My Mom Had an Affair With a Catholic Priest

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- A woman reeling after learning her biological father is actually a Catholic priest
- A wife upset that her husband won’t engage in her West African culture
- A couple struggling with his son’s dangerous behavior
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[@mariaking4950]

FATHER, you are the FATHER!!! 😇😣

[@JJtvee]

Lol lol lol lol!!!!!

[@manylaughs9002]

That is hilarious

[@rachelabate2401]

That's creative 😅

[@bollocks42o]

that got me 😂😂😂

[@ED-wired]

😂

[@lsf71]

Re 1st caller : her mother did her wrong too. Wasn't such an angel, not telling the priest or her daughter. Probably if not for the DNA test, secret would have remained such. The 'saint' here is her step dad, taking on her mother & raising a priest's daughter.

[@andrewjackson9948]

Step dad went along with the lie. Probably to preserve his own standing. Thinking nothing of the child or father

[@TenaciousMegan]

​@@andrewjackson9948Or maybe he was thinking only about the child and put her needs first...he stayed with a women who lied and cheated and raised her as his own and treated her right her whole life. Theres no reality where he is the bad guy here.

[@andrewjackson9948]

@TenaciousMegan he knew from the beginning that it wasn't his child. That the mother was lying. He is evil too.

[@DrKrysRacquel]

@@TenaciousMegani think stepdad was aware she was pregnant

[@therealdeal3672]

I betcha that "Priest John" has a number of children scattered around the precinct about the same age and younger that will eventually be approaching him to let him know that he is their daddy. Seriously doubt that he didn't have other "affairs."

[@tellwilson1080]

Church probably covered it up as well

[@bilbobaggins4403]

Precinct 😮

[@chilledllama8830]

Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. Matthew 7:15 May God protect the children from the corrupt churches out there. Such a cruel, disgusting world.

[@scottishmamalivingingodslight]

You mean Father John!

[@probablynot1368]

@@bilbobaggins4403Parish

[@karynroeseler2652]

My son is a catholic priest and I've always told him everyone holds you to a higher standard

[@CeciliaReinheimer]

As they should.

[@bcent5758]

Coming from Ireland with so many scandals with priests in our history, I think I’d be happier if they could marry. Some of the priests went into the church to hide their sexual proclivities, most were genuinely kind and religious men, but the trust in priests does not exist in my generation. The Catholic Church is dying off very fast here.

[@Cole-rb3xv]

@@bcent5758 I think it’s the birth control almost every Catholic Wife is taking it. People think it’s no big deal but Is a mortal sin to take Birth control. Like no big families not a lot of vocations. And Vatican 2 council more people have been falling away since the 1960s drastically, less reverence and not holding Catholics to the high standard which we should hold ourselves more accountable and Sacrifice more. Like fasting age has dropped too, Communion in the hand it’s crazy. Most converts go to Latin Mass and like the Traditional original ways of the One true Church. Sad it’s being Corrupted.

[@TASmith-ou3is]

Absolutely. People in trusted positions have a Higher Duty

[@Cole-rb3xv]

@@bcent5758 Ya idk why the church Changed up after Thousands of year in the 1960’s. And getting rid of the Latin Mass recently here in the US? Like what it’s a free exorcism lol. I know the church is corrupted with bad people but the Faith is the One True Faith. That why I see the younger generation turning more Traditional Catholic. Converts going to Latin Mass so on.

[@ivnehaas]

2nd caller, Im brazilian married yo an American and I know exactly how you feel. So many Americans travel with their brazilian spouses, learn some words in the other's language, and incorporate their culture tontheir own and their identities... my husband, however, has done none of that, and his lack of interest is hurtful. The only reason he has ever visited my country is because I got pissed and demanded it. I feel your pain, you are not alone. ❤

[@mamaka_Q]

😢 that's so sad. I'm sorry that you have to live with that.

[@carriebell3566]

That’s way worse than you think. I hope you’re okay 💜

[@sarahkowalsky3984]

I really like how Delony handled the last call with the engaged couple. I thought he gave them clear directions, and compassion as well!

[@dubyabalthazar4598]

He was so clear but they didn't want to listen...especially dad, he acted to jot understand cuz it's not wut he wanted to hear. Dad needs to not send the child to his mom period. If she wants to see him, let the mom get funds, hire a lawyer n take him back to court. Dad needs to calls the moms bluff. The kid doesn't want to see mom. She shouldn't have access to him.

[@Dani-si8wv]

Dang it!! Just sucks what lil boy has gone thru! This whole sit sucks!!!

[@Poopiepies]

@@dubyabalthazar4598the fact he allowed the child back into the mothers grasp aftwr having video evidence of her behavior is deplorable.

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

No way Dr John has connections to Ghana! I feel so proud 🇬🇭 ❤

[@JJtvee]

The poor 6 year old boy needs his Dad to put him first. When you have kids you kids come first.

[@blueseptember2174]

It's a hard decision but sometimes you've got to put a romance aside to focus on the child. His bio mom isn't going to give it to him.

[@rachelkruse9087]

Hy husband and I dated almost 9 years and never lived together until all but my last was moved out of the house. It just seems messy to combine households of chaos. Our kids are great. My ex married and and divorced 2 times in the 12 years before I remarried. My kids had 5 step siblings from the 2 other marriages and I always worried about how it affected them or might in the future.

[@peggybaby0894]

I think you’re right! He needs it to be him and dad and be his main focus for a significant amount of time. He isn’t gonna accept anyone else until dad shows him he is the most important. 😢

[@JenniferAguiartampa]

While I feel for the parents who love each other, there is NO WAY I would stay in that situation. It’s selfish of both parents.

[@chelsmaria]

Third caller deserves more love in this comment section. That poor family. Very concerned about the mental well-being of that little boy and everyone around him.

[@tarledamanley2832]

I think the best they could do is maybe find a house that has a guest house and split the backyard so essentially the parents can be neighbors while dad works with his son and they may have to be neighbors until the kids move out. This is heartbreaking

[@michaelcollins8328]

The same thing happened to me. Getting the DNA kit was a life changing experience. After a search, I found a new family and they have been very accepting of me. However, when I found this out, I was 70 years old. My dad and my bio father knew each other and I am the image of my bio dad. My dad knew and the teen years were terrible for me. Too bad no one ever told me the truth.

[@francestaylor9156]

Take some solace in knowing that they thought they were doing the right thing. Thankfully we now live in a society where people prefer hearing and telling the truth than how things were back in the old days. People rag on how things have become today but the younger generations are much more honest in a lot of ways and that's a good thing.

