My Niece Took An Unsolicited Picture Of My Husband And I Then Posted Without Consent r/Relationships

[@taylorslade961]

Is no one else deeply concerned with the fact that the niece took photos through a window of her aunt dressing? That's literally illegal.

[@taylorslade961]

@The Karen TBH, it doesn't really matter who she was trying to get a picture of. The fact that she thought it was perfectly acceptable to watch and then take pictures through a window is really icky and needs to be addressed. THAT is the real issue here.

[@standinthegsp6858]

Op, I wonder if you brought up the fact that you are a muslim woman who wears a hijab & therefore the pictures violate the tenets of Islam would get you further?

[@babygirl_lunaa9096]

Yeah, when the sister said "go to the police", I was like "and they'd find you in the right?" I don't know what it's like in most jurisdictions but that seems like a massive violation. Surprised the comments are so mild toward the niece.

[@brainfluidZ]

It’s also creepy lmao

[@michelleb9527]

@@babygirl_lunaa9096 I think they should follow through with their suggestion... sue their no-good disrespecting a***s #maliciouscompliance

[@EchoJ]

Considering that OP’s sister TWICE dared her to go to the cops, I really wish she’d have just filed a police report. Let the 19-year-old ADULT deal with the fallout.

[@streamerssaymyname]

She probably wants to cry and make OP look like the bad guy for not keeping it in the family and trying to get niece in trouble with the police.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Right? Sis said stop treating her like a child. Ok. Adult responsibilities it is. Have fun helping your adult child pay for a lawyer. Some lessons have to hurt your bank balance before they sink in.

[@maurer3d]

Assuming the story took place in the USA, no laws were broken, so the cops would be able to do nothing. I still do agree the niece should have taken the picture down when requested, but legally she is in the clear.

[@diamondmx3076]

​@@maurer3d in places where you have, as the OP states, a "reasonable expectation of privacy", yes this is illegal. In a closed room with the curtains drawn is pretty much the textbook definition of private. If this went to court the daughter would get lambasted by the judge.

[@IRMA4RT]

I agree hopefully a cease and desist letter from an attorney is enough if it isn't follow her sisters advice and go to police

[@despinasgarden.4100]

Story 1: Calling niece a peeping Tom when she is being a peeping Tom is not name calling, that's what she was being. After update: Call an ACTUAL lawyer and sue the hell out of them OP. They will change their tone real fast when they are confronted with actual law.

[@janedoe885]

I hope OP sues too tbh. The sister and niece already nuked the relationship by refusing to remove the pictures--there's no coming back from that level of disrespect imo. OP would absolutely be justified in getting police involved.

[@walkz007]

she is !! honestly I have no tolerance for such nonsense I would call.tbe police immediately!!

[@maurer3d]

Nieces behavior legally does not constitute being a "Peeping Tom", as she was not sexually gratifying herself.

[@maurer3d]

@@janedoe885 This would be a near impossible case for her to win, as no laws were broken. I do agree the photo should have been taken down upon a polite request, but legally the niece is in the clear (assuming the story happened in the USA).

[@sharontalladira]

No she is a peeping Tom. Op needs to file with the police and then needs to get a criminal defense atty. To stop further harassment

[@skyetan86]

It doesn't matter if you're muslim and wear a hijab day-to-day. You didn't give consent to a photo. Niece and sister are TA, no questions.

[@draconisdragonheart4248]

Exactly this! Her niece was a peeping Tom which is a crime.

[@saldiven2009]

If Story 1 is taking place in the USA, that alleged law student doesn't know what they're talking about. By that person's ridiculous argument, it would be OK to put hidden cameras in bathrooms as long as the owner of the property gave permission, but that is actually illegal and many people have gone to prison for it.

[@walkz007]

That law student is about to fail out of law school!

[@yurilookingforhisvictor7674]

@@maurer3d awfully fishy you're replying on practically every comment thread making up stuff and defending this type of behavior. I'm starting to think you're a landlord who has cameras installed in their houses.

[@acatnamedm4529]

Yeah, if they're in the US, they totally made this up. Photo belongs to the person who took the image. Ownership of property doesn't equate to ownership of image taken at that property. This is basic copyright law.

[@lorifiedler13]

Bet there is no law student. If there is a student, they are STILL a student.

[@anonymouse9833]

I don’t think the law student exists lol

[@Bev4Drawing]

I do not understand the niece at all. Why would you take a picture of somebody getting dressed through a window? There's literally no reason to do this. Why would any family member our guests want to see someone getting dressed? Completely inappropriate. Yes they can be upset at the name calling but they cannot use that as an excuse to refuse to take it down.

