My newborn is potty trained?

bekah

[@lovenoodles1332]

so happy to see you posted, love all your videos and watching your beautiful lil fam 🤍 congrats congrats on little Erns!! hes such a cutie pie

[@shabrinaz9877]

Ernest is so much like Gray. They have the "meh.. alright.." unfazed vibe.

[@sarabelike9911]

Bekah congrats on your new little one !!!! I’ve been following since almost day one and I always loved how down to earth and resilient you are to the parenthood journey. I also recently had a baby and girl you make it look easy with 3 😂 much love to you and your family ❤

[@morganaveryco]

My friend is doing this with her baby. They started EC when he was only a couple days old and I will never forget seeing a tiny newborn being held over the toilet and going pee and poo!! I love that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing, it’s just creating the communication/connection. No being naturally wants to soil themselves

[@ccolliflower]

This is awesome! I imagine that since the 1950’s, in addition to increased use of disposable diapers, changes in childcare dynamics are also associated with delayed potty training .

[@timi2sing]

I’m so happy to see your video! I got rid of instagram a few months ago and have missed your content so much!

[@kenziecherry2092]

I’m 30w pregnant with my first and planning to try EC. So glad to hear it’s working well for you!! I am also cloth diapering and have about half of the recommended stash purchased so far.. I look forward to hearing your favorites!

[@BrittanyLynnB]

Thank you for sharing about this! So cool! I definitely want to try this when I have kids

[@genesiss440]

So interesting! I’ll definitely look into this when I start having children. Btw I love how nurturing and calm this video was. The thought of a baby’s head against my cheek was so 🥰. I loved when my nephew and niece rested against my cheek as babies!

[@kdholden]

I really like your honesty. I am not familiar with your parenting style but thank you for sharing and being so transparent. This is good information for myself who is a childcare provider and is transitioning from a 4/5 yr old peeing in n the potty but not #2. He is mostly at home and X2 at my house. He does have more attention with me but a super excellent family life ( just a lot of extra siblings). Would love some advice for encouraging #2 independently.

[@abrown4125]

Definitely doing this THAAANK YOOUU

[@sw8547]

The Internet is so wild and stupid. If you think about elimination communication, it makes sense.

[@christinaandrews8947]

That’s so interesting! We are the weird ones using disposable diapers if you think about it.

[@nikkiedwards7436]

A lot of things we do here in the west, especially with child rearing is weird. I love the idea of EC and love seeing other’s experiences with it, makes me excited to use it in the future. Also, really looking forward to the cloth diaper video. I’ve been on the market searching for the right fit, so I can wait to see what you’ve found!

[@justinfelt748]

Awwww! That's a cute baby you have there, Bekah! Congratulations!😊😀😙💙💙💙💙💙💙🌷💖💖💖💖💖💖😊🎇🎉👍. And welcome to the twelve month of December!🎄

[@efrngt1234]

Go Bekah go! I love EC, my 1 year old poos in the toilet 95% of the time, and she has never had a diaper rash. She loves it! She also pees every time we take her to the toilet and often has dry diapers! When we change her diaper, we always take her to the toilet first. We started taking her to the toilet at 12 days old. Not sure how people do it with boys but I know people do it!

[@madscapps]

hi Bekah, as someone who has worked in childcare for over a decade and now in social services I have a lot of education and experience with elimination communication. while it does help teach children how to use the toilet and is effective at doing so, there is a ton of research now that it can led to chronic constipation. while I don’t agree with many forms of “potty/toilet training” I have seen the most health risks with EC. i’m not trying to bash your parenting as you are clearly educated on a lot of parenting styles but I would look into the research on it. I prefer RIE’s method of following the child’s lead, this can be uncomfortable for parents who want (feel pressure) to adhere a timeline but teaching children to trust their body and what is happening is most important and part of that is them feeling when they pee and poop in their diaper. anyways if you want more resources on this i definitely recommend janet lansbury

[@madscapps]

“A child younger than 12 months of age has no control over bladder or bowel movements, and very little control between 12 to 18 months. Most children are unable to obtain bowel and bladder control until 24 to 30 months. The average age of toilet training is 27 months. It’s important to understand that Elimination Communication is just tracking body patterns and putting an infant on a "potty" - but they are not learning or mastering skills. In order to be independent in toileting and bowel and bladder control, children must be able to have good sphincter control, maintain upright sitting on a potty or toilet on their own and understand the association between urge sensation and being able to independently act on it. In my opinion there are no benefits to EC, it does not support typical child development and there can be more drawbacks for the child long term than most people stop to consider” -Pediatric Occupational Therapist Quiara Smith

[@kimberleyf120]

Diapers are human invention. They have not existed since the beginning of humans. We are not biologically designed to soil ourselves in a diaper nor is any species. Do you not find it odd that diapers are apparently such an important part of development? We were never designed to wear them to begin with. Genuinely curious.

