My Roommate Is Pressuring Me Into Something I Clearly Don't Want r/Relationships

[@lifewithlee6298]

The crazy lady who’s convinced op husband is her baby daddy is wild. I hope 🤞 she stays on her meds

[@wplains]

Stays on her meds? She should be in an insane asylum! She’s allowed to walk around freely, make wild, unfounded accusations and stalk people.

[@Silent_Ghoul]

I was disappointed in OP for not calling the cops each time she turned up at their house. I mean ok she is mentaly ill, but OP has children to protect along with herself. Imagine if OP was also pregnant this could have gone so horribly wrong.

[@Standinthegap4ever]

I’d let your landlord know she’s trying to pimp you out. Contact the police & let them know your roommate is trying to force you into trafficking. I’d see if your landlord can move you to another unit…. If they cant/won’t you need to get out NOW!! That girl is not your friend & I bet she’s getting more than $300, probably more like $1,000-$3,000 Do not ever compromise on your morals.

[@nightdweller6446]

S1 OP is being single, white femaled. Nta , the room-mate is a predator who undervalues OP, run like hell.

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

Crazy ex-coworker story: OP should check their beneficiaries and obscure records like that. 😲

[@Minris1]

I had a staff member who had a psychotic break. It’s scary and disconcerting. Her unbelievably unrealistic reality was completely real to her. Scary and disconcerting is an understatement.

[@clownstop]

I saw a comment saying op should just open the relationship and I want to say something Poly/Open/etc is not for everyone and some people see it as cheating and make them feel like they're not worth it if their partner wants someone else. You can't force someone into an open relationship if they do not want it, and DON'T. That's a disaster waiting to happen. Sometimes it can work but sometimes it don't. Poly/Open relationships are just like Mono relationships, its not that black and white and a relationship (no matter poly, open, mono) needs consent. Source: a mono person who tried poly and ended up hating it and had another ex try to force me into it even tho with my boundaries. Also I dont hate poly/open relationships, it just wasnt for me just like its not for everyone else. Thank you for listening to my ted talk. Edit: I reread the comment I saw and made a mistake, they didnt say op should open the relationship thats on me, im still keeping this up!

[@macylouwho1187]

“No” is a complete sentence. Use it. With forcefulness, if necessary.

[@kumikor3392]

Story 2: OP has the best uncle that treats her like his own daughter.

[@5688gamble]

Nice of him to extort other failies to pay him to live in "his" property and then use the money he deprived their children of to give his neice all the opportunities his tenants will be unable to afford due to not being born with the right uncle!

[@kumikor3392]

​@@5688gambleyou must have something against landlords which is fair, but OP owned that house, and let her friends rent. Even let them stay without the red tape of a contract, and they still weren't satisfied. They would always have to pay to live somewhere, even if they owned it. There's no such thing as a free lunch. They tried to essentially tell OP that she should let them stay for free. They're not THAT great of friends

[@Da1nstantClassic]

@@5688gamble🤣🤣🤣

[@kylemendoza8860]

​@@kumikor3392 They were weren't even asking for a free lunch. According to OP. They were going to pay their expenses. She wants to go into profit margins. Granted not that much. Still extra. They are looking looking at it as a friend that could be helping them out. It's seeing some dollar signs instead.

[@elijah7648]

@@5688gamble😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊uu

[@wplains]

Dear Lord, the story about the crazy ex worker is absolutely insane. If OP weren’t so sure about her husband and he had the foresight to never be alone with this lunatic his whole life could have been ruined. Imagine having to uproot your life because an ex worker is insane but gets to walk around freely to ruin people’s lives? We live in a sick, sick society! 🥺

[@Taecoconut]

Story 1: … it’s $300 … that’s not worth it

[@anonmouse15]

Agreed, she should charge more than that.

[@beren171]

​@@anonmouse15Someone suggested the roommate might be charging more but only giving breadcrumbs to OP

[@LadyCeag840]

@@beren171I would honestly NOT be surprised if the roommate was doing that. She was the only one who talked to the creepy guy, right? Maybe he actually offered the roommate something like $5000 for the threesome, but roommate wanted to keep as much money as possible!

[@Rose-yt5hi]

For real. If you’re going to be a hooker, make it worth the while. Damn.

