My Mother-in- law came to visit+𝐖𝐎𝐍’𝐓 leave… (HELP)

[@ginahebert1700]

Oh my goodness, this is my life right now! My mother-in-law came to visit for the holidays and it doesn’t sound like she’s planning on going back home until AT LEAST February, 2022. I love her and have the utmost respect for her, BUT…she has the tendency to overstep boundaries and my husband definitely takes her thoughts and opinions over mine. I feel like I’m constantly being judged regardless of what I am or I’m not doing. I feel like a stranger in my own home and it makes for an extremely uncomfortable situation. Thank you for addressing this and providing great feedback! Wish me luck 😂🤣

[@skayeb6491]

Good luck girl u got this! Fighting 😊

[@LingandLamb]

Good luck, Gina! We hope this can help you out, girl! Much, much love to you!!!😘💖 -Ling

[@LummieEdevbie]

Take a bold step talk to your hussy.

[@melanietibui761]

I feel your pain girl. I've been there. Some men are just mummy's son's and will always put their moms first.

[@christopherokoeguale1934]

@@melanietibui761 Hope you not gonna really throw her out😄

[@nollywoodtrailers1797]

I will be brutally honest. What makes this couple unique is that they are themselves 100%. Lamb doesn't tone down his Nigeriannes at all....and Ling accepts his Nigeriannes 100%. That is unique. You guys are a blessing. More grease.

[@blackvoiceletchworth488]

Yep and it's beautiful ❤️

[@MotifBeatz]

Very well said! I love it!

[@RiRi367]

He also accepts her persona as well; it have to be both ways or else it wouldn't work for them

[@MotifBeatz]

@@RiRi367 So true

[@musondamulenga52]

So true and that why we love them🙂They are so authentic

[@nazeemjacobs7511]

I'm married for 27 years ,in South Africa in my home, I have a plaque that reads, "All parents bring happiness, some by coming, and some by going " And they got the message. Happy wife,happy life...

[@staceywright2973]

As a mother, this video gave me a different perspective. When it comes to my son, I don't mean to be overbearing, I just love my son and want the best for him. However, I must respect the choice he makes and support from the sideline. That's not an easy thing to do BUT listening to you both helped me see things differently. My son wouldn't say this to me but I'm sure he feels the same way. Letting your son leave the home is hard on a mom so have grace for us. I will be mindful of my strong opinions in the future. One love Ling and Lamb❤

[@helenekquaynor]

Awww bless you Mama, this was not easy to realise and admit. May God give you the grace and wisdom to continue to be an awesome mum and may you reap the rewards of your Labour.

[@nathaliasimone_]

Well that is beautiful that you reflected and realized that. God bless you as you continue to grow in peace, grace, and God's wisdom and maneuver your relationship with him 😁💗❤🙌🏾🙏🏾!

[@trish0817]

I would put you in your place without hesitation. That's just the type of girl I am. I have no more problems with my MIL. LOL.

[@adwoaopoku8356]

God bless you for the truth 🙏 Wish u well mom.

[@adex_smith]

Social media is a beautiful place to learn. God bless you mom

[@mermaid30019]

Key word Lamb said was respect which many relationships lack.

[@kateakintoye6507]

This topic has broken many homes in Africa. All they need is wisdom on all sides. Good counsel from Ling and Lamb.

[@jamelsaiegh8167]

Broke my marriage 💔

[@kimberlyhernandez6558]

@@jamelsaiegh8167 😒😥 so sorry to hear that 🙄I know the feeling as well. Ex was responsible for our end but the MIL didnt help being a sounding board and then covering for him. I hope and pray Lamb does a cover on the APPROPRIATE position of parents in their kids lives after marriage .... for the ones that just maybe willing to hear you, God knows its needed !

[@leratomiza808]

It broke mine. It is well though

[@kateakintoye6507]

@@jamelsaiegh8167 so sorry to hear about that. That's one of the main problems facing young men who can't put a line between their mother and wife especially if he is a mommy's boy. 😁😁 Just saying.

[@syliviamayanja1770]

@@jamelsaiegh8167 sorry dear bt parents never respect their son's homes

[@debratuchman9569]

A doctor and a life coach yet he also does laundry. What a fine man. I love watching you two interact. Have a great life.

