My Lifelong Battle Escaping my Abuser

[@ShevaHalpern]

Pinny, keep going strong Never give up!!!

[@ShevaHalpern]

Thank you for speaking about this!!!!!! Pinny you are amazing!!! Never give up! Keep going strong 💪 You got this! No words only tears. I understand; I've gone through my own journey. They're all unique but share similar symptoms, struggles, and hardships. So, thank you once again for addressing this sensitive topic.

[@ezk613]

Pinny was my Counselor in camp 1995 (he actually got engaged that summer if I remember correctly) he was the most Warm, devoted , fun, nice, amazing , best counselor i will never forget that summer he was the best counselor in camp everybody wanted to be in his bunk I would never ever ever dream that he was going through such trauma at the time you hid it amazingly NEVER GIVE UP

[@LivingLchaim]

Pinny is the best.

[@pinny81]

I don't know who you are, but I sure remember you and all my campers. the reason I was able to hide my skeleton in the closet and be the most popular counselor was because I had the most amazing campers. Thank you for the good memories.

[@ShevaHalpern]

Pinny, keep going; you're making a difference for countless individuals, perhaps even hundreds or thousands. May Hashem give you the strength to help yourself and others.💪 Thank you!!!!! 🙏

[@lisaehrlich8938]

Never give up, Pinny. Thank you for sharing your powerful story. May you continue in your healing and helping our community

[@SLMars.]

Pinny, Never give up♥♥ You are Amazing!!

[@user-nd4gc4et4b]

I am a survivor of Sexual abuse and this made me cry, I was a killed person for so so many years all day every day I just couldn’t bear to be alive through such pain, and I didn’t know why I was this messed up and this just made me validate myself and realize that It makes sense that it destroyed me the way it did. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for having the courage and strength to be the voice of all the survivors that are in the depths of the darkness and give us strength, hope and understanding and comfort.

[@weeklydaily4775]

Praying for you to have healing and blessings

[@user-nd4gc4et4b]

Wow! That means so so much to me! Thank you so much!!

[@user-nd4gc4et4b]

Thank you so much!!

[@Sassysongstress]

I'm so sorry for your suffering and thank you for sharing what happened to you. Believe me, sadly you are Not ALONE....many of us are survivors...stay STRONG...❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@HonestAbe689]

@pinny never give up. Your bravery in doing this podcast helps more people than you will ever know.

[@ShevaHalpern]

That's so true!!11

[@נעמיפרחי-ל7ו]

יישר כוח על הגבורה להתמודד בלי הפסקה עם ניסיון כזה, ויישר כוח על הרצון לסייע לאחרים במניעה ובהתמודדות. יברכך ה'!

[@niselvogel1221]

Never give up! Wow I got especially emotional when Pinny truly forgave his Rebbi (the second one). Thank you for sharing!!

[@BittulGate]

From one Pinchas to another: you've inspired and encouraged me to never give up!

[@lynnturnersousley1035]

Pinny, never give up. ❤️💪🏻🙏🏼

[@MsMuradova]

Wow I have no words, G-d bless you for speaking out and bringing awareness to this topic! Hashem should continue to heal you, may u only see brocha and hatzlacha in your life! Thanks so much for being so vulnerable with us, I can't imagine it being easy! Wishing u only the best!

[@themajestyofchassidus8770]

Pinny thank you so much for sharing this with us , with others …so many messages of hope and wisdom with interpersonal relationships and with ourselves too. What a star, and may you keep shining and help others find their nekudos tovos and not give up ad bias hamoshiach!!

[@lisaabroad1192]

Pinny, never give up! You are such an inspiration!

[@לויגיטה]

with all you have gone through, what a beautiful neshama you are! so so much immeasurable pain, and you are so wise, kind, and a true light. May Hashem Bless you and your family and your holy so-compassionate endeavors

[@elianepeha3300]

So important to open up this subject You are a hero

[@AhuvasarfatiSiberians]

Thank you for being upfront. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for being the voice for all those who aren’t ready yet. Thank you for being ehrlich and showing others a victim can stay shomer Shabbos and they can learn to heal and forgive and grow. As a Life Coach who knows too many victims. Thank you for working so hard to make our will a safer place. Zi Gebentsched

[@SH-yo6em]

Thank you for your inspiration and your bravery

[@jod5834]

Thank you for your words, it's so painful for you... I'm sure you will help many many others, thank you for the courage, you are amazing human being! I'm not Jewish, and you are hero for me, thank you Pinny!

[@shauneilscott]

This was very candid and extremely effective at explaining so many aspects of abuse. Hard subject. Thank you for covering it.