[@zozocecp]

Probably thought it would be like those wedding photos where the bride is “getting ready”, except she doesn’t seem to realize those are almost always staged and never done while the bride is struggling to get her dress on 🥴

[@MrJpaynebb]

She was called a peeping Tom because that's how she behaved. The update just makes their whole position even worse. OP should file a police report and cut them off. They brokemher trust and refuse to apologize for it or take down that pic.

[@walkz007]

THAT'S A PEEPING TOM end of ,a creep end of!!!

[@animatorstanley]

Her mom may have put her up to it, it sounds like they don't like that OP converted for her husband. It's most likely a petty power move to stick it to OP. Gross.

[@ingloriousbetch4302]

​@@zozocecp nah. She knew exactly what she was doing. She knew OP would NEVER have allowed that photo. It was very likely to spite her religion.

[@catherinecox573]

The thing that really sticks out to me... She took it through the window?! Like a peeping weirdo? This sounds so illegal, I WOULD go to the cops if they don't care what a weird thing this is to do.

[@maurer3d]

In order to classify the niece as a peeping tom, she would have to be getting sexual gratification out of seeing her and taking the picture, which is hard to prove unless they caught her in the act (so to say). It is perfectly legal to take photos, thru a window as long as you are not trespassing, or it is a bathroom window (which is why most bathroom windows are frosted). The cops (assuming the story takes place in the USA), wouldn't be able to do anything. I still agree she should have taken the photo down when asked polity, but from OP's story she skipped polity and went straight to threats and yelling.

[@Ren-zb2bp]

@@maurer3d you’re weird for defending this in every comment reply. I ask my friends if I can post photos of them even if they were taken in public. It’s not that hard to have respect. And lawful does not necessarily mean moral or right. These people are still gross for peeping a window while someone was getting dressed and taking a picture of them no matter how “in the clear” they are.

[@Ren-zb2bp]

@@maurer3d and op was justified for yelling considering her being a hijabi and, again, the niece peeping a window. I’d be weirded out if someone took a pic of me changing through a window because that’s creepy as hell.

[@catherinecox573]

@@maurer3d 🤡

[@maurer3d]

@@Ren-zb2bp I'm not defending her just explaining why the police won't/can't do anything.

[@Ivanabelle]

It's crazy how OP's own sister is encouraging such awful behaviour. If it was OPs nephew instead of niece, I bet the whole family would see how creepy it is. Why is OP's family accepting of this? Do they hate her? I'm so angry for OP.

[@maurer3d]

Assuming this story happened in the USA, the photo was taken legally, and did not violate any laws. So the police couldn't do anything for the OP. The USA has very few laws when it comes to taking pictures/videos of others, unless they contain nudity, were taken in the bathroom, or if the niece was selling the image/video (all of which would require permission from your subject. I do agree that the niece should take the image down, but this OP should have asked polity, instead of attacking the niece and threatening her, so ESH.

[@buckeyenative1365]

Even in the US, this would be an invasion of privacy. They were in a room and had closed the curtain so they would have privacy. Taking a picture thru a window is an invasion of privacy. The niece should have knocked on the door and asked for a "getting ready" photo.

[@babybookworm003]

@@maurer3dno op is nta even for using the peeping Tom phrase

[@macylouwho1187]

@@maurer3dI’m wondering if she could use the “religious freedom” angle. Her religious rights were infringed upon. Staying covered is important in her religion, it’s entirely for religious purposes. And I disagree that she shouldn’t have argued the case for her own right to bodily privacy with her azzhole niece. You may have this come up someday with your own daughter where someone sneakily takes suggestive pictures of her body and then posts them online. Let’s see if you’re singing the same tune then. I doubt it, if it’s of you or your loved one. Besides, it only got nasty AFTER the niece refused to remove the photo. As well it should have. Bodily autonomy is a thing now, and decent people usually respect that. That wasn’t the case here.

[@bryn1063]

​@Maurer3D Where did she attack her neice? She's right, what she did was be a peeping tom just without the sexual gratification. Op is nta. Anyone would blow up if their photos were shared without their permission and were in an embarrassing position. Neice is 19, old enough to know to take something down when someone's uncomfortable with it.

[@felix0-014]

OP needs to take her niece to court or report her to law enforcement. Photographing people on your property without their consent is in fact illegal when it isn't for security purposes if someone had any expectation of privacy (bathroom, bedroom etc). That is sooooo creepy and Islamophobic of them

[@Human-kb6xc]

The niece literally made a concerted effort to take that picture. She knew it was an invasion of privacy if she had to essentially search for an opening. A person has the right to not want pictures of themselves online if they did not give permission.