[@oscarjade1061]

Wow! He's a doctor? This is news to me. I thought he was a musician or so because of the soundtrack to their videos.

[@akpujihamanos478]

He is not a doctor

[@candycane8081]

😂😂 what? He’s a famous musician. Ok ok. i don’t know it all so maybe his is a dr.

[@TruthTroubadour-xi9cc]

No, he is not a medical doctor. If he were, he would never have fallen for Ling's uterus prank!

[@amykendall3936]

@@TruthTroubadour-xi9cc lol that's so true good observations and analysis 👍👍👍

[@aribisalaolusegun2953]

One thing I tell new couple is this, “every visit to your home should receive their expiration dates before arrivals" If this ain't in place, your home will be broken.

[@eunicemams3381]

Love your comment “ every visit should receive an expiration date before arrival”. T👍👍👍

[@kharlie22]

THIS!!! Had someone stay with us for a little bit, then we ended up enrolling their children in our school system. My grandparents came to visit and my grandma flat out asked "When are you gonna get your life together and get out my daughter's house?" I almost passed out!!

[@wusiwale]

We call men like that mummy's boy. Communication is key there, just as Ling says. Communicate...communicate....communicate...

[@kalonmontgomery8213]

AMEN!!!!! Wife over mom ALL DAY, EVERY DAY. Lamb: "Protect your wife."

[@orobev4965]

So so very true. You started off by saying parents don't respect their children. As a Nigerian, I know that to be accurate. I personally have thought about how I will treat my potential daughter in law and have decided that she will be my daughter, period! I will love and respect her as I do my son.

[@westernskies2199]

😌🥲

[@dipitavanessa8522]

Can recall my mum started being cold with my elder brother’s fiance. Had a talk with her and told her do not forget I’ll be in that position one day and you won’t like if my man’s mother treats me the same way. She apologized and made an effort to change. Started treating her so nicely. It’s really not hard, just treat everyone the way you would love to be treated

[@stevemine1]

And give them space

[@Cici_1298]

She is one lucky girl

[@oluchiehirim1074]

So true, as a Nigerian, my mum can be a handful and Frankly I pity the girls my brothers will marry 😢😂

[@planwithmarisol]

As someone who has that mother-in-law. You are both grown women and that is your home. She knows what that means. Tell her it's time to go back home. Your home is your peace, do not let anyone take that from you. Remember to invite her back for another stay. My partner is a mama's boy, but he respected my opinion on this. Now, she currently has some health issues and I am happy to help take care of her. I am glad that I was respected at those times when I deserved it because I now know I can trust her to respect my space and peace. So far, so good.

[@caro-9471]

This was a very good video 👌🏽 As a Mexican you MUST set boundaries with your parents (at least from my experience). Hispanic parents(especially the mother) tend to have a HARD time letting go, especially a son they’ve babied their whole life. But Lamb is right, communication is KEY.

[@zianeshkasparen4358]

It is not only Hispanics, so you have an ally in me. They boooom you away. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I am from the Caribbean and Looord we do have Medley mothers at time. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@MsMarsss]

Honestly not just Hispanic parents,even Nigerian parents. These days I'm noticing that Hispanics and Africans/Nigerians have some what similar social behaviours.

[@ImWorthy4Real]

Yes it’s all race of mothers!! Have a hard time in letting go

[@bolaking]

Its not only Hispanics but Africa mothers too

[@caro-9471]

@@bolaking I believe that. I’m Hispanic so I’m just speaking from my culture experience that I grew up in. I’m sure many other cultures deal with this issue as well.

[@pecanchic]

First of all, I just found you guys on KZbin this morning. I have fallen in love with both of you. What a beautiful relationship. I watched every single one of your shorts. This is the first time in 18 years that I have even considered that I might want to be married again -- if it can be filled with this kind of laughter. The love and respect that you have for each other is palpable.

[@roselineduru2080]

Ling and lamb are the best relationship advisers I have ever come across. They really changed my perspective about relationships positively. I love you guys ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@cicim-s8z]

Absolutely. Same with me

[@dickersontee4399]

💝💝💝💝💝💝

[@lorrainemcdonald7982]

You mother is just that, your mother! You married your wife as you joining of souls, two different relationships. Like you've said, communication is key!