[@carolcole570]

But, this is different from dragging a GRANCHILD into it.

[@Skyler_Rain]

My parents dropped the bomb on me when I was 18, but I wasn't told who my bio dad actually was. I'm too afraid to find out.

[@michaelcollins8328]

@@Skyler_Rain Be brave and do it. Get the DNA tests and locate DNA relatives. It is best to know and, who knows, you may make lifelong friends.

[@carolcole570]

@@Skyler_Rain Sky honey, most assuredly your Mama feels tons of regret that a lapse in judgment has HAD to last for an entire lifetime. I sincerely hope that you ARE able to forgive her AND to move forward. I think forgiveness and just plain curiosity would drive me to find out. I ALSO would wonder if he were being driven crazy by having to stay quiet all these years. But, maybe he would not want to have a relationship of some sort with you. None of us ever know, until faced with the situation. I am sure that there is much more to your story, but I really hope that in time you will find forgiveness for both of them. After all, I’d be willing to bet that YOU have done very regrettable things in your young life, but hey ! YOU just didn’t get caught ! Sort of “ There but for the Grace of God go I “.

[@Cosmicvzn]

As someone with a central native American background, i cannot imagine marrying someone who’s ignorant to my practices and culture and refuses to see where i come from

[@nikkih2930]

It happens so often. Or only the "convenient" parts of the culture get to remain. Typically getting to brag about it as a novelty, but not actually respecting or practicing. Essentially being fetishized or used to feel superior to "typical" people.

[@cypherknot]

Do you see where he is coming from?

[@Cosmicvzn]

@@cypherknot the entitled american?

[@Cosmicvzn]

@@nikkih2930 Yea like a weird trophy to flaunt, its weird

[@bufficliff8978]

The culture one moves to is then the dominant culture. Don't leave your culture and don't marry outside of it if your culture is what you want. Very few people have the personality to actually move from one culture to another. So don't

[@Paleface324]

How did she have an older brother if the priest affair was before her mother married her husband. Apparently mother was married before or had a baby before marrying the man the woman considered her father. Older brother probably had other issues than the one about the priest.

[@KiaraLemmone]

thats what I thought too.

[@probablynot1368]

Could be a step-brother? Maybe a son that was brought into the family via dad’s prior marriage/relationship? Maybe a half-brother, the result of mom’s prior relationship? This might explain his reaction to the news of her bio dad, as his mom’s past behavior was exposed.

[@rudymalizia8842]

I thought that too, unless he was her step brother from her stepdad. She was raised thinking he's her brother and his dad hers. I'll bet he had good reasons to flee. Again, all speculation.

[@norahbeck]

I found it interesting that all of your anger was directed at an old man (who found out only five years ago that he was a father and grandfather) with little criticism of the mom who married another man to cover her pregnancy. She deprived the birth father from being anything more for almost 40 years. You did not ask about the man’s health or financial situation. He is probably retired. We don’t know where he lives now. I thought you were harsh and I was disappointed.

[@danzidae]

I agree 100% with your post. He was harsh toward an 80 yo man who had this dumped on him as much as it was dumped on her. No consideration for his health and his mental state of being having this popped up 40 years later.

[@PriscilaSerranoOfficial]

Well yeah, but he still had sex with a woman who was about to marry! That 80 year old man has been gross forever.

[@rudymalizia8842]

John really lost perspective here. Everyone has sinned and falls short of the glory. I think it is evil to not tell a man you're carrying his baby. Yet, I do not know enough information to condemn the caller's mother. Unless she was raped, I cannot see withholding that info from the priest. The other thought us she didn't want to destroy his career. Still, he deserve to know. Dr. John calls many wrong, but is a great guy. Like Dave Ramsey, he goes on talking while the caller is no longer onthe air. He's dramatic, off the Mark here and there, but still helpful.

[@rudymalizia8842]

There is no such thing as,a healthy gummy.

[@alainaval]

I think yall are sympathizing too much because he’s old. There was a serial killer yall might remember who wasn’t caught until they were elderly. Didn’t change what he did. Priests aren’t supposed to screw women and keep it a secret. That’s what he did. Why mince words? Could be only the one time but unlikely. Everyone was wrong in this situation. Except those victimized, of course.

[@shrtblondie1]

The same thing happened to me with my boyfriends daughter. She was extremely violent and it escalated to self harm where she blamed me. After that I moved out and didn't look back. Unfortunately that is part of having kids. He needed to help his daughter and I needed to protect myself and my son. It's unfair and I hope you find peace in the future😊

[@Poopiepies]

On behalf of your son, thank you for choosing his well being as priority.

[@erikak128]

On that last call, how have they not put it together that the child's behavior worsened as soon as they moved in together? It's also very concerning that the woman in this relationship started dating the guy just months postpartum from her previous partner. These folks are moving way too fast and dragging these poor kids along. They really need to slow down amd sort themselves out separately first before trying to force-blend their families. Dr John was spot on

[@VelveteenRabbit77]

Yes people can date long term this is ridiculous. Super bad judgement. Plus something is very strange that the boys mother doesn’t have custody.

[@Driftercat]

@@VelveteenRabbit77they did mention she would self harm in front of the kid, sounds like she needs to do a lot of work on herself before she gets visitation rights.

[@Madam_Boonn]

The kid is only 6-years-old and he is talking but differently from everyone else. The adults are the problem-not the kid.

[@duckonquack6969]

​@Madame_Boonn exactly. Seems like the kids are the last ones people think of in these situations, sad

[@GodessIsabelRaina]

Honestly, it sounds as if she's ready to bail. The excitement of their whirlwind romance is wearing off. his kid is wearing her down and it's the perfect excuse to be a runaway bride. I think doc didn't finish his thought. He said he doesn't believe his kid is a sociopath. That kid is a full-fledged baby þsƴch0þatĥ. Dad makes excuses. He knows Yam well his kid keeled those animals and no telling what he keeled and got away with😒 No thanks to mom, that kid is like the movie, The Bad Seed. Then, dad wanting to move to another state is absurd. That kid needs intense in-house therapy. going home to þsych0 mom will make the therapy useless 😒

[@SerErryk]

That guy continuing on as a priest is a disgrace. What a fraud.