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

19 is old enough to know you don't do this shit.

[@madihaq2252]

S1: She's a Muslim AND a hijab. OMG! Even if the rest of the family is non-muslim, they should respect that the privacy level of a Muslim woman is different, and OP feels violated. Even if the scenario was different meaning that OP is fully clothed but missing her hijab its still picturing her and showingbthe world in a state of undress. That picture is a HUGE no-no! Objections have been raised, respect it and take it off. The 19 yr old may lack understanding but the sister has no excuse. She herself has given the option of calling the police, OP will not be wring for taking her up on the offer. I absolutely HATE this culture of random "influencers" thinking they can walk up to you and click away. And no effort is made to get a consent or get the pic okayed. I want an update on story! 😭 Its so cruel to leave us hanging!

[@bluexwings]

I think when you're referring to a woman who wears a hijab, the word used is "hijabi". 😊

[@madihaq2252]

@@bluexwings 🤣😅🤣😅 you're right. Now I don't know if I should amend mine or just leave it as it is. 😅😅😅😅😅

[@star3catcherSEQUEL]

Story 1: Some people just can't handle ever being in the wrong and will go through tremendous lengths to never have to admit that they were.

[@maurer3d]

Niece is wrong morally, but from the OP's description the niece is in the clear legally (Assuming the story is from the USA).

[@satansecretary665]

@@maurer3d so you're the niece then

[@nousernamesarevalid]

​@@maurer3d Where did you get your law degree?

[@wmdkitty]

@@maurer3d No. The niece took a creepshot of OP, without OP's consent, THROUGH A WINDOW. She is most definitely NOT "in the clear", not in the US.

[@paolagutierrez2568]

That 20 year old law student friend needs to stop giving legal advice. S1: If she was asked to give evidence to support her advice, she would falter. That OP’s cousin was a peeping Tom. What about a closed curtain suggest that you want people take a photo?

[@adawongkennedy6570]

Story 1(before update): if I was Op, I would've take a selfie in front the police station and posted in the family group chat (or whatever is easier to reach the sister and niece) with the caption "on my way to press charges against the perv". Then wait a little to see who's going to reach out first, and make it clear that she's 19 and it won't look good to have something like this on her files, and all she has to do is take down the pic and erase from her phone. If she choose to refuse, go ahead and press charges.

[@DisneyChar]

After update sounds like a hate crime, based on their refusal to accept fault I wouldn't give any leniency.

[@Sandstimes]

If it's illegal for an airbnb host to leave hidden cameras around the house then this is also definitely illegal. It was already so creepy then the op mentioned being Muslim and it became so much worse. The way they double down so hard its no longer just a embarrassingly bad grasp of social rules but actively malicious, I fully believe they're doing this to op because she's Muslim

[@AndreNDP]

And, can confirm, it is 100% illegal to leave cameras and not inform people.

[@raynellemccathern3018]

The niece and the sister's lack of common sense is CRAZZZY! Let something like that happened them and see how THEY feel.

[@rosaazure]

First story - OP should try the social media company again but saying that the niece violated her religious rights or as a hate crime. That might get better results.

[@Vile0708]

In story one, I would use the fact that she is Muslim to help motivate Facebook. Anyone that loosely knows anything about the conservative nature of some practitioners knows this is a violation of their religious belief. You start putting protected class status on issues and it helps motivate people.

[@mothraminion]

I wouldn't be above publicly shaming them.

[@susankaempfer8427]

11:22 oh my, how I really really really want op to sue the SHIT out of that horrible SIL and niece.

[@lostshadows768]

Simple solution to the first story, invite niece over to OP's house, snatch her phone, delete the photo from phone and Facebook. All perfectly legal according to sister and niece, because the homeowner gave permission. /sarcasm I hope OP spreads the word about sister's attitude and niece's peeping. Family needs to be warned. And also calls the cops.

[@recycledapathy7411]

Story 1: The niece's friend is going to fail law school. According to her brilliant understanding of the law, I can take pictures of people in my house taking a crap because I own the property. OP needs to get that lawyer and talk to that judge, because niece is in for a rude awakening, since she's probably going to be looking at having to pay for OP's lawyer at the very least if this actually goes to trial.

