My Separation Story: Mimi Ikonn on Rediscovering Herself

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

I'm so in awe of Mimi and her vulnerability during this season of her life. Have you ever separated from a long-term partner? If you have, what was the best piece of advice you received? If you enjoyed this episode, please like this video and subscribe to my channel for more Not Alone! Your support means the world to me 🫶 Thank you!

[@user-gz3gg9zz1h]

Are you preparing for a divorce yourself ? Talking to all these divorced women and the nonsense they talk about … “Conscious expansion”…? Should I call eating my breakfast “transforming physical void to physical and mental satisfaction”?

[@Maha88815]

@@ValeriaLipovetsky Valeria, I have always admired your content and logic thinking. Please stop slipping into this false image of success and living an authentic life. You are in away or another planting the seeds to destroy hundreds of perfect marriages around the world. Please pause and reflect upon your influence and use it wisely. You don’t need Mimi’s platform nor story to be part of your content. You should interview people who stay in long-term relationships through and through and how they did it, because breaking up a marriage is easy and is not applaudable. Sticking to a marriage is. I rarely leave a comment here, but i have been following you from the very beginning, and it pains me to see that you are subscribing to this wrong idea of empowering women. I know that you know better.

[@anyagee9467]

This wasn't vulnerable. This was empty talk for 1 hour. Can anyone provide 3 key things she said aside from: "listen to your heart and trust yourself" ? Something tangible. It was much ado about nothing.

[@Coffeeandmorecoffeeplease]

@@Maha88815you said it perfectly! 100% agree with you.

[@Monas99]

@alicekapolas3210 if you're staying in a marriage for children, that is not a true marriage that becomes a prison- any therapist says that.

[@christineriyad]

Would love to hear Alex’s and Gary’s views on this

[@Cindy12345ful]

Yes! It would indeed be more objective to show Alex's side. There are two sides to a story!

[@ania5038]

I don't think Gary and Valeria are divorced or divorcing as far as I'm aware...

[@Nazakaification]

I'll just simplify this without the BS of toxic positivity and expansion nonsense. She married too young without knowing who she was and what she wants in a partner, no longer sexually attracted to him, wants to go explore more. Nothing wrong with the story, it's fair, just the way of conveying it with so much new age and woke jargon is making us nauseous. Maybe it's her way of gaslighting everyone because she's deep down guilty of making the relationship seem like something it wasn't, so she needs to gaslight us to thinking that even this another 'success' story. (Also, she really needs to tone it down with this attitude of how 'all people aren't self-reflective, yet she, the chosen one, is the epitome of courage and fortitude').

[@Ken_sky]

Absolutely agree lmao

[@toska1578]

Finally people exposing this fake personna. She made her business selling her perfection in her life and teaching others about it, selling empty gratitude books and products that bring no value besides being pretty and scamming the mind by associating with "good" and "perfect" and "healthy". Of course her separation story has to be perfect too, to fit the narrative of her business and lifestyle. Now the only one tricked is herself, good job 👏 Next book : how to have a perfect divorce 😂

[@reiloveable]

Your analysis is spot on!

[@playtimewithellie5040]

Correct

[@FATEHAA]

Correct

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; each one is different. What makes one person content might not make another person content. But I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were facing divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we made it through.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

I honestly want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it work. We've tried different methods, like therapy, to fix things.

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

Thank you for this advice. I'll promptly start searching for her online. I appreciate it. I'm optimistic that pursuing this approach will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; her absence weighs heavily on me.

[@mrsdiii2354]

To me Mimi is an example of an influencer with that fake instagram life that has nothing to do with a reality. I used to follow her many years ago until I realized she is not the person she is trying to be in her social media. I’m not surprised that her « perfect » marriage came to an end.

[@mrsdiii2354]

My life became 1000 times better since I deleted my Instagram account and stopped comparing myself to influencers with perfect life, perfect relationships, perfect bodies, perfect skin, perfect kids, perfect houses and never ending vacations. I don’t need people like Mimi to inspire me because I don’t know her, I know nothing about her real life.

[@Natella111]

Yeah and she even had written a book on relationships 😂😂😂 fake af

[@delicatemoves123]

​@alicekapolas3210My mother let me know it is ok to never get married. I never wanted to be married and some family members had a problem with that but hey, I had my mom's support in that decision. My maternal grandmother also never had a problem with my decision. I would like to take in some foster kids in a few years though.

[@GBrooks-u5j]

Wow. You sound all bitter and sht, lol. More of your feelings of jealousy cloud your comment than Mimi's relationship - which was just a trigger all along for your own jealousy bc you'd take that life of Mimi's in a hot second were it offered to you. Ppl like you got my damned nerves bc that was the reason they stopped their vlogs outside of their parental duties needing more time. (I feel) so gloat over that while you stand stuck in time. Mimi is human and sure there are aspects that are probably unlikeable in this break up but- this is THEIR life- and one thing, she was consistent with her studies, with her self-inquiry - with raising her daughter and with being a businesswoman. She was NEVER perfect it's amazing you ppl always thought that when both she and Alex were always looking for self-development and forward motion. Of course ppl like you will always misinterpret it and spoilt that so that all that we have left to look at online is "run of the mill" "mediocre" "weird" and just outright "DUMB".

[@GBrooks-u5j]

@alicekapolas3210 So Mimi's not a "mother" "an Aunt" and future grandmother? LMAO! the though process in this thread --- It's just so stupid how you complain about "being online Influencing ppl" than you immediately go into "influencing the public" you random as fck person giving advice: in caps--- being worse than Mimi bc we dont' even know who you are. Mimi is very success and she is not perfect. She DID make mistakes on camera - and that's the only difference between her and anybody else' s MOTHER as you say. ffs - you ppl never figure out your own fckd- up thought process while you're trying to be an "authority of knowledge" yourself.

[@marinakash4984]

“He is my best friend. And if being married would have been just cuddling, holding hands and lighting candles, having dinners and deep conversations we would have stayed married forever”. I’m sorry. It doesn’t make any sense.

