my mom ranks shipping dynamics💑

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it was really funny seeing just how different our tastes were with certain dynamics, but it was also super cool to hear her explanations and i had a lot of fun doing this ranking with her!😄
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[@ColeyDoesThings]

Do you agree with my mom on her choices😲? Lemme know your thoughts and i'll share them with her!! 🎆Use code "COLEY" for $5 off your first box of Sakuraco team.sakura.co/coley-SC2307 and TokyoTreat team.tokyotreat.com/coley-TT2307 now! Experience Japan from the comfort of your own home!!🎇

[@itenelhak]

Definitely agree on the childhood friends and the rivals to lovers dynamics. They are my absolute favourites. 🥰❤ Also, love seeing you and your mom's videos. They are always so cute and fun to watch. 😊

[@Jedi-Ghosty]

Her takes are really funny and actually quite accurate 😂 Edit: maybe not all of them but a few I definitely think I agree with and are accurate. Just wanted to clarify that

[@Daelyah]

Some, I definitely agree with. A few others, I have my reasons for appreciating them more than her. But rivals to lovers and childhood friends, DEFINITELY YES. 💗

[@evihippogrief772]

I don't know... Some I agree with (like optimist x pessimist and good (but evil) x evil (but good)), but others I just totally disagree (like hero x villain or cop x criminal). And then there's also the ships I literally can't put in any bad tier (but your mom did) because I'm included in them (polyamory ships or exes that still have feelings)

[@Elia1481]

Can you do a video talking about KOSA

[@PerukiWigs]

I think Coley should legally be proclaimed the fanfic queen

[@spacedude5208]

The leaders of the fan fiction faction or the fff

[@sientificpanda]

All in favour say g-cough-AY!

[@liilaperhonen036]

​@@sientificpandaG-COUGH-AY!!!

[@odetoclear]

*fanfic goddess

[@miralang8149]

Would that make her mom the Fanfic queen mother?

[@HoodieSardine]

Love how your mom understands the absolute magic that is ENEMIES TO LOVERS

[@leek.3671]

YEESSSSS

[@GooseBucket-hr1go]

I dare say people understood that delightful cauldron of chemistry all the way back when Mr Darcy initially had no intention of dancing with Elizabeth at a ball. ☺

[@louzo5175]

the way she commented on angst is awesome n on point lmaoo

[@faenene]

Yes, one of my fav tropes! :D

[@M-m585]

The classic tropes are naturally the best

[@sincerelynotme3522]

Im proud of the energy we created in the studio today

[@NAMEREDACTED-lg4bw]

Oh, absolutely!

[@jujuoof174]

Bahaha, same!!!

[@Luna_kuna08]

Yes

[@jeezpotato]

I could never do this with my mother, she would not understand me and would think im absolutely crazy. this is going to surprisingly wholesome to watch

[@azr3ii]

sameee like my mom would lecture me abt _everything_ 😭😭

[@jeezpotato]

@@azr3ii right my mom doesn’t think I’m capable of liking things to begin with lolol

[@Hewowin]

Lmao same

[@BishopShotgun]

One time my mom found out about my shipping tendencies, we watched an episode starring both characters in the ship (to preface, the episode where I went “I ship it!”). And when we get to that moment in specific, I kid you not, she blurts out with full confidence in the middle of a cute one-off scene: “HE ASSAULTS HIM???”

[@Gonzora]

I mean... Considering all the trouble shippers bring to fandoms, maybe your mom would be right. 🤔

[@scarletthenderson4864]

I love how in depth she gave her explanations

[@Deflamed_Sphere]

same it is so intriguing

[@stellamariefanboy.6768]

As someone who moved to America with a mom that doesn’t speak English all to well, it’s always interesting to me hearing what it’s like being able to have full blown conversations with them and them knowing what you’re talking about without having to simplify.

