My Mom Is Taking Advantage of Me

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[@ethxo6734]

A lot of parents have kids as a retirement plan. It’s not right but it’s common.

[@Quinu12]

A lot of kids expect an inheritance. We need to stop both.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Most here in comments say they have kids so they are taken care of when older. I say good luck.

[@alluringbliss4165]

@@Quinu12 Because their parents did not raise them right.

[@zvmZvm0102]

@@silentnot4812 My thoughts too. I plan to live off of interest, so what else am I to do with the principal at the end of life other than pass it on to people I care about.

[@lombardo141]

Depends on the back ground. I am from a foreign country and parents have no choice but to hope their kids can support them. But the caveat is this woman is way too young to depend on her kid.

[@phantomroy08]

My mother just passed away after about 12 years of what Brandon’s mom is going through. Advanced degree, couldn’t find a job, confidence shattered at about 48. She kept stringing everyone along and suddenly passed away. Turned out, she had been diagnosed with diabetes around 50 and never treated it. Basically, she let it do her in because she was so heartbroken by her situation. Brandon, send your mother to the doctor and therapy asap.

[@melissasesma3218]

Sorry this happened 😢 thank you for sharing.

[@linhaton4957]

52 isn’t that old. She should be in the prime of her career.

[@aolvaar8792]

My daughter will retire at 48, full pension and free lifetime family healthcare.

[@JasonBlaha66]

@@aolvaar8792 That has nothing to do with anything

[@clarifyingquestions]

@@aolvaar8792 And do what? ! My point is financial independence is the goal but retirement is not unless their is a plan in place .

[@reese85]

@aolvaar8792 congrats to her. I wish I can go back in time and get a job/career like that

[@superblump87]

​@@aolvaar8792from where?

[@linhaton4957]

She sounds like a professional student.

[@zvmZvm0102]

I'm guessing she was a DEI student who was given a PhD and now is having difficultly finding a company that needs a DEI hire.

[@LipstickNWhiskey]

@@zvmZvm0102 You all love throwing that term around, and using it out of context as well. And I doubt she had to be a DEI since colleges are taking ANYONE these days because the quality of degrees has declined. Grow tf up.

[@zvmZvm0102]

@@LipstickNWhiskey The quality of degrees has declined to compensate for the poor performance of DEI people.

[@LipstickNWhiskey]

@@zvmZvm0102 Incorrect. The quality of degrees have went down because dusty men, like yourself, wanted to get degrees to work in air-conditioned cubicles next to women instead of picking up a trade (plumbing, electrical, construction, etc). You know? The jobs you all say women can’t do? Yeah, the news is complaining about YOU. Not “DeI” . And find another word, your poverty is showing. Lol

[@LipstickNWhiskey]

@X46Q2P Far from a DEI loser. I graduated Magna Cum laude and work in Finance/Cybersecurity. They sought ME out. I bet my entire 401K and stocks I am more qualified than you’ll ever be. Lol 😚

[@LipstickNWhiskey]

I am so blessed I have parents that NEVER ask or depend on me financially. They wouldn’t even charge for rent if I needed a place. I don’t understand these type of parents. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@kbthegoat824]

Yupp, consider yourself lucky. My mom has been depending on me for the longest, some of us never had that safety net growing up, I'm envious sometimes of some folks but what can we do.

[@acd1168]

You are blessed. My mother told me I owe her for giving birth to me and raising me. She stole my money (gifts) when I was younger. I stopped carrying cash because anytime I would go over there, she would take it from me.

[@d_all_in]

"I took care of you, now you take care of me"

[@wenchyfoodwench4098]

She’s not old lol. He simply needs to stop giving her money. That’s it. She can’t take it from him. Just stop

[@maureenwolfe8914]

She can reach out to her school where she got her PhD to get help with employment counseling and job placement. That is a significant part of what schools do, even if it was an online school.

[@cutehumor]

Colleges lie that you will make six figure salaries with their useless degrees. Colleges want that student loan money

[@aolvaar8792]

I have the finest education that money Can't buy. I can't get a job, AGE + multiple pensions Employers know that in 3 years, I will quit and cash out.

[@zvmZvm0102]

They'll help her write a resume...I'd bet her "medical PhD" is in like "medical inequality studies" or something similar. which isn't actually much different than an art studies or gender studies PhD. That's why she can't find a job.

