MY SECOND CSECTION

Hello lovelies, hope you are well?
In this video I'm talking about the second CS procedure and my previous experience since it is CS Awareness Month.
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[@SisiYemmieTV]

Did you know that April is Cesarean Section Awareness Month? Tell me about your experience-it would help a lot!

[@janetubeji9665]

Great video Sis , I’m also a mother of three I gave birth to my three kids naturally. I don’t think it matters no matter way you gave birth to your child as long as the mother is safe and the baby . That’s what matters so don’t mind what people are saying . Thank you for sharing .

[@zainabsaddiq2980]

Sisi the fluid is amniotic fluid and the poop is meconium. I think it's great you're making video, it just shows you're human and creates awareness that not every delivery works how it's portrayed on social media most times. It also helps to shine light on the fact that there is some sort of stigmatization associated with Cesarean sections and generally we just have to educate ourselves about things like this, in the end "Baby na Baby"

[@delindawilliams3935]

You're looking very beautiful! I love that yellow.

[@queenathelene]

SisiYemmie, pregnancy and childbirth are God designed and shouldn't be traumatic. Please get the book "Supernatural Childbirth" by Jackie Mize. It talks about God's promises regarding pregnancy and childbirth and the power of the tongue in proclaiming what you want based on those promises. It's a great book

[@Mbaby21]

SisiYemmieTV wow! I never knew that it was a thing, I have had 3 cs so shout out to us 💃🏽💃🏽

[@DiscoveringNatural]

As someone that has gone through losses, vaginal birth and CS birth, the joy is to have a breathing and healthy baby and mommy. I thank God for my 2 babies and my many angels.

[@lifeisablessing247]

A c-section shouldn't make you feel less of a woman. Some women say the most ignorant things to each other; the fact that you're able to give birth is a blessing. God bless you Sisi Yemi, he will protect you, and guide your footsteps. 💕

[@ada_bigwig2616]

Hi Sisi, you don’t have to beat yourself. I have my first child natural birth but with my second, it was emergency CS and third birth was CS . My second child was 8 months and it happened I was pregnant again for the third child without giving myself enough time to heal but I called the NHS, I was told as long as my baby is six months nothing to worry about and I had her through CS because I had a CS with the last one. Now am pregnant and am already told by the doctors from my medical history i will have CS for the fourth child and am already preparing myself. I hope this help, it not a curses but sacrifice and God will see all mothers through child birth. ✌️

[@JeNeevaLove]

yellow was made for you SISI! looking super fine

[@sweetlady3651]

JeNeevaLove isn't it beautiful

[@nuwill-rising6222]

SisiYemmie, I love your videos....First, STOP worrying and trust God. You have too. Listen, when I had my first CS while I was pregnant my Mom passed away. I was 32 years old. My doctor said I was healthy enough to have the baby naturally, but my baby was experiencing fetal distress so I had a CS and she came in weighing 9 lbs 8 ounces. I healed and everyone and everything was fine. Twelve years later at 44 years old, I got pregnant. I was scared because of my age, but my doctor told me that I was healthy enough to have my baby naturally. I thought he was crazy. He told me that I was high-risk because of my age, but that everything would be fine and he was right. My beautiful baby girl popped out weighing 8 lbs and 5 oz. I am now 64 years old with a 20 year old. She's in her 2nd year of college and is really bright. We're doing fine. So, remember the "Serenity Prayer" and put your faith in God. You will be fine. Take care... and keep your body in good shape to prepare for the next birth. :-D

[@dynaekwueme]

You ran through this video but I could still feel a stream of emotions. Gosh! As a lady I don't even think about things like this, only the fantasy of someday having a baby. Mama Tito, when you conceive again go with your heart. Society (Nigeria) like you said have always and will always stigmatize women that go through CS. You're a strong woman I must say, hearing all these. Can't wait to see Tito's brother/sister. ❤❤

[@jumokeowati4175]

I have experienced both. My first child was through vagina and my second was through emergency cs because of cord prolapse. There is nothing wrong with both either vaginal or cs. The most important thing is baby being alive and also mother being well. Get pregnant and believe God for safe delivery either through cs or vaginal birth and also, ask God for no complications.

[@Synnsational]

hello I am Afro Caribbean aka Black American lol my DNA said I was Afro Caribbean, anyway I am 53yrs young, I had 3 C-Sections, my first was because my pelvic do not expand enough for the baby head to pass, as he was coming out he got stuck right there and couldn't come out no farther, so when I got pregnant a 2nd and 3rd time it was an automatic thing to do a C-Section I did know a Sister in my Mosque whom had 2 CS and 3 vaginal but then had 2 more CS's I was like WOW God is with you. CS is done for medical reasons and its to save the mothers and baby life its a good thing.