[@freshcupofangst]

Coley's mom was so right to put rivals to lovers in god tier. It's devastatingly underrated imo Edit: OKAY OKAY I'M SORRY I SAID UNDERRATED!! It's just that ao3 has lumped rivals to lovers into the enemies to lovers tag when that's not what it is, and when people talk about liking rivals to lovers they usually describe what I see as enemies to lovers! So what I consider rivals to lovers is underrated! The way I see it, rivalries are not *inherently* malicious (though they *can* be if you want) and can quite often be lighthearted and all in good fun, it's a trope where the characters can be competitive and maybe a bit mean with eachother but still friendly, whereas enemies are...Enemies. Hostility towards eachother is inherent in the trope, it's what it's *built* around. TLDR; rivals to lovers and enemies to lovers can be very similar but rivals to lovers is often times more like enemies to lovers more easy going and flexible cousin.

[@bluespacecadet]

I wonder how her mom would feel about skk considering they are both rivals to lovers and exes that still have feelings for each other lol

[@dxrkwitch]

when did skk date????? they were ex-partners from the mafia but never actually dated😭💔 did i miss something????😭

[@bluespacecadet]

@dxrkwitch It's a headcanon within the fandom that they dated while they were in the mafia together

[@dxrkwitch]

@@bluespacecadet ohhhh we're talking headcanons😭😭 I was like DAMN I GOTTA FINISH SB😭💔

[@bluespacecadet]

@dxrkwitch Oof, you're still in the "happier days" arc lol. It's rough in the current arc 😮‍💨

[@ITrulyDontExist]

Coley's mom is the parental figure I needed when I was younger-

[@leek.3671]

Sameee

[@warriorcatkitty]

same 😭

[@normanteio5402]

same lol

[@shirendjorgee9320]

It’s nice to see that being a monsterf***** is hereditary.

[@BlueDandilon]

I choked when I saw this

[@freshcupofangst]

Legit got so hyped from this notification, Coley's mom slays tbh

[@lunarlight3018]

Fellow bsd fan?

[@freshcupofangst]

@@lunarlight3018 You know it! ╮(╯▽╰)╭

[@sunlightlotus]

They’re so similar in how they explain things in so much detail! It’s adorable 😊💙

[@bluespacecadet]

​​@@lunarlight3018boy does it suck to be a bsd fan rn 😭

[@--Friend--]

@@bluespacecadet fr the newest chapter killed me.

[@PrayerWarrior4]

Dang, your mom would be great for storyboarding for charcters and development, she's fantastic 🤩

[@maplepainttube8158]

Everyone else go home, Coley's mom has made the definitive tier list! I love how she loves angst, and contrasting couples, but has no tolerance for relationships dynamics that are just bad for one or both characters, I feel that in my soul, and agree so hard.

[@Baguettes_The_Great]

I do like her list but I despise bully x bullied because it pushes the "he/she bullies you because he/she likes you" trope. Unless the bully isn't the one bullying the bullied, then it's fine

[@lusinebaghyan8864]

​@@Baguettes_The_Greatthe only story with that trope that I like was "silent voice".

[@Baguettes_The_Great]

@@lusinebaghyan8864 so real for that

[@DiaArtCreativity]

I get the feeling Coley's mum would love Good Omens😂 "different sides" "angel x demon". You could also argue the "good but evil, evil but good" im there😂 also "best friends with sus behavior"

[@scrunkly_boy1]

That's exactly what I was thinking!I love Good Omens so much and season 2 broke my heart😭

[@broblerone413]

i was thinking the same thing! ineffable husbands is like all the best shipping dynamics rolled into one

[@scrunkly_boy1]

@@broblerone413 literally though!

[@asthejayflies]

GOOD OMENS S2 SPOILERS shed be hit by the s2 ending tho, they broke up but clearly still love each other. i wonder if shed change her mind if she understood that sometimes circumstances can change (such as aziraphale coming to realize heaven cant be changed / crowley would never want to come back to heaven no matter how much was changed) that make it so that they really can work through the issue that tore them apart

[@deeznutz2454]

I’ve been trying to escape the pain :,)

[@user-wm1yc2gk2w]

I see Coley's mom is the kinds person to tell stranger girls in the bathroom "Don't call your ex!!"