[@LipstickNWhiskey]

Correct. Many times schools Career Centers will even reach out after you’ve graduated to ask if you have found employment in your field and try to assist.

[@comment_account2343]

Those career centers are useless. The only way to get a job is to know someone who can get your resume in front of the recruiter. If you apply online you have to fight 1000s fake resume that automatically applied. Also phds do reduce your employability, people think you are unmanageable. Even with top phds in engineering no one comes and courts you, you have to leverage your network, show a portfolio of work.

[@abhishek8587]

I've was in a similar position with my parents since forever. Dad a single earner, stay at home mom, both very poor at money management, took crazy debt all throughout, spent beyond means, dad made horrible career choices, etc. As the only child, they looked at me as their financial saviour in their retirement (and even before). And I took so much pressure on how I would earn so much to not only sustain my life but also theirs. I realized it was a toxic situation and had the tough love talk with them. Dad is now working in retirement to save up more money, and it sucks to see him go through this but there was no other way to make them responsible.

[@AmukaAkuma]

I mean, your mom could work too....

[@MightyJoeYoungsZookeeper]

You did well. I just joined the Air Force and left the country to not be the retirement plan.

[@pokejammerz]

@@MightyJoeYoungsZookeeperCongratz on joining! How long you been in?

[@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607]

Yep but I bet you they ate out & took vacays & bought new cars when they wanted didn’t they? You have nothing to feel guilty over

[@anndeecosita3586]

@@AmukaAkumaIf she is old with no work skills or work history the likely of anyone hiring her are slim unless she at least takes a few classes.

[@TallyDrake]

Mom sounds depressed. Financing her early retirement is a huge mistake. She needs professional counseling for sure.

[@MightyJoeYoungsZookeeper]

Yes. She may end up changing her mind and wanting to go back to work.

[@debbieholoquist2059]

That loss of hope .... Yes, counseling seems right.

[@jimmymcgill6778]

Why? Because she want to do something besides medicine?

[@TallyDrake]

@@jimmymcgill6778 Because that something else is nothing. If she is depressed, sitting around doing nothing all day will probably make it worse. Maybe she needs psychological counseling, maybe career counseling, but she definitely needs help moving forward.

[@jimmymcgill6778]

@@TallyDrake Not wanting to do medicine anymore, does not mean she's depressed.

[@linhaton4957]

So she wants her son to support her for 35 more years?

[@OlgaSunny-pl2sg]

Your mom should apply all around the state not only locally. One of my neighbors after getting his doctor’s degree couldn’t find a job in our town. He really wanted to stay and had years of experience as an RN working for the hospital. One day he said I am applying outside of our town because if it hits a year mark and I am not hired it won’t look good on my resume. He applied got two jobs offers right a way. Left out town bought a house doing incredible well.

[@suen5006]

They are Atlanta, there isn't a better place for her field than there.

[@screwdriver_bandit]

A travel agent for guilt trips 😂 also describes MY mother.

[@babydollkincaid4584]

🤣

[@lydiasharpin6566]

At 52 I'm finally living my best life. 52 is not old, definitely prime of life. It's all in what you tell yourself. She needs a therapist and a life coach. I hope she works out. Tough love required.

[@firststar2]

This is pride. So much she can do. Target is hiring.

[@timdenny1991]

Again, Dave pumps the brakes and takes control of the call and gets to the core issue. Tough love!❤❤

[@drwpsych]

He stepped into Dr. Delony’s territory on this call. 😕

[@joelmartinez2278]

Like I've always said, education doesn't necessarily mean one is intelligent or have common sense.

[@amireallythatgrumpy6508]

Living in the USA actually proves one is neither intelligent nor has common sense.

[@eniak00]

There seems to be a trend recently on this show with callers calling with parents that “don’t want to work very much”.

[@indiaandrews6996]

True.

[@suen5006]

She's just discouraged and maybe depressed.

[@noreenn6976]

​@@suen5006surprised they didn't recommend career counseling and therapy.

[@TheNewgreatlife]

I've noticed that too. Ironically my mom has been the same way lately and she just turned 60. Thankfully she's married to a very financially well-off man though so she doesn't really have to.

[@whothou]

and people say it's a gen Z thing. it's pretty universal lmaoo

[@indiaandrews6996]

Children aren’t social security and Medicare.

[@rg5934]

I'm a 52 year old man, I can't imagine doing this to my 2 adult son's.