[@adebowaleifeoluwasimeon3885]

Officially, I'M ADDICTED TO THIS COUPLE!!! Would definitely meet you both in person by God's Grace 😘🙏💕

[@lbar7140]

Preach Bro. Lamb and Sis Ling!!! I agree with the both of you. I believe there are only three people who has a say in my marriage God, my husband and I. Now, if someone has an opinion including parents you are entitled to your opinion, but you don't have a say in this marriage. Our commitment was to one another before God. These boundaries should be set and discussed before marriage. We may seek advice in a situation, but as a couple we should be wise who we seek counsel from. People are good at giving advice from there limited experience whether good or bad.

[@janetsmith2104]

Lamb, you're spot on! Listen, I was in that situation 39 years ago...and hubby stated, "It was disrespectful to address his mother". Of course, his younger brother noticed the problem and called it out...which opened the door to she and I having an open, frank and respectful discussion 2 years into the marriage. Why, 2 years...I hoped he'd take the initiative, but anything longer. The marriage wouldn't have survived. My suggestion, don't wait or waste time... address any and all issues sooner than later. Trust, the Mom is well aware of her actions and manipulation.

[@faustinabawuah81]

Aside laughing when I watch your channel, there is so much wisdom extracted from whatever goes on here. Love you guys from Ghana🇬🇭🇬🇭

[@deborahshedrick8469]

Never allow your mother to disrespect your wife, EVER! The man has to take charge with his mom as well as the woman if it was HER mother over staying her welcome. Always respect and side with your spouse bc you made vows to do so. Mom knows better. I won't overstay my welcome on a visit bc people get tired. When I leave my grandchildren ask can I spend the night or when can I come back. That's LOVE.💞💞

[@careensifuna2072]

I really like this because sometimes in laws overstep their bounds and ruin relationships. This kind of advice is what people need

[@paularicard3781]

100% correct guys. I took my husbands mother in after the 2016 Louisiana flood, and she tried to run my house and was making me crazy. I had to BOTH of my feet down and let him know how I felt about the situation. Like Ling said, he didn't realize how I was feeling about it. We told her that she had to leave by the end of that year, and she did. Be upfront and firm about it.

[@yannolove1335]

😂😂😂😂😂 specially africain moms hum do not bring your husbands mom in your house for a long period lol 😂 question is men we do feel the when y’all bring your mom into the house we don’t make it a big deal like some wife’s do Lolol

[@LingandLamb]

Glad to hear you stood your ground and got to desired outcome! Yes to communication!!!💖 -Ling

[@LadyGraceChosenCrown]

@@yannolove1335 most of the time our moms will not try to run the house because they respect the man,they give us advice about how to treat our man 🤣🤣

[@stephaniemmayie6357]

@@LadyGraceChosenCrown That's true, and it is because the wife's mum will want her daughter to be a good wife as it brings pride to her family. This is different with the husband's mum because there's this entitled mentality, that because 'they married the wife", it's the wife's job to please her in-laws and the monther in-law's place to criticize.

[@LadyGraceChosenCrown]

@@stephaniemmayie6357 exactly sis,too sad the husband’s family is super extra 😩😩

[@keleae6478]

This was well said and much needed. I am a mother of 2 sons, my eldest turning 21 and my second is turning 15. I pray to not be that mom who oversteps her boundaries where my boys relationships are concerned.

[@sbg7262]

Lamb is very wise man and just, God gave us one mother and we have to take care of our mother when they need us as they took care of us! God Bless

[@ayishasalami]

Lamb, you really hit the jackpot with this lady. She’s so beautiful. Steve Harvey said being funny gets you the hot chick. I think it’s true. I love watching you guys. Keep loving each other.

[@shannondavis6310]

BINGO 👍. THEY ARE SPEAKING COMPLETE TRUTH 🎉✊. Sending much love and blessings to you beautiful people from Philadelphia ❣️

[@LingandLamb]

Much love ❤️

[@GTSScents]

I went through the same exact thing, his mom is probably guilt tripping him and making him feel bad anytime he even mentions her leaving but from experience it's a hard pill to swallow, but he has to get her out because its not fair to the wife.

[@The4s]

My relationship is over over because of similar issues. No matter how nice and supportive I was she would go out of her way to make me feel like a 3rd party. He was so oblivious and felt I was competing with his mom 👀 mind you her 30 somethings sons live at home 🤦‍♀️

[@GTSScents]

@@The4s yea I leaned that my mother actually was actually intentionally trying to push my wife away she admitted in a heated argument so that's why it's always best for man not to allow it because some moms will do whatever to destroy the marriage sad but true.