[@dapawta]

I clicked onto this knowing immediately "this woman is gonna have Such great opinions"

[@indigovae3579]

Ya know, your mum is very wise. She's allowed me to have a new perspective on some of the dynamics that apply to my previous relationship. Mainly "Exes that still have feeling for each other". My ex broke up with me because he wanted to work on himself a bit, and in the beginning I was fantasising, and even now I've been fantasising that he'll realise what he's missed out on and come asking to get back together with me. And part of me wants to take him back. But, she makes a good point - if we really cared about each other, we would find a way to work things out between us. And She's right. Our chapter is over. We need to start a new one with new people. Thank you, Coley's mum, for helping me confirm my decision of not chasing after him anymore. I need to find someone new who is willing to work through things with me there to support them. I was so willing to support my ex in any way, but he really wanted to break things off between us while he worked his own things out. Plus, he's currently ghosting me after he said we can still be friends. So yeah. SCREW HIM! I'M GONNA FIND SOMEONE ELSE! Again, thank you, Coley's mum. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! ❤❤❤

[@Daelyah]

The most recent nightmare I had was a "Life Is Strange"-esque one, in which I tried to repair broken friendships, including with the last ex. However, it led to losing my best friend and current nesting partner, as well as an alternate reality version of myself getting into severe trouble with the law. Coley's mom has some damn good wisdom that can certainly be applied to RL relationship dynamics. Just further confirming that former relations don't deserve any more of my headspace.

[@Professor_Brie]

A family member of mine broke up with a serious girlfriend, and while he was in the midst of getting over his feelings for her and having a really hard time, I remember him explaining that even if she decided she wanted to get back together, he wouldn’t do it, because she had already broken his trust in her, and even if she fixed the issues she had that caused the situation (she never took initiative to get therapy for those problems), he would never be able to have that trust for her again. She may one day fix those problems and have a healthy long lived relationship with someone else, but the two of them could never go back after that break up (and no, it wasn’t a cheating situation, just that the break up was essentially her throwing him in the trash, as he described it)

[@Doryzitter]

I had a scarily similar situation happen to me. A guy I dated broke things off barely a month after we went on a date that wasn't supposed to be a date. I had wanted a reason to escape my house for awhile because of personal reasons, and that "date" ended with me asking if we were dating. I realize it was a foolish question to ask, but I was wary of his intentions when he kissed me. Turns out, I had been right, cuz a year later, he confessed he had been using me as a distraction from his life. In all honesty, I couldn't blame him for that, since I was doing the same thing kind of. Anyway, he said he needed to work on some things, and I didn't try to talk him out of the relationship. I didn't want to seem clingy, and I thought it was wise of him to better himself so he could pursue the kind if relationship he wanted, preferably not with me. I agree with Coley's mom; once you're out, you're out. I didn't know how to feel about him anyway, especially after feeling pressured by a mutual friend between him and me to date each other since we _clearly_ had feelings for each other 😒

[@applepatronum4934]

Ahw this is so nice to read. I support you in your decision!

[@June-e]

i love that your mum's looking out for the people in the dynamics it's so sweet

[@warriorcatkitty]

ayyy collector pfp pics! :D

[@Pinkywinkykinky]

Think she'd end up despising Catradora not liking the sweet one getting the bad side of things even with all the friends to enemies to lovers-ness

[@scaramoucheshusband]

@@Pinkywinkykinky catradora is mid i'm not sorry

[@blockgirlygamer7714]

@@scaramoucheshusbandur right and I just wish that we could get a GOOD actually healthy wlw enemies to lovers for once 😭

[@look-at-this-goofy-ahh-rat]

i should do this with my mom, who is literally a professional writer

[@suavefrog5029]

Omg plssss 🙏🙏

[@aurelius-sparks]

that would be interesting!

[@Typicali]

@@aurelius-sparkstrue 🥹

[@randompersontrying9700]

OMG YESS

[@Beloveid]

YESSS

[@izziebobizzie]

Man I WISH I could have a family member rank shipping dynamics but the only one who even knows what shipping is is my brother and he doesn't really care about shipping even when its a canon relationship.