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[@cur244]

I"ll never understand how people can just sit around all day and do nothing. That would drive me nuts! Then again there's tons of people that sit on social media all day or watch netflix for 8 hours and see no problem with it.

[@countrygal3688]

I think "Mom" needs to see a doctor, as she seems to be severely depressed. That is her first step. "Son" can even make the appt. for her, and support her by going with her.

[@zvmZvm0102]

What is it with females needing doctors and therapists? I thought they were "strong and independent"? Did you know 1 out of 3 adult women is on an anti-depressant? WTF!

[@LDrift]

Great diagnosis, thanks Doc..

[@dianecelento4974]

Glad someone is showing some compassion.

[@sw6155]

PhD is a scam! My mom also got one and was never able to use get a job at that field. She uses some skills learned/developed at PhD course but overall, she’s in a completely different field in the private sector, not at university like she had planned… Thankfully at least she was able to finish with only 12k in student debt that she’s paid.

[@stevenporter863]

Generally an advanced degree can only practically be used to teach other people who get an advanced degree. In other words either useless in the real world or encourages career students.

[@comment_account2343]

This is very true. A PhD is a teaching degree. The only job opportunities it opens is teaching at a college and it closes many many doors. There also has been an explosion of phds recently. Unfortunately PhDs were only valuable when only white males were allowed to have them.

[@amireallythatgrumpy6508]

There are exactly zero universities in the USA. That's her issue.

[@nicholsonks]

Universities should limit the number of PhD students they admit, but they won't because they like the cheap labor from those grad students.

[@stevenporter863]

@@nicholsonks ... And the tuition they pay. Universities are a business like any other, why pass on free labor and extra revenue - especially when the revenue is guaranteed by the government through government loans.

[@rajbeekie7124]

Getting a PhD guarantees nothing. We don't know the background of the lady and her experience. Many universities give out degrees to people who lack a foundation that can be leveraged. There are tons of people who have undergraduate, masters, and doctorate degrees who are stacking shelves, doing uber, working at some coffee house, etc.

[@cherylbroadenax1006]

Always two sides to a story. The other side : some people are professional students and have no intention of working. It is ok to stack shelves while putting in applications. No shame in that.

[@jajitjit9216]

No shame at all. At least that's honest work.

[@rajbeekie7124]

@@jajitjit9216 I agree. No shame, but doing uber is not the expectation if one takes the time and money to get a degree, especially a PhD.

[@PhilipMarcYT]

​@@rajbeekie7124Doing Uber isn't a bad thing, I'd probably enjoy it for a while if I had to, but the problem are the customers... You never know what you'll get and they can be dangerous, very dangerous.

[@Angaloth19]

@@cherylbroadenax1006 Nothing wrong with that, as long as they don’t expect their fellow taxpayers to pay off their useless student loans for them.

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[@lennoxmutterick6434]

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[@radolfkalis4041]

She is 52, she has a good decade of work left. She doesn't want to work. She has a PHD in medical, she can get a job.

[@zvmZvm0102]

Depends, lots of "medical" PhDs are little more than a gender studies or art theory PhD. She's not an MD or PA. She probably studies "medical inequality" or something similar.

[@clarifyingquestions]

More like 2 decades especially if she has been a student for over a decade.

[@radolfkalis4041]

@@zvmZvm0102 I believe she said it was medical research, and she did a stint with the CDC. I just figgured it would be a real degree.

[@zvmZvm0102]

@@radolfkalis4041 Most people at the CDC are not STEM scientists or medical doctors. There's lots of Humanities researchers who look into how family structure, race, etc. contribute to the spread of infectious disease.

[@cherrypieforbreakfast1499]

Well, maybe. I've been around higher education for 30 years and can guarantee you that universities will give a Ph.D to an idiot. Maybe not in her case, but if the only place she can get a job is a temp position with the Fed is pretty suspect.

[@linhaton4957]

Take a lesser job and work at least til 65.

[@lonnieswag100]

Every time I see videos like this, I am so grateful that my parents weren’t financially irresponsible or lazy and that I know for a fact I will never have to do anything to take care of my Mom financially ever in life. Having that amount of pressure(even tho you’re not morally responsible to finance your parents life) seems really tough man. It’s like you can’t even live your own life smh

[@JoeyNYSDnomad]

This idea that people retire at a certain age regardless of whether they have money is crazy. If you don't have money you need to work.