[@linhduong0809]

Maybe no sex is the problem

[@Lindsaysworldviews1987]

It sounds like her sexual expectations were the problem here

[@Monas99]

Mimi's life doesn't have to make sense for anyone, she has to live for herself first and in her truth. Mimi is amazing because she doesn't care about what society thinks is the norm=normal. what's "normal" and what "makes sense' as deemed by society is what keeps 70- 80% of couples in misery around the world according to statistics.

[@mariai.3918]

She wanted to discover new sexual experiences, that’s what I’m gathering from this.

[@likeinvestments11]

They had bad sex during the years we desire sex the most. That’s all it is

[@anyagee9467]

She was never into him. He "convinced" her to be together. She endured for all this time, never being attracted to him.

[@AJ-hr8ev]

I don’t think she has the self awareness to understand how deceitful she comes across.

[@ania5038]

She's far too narcissistic for that to happen lol people like Mimi think they are the second coming of Christ and no one but them is right about everything

[@voolforyou]

She is the epitome of the individualistic society we now live in.

[@kerryford6030]

Yes

[@sarahmavignierr]

Perfect comment.

[@Mira-gy6hi]

I don’t feel Mimi is genuine, don’t feel honesty, openness or authenticity… Have a feeling that she says what is right to say…

[@user-hn1vk5bn7n]

I feel like it’s too awkward and lacking tact to tell the whole truth publicly. She really just shouldn’t be doing interviews about this topic at all she comes across insincere cause she can’t fully open up

[@ewagornisiewicz-kusiak6814]

@@Mira-gy6hi Is it right though? Imagine Alex doing interviews about how boring sex was with Mimi 😵‍💫

[@Mira-gy6hi]

@@ewagornisiewicz-kusiak6814 I guess she chose what’s right for her in this interview. What I’m trying to say is that she’s saying about honesty, openness etc, and during her interview I don’t feel that… so why would she talk about this and I see no point building an interview on this topic and then say what would be right to say but not how it is. I don’t care about sex life, it is more about feelings and actions and vulnerability they are trying to talk about here

[@an67481]

Of course she says what is right to say... she lives for social media and makes her bread money from that.

[@apa208]

There are rumors about both hooking up with a black stud lol they figured out that they shouldn't be together lol

[@jhwwebster7273]

Somewhere out in the world is an amazing woman who will one day be thanking Mimi for letting go of Alex.

[@natalielawrence8809]

This!

[@Hernandez00001-t]

This!! Sometimes it takes you letting go of someone to realize how special they were 😢

[@shelleymusleh439]

Lmao Alex is a trash bag who loves nothing more than leaving his daughter and following insta thots. Mimi is no better. A match made in hell

[@xuemengma]

I would love to know what Gary thinks of this episode.

[@kalasinilelin]

Who is Gray. I am missing something here?

[@TheKaryna84]

@@kalasinilelin Gary - Valeria's husband.

[@meep4198]

why?

[@ZhannaTurkova]

feels like this girl is just confused in herself, doesn't share what she has been through. Just fake positivity and the attempt to be counscious, when there is nothing conscious, just lying to the audience and making everyone think like she thinks.

[@rubikscube39]

I actually feel like she is not raw and vulnerable. She has boundaries which is fine. But her Instagram is all about fake positivity when Inside there was a lot of turmoil. Then don't force the positive posts, holidays, ab show offs. Just keep them to yourself. Because you show us that for a year and then out or nowhere comes a surprise post about great Alex is how all great things come to an end and the beautiful friendship you continue to have with him. It's all too generic and fake.

[@AJ-hr8ev]

I think you are a critical thinker! I have always seen right through her. Business success at any cause. That’s what it takes. Sad…

[@07lovelybones]

Exactly this

[@Organicgirl100]

She is not being true to herself, there is something about the way that she expresses.

[@TheDragonforces]

That!!

[@Esoterica99]

She clearly hasn’t grown up. The concept of forever romantic love is like the Santa Clause. She should have read between the lines and learn that there is more to a marriage than the romance stuff. Her aging was somewhat fruitless.

[@janewalters1095]

Valeria, like you I’ve followed Mimi since I first joined Instagram and always had such admiration for her. Mimi is obviously going through a big identity transition and I feel sad for her and how painful it must be. She and Alex have always been quite co-dependent and I think she’s trying to work out who she is, independent of him. The sad thing is that she’s given up such an amazing relationship in the process - one that I am sure would have supported her through this transition of self discovery. If only she’d actually gotten support from a professional - a couples counsellor or personal therapist. I think she’s confusing intuition with intrusive thoughts and she’s confusing infatuation with real mature love. Mimi - if you ever read this, I encourage you to read The Wisdom of Anxiety, by Sheryl Paul (which deals with relationship anxiety) and Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel (which talks about balancing novelty and safety in a relationship). Sending love.

[@Annie080875]

She didn’t say she was simply no longer attracted. She suggested that they weren’t haven’t sex, which is s big problem in a marriage. And she said she resented him traveling so much against her wishes (although she downplays her wishes as being controlling). Sitting at home, sexually frustrated, while your partner jet sets, sounds horrible. Some of these comments read naive. As someone who did a 15 year marriage bid, staying because of co dependency sucks.

[@ania5038]

I actually wouldn't call that controlling at all given he was clearly allowed to keep doing it, it just wasn't what she wanted him to be doing. Clearly lifestyle incompatibility was a factor. I hate the notion though that if you openly disagree with your partner about their actions you're automatically labelled as controlling, when if you're in a romantic partnership that's supposed to be one of the strongest bonds you will have in your life, you're allowed to have a say in how you're each spending your time.

[@Annie080875]

@@ania5038 I completely agree with you. I think that having a partner who spends significant time abroad, enjoying travel because they don’t want to make lifestyle compromises once a kid arrives, is a huge issue. It was reasonable for her to have sour feelings about it.

[@aplusjba]

One never knows what is going on in a relationship or in either of their heads. There is a lot of intrigue about what happened in a seeming perfect relationship, but it is really not anyone’s business. It’s clear that they still care deeply for each other and they have a child together. I think that she is sharing what she believes to be important learned advice, and keeps private things private. There’s nothing wrong with that. I wish them all well during this transitional time.