[@ZombieSazza]

Uh OP, please report your ADULT aged niece to the police, let her face the consequences of her hella creepy actions. Her mother clearly isn’t holding her accountable and she needs to learn, legal charges are one sure way for that to happen. It’s not really worth keeping people like this in your life tbh, they don’t respect you, they don’t care about your comfort, don’t treat you with basic humanity, and seem to think being a peeping Tom is totally okay?!?!? Let’s put it into extra perspective for you: she took the photo through a window, the curtains were closed, she invaded your privacy. That’s 100% a peeping Tom. That’s not name calling, that’s what she’s doing, and your sister is trying to harass you into backing down. No offence to your religion, but it’s not actually the important factor here. It’s important to you, yes, but it’s not the important factor, your niece was still a peeping Tom posting an intimate photo of you (even tho you’re not showing anything) WITHOUT CONSENT. That’s the important part here, the peeping and uploading photos without consent. Also your sisters “law friend” has no doubt been misrepresented the facts. And yes Facebook are useless when reporting anything, I’ve tried recovering my account for over a year and it’s been useless, Facebook doesn’t have any administration to contact, I’ve even sent identification forms as per Facebook request and still never received help and still can’t gain access to the account. So Facebook are completely useless, so reporting will sadly not do anything. If you’re so adverse to police action, then blast them on social media with all available proof you have. Sometimes social castration is more effective than legal action.

[@shellchenonceau6987]

The people who lack empathy are oftentimes sociopathic or worse.

[@memyselfandi7782]

Story 1: WHY THE HELL WOULD SHE OR ANYONE DO THAT. She knew it was wrong enough to ask someone for legal advice. This is so messed up

[@hayleyg7719]

Story 2 ops gf is expecting him to hand out the inheritance to her family for sure. She played dumb to op too

[@meiwa2020]

Honestly, because the niece is young and so set in her beliefs that she is right, i think op NEEDS to file a police report because a) it's an easy crime to prove and b) the niece needs to learn not to be a creeper

[@lorifiedler13]

19 is no longer a child.

[@meiwa2020]

@@lorifiedler13 I didn't say she was a child, just young... Young enough that she needs to learn vs being 40 and still creeping around when she could have learned 20yrs prior. Brains aren't fully developed until around age 25.

[@DisneyChar]

Also might be a hate/bias crime based on the update.

[@owl7072]

Niece literally went out of her way to take a photo of someone through a _window._ Girl, there's a _reason_ you couldn't get in through the door. You just _know_ that if someone did that to her she'd be screaming, crying, and demanding they be thrown in jail for such disgusting behavior as well as demanding it be taken down and she get compensation for emotional distress in the form of having all their bank accounts drained and given to her. Edit: "You should be above name calling" and your daughter should be above invading people's privacy. "It's on her private social media" ... you think people can't screenshot and share it elsewhere??? "Private social media" including a photo of a _private room_ where the people in it _clearly didn't want to be seen_ or else they wouldn't have been in a _private room._ Edit 2: Omfg that's even worse Edit 3: "The photo legally belongs to sister cause it was on her property" Imagine thinking you own the rights to a photo of another person just cause it was in your house. Honey, there's a reason people still get in trouble for things like revenge p*rn and other more mild stuff despite being taken "on your property" because guess what? The _person_ in question _isn't YOUR property._

[@ACAB.forcutie]

It wasn't name calling. If you're being racist and someone calls you racist, they aren't calling you names. If you're being rude for no good reason and someone calls you an ahole, they aren't calling you names. They're calling it like it is. They're telling the truth. If the truth hurts, change it.

[@Faith12996]

The first story kind of reminds me of when I took pictures during my sister birth, which she asked me to do. I was between the legs with the doctor snapping every shot 😅 and I sent all them to her and only her. She wasn't necessarily upset but disgusted seeing her own vagina in several of the pictures (like maybe 10 out of 50) and asked me why I took the pictures like that. I told her I was just trying to capture all the moments cause I didn't know what she would want/like to pit in her baby album. Main put is I showed her what I had and she chose what pics to share with the family. Don't share without consent.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Story one your niece is 1000% wrong and your sister is just as bad. I’d be done with them, don’t be around them. Can you report it to Facebook? These family members are nasty.

