sweet at home ....

[@chinchillacrystal6899]

That was my first thought. I was thinking put a tracker on his car without saying anything, or hire a P.I. Something definitely wasn’t adding up.

[@damaramcelrath-fatherree9732]

Damn.....I don't know what to do with that.

[@WiseWordsbyWiki]

Men: last names dont matter Also men when a women keeps hers: *transforms into an alpha male podcastor*

[@sammieh9695]

The side chick knew exactly what she was doing. Her free ride dumped her and after 3 days, she realized he meant it and she decided to split up his marraige to try and get him back. Not because she loves him or anything, he is her meal ticket/atm

[@KadeStringer2.0]

You sound like a bafoon and there was no affair partner

[@chinaking918]

Yup and after she use up all his money she will find someone else to pay her way while kicking him to the curb then he’ll try to run back to op hoping that the love she once had is still there and is enough for her to take them back. He’ll even use his addiction for sympathy. 🥴

[@sandeesandwich2180]

S1: He doesn't like being in limbo when he spent months "walking" at night and not coming clean to his wife. OP was in limbo for months, so I think her rat of a husband (apologies to rats) can sit a stew.

[@damien678]

Felt that '(apologies to rats)' 😂

[@hoboheart3728]

I don't think I've ever seen a cheater get revealed by police before. What a way to find out.

[@invisigoth510]

Leaving in the wee hours of the morning & being gone for hours on end combined with the insomnia would have me thinking drugs Well let’s get onto the update: Well that took a turn. Drugs & cheating & the audacity to put the burden on OP to decide the fate of the relationship

[@pippo17173]

Ya we all knew where that was going. Didn't expect the drugs and kids part. I hope op goes revenge mode and call cps.

[@Tyler171819]

Trading last names when you get married honestly seems both hilarious and sweet. “I’m taking your last name!” “NOT IF I TAKE YOURS FIRST!”

[@eldeano9964]

He's Batman? Oh nevermind. Wow, what a classy sidechick.

[@localvega688]

This explains why there's no Mrs. Wayne. 🦇

[@loganjoh1]

When OP said she is thinking about staying with him I just shook my head. Like lady he cheated on you, was financially supporting another woman and was doing drugs behind your back for how long? She needs to wake up and just drop the dead weight.

[@mbyerly9680]

She needs therapy before deciding to fix the marriage.

[@funtimegenshin6973]

These comments completely missed the question he was asking and bashing a woman they dont even know

[@chrisester2910]

The night that the cops showed up I would have changed all of the locks. He would have come back to find his shit packed on the front step with a note telling him to go stay with his side piece.

[@Iflie]

One of the things addicts do is try to get another person addicted too. That woman slept with him and got him hooked too because that way he would pay for both their habits and breaking up their marriage would make him more available to her, hence the "wellness check". But that mess isn't worth fixing for him, once an addict always an addict and why would you put so much effort into a person who's not worth it? I hope some other family takes those kids though because they are innocent and shouldn't be in that drug den the place is.

[@ioanairimies4378]

Story 1. I don't understand how is she thinking to stay married with him.

[@robinronin]

Petition for a blue-and-white striped merch shirt with 'Where's Markee' on it 😂

[@localvega688]

Do you mean shimapan? lol 🩲

[@markanthony1004]

Holy hell how story 1 turned out was so unexpected and Reddit at it again gaslighting OP like it’s normal to do what her husband does. The most sneaking around I do is try to quietly eat cereal when I let the dogs out in the early morning lol

[@illoyd04]

The way OP was gaslit in that first set of comments is insane!

[@Buff_Helpy]

Stpry 2: oh my god, who, the hell, caaaaares?!

[@angelaa7388]

"Mommy won't like it 😢"

[@ladyv5655]

Apparently, Mommy cares.