[@irisdanagher]

He wanted sex without a condom she didn't want hormonal contraception

[@newtonmoon]

Exactly, people who don't know them, don't know and just speculate. I am sure she had her good reasons taking such a difficult decision. It's sad actually. To me, they were a dream couple, and I admired their relationship as somebody who has not found the one at all being in mid-life spending years alone. Others let go what others wish to have. That's life, I guess. But again, nobody knows what's happening underneath the surface and it's not right to judge others. I would have recommended couple therapy as love will change throughout life but, one day a couple did commit to each other. Having a trusting life partner I reckon is the most valuable thing, friends come and go.

[@epicherbalism]

The hate in the comments is crazy! The woman-on-woman hate has to stop and let's be honest about the projected resentment about seeing a woman do what she wants instead of what others think she should do...

[@user-gz3gg9zz1h]

Are you preparing for a divorce yourself ? Talking to all these divorced women and the nonsense they talk about … “Conscious expansion”…? Should I call eating my breakfast “transforming physical void to physical and mental satisfaction”?

[@Maha88815]

This is extremely childish, couldn’t continue listening to her “authentic” reasoning to leave a perfectly good marriage because she doesn’t feel romantically in love with her husband!! Guess what this is what it feels like when you are in long-term relationship. Love takes another shape and form, it’s not possible nor healthy to be infatuated and crazy in love with your partner after all these years! What you’re promoting to women is false image of healthy relationship with yourself and with your partner.

[@raquelitamunos9573]

Exactly! She has a huge platform and promoting this false idea of this fantasy relationship is a disservice to women.

[@MnMofYemen]

Agreed

[@van_vinos66]

@alicekapolas3210 So true. I have been happily married for 28 years and I think she is delusional but too arrogant to see or admit it.

[@ClaudiaRrey]

I love how she gives lessons to people on what love is when she doesn't even know herself. She judges people relationship's, openly mocks them. Saying come on most people are not even inlove. Well, Love isnt all about se× and chemistry for some. Love is more complex than that , its unconditional. Its loving someone so deeply you let go. You love them so much you trust them. I love my husband like that. To the moon and back. I just would want to live eternally just to be with him longer.

[@sunflower88639]

Your love for your husband is mature and authentic. Let God protect it.

[@KatKhatibi]

I used to love Mimi and this really broke my heart. As a child of divorce and knowing the biological results their daughter will suffer so her mother can explore other sexual opportunities is gut retching. A lot of women put themselves in terrible situations because of sexual chemistry with people. Leaving their child with someone they trust, only for someone else to come over they do not know, etc. Comparison is the thief of joy and sometimes when you have everything you focus on the ONE area that needs work and blow it up in your mind to be the most important thing. It's not. I can tell a thousand tales of women destroyed by men who they were super sexually compatible with. Love isn't an emotional and sexual roller-coaster. Love is calm, love is safe, love is boring even. But above all, love is a choice. Forsaking all others and standing by your promise to fall in and out of love with the same person through all their transitions a million times over until the next life, where in my case, I hope to find him again. Call me a hater all you want, but I hope they find their way back to each other when this phase is over and realize once and for all how rare and precious their bond truly is. 🥺

[@milakarr8327]

😔

[@raquelitamunos9573]

You described love and marriage so accurately! That's what I would have wanted to hear on this podcast. Grounded truth.

[@evelyn2937]

I am sorry if this is what you experienced with your mother. And I am sorry that this hurt you. But stop shaming other people and tell them this is what is going to happen, because that is not the truth. I am a child from divorced parents myself and I have always been fine with that. There is no trauma for me. I am happy for my mother. I am happy for my father. The child should know that it is loved. And that the child is not the reason. But that can be done completly remote from the relationship of the parents. My parents do not owe me to stay together if they are not happy anymore. And children notice their parents to be unhappy too, which is just as bad. My parents do not have to sacrifice their hole life for me. I want them to seek their luck. That would be a good example instead of living a lie just to do me a favor, because it isn't. Their were together 16years. I can not imagine that 16years were without the ups and downs every relationship has. I am not saying that you should give up as soon as it gets difficult. It always does. You can grow together. A lot of times you can work it out, if you want to. But sometimes you know that the struggle is not worth it, or you simply do not want it. And thats fine. That is being honest to yourself. Love is not decision. Commitment is, being respectful, being thankful, being selfless, staying together is a decision. You can not decide to love. You love or you dont. You can still act in a beautiful ways and be a team, be partners. Not lovers. This is what Mimi and Alex are doing. They are still wonderful parents to their daugther. They are respectful. They deserve to be happy too.

[@cbpaddingtonbear2606]

​@@evelyn2937it's great that you didn't have lasting scars but the reality statistically is most children of divorce do. Your experience sounds great and I'm glad your parents didn't that for you but the stats tell that your story is not most children of divorces stories

[@belma.junuzovic]

Thank you for this ❤

[@TheDragonforces]

Is it me or Valeria looked like she wasnt buying it? 😅

[@jennah86169]

Gosh. Nothing is 'so so beautiful' here. Ending a 16 year relationship with 'the most amazing man' to explore what else is out there? Woke bullsh... Was it a loveless marriage? drifted apart? then say so! Marriage is serious and there must be a very serious reason to end one. Something so grave that it is unforgivable, unforgettable or/and unfixable.

[@LuckyNumber7]

When a lightbulb is no longer working, you change the lightbulb... you dont move out of the house. Disappointed 😔

[@van_vinos66]

@@LuckyNumber7 love this analogy!

[@margaretrosin7853]

I’m sure she is keeping the real reasons her marriage ended private, which is completely understandable. These things happen and actually 15 years is a huge turning point for many marriages. If they can remain friends and raise their child still being respectful of each other all the better. I wish them the all best.

[@enaeva_]

This conversation was honestly so generic - what pain? What lessons? Valeria kept asking good questions, but you still couldn’t be intimate with us. Why didn’t you do all this inner work WHILE still in the relationship?

[@Heydrayheyhey]

Yeah it felt surface level and not vulnerable.