[@MCBrody112]

NEVER GIVE UP PINNY. A true inspiration!

[@readaloudeduc5547]

Never give up! Thank you for sharing your story and for your strength and bravery! Such an inspiration

[@nsufrin4364]

Wow! Pinny thank you for sharing your story and being so open about such an incredibly painful journey. Truly moving and inspirational and so important to hear. Thank you.

[@mf3545]

Wow, unbelievable how much pain someone can carry in silence. At the same time, a smile is always painted on pinnys face. This episode will probably have the most views

[@joelhandler958]

Wow Pinny! Keep up your holy work! This takes a lot of courage!

[@ChanaFeit]

Never give up!!! Pinny your an inspiration, thanks for sharing your story, kol Hakavod

[@joemiz25]

I'm so sorry you went through all that 🥺 May H"KBH always Bless your and your family

[@CruzFavela]

Never give up, I appreciate that he was honest and spoke about suicide thoughts because a lot of people including programs that are design to deal with these trauma prefer not to touch the these subject, thank you for speaking out and been honest and might Hashem bless you and your family with health and wealth financially.

[@Samyboy938]

Wow wow. Pinny never give up. We love you brother!!!

[@debbyf5286]

Wow this episode has been heartbreaking to watch but at the same time so comforting to know that Pinny is out there helping, comforting and guiding victims. In addition to talking about it and bringing more awareness! I feel like this topic is so important to keep bringing up due to its very secretive nature in our community! Thank you and may all those struggling find comfort and healing ❤️‍🩹

[@orlyshalouh8183]

Wow what an amazing man! Amazing how you never gave up and got the help you needed! May you continue to be successful in all you do!

[@Natelch511]

It is the most inspirational talk I've heard for a ling time and the most important one! Pini, you do something important in your life!!

[@Avrumiabowitz]

Pinny went strong 💪 and the results are his son is my life saver

[@miriamfink98]

Never give up! I'm speechless... this is such an important topic to discuss because it's so hidden in most communities , thanks so much for speaking up!❤

[@alysbenj2299]

#nevergiveup Wow I am in awe. I know you have a seat right next to Hashems thrown. Thank you for being so real and transparent.

[@LivingLchaim]

100%

[@Rodriguezreedp]

Thank you so much Pinny for surviving and having the bravery to try to make a difference. I was also abused and I can relate so much to the pain you described. When I went through my suicidal phase, I was so miserable and just did not want to live, I didn’t even tie the events and the emotions together. I didn’t make the connection and didn’t know why I felt the way I did. I was blessed with a baby boy and all of that disappeared. I realized the trauma many years later and went through the emotions again, this time I clung closer to Hashem and it was like He opened my eyes and ears. Baruch Hashem for that and for you! You are bringing people healing!

[@HuongHoang-wt6om]

I love this ❤️ Thank you so much!

[@rwdnick]

Never give up Pinny. Incredible bravery sharing this.

[@therealdealdev4126]

Wow. This was so painful to watch and so amazing that he can share and wants to help. Please tell me that this abuser was arrested and that he isn't still in contact with ppl that he can harm!!!

[@pinny81]

Thank you for your support, and I appreciate your concerns. By the time I was ready to confront my abuser, the statue of limitations long passed and I couldn't bring charges against him. Unfortunately, I believe he will always be a risk, but I exposed him publicly and privately where it mattered. As a result, he is ostracized from many Shulls.

[@ttee6990]

@@pinny81 this is what i what i was thinking before i read your answer. why not publicize his name again. we need to know so we can watch our backs.

[@pinny81]

@@ttee6990 His name is Lipa Templer. I especially did not name him, cause I did not want to make the story about myself. I just wanted to bring awareness and show people how abuse looks like. How most victims are silenced. How victims amongst us are invisible and suffer in silence. And a message to survivors, that you can be in the belly of hell and still get out and live a wonderful life. There is hope. Thank you for your feedback

[@josephklein8692]

Pinny never give up...ur a shaliach for so many people out there.

[@mirib5534]

A true inspiration. He went through a very hard challenge and really came out strong! Hashem should give you the koach to continue what u are doing. Keep being strog!