[@PandaHead602]

I was hoping to see that story line I’m on a hour later

[@vjs4539]

They all do. You can't expect anyone to live their entire lives without sex

[@joane24]

But you don't fully know, and yet you judge. Maybe he hasn't had any more affairs, and has changed his life. Maybe once he learned, just a few years ago, his supervisor/Bishop said that he shouldn't get actively involved (he still sends letters so it's not like he doesnt care). Furthermore, you don't know the state of his soul. Maybe he prays and does penances everyday offering it for his natural offspring. You just don't know, neither do I.

[@tracym8952]

The only reason it's that way is so that mideval priests couldn't own land. That's why they can't marry. Rabbis don't have this problem

[@COINsimp2024]

Priests are not required to life long abstinence.

[@msbeecee1]

The last call: The dad is in complete denial and the girlfriend needs to take her kids and RUN. Her priority needs to be the safety of her two innocent children from a traumatized older child who is predatory.

[@karong7017]

Sounds like 6 yr old hs been abused. Horrifying abuse.

[@ruthannakuhns5143]

Thank you, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for fighting for this KID!!! Every kid who has been through he'll needs an adult who advocates like this for them!!

[@whitneyw.7919]

ADHD is wayyyy over diagnosed. I wish parents would stop getting their minor children addicted to amphetamines and psych meds. My guess would be he has antisocial personality disorder or just straight sociopathy. That is not something that can be fixed with meds. Kaitlyn’s life will be a living hell if she marries into this situation.

[@karr1990]

That’s right, it seems they diagnose every other active child with ADHD these days. I’m especially concerned that they have him on Sertraline, which is a medication for anxiety and depression. He is six!!! Who knows what the long-term effects will be on his developing brain. 😒

[@chris00nj]

Evrry kid with ADHD that I know have parents that don't discipline them. They don't want to discipline or admit any fault. Psychiatrists are happy to go along because they get to sell sessions and drugs. "OH it's not your fault, Mrs Smith. He has a psychological disorder. Just keep come seeing me weekly and buy these pills and it'll be ok." Even if the psychologist tells them the truth the parents would just get mad and go to a different psych. It's always someone else's fault.

[@karr1990]

@@chris00nj you’ve got a point there. The parent’s will blame everything and anything except their own parenting. The worst behaved kids I encountered are the ones who don’t get disciplined and live off of sugar and processed food. But who am I to judge ,I don’t have kids yet. 😄

[@chris00nj]

@@karr1990 I have kids and disciplining is hard. I saw a 10 year old kid curse out his parents at a neighborhood party. The parents ignored it. Disciplining would involve leaving the party at punishing him at home. Parents were having fun and leaving would inconvenience them. So they let it slide, but it snowballs from there. No surprise the kid has "ADHD."

[@probablynot1368]

We usually hear about the ADHD children who have become a behavioral mess. What about the ADHD children whose parents have established them on a successful protocol of a combination of very limited medication combined with intensive behavioral modification, in conjunction with a program of set expectations and rewards? As a parent who was deep in the trenches, I can fully admit that it’s sooooo much work to navigate the hell of ADHD. Years ago, our son’s pediatrician laid it out: “You can either raise the entrepreneur of tomorrow, or the master criminal of tomorrow. It’s your choice.” Yeah, it required the doctor, his teachers, counselors, and two united parents to navigate the rough seas. Our son is 37, has a master’s degree, great job, wonderful wife and young son. Was it worth the sacrifices on our part? Hell, yeah.

[@ssiegreen5292]

Caller/Couple #3 - if you think you're having issues now - wait until puberty kicks in. Caitlyn, you're kids are not safe - twofold. One from the little 6 year old directly that is already so badly damaged, and two - from the exposure that damage creates by association. Kids learn by observing and assimilation - and yours will pick up things they would never in a million years would have come up with, by themselves. I hate it for both of you - but John is right. The safety for the kids is the most important thing in this situation, and your adult relationship will bear the sacrifice for that.

[@Jarcano8]

"If you find out you have a daughter, your world stops and she becomes your world". Wow John, now I know exactly why I feel so broken.❤

[@Mr.mathias693]

Dr. John! The man, the myth, the legend.

[@susi09]

There’s gotta be a connection between harming animals and crime later in life. There’s no way this was innocent.

[@OopThereItIs77777]

There actually is. It’s one of the first signs of psychopathy

[@karr1990]

True if it’s intentional harm. In this case, it seems that the kids wanted to see if the turkey’s could swim. Could just be curiosity, but who knows.

[@OopThereItIs77777]

@@karr1990that’s the lie the 6 year old told them. lol I have multiple kids, 4 boys. I know how the lies start and how they sound. It’s intentional when the turkey is showing it cannot swim and they leave it and laugh. Thankful my boys wouldn’t even squash a bug. Those are safe kids

[@susi09]

@@OopThereItIs77777 yeah I never in my life had a desire to drown anything. I can’t even kill a fly.

[@secretaryofoffense7118]

My first thought was that this could be VERY dangerous and quickly escalate.

[@cecilliachi]

I think your wisdom Dr John is just magical ✨✨✨. You handled that 2nd call spectacularly. I love the compassion you had for her husband. I am originally from Kenya married to an American. Its hard to imagine my husband not willing to go to my home country. I am so glad she called in coz I could feel how empowering the call was. To that 2nd caller stand up for you, ALL of you. Everything you desire is absolutely possible. I hope your partner can join you on this 2nd phase of your life. Kudos John on all 3 calls 👏🏾👏🏾

[@jerzeybell]

I don’t think the last unmarried couple rob and Kate will separate for the sake of rob’s son. Not break up but separate. It appears that they were calling because they wanted Dr. John to say something different. I have a feeling someone already told this couple that they need to separate for the sake of safety for the other kids in the house. So that’s why I don’t think they will listen to his advice. It’s really sad because I believe if this couple did listen to dr. John’s advice I believe it would actually save their relationship. This couple moved in together way too fast. So they don’t seem like they’re going to be capable of putting in the hard work this relationship will take so rob’s son can get the help he needs. This separation could just be temporary but it appears both are very eager to live together and keep both their children from previous marriages in the same house. This is why I don’t believe they will take the doc’s advice. It’s really a shame, they both seem like real nice people but their impetuous behavior makes me believe they’re not willing to put in the work for the long haul.

[@maximkmrr3879]

Why does she think that her children have to know any of that?? It has nothing to do with them 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@BirdDogey1]

The Priest is in his 70s.

[@metejt]

I agree.

[@TheCatsRFun]

Yes, her children should know about their biological family. Don't continue the lies. Lies will always come out.