[@The4s]

@@GTSScents Welp! He's in his city & I am in another. Hopefully he wnt let it happen again 🙏

[@willowwhite7196]

You both are the leaders that our community needs, even the world. Common sense at its best! Love you guys!💃🌹🎈🎉😍

[@nanafynn2859]

There is always a context to this so please don't make one garment fit all. Important for initial boundaries to be drawn then there will be no chaos. Women remember it's your home stear it the way its got to go.

[@ThePreachersKid5]

He is right! Scripture declares that the two shall become one! So disrespect toward one in automatically disrespect toward the other. The wife's concern should be the husbands concern and vice versa. Everything else comes secondary and if it interferes with unity and peace in a home than no matter the source it should be considered a threat.

[@coollikedat]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@tibaliraagnes416]

Well said

[@celestesobers8697]

Lamb you're absolutely right.Genesis 2:24,Matthew 19:5 ,says it all.The onus is on the husband to set things right.Yes he loves his mom but he's not married to her,he has a wife and he needs to respect and consult her about any decisions about their home.The wife needs to speak seriously with her husband and not suffer in silence or that marriage is heading for divorce ,unless that is what the husband and mother are planning.Ling and Lamb you need to start a counselling agency.You guys have so much knowledge that it's amazing because of your age.Wisdom doesn't only come with age,the two of you have proven that.You not only bring laughter into our lives but a lot of profound wisdom.Thank you so much.Love you guys sooooo much.Keep the good work up.

[@TMichelle67]

Ling and Lamb are so young, yet so open, refreshing and wise. The Son probably has no clue…and the Mom may very well be cool with taking advantage of that. Also depends on their culture and what’s expected of the children regarding care of their parents, as they age…

[@sarybear84]

You guys always has the best advice, and please follow up with a video on how parents don't respect their children. Love your videos!

[@MrCostello1957]

So happy that you both come together and give such honest answers. ❤ You both are beautiful souls thank you for you both.

[@LingandLamb]

Thanks so much, Mary❤️ We appreciate and love you!

[@MrCostello1957]

@@LingandLamb love you both❤

[@siradebayo5261]

@DaiyahPAY Entertainments then hes a mummy's boy and the wife really need to be careful cause her husband is a baby 🍼

[@Music.my.happyplace]

Absolutely! If most men think the way Lamb does especially Nigerian men. Marriages will work better. You both are so blessed to have found yourselves. Marriage is much deeper than just love. Knowledge is key

[@auwalusaidu7215]

Am a fan of you both 😩❣️ 9ja for life 😂❣️

[@ninatakang8362]

Now this couple gives me goosebumps every single time. I can't wait to find love like theirs. There's the comedy, wisdom,love. A bundle of many joys🥺💙 #everythingeverything....

[@miteamatsheka5655]

I feel blessed in this regard, my husband drew the line from the start, he loves his mother and respects her but he is s also aware that mother inlaws can be overbearing and critical.

[@kinyamccrary8187]

May God protect and keep you and your family covered by the blood of Jesus

[@dyoung2739]

I love❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️that Lamb went out of his way to get Lings sock and that he loves that black dress on her❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️!!! I agree, it’s about respect and the husband should clarify things with his mom. I absolutely love my daughter in law and I’d never do anything to disrespect her.

[@coollikedat]

Thank you

[@chantal8548]

I just came across you guys KZbin channel and I must say I LOVE LOVE LOVE this Nigerian guy personality . And coming from an African ( Nigerian) man I wasn't expecting this advice because I've heard other Nigerians talk the opposite . GREAT ADVICE . AGREE 100 PERCENT. WISH YOU BOTH MANY MORE YEARS TOGETHER. MAY GOD BLESS YOU

[@PulaneLehloo]

I like Lamb's suggestion to send the video to the WhatsApp group the mother in laws is part of. Wise words & great advice guys 👌👏❤

[@sheilascoyne861]

Good morning y'all, once again you have nailed it. Respect ... I have to say, yep the term is Life coach. Your both so open and so very heart and soul real. Your always right on point. I am thankful for you both always. Then your laughter and light for each other is absolutely heartwarming. Love and prayers always ❤❤🙏

[@LingandLamb]

Thanks for always being a part of our Ling and Lamb fam, Sheila. Much love and blessings 💋

[@tanchoyanickproduction8801]

Hello sheila number please

[@nevillewhite1966]

I did basically everything for my mother but I always respect and set boundaries. My father made sure his mother stay in her lane when it involves his wife. Respect.