[@akorwunpa4936]

Hi Sisi Yemmie, been watching your videos for a while now. I had a CS January this year, I was awake but thanks to the anaesthesia I didn't feel any pain though I felt all the pulling...Etc. Exactly 10mins after the anaesthesia took effect my baby was out. Now about what people think or say about CS birth, the only difference between someone who has had a vbirth and me is the recovery time. But at the end of the day that person has a child and I have mine. Haha. Thank God you decided to make this video because I was going to ask you to do it. So many women are being deceived into killing themselves and their babies with the Hebrew woman birth thing. People must realize that most women who give birth through a C-section do not choose to do so. That could be due to some complications or some other medical condition. In my case i knew even before I conceived that I would only go through a CS and that is due to a previous surgery that I had in 2016. The wisdom for the doctors to decide if a woman should have a vbirth or CS also comes from God. Some women have died because of fear and shame like you rightly said. I remember someone telling me not to mind what my doctor has said, that CS is not my portion and that i will give birth like a Hebrew woman. 😂 and this was my response exactly" I intend to have my baby and take care of him and watch him grow,so for that reason I no fit use my life play jambo ". The look on this person's face...😂. She was disappointed in me but this is my life and na only me and God know my situation. I already know that I will never have a vbirth in this life, so should I start crying that I am not a woman? Never! We all carry the pregnancies for 9 months, why would last lap to the end disqualify me? Some women are so insensitive, but I really don't let that get to me bcos on every official forms or application forms, I have not seen " method of delivery on them ". All the forms carry num of children or do you have children, yes or no! We as African women have to stop stigmatizing one another for no reason. If anyone thinks having a CS is being lazy, how about the pain and 6 weeks recovery time in which you still have to take care of your baby esp when you are not in Africa where you'd get all the support? Sisi, I apologize for this long long comment but this topic has actually been eating me up. I see women in a prayer forum asking us to pray for them to deliver like Hebrew woman bcos the doctor said they'd have a CS due to complications, but they do not want to bcos it is not their portion. And so many women are encouraging them not to take the doctors advice. Really! I see comments like, don't mind d doctor God can do it and you will have your baby normally. I am not against the fact that God can change a situation. But abeg is CS now a plague or cancer wen everybody dey say no be my portion? Haha 😂. Well for me o,it is my portion and I am not sorry nor would I apologize to anyone about it. You have children and i have children.... End of story!

[@CathysJournal]

I had a C-section for my baby. That was the decision from the beginning, well due majorly because of some health issues. I have heard a lot of such negative comments about cs before even getting pregnant but believe me I did not care coz all those comment stemmed from ignorance. My daughter is very healthy and strong more than me even. Not everyone can go through with virginal delivery. Thank God for medical advancement. I even advise women who go for virginal birth to have CS as a plan B just in case things don't work out as planned. My sister we all pray to God for safe delivery in all.

[@julietgabriel6634]

Women who had cs should be more respected because the scar remains after healing and the fact that they were able to still nurse their new born in pain and swore wounds is amazing

[@valerieonome8600]

Sisi you're a strong woman....society can not and should not determine anything. Your safety should be your number one priority

[@agirlcalledft]

Sisi Yemmie, thanks for sharing your story. I'm praying for twins for you too. Everything will go well with your next pregnancy. Don't worry as Bobo Yomi said.

[@Chichichikito]

Sisi mi, biko let them carry their own load of stigma. There are stories of women dying pre and post childbirth. There are beautiful babies born with terrible diseases & deforminities. And God sees it fit to rain blessing of healthy mom & baby after cesarean section and somebody is carrying stigma. Would they rather have the baby continue to aspirate their feces in the womb and have their heart rate continuously drop? I would try to provide a learning opportunity for anyone that thinks that c-sec is an easy way but some people are so backwards in their thinking they see the pull forward as a curse. We ought to be thankful for gift that is a healthy aftermath of a child & mother. It is a mighty miracle on its own.

[@gracedivinefavour7381]

Hello sisi yemmie, i love watching your videos! I live in Germany and i had my first child through emergency cs after three days of lot of pains in the hospital! I think unprepared cs is the worst thing that can happen to anybody but i was happy seeing my baby after the whole drama, it makes it worth it! Don't listen to those women that are saying someone is lazy by having cs, i called unprepared cs double pain!

[@yemiamadasun5838]

U won't have another scar namesake mi. Even if u go for C's 4times, it's same place they cut open. God is ur strength

[@bukunmioye4348]

Hello sisi Yemmie, I understand how you feel. I was that ssme mom that wanted to have her baby vaginally. However, God had other plans. I went into labor normally with my baby and progressed gradually until I was 10 cm dilated and then I began to push. After several pushes, nothing was happening. Baby's heart rate began to drop and eventually it dropped too low and I had to have an emergency C-Section. Thank you God I live I the US, as I was out of it at that point. Within minutes baby was out...He had his umbilical cord wrapped around his neck. I personally believe one of us may not have made it had this been in naija (I could be wrong). Two years later baby #2 Is on the way, I decide to do a VBAC. Again, labor starts normally, 8 hrs later I'm only 4cm baby's HR begins to drop again with every contraction, doctor advices to prepare for CS, as it may be too late if I continue with labor...As hard as it was to hear, I had to do what was best for myself and baby. Na so I do CS #2. The good thing is that they cut me open at the exact same incision so I have only one scar. I had people tell me I was lazy too when I had the 1st one. But nko to ba wun anybody lole f'enu e so, I didn't let it bother me. So, you do what's best for you and your baby, it doesn't make you any less if a woman or mother. Ignore the nay sayers. BTW I love your Channel, I look forward to meeting you in person someday.