[@mtazc]

I don’t mean to spread negativity, but this all seems disingenuous. People are smarter than you think. Alex and Mimi are in a wellness business together so obviously they can’t disclose the real reason for the divorce… not good for their brand. 🫤

[@FidanIlhamm]

@@mtazcnot being romantically in love is valid point.

[@annlatham]

She’s not far out of the long term relationship right? She’s only beginning to learn!

[@van_vinos66]

When you read Alex's posts on Instagram you can see he is still heart-broken. I have followed her/them for years, but she comes across as quite self-indulgent. She uses the word "authentic" a lot which is ironic. I couldn't even finish listening to this episode. I still feel Alex and Alexa are the "victims" of her self-indulgence and she probably can't even see that yet. What has happened will remain in Alexa's subconscious for many years, and God knows how it will later re-surface. I read somewhere that you don't leave someone you love. You leave someone you have "used". Sometimes too much introspection can lead to self-sabotage and it is so easy to blame indulgent behaviour on intuition. I feel you Valeria could teach her so much about authenticity.

[@playtimewithellie5040]

Wow well said

[@aikoyumiko7961]

I think what is polarizing about Mimi is that she comes across as condescending and inauthentic in her answers. Maybe it’s just my gut here, but from reading the comments we all feel the same.

[@juliananeves701]

We only ever hear from Mimi… what does Alex think? Also who came up with the phrase “conscious expansion” 😂 all Alexa knows is “my parents don’t live together anymore. Also to quote Mimi “i care about having full freedom to explore” effectively ends your marriage no matter how much false positivity you say. You are creating a false dream for many people.

[@an67481]

She feels secure in the essentials. Her child, her money, her self esteem is fed by the toxicgram, her basic needs are met by her own finances, so now, just as we all are curious and failed beings, she gets bored and starts looking to win something new. The safe and present husband isn't enough for Me-me's (that's her changed name btw, not the name her parents gave her) ego that likes to be told she is winning and is special (when she is not) and she is challenging herself (no matter if it's generic challenges that we all face as human beings). Meme needs to meet God. Because she won't stop until then. No humility, no surrender, no commitment

[@jgrootful]

Being in a good financial place probably made this decision easier for her. At lot of ladies like me stay because the alternative is to remove our selves from a not terrible situation and put our selves in one where we can’t afford rent.

[@sunemtovar6763]

Yup, when you don't have the money to live alone, it is tough to leave a relationship. Having money makes having the courage to be in touch with your intuitions way way easier.

[@user-gz3gg9zz1h]

Well, that is your story. Many stay because they genuinely love their partner and the family they have together. And if this is the reason you stay in a relationship, it is also the same reason why you stay in a job or any other situation that is not good enough but leaving it might put you at risk.

[@Lili-cd7cg]

And that’s why you shouldn’t rely on a man financially and only have a number of children you will be able to raise by yourself if you two part ways! She made a good and intelligent decision marrying someone who had ambition, and only agreeing to have one children with him.

[@user-gz3gg9zz1h]

@@Lili-cd7cg If she was REAL intelligent, she would have relied on herself to make as much money as she wants. She had never been the bright one of the two. Alex was the smarter one in the relationship.

[@bruely82]

😢

[@garidacaras6165]

Someone who can talk about a 16 year marriage separation with such ease and with a bright smile, probably never felt true romantic love for their partner. She often mentioned how Alex pursued her and she wasn't that crazy about him. This happens often when young women get into long term relationships with the good-guy because what they are looking for is safety. Mimi is unauthentic, she mostly quotes therapists and books, which is good information, but she never opens her heart to us. I have followed her and Alex for a long time and she's always been like that. Nonetheless, I am happy she made this decision and I hope she finds that true love we all deserve :)

[@AC-pq1cd]

I'm also confused by Mimi. She's always portrays the most perfect life ever no matter what happens. That's the opposite of authentic unless her life really is uniquely special.

[@anyagee9467]

Yes! That's what I think and I always felt that from her side. She wasn't into him in the first place.

[@user-hn1vk5bn7n]

Agree. Cause if she was romantically into him she’d know she can get that back with some work. It was never there for her.

[@BySamWithLove]

Valeria - you are such a lovely and wise person. When it comes to romantic love, it doesn’t just vanish. It takes two to tango, if a man doesn’t fully “see” “hear” his wife - women tend to withdraw from the relationship. It’s a very slow process - men always find it a shock….but the breakdown was drip feeding all along. It’s not easy - but a life well lived in honesty is better than secretly being so unhappy (and slowly dying inside). Marriage is hard - it takes a LOT Of work - and sometimes, the presence of a child breaks down a relationship which didn’t have a strong foundation to start. It’s really hard. Wishing her the best.

[@ft4686]

Valeria WHY ARE YOU COLLABORATING WITH THIS WOMAN!?!!

[@malas8325]

So thankful for this interview. Honestly I feel scammed by Mimi Ikonn. Her company sells so many journals, 3 of which I am ashamed now to say I bought and used the 5 Minute Journal, the Mindfulness Journal, the Best Year Journal.The daily, weekly and monthly questions in those journals prompts u to.ask yourself some.serious questions. She says in her interview that journaling brought her to her truth. If she had actually used any of the journals her own company was.selling she would have arrived at her own truth alot sooner in my humble opinion. There is no way she just came to this realization last year if she was really using the journals she herself was selling. I have been following this couple for more than a decade, again sorry to say. And at every stage of their journey as a couple they presented themselves as the experts on love, relstionship, marriage, parenting etc to the point of even publishing books abiut it. The very year they announce their seperation they launch a new product called the Love Journal of all things. So she is saying that as she realised that she wasnt in romantic love she still launched a product on it. What about the Get Closer conversation game couple bundle another product her company was selling..would the questions posed in those cards not have done its job and revealed her truth alot sooner???? Where is the authenticity she claims and has been claiming to practice for years????

[@HJSHDL]

Agreed. I fell for the scam as well. Grifters gonna grift

[@kaja7776]

I loved mimi, i’ve been following her for more then 10 years, I loved her positive attitude, but now I feel it’s too much like she is brainwashed by all those positivity books, quotes, videos… everything doesn’t have to be positive, sometimes you have to fight for bigger goal, sometimes it’s ok to not br ok, even the best relatioships are not good all the time, you have to work on that. Everybody has sometimes difficult days/months and it’s okay, not everything has to be rainbow and unicorns all the time.