[@moniquedavis3583]

Is it just me, or is Dave's Classic snap offs getting Better and Better as he gets older LOL...Direct CLASSIC WISDOM ❤

[@Ryan_DeWitt]

Why do so many people have so much trouble saying the simple word no to their family?

[@Sandy-of6gq]

It can be hard after a lifetime of guilt tripping

[@meomy29]

She's danged young. Heck, my aunt got her BSN at her age. This lady should work at least another 20 years. At least. She has plenty of time to work really hard and keep saving for her retirement.

[@AimeePoppinBabies]

In her 50s it would be best for her to get out still! She can make friends at work too. Spousal surrogacy is a real thing and it's not good for anyone.

[@isabelbecerra9258]

Yup he is her son-husband. Emotional and financial incest.

[@MarksTournaments]

​@@isabelbecerra9258 I know someone like that, works and pays every bill for his mom since highschool. He's a rat tho, their whole family are rats

[@BobDobbs681]

Mom, where do you see yourself in 10 years?

[@zvmZvm0102]

Living with you dear sweet son...lol

[@msjay5337]

​@zvmZvm0102😂 and i would say " I think tf not"

[@Sandy-of6gq]

Sucking your bank account and your patience dry son 😇

[@ugabuga1361]

Thank you mom. For not being like this mom.

[@Jim_Curtis]

Finally, Dave giving tough love to a woman instead of coddling her.

[@vals.2721]

I am in the same shit! It’s awful.

[@suen5006]

Overqualification and age discrimination are real, also. If you're over 50 it's that much harder to get a job, still she need to keep working at it. Meanwhile, I recommend doing anything, even Door Dash, just to keep busy and earn some money. Being home all day leads to depression. I did DD between jobs and it was ok and made me feel like I was doing SOMETHING.

[@julive565]

“That was a bad move, by the way” Got it Dave 📝

[@jillbaerg]

This sounds like my father-in-law. He got laid off from his job and got a early retirement package from the job he got laid off from. He spent all of his 401k and had no savings and nothing in his bank account. He was asking my husband for money, my husband would NOT give him money. We had no idea what he was going to do with it. He stopped paying all of his bills. His house ended up in foreclosure. He was also sick, but did nothing about it. He ended up passing away a year later. He had no will, no executor, nothing. It was a nightmare!!! This really made us dig in to Dave Ramsey and now we are completely debt free!!! Father-in-law was a good bad example.

[@cherylbroadenax1006]

Seems like a professional student who does not want to work. Medical field is the most easy field to get work. I personally know a few people who just do not want to work.

[@arleenm7367]

At 52 she's probably in menopause. With feelings of hopelessness and depression - she probably should see a doctor.

[@joshuasmith9312]

This is one of the wisest moments I've ever seen Dave have! And he's had lots of them!

[@mukd559]

The Oprah reruns line was great 🤣🤣💀💀

[@brooklynzoo81]

After the call, he took money out of his pocket and gave it to her. 😅 🤦‍♂️

[@Julian-zc9vm]

Sad that so many people, including mostly women, were talked into getting these useless low effort, low quality degrees from these online schools with student loans that don't have a good enough reputation to get them a job.

[@chrysiarose]

Im 60, earned two masters degrees at 57, work full time as a social worker. I could only dream of a Ph D. I went to a very low ranked state university and did all i could for a new retirement career. I wish I was 52. Wish wish wish

[@amireallythatgrumpy6508]

*state COLLEGE

[@Allisoninspirations]

I just dont understand how any parent can accept money from their kids when they are totally capable of working and being financially independent

[@markbrown5117]

A mistake that I see is that people are getting a Ph.D. in lieu of getting experience and working up the chain of command so to speak. The Ph.D can be a goal but should be done whille she has a full-time job. So she is getting real world experience and gaining more confidence through the new skills she has accumulated. I think with on-line education, people are "rushing" to get their master's and Ph.D.. They then assume that there will be a job "waiting for them" upon graduation. Finally, Ph.D. programs are very expensive and some Ph.D. programs have been shown to have scammed minorities who invested in them in order to get a job upon their completion of their Ph.D. program.

[@bebop504]

Yep… nowadays, most employers don’t even care about your schooling. They care about the skills you’ve picked up throughout your work career. Yes sometimes a degree is a requirement for a job, but they still care more about your actual experience. They ask about things you’ve done; not what you learned in school.

[@Sizukun1]

How much is that degree worth if they gave it to a 52 year old who can't be bothered to find a job using it?