[@shoshanaa4297]

Wow this person is a tzadik! Such a crazy story so much pain in many ways bh ur here and trying to help others may hashem help you on this journey ty for sharing ur story

[@CarenHolmes-x3j]

Wow! I just found this and I'm literally crying. My sister is a survivor and it feels so validating! Thank you

[@Leboroxit]

It takes one to know one. Crying for his pain and crying for his strength. 💔 #NEVERGIVEUP

[@ChayaFellerman]

So important, thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

[@MarkBklyn]

When i was young boy 11-12 years old, my mother sent me to a lubavitch sleep away camp for the entire summer. I did not have a father and my mom had no choice but to send me there for the entire summer so she can work freely and save money to support our household. When i got there, i started to get abused physically and emotionally day in and day out by the rabbi there. He use to make me and my friends there feel severe pain by beating us with hockey sticks but with our clothes on so we wouldn’t have any bruises. He use to make our lives a living hell. Take our snacks away, make us stand in the 100 degree sun with our hands up holding a baseball bat for hours, if we ever dropped the bat, we use to start all over. The mental abuse he did to me i still feel to date. Smacking me, twisting my arms, if I wouldn’t listen or take 2 cookies from lunch room instead of 1. When I complained to my mom, he always denied and beat me after she would leave, pull my hair, make me hold my eye lids open for few minutes until i dropped to the floor crying. I will never forget his face, but i wish I remembered his name to pay him a visit.

[@BittulGate]

😢 I am so sorry that you had that experience! No child ever deserves such treatment!

[@Vera-dc7my]

So sorry. Bless you!

[@ujoepost]

Was he charged

[@SamStein-m4k]

WOW WOW pinny your a real role model keep it up❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@mendyzeiger3624]

Pinny, We were in London together (I'll leave it at that - you know where). I remember those good old days. I knew nothing about your suffering up until that moment. I only hope that I did not cause you any more grief than you were already suffering. I honor your growth, and I truly don't know how you ended up such a well adjusted person despite your mountain of challenges. Chazak!

[@sussieedelstein8838]

Never give up. Never stop. There are many victims and parents out there that need to hear you. Be matzliach. A git kvittel to your entire family from ours. Sussie

[@pinny81]

Dear Aunt Sussie, The reason I am where I am today and I am able to give Chizuk to others, it all started with a voicemail message from you. A message of support that carries me till today. This should be a lesson to all aunts out their. Thank you Thank you Thank you💕

[@sarahmiles449]

Never Give Up! Yashir Koach Pinny!

[@7Meme6997]

I’ve been in family courts in uk, it’s horrific they are giving children to abusers, the hardest part is the how unbelievable it is. Please pray for children’s safety…

[@mrsbron9696]

NEVER GIVE UP Kol Hakovod fir your bravery to speak out You should have success from now on

[@esbest5346]

This held my breath. As a mother of boys and girls, it is so scary to hear this...I couldn't sleep. My heart goes out for this person and his family. He is doing so much good for speaking up. I wonder what the abuser feels like now, or does he not feel any shame or remorse?? Was he abused himself, did he want control, sick pleasure, or just looking to hurt? Why?? What is the best way to get a child to talk, if this ever happens Gd forbid?

[@Litefrire]

Thank you for speaking out

[@lucialopez4607]

Never give up!! This is true we have to fight for our happiness and healing. I have been molested when I was very young and when I did speak up I did not get the reaction I was expecting. So thank you for reopening that memory and helping those that still need healing. There is still consequences from this happening and is hard to resolve issues because it is mental. But I want my true happiness for me and for my family.❤

[@pinny81]

My heart aches for what you have been through. I only wish strength, healing and happiness. ❤

[@AT-eb5tc]

Horrifying! Thanks for sharing and bringing awareness.

[@ennisel]

heaven bless you Pinny

[@anitabarone219]

Hashem didn't let you go off His Holiness. Sorry for your long suffering however your G-dly victory, and staying righteous all along, is a testimony of true success. I am sure your wife, children and descendants will always honor you with high regards.

[@BenSkyLakewood]

Brave of him to come forward

[@m.sigler4030]

As a mother in this community this story is my worst nightmare but so important to recount and bring awareness to, the more open we are to educating ourselves the more we can protect the most vulnerable. Did you ever want to press charges and convict your abuser? Putting him through a trial might bring more silent victims to light?

[@sheikowi]

I would like to hear Pinny's reply to your question. Factual reply, not just endorsement of "L'Chaim" or thanks to dear Aunt Sussie.

[@estif3405]

Thank you, Pinny for never giving up❤

[@KosherWithoutBorders]

There is a common theme with Pinny and Yonasan Schwartz in "The Heartbreaking Saga of a Hasidic Matchmaker." There seems to be 2 types of people... One type is the 1000's that went to Yonasan Schwartz mother's funeral. They felt terrible, watched a child say Kaddish for his mother R"L, and... then went home and did nothing. The other type are the evil monsters who saw him and Pinny as an opportunity and a target. Let's strive to be like the third type of person. Most importantly, because of this common theme, there should be special attention given to Yesomim to make sure they are not being victimized. My heart goes out to all the victims, and my deepest respects and admiration to Pinny.