[@sphamandlamabuza9664]

My favorite couple ❤️ 💯... As soon as I get your KZbin notification I leave everything and watch your video/s....much love from SA 🇿🇦

[@LingandLamb]

Much love 🤓🤓🤓

[@yolandorobinson8110]

Wow that was sound advice. As a Mom of an adult son this was good to hear. Honest.

[@nickyc_royster]

Lamb….your level of wisdom is straight from heaven!!! You are ALWAYS ON POINT!!

[@carlac9782]

Thank God my mother is a respectful person with a sense of awareness and emotional intellect. She would and has not ever acted this way. She has had a life and experiences of her own. I can't even imagine this situation.

[@stephaniekellyeugene3692]

You both are my favorite couple anytime, any day. You two are so real... Am a Nigerian from the igbo tribe and am so in love with the way Lamb sounds so Nigerian even after being overseas for a long time and also the way the ever beautiful Ling looks at him, learns our pidgin English and shows support to her WhatsApp. I love you guys❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@stephaniekellyeugene3692]

To her husband... I can't believe I wrote WhatsApp cos Lamb was talking about WhatsApp....omg😂😂🤣🤣🤣

[@magalib1343]

So true.💯💯 "Yes bring his head in the river and wash it"🤣🤣🤣 You two have so much wisdom.🤗🙏🏽

[@callysilva8544]

Didn’t think I would be watching so much Ling and Lamb but there are a definite DUO with great advice.

[@LingandLamb]

Thanks so much 🙏🏼💖

[@denisewingate2935]

I love what both of you said. Great advice. I hope this woman listens to this.

[@jostone6949]

This topic needs to be discussed more than once. Thank you guys for opening this up. I love you both and your beautiful energy. Love and light to you both.🖖🖖❤

[@Favoured1963]

Absolutely love you guys Was watching you guys a month ago and my partner complained about how Lamb is loud....in his words....'Does this Lamb guy have to shout?' Anyway after much convincing he watched your videos and never said anything. Two nights ago I was watching another podcast and asked if my partner would like to join me....and he said....I quote....'If it's that Lamb guy and his wife shoo, if it's anyone else, no thanks. I love Lamb and his wife!!! I almost fell off the bed......claps once!!!!!! For someone who never said anything after watching the videos a month ago, I was surprised he loved you guys... SO yha, keep at it guys..you've a new fan....(trust,it takes a lot to impress my partner) Well done

[@dayesthyad3998]

Hmmmmm..........

[@Chris-Oyema]

100% correct guys. Communication and boundaries, very important.

[@CandaceLeAnne]

Excellent, on time advice. This is truly a test of unity between two people. When a married man lets his mother take a position of control in his home, almost always he is avoiding confrontation and he is making the situation worse than it would be if he were respectful and yet direct with his mom. I wouldn’t let my mother or father come into my home and overstay their welcome or control any form of relational decision-making. Likewise, I expect the person I marry to cherish our commitment and unity with the same passion and wisdom.

[@ugonnatalitha868]

Ling and Lamb you spoke well and spoke the truth. Communication and Respect goes a long way

[@alexatoure5731]

Omg Lamb! I was in this situation and it got so bad we are seperated! It was so validating and refreshing to hear a man speak this way about his mother and wife. Thank you both for making this video.

[@tarcharabritton7210]

Y’all are a beautiful couple, I love that y’all are open and talk about any issues. Communication is the key to all things. Keep sharing the greatness y’all have.

[@yaganomabaatuolkuu3702]

My hubby is very picky on the things he watches especially concerning relationships. I tried introducing you guys to him and he told me he watches and like you guys. I silently had a mini heart attack. You two are amazing! So pleased we can watch you together. Long your laugh is infections and Lamb is hilarious.