[@minimalist_romantic]

I guess “free falling “ when financially secure hits different

[@cbpaddingtonbear2606]

That part. I feel a little frustrated because "being brave and leaving" is a woman who gets out of an abusive relationship and saves herself/her kids. But apparently, the new brave is leaving a stable, fairly healthy relationship to sexually experiment. 🤷‍♀️

[@xoplanninglovexo432]

I’ve been watching Mimi since Luxy hair days. I personally had to stop following her and Alex because I truly did not believe the love went both ways. I think she married her best friend and she was excited for life, but I don’t think she was attracted nor in love with Alex…

[@nathaliebenamou272]

I’m truly listening with an open heart and trying to understand her Reasoning. As a women that left a marriage that was very bad, I could only wish and pray to have a man that according to her is wonderful and fantastic… I’m struggling to get this. This makes me wonder if feminism and not “needing a man” we can do it all and get better is ultimately hurting us…I never thought we need to stay in love but grow from respect, friendship, kindness and providing a safe home for our children… what happened to those values?

[@Nazakaification]

Exactly what I was thinking! Been through a very toxic relationship that the 'cuddling, holding hands and candles over deep conversation dinners' she mocks sound like a dream. Now, I fully understand just because we wish for these basics doesn't mean she can't wish for more, but I have a strong feeling that her only reason is that she now wants to explore a more sexual life and that's why her answers are always vague. Still wonder if she will actually manage to keep another long relationship since she will inevitably lose romantic love to the next partner.

[@ania5038]

Feminism has swung to the other extreme for a while now. It's not a good sign if you're a middle-aged woman and you can't seem to find the perfect man for you (if that's what you want and you've been dating around for years). Women's expectations these days are ridiculous and dating in general has become so fickle and shallow. People need to learn to compromise again and choose battles. And the romantic movie love stories are not reality; once you've been in a relationship for over a decade like I have, you know it's not about feeling madly in love anymore, it's about feeling at home, comfortable and safe with your partner.

[@aurorag.bustosarellano7452]

This has nothing to do with feminism. She is not, and never has been. By contrary, she has been in a very conservative and heteronormative relationship, with a tradicional dynamic. Even with this separation she is appelling to those pathriarcal values. She is capitalizing this chapter of his life as usual. In every response she is name dropping products, of his own or others. Feminism is about erradicating opression and injustice in a sexist society. Not about individualism and shallowness, as the Ikkon couple. She is like a hippie Carrie Bradshow character, that kind of get bored in a relationship. That is simple.

[@sarinjo01]

I hope Mimi uses that Better Help code 😅

[@nathalyemaciel2722]

She is obviously interested in someone else!

[@dyssa]

I followed them both when they were at the beginning. She always seemed self-absorbed and fake. It's great to be confident, but this is a woman who doesn't realise how lame it is that she's twirling and dancing alone online. A lot of people do that, no problem, but she doesn't seem genuine - not just a bit.

[@gabrielamontenegro8090]

Marriage is supposed to be a commitment a promise to love for rich or poor, in sickness or in health meaning love is not just romantic love but real true love. It’s a covenant a promise that God established to reflect true love. Love is not a feeling. Love is selfless, forgiving, and extends grace.

[@TheHappySoso]

I'm sorry for Mimi, she looks and sounds so lost. I pray their marriage can be restored 🙏

[@jackie3008]

Allow me to say mimi ,, you are the most uncomfortable, not authentic,,not genuine person I have ever listened to! You didn’t even mention Alexa one time , her feelings , her heart , it was all about you. very sad to listen to all this selfishness.

[@MatinRezazadeh]

She is a narcissist

[@ManiaM-j9y]

This is a prime example of everything wrong in today’s society.

[@annisaerou1097]

Mimi's separation decision becomes very controversial because it's based on her self-love, honesty and authenticity ❤

[@hoolahughes]

She wouldn’t travel with Alex because she didn’t want Alexa to be left behind and now they both travel separately and leave Alexa behind 😣 That poor girl has been dumped so her parents can go off and try to stay relevant on social media, searching for the life they had before she was born 😢

[@yn3481]

It is so incredibly sad exactly

[@AC-pq1cd]

I think mimi takes Alexa with her almost always but doesn't show her so it looks like she goes alone. Alex on the other hand does not seem like a hands on father.

[@Annie080875]

They share custody, which means they can both travel while the other is with the child.

[@katiakompot]

Alexa is never left behind, she travels and stays with Mimi 95% of the time, now she is older, she doesn't want to be on camera. So, don't make assumptions. Where on the other hand Alex is present in Alexa's life way less.

[@butterflygirl141]

So, her education is being neglected instead. Great.

[@Mommyslife21]

Alex was an awesome guy. She will regret it one day.

[@user-hn1vk5bn7n]

But such an absent father to Alexa!! I can’t take him seriously when he leaves all year to travel

[@MissGlitterlicious1]

You don’t have to always resonate and understand someone else’s situation to empathize and acknowledge that they’re human and imperfect. She’s not claiming she has it all together ppl just assume.

[@beverleyroberts1025]

Thanks for being so honest Mimi, I've followed you and Alex for years on KZbin, and have always admired you both and your relationship. I'm not going to give an opinion because I don't think I have the right to give an opinion on someone else's life and their choices. But it does make me deeply sad when so many children come from broken homes, the world over now. When you are a parent, it's not just your feelings, it's the childs too. Valeria, you are always so eloquent and you speak with such intelligence in a gentle way, always such wisdom. Thank you both for an interesting interview and to you Mimi for being so honest.x 🦋🌸

[@anaratimchenko2455]

Romantic relationship oftentimes evaporates after several years or decades of marriage. Does it mean that you have to move on every time you don’t feel the romance in a couple? 🤔

[@butterflygirl141]

The best relationships aren’t about being perfect - there is so much strength and love that comes from figuring out how to adapt in a relationship as two people change and grow. This smacks of toxic positivity at its finest.