[@bukskarl]

I could remember my first pregnancy was in Sweden. I was way over 40 weeks and everyday waiting for my water to break but nothing happend. December 19, 2008 went to the hospital for my appointment and low and behold I was already 5cms dialated and not a single fluid in my womb. The nurses and doctors were shocked. I usually have terrible period pains so the little cramps I was having I thought was just normal. I was immediately admitted and induced to start my labour but somehow I just noticed like 3 doctors and 2 nurses rushing in to tell me I have to be immediately willed to the operating room because my baby's heart beat went down. It took them less than 10 minutes to bring my big 4.8kg chubby son out and I was awake thr whole time with my husband beside me. And my son was very ok no problem but that was the right thing to do at that moment. I was so naive I could not even hold him so he first bonded with his dad the skin to skin contact. my second son in 2012 was a voluntary C-section which was a huge debate because in Sweden it is usally not allowed they want you to push out after a lot of counselling I stood my ground and at 38weeks I was blessed with another cute small boy. I just believe in everything give thanks to God wether C-section or not. By the way am done having babies.

[@AfricanNutritionTV]

My first CS was because I was in labor for 3 good days and my cervix dilated just 1 cm in 3 days. Then baby's heart stopped beating so the rushed for the CS. It wasn't healing ooo for months. Kept opening. Second preggo the same thing. I tried a V-birth but I just wasn't dilating. Then 3rd the same. I tire ooo. It's the same way of thinking even in Cameroon. But heck, any woman who has gone through a CS (unwillinging) please celebrate her. The pain is real. But I encourage you to try a v-birth first. Who knows how God does things. Wishing you a v-birth dear.

[@forfemalesbyfemales9843]

Even if a woman did CS "willingly", she should be celebrated too!!

[@CookingWithVoluntas]

Shapeupafrican TV Auntie Z😘

[@sweetlady3651]

Shapeupafrican TV I had a similar experience her heart rate was droping

[@julietgabriel6634]

Why should the doctors allow you to try 3rd time with virginal birth before cs, thank God you're ok

[@chiomaiykeani864]

Sisi Yemmie you are just as real as you can be. I love you girl! No pretenses, no faking, you are just YOU. I can relate with all you have said, your worries et all. My honest opinion? Don't fret about anything at all. The most important thing is that at the end of the day, mummy and baby are okay. My mum always says it doesn't matter how a child came into the world (whether through CS or Vaginal birth). What matters is that the baby is here. Incidentally I was born in April and through CS.

[@EbunOluwoleTV]

I think men should be sensitized as well. One neighbour of ours had a CS years back and the jargons husband will still insist that she fetches water from the well and do all kinds of work few days after giving birth, thank God for neighbour who always help her when the man is not around.

[@dianelaure]

Don't worry, I had 3 cs and my kids are all fine 😄

[@faithoye8590]

"The way you give birth does not define you, the most important thing is mother and baby are fine" SisiYemmie. This is powerful, what is the point of trying to prove anything? You are blessed, my sister!!

[@delindawilliams3935]

I'm so glad you choose this topic. My first babies were twins and I delivered vaginally with no medicine,but I was a strong teenager. 12 Year later I had my son,also vaginally, but with epidural. I was so nervous about getting CS which almost happened. I was always terrified about having CS for all the reasons you mensioned,but also I was told if you had to have another,they cut you in the same spot. I prayed against it. Having more information than I had before,if it be the case of emergency I would do it. Many women in the US are choosing CS when they could choose otherwise. For me,if the would have to be very necessary. I feel like you,no matter how the baby is born,it's a matter of both mother and baby being fine. Vaginal is very good and have pros & cons,but CS might just save 2 or more lives. Women just need to know more about CS. Education is power.💪

[@Zoddy_styles]

I had CS with my first baby because my cervix was swollen (as a result of too much cervix checks by one new nurse like that) and it was after the CS my doctor discovered that the position of my baby changed. It was a traumatic experience for me. I was depressed for 3 months.That was my scariest day ever. I will be having a VBAC for my second one because it is actually safer and less risky (my research). I have high chances of having a VBAC anyway. I have friends who had successful VBAC so i believe i can do it. I don't want to be depressed anymore. I don't think i will have any problem. Don't be scared of VBAC Sisi Yemmie. I hear second pregnancy and delivery gets easier. At the end of the day its your decision to make. Go with what you think is good for you.

[@anabelleomaro7797]

Sisiyemmie this is a very beautiful topic you opened up about. Was talking to someone about it recently. Especially when people tag vaginal birth as normal delivery or the hebrew woman kind of delivery. I for one believe that all forms of delivery(vaginal birth,C.S,surrogate,IVF) are all normal delivery and any delivery where mother and child is okay is the hebrew woman kind of delivery. Also it would be nice and just courtesy that people stop asking new mums what kind of delivery they had,its extremely rude. We have enough maternal and new born mortality already in Nigeria,lets just stop adding to the number daily out of ignorance and stigmatization.......GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY GREATLY💓💓💓💓💓

[@ecalosiy]

God willing you have your set of twins, a boy and a girl. I had both of my kids born via CS . For my second i wanted a V-birth but my doctor said he had to check if my cervice was competent enough to birth a child. I am really glad i didn't cos my last baby was long, very long. I was very scared but it was the best decision for my baby and i. I was told i wasn't woman enough to have my babies but by His grace, i have the bikini scar as proof that i am a proud mom of two blessed Children. Thanks for this post, you couldn't have said it better

[@ncegbu]