[@kayvin9841]

The rate at which this channel's subscriptions are growing (over 1000 subscriptions daily) is an indicator that you guys - Ling & Lamb, you are positively impacting so many lives out there - especially in the area of relationships. Keep it up👍👏👏👏

[@BajanBoo]

I love how Ling listens to Lamb knowledge. I think it inspired her to act and speak more knowledgeable as well. It shows growth and understanding

[@annhythafwamba8341]

I love how you guys approach different subjects the most natural way. Not trying to pretend what you're not. Thanks for being real and share your positive attitude to all of us. I wish all couples were so close. God bless you 🙏 ❤

[@KayMaryx]

You remind me soo much of my dad. The way you talk. The accent. The patience. The wisdom. Wow

[@kimberlyhernandez6558]

Ling and Lamb , once again you all dropped some real gold nuggets about MIL's (mother-in- laws) I believe as you've stated parents are stuck on" he's my child and I birth him 🙄🤦‍♀️ " they don't like to process the fact that he's a MAN and has a wife God had charged him to love , cover and protect as Christ did thr Church. The MIL need to respect boundaries for sure and if not as you stated the " son" need to find her a different living arrangement. How a week turned into a month is a huge issue IF it wasn't discussed with the wife . You have to be careful not to " create " unnecessary issues in your marriage becasue of outside influences that shouldn't even have access . LING JUST MAYBE RIGHT LOVE HER YEAH BUT SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE.

[@sarjoty]

Well said Lamb some parent didn’t respect their own kids. Timeout reset button everyone.

[@sandraposy8974]

Hello Ling and Lamb, It's a real struggle. It's especially problematic in Caribbean islander families. All I can say to you both is PREACH!. I agree wholeheartedly with your resolutions to this sensitive matter. I might add one thing, be careful regarding your complaints. The reality is as long as the respect is there, your mother in law does not have to like you. Your parents of course and your spouse. If you complain she's there for 2 months you want her there 2 weeks. Keep in mind your family will also have to ne the only 2 weeks. It goes both ways to keep the peace. Just make a mutual pact: no relatives can stay longer than x amount of time😅 Thank you for sharing. Stay safe and warm.

[@dayesthyad3998]

Sandra, You are right. Please subscribe to Phrankleen's channel, a similar real story is on that channel this story concluded that the son threw the mother out of his home when she came to visit Canada due to such a situation. Mothers-in-law especially from the guy's family need to know their limits so that they will be respected. Many times they want to take over and control the guy's family which is not right.

[@rtsoca5560]

I didn't realise it is a problem in the Caribbean. I'm surprised to hear.

[@ilenepryce1649]

When it comes to marriage and relationship with parents there are boundaries that is to be kept 🇯🇲

[@risperdaniels1546]

I just discovered your channel today, fell in love with y'all, subscribed, turned on the notification and here I am.... Among the first to view. Show me some love❤️

[@JnPSwirl]

They are a GEM ❤️

[@phumzilemagagula6193]

💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃

[@Emman1906]

Welcome here 🤗

[@risperdaniels1546]

@@Emman1906 thank you 😊

[@paolapaola6945]

I like this guy. The way he respect his wife.

[@terrycoleman4572]

This platform is so important to be shared. Thank you for sharing to your page 📃😊

[@wendyjohnson7019]

I love the way Lamb put Ling first just as it should be. Love your mom, yes but as you say this time is now about your wife and you moving forward.👏👏

[@batsebamogotsi1340]

I can only say AMEN. Nothing but the truth.

[@kemialagbo379]

Lamb's mentality marvels me considering where he is from Kudos you two Love you ❤️

[@chillinwithh]

Lamb sounds so much like us Trinis from Trinidad 🇹🇹. The way he speaks. But your advice is definitely food for thought.

[@shigarini]

I love this, a very educative still yet an important topic every couple should understand. May God bless you more, Ling and Lamb 🤍

[@funmieal]

Love your inputs!!! Nigerian parents generally have zero chills. Older people generally have zero chills. Married people should also have zero chills. Protect your peace at all cost.

[@ericab936]

My mother in law once came to visit for a weekend five months later she was still there. Redecorating my house rearranging my kids room it was hell. I was very unhappy in my home and my kids were feeling it too so one day I nicely ask her to leave. She did and never spoke to me after that which was fine with me. I got my home back. 👍

[@awinojuju8522]

Sorryyy ohhh😂😂😂😂

[@osivwemu]

Not nice!!!!! Where was your husband? It's your home, no doubt, but asking her to leave, no no no. It's not in your place. Flip it over, if your husband asks your mom to leave, will that seem right? Just as advised, let the son/daughter do the talking (my candid opinion)

[@chinenyebeatrize8132]

@@osivwemu you Just said my mind

[@olaoluajayi7875]

OMG 😳😳😭😭😭😭 You asked your mother to leave ????