[@BirdDogey1]

@TheCatsRFun I did a DNA test. Found an uncle who was very famous. He was in his 90s. He was raised by the man he knew as his father although he was created with the help of my professional baseball player grandfather. I left it alone. No need to rattle that guy's cage.

[@stardustgirl2904]

It's going to mess up the relationship with the grandparents!

[@sunitamosesesq]

To the Dad in the video -- put your child first and dedicate all your attention to getting him right. Your son is VERY young, and there's every hope that he's going to overcome this without any lasting problems IF you dedicate all of your time and your attention to him now. Take it from the mom of 3 teenagers -- you do NOT want these issues around when your son turns 13 and onward. Think about his future welllness. You want a strong, attractive and confident older son, not an emotional wreck who hides in his room all day brooding and hurting himself. Your girlfriend is certainly concerned about her children, so you do the same. She could never hold that against you. She has her own responsibilities in this. I'm talking to the dad -- you're going to feel better, knowing that you gave him everything you had, during this time. She will understand and appreciate that. Also, children are SO resilient and ever-changing! So don't think that this problem is going to go on indefinitely. With your help, chances are great that it won't.

[@mv7374]

Last callers: pls separate the kids from the chaotic one. That’s too stressful of an environment for them and will ruin them in the long run

[@Charamanur]

This is so true. I've been in this situation with my ex and his 5y.o. son. Very unstable situation. Unfortunately when it will be too late, it will be too late.

[@LaraTombRaider27]

Seriously! Its even more frustrating hearing the Guy. You can just tell he was not accepting to Dr Johns advice, in terms of separating. He obviously wanted another solution, but this is probably his best bet for the long run. I really hope he does whats right.

[@vally262]

and never leave them to "play down in the barn" ....Oh my gosh!!

[@mightymouse1005]

He's showing sociopath behavior. Right now, he's a danger to any animal or child

[@mightymouse1005]

​@alexissantana5586 as a mother, I would put my smaller children before this relationship. It's not worth having the smaller kids victimized and traumatized

[@Hen-of-the-Month]

I enjoyed listening to Jackie's story! Jackie, if you're reading this, you're a lovely lady, and I hope that your husband begins taking steps to honor your heritage.

[@dawnbishop1261]

They are supposed to be held to that higher standard. It’s biblical.

[@judithmiller7308]

Yes. It's clergy manipulation and abuse.

[@cypherknot]

Reconciliation. Forgiveness. Please post the passage that states that those in religious office have to be celibate and can't marry. Because all non Catholic clergy would then be sinners---right?

[@bufficliff8978]

@@cypherknotAccording to Catholicism all non catholic spiritual leaders ARE sinning by virtue of not being Catholic, so that's not a good final point to have presented as a gotcha. It's tradition--not Biblical, that a priest shouldn't marry, but tradition in Catholicism is sacred and the traditions are equally and sometimes higher than the original scriptures. When interpreting the Bible one looks to the tradition--not modern understanding even if modern understanding is from more accurate historical information. In Christianity the sin of breaking a vow and sex out of wedlock and lying and everything else can be forgiven and in Catholicism it can be forgiven, but you lack understanding of Catholicism by dragging Catholics to the Bible directly. You misunderstand the religion. Christians have Sacred Scripture, Catholics have Sacred Scripture AND Sacred Tradition. It's more like Judaism than Christianity.

[@DigiMyst]

Let me get this straight: Catholics claim to follow the Bible, but consider their man-made traditions "sacred" and "higher than scripture"?? Do you follow the Bible or not?

[@DigiMyst]

@@bufficliff8978 Wouldn't "Sacred Tradition" be a man-made construct? Why do the rules of man supersede the scripture of the Bible, and what passage are you borrowing from?

[@Charamanur]

I respect you even more now, John. For the last caller. I hope they will look at situation through their kids eyes. I understand they are in love and everything, but as a mother myself, my daughter's safety will be my number one priority!!!

[@siteworld123]

The numbers don't add up. Her 'father' married her mother around the time of the affair - and there was a brother 10 years ilder than her. Was he conceuved out if wedlock? Was there another marriage?

[@smokerbae]

Probably why the bro left, he may have had the same troubled questions....

[@francestaylor9156]

My guess is that she just didn't think it was an important part of the story. Maybe out of brevity she left that part out.

[@TheCatsRFun]

People have children without being married. Sounded like mom and "dad" were together a long time and at one point got married. But mom had a 2 month affair with the priest.

[@Fika_time]

That was a hard last call. Thanks for being real and professional 💚

[@LaraTombRaider27]

The Third Caller, Rob: Dude i hope you do whats best for your 6 year old. You seem like your trying to find any excuse to avoid the harsh truth and finding it hard to accept that you cant be together in the meantime. Especially sending your Kid back to the dangerous bio mom when YOU know it doesn’t have to happen. Come on now friend… good luck

[@chilledllama8830]

100%! Its like he hasn’t realized the gravity of how serious the problem really is. Especially the potential trauma for the other 2 if they don’t separate. If the relationship is meant to be theyll find a way, BUT kids first before anything else…

[@thinklifethinklife9759]

I agree! AT LEAST that the Girlfriend advocates on Johns advice in case the guy tries to avoid doing it.

[@blueseptember2174]

Rob and Kaitlyn dont want to seperate. They want to do it somehow magically. Itll work until it doesnt. Then youll really be screwed. Got to take the time to give your son everything you got for a time. Then youll know you did all you could. If Kaitlyn is for you, she will be there when the time is more fitting. There are alot of us Rob putting lives, romances, jobs on hold to put the kids first. Its lonely, it's hard. But you know we are building a foundation for the kids and we are making ourselves strong in the alone season. And it is just that, a season.

[@tiffany-sheriwageman.3702]

My son has Asperger's is no way like this child and my son is 17 years old in about a year he will be mentally and emotionally ready for me to marry someone. It's better to stay single keep your child on track for his life. We sometimes make bad choices for partners for our child sometimes we have to put ourselves away.

[@Poopiepies]

⁠@@tiffany-sheriwageman.3702fyi: aspergers is no longer a diagnostic term, and now considered to be part of the autism spectrum.