[@NiMissNi]

Well the roommate was being offered 3000 dollars, so there's that

[@angelaa7388]

The real MVP in stroy 2 is the Uncle. As much as I hate the American culture around landlords and housing, he sounds like a smart cookie. He let OP decide to kick her friends out instead of telling her too, so he wouldn't be to blame for her fractured friendships. I also enjoy his advice not to lie, but just keep quiet. He sounds suprisingly moral for a landlord.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

Say NO! ..lock your doors and if they do not stop asking trying, find another place to live asap.

[@idontuploadanym0re]

as a black person, let me just say that John infuriates me. if Jane doesn’t want to put herself out there as a role model, she doesn’t have to. her life, her business, her choice. i agree with the commenter who said that part of the fight is making it so that not every black person in a position of success has to be some paragon. it is a ridiculous expectation placed on an entire race without their consent. the whole reason blm exists is to fight for a world where being a symbol isn’t a requirement for black people.

[@dead_vibes]

All I heard from John is "I'm black y'all and I'm black y'all and I'm blickity-black and I'm black y'all!"

[@Peajay007]

Jon is that person in the friend group.

[@ruthlys]

Agreed- and in some groups, “jon” is often white! I am also mixed, and nothing burns my ass more then a white person trying to tell me how i should feel about politics and to just be grateful for the actions of white allies. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

Jane needs to feel out who she is. Evidently she is sick of being labeled. She feels a bit of everything. And she feels pigeonholed. So don’t try to solve her problems for her. She needs to find her feet.Breath and take joy.

[@Ashakat42]

Jane is a killjoy and pretentious. If I was OP, I'd dump her. She has way too many personal issues and thinks it's her place to take it out on everyone else.

[@rachaelclark8465]

Open relationship story, First, the fact that her friends are passing this dude around so she wants her turn. Disgusting! That fact alone would be a deal breaker for me. Second, on your way back from the mountain and you read that text from her. I would have sent one word in return, delusional.

[@TheWittFactor]

For the girl making the wedding cake. GET PAID FOR YOUR SERVICES. If they want to put their two cents in, THEY can pay for the cake.

[@nerdygeekgamer5528]

That I agree with but who tells a family member who is no longer INVITED to the wedding that they're not allowed to leave their house and to just stay home her step sister DISINVITED her from her WEDDING so OP had every right to go out and have fun with her friend's

[@TailsFan]

@@nerdygeekgamer5528 They wanted her to sit in her home and think about the bad thing she did, clearly. 🙄😏

[@nerdygeekgamer5528]

@@TailsFan so in her families own TWISTED LOGIC because you get disinvited from a family celebration all your allowed to do is STAY HOME okay OP'S family members are very ODD and I am so glad there not part of my family

[@katherinehutton9870]

I glad I wasn't the only one who thought she was lowball at 300.

[@barfrodgers1202]

That's not that low for sex worker tbh. It probably (understandably) isn't enough to get someone to do it when they normally dont.. but it's a fair price for a hooker.

[@gremlininblue2601]

I would absolutely call the police if someone took my car without permission even as family, I'm not taking the hit for them possibly crashing it or hitting somebody/something

[@ghoullovinbutch]

My mom and my grandmother are the only people I’d let drive my car. And that’s because they’re generally more careful than even I am with my own car lol. I GAVE them my spare keys, and they’re the ONLY ones allowed to drive it. If someone else drove my car without speaking to me or after I said no, I’d be on the phone with the sheriff’s office immediately, no hesitation.

[@annettementzer5158]

24 yo with mustang stolen by Mom for Sis may have long term financial repressions due to significantly increased insurance rates. He needs to do whatever is needed to mitigate impacts not just in repair costs, but long term financial harm.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story one: *Shady af. Get out, OP. And never look back.*

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

OPs friends need to be told if they don’t pay the rent. They will be removed. They should all have contracts.

[@stephjovi]

I feel like so many people on reddit have been parentified that they freak out over an 18 year old missing 2 days of a trip to care for his siblings.

[@cynicalrabbit915]

Story ?) Open relationship When you're talking about a married couple, opening up their marriage, it's generally about one of them wanting to be with another person but not end their marriage so they have a safe place to retreat to when they want. This rarely has a happy ending. The other half will either try it and either flourish or crash and burn. The ones I've heard about it was the husband who floated the idea and when his wife eventually caved, he found that he was left behind and wasn't getting all the "action" he thought he would. Conversely the wife was having the time of her life, and he became insecure and jealous, which led predictablely to divorce. But no matter who proposed it, this is the desth knell of a marriage in the majority of cases. The only successful open relationships are ones where both were non-exclusive but did fall in love but still wanted the excitement that multiple partners provides. They marry but start the marriage with the agreement that they won't be monogamous and agree to a set of ground rules that will keep them safe, such as meeting prospective partners their spouse wants to bump uglies with.