[@victoriathornton2973]

Story 1: The issues I have with the niece (besides the obvious) are these: 1. How long was she there to go the perfect picture? How much did she see? 2. Just because that's only picture she posted of her aunt getting dressed does not mean it's the only picture she took. 3. What if she's done this before? Will she continue to do it. This is just super messed up. I'm not Muslim, but I do belong to a religion with similar standards of modesty. I would be mortified if this had happened to me. I would have immediately called the police and reported it. And if possible asked that they check for other pictures. This is just wrong on far too many levels.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: Here’s what you do: 1) File a police report against Peeping Tina. 2) Report the photo to Facebook and they can have it taken down. I’ve had pictures of me/my kids taken down when relatives post without permission. It’s not the same situation, but I reported another page that was, well, a gofundme for a rapist’s legal fees. They were unhelpful and as that one comment said, basically told me not to look. I threatened to take it to the news, and miraculously, the page was taken down! You might have to fight dirty, and I’m not sure how to do that with personal photos. Maybe add a note in about the hijab and your religion? 3) If you’re feeling extra petty and like throwing more fuel on the fire, you might make your own Facebook post about how you were shocked and saddened to see a private picture of you getting dressed, in a private room, was taken through the gap in the curtains and posted without your consent. Say you would never have thought niece was a peeping Tom, and are sad that she both refused your right to privacy and your request to take it down, and then tag your niece. When your sister comes to blow up at you, remind her that, just as she said niece has the right to post what she wants on her personal social media, so do you. ETA: They are wrong or lying. It does not matter if you were in their home and the “landowner gave permission;” they do not own YOU. The photo isn’t of the property, it is of you and as a human, you have your own rights to privacy. If what they say is true, you could put a camera in your bathroom, take videos of people undressing, and post the videos because “they belong to you and were taken in your home.” They are bullshitting you in an attempt to get you to stop. Honestly this would make me even more mad, and I would definitely go with #3.

[@sheilajacobson1941]

2nd story: Make sure your GF has no access to your financial information or accounts. Anyone who asks for money, just tell them all your money is invested and you can't and won't access it. If your GF wants to give money to her family, let her give out HER money from HER job.

[@TallLady123]

Im not telling OP to do this cause it defeats the purpose, but I would tell everyone how niece likes to peep on women changing and post their photos online. Tell everyone how niece will sneak and take a pictures.

[@firefly19690]

I don't understand why the sister and niece are so invested in keeping that photo up. Seriously ...be respectful and just remove it. If I take a pic of someone, I always ask before I post it. Not everyone is comfortable with that and if a pic is posted and that person asked for it to be removed ...take it down. Sheesh. Basic respect.

[@rashidasimmons6180]

My concern is what other photos did she take?! OP was changing. At some point she was more exposed. How long was she out there?!

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Good point. 😮

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

This is why I hate the modern era of smart phones and social media. People will come up with all sorts of mental gymnastic, bullshit to justify not taken down and inappropriate picture or video of somebody else. Even if something horrible, like walking over to a car crash and take out your cell phone, filming someone in a bloody state, being taken to an ambulance and justifying, keeping it on her social media page… When realistically they’re doing it just for clicks, not because they care about “documenting someone’s healing, journey” or something stupid like that. Or just straight up shoulder entitlement by saying it happen on public road. There’s nothing illegal about it. The fact that they’re fighting so hard to keep an inappropriate candid picture of someone while they were getting dressed. Also, let’s be real if the niece was actually 19 year old nephew, hell will break loose. It’s the lack of empathy to have someone would feel having their video/picture taken without consent and blast on social media just because someone wants attention on their profile.

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 - 2:25 - "My sister said to take it up with the cops." Maybe that's exactly what OP should do! I don't know if they can charge the niece, but if they can't help OP directly, maybe they can steer her toward someone who can.

[@ZombieSazza]

Second story: please don’t be a doormat OP, and especially don’t give folk money just because they’re grovelling and begging. It’s obvious folk are wanting to use you as a source for free money which they’ll promise they’ll “pay is back asap” (they won’t), but they’re just wanting free handouts and somehow feel entitled to your money. Your girlfriend makes this difficult because she’s far too happy telling folk about the money which I’ve no doubt will lead to issues, whether it’s her family trying to take, take and take, or your girlfriend arguing with you about money, it’s sadly already causing issues because she’s viewing the money differently from you and just wants to give it away. You need the money for yourself, you’ll need to put aside a good amount in case of medical emergencies and health issues, for your future plans, in case you wanna invest, you need to consider your own future plans! I’m glad your girlfriend is on the same page as you, but she does need to reign it in and not tell folk about your financial situation or else you’ll end up in the middle of a zoo full of vultures.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Yeah. NEVER talk about having even chump change. Any whiff of any money at all is like blood in the water for sharks. They'll swarm you. You won't see it coming before you're surrounded.

[@velentr]

I just really hope that the increased contact is because they know OP have just lost their mom and want to make sure they are doing okay. Naive sure- but damn, wouldn't that just make the world seem a little bit brighter?