[@auspicious93]

I’m listening to old Chatty Broads episodes because they’re comforting to me 😊 Would love to hear Bekah’s take on the Gerry scandal 😅

[@isabelalvesdelima6386]

Omg what’s the Gerry scandal I just watched the finale I haven’t heard about anything 😢

[@auspicious93]

@@isabelalvesdelima6386 check out the article by the Hollywood Reporter

[@lmkkq]

This is genius Bekah. I totally agree. I think we are doing ourselves a disservice by training them into and out of diapers.

[@helencarine2789]

I‘ve done it with both my daughters, also because I could not stand the thought of their poo going everywhere and how uncomfortable that must be. EC makes so much sense, once I learned about it I could not believe how an entire Western society has forgotten about the natural ways of caring for newborns. Disposable diapers habe been around for how long, 70 years? In large parts of Asia, they are only used by families who can afford them and are sort of a luxury thing to have. My kids made specific noises from day 1 and showed signs of being uncomfortable when they had to poop. It’s mindblowing once you get into it 😁 people look at me like I‘m crazy when they see me do it here in Germany

[@lexyeast4896]

Looking forward to the cloth diapering video. I'm curious if now that you know how well EC is working for your son, would you have started earlier than 7 weeks?

[@Plsbringtea]

I feel like Bekah is the people’s Lena Dunham for parenting. Thank you for sharing! This is so cool.

[@rwyr72]

lol this is an amazing comparison. i think bekah is trying to change the modern idea of parenting but is so so misunderstood.

[@heatheryi5443]

I did this with my baby! My mom had done it with my siblings and got me into it. I did it a little when he was tiny (held him over our toilet) but really got into it when he was 7 months and covid started. I since I wasn’t going anywhere pretty easy to commit and get into a routine. By a year he never really pooped in a diaper, and he was in underwear during all awake time at 25 months. I loved not dealing with poopy diapers and using less diapers in general!

[@katesullivan9135]

what is up with going online and calling parenting you don't agree with "abusive"

[@anythingeverything.]

If you went through all of it (and put on a thinking cap) you’d know she is one of the most compassionate people when it comes to others’ parenting style.

[@jupiterjanes]

​@@anythingeverything.I think the original commenter was agreeing with her and saying people who are saying it is abusive are just people who don't agree? I could be wrong, though, and I love the love for Bekah ❤️

[@GenaGrib]

Спасибо за видео! У нас в России такой метод очень распространен. Наши бабушки делятся с нами своим опытом. Очень много семей практикуют высаживание и полностью отказываются от подгузников с самого раннего возраста. Мой ребенок стал сам ходить на горшок в 1 год, без проблем, без слез. Он просто уже знал зачем нужен горшок. С самого рождения ребенок мог спать всю ночь ни разу не обмочив штаны и мы могли гулять с ней даже без тканевых подгузников, просто нужно было вовремя следить за сигналами и высаживать по мере необходимости прямо во время прогулки. Дневные сны тоже были без промашек. У нас принято приучать ребенка к звуку "Пс-пс-пс", когда ребенок его слышит, он понимает, что сейчас подходящее время, чтобы пописать, и "ка-ка-ка" звук, чтобы покакать. Когда родителю надо высадить ребенка перед чем-то важным, можно использовать эти звуки для предложения сходить в туалет и ребенок чаще всего соглашается!

[@Urmomlovesyoutube]

Bekah you’re always beautiful to me.. ❤️

[@realmomsdontclockout]

Yall will always try up all people for views BE PRESENT ENJOY IT.BLESSINGS

[@xowdavis]

ive been using EC with my 11 month old for a few months (we cloth diaper as well) and at this point catch at least one pee a day and all poops in the potty. definitely starting earlier next time! the reaction in the comments on insta was so disappointing and just shows how little people think about things from a historical perspective. do people think that pampers are a naturally occurring resource?? lol...

[@flyinghawaiian5492]

I wish I knew about elimination communication when my boys were babies. I would’ve definitely tried it.

[@hopeelise02]

I don’t have any kids but I’m a student midwife so I have heard of elimination communication and have always been very curious about it! I definitely think I’ll give it a try when I do start having babies!

[@meschouxpetits]

We started EC when my baby was 2 weeks old and my now-15 month old is 90% potty trained and wears underwear all day. Hands down my favorite thing I did as a parent. I can't even imagine how much we have saved on diapers! And I feel like it really helped me tune in with my daughter. We're expecting #2 in March and while there are a lot of things I will do differently, EC is not one of them!