[@zvmZvm0102]

Its probably in "medical inequality" studies or something similar, which isn't any better than an art history PhD.

[@mikeshaw4610]

Agree, you have to simplify this and just tell her No.

[@barbararepko4824]

I would never ask my grown kids for a dime, and my husband and I are in our 60’s and definitely not rich.

[@joycewright5386]

Maybe Mom is suffering from depression.

[@jbr2991]

Poor lady, I feel sorry for her. I hope she finds her purpose. I agree with Dave completely.

[@clarifyingquestions]

Unfortunately, the West is full of people like this woman and even worst "enablers" in society who THINK that they are helping but are really hurting.

[@babydollkincaid4584]

I agree with Dave 100%

[@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607]

I can’t imagine asking my kids to take care of me & being ok with it. I can’t get into the mindset of “parents” like that

[@GeminiPrincess92]

It’s so gross!!

[@zay6805]

I understand where his mom is coming from. I also have a doctorate and make less than 70k annually as a researcher. Research is a field that will humble a person. Someone with a bachelors or sometimes a high school degree will earn more or about the same as you. It is what it is. We just have to keep pushing forward and get as many years under our belt as we can. In the long run the degree will be worth it, it may just take 5-10yrs.

[@user-kk3qg5el1m]

He should’ve never allowed her to move into that rental property without signing a lease.

[@jasmine4087]

I'm going through a similar situation, but didn't have this advice before enabling my mom. Instead of my mom claiming that her medical career wasn't working for a year, this has been going on for yearssss and she has no plans of working. Now she is "sick" and is using that even more as an excuse. Now, I'm trying to severe this dependency. Don't go down that road!

[@cutlerylover]

The issue is once you have a PHD you no longer accept a "normal job" like retail or fast food or housecleaning...now you are "too good" for the jobs you can get and not good enough for the ones you wanted...better to have a crap job then no job...

[@FL-CourtReporter]

They need teachers

[@briankowald6465]

She can teach. Even community college.

[@Yogastrong908]

I’d love to hear mom’s side of this story.

[@kathythompson9931]

I love Dave’s advice!!!

[@kateruterbories2692]

I'm 54 and have a cleaning business I do on my own. She can work.

[@sgc1401]

She can probably teach at community colleges. These are great jobs for people.

[@georgewagner7787]

Yes but without experience they will only hire part time, per diem No benefits

[@SMetz-cw6qj]

Great advice!

[@darcyfox6674]

Help her with a resume and get assistance from a job recruiter . Also a temporary agency may help her get a foot in the door. Age discrimination is real.

[@sporttiger1766]

52 yo with a PHD in a good field...and she's done? Jeez 99% of the world would give their left arm for that situation.

[@analyticalchick3064]

He's still gonna give her money

[@mariad4183]

This lady is mind blowing!...she's done the hardest part by getting that PHD! Hell, she could be a speaker at a womens group...maybe try that approach

[@RedPanda79]

They are missing somethings: burn out, depression, menopause can all be reasons for what is going on

[@bebeflamand1]

Mom needs some tough love!

[@beatriceaba8851]

His mom is treating her son not only as her personal bank account but her husband. If this man were to marry, she will take issue because it will cut her funds down. Once upon a time, my bio parents look to me as a retirement. But let me tell you this, they both know I will walk over their dead bodies before I help either one of them. Cruel, yes but they know the expectation. Work, save money for your retirement, if not they will be on the streets.

[@mikeo8890]

My mother-in-law is the worst loser I ever seen, she was worth over a million dollars in the 1980s now she's broke and gets $3000 a month in SS and her late husband pension, she leaves the TV on all night, flush the toilet every 15min , gives money to my wife's drug addict sister and pays nothing to live in my house.

[@jajitjit9216]

Damn, that sucks!

[@georgewagner7787]

If she's urinating that often, she has diabetes or a UTI.

[@mikeo8890]

​@@georgewagner7787 She went to the doctor recently and they she is healthy after drinking more than a 6 pack of coke and eating junk food everyday, I had to quit drinking beer, eating chips and candy.

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Do you know anything about providing liquidity? I saw that Cryptonica accepts liquidity to support their network of crypto ATMs

[@ricksanchezsflask8794]

Giving a drunk a drink is a bad idea, but sometimes the arguing and fighting is just not worth it; especially if you're living at home with them. Children shouldn't have to parent their parents. It's only going to get worse as living at home in adulthood is becoming a necessity, not laziness. Sometimes, you just have to move on in life and leave people behind.