[@flamelily2086]

Story 1 The sister needs to get involved with what her daughter has done. First of all, she took it through a window, and secondly, she shouldn't have posted the photo without OP's permission. The exception should have apologised and taken it down immediately. Taking photos through a window is the behaviour of a peeping Tom.

[@claudettewalker8358]

Story 1: it doesn't look like OP is prepared to do anything but complain. She needs to stop being a doormat and go to the police and to a lawyer. Her sister said to take them to court so do that . Sue the niece for invasion of privacy and emotional distress.

[@ajarfullofjoy]

Law grad studying for the bar in America. Taking pictures of a person does not become ok because you did it on your own property. That sister and niece are lying about talking to a law student. The only time we talked about pictures in my class was for copy right proposed and the take away was, make sure you have permission before you use someone's image or likeness, famous or not.

[@poohbear4515]

Huh. So if my aunt came over, or just anyone came over to my house, and I took a picture of them changing with only her pants and a bra on, then post it online, that’s MY photo in MY room on MY property and she have no say in what I can do with it? Yeah, if I was OP, I’d send a text to anyone and everyone in my family “I will no longer be in contact with my sister and niece because they are extremely disrespectful and I feel unsafe to be around them when they decided to take a photo of me changing and post it on Facebook without my consent and refuse to take it down. If anyone thinks differently, that’s on you, but I will no longer talk to them, see them, or even hear of them anymore.”

[@maurer3d]

If the story was from the USA, American Courts have ruled that you have no expectation of privacy in someone else's house except for in the bathroom, and even in your own home you only have limited expectation of privacy if you are in a room with a window.

[@IFAMILYIH]

JUST CALL THE COPS SAYING ITS REVENGE PORN AND DESTROY THEM IN COURT MAKE THEM PAY!!!!

[@analisaacosta974]

Markee your little message to us at the beginning was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you🥺🥺

[@AceFoxx70001519]

In story one the sister and niece need real consequences, and their lawyer friend needs disbarred

[@michaelwoods3651]

Story 1- check the laws in your area. If she was on private property when she took it, she may have committed a crime. Call police and get them involved. The friend is wrong about the law.

[@maurer3d]

The niece was on her own property (well her mom's), at least that is how the story written.

[@Justaperson354]

@@maurer3d not if there was an expectation of privacy such as a changing room or bathroom. Given that she expected to change in privacy it is illegal.

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

​@@maurer3d But OP isn't their property.... It was on private property, its illegal.

[@platinum_noelle]

Taking photos of someone changing in private is illegal no matter who owns the property. The sister and niece do not love OP, they have no respect for her, they dont deserve respect or a relationship with OP. She needs to go to the police and, indeed, take it up with a judge. Hell, it could theoretically be spun into being revenge porn, because they did not actually post it with good intentions (otherwise, theyd take it down when asked; they posted it specifically to hurt OP).

[@brandonshelp4682]

Story 1: absolutely involve the police get that girl some consequences sooner rather than later.

[@invisigoth510]

Inheritance story: dude needs a lawyer who specializes in estate planning & wills, an accountant, & a financial advisor to start off Then he needs an insurance specialist & a real estate expert to add to his team

[@veronica5lmaa]

19 is old enough to experience the consequences of her actions. Go to the cops.

[@taylorslade961]

Inheritance: I was concerned that OP's GF was only with them for the long con of the Inheritance but I'm pleasantly surprised to find she doesn't also have her hand out. I think a sit down conversation with GF's side of things in which OP explains that his money is not their money and that there will not be any handouts is in order. There will be fallout but, honestly, who cares? These aren't great people in the first place, so is it really such a great loss for them to rage quit when OP doesn't give them a free ride?

[@erikahammer4337]

If the sister's friend is in fact studying law, they're full of shit. That standard is a pseudo public places standard, ie. A business owner gives a person permission to record on their property, you still can't record in the bathroom though. When it comes to private property, simply because the niece had the ability to take pictures, does not mean she can take pictures of anyone and everyone WITHIN the residence. You can't just walk in on your brother when his door is shut and take a picture of him, you CAN'T take a picture through a window either. Wherever an individual person is, if they create a screen of privacy, you cannot record or take pictures of them. This changes slightly when it comes to surveillance cameras within a house.

[@alexafuqua8727]

I encourage OP to write a book about him and his mom's relationship. It can be called something like "old money curse"

[@MsAnonymous1981]

Get a pic of sis and niece with funny faces-like they're stuffing food in their mouth or making other weird faces and post it. When they ask you to remove it-remind them that nothing illegal is going on and make some bs excuse like "This is art"... Blackmail them into taking down your pic. Stay true to your word. Sometimes people just don't understand until they're the victim... Also, I'd ask a lawyer. The niece could be lying about the friend. Also, students don't know all the ins and outs of laws even if she wasn't.

