My Narcissist is Popular, Life of the Party! (Gregariousness vs. Empathy)

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@fab3laundry 3 ай бұрын

The narcissist is the person laughing with their superiors at work. Not because those supervisors or bosses are funny. Noooo. They are sucking up to get places. They will get a promotion before you. Not because of their work ethic or skills. It's because they suck up to and only sicialise with those who they believe can benefit them.

@Lifechants 3 ай бұрын

I think people say “my narcissist” because they are trapped - a way of saying “my captor,” more so than saying it possessively.

@liliaaaaaaaa 3 ай бұрын

Very interesting, this describes perfectly the classic rockstar narcissist who has no actual genuine friends in real life & an inability to connect healthily with genuine empathy towards others, yet is perfectly capable of performing on stage in a self obsessed sexualised way to an anonymous crowd while cultivating a harem of accolytes as his groupies whose only interest in him in providing narcissistic supply is to his 2 dimensional popstar poster on the wall image as a form of postmodern tribal icon for the modern age.

@mightymouse1005 3 ай бұрын

Most narcissist hate to be alone because they can't stand themselves

@speak4mc 3 ай бұрын

As someone who works with at-risk youth using empathy-based techniques like Motivational Interviewing, I often see how critical understanding human motivations can be. It’s fascinating how narcissists thrive on external validation, while genuine empathy is about giving rather than taking. I talk more about the power of empathy and its impact on real change in my work and videos.

@chrishintz1077 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for saying “non-human animals “. So few recognize that humans are, in fact, animals. Love your enlightening thoughts we get to share and learn.

@mightymouse1005 3 ай бұрын

Many narcissist love to help people , fund raise etc...LOVE the accolades from helping, they make sure people know how amazing they are. Too many people confuse introvert from antisocial...

@chrishintz1077 3 ай бұрын

That narcissist holds people in contempt would explain the tendency to direct their energy to anger and eventually perhaps violence. Being frustrated, locked in a self-imposed box of isolation. The misanthropy is actually envy. Bitter, grating envy.

@rolasg3278 3 ай бұрын

do borderlines need narcisitic supply? my borderline ex is a bartender and she is treated like a celebrity at her work by the patrons.

@samvaknin 3 ай бұрын

Grandiosity is a common clinical feature of BPD, so the answer is yes.

@CGermain-s6l 3 ай бұрын

My spouse is a Travelling Nurse for last 13 years and I have learned about the Out of Sight and Out of Mind as it relates to the Spouse at Home…I have been learning about her double Life while working away during various work Schedules and Various worksites away from home averaging 8 months per year. Well after 13 years of her Pattern aswell as our now 17 Month Sexless Marriage and Sleeping in Separate Rooms I have applied for Divorce but will give 6 months and if no Change then I will Proceed For Divorce Finalization and My Freedom from Her Disorder(s)..God Bless you all

@Maria_Stancu 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your knowledge. You truly describe “my narcissist” in every one of them.

@chrishintz1077 3 ай бұрын

This is most amusing , but in a sad way. The pattern is all too familiar: the narcissist will never say I’m sorry, will never accept responsibility. The auto-eroticism. I can’t help but think how this all relates to political systems.

@chrishintz1077 3 ай бұрын

This topic is so timely. ;). We see demonstrations of narcissism everyday that influence our lives.

@sabrinapetersen5358 3 ай бұрын

Narcissists are dangerous and abusive their envy and jealousy mixed in with greed makes a relationship with a narcissist draining and full of financial abuse issues and unrespectful issues! that follow the end of a abusive relationship with a narcissist or other narcissists, in his life too! You the narcissist 's victim end up feeling used and sad after being taken advantage of!

@Warwck24 3 ай бұрын

I wonder if envy was part of it. Im not sure but the comments about 'things' feels uncomfortable

@melissabrzescinski494 2 ай бұрын

My ex has a totally fake persona at work. He thinks he’s a mentor to the youth and loves to “hold court” (so he says). It gives him a sense of superiority. One of my coworkers has a cousin that works with him and says he keeps to himself. I find it funny how his story doesn’t line up with how he’s perceived. If they only knew who he really is.

@rimcoeijzenga991 3 ай бұрын

To like people or to like being with people, that’s 💡

@desert_bloom 3 ай бұрын

My narcissist deep-frier wants me to treat it like a pet. Sorry, I couldn't resist combining that introduction. 😅

@chrishintz1077 3 ай бұрын

I loved it when you said you could survive without going to football games. ;)

@Abhisheksengupta923 3 ай бұрын

Narcissists would be the 1st to hate the aliens 😂😂😂😂

@azraelmariani1110 3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@DilfuzaKHaydarova-e1p 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Dear Sam Vaknin❤

@moniquedietvorst7972 3 ай бұрын

When you said that the narc is sexually attracted to himself, I thought about autogynephilia

@CGermain-s6l 3 ай бұрын

This so explains why my Wife has quit some well positioned Jobs to each Summer to accept Contracts for Employment with no Benefits and lower Salary just to work with a workplace aboard a Government Ship during 12 to 18 weeks per year on two separate tours in the Canadian Arctic Ocean(average crew 50 men and 7 women per tour)for the Past 6 summer/fall seasons. Now I am in 17 months Sexless Marriage and sleeping in a separate room. I have suspended our Divorce Process for 6 months to determine if there is any desire on both our Minds to proceed ahead to a Healthier, Reciprocal, Shared Vision for a Monogamous Loving and Trusting Marriage…if Not, I am fine with that and I know I gave my all and will await the Finalization of the Divorce Agreement… No anger, I am not God but Trust Faithfully in The Most High God

@Warwck24 3 ай бұрын

I feel trapped yet they are a neighbour, i try to avoid. Can you ask them to keep distance and still be safe.

@evanmichael5805 3 ай бұрын

I’ve been watching your videos for quite a bit and just finished reading Horner. I searched KZbin looking for a video where you lecture on incorporation specifically? Curious to hear how it applies

@samvaknin 3 ай бұрын

Search the From Child to Narcissist playlist.

@gugugaga9902 3 ай бұрын

Dear mr.Professor Sam Vaukin,how can you live knowing so much? I am terrible scared right now,only followed 3,4 videos!I wonder how is gonna be when I followed most of it?😢🤯😱

@duchett743 3 ай бұрын

Good Morning from Florida FELLING GOOD

@nickyjordan2658 3 ай бұрын

I'm thinking sports teams and always blaming the referee!

@ChristinaD119 3 ай бұрын

Does anyone understand why a narcissist feels embarrassed by you if you are sharing an accomplishment with someone... He got extremely uncomfortable if I was excited about something I had achieved and shared it. He said I came off boastful and superior. I could never share something I was proud of to others. When he was around, he would say things like "your excitment is embarrassing" or " why are you seeking validation??? In public, he had this very humble attitude, so he came across as unassuming or modest, but I lived with him for 10 years, and although he acted unpretentious, he still loved the accolades It was very hard to pinpoint this behavior to others but those friends that were close to me called it competitive behavior. I'm not quite sure how to refer to it or what his juxtaposition was....any thoughts? Why do they act humble?... that is the part that I really struggle with because he would say to me " look how I come off as down to earth" and " I don't try to be the center of attention." It was just mind-boggling and crazy making.

@nataliemikhail9136 3 ай бұрын

Your laughing is brilliant😂 I love it😅 And all your work is Genius like🎉🎉🎉 Not like ... It is...thanke you❤ So much

@fab3laundry 3 ай бұрын

We'd all just look at the Aliens and aay "sorry, that narc doesn't represent humans thankfully". We undersrand strangers from other planets more than we understand those freaks.