My dear don't mind them at all! We women are the most damaging to ourselves and it just does not have to be that way! The only, and I mean ONLY, goal of pregnancy and childbirth is a happy, health child. God gave us the brains to make that happen using science and technology of medicine when and as needed. Praise God for that! I had 2 emergency c/s. The first was after 5 weeks of in-hospital bed rest, induced labor stalled, baby's heart rate plummeted and signs of stress plus she was coming down the birth canal shoulder first! The most impossible odds for a healthy delivery for my child and me. The second was because the cord had wrapped around her neck. My OB specialized in the "bikini" incision, so the scar is there, but well hidden and well healed. My OB also took special care with my second incision to place it in the same area to minimize the scar tissue. It is good to make sure you have a caring OB that you "mesh" with and who will respect your wishes about how you want to give birth, circumstances willing. My oldest is 9 yrs now and the scars are totally healed, but it took some time -- that numbness lasted a long time and still comes and goes, but is less frequent and in a smaller area around the scar. With c/s, there will always be a little bit of small belly because it is a major abdominal surgery. Be sure not to over-exert after birth so as not to tear and tie your belly or use the belly wrap for support as long as needed. It takes some time for those abdominal muscles to heal. In parts of the United States there is still stigma attached to c/s, despite the fact that elective c/s is too too common here. In all things, DO YOU and trust in GOD.

[@oluwaseunm.904]

CS stigma should not even be a thing, If anything, women that go through it should be applauded for bravery. I am not yet a mother but I was born through CS and that does nt even make me any different from my sister that was birthed through the V. My mum still has "my scar" till date. First time i saw it was when i heard my birth story, proud of my strong mama. God bless you sisi Yemmie and all other mums, we love you. #sayNotoCSstigma

[@bisolasanda4198]

Sisi Yemmie I just love watching u all the time. From my experience I had Cs for my second born and a vbac for my third. I definitely had the same fears as u have currently and mine was even 18months apart. I think going in for a planned Cs is way better than an emergency Cs. The trauma with an emergency Cs is what instills fear in one. I think for me I just committed everything to God and he saw me thru. Most times knowing what caused an emergency Cs helps one to plan for the future as well. I wish you all the best in the future

[@mamaAy_Space]

I had same experience with you but glory to God I have my baby safe and sound

[@AfricanNutritionTV]

I had 3 CS which put me into depression and practically ruined my health for 8 year. Na now I deh recover ooo. CS is not buttah!

[@shadele17]

Shapeupafrican TV it is not an easy thing but well done. You are a very strong woman and you will recover completely in Jesus name.

[@UK-sm4co]

8 Years? Oh dear...

[@ackielix]

Shapeupafrican TV sry

[@fidelachi9803]

Ruined your health? How? What exactly were your challenges? Please share

[@rackshorts8167]

I had your experience in my first delivery in 2008, ever since then i've had 2 more children without c section. So personally, the first experience does not determine the subsequent ones. Wishing you the best of luck, don't give up 💪💖

[@AdorableKitchen]

Lol. Sisyemi, the poo is called Meconium. Babies pass meconium inutero due to distress. Then the sac contains Amiontic fluid...whether CS or SVD, YOU ARE A SUPER WOMAN AND A GOOD MOTHER. The person talking about you being lazy is not considerate at all. You even over suffered having to go through labor and then CS. Lest I forget, ur gown is gorgeous For your next, be optimistic that it won't be hard as your previous experience. And the fact that the 1st one was CS doesn't mean that subsequent ones will be CS too. You can even come to US and use epidural for your vaginal birth.

[@nkylondon7892]

Well said SisiYemmie. Sometimes this subject is like the proverbial "elephant in the room"... It's great for someone like you to raise the subject so that awareness of CS and why its sometime the best and only safe option for mother and baby. I have experienced both vaginal and CS deliveries and I would not say I favour eitherway or imagine giving birth to my twins without a CS😨. Childbirth is traumatic, the only thing that makes is worthwhile is the bundle/s of joy you get to take home in the end. 💖

[@itsangelaamoah]

As someone who has had 2 CS now, it really is an awful process. The recovery 2nd time around was much harder and the pain was much more intense. But at the end of it *ALL*, we are alive and baby is strong and healthy. And really and truly that is all that matters. Women who have gone through *ANY* method or form of Labour is a Super woman.

[@louisaadeniran4474]

A mother of 2 via C-section, like you Sisiyemmie CS was not my portion LOL .. so I didn't research much on it during my first pregnancy.. Alas, I've had two and no one I mean no one not even my very yorubaish MIL can talk down on me over that.. I'm glad to be alive after both ordeals. My only concern now is the "Biggie Belle"... but that too shall pass..So I will say go for it and don't stress or put your life at risk trying to achieve a VBAC..

[@ebonyighodaro]

You are so right, so much stigma in Nigeria with C-section. I believe this is to do with lack of knowledge. Well done for this sisi, it will educate people

[@asadinma1321]

Ebby's Closet C-section is a stigma in Nigeria

[@joyjoyous3126]

Lack knowledge ooo, Najia I’m tired of our mentality!

[@marvalouis6850]

Excellent video, taking account of all the issues and of course mother’s and baby’s safety comes first

[@NazorEzeh]

I've had 3 vaginal births and one CS. I've already scheduled my next C.S in about 4 weeks....yes I'm doing it again. Having a C.S is not a tragedy. I don't understand why people talk rubbish about it. Infact, the best is an elective C.S because everyone is calm and prepared. My last C.S was also elective because the pregnancy before that ended up a still-birth and we had to find another way out to keep that from happening again. So because it was an elective C.S, we were all prepared, i was gisting with the anesthesiologist during the procedure and everything went fine and dandy. An emergency C.S is something i would never ever want to go through, which is why i've already scheduled the next one. Having a baby through C.S doesn't make anyone less of a woman and it also totally qualifies as a Hebrew woman delivery because baby is well and mother is well. After my C.S that morning, i was already up on my feet by evening and climbing stairs...in 3 days i was home...that was where the pain started but it wasn't something that i couldn't deal with...it just got better each day and within 2 weeks i felt normal again. I'm looking forward to the next one biko because i can't wait to behold my precious gift.