[@iamkesha.]

I don’t expect my only child to take care me. Looking back back, I am so glad I made the decisions when I was younger, enlisted in and retired from the military. Because of that decision, I am set for life and will not have to depend on anyone financially. Add, I live on 30% of my retirement pay. It is heartbreaking to hear about this woman that is my age because this describes me perfectly, who have lost confidence due to the difficult transition after retiring. I know how she feels. I’ve been there. I’m still there but the good news for me is I am financially independent because of that retirement pay.

[@user-gi5dt2lr8i]

Damn we have it the other way around in the middle east. We have to care for our parents until they pass away.

[@Chet_24]

Id love to sit around and do nothing, too. If i could afford it, i would.

[@pattyfication]

The brutal truth as always

[@briankowald6465]

Need mom’s side of the story.

[@micahlutherknight]

Your mother has a doctrine! Your mother is running G.A.M.E. on U all the way. Brandon if I were in your shoes, I’d coach her into a small start up, specializing in “ her passion “ and hire interns - 5 yr experience candidates. Just my advice.

[@DudeDude491]

John is gonna ask if the Mom is SAFE?

[@Mr.Boring_Man]

🔥 😂😂😂

[@laundrygoddess4]

I've only heard Dave ask this question 🤷‍♀️

[@DudeDude491]

@@laundrygoddess4 I lost count how many times I heard John ask that Question…Dave on the other hand I have never heard ask THE are you safe question 😊

[@laundrygoddess4]

@@DudeDude491 Dave asked on the call where the abuser was standing beside the woman and he had the police go get her. I've heard John say it doesn't feel safe but I've never heard him ask are you safe

[@randyadams1312]

@@laundrygoddess4dr John does all the time on his individual podcast

[@berniecolling3697]

Bible says honor thy mother and father KJV

[@trishahopkins8199]

Blimey! I owe my son 20 quid and i feel dead guilty

[@alberttang6955]

A PhD and working briefy at the CDC in "medical research" until that ended. I'm going to guess the mom got a degree in something related to biochemistry or molecular biology. If she doesn't have any published research of her own, or a few years of solid experience working as a post Doctoral researcher at a prominent university or institute, it will be tough for her to catch on at a university. It's just so competitive amongst PhDs for the very few tenure track positions in academia that open up in any given year. You're competing against the best and brightest minds coming out of elite universities - in the US as well as from overseas. And she's over credentialed as a PhD to work as a laboratory technician at any research program, so that eliminates many possible jobs in the research field.

[@georgewagner7787]

Unless she leaves it off the resume but it depends what her undergrad is in

[@Sandy-of6gq]

she can put her ego aside and get any job for starters

[@lizh4933]

Dave gave good advice, however, he missed a big psychological part of this equation. The husband is gone and now the son becomes the default husband. I have seen this in my practice even escalating to sleeping in the same bed with the son. Very unhealthy dynamic and I hope this young man has the strength to give mother the shove that she needs. Cruel to be kind is the operative word here.

[@allthingsnu4673]

She's probably discouraged and/or depressed but she should just get a job and do the best she can.

[@catherinewilke5583]

She’s my age 😂 I cant imagine expecting my kids to support me, and I’m retired because I got sick (MS). I was earning a big wage before that. I support my grown son still because he’s in college. This woman is a leech.

[@janan5570]

I hate when they immediately start talking and don’t let the callers get their question in.

[@SMetz-cw6qj]

Great advice!

[@Tracy-oi4wr]

She’s just lazy. She may have to start at the bottom. No kid should have to pay for a parent ever.

[@fire12731]

She has a PhD??? Really?

[@Michael-jo9jb]

Why would she work?? She gets the son to give all all the money she needs lol

[@itsyagirlashleytv]

She sounds like my parents and yeah I had to go no contact. Not my problem anymore

[@nicholsonks]

There's an oversupply of biomedical research PhDs, it's dispiririting for all these talented grads. I hope she finds something good soon.

[@capricygao8236]

truly true

[@JoeRNNE1]

Caller, don't give in to her. She's obviously intelligent, and at 52 she can find another job. She just wants someone to mooch off of, and apparently does not care if that someone is her child.

[@Ethiodawg]

My parents want to rely on me 💯 when I have two other siblings because I make more money. It’s exhausting to be honest 😢