[@rachelberkowitz2540]

Wow ty hashem that you are doing good .

[@SaraSulman-h2u]

Neve give up. You are an inspiration

[@rosameijering5161]

This is very important to speak about

[@JuneBomzer]

You probably saved many lives with your story. Hatzlacha

[@Vera-dc7my]

Heart breaking ! So that rabbi who abused him manipulated him again to feel sorry for him and forgive him without paying the consequences. Wow

[@RK67655y]

@pinny81 I listened to this yesterday and couldn't stop thinking of it since. So horrific, evil and beyond sad. How someone can do this, all the while maintaining a respectable status in their community, is beyond. How he had the audacity to abuse you like that in his own house is another level of crazy. Im assuming if he was so monstrously violent to you, a helpless little boy, he was also abusive to many other children and more so, his wife. You say you kept trying to cause damage in those times, the fact that he didnt have a problem that his wife might question him upon seeing the damages, also adds to my assumption he abused her over the years. It is unfathomable how you lived in such isolated thoughts and experiences all those years, unhelped, untreated and misunderstood. I am in the least bit surprised you attempted taking your life after your clear account of your experience. Yet Hashem saved you, thus giving other tortured souls the gift of your understanding and ghidance and of course you and your family another chance at life. This is the worst nightmare for any parent. As a mother to young children, I don't want my kids growing up clueless to what is good and bad touch and behavior. I think that it gives any predator a huge advantage if a child doesnt even know that something is wrong. I would love an age-by age appropriate quidance from our communities askanim and professionals on how to properly relay these sensitive but important topics to our children. I know its hard in Williamsburg especially, but I hope this will come one day as awareness increases. May we all be zoche to the geula shleima and may all pain be erased and healed.

[@bblevien]

Never give up.Hashem loves you.

[@izzycool867]

Amazing I wish you guys can have gedalya fenster on this I have heard a little of his story but it would be incredible to see a deep conversation such as this one take place

[@meiramandel9022]

#nevergiveup thank you for sharing your story!

[@ruthcohencharif]

Pinny, I do not know how to give up. There is always a way to do something, a new tactic. Shalom from Jerusalem.

[@theperetzs6544]

Never give Up! Thank you for being so brave to share with us your story. Pinni , did forgiving your abuser is what healed you?

[@pinny81]

Your support means a lot to me. Thank you. I did not forgive my abuser, I forgave my Rebbi who did not believe me.

[@sklugmann7206]

Never give up!

[@pinny81]

@werty245 unapologetically, NO

[@Hershy_18]

​@@pinny81isn't it eventually a goal for some victims in order to move forward and not carry it around?

[@Tali5899]

I have only heard a couple of minutes of this episode where Pinny explains how his mother died when he was so young.Can we have more talks on which kids are typical targets in our communities and what their parents/guardians can do to keep them safe when they have to go to minyan/mikve or just the average cheder/yeshiva please?..... Please?

[@beans4853]

That's such an important point

[@shmuelandrochel]

Incredible sad, horrible, not acceptable! Opposite behaviors of every oz of our Torah! Your wife must be the most righteous lady ever! She is probably instrumental in every step of your healing. May you experience simcha and lots of nachas!

[@miriamkayman1846]

Never give up , speak up if someone acts bad

[@shaindystern1038]

Never give up thanks hashem he is ok now

[@sstroh3576]

They say, hashem doesn’t give a person pain he can’t handle, in pinny’s case it’s clearly different. What a strong character. The abuse and trauma is one episode, the recovery is really what’s striking! God bless pinny! Hope to meet you one day!

[@Vera-dc7my]

God did not do that to him nor gave him that, it’s the devil… stop blaming God. God has no intention or heart to see his children suffering. Have you heard of the devil? That Rabbi should be in jail where other inmates can abuse him like he did to this child. Shane on you blaming God!

[@sarawassner8463]

Pinny, you are so brave! If I may ask, how were you able to approach shidduchim pre dealing with the abuse and trauma? To begin a relationship and a marriage when you were hurt so horrifically. May Hashem give you healing and may you be able to help other survivors. Shana Tova.

[@pinny81]

Great question. As I said on the podcast, I didn't see myself as a victim. As much anger I had, and as much pain I carried, I wasn't able to articulate it or express it. It was my secret and part of my life until I wasn't able to live with it. Now, it's my mission to bring light to this subject 1) to prevent it from happening in the first place. 2) If Ch"V it does happen, one should get help before its too late or enter a relationship.