[@catsncrows]

S1 Oh honey, if you are even considering sex work at least ask for way more than $300, it's very very risky, but that is not a friend! She's terrorizing you into this. Why do I get the feeling this isn't the first time she's pulled this? Scary Obsessed lady: I'm wondering about her diagnosis. My grandfather is bipolar so I've seen what that looks like. She's a weird combination of strategic and disordered thinking. My grandfather was more decided randomly to drive to Alaska (from the SW) and drove his truck into a ditch The commenter on the next story: "VILE!" No it isn't but it's something to be negotiated at the beginning of the relationship and springing it on someone mid relationship varies between an act of betrayal and an emotionally terroristic act if there is an ultimatum attached (yay reddit, I've seen things)

[@jr5557]

300 dollars isn't even enough to pay the rent. Why do op even consider this wtf

[@SorenPenrose]

Stopping medication because you feel better. I get it. I did it for a few years. It’s hard to admit that you are fundamentally broken. This is the pill that makes you “fixed” in the eyes of your loved ones. It’s hard.

[@Rael0505]

For the “black owned business” story they really need to sue John. Clear grounds for a lawsuit there for slandering their business

[@indulgent_pooch]

Thumbnail saying rommate made me giggle. I needed that, thank you.

[@immapotato1]

knowing markee that might be on purpose 😂

[@ambermcglone4811]

Story 1) selling your body is never worth it let alone for $300

[@rebeccajohnson8579]

OP, hurry UP and find a job and RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! No way will I sell my body, tell her to find another roommate!

[@annabellehe4307]

300 is literally nothing lmao

[@OnyaB]

Hang on. Am I confused? It might be a cultural thing. But. The parents paid for the trip in the first place. Dad paid the 18yo for helping out. Parents tried to find babysitters. And the younger kids are really young too. Lost my mum recently. I moved countries two months before she passed. I couldn’t function mentally even though I had about a month’s heads-up (she got I’ll about two weeks after I moved. Stage 4 cancer all of a sudden. Super healthy mum. She died about 8 weeks later). I can’t imagine how I would have been able to look after myself even. I really don’t remember much except guilt and wishing I wouldn’t wake up. I do know. That it took me two years to find the job I got that helped me move countries. And before I moved I couldn’t get work. My parents (especially my mum) basically supported me for those two years. All the interviews I attended. Even starting a failed business. Heck. Even the moving costs (ticket, first couple months of rent and transportation) they pitched in. My first salary I used it to get a ticket home cause I couldn’t imagine what my dad was going through. I can’t imagine being upset that I had to ask for time off less than three months into the start of my new job. Like. I only got that job because of her support to start with. Back to th 18yo. Yes. It sucks. But. Life happens. And no! I don’t think the younger kids should have to be there when the parents are so scared. The parents did everything they could to make sure he was reimbursed and suffered as little as possible in the face of a literal EMERGENCY. I’m sorry he couldn’t go on a trip his father was paying for because his father needed his help. What happens when he needs help and everyone is like. Oop! It’s inconvenient right now? It’s just a little confusing. It’s also about supporting your parents through their hard times. Especially since they seem like they were very decent folks to their kids.

[@sorakatie1661]

totally agree! people on reddit are obsessed with the idea of people not owing anyone else anything. it's why so many of them are so alone and bitter, clearly! some things come before trips and this absolutely was one of them.

[@littlegreycat]

37:34 thanks for the final update! That was such a crazy story and i was hoping for one more update.

[@staylor3483]

OP with a Mustang: take mom's car to sister's house & retrieve yours!! NTA if you need to call the cops!!

[@daisyfaye3630]

I cant imagine not giving any and all money I have to save my baby brothers life. His Literal life. Smh

[@lina9535]

As someone who grew up with a single mom. You can totally be normal without a "full/normal" family upbringing. I'm well-rounded and a functional adult. Even with my ASD and ADHD (ADD). You can have a "broken/unstable" home and still end up just fine.