[@emmanuellaotabor9553]

see how u are just making serious sense..thanks jare..all is still Hebrew woman delivery since mother and baby are fine

[@Munastiic]

Congratulations in advance! God will definitely grant you safe delivery in Jesus name, Amen.

[@JesuslovesU001]

Like my dad/husband would say giving birth like Hebrew women means "mother and child alive and well". I am a product of CS. My mum had 4 CS and we are all alive, sound intelligent and healthy. I overstayed like you during my first pregnancy and my pple were worried. They even told the doctor to have a CS done on me so that nothing happens to the baby, but my doctor refused. He prayed with me and he told them I would have my baby. Labour wasn't funny stayed a day at the hospital and finally had to be induced for labour to progress. It finally did. I had my baby virginally 2hours after they started the induction. It was a miracle. I was also so weak after the long labour I had to sleep. My second child was easier and faster. u'll have an easier and faster second child experience v-back. u'll experience it so u can talk to other women and encourage them. I respect my CS mothers.. None is easy all we want it to deliver like Hebrew women

[@flourishingwithwords]

My first baby was through c-section, I was not deleting about my water as broken for 39hours, so we have to go for it, I was very on happy , My second pregnancy last year, I was hoping for v - bag, just the same water broken at home and I was not deleting almost 15 hours, I can not but thank God for the beautiful boy and girl he give us ,I can ask for more

[@MT4LIFE]

I had a CS with my twins 5 years ago but I will be trying a vbac in September, I am currently 20 weeks pregnant. Here in the US some doctors will at least let you try naturally after a c section. Don't be to hard on yourself o, a c section scar to me is a mark of bravery. I still look at mine from time to time. I am proud of my c section scar. Don't mind those judges jare.

[@sarahachiugo2676]

I had my two lovely kids with c-section. my first was not head down, and the other one i stayed almost two days in labour after my water broke. Cus my cervix wasn't open only 6 centimetre, at the end of it all I was operated. And today i and my kids are doing great.We're all super mummy 😊😊😊⚘⚘⚘

[@lizade5320]

I remember how for so many weeks after I had my daughter I still couldn't say I gave birth to her. Because of the stigma associated with CS in Nigeria. I'd always say when they brought her out. I had to keep reminding myself that I delivered her whether it's through CS or not. Nobody should ever have to feel this way.

[@nanaaliu5537]

I believe same God that made way for normal delivery, also made way for CS.. cos God Almighty knows & see everything. My 3 kids are with thru CS & am not apologetic about it. #Blesssssssssed❤️👍🏾❤️

[@keechiO]

My sis had CS for all 3 of her babies. She doesn't care about how society views it (and u shouldn't either) bcos at the end of the day, they were and are all healthy children. A baby is a baby regardless of how they're delivered. Go with the healthy option for you Sisi! ❤

[@davidandchy]

Looking good! Love the yellow!

[@jaydaksy4094]

Hey Sisi, the first baby poop is called “meconium” it’s very black and has a thick tar like consistency, it could have been caused by Tito being distressed when he was still inside. It happened to my younger sisters first son.

[@johannaaguh4438]

Some women are having challenges just to get pregnant sef and people are still "talking rubbish" about cs, SMH. We have technology for a reason. Once baby and mummy are healthy that's all that counts. CS is ESSENTIAL, let those that don't know continue in their ignorance, it will keep saving the mothers that need it. Well done Sisiyemmie for being open.

[@needleandthread7150]

U re just too real...sisiYemmie...so far mother n child..re doing gr8...

[@bomak5310]

With my 1st child I had CS and d 1st few weeks were tough. It seemed lk I didn’t av a connection wit him bcos I had him tru CS. Den trust other women to gloat abt avn their babies vaginally. I felt sm kind of way I wnt lie. Dats hw I stumbled on ur birth video and 4 sm reason it made me realize I was strong and I learnt to bond wit my son despite hw I was feeling. My 2nd was a Vbac tho I almost had a 2nd CS. Labour wasn’t progressing as it shld av bt she finally came tnx to God and the awesome nurses. Now I realize it wasn’t bcos of the CS I didn’t bond wit my son. With ur first u av no clue on wat to do or how to feel. Doz 1st few weeks cld be tough for a 1st time mum. Avn xperience both I prefer giving birth vaginally cos it allows u recover in time and do stuff. Bt I realize that It dsnt matter hw dey come. It dsnt mk u less of a woman. Infact the kind of Joy my children give me I dnt even remember all I went tru giving birth to dem. D goal is a healthy baby/ healthy mum isn’t it? U will be fine any which way

[@danielojong7384]

Sisi thanks for such a great topic. I believe by the Grace of God you are a believer in The Lord Jesus Christ. My advice concerning this is to prayerfully prepare for your next baby and see what God has in store for you, let His will be done, for we know the thoughts He has for us are thoughts of good and not of evil, to give us an expected end, Hallelujah!!!.

[@beabetteryouwithcynthiaeke5243]

You look beautiful sisi, think positive because positive thinking will create positive life experiences.

[@adalinebeauty]

Very informative video for those of us who are yet to be married. Well done Sisi Yemmie!