[@cloudenvy47]

REAL

[@lmaohi1500]

Your mom’s opinions and explanations are literally so valid

[@thewaffleywizard648]

ok but your mum has some really based reasoning 👏

[@I_E_O_T_C]

FINALLY! Someone GETS IT with bully x bullied. I don’t necessarily want them TOGETHER together. I WANT to see the dynamic play out. I want the psychological impacts. I want CONSEQUENCES. I want THINGS to HAPPEN for REASONS related to those psychological ISSUES. It’s not about the ship necessarily. It’s about the potential. It’s about the human psyche. It’s so much more than just ‘I wanna see em fck’. I could NEVER explain it before

[@sentineluno]

Tldr: op needs therapy

[@just_Moss]

I love how the Mom is all for healthy relationships

[@lrmurphy]

HERE WE GO AGAIN! MY DOSE OF MRS. DOESTHINGS SPITTING FACTS.

[@LiskaDe]

I love that your mom is very invested in the character development in a ship. It shows she really looks at them like, "But is the story around them going to be good?" Which really makes ya think about "hm, I wonder why I like the ships that I like?"

[@varada3106]

coley on a posting spree we love to see it oh mother coley feed us with the fandom trash we crave for

[@latuacantante1990]

She is no longer just your mother, Coley, she is now OUR mother! XD

[@book_roblox]

She had trafficked us😨

[@ElysianLys]

I love how cerebral and deeply thought-out your mom gets with her choices and reasoning, super intriguing! She's definitely got the Elder Fandom mindset well in hand. If I asked my mom, she'd go purely based on vibes and not put nearly as much care into it. (No shame, we all love the vibes in this house!)

[@teeteeplays]

I love how Coley’s mom knows some fandom slang XD

[@codo430]

I like the distinction between "bully" and "villain" made here. The bully doesn't understand themselves fully, and might want to be changed but the villain is likely a better schemer, and could drag the hero down to their level.

[@wiltingrosel7449]

Yes!!! I feel a lot people missed that part of the mom's explanation on why she likes bully X bullie!

[@official-watermelon]

Your mom is actually on point with a lot of these tbh. She’s got the balance between the couple having enough differences to make it interesting but not wanting pointless fighting or drama. Also she could not be more right about rivals to lovers GOD TIER

[@ShadowMellowK]

when your mom went OFF about exes who still have feelings for each other? i felt that

[@agentorder4604]

Lmao Colley’s mom talking about monster x human Reason why they like it Mom: “I want to see how it works” Colley(what she thinks) “I want to see how “it” works😏”

[@rxbelrubiez]

LMAO THATS LITERALLY WHAT I WAS THINKING TOO 😭

[@book_roblox]

NAHHHHHHH BROTHA NAHHHHHHHHHHHH

[@metagnat]

I adore how concerned your mom is about the health of these notional relationships. It's very sweet.

[@one-onessadhalf3393]

COLEY’S MOM SAYING TO THE EXES THAT STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER “YOU’RE DONE GET OVER IT” HAS ME ON THE FLOOR LMAO

[@NobodyWhoIsHere]

living for all of the weird barbie creature cameos in the editing

[@yourlocaldemon2195]

Coley’s mom really giving out free romantic advice if you squint

[@rowan404]

My mom listened to this as I was watching, and when she heard, “lovers to rivals” she laughed out loud and exclaimed, “I love it!”

[@youarenowdotted.]

My mom would be so confused if I tried to tell her about anything to do with ships T^T

[@ivydelight]

I love how your mom gave reasonable explanations to a lot of her choices. She really gave this some thought. I could literally never do this with my mom. 😅

[@kazewz]

the fish from barbie mermaid tails set off the chaotic vibes from the start.

[@medii48]

the fact that she watches edits on Instagram is so cute 😭❤️

[@tsifirakiehl4250]

Coley’s mom just gets it about the exes trope. Like, you two broke up for a reason! What makes you think things are going to be any different the second time around? Pro tip for real life: if you ever find yourself tempted to get back with your ex, remind yourself of exactly why they’re your ex.

[@mothss.]