[@Smudge-nd7en]

Idk which story this is referring to but same to a certain extent only thing I can thing of is accidental emotional neglect because the parent is too busy

[@BUGt95.]

You need to take legal action against John Slander and harassment

[@dizzybee8966]

$300 for my body...ugh no thanks

[@lifewithlee6298]

The black owned business is messed up, John needs Tharpy

[@SilverMaychan]

And she isn't even black only 25%... she is more white.

[@tinak2576]

John has issues, LOTS of them.

[@kumikor3392]

This is just a matter of Jane not acknowledging that race and ethnicity are two different things. Whether if her mom was Hispanic or not, she looks visually black. That's just how race is. But Jon is harassing her, and she should get a restraining order on him. Regardless this wouldn't have happened if Jane was more mature and had this conversation privately.

[@Silent_Ghoul]

Jon thinks everything should be his way, he kept on telling Jane how to do things, how to represent herself is just another on of those things. Jane wants her business to thrive or fail on her work, not on her race. So often people of colour are accused of only doing well because they only got ''it'' from being a person of colour. Jane is obviously talented, her cakes speak for themselves.

[@rebeccataylor2049]

Check for cameras throughout the house and make sure they're not in your own rooms!😮

[@MrsSerene]

Is no one gonna ask how she walked through OP's kitchen when the front door should have been locked and friends should have been informed

[@mrsangelafisher]

This is why I stopped doing photography. Everyone wanted the "family rate." Free.

[@kuehnerthanyou3409]

OP whos In-laws were in the car accident, youre NTA. People suggesting he should have took the children to the hospital with them clearly never spent time in the hospital as a smaller child. Before the age of 12 I probably spent a good two years of time total in the emergency waiting rooms, surrounded by screams of pain and distraught family members. My own mom had constant health issues and had to bring me with, and I developed anxiety at a very early age. Its not a good environment, and it would have been a lot of extra stress for OP and his wife. OP's son isnt an ass for being angry, but he is for acting like this was something personally done to mess his plans up instead of a horrible accident that thankfully didnt become a tragedy. I cannot imagine being so far up my own ass at 17-18 to feel slighted by the NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCE OF MY GRANDPARENTS???? He could have still gone on the trip, but decided to have a temper tantrum and refuse the rest of the trip. I hope he looks back and feels horribly embarrassed of his behaviour as an adult.

[@nekoettechan5433]

the problem with open relationships as seen on reddit is that no one ever truly communicates. healthy polyamory and ethical non-monogamy is possible and happens often, but people in healthy polyamorous relationships are far FAR less likely to post to reddit airing out the details because a core tenant of healthy polyamory and ethical non-monogamy is the ability to communicate openly and honestly with all your partners. that's what you need to make any relationship work, and with relationships that can get as complicated as polyamorous ones do (i've had poly friends joke about how scheduling dates and time for all their partners and partners's partners is more complex than any custody agreement) the communication has to be open and honest.

[@stuffedninja1337]

1:27:00 - You Went ~♪ Too Far ~♪ When You Stole ~♪ My Car ~♪ Ain’t That A Shaaaaame ~♪ Your Tears Fell Like Raaaain ~♪ Ain’t That A Shaaaaame ~♪ You’re The One To Blame! ~♪

[@bearb.7406]

COLLEGE RENTERS: Hardly unfair...and they are not friends.

[@teacheschem]

Son whose grandparents are in the hospital is an AH. What is wrong with him? They could be complete strangers and yet you know how upset your mom is and you are throwing a tantrum about missing 3 days of a 2 week trip. Immature and self centered to the max! Now he is an adult I hope he is not asking anything else from his parents.

[@lifewithlee6298]

He got torn a new aHole when 😅he talked to mom. Not sure what he thought the mom would do?

[@corlenajames1381]

@@lifewithlee6298 Right🤭. I was so glad to hear that.

[@thebhome]

Former Throupler: I will say it's mostly a relationship best explored young. Had I not left for college I might have still been in it, but its really a relationship that needs to start very early and be extremely honest and open. However, we entered into it with everyone being aware... its not something that gets introduced later. The real number of people who can have an open mind when introduced later is a very small number, and those who actually can be in a throuple is even smaller. Jealousy is a b*** so it needs to be strictly rules at the beginning until everyone gets comfortable

[@alexshaw8167]

This comment makes me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. A relationship best entered YOUNG? Before college??? You’re talking under 18. Don’t go recommending sexual relationships to children.