[@boneymeroney2674]

This is a new one. I've never heard of a spouse finding about a cheater THAT WAY. (I ain't no spoiler.) Holy shit! Ohhhhh.... and the AP is a great person. Lovely. Sweet. 😂

[@UchuKejiMovan]

I'm sorry no one deserves 100% trust. That's just not smart, I'm a big believer in trusting someone but also VERIFYING their whereabouts. Update just proves my line of thinking. Not one person deserves full trust I'm sorry. Whoa! Cheating with a druggie should always equal GAME OVER!

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I don't even 100% trust myself LOL. If I am supposed to guard a couple of chocolate-covered bavarian creme-filled Bismarcks, those suckers are SOOOOOOO GONE. Trust but verify is a good method. But what people often forget is that trust is "questioned" by someone's odd or weird behavior. Most people don't just question someone's trust for no reason. Something has usually happened that is out of the norm behavior for there to be a reason to verify. In this case, it was him disappearing for hours upon hours many nights a week.

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

Wow dude did a woman with kids,and a bad drug habit,and did drugs with her too. This guy is so off the rails! His life is in a downward spiral . He needs to be institutionalized. She needs to step back. He thought he was saving her. But never told his wife he was helping . Ya lies cheats ect…ug

[@celiarichard3049]

Where’s Waldo? He’s my Aussie buddy Markee!

[@chrisester2910]

2nd story: the fact that this was such a big deal for the OP is a big red flag to me. The fact that he was so wound up about telling mommy about this relatively small issue says he needs to work on his mommy issues.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

It honestly scares me how you can be with someone for years and think everything is golden, no warning signs, only to discover out of the blue that they're a raging POS. Stuff like this always makes me think back to a news story I once heard of a woman who had been married to her husband for 25 years, just to randomly find out that he'd been collecting "illicit material involving children" when the police raided their home one day. And that he'd been at it for a very long time. I just goes to show that no matter how well you think you know your partner, you probably really don't.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 2. In my culture naming is a bit different. The child is given 4 names at birth, their first name, middle name, father's last name, then mothers maiden last name. Once a woman get married, she takes on her husband's last name. I was fine with that, but I was born and raised in the USA, my parents were also born here but they kept the tradition. I didn't want my kids to go through what I did. My parent's having a different last name then I had (I had her maiden name) always caused question, confusion, or people thinking my parents were divorced or I even had some people think I was a foster chikd because my last name was different from my parents. I got sick of always explaining the naming process. So, when I had my twins, I went against cultural tradition and gave them my husband's last name, then strapped down for the tornado from my family. But, that tornado never came. Everyone on my side of the family understood why I made the decision I did, and accepted it with no problem. I believe it was a bit easier because the understood my husband is Caucasian and his family naming choices were different. I hope OPs mom can accept his future wife's choice. I also think are being a bit hard on OPs and his mom. Yes, she expected her DIL to take his last name. He confronted her and told her how it was going to be. She fought back a bit, but did finally except it. I don't know anyone who has a good relationship with their mom wants to do anything to upset them. OP stood up for his fiance, plain and simple.

[@EllieC130]

Story 2: OP did himself a disservice not specifying he and his fiancee had agreed that the kids would have his last name. I assumed we’d find out if it was a joint choice or he was a controlling nutbar but you should never expect reddit to be that patient.

[@ladyv5655]

Husband keeps sneaking out? That's easy. Change the locks while he's out.

[@salomerodriguez5145]

Lol I rolled my eyes at the redditors jumping OPs neck about the children taking his name, that's so Reddit 😂

[@D-Dollie]

I know right 😅

[@heatherdickau5335]

The First story-, The OP is broken, she cannot move on because she has just suffered a second break up similar to the one that gave her PTSD. He husband snuck out and cheated. She has to process this before she can start to move on and heal.

[@LisaApril]

I added my husbands last name after my last name. No hyphen. My children have my last name and then my husbands last name, no hyphen.

[@mbyerly9680]

Story 1. The husband is really a vampire looking for snacks.