[@dawn2daylightmadness]

I’ll never forget the story I heard of the 10 year old foster kid that “dropped” a 6-7 month old baby on the floor and to prevent the child from crying she beat the baby over the head until it stopped, killing the infant. I cannot remember what state this happened at, but the 10 year old child exhibited destructive and dangerously violent behaviors for awhile before this incident, and I believe was diagnosed with RAD. I am not saying that that is what this child has but what I AM saying is that they need to separate this poor child away from those other kids. Would these two parents rather live with regret and guilt if the child harms the other babies in the home? That would surely kill their relationship faster than them just splitting up until this father is able to get his son stable. My heart aches for this child because I know he is hurting mentally, but he is not safe and has proven himself to be dangerous around things that are presumably smaller and more defenseless as he (the turkeys). John is right

[@redbarnhomestead7384]

Wonder how many other kids that “Father” doesn’t know about? Man was 40 and a priest zero excuses.

[@topaz3468]

Skeletons in the family closet are so common, yet people think their family is unique or different which seems to be human nature. Sometimes the novels we read are no longer far fetched or remote possibilities. What concerns me the most however, is that this priest has not been removed from his post, and has been surrounded by codependents protecting him.🧐

[@Jkaye13]

Exactly!! And this caller thinks he's a 'wonderful man!!' 🤔 Seriously.. it's like she puts him in a celebrity status being a priest..

[@ivnehaas]

3rd callers, I have a close friend who had to move her son to his grandad's house, for the safety of the other kids, while she searches for the right institution that knows how to deal with his diagnosis. It's not easy and it doesn't mean you are bad parents if that's what you choose to do! Consider all tools are your disposal, and make use of them if that is the right thing to do. Im so sorry! Good luck❤

[@fakenattypolice8317]

Congratulations Dr. John you're the new Jerry Springer of the Internet

[@AaAa-ri4uf]

Loooooool

[@moomoocow308]

😂

[@faracha5027]

😂😂😂

[@SerErryk]

De-Lon-ey! De-Lon-ey! De-Lon-ey! Needs to be the audience chant.

[@StAr-sp4cm]

No Jerry is king non replaceable RIP

[@n3wbdud385]

Oh man, that second call... It was like looking 20 years into my future, but I'm the husband. Perhaps not quite as bad, I love a lot of things about my wife's culture, but I know there are sticking points that I need to work on. Did not expect an instance on this show to hit so close to home.

[@Cyd1057]

Great guidance to this woman, Dr. Delony. Your insight was incredible.

[@alexisballard1459]

I sooooooo feel John’s frustration during the last call…so grateful for the video version of this show.

[@elizabethdazell4426]

Telling the 16 yr old but not the 12 year old puts a burden on him.

[@AbbaJoy1]

Exactly. Now he has to keep a lie until the parents decide to reveal the truth. Or he tells his brother and says, "Don't you dare tell anyone I told you." Now the youngest has to lie, and then what-- "act surprised when they tell you."

[@bcc7777]

I have a 12 year old son and I think he could handle it. It's a matter of "he's still your grandpa, because he was the one who raised you".

[@gigiadams9723]

Dr. JD, YOU are the best of the best, I can't say enough, human, respectful, humble, kind, found you is my blessing from God🙏

[@wstone4046]

As an adoptee, I'll never understand the connection to genetics. I'm not "related" to any of my family. I took an ancestry test to understand health markers and what part of Europe I come from. I found out my genetic Dad has been married for 60 years. As I'm much younger than that, he must have cheated or was separated to have me. No way would I contact this man. Why would I blow up his world? I have half siblings older than me. I don't know if he knows about me or not. My life is great without having genetic conditions. Leave this alone. Let your kids know, but no more.

[@karenkramer3760]

My favorite person in the world will always be my step grandfather. He always loved me so much. I felt his love as much as my bio family, sometimes more.

[@hoplinhitchcockfuneralhome3852]

I love you Dr John but I think you blew the call with the woman who's bio dad is a priest. Maybe you had more facts than your listeners were privy to. I heard a woman describe a man, who happens to be a priest, as being in her life through telephone, text, email and letters. She's only met him face to face once in the 5 years since she learned he is her father, but I never heard her say that fact bothered her. She seemed to have a good relationship with her mom and the man who raised her. Maybe she has no need for a "sperm donor" to step in and become an intimate part of the family. She may not want to shade the man she knew as dad by bringing in a stranger to claim the title now that all the heavy lifting of parenting is done. Also, she never said the priest is trying to keep the fact that he fathered her a secret nor did she say the priest/dad was trying to tell her how to parent her children. We weren't told whether he was a priest when she was conceived. The whole story about her paternity test discovery was just background info for her question about her 16 year old son. Dr John made it about the priest. If the guy was a mechanic I doubt he'd have gotten off track. I know Dr John is acquainted with the legal profession and so he will know what I mean when I say it was a red herring. Again, unless the caller was complaining about how her bio dad has handled the situation since he learned of it, John totally missed the boat on this one.

[@oliekolzig37]

Yes totally agree

[@flashthecorgi2053]

John is totally right though. Priests are held at a higher standard than most so the fact he’s just continuing this charade that he’s a good man is dishonest and that’s what Dr. John was calling out. John wants this caller to live in reality, and not just make it all okay just because of his title. As he mentioned he hates the fact that this guy has only seen his daughter ONCE in 5 years of knowing that’s his bio daughter. Plus he still answered her question AND gave her a fantastic answer which was give him the truth and answer in an age appropriate way.

[@joannsnider8886]

I totally agree with you. He made too many assumptions.

[@J53119]

The Mom is just as guilty or even more so. Not letting the priest off.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@oliekolzig37Just think through this for a second had she said he didn’t know anything about her but found out about her 5 years ago and has done EVERYTHING to be in her life. Meeting her in person, and playing an active role in her life I GUARANTEE Delony wouldn’t have said he wasn’t a good man. He only said that because his actions have continued to be WRONG. He’s playing a priest, while having a child who he has no active role in her life besides writing to her. It’s not about the initial affair, it’s his character that’s followed after. John isn’t judging him based on the affair. We all know he’s taken cheating calls and he’s given them plenty of grace. It’s who you are on the back end and this man hasn’t proved to be a “good man.”

[@Prettymom619]

The Priest knew about you, baby. He knew what could happen if he laid up with a woman and didn’t use protection.

[@bufficliff8978]

Knowing that babies can be made doesn't mean he knew he made one

[@mrseliephant]

@@bufficliff8978 Society has become so mentally low IQ that no one assumes that every sexual encounter between a bio male and bio female will result in a child.

[@diane4488]

​@@bufficliff8978 But if her knew she was pregnant, and had a child, he knew he could possibly be the father.