Your mom is literally the best 😭

[@sunlightlotus]

We need another tier ranking video from Coley and her mom but for Kdramas 👀💙💙

[@donagorali5950]

YES EXACTLY!!! Such a good video idea!!!

[@jackie6361]

"Rivals to Lovers. I want to see the ANGST" I've never heard something more relatable in my life

[@day_pilot]

The GOAT mom is back at it again🔥🔥🔥

[@maxwellgrimsley]

I love your mom caring for the sunshine person, even though it’s fictional she doesn’t want anyone hurt. What a queen. 😭💕

[@dreemurr0050]

I wasn’t expecting a deep relationship and media analysis here, but I’m here for it now.

[@leixa0701]

I always loved this type of videos. "my mom ranks...." "my mom reacts to..." You know that it'll always be a banger everytime

[@cloudenvy47]

Let’s be honest, we all want a mom like Mama Coley

[@didi8360]

This was great! I loved listening to your mother's reasons, and it was fun seeing how she went from "Let's go off of if they will work out or not IRL" to "Hmm.. But will this be Interesting?". Her and I have very similar tastes lol

[@auliamate]

A Love Between Fairy And Devil reference!!! Ironically that’s possibly my moms fave c-drama for the MC’s relationship 😂😂😂

[@somegoodsoup7008]

I guess the liking of "Monster x Human" is genetic. I've also got the thought that your mother might be into Lumity if you showed her it knowing her tastes.

[@Frostfern94]

I was thinking that

[@braindavidgilbert3147]

Some studies do show that kinks might be at least a little genetic.

[@somegoodsoup7008]

​@@braindavidgilbert3147no flippin way you gotta be cappin, man! I need to see the proof on this.

[@braindavidgilbert3147]

@@somegoodsoup7008 cant link on youtube, so look up “Are Kinks Hereditary? What Science Says About the Genetics of Desire” by Glamour.

[@Ace_Maus]

3:20 your mom just validated my feelings so perfectly here. Having been broken up the only two times I dated by guys who left the country, yeah, I've witnessed people working that out, those two just didn'r want to. 😭

[@book_roblox]

They do not deserve you, sis. As many have said, "there are plenty of fish in the sea"

[@RubiByron]

I'm tempted to do this with my mom now, she was one of the original star trek fan girlies 🤣🤣

[@EMan753]

Damn I love her! Even the ones I disagreed on, she was making points! Love seeing parents who are able to have fun like this, mine would not want to play along and/or be very concerned lmao

[@princessofthecourt3183]

The energy both of them have is great 😂🤌🏻

[@ivanadragmire2873]

i could never imagine explaining ANYTHING from fanfic culture to ANYONE i know irl, let alone my parents. but here Coley is, just sharing it all with her mom. you go girl. but i'll be over hear vaguely referencing my interests because i will actually die if someone irl know what i write.

[@frostfyrespirit_0653]

"monster x human... this is interesting" got me i just-😆

[@YourWaywardDestiny]

Now I know what to write to capture your mother. It's all over for her. Rivals to lovers or childhood friends in a K-drama fandom. Hell, I'll write both in the same fic if I can get away with it.

[@renatal.129]

THE EGGMAN AND STONE CLIP KILLED ME, COLEY LIKES ALL MY WEIRD SHIPS!!

[@Littleghostman4]

I love your mom, she seems like a sweet lady :)

[@sherryting-yulin2545]

Your mom is such a wise person, love hearing her insights XD

[@doctor_axoltol5195]

Your mom speaks facts! Her voice is so pretty and she seems so sweet! You guys have such a close bond I hope we can see her in future videos

[@OO-ek8sc]

1am over here! Can't wait to watch the video Edit: Personally I agree with your mom's tier list full heartedly!

[@crohyena]

her asking 'what's sus behavior' got me lmao

[@lishs-og]

Your mum is adorable and makes a lot of sense. I find myself agreeing most often. It was wonderful "meeting" her, and you're right, she explained herself well and it wasn't weird at all. Chin up Mama Coley, you were a joy to watch and hear your thoughts on. I'd love to see you on more one day.

[@Tipsy_Turby]

I like how deep her answers and thought processes are lol

[@Lady_ETHNE]

I love it when Coley's mom is on the channel.