[@phebecyrus3629]

Beautiful lemon dress sisi yemi... 💕thx for sharing your experience too

[@thenarrowway7623]

You meant yellow dress?

[@ChelseaChristophe]

SISI because you did C section on your first pregnancy does not mean you will the secord time ......... you don't need to worry , your next pregnancy you will deliver like the hebrew women 🙏🙏🙏

[@nikky8075]

Sisi Yemmie, From today onwards.. ,i adopt you as my e-Sister. You are too real

[@valerieonome8600]

Upppss!!!! Never knew. Thanks my sisi. Lovely outfit.

[@TheNeks2u]

No point worrying over something beyond your control 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@victoriousvicky9341]

I live in Spain n I have my 3 kids via C-section. Just one scar of C-section, the same place for three times. I don't have to be tear multiple places. My first baby was an emergency C-s while d other 2 were planned C-s, because my first C-s was less than 1 year before I became pregnant again. Currently I'm pregnant for the 4th time n it's gonna be another C-s. Having my kids all through C-s does not make me feel any less woman. Just like u said in the video that birth na birth, it doesn't matter which ever way. So thumb 👎👎👎 down to the ignorant women looking down on another woman because she didnt have a vaginal birth.

[@ejenig2609]

On a serious note.. I had my first Csection 5months ago and my life hasn't been the same. I only did it because I wanted to tie my tubes. My sister, I have been suffering a condition no doctor I the US has been able to diagnose. I type for a new doctor I was referred to. Csection is not beans. I don't care about being judged on. My dear take ya time, pikin ma pikin make mama and pikin be alive. And yes me too I cannot feel my incision. I hope to speak to you about this soonest. We have to bring the awareness to the surface. Thanks for this.

[@thedietdiary]

I just had my 3rd CS 4 days ago . Will make an update this week. CS is not so bad. I am already on my feet. I feel my own skin. The doctor says i heal well and I can have 2 or 3 more but this is my last baby cos its my 4th Child. Sisi Yemi go for it abeg.

[@IphysKitchen]

VarietyMum@ congrats nwanne, so glad to hear that you have delivered. i hope you all are doing fine?

[@Munastiic]

Congratulations! Thank God for safe delivery. let me go checkout your channel. xx

[@Socheerykemi]

Csection is too painful for anyone to call anyone lazy or invalid. Csection was hell for me but my baby's health and mine is very important, so I don't regret doing it. Just do you sisiyemi! 👌🏼

[@Bellahberry]

I had an emergency C section with my son because of eclampsia, he is 4 now and I had a successful VBAC 5 months ago but it was not easy my water broke no contractions. I was induced no steady contraction for 10hrs, I was about to give up when I started feeling intense pain and the nurse checked and her head was down already. I pushed twice and she flew out. I was afraid oh. Here in Canada from day 1 my OBgyn Had told me all the risks; uterine rupture etc.. Having experienced both I will make the best decision for my life and my child.

[@Deojie]

I completely understand you sisi because I had 2 ectopic pregnancy 🤰 in 2017 alone I am still depressed scared to be pregnant 🤰 God help anyone in pains right now it’s not a good experience.😭😢

[@SKYBELLE]

beauty food and lifestyle may the Lord restore your joy and happiness in Jesus name!

[@shadele17]

God is your strength dear. Just trust in Him and it will be well!

[@toluwalopemoore4692]

Reading the comments here makes me so emotional, women have it rough most times but we still shine despite our rough ages.. I have had 2 Cesarean Sections, the first I was in labour for 3days and my cervix won't dilate and I was weak.. The second, I found myself bleeding heavily in the middle of the night and by the time the CS was done my baby had given up.. apparently the umbilical cord had torn up in me and that caused heavy bleeding.. Thankfully I didn't die because the surgeons said I won't make it.. My healing process for both wasn't so bad, I will opt for a CS again

[@chishasinyangwe9919]

Interesting topic. VBAC is certainly an option. If there are no contraindications do go for it. However, a previous c/s lowers the thresholds for another. Very few obstetricians will induce if any,a woman with a previous history of a c/s because of the risk of uterine rupture. I agree with Sisi Yemi. I work in a hospital in Zambia women here will refuse to undergo a c/s because of the same reasons you have mentioned. And bad outcomes for both baby and mother have been realized. Good job bring this to your subscribers attention.

[@chiomachanel]

I had a c section 4 months ago for medical reasons so it was planned, when it is planned it is very different to an emergency. For me it was a very good experience my scar is literally invisible and I did not loose any feeling, my stomach was back within 3 weeks. I was discharged from hospital the next day I had skin to skin contact as soon as my baby was born only on pain killers for 1 week. Everyone’s experience is different. just to mention I live in London so obviously my experience is different to those in Nigeria. I do feel it should be done when necessary, whether vaginal or c-section the baby has come from you, you carried the baby and will care for the baby.

[@memoirsofamum3887]

Hmm I cannot believe people even say stuff like this. Thank you for creating this awareness. Ladies let's stop all this judging and Buhari-inspired talk abeg. My advice though is don't pre plan anything. Don't be afraid either. Let it flow and happen however it will. Important thing is that mum and baby come home healthy. Great topic.

[@simeabi8194]

I am happy you did this video,you shed so much light on the c section issue. DO NOT MIND PEOPLE (SOCIETY). I Just feel like hugging you my sister. It takes a woman of courage to face c section. Oh your not woman enoughthey said,oh so you should be in danger shebi. Then they will come and cry. They should all shut up. Look at the danger you and Tito faced. Please ignore them. Go on with your life. It is well. Don't listen to them. Kudos. Have your baby your way.