[@thewrongshoes]

@@bufficliff8978it's possible he didn't know but he probably did. I bet he called the affair due to the pregnancy ... besides he wasn't shocked she was suddenly married someone else and pregnant really fast (the common cover up to unwed pregnancies)? I wouldn't be surprised if she dug around for more secrets she'd find he had other kids.

[@LauraSnow-in3nx]

As a priest, he is an example of what he preaches or he should be, and the fact that he did this and probably more than once with probably multiple people and has it no point in time, acknowledged it to the church, walked away from the priesthood and tried to become a father to this child says everything you need to know.

[@chris00nj]

Maybe he did acknowledge it with the church. No need to speculate

[@Jkaye13]

@@chris00nj If he had, he should have been removed from the ministry for breaking his oath of celibacy.

[@OopThereItIs77777]

Weeee do know who drowned the turkey. My son is 6 and he wouldn’t harm a fly. He literally doesn’t even step on bugs; this isn’t normal behavior for ……child to force a turkey into water. that story is false.

[@blueseptember2174]

I remeber when a kid was little they saw a lizard and got scared and stomped on it like you would a spider. But these kids seem a tad older and like they weren't afraid of the turkeys. So I have no i. Doesn't sound good.

[@benjaminhenry5869]

My nephews mother was akin to caller 3's ex wife. I found out when my brother was looking into how he could get a loan to hire a lawwer to get emergency custody. His lease was up in a month and we had him move into my home without rent under the agreement that evey dollar he could earn would go to getting full custody with visitation only on his discretion. No matter how long it took. It didn't take long to get emergency custody, the rest took tens of thousands of dollars and a couple years. It set us both back financially quite a bit but my nephew is safe and thriving. They moved out of my home last year and that was super hard on my heart, but I'm thankful for the time we had living together and how our relationship is today.

[@jessicaannefloresjf]

Love when you get parents of teenagers ! I’m trying to learn from other peoples mistakes. You cover what the correct attitude the parent should have, and touch on how “scorching the earth” punishment is not the way to go, but don’t have enough time to cover how to discern what appropriate discipline would look like with children of all ages

[@AlwaysTryingToBeABetterHuman]

1:00:55 Children often mirror the behavior they were given. "Ew gross a baby" "get away from me" sounds like the words and behaviors of a mother who didn't want to be bothered with her own child. These behaviors didn't start presenting at 4 or 5 years old, the father just wasn't reading the behaviors when the child wasn't able to speak as well and wasn't as physically capable. The behaviors were always there telling a story he wasn't reading.

[@AmySminu]

3rd callers: I am a nurse who works with mental health clients. I would request, from your pediatrician and psychiatrist, a brain scan (a PET scan would be best) and a full psych eval. Asap, as John said. These behaviors could be a chemical imbalance in the brain but it could also be a different medical issue such a tumor or part of the brain being compressed. I do not want to scare you but getting some diagnosis/diagnoses and answers is crucial for his well-being, your well-beings and the overall health of your children. I do give you kudos to you for doing as much as you feel you can right now and I know this is not easy by any means! Best wishes to all of your families ❤

[@johnfaulk7775]

Why did you put your kids into a family unit when you are not MARRIED??? Your non-biological kids are calling you Mom and Dad! That is creating more confusion in their little lives, and it is selfish and irresponsible.

[@Thisistheplace44]

The whole situation is a mess. So she had a newborn and they thought let’s start a new family? They are using each other and the kids pay the price.

[@tiffany-sheriwageman.3702]

I was thinking the same thing this is not correct behavior out of these two people in living together is set the children all three of the children up for failure for future marriages in relationship.

[@brightpage1020]

Priests are sinners, too, born of the flesh. They also require the salvation of forgiveness. If the two involved were consenting adults, even if it were morally wrong and destructive doesn’t mean they don’t deserve the same salvation other Christians are granted. I mean, they also deal with greater pressures, sometimes. Not that there should not be any consequence professionally for dishonoring that position of authority, but generally as a fellow sinner… I would hope the salvation of forgiveness is extended to all other sinners at least in part to cover my own.

[@braddossdfinc9722]

That last call is incredible sad. Why would these parents not go to hell and back to save and protect their kids

[@bsgarey]

They need to raise those kids as a priority. Not they lust for one another. Very selfish situation. And then to be living together as unmarried. Sad situation.

[@JAB2010]

@@bsgareyawfully judgmental of you. Living together isn’t any sort of problem.

[@bsgarey]

More marriages fail for those that live together than those the done. So there is nothing JUDGEMENTAL about it. It has proof.@@JAB2010

[@SashaMonsteraki]

They would, but they can't afford it.

[@braddossdfinc9722]

@@JAB2010 ot is a problem when you 5 and 2 year old are in an unsafe environment though

[@J53119]

Is it really helpful that the grandchildren know this about their grandparents? I feel like everyone here is more mad at the priest (not letting him off the hook at all) vs the mom (grandma to the callers kids) hiding this from everyone.

[@Kristin49]

I was thinking the same, I think they are making this more dramatic than they need to as far as the grandkids go. Obvious bias against the priest, the mom and him made the same mistake, however, mom kept the lies going, and going, and going….

[@Jkaye13]

I agree.. I'm trying to figure out why this mom feels the need to bring her kids into this mess at all.. l mean how does it benefit her children to know that the man they know as Grampa isn't their REAL Grampa?? Who cares? Does she really think this priest, who has made no real attempt to include her in his life the past five years, is suddenly going to step in to a Grampa role with her children? I wouldn't count on it! The man who raised her as a dad is their Grampa because he did the time and was there for them.. this priest is just going to be a blemish to tarnish Grama's image.. l think John was onto something when he said that the priest expected her to keep quiet, because he still hasn't taken accountability for what he did.. I'm sure his church, the bishop, etc- all would be shocked to hear that he has a daughter from an affair many years ago.. since he's still in the ministry, l can't imagine that he would want that info getting out. And she thinks he is such a 'wonderful man' 🙄 Thanks for correcting her on that one John!

[@Plantandpeoplecarer]

Very Thorn Birds 😂

[@bernadettehuff2984]

that was the best book ever! I saw the series but it didn't do the book justice.

[@skr8674]

I loved that series! Made me cry…😢

[@anniethomas451]

My very first thought exactly🤭

[@deb9806]

@@bernadettehuff2984That wasn't a brief affair, I think it started at 6!