[@SailorMoonComeBackk]

Don't judge her. If she didn't feel it anymore then should she force herself ? Obviously no. She made a good choice, now alex also has an opportunity to find someone who will love him in a way she couldn't.

[@I_Ola_003]

This is what egocentrism looks like in person and in conversation. There is nothing strong about breaking up your family over feelings. Marriage is forever unless there is abuse or infidelity. Disappointed with Valeria for giving Mimi this platform to spew selfishness.

[@viravdovenko2315]

Listened to the end. A lot of stuff covered under "intuition, empowering, mantra" stuff. Why not say openly that you have been with your partner for many MANY years and he's not a sex god - and you want to explore sex and you in your new age? It's totally fine to admit that you're on a new level of self-acceptance and how you feel and you want to explore other men and other feelings and feel sexy and wanted again by MANY, not one man. The standard practice in marriage is only about 2 people, it's hard to begin a free relationship from a traditional marriage - also Mimi says that she's controlling and possessive. So she wouldn't let Alex be free - and neither would he want it - but she wants to explore. But god, be honest about it.

[@miamonet3312]

Sounds to me like she just wants to get laid by a different man. It's fine and there is nothing wrong with it. But , spinning like it's conscious uncoupling , stop the madness.

[@emabella1000]

Interesting perspective

[@yxie88]

Mimi is brave to share her inner thoughts. I appreciate that. But I can tell she and Alex are seeking for different things/goals. Mimi’s most important thing is love, and her feelings. Alex has broader interests outside of his emotions and love. Mimi will be happy with a man who also centers the romantic love as the highest priority beside other things.

[@NatalieLigato]

I'm not sure about this one Valeria....I couldn't even finish watching her....seemed like she doesn't know what love is.

[@liannadion9558]

I question the definition and understanding of love that is presented here. To me, Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.

[@lynette4412]

1 Corinthians 13:4-7. Amen🙌♥🙏

[@baghashvili]

I don’t believe there isn’t a third person involved… she seems to have just switched her focus and attraction to another man before the divorce

[@nishapillai963]

Hi Mimi, It seems like this decision might go against the values you've always held. I don't understand ,how can love that lasted so long can just disappear without a serious reason? I’ve been married for 20 years, and while we’ve had our share of problems, we never gave up on each other. I’ve stood by my husband through all his ups and downs, and he’s done the same for me. That mutual support has only made our relationship stronger. Every marriage comes with its own issues and challenges, but it's up to both partners to stand together and work through them. You cant make a marriage successful by just kissing in the morning and writing journals . We’d definitely like to hear Alex’s side of the story as well.

[@viravdovenko2315]

I feel like Mimi always followed suit… Alex is the groundbreaker in the family, with higher values, self-devoted, hard-worker. Mimi started and continues wanting to be an it-girl. Nothing bad, though the fakeness is tangible. The sad thing is how people trust others who just make money on them, whatever values they present and promote.

[@AboveAndBelow4]

Can't wait for the book! I have been following Mimi and Alex since they started YT for Luxy Hair. Shocked by the negative comments on here. Live and let live

[@lenavolkening5299]

Why are people turning on her? Just because your relationship isn't terrible doesn't mean you're not allowed to leave it if you simply don't want to stay in that relationship anymore. Why is it wrong to listen to what you want?

[@alohagirrl]

There’s no “one right answer” that applies to everyone, and I’m glad that Mimi is making the choice that feels right to her. No one knows herself or her life or her calling better than she does, folks

[@cbpaddingtonbear2606]

They have a child. "Doing what "feels" right" is not a good enough reason to break up a child's stability and home. 🤷‍♀️

[@slowloris3867]

A warning for Mimi - there are two forces in the world: good and evil. How do you know the „gut feeling” you keep referring to is coming from good or from evil? Are listening to right „advisors”?

[@mirkamelcerova5937]

Can you elaborate? I have always thought gut feeling can only be good.

[@emabella1000]

@@mirkamelcerova5937 exactly ! I think the same. Maybe the lady from above, wants to elaborate on this. I never thought like this before

[@anaratimchenko2455]

It takes a lot of courage and a lot of trust in life, not only in yourself. 🙌✨

[@albaadames6295]

To all the women here "this lady Mrs. Mimi, is an example of what NOT TO DO in a marriage''. Life will never be perfect. She described a great relationship with her husband. Someone respectful, loving, able to have deep conversations, father of her kids, someone to cuddle...etc. And yet, she decided to destroy all of that and break the heart of someone she said ''still love''. Selfish and unrealistic person. Instead of enlighten, she looks to me like a lost and confused woman.

[@TheDragonforces]

after a 16yo beautiful relationship as she says, and a daughter, I think the most authentic feeling so close to breakup would be respect for that journey and not constant laughing / amusement about how things turned out. But thats just my opinion. Either she doesnt care or she is hidding her feelings.

[@reiloveable]

Yes, I am just reading the comments as I couldn't continue listening to this cringe interview

[@epicherbalism]

Weird that people keep calling her fake.....you want her to cry in front of you or something? It's weird how strangers feel entitled to other strangers simply because the other stranger shares parts of themselves publicly.

[@anamariakranjcec949]

To me this wasn’t really a surprise. They were never a match in my opinion from the moment I saw them many years ago. My intuition saw that so many years ago and I understand what she means by making intuition choices. They life evolved and now they feel more empowered to seek what they truly are and want. And now they are in the rebound life phase as everyone after long relationship when they have time to truly do what they want without compromise.

[@Lili-cd7cg]

I think most of you are jealous of Mimi. She does what men do every day. She chose herself! As an immigrant black woman I totally understand and respect her choice. She inspires me! I think she did what she wished her mom and sister did. She did great for her and her daughter.

[@CelineMitchell]

Why is the "immigrant black woman" relevant here 🤣

[@Lili-cd7cg]

@@CelineMitchell it is for me Karen :)

[@emabella1000]

are u saying her mom and sister have also bad marriages ?

[@dame6584]

​@@Lili-cd7cgyou put yourself in a Box and others 2. Why...