[@brandytzu2747]

I'm still in the first story. My stab in the dark? He's hitting a bong somewhere. Eta: Ah shit, I hoped for a less ghetto outcome.

[@fleurpouvior2967]

I remember when my brother told our dad he was thinking of changing his last name when he got married. Him and his then fiance thought it would be cool to start their own lineage (it would, and it would be very on brand for both of them). Dad just nodded, asked what names they were considering, and pulled out a big book of family history going back centuries for them to check out for inspiration (they were/are very involved in that sort of history/those eras and were very excited to look through it) they ended up going with dads last name any ways, but he would have fully supported them if they hadn't. And I think he was kind of disappointed, he was really getting excited about the whole thing. I ended up changing my entire name after my divorce, and took my grandmas maiden name. My parents have different last names, because if mom took dads, her initals would be PMS and she took objection to that. Soooooo I guess my entire point is my family is weirdly history oriented, and at the same time not very name centric? Aside from kids often sharing an aunt or uncles middle name, there's strong feelings about that and I might get dissowned if I had a daughter and her middle name wasn't Rose, or a son missing the middle name of a veriation of Anthony.

[@paulaanderson9770]

The first thing I thought of on the insomnia story is he might be a peeping tom or worse. Also, I would really be disturbed if I woke up in the middle of the night and just happened to look outside and see someone walking the neighborhood. I'd call the police if I saw that.

[@a.n4031]

Every single person who for a second didn't believe that man was cheating is delusional and needs more real world experience

[@crichtonbruce4329]

Story 2... I agree with the last commenters in the post: OP did good. He acted with love and sensitivity to both his wife and mother while holding firm to the decisions he and his wife had made, He and his wife communicated, he communicated with his mother Communication for the win.

[@pannkeki8940]

Yeah idk what those comments were freaking out about. Bro did like everything right and still got ripped apart

[@carlrood4457]

​@@pannkeki8940Angry people who will cut people off at the drop of a hat

[@ladyv5655]

Mother has a right to her opinion, but it is really none of her business what name the DIL and her grandchildren use. Hopefully, the MIL's acceptance of the DIL's decision is genuine.

[@PrincessLioness]

@@pannkeki8940I think it was the phrasing. He kind of threw the fiancée under the bus. He should have told her they decided together as a couple instead making it seem she decided on her own and wouldn’t back down, especially by saying she is independent. The mom is going to think she forced op.

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

All of this… at 4 in the fucking morning?! OP it’s gonna be tough but leave his ass, girl, god damn it only gets worse from here

[@reviewsgoodnbad7695]

He doesn’t even need to leave his location on. If he takes his phone - check the step count

[@hubbachubba1]

Story 1: Whenever someone says “Don’t worry about it” means “I refuse to talk about it .” My husband does this all the time when he wants to avoid answering questions. I’d be suspicious.

[@tamsel814]

Story 2: In the update he told his mom that his wife decided not to take his last name. It would have been better to say that you decided as a couple. Now I can see the mom blaming the wife for refusing to take ops name.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I caught that too. He kind of threw her under the bus to his mother. It makes you wonder how else the OP may act in the future when something they decide is at odds with what his mother thinks should be done. How many stories have we heard where the MIL and the Wife are feuding and the husband/son just sits there quietly not saying anything or backing his wife and then later, making excuses for his mother. The OP may not be like that, but he did throw the fiance under the bus in this instance, so???

[@colleens1107]

Story one: the husband was cheatin? NO, YOU DONT SAY? That was fucking obvious. And ffs after all this crap: sneaking out, supporting another woman and her family AND abusing drugs, he wants you to decide what to do about the relationship? Well easy answer. FUCKING. DIVORCE. HIM.

[@ghislainedefeligonde5166]

story 2: turned out to be okay, OP is a good communicator, as long as it isn't in form of a reddit post :)) He is also a worrywart, who doesn't want to hurt the important people in his life. Happy story in the end.

[@BambixLynn]

Happy Valentine’s Day Aussie daddy hubby. ❤ hope your day is full of love and care.