[@tosinakinlade9506]

You make a good point but please don’t use this “poor Africa” rhetoric to drive home your point. It is heavily laden with stereotypes and Africa is so much more diverse than that. Maybe reference to however potty training was done in your culture in whatever century before diapers became a thing.

[@nicolemariebrown4076]

This! Africa is a whole continent of over 50 countries. Like anywhere, there is economic diversity. Not everyone in Africa is poor. This narritive needs to stop

[@baileymaier4115]

She said parts of Africa, not all of Africa. She also referenced China and all of history when people didn’t have good access to water. She didn’t ever say all of Africa nor did she say because they were poor. Calm down.

[@jasmineali5699]

@@baileymaier4115shut up

[@tpolly480]

I did EC with my first up until 12 months I got pregnant and it became too much for me. She did all her pees and poos in the potty and diapered overnight. I haven’t tried with my second. But hope to get after it. My first is now 2.5 and almost out of diapers.

[@MG-dr5mf]

I have a baby bath that sits on a stand. I put the potty into it and use it for EC. It’s easy on my back because there’s no stooping over and I stack towels behind him in the bath to make a comfy potty seat. He loves it and smiles and giggles as he goes.

[@abbiebarrios8601]

I work at a daycare and it blows my mind that the average child is potty trained at age 3 1/2. So many people say my child isn’t showing signs of readiness. But it is my firm belief as a mother of three and a 3K teacher, that if you put a child in a diaper they will use the diaper. You just have to “eliminate” it and they will learn! I realize this is not potty training I’m just saying that kids “get it” much easier or more instinctively than some people give them credit for.

[@dazeofnostalgia]

We have to consider that most daycares aren’t able to do this/ don’t want to start potty training until the child hits two years old. A lot of standard daycares wouldn’t let parents do this method and parents have to do disposable diapers. I would love to hear from parents who are full time working and having to rely on childcare who are following this method. My husband and I both work full time and plan to hire a nanny/babysitter due to knowing we want to do things differently. Most of the daycares we have looked at wouldn’t support the ideas/methods we want to do with our baby like this.

[@alinafrankowski4371]

I have three kids. And they were potty trained before one year and I am from Poland.

[@nicolemeiner6903]

I'm sure another reason people did this more before the 1950s or 60s was back when ab0rti0n was illegal and birth control was more inaccessible/less reliable, people were having more babies and having them closer together, so combine that with water limitations and the time it takes to wash diapers, they also had a lot more diapers than an average person would today, so it totally makes sense for them to want to find more efficient/realistic ways to manage things.

[@CarolineElizabethMartin]

can you make more youtube videos, even if it's super mundane? lol, i love the long form content

[@ReallyBarb]

My only child was born in 1975 using the all natural LaMaze method. You are right, I was married and common practice for just the husband to work. We couldn't afford the Pampers, a new thing for USA. I used cloth, very stinky, rinse in toilet, washing all the time, stay at home mom, so I decided to start sitting him on a potty chair with a tray on it from time to time all day. I changed him the minute he peed or pooed. He almost always had a clean diaper on so it was simple when he turned one we got him a big boy toddler bed and underoos, and night underwear to use all day. He was totally potty trained by 18 mo because he would tell me in signs if he wet or pooed because it was uncomfortable for him he'd ask me to change him. It just naturally happened. Now I hear of 6 yr olds in diapers, that seems so lazy.

[@annygyo]

My baby never wanted to poop in his diaper, we always had to hold him over a potty to get the poop out haha. Unfortunately that changed when he got older and went to daycare he got used to using his diaper and now it’s hard to convince him to use the potty instead. Don’t listen to all the dumb people on the internet Bekah and don’t use your precious time to reply to their ignorance.

[@lovem7635]

❤❤❤

[@lovem7635]

Congratulations wow you had a baby miss you

[@cynthiabragg2611]

Very strange to me and i wonder if the baby is freezing with the dress attire it has on "strange".

[@sandrafryer4425]

Do you remember wearing a diaper ?

[@theresaann7388]

You can tell, by the way, you hold your baby that there's not one of you bone in your body.. Doing it this way, Holding them over a pot seems more natural., And I do believe that they don't want that stuff all over them either.. They would be done Patty training by the time. They are a year and a 1/2 old. And I think that's great.. You keep ongoing, girl.. And let me know of any other clever claver things you come up with.. God bless. Teresa. From Jackson, Michigan.

[@maryrawson]

Goodness me he is a old man

[@sf55514]

Child services needs to investigate this.

[@Leaglad18]

It's always about calling dcfs. There are far worse than what she's doing. Granted I don't know anything about it this definitely that dcfs doesn't need to investigate!

[@dianemolstad1376]

What are you saying cps needs to investigate?