[@eli_rook]

I’m curious now to see how Mama DoesThings would react to Raeda from The Owl House

[@j0j0thefan]

Your mom is such a sweetheart. You guys are so cute 😊

[@1dk_what2writehere]

I have never wanted to be friends with someone's mom so bad- she seems like an absolute sweetheart with taste!

[@MOONCHILD8]

13:57 oh she was the person who was in my For you page on YT in 2020? And doing fanfic?! I found her after so many years! Woo! Happy to see her again! 💗🎀

[@animalbunnyaj5175]

Coley's mom being an absolute badass is my temporary therapy while mine is having a baby 👍

[@CrisSelene]

Your mom is an angel and hilarious. Also, I didn't expect to see Xiao Xingchen when I clicked on this, but I'm glad I did

[@twichewie]

Coley and her mum are so cute and wholesome together 🥺🥺🥺 this made my heart feel so full 🥺❤❤

[@SapphireSonata]

Opposites attract is such a fun dynamic, I vibe with your mom’s god tier rankings 😍

[@aizmaskas]

I really like the mature perspective!

[@sheepysnowtato824]

6:16 I want to know why she likes this one in comparison to the 'anger problems x a literal sunshine', cause I see 'bully x bullied' as having the same issues as the other trope but worse cause it's even more likely to be handled po.orly and consequently send a bad message. 6:43 She even uses the word 'anger' XD

[@tapping-asmritalia6658]

Rival to lover "God Tier" YES, just YES. Love ur mom, Enemies to lovers is my favorite too and childhood friends who meet again is my other fav!! Oh... And the moon and sun it's Soo interesting also to me.

[@anxieturt]

mama coley is a woman of taste!!!!

[@elilight1190]

The abrupt snapcube reference at 5:25 absolutely threw me-I thought I’d accidentally clicked onto another video lol

[@aclaymushroomwithaberet7084]

Coleys moms opinions are unbelievably god tier

[@cams.o]

The snap cube shadow dub reference!! We love a cultured queen

[@HopeIsADrug11037]

I literally just watched the video where you ranked shipping dynamics 😭

[@BrianWanke]

Your mother is a mood, she has good taste. 😂

[@V-SanSings-yn6np]

I love her Mom! She explains her reasoning in a similar way I do and it’s very comforting to hear someone go so in-depth with ship dynamics. Love the new video!!☺️

[@moomoo1182]

Now I want to see Coley do this to see how it compares to her mom’s

[@ZaneEnthusiast]

Can I just say that I appreciate you so much for putting Robotnik and Stone when explaining the Villain x Assistant 😭 Those two have WAY to much sexual tension

[@Broadwaychica]

Your relationship with your mom is so heartwarming. 🥰

[@MT3A]

It feels so weird when I see people who are so close to their parents. I feel envious 😅

[@sarahy1680]

This video? God Tier! Hearing your mother work out why something did or didn't work for her was wonderful and your editing? *chef's kiss* Monster x human, huh? You know we all went there.... 😊

[@alenalim1479]

ur mom has such a healthy perception of relationships!!! love these videos

[@kaysrandomchannel4618]

I don't really care for shipping, but your mom has very good taste.

[@fictionfan2672]

I know if I were to do this with my mom, halfway through she’d ask what a monster x human entails 🤣 Anyway, love you Coley and Coley’s mom, thanks for making my day ❤️❤️❤️

[@ThePsychicClarinetist]

Mama Coley is awesome! She has very interesting opinions and her explanations for why are good and really clear, she knows what she wants and that's awesome! That's goals as someone who's indecisive, LOL. Ahhh every ad you do for Sakura Co. and Tokyo Treat makes them sound so good! I gotta subscribe to them, seriously. Awesome video as always, Coley! Keep up the great, entertaining work! 😁

[@user-tx2ph2wf2u]

This was so beautiful it made me cry

[@esa2419]

This was fun!! Loved hearing her reasoning behind the choices, v fun :))

[@soulcakeplatypus6522]

I love that she thought through all her decisions, like she's not just blowing you off she's having fun