[@simon34law64]

@@olaoluajayi7875 MOTHER-IN-LAW

[@goodnesschifurumnanyachukw789]

Wow great Advice..... God I need this kind of understanding man ooooo

[@Tashie100]

That’s very true👌🏾👌🏾 I think this also applies to other family members… like uncles, aunts and siblings😅😅😅 It’s real out there! #ProtectYourWife

[@LingandLamb]

100000%!!!

[@okpoyesamuel3491]

I usually watch your videos and I don't comment. But you see what I notice is that Ling mother's did a wonderful work in raising up her daughter...cause she's humble to the ground and respectful to her husband Lamb...cause African's love even if a little respect and she does more than that..and Lamb is also a wonderful hubby to her.. cause he doesn't take her and her words for granted. And that's one of the key thing that holds a lasting marriage. Peace ✌️

[@allison8381]

Thank you guys for this who ever the person is I can relate everything you said in this video I've told my husband it's your mom you deal with her and because his mom feels intitled we no longer speak when I visit my own family I follow their rules ❤

[@rosinataylor4323]

Awesome guys. Husband must take that stand, actually the mother will understand and respect her son’s home.

[@deborahdavis2001]

This was great... no longer need cable just watch ling and lamb for my entertainment!!!! LOVE LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!

[@LingandLamb]

WOW!!!!! Aww, thank you so much. This makes us feel so special. Much love to you!😘 Xo Ling and Lamb

[@tarathompson7075]

So true lamb some of these men dont have any back bone to stand up to there mothers and show respect to there wife

[@Bakeryluv]

You both made very good points. I love you guys consistency !

[@LingandLamb]

🥰🥰

[@folaketaylormd]

I just love you guys. I’m blessed to have a husband who doesn’t put his family above me. And vice versa.

[@JnPSwirl]

Lamb is correct; some parents don't respect their children... Like how most of our African parents only give respect to elderly ones. If you are a kid or younger and you are even in the right, once they don't like your opinion, they don't take it.

[@janekitenye399]

Yup me being the last born ..😕😕

[@kooffire]

They pull the I'm older than you card

[@eddieokojie5425]

@@kooffire Don’t worry, until you get there, you’ll realise what it’s it to pull it. It comes with a great deep and wide-sweeping experience, if properly used though. Don’t under-estimate it. It’s not cheap! Except some elderly people misuse it. And some ignorant younger people trample on it. There’s never any shortcuts to the experience that come with it. Especially, when the children are still very young and incapable of making wise decisions. That’s why you’re parents and are called ‘parents’, and ‘they’ are children, as they are called. You, their children, can never be older than them and be their parents. Therefore, they have the right and capacity to guide you in almost all the departments of life at that age, stage and time of your life. I don’t believe in this modern nonsense of ‘my children are my friends, my besties’. They are capable of making decisions that suits them before the age of say, 17 years, so that they’ll not be upset or offended when I make or influence their decisions or approach or attitude to life. What’s your purpose in their lives then? Is one of them not mainly to guide and lead them properly, sincerely and honestly at that stage of their lives. Though, as we all grow, situation may change, through gained experience, knowledge, understanding, world-view etc, start to differ.

[@kooffire]

@@eddieokojie5425Long sir but beneficial, 🤝🏽 thank you.

[@wanjitv5197]

This is the real lesson for me coz I recently be in interracial relationship with my girlfriend and I even don't tell my mom about it and I came back around this side where its not far from where my mom lives in since my mom is so harsh and single mom and so overprotective and we're in a fix, I won't tell my mom by we move to our new house coz my mom will put me into house prison and destroy my relationship with my girlfriend and monitor me 24/7 I know what u are saying will be very important for us to protect ourselves So its really helpful and really appreciate u making this video Thanks for this video and love from the country of rising sun Japan🇯🇵 Please stay safe from covid since omicron is getting in so rapidly even this country hits around 100k new cases every day

[@yellowsubmarine1321]

Hey you two, Lamb so sweet about that dress 💋 So true about the MIL, communication is key! Ling you are gorgeous 💖🌹💋

[@paulettesmith7787]

Great advice Lamb, you were raised well.