[@sterngerlach9184]

Story 2: I'm sure mcmurrml meant to keep his mother out of "marital" decisions -- if he doesn't want to be in constant struggle, making "martial" decisions.

[@MH-ku5kn]

The Waldo drip is 🤌🏽

[@damien678]

Nice shirt! Your captor has a great sense of humour 😂

[@rebeccataylor2049]

Get him a treadmill!

[@SassyElfFriend]

Where's Waldo?!?! Love you, Markee.

[@daisyfaye3630]

Men tend to fall asleep after sex, I mean walk.

[@meagancall5005]

Story 1: Honestly, I thought this was just reddit being reddit... because the idea that someone is waking up in the middle of the night, sneaking out to have an affair for a few hours, only to sneak back in before OP wakes up in the morning... that's just ludicrous. I actually was thinking drugs were a possibility, but otherwise, even taking 2+ hour insomnia walks every other night sounded more likely to me than "it's cheating." How do you even fit an affair into that time slot? (I guess the answer is that the affair partner doesn't have a standard schedule). Does this guy sleep AT ALL? Maybe he's taking naps at work? Just so, so weird. Kind of reminds me of a House MD episode where the patient was essentially going through most of his waking life sleepwalking without realizing it because his sleep disorder was so severe and strange. The progression of choices made by OP's husband are equally baffling: guy agrees to completely subsidize the life of a former coworker down on her luck. From there he supposedly finds out she has a drug habit, and... I guess starts using? And rather than do that crap in the toilet during work breaks like a normal AH, he... starts going to bed, waking up, doing drugs, then going back home. I guess really, progressing from that to the affair is the least bizarre part. I'm calling BS on that whole explanation: Only way ANY of that makes sense is if the affair started before the financial support, and then, I guess middle of the night when he was awake with insomnia seemed like the most logical time to go get high/strung out and screw his AP. The real question here is did he ultimately break things off with his AP because he actually wanted to end things, or was he just too effing tired to continue? Weird. AF.

[@trashcan2748]

21:30 The idea that talking about last names in terms of future life events before getting engaged as being too soon is wild to me! How on earth can you be ready to commit to marrying someone or propose to them to start up that process when you haven’t even decided basic details about raising kids?

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

My aunt had an ex, who was having an affair with their neighbor, and he would go out their window and climb in the neighbors window, and then do the opposite to return. They got a divorce. This guy could be playing. Pokémon go though. 😂. Looks like he should have stuck with Pokémon go.

[@tigernotwoods914]

I will only say divorce only sucks when somebody is divorcing you. When you’re the one initiating the divorce it doesn’t suck because you’re the one that’s leaving.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Taking or not taking someone's last name should be a decision that is made LONG before marriage. Same thing with the kid's last names. My wife had her maiden name She also has a "legal Professional Name" But outside of Hollywood, she goes by her legal married name which is my last name. I told her I would have been happy to take her "Legal Professional Name" but she said No, she wanted to take my last name. I even offered to let her have my last name and I would take her professional name LOLOLOLOL. It's the same name her actor brother and sister use as well as her actor/director father uses. It is a badazz last name that has been around in Hollywood since the 1950s and when people think of iconic tough guy Cowboys or Cops, they think of this last name and mainly my wife's father LOL.

[@KyleighRoss]

Lmao @ the where's waldo shirt

[@amberinthemist7912]

Always listen to your instincts. Never forgive cheating it never gets better. He may never cheat again but it will destroy your confidence always. It's better to be alone. Especially if he continues to sleep with you without protection. He's basically attempting to take your life at that point.

[@janenorwood1614]

Oh HELL no!!

[@jameyregier8054]

I found Waldo! He's right at the start 😅

[@kacielawrence]

If you celebrate it, Happy Valentine's Day Markee!