[@deb9806]

@@skr8674Barbra Stanwyk was fantastic and of course Richard Chamberlain

[@thewrongshoes]

I'm not so sure the priest didn't know about her. I'm sure he had some questions on why the mother rushed into a marriage so quickly . I bet he knew

[@moony-_-.]

Most definitely getting married 2 months after having an affair and no alarm bells were raised?? I refuse to believe he didn’t know

[@Jkaye13]

Yep.. it would seem that he would have had to of known since she was obviously pregnant with his child when she got married.. what if she didn't marry so quick? He would have had no one to take the 'fall' for the pregnancy he caused ..

[@beastshawnee]

The 6 year old needs a Supernanny type of woman to come every day during his waking hours-someone who can instill gentle FIRM discipline and routine. And the trips to his Mom’s care need to stop. If she is not emotionally stable around him and cannot understand food and bed routines are important-she should NOT be in charge of a child. If the girlfriend was seriously like a supernanny and was able to handle the boy-that’d be great BUT her Main job is to protect her own 2 kids. With this immature child being the elder of the kids- Leading the others astray would be natural- monkey see, Monkey do. This kid needs a hero. Clearly none has shown up.

[@22Steamboat]

The Bible also says that teachers and leaders are held to a higher standard.

[@beverleydutoit7576]

The standard being Jesus. He showed the Father's heart. Look at the woman caught in adultery. The written word said, "stone her." The word of God,Jesus said" there's no condemnation." Think on this. Jesus showed us the Father's heart.

[@robertaturk]

The Bible says that when Moses was adopted the Egyptian Mother became his mother- not his biological mother. So…

[@ohmygodyouknowwhatweshould2496]

The father of the 6 year old need to stop sending him to his bio mom. He 1000% is being abused and/or neglected there. I knew someone who had a similar experience. Bio mom also refused to feed him as an infant, also had issues within herself, also didnt do basic things to raise a child. This kid endured unspeakable horrors and pleaded with his dad to not send him back to his mother, but it was dismissed as childish and fussy. The kid was being starved, beaten and sexually abused. Forget about 'it isn't fair that she doesn't get to see him that much as it is.' The real tragedy is that the child doesnt have a parent who's willing to protect him. If she wants contact, they can write letters back and forth. While he's trying to get the boy help, he needs to do what he can to prevent the issue from getting worse. And i don't know what the other woman was thinking moving her kids into this situation. You can continue to date, but those kids can't be under the same roof anymore. Again, let them write letters or send pictures, but physical proximity is a 'hell no.'

[@rebeccamesukalombo5342]

I hardly ever comment on any videos or posts on any social media platforms. But THANK YOU SO MUCH for doing this series. This was meant for me. God pushed onto my page to watch. I have learnt SO much. Amongst which I have been encouraged to be patient during trials, go even further with God, seek what he is trying to teach me in the midst of heartache, stay meditating on his word as that is our source of strength and the buffer our heart needs to endure trials. She is so blessed to have had a strong spiritual support system. It makes all the difference. Unfortunately, I lack that. My desire is if God may grant me grace to seek counseling in the word for what Im enduring in my marriage from her, I wish there was a way to contact her 😢.

[@mattier.9095]

Can’t wait for this one - wow 😮

[@redvine1105]

Yo Catholic Church - y’all might seriously wanna reconsider the whole celibacy thing for priests. Isn’t really working too well, is it?

[@godknowsimstupid7848]

Lets all gloss over the cheating mom.......

[@darrengeorgetown6758]

Women are never held accountable. This show will tell the guy to love the woman better and do the sishes.more

[@msbeecee1]

Mom wasn't married when she was with the priest. The brief affair happened prior to her marriage

[@diane4488]

He preyed on a younger, more vulnerable woman. And, being a priest, literally preaching to others about the sanctity of marriage, and relationships, he holds a lot more responsibility.

[@texasgina]

What cheating mom? The woman who's bio dad is a Priest slept with her mom before she met her stepfather. Or at least married him

[@francestaylor9156]

@@diane4488 Caller literally said her parents are the same age. Why are you putting false scenarios in this?

[@timothythompson4036]

This is the reason celibacy in the Catholic preiesthood doesn't work.

[@pakilee87]

It does for most priests. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@FancyRPGCanada]

Agreed, Catholic priests should be allowed to get married

[@lauriekerze3461]

How can you be sure. They are men with needs. Needs to change. Also the catholic church has hid shuffled child molesters. I would be ​ok if they prosecuted them.@@pakilee87

[@DigiMyst]

@@pakilee87 Is that why the AP reported nearly 1,700 priests and clergy were accused with credible sexual abuse against minors?

[@megalopolis2015]

Self control is a thing. People don't need sex, especially with strangers. Sex is the icing on the cake of a Loving, committed marriage.

[@christineb6975]

I’d love to see more on addiction and remembering who you were before! Love your show ❤

[@mgjohnson06]

Mom on the last call coming in hot to figure out some way to keep living with her boyfriend and his budding sociopath the second after DR John explicitly told her that her kids wouldn't be safe living with the other boy was as depressing as it was predictable

[@aries3744]

I feel so much empathy for the man with the kid with behavioral problems. I got a nonverbal autistic 15 years old son. I separated a few months back. My ex says that I'll be alright and we will always be family. He says one day I'll find a good partner, but I know that if even my family won't help with my son because he's too much of a hassle, too reactive and destructive, there's no way a man would even imagine forming a home with me. In this situation, the caregiver is doomed to be alone. 😢

[@jenniferklayer5259]

As soon as you played the sound byte at the beginning, I did a Nurse Johnn impression. " I beg your pardon" 😮 and then I tapped play

[@blueseptember2174]

I beg your biggest pardon 😅

[@larset9]

You give the best advise on this. Gr8 show.

[@chanceceee3659]

I haven't even watched the video yet but was screaming at the title of the video 😭😂😂😂

[@rudymalizia8842]

I'm stunned Dr. John is this critical of the priest. He could be a great person.

[@Haylee_Jean]

I hate leaving comments, but in case the dad reads these: Get a referral from your primary care doctor to test for Autism (it’s common for severe ADHD and Autism to get confused). A lot of these behaviors overlap as it is, but with trauma in the mix, it really compounds the issues that kids with autism already deal with. My son has autism and some trauma and the behaviors that spiked up are both scary and seemingly non sensical. I heard a lot of overlap in their behaviors and had to limit my son’s interactions with kids while we worked on it in therapy. If he does have it - it’s scary and it’s a lot of work to figure out how they need to learn because it really varies, but the diagnosis will really open doors for you to get him the help he needs (behavioral therapies that aren’t accessible without it the diagnosis) and financially there is usually a lot of resources out there. My heart breaks for you and the little one and I really felt it when you were talking about how wonderful he is.