[@piiinkDeluxe]

Neeeded that reminder at the beginning. ❤ thank you!

[@tinak2576]

Oh I wish OP knew the name of the student who allegedly gave the sister advice. It’s be fun to contact their school/instructor. 😂😂

[@user-sk2ij7mo6y]

Story 1 IF in the US posting a photo of someone without their knowledge or consent on any public forum is illegal....Facebook is a public forum and the last time I had to tell them I"d files suit for damages unless was removed. I'd call sister up and tell her that you have consulted legal council and will be filing a cease and desist against both of them as well as a civil suit for damages unless it is taken down and deleted immediately.

[@AIBot929]

S2: (before the update) He needs therapy, a trust and financial adviser. Might need a new girlfriend as well. There is a reason wealthy ppl don't assiociate with "lower classes" and run in the same circles

[@kat1722]

my grandma died and my mum got an inheritance and has openly shared with me, she uses it like 'our' money (i dont ask or expect her to but she knows there are things that will make my/our life easier like my new wheelchair) but shes also using it to have some sensible fun in one of our hobbies. i havent told my dad and half sister how much it was (not a big amount) despite theyre "subtle" (not) queries, but also theyre prompting of 'oh woe is us we have no money but this thing would be sooo good' only a few people actually know how much and how were spending it, a close friend is an accountant and good with money (unlike my dad) and has given us some good ideas on how to make the most of it while still getting to use it

[@OfficialCourtesyCourtie]

I badly want another update for the first story! Badly.

[@jillimi]

OMG, that first story make me feel so mad and frustrated, I need another update where she take the niece to the law. 😡

[@KH-tx6lg]

I think the franchise idea is a really good one! I was thinking a trust would keep OP's money safe. He can't give what he can't access.

[@psygaud]

I am so confused by the aunt and neice. If I took a picture of anyone and posted it for them to then come to me later and say they weren't comfortable with it, I would feel bad that I made them uncomfortable and remove it. How is that not the default reaction, especially for someone you supposedly care about? OPs religion shouldn't have anything to do with it, but, unfortunately, I wouldn't be surprised if it was a factor here.

[@roesh2435]

Story 1: I have been a model for a few years. And as the subject of the photo you have rights. For one you can always sue and have the photo taken down.

[@walkz007]

Niece is a criminal.Hello police!!!!!

[@Greeneyedcat99]

When they start hinting about money feign stupidity. If you give money to one everyone will want their hands in your pockets. They are not entitled to your money.

[@chuckles7070]

Story 1: NTA and i wish OP would fight this and make everyone reveal their bs when the rest of the family pick sides. Get all the trash out in one go.

[@absolut_dre]

This is why social media shouldn't exist

[@Bub383]

The great thing about problems around having too much money is that you can always donate it to charity, problem solved. Even if it's tied up in a business, push to turn it into a cooperative. There are so many ways to solve this while doing a lot of good.

[@anonymouse9833]

The niece is weird af. Why take the pic, why post it, why refuse to take it down?? I’ve decided it’s strictly to embarrass and hurt OP. Makes sense now.

[@Froshow]

call a family meeting, have everyone on the same meeting. And you tell the family no one is allowed to ask about your money question your money or ask for money for the rest of your lives because it's none of their business. And if at any point you or her feel like you being generous that is your decision but if anyone pushes the subject of money they will be forfeiting their opportunity to ever receive money and if they're persistent and nasty with it they'll be put on no contact

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

S2 the mom telling her kids to trust their brother 😭😭😭 im sobbing

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 2: OP needs to get in touch with a financial advisor and if he wants to keep a relationship with his GF, he needs to acknowledge that he'll have to set up a family trust to help his future wife's family. But make sure there is a cap to how much each of them can withdraw and for what needs. Be it a medical, educational, emergency reason or if they wis to enjoy a little windfall themselves. Don't ever let your family and friends bleed you dry. But do "spread the wealth" in order to help the people close to you help themselves.

[@ElleD308]

He doesn't have to set up a family fund for his girlfriend's family. He doesn't have to do crap, not even with his girlfriend 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@AllistorMichelle]

in ny law yes you as the homeowner can install hidden cameras. even in the bathroom. thats the sick part of it.

[@cpaul9269]

Why the hell wouldn't they just take the pic down?! WTF?!