[@violetamorales9991]

Thank you for interviewing Mimi! Mimi, thank you for your vulnerability and courage to share your experience. I love that you are living your life where you honor your intuition and I get a glimpse of what life can look like when you do so! I'm excited for all that is on your way!!

[@cbpaddingtonbear2606]

One thing that is such a red flag that Mimi has repeated in multiple interviews is about how "oh you let things go instead of being honest and someone ends up cheating" basically saying if she hasn't have broken off the relationship she would have ended up cheating eventually. That's a major red flag. This also feels like a very priviledge and rich conversation. Like "oh I wasn't happy and my most full self living in my new york penthouse so I needed to travel the world full time to find myself" type of scenario. Like really? This is the life of privileged and rich. 🤷‍♀️ A measure of codependency is necessary fot good relationships (friendships, romantic, communial) vs an unhealthy level.

[@xy23kj80]

I saw that too. But I thought she meant, Alex cheated. I mean he is always travelling without her. So it’s highly likely he cheated and not her as she is always taking care of her kid

[@sabrinaf3519]

Great interview questions, a wonderfully open conversation - I drew a lot of inspiration and ideas from it which will definitely help me to cope with my heartbreak/ separation. Thank you both very much! ❤🙏🏻

[@bogdanatkach8157]

These comments are absolutely hilarious. Why do you people feel that you have the right to judge her? She’s opened up and talks about her own life decision and if you don’t agree with it, it doesn’t mean the decision is wrong. Maybe there were other things but this is how much she’s willing to share and we should respect it. Or perhaps you wanted her to stay in the relationship and talk publicly about how she doesn’t love him anymore? Leave the woman alone and go live your own life and dive deep into your inner self like she and Valeria do.

[@Esssssy]

This episode would have been so much better with better questions that are not too self-helpy and consciousness-coded, but rather more human. Like, "Did you experience sadness?" "was you life after separation how you expected it to be?" "what was the hardest moment?" "do you regret anything?" "did you consider therapy to work things out?" "how do you feel when you wake up in the morning?" ... etc.

[@Plsbringtea]

I wonder what would have happened if they found a really great couples therapist…

[@newtonmoon]

I am sure they've considered it being in the space of happiness and being aware of therapy as she mentioned in different interviews.

[@miamonet3312]

What is truly inspiring is seeing so many women in the comments who are still fighting for family values that we were taught before all of this new age /woke "conscious" living. Pretty soon these conscious living people are going to start preaching multiple people in the "marrige" is a conscious decison. Like at what point do you stop?

[@kerryford6030]

100% !! Had the exact same thought . This made me so happy. Especially because I teach Gods laws for faith family and financial freedom. Its SO inspiring and hopeful.

[@Lindsaysworldviews1987]

So what I'm hearing is that Alex loved you dearly and cared for you but you were no longer sexually attracted to him and he did not fulfil you sexually. Likewise, you believe you need both love and desire together.

[@shirleynycmom4186]

I love you both! I admire you both! Thanks Valeria for putting this interview together as I’ve been waiting to hear more from Mimi. I like her so much but her separation was really shocking to me! This conversation was needed for us who follow Mimi, thank you!

[@iebhatti6920]

Tia Mowry also made the same mistake by ruining her current relationship, thinking she would have a better life or find a better partner, but she’s regretting it now.

[@Mi_9876]

For this huge transition to happen less than a year or whenever “last January” happened to be that she could not fathom this would be her life says it all. To just having renewed their vows to completely getting a divorce in such a short time seems in my opinion abrupt. Seeing Valeria’s pained face listening to the whole thing also is telling and I really hope that this doesn’t give others the okay to let intuition and all the other (non sense) things she spoke about any justification. I don’t really care about this Mimi but please Valeria don’t pick up on this type of thinking. Your platform is better than this nonsense!

[@gunelagayeva1148]

I was praying for this too😊

[@MP-yg7yp]

I so agree with you!

[@TeniStepanosian]

I would like to add a different perspective than a lot of the comments I'm reading here. There is a lot of assumptions and projections in the comments - and I think people feel that they are entitled to a full explanation on "what went wrong" even though, Mimi is not obliged to do that at all. In fact, I believe what she says and I understand - if I didn't, I would still respect her decision and her truth. I think a lot of people are missing that part. And why is that? Maybe because we have experienced break ups and divorces in horrible ways where "something" or "a lot of things" went wrong. What happens when someone decided to live FULLY and if that feeling isn't there in the relationship (anymore), that it is reason ENOUGH to leave it. For many people they don't even get to that point of living FULLY. And it seems like a waste to leave something because you don't feel it anymore. Why do we always have to work on it? Why aren't things just fluid? That is programming. What if Mimi decides to only show up online when she has picked herself up and has some positive insights? Does that mean she never cries, is upset, feels horrible? No - it means that she made a decision on showing up only when she feels positivie and i applaud her for that. Many might find it fake - but you can't WANT people to show up online only the way you want (in pain, so that YOU feel seen in your pain and then call it "authentic"). And reading these comments, I hope it doesn't make others scared to show up online in the way they want. Sometimes I have felt triggered by some posts of Mimi, but it was always something that I was struggling with deep down. Everyone is doing the best they can in the way they think is best. Let's have some more respect for each others way of seeing life and wanting to live life.

[@raquelraya978]

Came here for the comments and they did not disappoint. To leave the father of her kid for the reasons she’s stating is so narcissistic and childish. You’re a grown woman who made a commitment, if not for you then for her kid. And I don’t consider this an enlightened way of thinking. It’s pure narcissism.

[@user-gz3gg9zz1h]

No parent wants his/ her child to suffer and make unnecessary sacrifices, but life happens sometimes. Sometimes you don’t get to choose what circumstances you are in. Every parent who genuinely loves his/ her child would choose to sacrifice him- or herself for his/ her child. That is called love in case you’ve never really experienced it so far , because you’re too busy thinking about yourself

[@lilyasattarova2109]

Mimi feels like fake light now…

[@queens6583]

I used to watch Mimi and Alex before they even had Alexa. They always gave this picture of perfection in relation to their life and marriage. I am surprisingly not shocked that the marriage is ending. We live in a world of social media where unrealistic and even false narratives are fed to today's generation. I agree with her about talking to your spouse about the fact that you don't feel the love anymore rather than cheating. on your spouse. If she thinks that the heart break is lessened because they talked about her feelings is absolutely not true. This nonsense about "conscious separation", "self sacrifice" and "authenticity and other made up social awareness crap is so fake and false. She is not being honest at all. The biggest disturbing red flag is how she only talks about her new awareness, but nothing about Alexa. She is not just destroying her marriage, but also everything important and safe for that little girl. Make no mistake this will have an everlasting effect on that child and how she views relationships. Do not be overly impressed by this woman Valeria!