[@thebhome]

@@alexshaw8167 So you assume young as in under college and assume I went into college after I graduated HS. Though your're somewhat correct, I went to Community before entering full college which I entered in at 21. I say young as in 18 when you become an adult because its you can determine if it works for you or it doesn't. I say it has to start very early as in the Throuple status, not their age. If you try to make a couple into a throuple after some time, it can make either party uncomfortable or trust begins to break down. Please dont assume since I never specified a age.

[@protojager]

You only ask about opening the relationship of you already have someone in mind or a strong desire to cheat, if you're just interested in the idea of an open relationship or polyamory, you poke around ask questions and gauge your partners interest or acceptance of that kind of thing first.

[@AnnieAnnieBuckwheatCakes]

I have to disagree with Markee's take on the 18 year old who was forced to give up his trip to look after his siblings. The parents could've taken the kids with them. The notion that older siblings are built in babysitters is delusional. Also, news flash, an 18 year old is an adult and should be treated accordingly. He planned this trip and should've been able to go. If the grandparents had taken a bad turn, I'm sure he would've gone home to deal with the family tragedy.

[@chulutheimposter5415]

I understand your comment, however you must take into account the trauma, the kids could have been put in a bad space by seeing not only their grandparents in such a condition but also seeing their mother in such distress. It was for their own well beings that they were left at home. It's not like OP left his son with the kids for a date night, this was an emergency that traumatized himself and his wife. Even my own older brother would have canceled his own trip to look after my younger brother if my grandparents ended up in a similar situation. OP tried everything he could and absolutely did not want to put his son to the job but he had no other choice

[@nb8817]

Why isn’t the mom(op) taking her 5 year old son to the bathroom when they go to public places? Why does she think its the responsibility of her preteen stepson, who’s still a child, wouldn’t be able to protect himself or her kid if something dangerous happened, and hasn’t known her/her kids for that long, to do that? In my experience when a parent/parents have more than one young child and they all go to public places together everyone takes bathroom breaks together so the parents can make sure nothing bad happens and nobody gets lost/separated. Why is she confused that her partners young son won’t help her parent? That’s weird. He’s also a kid and it’s not like he’s a high schooler being asked to help watch out for his younger siblings for a bit he’s literally around the same age as her kids. 🙃

[@gabinathan5499]

PARETIFICATION IS NOT FAIR + NOT ACCEPTABLE TO ME. OP SHOULD B CONSIDERATE OF THE OLDEST SON.

[@elsaflood6393]

S1. So OP obviously fell from the sky. No mother, no father brother sister aunt or uncles . No friends. Absolutely no one in this world. So sad.

[@indigofeilds9520]

what???

[@CosticDragon]

1:26:52 even temporary loss of your property is still theft and since it’s a car it is a felony.

[@RosesTeaAndASD]

The mentally ill co-worker who was convinced she had the affair was seriously let down by the relatives not assisting her to take her medication. She NEEDED their support and this delusion could have stopped escalating and not driven OP & their family to move house. At least she had one relative trying to help her, it just wasn't enough. Now she's lucid and caring for a baby and OP & their family will carry the effects of this trauma with them for the rest of their lives.

[@amandapal152002]

Lmao i had to pick up my phone to read along to see what/ if "pachacho" was replacing a word or if i needed to go to google to learn a new slang word. 😅 im old now haha

[@ra2863]

So for the stepsister cake story, I have to say under utilized potential for petty revenge. She didn’t give OP the details to make what she wanted properly other than visually what it looks like, I would take that and run with it. Make the outside of the cake exactly like she wants but mix and match those internal flavors, replace sugar with salt, baking powder with baking soda. When people ask or comment mention she got what she paid for. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

[@denises3630]

Theres alot to learn from some of these insane reddit stories.. mainly that everyone has and is entitled to their own opinions.. but we should never try to force them onto others around us.. be nice to family, but dont let them abuse you. Know when to say no and when to cut people off.

[@skyelindsey687]

“My step son bullies my children by excluding them from his friend group and bragging when he wins video games.” So he’s being a sibling?