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee 👋 Have a good night 👍 Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗

[@sheilajacobson1941]

I'd report this to the police as a Hate Crime. In the US, this stuff is taken very seriously.

[@mkaverage1791]

Invite the sister and neice over, take pictures of them in the bathroom, and post the pictures saying "my house, my bathroom, my property."

[@chits28]

Brat needs to see the insides of a police lockup. Her genius 'lawyer' friend can help her out😂

[@micahdougan]

In the us it is absolutely legal to take a photo of anything you can witness from a public location. Google the Supreme Court ruling. You have no expectation of privacy when visible from from a public location. It's on you to take measures for privacy.

[@dannyells]

As for the guy with the $$$. Set up a trust for her family to be used in emergencies. Set the parameters to medical and educational debts. Let them apply through the trust for money and have the manager deal with it. You can’t take it with you, so you might as well toss 100k into a pile and let them apply for it. That way they can’t call you stingey and will still only get money for good reasons- and not bother you constantly for it.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

I can’t believe the sister and the niece are willing to die on this hill. Like, why is this picture so important to the niece? This is so disrespectful.

[@wildblue0]

Story 1: I'd take her up on the offer to go to court. Let neice test how much the law school friend actually knows. Though I heard practicing law without a license is also illegal.

[@alyzu4755]

Throw the fuel on the fire and get the police involved.

[@ElleD308]

So.... The girlfriend thinks it's weird OP's sister is talking to him again, but sees no issue with her entire family starting to be besties with OP after the money? 🤦🏻‍♀️ this GF is going to suck dry this naive dumb OP.

[@lusyatik3910]

Story 1: OP seems hesitant about this whole thing 'cos they're family (and whatever), so i'll ran with this argument: if the niece can take a peeping tom's photo of her, she will and can do the same to any other muslim women . It's honestly islamophobic. If she doesn't want to take it to court only based on her own violation, then I hope she realized she SHOULD be taking it to court to prevent any other muslim being a victim to her sister's and niece's islamophobia acts: this is a 'nobler' reason. otherwise I hope she grew a spine and take it to court. She can figure out it might need cease-and-desist letter, so she should do it. Hopefully she can grew an extra spine on top of it and explain to everyone who had shown that photo on the whole situation.

[@jennybradley8530]

Everytime i saw the neice i would be like "hey pepping tom ... take anymore photos though a window recently?? " Then I'd blast it all over that she was a pepping Tom and had took that photo through the window for her sick own personal reasons...

[@renaeodonnell4558]

OP really should have added that she was Muslim in the original story. The fact that her expectation of privacy was expected, means her niece could possibly be charged with religious harassment depending on where they are from,

[@ummokay2611]

Niece is a peeping Tom and I hope op press charges

[@Germania72]

Story 1: What the hell is wrong with OP's sister and niece?

[@notevenlistening6072]

Je telephone la police!

[@SunnyD74]

Report the photo and they will take it down. I threatened my sister once with reporting a pic of me that I didn’t want posted. That was enough for her.

[@cpaul9269]

story 2- tell them all its in a trust and be done with it. Golddiggers

[@LisaApril]

If the sister in story one, the one who got her photo taken does not go to her lawyer or police and get this niece arrested I will be really disappointed. I hate when people do nothing when they are the victims of something (Victim for lack of a better word) completely illegal such as a peeping Tom. Who took a photograph of it no less.

[@vampire9545]

Dude loves an abuser mom - I don't understand these human types

[@beccaf262]

I think OP was right to not include the religious angle. You’re not more entitled to privacy based on religion. Everyone has a right to privacy regardless of religion. This was such a violating and they’re both disgusting people. She’s literally the definition of a peeping Tom. Peeping through a window and taking a photo is the textbook definition.

[@chuckles7070]

I mean it adds another layer of context for OP's POV and clarifies why she was so upset by the photo and the niece's actions. More context is always good imo

[@TheBusyHoneyBee]

Who wold tell that the owner of the place owns the photo? Like, if I went to Disney for a professional photoshoot Disney would own my pictures? Why? I always thought that the question of ownership of the image was between the artist (photografer) and the model that owns the rights to the image. Imagine if Disney owned the rights to every photo taken inside the Parks? If you think they are ruthless about songs and mercandize, what would you think they would do to contless photos taken in their property dayly? What about Airbnb? Putting cameras up to see guests would end up that busyness. What about creeper renters? Hotel owners would put pornHub to shame...

[@axepagode33626]

Call the cops and ask them to speak to her. Your sister and niece will get the message. She took the picture through a window to see you inside your dwelling. That is peeping Tom behavior. Your sister should have sided with your immediately.