[@MMM-zc3oq]

Found him, there he is, there's Waldo

[@lifewithlee6298]

I feel bad for the cops who did the wellness check ( are you his sister ? ) no… I’m his wife !! 👮 ohhh we will be going now

[@aduckofsomesort]

For anyone that’s wondering, none of his behaviors are treatments for insomnia. I know some people try to do some dumb shit to treat insomnia for who knows what reason. But yeah don’t go outside or start watching TV.

[@jomc6734]

Story 2: I think this is a decision that OP's fiancée makes. It's her choice whether or not she changes her name. I know a few people who didn't change their name, and their kids have their father's last name. I really think that is what is most typical.

[@Nieyx]

I walk everyday for around 2-3 hours to help with my mental health and to loose weight. Im down 25lbs now. I was pretty shocked by the update since I was thinking it sounded reasonable to me lol 😂

[@judyjohnson9610]

But not in the middle of the night, right? Also, we need to get more natural light exposure to get our melatonin production in sync with our sleep schedule.

[@smapa1185]

Not at 2-6 AM tho right?

[@Nieyx]

@@judyjohnson9610 No, not in the middle of the night.

[@ratoim]

Last Name OP: The mother knows she's lost this battle, so she's biding her time for the next one.

[@Swamp_Queen]

I havent seen anyone say this yet, but im pretty sure the husband had previously cheated on OP with the ex coworker while they were actively working together. At least an emotional if nothing else. Coworkers husband disappears in middle of the night, leaving her alone with kids and bills and no job and she decides to call some random ex coworker that she has no contact with to pay her bills and take care of her kids? AND shes open and honest about her drug use with this person even though she has kids in the house and could have them taken away? AND he decides to agree to it and hide it from his wife?? No. Thats not real.

[@ladykay5891]

When my husband and I got married back in 1995 laws had changed in Canada allowing the husband to take the wife’s name. So I never liked my husband’s last name so he took mine. But our oldest child has both. It’s his choice if he wants to change it. In school he uses my last name.

[@James-sq4sc]

I’m so tired of all these stories where the husband is literally the worst, cruelest pos ever and the wife is still waffling on weather or not to keep the relationship. Have some self respect, gd

[@takkycat]

I usually just feel sad because it seems to be a form of abuse to me. Abuse victims are in an altered state of mind and the fear of change is a powerful force.

[@taz598]

Story 1 This one is easy .....call the cops and cps on the AP and divorce the husband.....those kids are in danger with their mother.

[@devchekhov7512]

Those red stripes go very well with your, er, predicament 😂

[@TheSwagger81]

Story 1: she’s gonna try stay with that dude? Lol. Yikes. We forget that they’re with their SOs for a reason. OP is equally as messed up, we just haven’t heard the stories. That’s how this works

[@orchidoxs126]

I mean disappearing for 2 hours, what were the first comments on? Disappearing for hours at night even if just walking is down right dangerous for anyboby, especially from someone impaired(due to his insomnia). But funny hiw, he started "helping" his coworker because her husband cheated and up and left then he basically did the same thung to his wife. And he's upset because he's stressed? WHAT ABOUT YOUR WIFE? Now is not the time about you and your feelings, you wouldn't be in this mess if you kept it in your pants.

[@JasperCatProductions]

He is cheating and using drugs? You wonder what to do? Geez get the fudge put….. Story 2 if it not your mothers business if spouse takes your name. It’s not her business if the children get your name, it’s not her business even if you have children. If you are worried that much over mommy then you are not old (mature ) enough to marry.

[@wyvern723]

Story 1: If my husband did that, I would ask him about it, or he would say something. Where's the communication?

[@alyzu4755]

Why would his first reaction be "Don't worry about it" if he was just walking? Update: Surprise, surprise. He's been cheating. But also doing drugs, giving his money to an addict, and putting OP in danger? Yeah, she needs to get out. And get tested ASAP. I hope those commeters saying "How could you not trust him" are happy. 🙄 And yes, his comment about being "stressed" is beyond ridiculous!