[@NeloOkeke]

i am definitely attempting a VBAC but if that doest work out then cs again.. i hated the recovery process for the CS and really font want to go through that again..

[@mariamatchamo745]

i took notes oh! am not a mother yet so this will get me prepared when i get married...you look good!

[@mutiatagunbiade4491]

First time was an emergency which I signed for myself...and second time was an elective CS. Vaginal or CS.....bless God for your experience. My believe is to commit all our affairs to Almighty God to use whomever is taking care of us for His glory.

[@nadyushka921]

People who say that women opt into cs because they are lazy are completely ignorant. And no woman that has had cs is less of a woman or a mother. In my opinion women going through cs are very brave.

[@naturallyzuri]

Sisi Yemmie, it is well with you. It is well with baby. And it is well with hubby. That is all that matters. My first CS was due to the fact that I was not dilating past 4 cm. I cried like a baby when the doctor told me we will need to do CS. That stigma associated with CS is in many cultures, and in the US as well where I am. How foolish it was for me to think selfishly about wanting a vaginal delivery as opposed to a CS instead of focusing on a healthy baby and a healthy me and what was safest for both of us. I resonated with so many of your experiences in this video. I tried to do VBAC, but I did not dilate past 6 cm during my 2nd pregnancy. I have now had 3 CS (I know of someone who has done 4) and I am just happy that my children and I are alive and well. I am happy for you and your family as well. What my pastor told me, and what I will tell you, is that God is good no matter what. Just because you ask God for something and He says no does not mean you are faithless. It may simply mean that was not God’s plan for you. I used to sit and wonder why, but we only know in part and it’s not everything that God chooses to reveal to us. I will still praise Him because He continually breathes life in me and my children. As Christians we have to stop equating the answer “No” from God with faithlessness. It’s not every time a parent will say yes to their child. Does that mean the parent has no love for the child? Does that mean the child was not hopeful enough for what he wanted? Does it mean the child is inadequate to receive what he asked for? No! The same is true with our Father God. Love you and it will continue to be well with you and your family in Jesus’ name!

[@victoriawahab-famuyiwa5629]

Story of my life...Thank you for sharing ma

[@lolasonola9025]

The most important thing is that baby and mum are alive, what of people that can't even carry their own babies and had to use surrogate. I wish u a save delivery in anyway God permits. My sis in law died just becos her mum won't allow her to go thru CS again for her 2nd child, baby and mum are no more.

[@DolaDisu]

Notification gang shout out to you all especially those that beat the notification you are 10much clap for yourself . Well done. Sisi this color looks great on you , very beautiful with your skin, thanks for sharing & educating others.

[@blessingclement6926]

Sisi dear, mine was an elective C's meaning that I and my husband decided to go for it because of my previous experience with my first baby,I bled almost to death after Virgina delivery and I was given four points of blood within the five days I spent in the hospital,so my dear just like you said the most important thing is mummy and baby coming out alive, forget about people and their opinions you Know yourself better. Good luck in what ever decision you make.God will surely see you through.

[@chinubi103]

For the next you really have to take fear away from your heart and mind. Don't allow pressure, focus on GOD and follow the advice of your doctor. By the grace of GOD I had both kids VD. Forget the stigma the fact you carried the child 9 good months you are not Lazy.

[@funkefash1038]

I had cs for my first child was not easy but glory be to God

[@lilibooboobzy17]

yesss let's first say that CS saves lives mum's and baby's like it did to mine by God's grace we have that option and doctors knowledge TO DO IT ON TIME

[@esthereleojoabbah6095]

Oh darling sisi relax. I had it 3 times. I can’t change it. Healthy baby and mom is priority. It is hard work to go through CS. I find it the harder way out. Well done mamie

[@danieldavid3448]

Well done Sisi yemi. My first child was normal delivery but second was tru CS why because the baby refuse to come, I was over due for two weeks. The doctor had to induced me and the baby heart started to reduce had to do emergency CS. So in that situation will I still say I want natural .Please go for it, I still have another baby after one year tru CS. Let them say!!!!! May the Lord help you. kiss kiss to Tito

[@BeckyCultureMedia]

I was like 😨 When did she get pregnant, talkless of having a second CS. Thanks for been open with the topic. Love you

[@StellaSylvester]

I have had 2 c-section, my body refused to go into labour , for the second time my baby was 2weeks overdue with no labour , my third in definitely not waiting for labour . if you want a c-section for your next baby anty sisi , you need not wait for 2years before trying for the next pregnancy, you can try after one year , my first baby was 11 months wen I took in for my second . C- SECTION IS THE SAFEST MODE OF DELIVERY , NO ONE can make me feel bad about it cos it gave me my two babies , imagine my body not going into labour and there is nothing like C-section , hmmmm thanks God

[@mwatelkel]

Me too my first baby was through cs and it was traumatic. I lost waters at home but once in hospital the boy didn't want To come. I was into labour for 24h and at the end cs, fortunately my mum could come and assist me. As u say with my scd pregnancy, i remember my first visit when i told my obstetrician i hope i don't want To suffer like the last and if it's the case we just programmed a cs straight because i'm not ready to go through that pain again. Fortunately for me i had my daughter last june normally. And i had the best obstetrician any woman can as for, she was with me from day one till birth.