[@amandapal152002]

I like when u show the pictures

[@prince_sylex]

2:00:00 Gawd, that son is an ass. I hope the Grandparents are now better. OP did his best and Reddit just shots on him. I am so furious on OP's behalf

[@Froshow]

$300 isn't enough. It sounds like the roommate may be getting more but only giving her 300.

[@CosticDragon]

33:11 they need to see an ultrasound and the paperwork from the OB this could very well be a False Pregnancy

[@jennaramos1229]

I think depending on the person it can come off more rude than congratulatory. I would never post congratulations to my friend for being a black teacher lol

[@tinamelton6491]

If you don't want to pay get out. You're getting a hell of a deal and you won't get it anywhere else. Don't give me your attitude I don't have to live with stress in my house.

[@skyelindsey687]

“We need to fight racism by being racist and saying things like ‘despite being black you accomplished [this]’.” Like seriously, if you want racism to end then stop applauding things happening in a life just based off the fact of the color of their skin. Applaud them because a business is a difficult thing to get going. You shouldn’t have to put (race) owned business, it should just be (business name), owned by (owner).

[@kylemendoza8860]

I don't think the college friends so much have envoy. I think you see a friend that's in a position to help them but is making money off them instead. They're not wanting to stay for free. I mean they're willing to pay their expenses. She's wants to go into profit margins.

[@ElisaSarah]

59:00 sounds like my STEP-monster. she has always HATED my brother and I. and always insulted us.

[@elijahfontanilla9840]

18:32 Markees accent sounds like "cock rash" 😂

[@Jorirah]

The 18 year old didn't want to miss his graduation trip for a literal life and death situation 😂of his grandparents. WTF. Thank God for the Mum setting him straight. Their son has no empathy for his family members 😬 questionable

[@nonsensicaluniverse4757]

I’m kinda bitter about the son not going on the trip story. He can miss one roadtrip, he has his whole life to go on thousands of trips! I don’t understand why Reddit thinks people are assholes for stopping recreational activities like trips when there is an emergency. When my baby brother got sick, like so sick I watched him choke on his breath and struggle to breathe sick, my mom left us with family friends until things were stable. Of course it’s not the same but I was at an age those redditers would consider “old enough” to be alone with my younger siblings. Still I needed the support of people who stopped their lives to make sure we were okay Sorry I ranted

[@Optronix117]

You say that like 18yo's are rolling in cash their whole lives... he's justified in being upset but I get the fact it's a family emergency.

[@corlenajames1381]

@@Optronix117 He's not justified for yelling at his parents under those circumstances, especially not his mom. OP came home & tried to pay him, & get him to catch up with his trip which was only 1 state over at the time, & he would've still had just under 2 weeks for his trip. How much of a disservice have we done to our youth when EIGHTEEN years of age becomes too young to understand the difference between recreation & a life-threatening family emergency? Thank goodness his grandparents survived. God forbid that someday, he gets the call that both his parents have been severely injured in a crash.

[@LittleMaitea]

I’m not at that story yet … just having to mention my neighbour and friend (who was like a little brother growing up) also thought that he had his whole life ahead He postponed somethings as he could go there/do this later … he died at the age of twenty! sadly you never know what opportunity is never comming back or what people you are never be able to see again…

[@asfodelos3225]

They literally still wanted to send the son on the trip after the crisis was adverted, which is the best case scenario for everyone, his reaction just tells me he's entitled and spoiled. He has a right to be upset but 18 is old enough to recognize your parents had no options but then tried to make it up to you. To yell at your mom and call her selfish when her parents almost died is asshole behavior. These horrible things happen, he's lucky his grandparents were on the mend and his father still thought to help him catch up with his friends.

[@mari.s752]

Open the relationship; I made the mistake of not getting out when the subject was brought up by my ex. That was over 2 decades ago and while there was cheating it was not on my part. Although we have been significantly geographically devided for more than 20 years to this day I live with the haunting regret of not having immediately packed my stuff and GTFO upon learning of her infidelity. Advice to the up and coming, when your SO tells you that they want to change the core tenets of your relationship they are telling you that the relationship as you knew it is over.

[@carolroberts4614]

More or less the same story for me! Over thirty years ago, but I still kick myself occasionally!

[@Nicholem718-1]

I had someone tell me that we should take a break once. I agreed and told him he can have all of the freedom he wants to see whomever he wants- very calmly. As I left, I told him that I would not be one of the people in his stable and wished him well. He freaked out. If he knew me at all, he would’ve known that he’d be immediately ghosted.