[@brightpage1020]

This episode is way classier than any Maury Povich I ever saw.

[@dianagabriela3287]

🤣

[@rosec8101]

That little boy is being abused by mom and needs saved. My heart breaks for him. I also can't believe abuse is just physical or emotional.

[@magdadzialak2178]

To the man with 6 year old, please leave this woman and take care of yourself and your son . She doesn’t understand even though she should as a woman.

[@anniethomas451]

I think I’ve missed something here. Why is this mom so concerned that this information would affect her sixteen year old. My teen grandchildren would not care at all. They live in their own bubbles and would probably say ‘oh cool’🤔

[@Jkaye13]

What does it benefit him to know? All it is going to do is tarnish Grama's image.. it isn't like this priest is somehow going to step in and be a Grampa to her kids..

[@carlynsykes6053]

When I was in junior high doing a genealogy project for history class my mom disclosed that she was adopted. Her parents were SUPER involved with us, we lived at their house for a while growing up after our house burned down, grandpa picked us up from school multiple times a week, every single birthday and holiday was celebrated at their house. Close and loving relationship. She shared it like it was some horrible secret and don’t let them know and don’t treat hem any differently. I was like……….and…..? What do you expect from me? I don’t care. It doesn’t change anything for me. But then again that was the same person that later expected me to prioritize her over my fiancé because he wasn’t blood related.

[@Why-Censor]

John, let people speak in full before YOUR emotions and judgement jump out all over callers and listeners as happened with Priest is Daddy.

[@VelveteenRabbit77]

Maybe the mother didn’t know which one made her pregnant. Maybe she didn’t know for sure.

[@jbarajasp]

I don’t understand why John is being so chaotic and trying to cause trouble in this specific instance. She clearly just wants to find a peaceful way for everybody to get along.

[@questcomputer4545]

The 15 year old boy, will take the secret in his stride. Just be honest with him. He will find it interesting but not upsetting at all. You are too worried. Your boy will be OK.

[@laurykristensen6239]

Last caller has a duty to keep her kids safe

[@stanzim7612]

I thought I handled my daughter going offf to Uni great until I developed shingles 😂

[@rochpartyof5]

Her mother should be cleaning up this mess, 80 or not. It’s her mess. She should be sitting down with her grandchildren and telling them what she did and that she’s sorry. This lady is carrying weight that isn’t hers to carry.

[@karr1990]

A 6 yo on Sertraline? 😱 What has this world come to

[@annejohnson6940]

My grandfather had an affair with my granny's best friend, and my Mom and her siblings learned they had a half-brother in a different way. Granny is classy, reserved, and kind, and her friend was more outgoing and flirtatious, even with Pawpaw as we called him. All aunts, uncle, and my Mom called her 'aunt' as well and they were midage when the news broke. It's honestly the first time I saw my Mom show some nasty character the way she now thought of her dad (understandably). Pawpaw was a very harsh man, war vet and father of 7, he had morals but often could get very crusty. The half-brother was raised, not knowing who his father was. When his mom was close to passing, she finally told him, but also "Don't you go over there and tear that family apart" so he held it in for some years after that. He suffered depression and always felt the void of not having a father, then the torment of knowing but not doing anything about it. At the urging of his fiancé he finally reached out to my grandparents in letter. They chose to embrace him, meet him, break the truth to the whole family. It seemed much easier for me and the cousins to adjust than our parents. Granny is the sweet one, the voice of reason. She forgave Pawpaw and welcomed his other son into the family, and he's been included in all family gatherings since. I saw how Granny put her own hurt aside and recognized the half-brother's acceptance was important. Secrets can hurt, but Love can uplift.

[@joestevanvm]

There’s definitely some mortalities out there to help his child with his behavior, emotional freedom technique (tapping) breath work.. this kid could possibly be traumatized from their parents divorce! this child may be carrying everything.

[@KihmJones]

Part of honoring your culture is to embrace it. I would recommend cooking familiar and most loved meals. Telling the family lore and stories, celebrating traditional holidays, and sharing the genealogy. It doesn’t have to mean only taking the family back home, but that is nice too. Show your husband and children that your heritage is important to you by bringing it in to your home. My mom was an immigrant and she raised my sister and one I in this way, with food, stories, traditions and as a result my sister and I have close bonds and feelings for her country. My sister even moved back there and married a national.

[@JustDiane71]

I feel for the fiance family. Dr John is amazing and not the norm our in the real world. The reality our mental health system SUCKS! I understand this dad is doing everything to get his son help but it's one road block after another, I have lived that too. I wish the mental health community could get everyone (schools, theripists, phych docs, insurance companies, all state childrens protection and first responders, mental health public and private organizations and hospitals) ALL on the same page. Most do not know what one is doing, they don't know what the other does... I can write a novel (thinking I should) if you've never had to deal with a serious mental health issue do not judge, you have no idea the ignorance and uneducated the mental health system can be.

[@lt3968]

Rebecca was extremely well-spoken and articulate in her call. All the kudos to her for being awesome.

[@tinaintexas]

Oh wow! West Texas lady here. Small world. I love your show! Come have some good Mexican food in West Texas!

[@AaAa-ri4uf]

Will be like the last one we’re the guys wife was an only fans model, and hung up the phone and John Delony just had to ramble about something to keep it going

[@2okaycola]

At least he tried to ask for help. That’s a hard position to maintain

[@elkforests]

You were wrong. Ta-da!

[@LaurenClemison]

As a family with tons of secrets that have been trickled to me over the years, it is earth shattering sometimes, but having parents who were on solid ground in the chaos that extended family caused is the life changer. Her kids are gonna be okay.

[@chrisoneal2718]

You ARE the father!

[@anglophils645]

I think that Dr. John is wrong about the priest. The priest is not showing up in his daughter's life, be cause, he does not think that be has the right to, unless she invites him. He does not want to interject himself, and cause problems. The adoptive dad would probably feel very hurt, if the bio dad shows up, claiming his daughter.

[@Jkaye13]

She doesn't need a daddy at 44 years old.. and why not acknowledge the fact that this priest is still in the ministry.. and as a priest, the fact that he has a child proves he broke his vows to celibacy and should step down from the ministry.. this man has lived his whole life with this lie under his belt.