[@edysandrae1282]

Sisi Yemi. Wisdom is profitable to direct. I believe one has to do whats best for them. A friend of mine lost the elder sister because according to her, she wanted to deliver like the hebrew women and refused CS. God help us. I love your dress. Its beautiful on you

[@MsDaniels]

I live in America...the C section was the best. I am still tight and not stretched out and it was a GREAT experience...It is all a matter of choice

[@missbissy88]

Thanks so much for bringing up this topic Sisi Yemi. I have had emergency c-section twice for my two children. First one was because my son was in distress, his heart rate became low and my water was full of meconium when my waters broke. I was happy they saved his life but I was so depressed because I didn't give back naturally because of those types of comments you mentioned. In my second pregnancy I tried for vbac, I laboured for 16 hours but when I was 8 cm dilated I began bleeding heavily and my daughter's heart began falling rapidly so I was again rushed for emergency c-section. They discovered I had suffered placental abruption which can kill both mother and baby. I was again happy my life and baby's life was saved but again felt heartbroken I hadn't given birth naturally. But my husband is so supportive and he even told me to stop thinking about the fact the fact I could not give birth naturally or it will be like I am being ungrateful. Here in the UK c-section does not have stigma, but you still feel it in our Nigerian communities over here. We need to stop with this mentality! I am now happy I am blessed with my wonderful son and daughter - whether vaginal birth or v-section we are all mothers!! My recovery pain from both my c-section was soo horrible, I could not even get up from bed properly or even laugh properly from pain for days after my c-sections so anyone feeling that it is an easy option should think again! C-section is a major surgical procedure and is even more scary when it is emergency like it was for me. It was even worse for me because I laboured through the contractions but still had c-sections, it's like double pain. Please, we need to be supporting ourselves as women and stop with the ignorance. C-section saved me and the life of my children and I am always grateful to God for that ☺

[@SuppleChicTV]

let me just say you are shining in this video from the dress to the makeups to the wig I MEAN #shiningshiningyeah

[@The_Cruise_Fam]

😁😁😁😁😁OMG! SiSi you get scared a lot ooo. If you ask me, having the baby natural way it’s the best. Maybe it’s because it’s Naija. But it’s the best feeling ever. Both of my kids were vagina born and I’d do it over again without epidural. My first I had epidural, my second didn’t even wait for it and after that experience I was like damn! I should have done it the first tome without epidural. As long as you are a woman and you’ve carried a child for 9 months and given birth to a healthy baby, and you have added to the earth population......geesh! You have done well. Don’t ever feel otherwise. However, if you can avoid C-section that’d be great. I heard it’s quite scary having babies in Naija.... Good luck on your second baby or should I say twins😊.

[@Nemeo]

sisi all you ask God is for a healthy baby and strong mum,CS or vaginal birth doesn't matter,our Nigerian mentality is drawing us way back. here in the US some women request for CS and that doesn't make them less of a woman.carrying a human for nine months is beyond anything alone.

[@mamasfoyer9487]

Sisi yemmie there won’t be another scar, my first bby was by csection and also the second one, I was really scared but the doctors opened the thesame place so it just one spot which makes it just one scar. It easier to go through csection again to avoid the risk of repture. To avoid big tommy invest in postpartum girdle it helps in bringing the tommy down , it might not be a flat tommy but it will not be massive. It works for me , am still recovering though cos I just had my second child two months ago. Goodluck .

[@Phab35]

Postpartum girdle is very important. It made a world of difference for me after my first child. My mom made sure I had one to bring my tummy back to normal after the baby. I ended up right back into the clothing I wore before being pregnant.

[@nonyeuju6438]

Good comment up there @rhoreal. But how long do you have to wait for the suture to heal b4 wearing post partum belts.

[@enoigure]

I have had 3 cesarean section without issues and I know what a strong and awesome woman and mother I am. Funny enough, I was more afraid of a vaginal birth than a CS 😂. My first baby was breached. Naturally, we tried a VBAC for the second and I laboured for so long, at a point I was begging for CS. For my third child, I did not even consider a vaginal birth. At the end of the day, what is important is your health and that of the baby. Child birth is not a competition. The God of the Hebrew woman is the same God that has given doctors the wisdom to perform the surgery. Women are dying all over Nigeria in attempt to please their pastors, church members, relatives and the society at large. It is beyond annoying. We need to borrow ourselves sense and remind our selves that we are all beautifully and wonderfully made. You do not need anyone to validate you, biko. It is 2018 and life is too short.

[@mercydamsel6868]

In Japan here there’s nothing like stigma cause they find CS to be more safe , i had my baby through cs because of health issues at 35wks and 1day and i felt safe cause i was in the hands of good surgeons here in Japan and we’re both doing great.

[@abiabiola]

It will be okay sisi just pray that you have a good competent doctor. I have three c-section and everything absolutely fine. Although I live abroad but even at that sometime there is still complication but that will not be your portion IJN

[@RoselomonTV]

It's so unfortunate and a sad reality that a lot of stress and undue pressure most women in Nigeria go through are inflicted by other women. We (women) should learn to be our sister's keeper. I hope you get your twins in the next one.. Amen 💞

[@FolashadeSholola]

The most healthy option. I had cs because of emergency. I never went into labor. I got induced and after 17hrs I was only 1cm. Plus there was meconium in the sac when they bust my sac. So we went for emergency csection. I was a week overdue. She was sleeping after she came out because of the induction drugs. The part I regret, but u gotta get them out one way or the other. I will try to go to a natural center with midwives for my next pregnancy. I needed the support