[@MaxPower-js1sk]

$300? Idk what a pro lady charges, but that doesn’t sound like much to hire out one’s body. Some of my students at university do this to make money. It’s legal in my country.

[@randomaccount-dq1jq]

Damn the blinkers on the first OP. I understand wanting a tribute to your mum but as the commentors said hes pushing it on the wrong side of the family, then they get the siblings involved to be an echo chamber that the paternal family should allow a tribute of his mother only. For someone whos not wanting to cause a rift in the family they aint half trying to cause the siblings to have resentment against the aunt.

[@mattiekarwin3667]

The open marriage story is interesting to me because in a different story with the same situation, Markee was actually against the OP, claiming that it sends the message that partners can't open up about things. The videos were too close together for it to reasonably be a change in mindset, and the only difference between the stories that I'm seeing is that the genders were flipped. I'm not calling Markee sexist by any means, but we do live in an inherently biased society and I'm too OCD to not notice the difference in his responses. I suppose the partner in this story had way lower standards, but I don't think that should effect the judgment. To be clear I agreed with both OPs for leaving, that's why Mark siding with and then against (or the other way round, not sure of the order) it caught my attention.

[@K.Esmerelda-zy7cf]

I'm not against poly people but I could never do it. You don't hear that much about successful poly relationships because they have about twice the fail rate of monogamous ones which is already nearly 50%. The truth is that most people are not capable of being in a poly relationship. Humans are serial monogamous. Meaning that they typically have a series of mono relationships over the course of their life. There's also the fact that people in successful poly relationships aren't out asking strangers for advice on a failing relationship.

[@naoko7184]

The parents having the 18 year old delay his graduation trip for a genuine family emergency we’re absolutely NTA. I wonder how many of the commenters condemning them have 4 layers of emergency babysitting planning (which didn’t even include the oldest child),like OP and his wife had. The son ITA. His dad not only paid him for the time he was babysitting, he offered to get the son to a rendezvous with his friends so he could still have 12 days of a 14 day vacation. The son chose to throw a passive aggressive snit and cut off his nose to spite his face. The loss of the trip was 100% the son’s fault.

[@Bunny-sm1hx]

2 story is Omgs wtf im so sorry that happened to you.

[@catpoke9557]

One thing I think Jane did wrong was snapping at OP for defending her. I get she was heated but that's EXACTLY what you want from a friend. If someone says something absolutely horrible about you and they just sit and stare in silence that's the opposite of the right thing to do. Stand up for your friends. Or, if they don't want you to, respect that of course. But don't get mad at a friend if they don't realize you don't want them defending you the first time it happens. The vast majority of people WANT to be stood up for, especially if someone is being racist, sexist, homophobic, etc, so it's unfair to yell at them for it unless they do it again after they told you not to. EDIT: She apologized so it's all good

[@dead_vibes]

1:52:10 so Grey Fern didn't read how her family turned their back on her first??

[@beaner2night732]

Story 2, I get the feeling this is a situation where there are no AHs. Lack of communication. I just imagine if a friend asks me to move in with them to help with rent. Then I find out that they get charged $300 and I'm paying $500. I would be mad. Not because I feel I'm overpaying, but because I would see it as my friend is being underhanded/malicious. Taking advantage of me. Where they could see it as helping me out by charging me way less than what it would cost. Now, in this hypothetical situation, if my friend explains the situation to me, I would feel like they trust me and might accept their offer. All that being said. I get it, you don't have to share the info if you don't want. But if you are going to share this information, share this type of information when it makes sense.😂

[@RGisselle]

I was recently in a situation like this. I later found out my rm’s mortgage was paid off and did not need my rent to help with her mortgage but I got a good deal and no one owes me free housing. She was charging me way less than regular rent…

[@MaryKenyon-yo7qd]

Story 1: i just made both of my adultbkids promise to call me before doing something they are uncomfortable doing whike also saying if selling their body was ok with them i will back them. I also brought up more than just that on being uncomfortable doing. Some homes are worth doing anything yo NOT go to parents however I do all i can to make it way better even with them not here

[@stephjovi]

Damn America. Drowning in medical debt. The USA is the a hole in that story

[@nyaatama8529]

Never bought any woman but do find it funny the guy is called a creep when it is her female friend trying to pimp her out😅

[@annekai]

Yeah, the previous swinger guy who dumped his girlfriend for asking about opening the relationship..... He's a total drama queen, oh my godddddd! I really hope he never takes her back. Cause for her, it's a bullet dodged. He's such a hypocrite. And it's not like she cheated, she brought something up in a discussion, and all he had to do was say, no, and it was over.