[@yogalevy2072]

Never give up!

[@nechihirsch5528]

Pinky you are an inspiration to the nation

[@estherszwerin3129]

Why wasn’t his abuser’s name publicized & why wasn’t he arrested & convicted to prevent others from suffering the same fate?

[@devoiryporgesz3206]

Pini never give up💪

[@JacobDriver-d5g]

One thing I'm unclear about is when the abuse actually stopped. Did it stop when you went to Israel for yeshivah? Did it stop at a certain age when you were physically stronger than the abuser? That part was missed...

[@estherszwerin3129]

Why wasn’t the abuser’s name publicized & arrested & convicted to prevent others from suffering the same fate?

[@meirlebovits1313]

Pinny #NEVERGIVEUP.

[@szyl8595]

Never give up!!😊

[@1thefacts]

The fact that this "rebbi" gave him cigarettes and let him use the computer was bad enough. I hope this is a very rare occurence in yeshivos. All children have to be taught what to do if someone approaches them in this way, and may all the perpretrators get punished in the way they deserve.

[@beans4853]

I believe he only did those things to build his trust...

[@FayJacobowitz]

They always look for the child who are going through hard times so so sad

[@ttee6990]

people didnt dream you were being abused. they probably thought bec you lost your mother you are having a difficult time. i would love to know what is with this abuser today. does he still work with bucherim? was he ever reported? did he get kicked out of yeshiva? did anyone confront him? except for that other rosh yeshiva?

[@pinny81]

He does not work with kids anymore and is very isolated in general. He was kicked out of 4 Yeshivas and many Shuls before he was exposed to all.

[@deenarubin2683]

Pinny never give up!

[@twinklestar94]

Hi, your bravery is incredible and the way you have turned it into a way to help others is admirable. I hope im not being insensitive but i ask in order to understand, when you contemplated suicide were you in a position to consider your wife and children being left or is the pain to all encompassing that you werent able to think of them? I find it so hard to understand how parents can leave a family behind etc an i dont want to judge, thank you

[@pinny81]

First, I must say, you have Chutzpa. LOL. Naa. It's a great question. I can explain, but it wont make sense, because it doesn't make sense. When someone reaches to that point, they will try to make sense of something senseless. I'll just say the following: PTSD must be recognized as a serious disease. it's a monster that slowly destroys a person until all energy is sucked out. The pain from PTSD is in many cases, beyond human endurance. Ask any survivor or you can ask any war veteran. There is suicide and there is suicide. A criminal taking there life to escape getting caught, is a selfish thug. PTSD suicide, is not suicide in my dictionary. there is just not another word in the vocabulary for self inflicted death. It's the disease that kills the person, not the person that suffers. In most cases, you can argue, it's the abuser that is guilty of murder. I beg anyone with suicidal thoughts, to seek help immediately.

[@irothman9269]

The problem with amudim is they never pick up the phone or get back to you!!!!

[@renafonfeder2162]

Pinny never give up

[@elihoffman5043]

Thank u so much for speaking publicly,I want to understand why do you think the abuser didn't remember what he did to u I just don't understand pls reply

[@pinny81]

It wasn't the abuser. It was the other Rebbi I had a conversation with.

[@meiramandel9022]

It wasn’t the abuser he approached. It was the rabbi that shamed him for speaking lashon hora.

[@meiramandel9022]

@@pinny81you didn’t mention anything about what happened to the abuser. I’m wondering what you think about approaching the abuser.

[@ShirleyEks-op4vq]

It takes so much courage to do what you are doing! I listened to your story erev Yom Kippur. My davening was definitely different. Please tell me though, that your abuser is behind bars already

[@pinny81]

Unfortunately, by the time I was ready to confront my abuser, it was passed Statue Of Limitations and I couldn't charge him anymore. I I still have a chance today, I would. Though, I did expose him publicly and privately which resulted in him living a very lonely life right now. He lost his old Shulls and all, I mean all his friends. To your question if I approached my abuser, yes, I did. I wish I haven't. I bumped into him on several occasions and beat the.... Out of him. Today, if I see him, I go the other way. I am much healthier today and he is not my focus. My focus is on stopping it from happening again to someone else and helping those who already have been hurt. Awareness is key.

[@yitzchokgreen-on2ux]

Never give up.

[@issyfreud6311]

Pini never give up

[@davidlanger5272]

Pinny NEVER GIVE UP

[@AliceRoss-v9t]

Never Give Up!