[@renayakhemien5060]

This blog right here has got me so crazy because as I’ve stated previously I am married to a Nigerian man and this very scenario happened to me three years in a row where my mother-in-law came from Nigeria first time she came she was only supposed to be here three months and that three months turned into a year the second time she came she was supposed to be here six months that’s six months turned into a year and a half the third time she came she was only supposed to be here three months and that three months turned into nine months and it caused so many problems and so much contention in our marriage to where I just finally gave up like I don’t even know what to do the communication is definitely key but also more importantly than that is the explanation of cultural things because Nigerian culture and American culture are two different things completely and if the spouse who is Nigerian the husband does not sit the wife down to say this is custom this is how we operate and I need you to bear with me through this then you’re gonna have problems but I definitely appreciate you Ling and Lamb for addressing this issue and being extremely honest in how both of you feel about it.

[@temitopeej8407]

It is not the custom to overstay. There is a communication breakdown somewhere. Your husband should know when his Mum is arriving and when she is leaving. Who is extending her stay? I assume she has a return ticket. Who is changing the dates and why? After the first time, he should have made sure the dates are firm or at least let you know there is a possibility the date may change. But from this pattern you know to multiply the official timeframe by 3. That’s a shame because it does not build trust.

[@steph5494]

Lamb is a great LIFE COACH OOO!! LOL I just love you both!! Such a delight!!

[@1dbrook]

I've laughed a lot at you two, this is my first time getting to see you deal with a serious subject. And I am just as impressed as ever! Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom on the subject.

[@annettestern5900]

I’m so glad that you guys touch on this subject because I’m pretty much going through something like this with my son and his girl so thank you both for the good input ❤️❤️❤️ ya!

[@madamhummingbird]

Lamb, I agree with you 💯 on the topic of dealing with in laws. One of the most important factors in a supoortive marriage is putting the relationship first. Your words show how much you respect and love your wife. Bravo to you sir! Much blessings to you both.

[@charmainevergara3280]

I am Hispanic and have been happily married for over 35 years and have 3 boys 28,23 and 17 and understand what you are saying, and it is true respect goes both ways. It all depends on the situation and culture a lot of families live under one roof for different reasons and make it work. Each spouse must understand that you are not competing with the mom, because you can’t the love you have for your child is totally different than your spouse! It’s not about he takes his mom side over mine. You have to put yourself in your spouse’s position and communicate with love how you feel without offending him or his mom. I would NEVER tell my husband it’s time for his parents to leave, that to me is disrespectful. I think talking to your spouse and choosing the right words of what are the long term plans for the parents and then come up with solution that you BOTH agree on. Love and understanding makes your marriage stronger and sometimes both sides have to give and take and comes compromise.

[@9jah4lyf]

You're very correct. I think the problem here is that the mom was "coming to visit for a few weeks". Once that changed, a new conversation should have occurred with the husband and wife. Everyone should be on the same page.

[@traytray824]

Ling & Lamb THANK YOU for being so real so authentic and so humble right from day one. You both are an incredible blessing to so many you opening up and sharing your journey has touched so many people. The love between you just radiates threw the screen. The charity work you both do and the advice you give is a true blessing. I am so grateful for the day I watched the first video I found of you both. A beautiful real honest couple stay blessed and humble and the new loft is amazing and so well deserved.....Love and Light to you Both

[@dalisamaxwell8837]

I love and truly adore you both as well as marriage. The bond that you two have is absolutely beautiful. Definitely meant for each other an I love the realness. This video was well needed. Amen. Keep them coming.

[@aliceb2438]

I love me some Ling and Lamb.Yesss!! Say the Word!! That's All and that's It! This will be a long union. Praying so. I am 70 years young and I would not try to live my child's life, I've already lived mine. God bless you guys.

[@LingandLamb]

God bless you too and please keep staying young, healthy and strong♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@marie-floredorval6748]

Honestly, y'all always make my day, full of laughter, so transparent love you guys and good advice

[@courtneyrose4913]

Hey Lamb, you have explained this problem very clearly. I love my mother very much, more than words can describe but this is a home which my wife and I created together so my wife would be there with me to support me with what goes on in our house