[@lina9535]

The kid with the kidney thing, that's when you go to gofundme and ask for help. Not try to strongarm your other kid (who you failed as a parent, harsh words but true in my opinion), to give up their chance at education.

[@nahb4089]

Open relationships only work if they start as open relationships. Not years down the road. I have a few friends in poly relationships, them and their priority partners seem to have a healthy standing with each other.

[@5688gamble]

See, people recgnize that landlords are parasites! Your uncle owns a building so because you know him, we get to work hard and live on instant noodles and give everything to you so that you can go out, buy fashionable clothes, etc? Even if it is a "good deal" it is bs. The building exists, the uncle owning it adds no value, but because he is fortunate enough to own a building, he can coerse others to give him money by providing the illusion of a service!

[@sandracox4341]

Landlords have to pay for upkeep, repairs, and taxes. Then they have to pay to repair damage and clean after tenants leave. If they are paying mortgage on the building they have that to cover as well. No one goes into being a landlord to offer free housing. It's their job, of course they are in it to make money. You would not own a business expecting to only break even, and give away products or services for free.

[@BrookeBrantnall]

ew why is she making a 12 year old boy that isnt directly related to the ""younger" however younger it may be child. not his job its the moms wtf

[@cpaul9269]

I just don't have 2.5 hours to listen to this whole story, but in response to the title and first few minutes, "SAY NO." If you don't want to sell yourself for that, then please, please don't! You can NEVER undo that once you go there. I'm not judging those that do, mind you, but you don't sound at all comfortable. F her -she is not at all a friend if she is doing this to you. He is gross.

[@mc11213]

You do know that the story itself isn't two and half hours long? At most, 10 minutes.

[@cpaul9269]

@@mc11213 LOL! I did not! About 5mins in, I realized I had heard it before, so bailed. Point remains the same tho.

[@FanFicnic]

God the baker Instagram story is some early 20s crap that I am so glad I no longer experience.

[@rebeccataylor2049]

RUN!! 😢

[@jokestermasteroflaughter7754]

Jane needs to sue the pants off of John for slander.

[@rachaelclark8465]

Mustang story, Call the police. Just because it's your mom/sister, means sh!t in a hand basket. Besides, the insurance company will make you anyway.

[@kibasays]

Re: open relationships and the (apparent) failure rate thereof. (Story at around 40:00) Not every open relationship starts as a monogamous one. Attempting to convert a monogamous relationship into something else is *extremely* likely to not end well, times ten when it’s not a genuine desire on both partners’ parts, and it’s tragic imo that it happens so often. I mean, talk about moving goalposts. The comments about, essentially it’s poor relationshipping skills when a person attempts to avoid-addressing issues in one relationship by engaging in another/different one are spot-on. Unfortunately that’s (the avoidance) often a motivating factor when someone’s asking to open a previously-monogamous relationship. It kindof reeks of monkey-branching. Open relationships that begin as such are a very different story. But a lot less common, and it’s hard to reach the same level of dramatic tension, so the stories aren’t as much of a train wreck of dumpster fires. 🤷‍♀️ (Re: the story in question, IMO OP did the best thing they possibly could have. That was a real smart decision, not at all an extreme reaction.)

[@nikkil.6338]

Came here to say Its me I have a potato body!

[@rebeccataylor2049]

RUN

[@keepdancingmaria]

What do you do? You say, "NO" Why are so many people so spineless? This is just someone you share a living space with.

[@suzannewright4794]

Landlord who started young. Never rent to friends or relatives. Never rent to desperate people who want to give you money right now. That's the last money you will see. We were 25 and started with two duplex apartments. Lived in one and used three other rentals to pay the mortgage. With expenses of taxes the sale and repairs, you will break even for the first year. When you buy a building even if you change nothing at least one will leave so count on handling that. Good luck

[@PrincessAshley-Kawaii]

Story at 55 minutes in, Girl never had siblings, or hates the kid. 12 year old dont wanna walk 5 year old to bathroom in public why not the father? 10 year old and 12 straight up is a normal rival to out do each other?!