[@Rhaenarys]

Ok so everyone keeps talking about cheating, but no one is bringing up drugs, and gotta admit...that was what my late SO was doing. Similar situation. Had insomnia. So HAD to take walks. Mind you i was pregnant with his kid and already had 1. Yea...he was out walking...till 6 am...getting high. Also, im just into the first part so if it is mentioned...then yay for awareness on the subject!

[@KadeStringer2.0]

I will support my mom and wife

[@Sherry_Armstrong]

!st story , for me at least after a week of that crap . i would have gathered my stuff and had divorce paper on the bed for him .. and go no contact

[@kreuger2062]

Howdy partna 🥹

[@michelebrown9923]

Why do people need to know your last name isn't changed? Are they preparing you legal documents? Are they giving the couple a check made out to the wife?

[@LilFeralGangrel]

Story 1 Update: OP needs to make a decision, i think she's trying to make a logical decision and she can't because she's depressed. Sometimes emotional reactions are the best choice.

[@angelaa7388]

What do Australian cowboys wrangle? Roos?

[@dave19328]

Since when is a child given his/her mother's last name instead of the father's? Those commenters are acting like they don't have their fathers' last names.

[@quartzskull8772]

Its suprisingly common

[@ttjc3696]

My issue with the OP in the last story is that he did not protect his finance he threw her under the bus. He and jis wife discussed and agreed that she would keep his last name. However he told his mom that his wife decided to keep her last name instead o WE decided she should keep her last name. Now the mom can create false narratives in her head about his wife forcing him to do things. Or worse she can start treating the wife differently and resenting her. Regardless of who broached the subject, when talking with family about aspects of the relationship they may not like, always use we statements. That way you're not throwing your partner under the bus.

[@lateef_ah4ever]

OP 1 was giving serial killer vibes... And why is she thinking of staying with a druggie?!

[@quartzskull8772]

How was she giving killer vibes?

[@hotrodmercury3941]

Im a insomniac, I do late night walks with a phone call to clear my mind and sort of tire myself out to sleep Not that weird imo

[@psychodishwasher]

In comparison with the first story I only sleep for about two hours a night and when I was younger I used to go for a walk every night for years and would sometimes be walking for up to four hours at a time

[@Akemi.24-45]

Heeello, Markee! Have a good night sleep. おやすみ〜。♥️🤗

[@wildblue0]

Story 1: Could be cheating, but I'm betting drugs. Rather than demanding he share his location, it would be better to come at it from a safety and peace of mind angle. Story 1 Update: Drugs _and_ cheating. At least I was half right. *Smh* That wellness check was revenge for him cutting the side piece off. Bag his crap on the lawn and let her have him.

[@beccaf262]

Am I the only one who thinks the where’s Wally shirt is a clue to markees location??? Or certainly a cry for help! #freemarkee

[@randomusername3873]

Am I the only one who thought it was the story where the husband went outside to smell dirty diapers?

[@aalokshah8655]

s2: commenters are so extreme. The guy supported fiancee. mom had initial reaction but they talked it out and she accepted it. I don’t know why they continue to be against him. He didn’t want her to be upset-but that didn’t he was controlled by her. yeesh-redditors need to chill out

[@rebeccataylor2049]

19 seconds in.. what's up with the where's Waldo outfit dude?😮

[@emo7636]

Story 2, What 'family and legal purposes' would the mother having a different last name from her children create? That's one of the most nonsensical things I've heard. I'm not married to my partner of 11 years, our two children have his last name, it does not affect anything, like, nothing at all. I think this guy has a pretty good compromise with his wife keeping her maiden name and their kids keeping the father's last name. Legally this affects nothing, you still have to have a birth certificate for certain things and you still have to have an ID for certain things, doesn't matter what your ID says so long as it's yours.

[@vampire9545]

Lulz at insomnia Story Wait you don't understand birthing a kid and giving it a different name? Are we supposed to be all clones? Why does that matter for last name but not the 1st and possibly middle names?