[@RadkaSlavova-ug9wt]

So what is she supposed to do if she's on a loveless marriage. Cheating is not ok we all agree, separation is obviously not ok according to most people. What is she supposed to do then?

[@Traveling193]

Never liked Mimi. She always seemed not genuine. People who are happy don’t say “I’m happier” people who are miserable will always want to prove to everyone they are fine. Mimi has always tried to look like she’s happy. She not

[@xarelcassina3212]

To trust your gut and heart over your brain sometimes is wrong. For example if your gut is telling you to end your marriage instead of commit, fight for it and reinvent in order to not only be loyal to your commitment but also give your daughter a healthy home then your gut is wrong and you need to trust your brain, eventually with work and compromise that “feeling” will go away.

[@kerryford6030]

Pure modern day non sense. Self indulgent and irresponsible.

[@phwlc]

Listening to your feelings most always leads to expansion. I believe that's true. But I like how Teal Swan pointed out in one of her videos that it doesn't mean it will always lead to pleasant experiences or outcomes. The underlying lesson could easily be that by solely focusing on your feelings and breaking up your family, you can lose the love of your life and end up regretting it for the rest of your life even if you have another great love. That's why it's dangerous to always blindly follow your feelings. Though most people, myself included, sometimes do just that. Watching this interview, I'm making a conclusion that trusting your feelings doesn't always have to mean blindly follow your feelings. Feelings are feedback that we get. But I guess we should first think about the nature and the cause of these feelings, and only then think of all possible solutions. Because if there's some trauma or insecurity within, then changing partners won't help, but only make the issue bigger and more painful. I'm not judging Mimi. I feel sad at the thought she might regret she'd rushed with her decision. When something meaninful comes to an end, it's always sad. Their separation doesn't make any sense. But I hope it all works out great in the end.

[@imarosadi8852]

I'm happy for you, Mimi, but in my opinion, in a marriage that has lasted for 10 or 15 years, the key elements that remain are commitment and responsibility. Over time, the nature of love evolves, and certain aspects become more prominent. The relationship's foundation is built on mutual support and managing shared responsibilities such as finances, household duties, and raising children. Couples often develop a shared vision for their family, establishing long-term goals, values, and priorities that guide their decisions and actions. Maintaining mutual respect and admiration for each other’s strengths and achievements strengthens the bond, even as the initial excitement may mature into a deeper companionship marked by trust and understanding. There is a natural evolution in love within marriages. Valeria, could we invite guests who exemplify commitment, collaboration, and resilience in marriage? This would provide young viewers with inspirational role models, demonstrating that lasting happiness in a relationship is achievable.

[@blogla9022]

Did someone even hear when she mentioned that they got together when they were 20-21?? listening to their story from all the other platforms before and following them for years I do understand that at this age when they got together they were FULLY focused on building the career. And probably because of that they did not have experienced the normal young people life - dating, parties, finding themselves as individuals ALONE. Its normal then that after being so long together since so young age you do start to think - did I experience my life fully? its still an experience of life, different emotions, feelings, butterflies, different stories of getting to know other people in romantic way. And even if it is also about being intimate with other persons then why not? how else you would explore and find out things that you like? Why to get older and lose this precious time that is now and regret after? nobody will give you a medal for being with just one person until the end of life. Yes its cute story to have but why to regret not experiencing life fully with and without having a partner? just think. Yes I understand the part of “but they showed how you can work on your relationship and what the REAL love is” - about this I agree that this was too much and now looking as fake. This part I get it and im not even going to argue about it.

[@mindyourownbusinessplease1120]

This is Self Sabotage

[@an67481]

She feels secure in the essentials. Her child, her money, her self esteem is fed by the toxicgram, her basic needs are met by her own finances, so now, just as we all are curious and failed beings, she gets bored and starts looking to win something new. The safe and present husband isn't enough for Me-me's (that's her changed name btw, not the name her parents gave her) ego that likes to be told she is winning and is special (when she is not) and she is challenging herself (no matter if it's generic challenges that we all face as human beings). Me-me needs to meet God. Because she won't stop until then. No humility, no surrender, no commitment, no gratitude, no humility... but who am I to speak, justa fellow human trying to find salvation

[@MilyFitzgerald]

I stopped following her after they shared her birth story, they both sounded delusional and Alex is so controlling. I'm surprised they lasted that long.

[@Jess_cool25]

Like you I stopped watching them after that video and their beliefs surrounding Covid. I don’t think they’ll ever reveal the reason why they broke up but it’s apparent. I wish them the best.

[@АннаШироких-х4ф]

oh yes, I remember that! Mimi was struggling and wanted to proceed to the C-section, but Alex was denying it wanting the child to come "naturally". Such a BS

[@alinad5354]

so... she broke up whit her husband because she was 36 and it was the year of Tiger? 😅 I have a feeling there is something else she is not sharing tbh

[@Diana_Diana_11]

I didn’t watch full interview. Did she say that about age and year of tiger?

[@MnMofYemen]

Sorry but she is gonna regret it, maybe not now, but perhaps once her partner has found someone serious, the reality hits...I mean why throw a good relationship? If she wants to work on herself and her authenticity, she can still do it while in the relationship..You don't just wake up and leave a long term good relationship because u think you have lost the spark....sigh It's hard to find a good relationship nowadays...if you are in it, and lost the spark, work on it...unless it's toxic, then it's a whole other story

[@MnMofYemen]

@@manal6352 goes both ways, I'm not blaming anyone...

[@Mulania007]

I've been following Mimi and Alex since 2012 and they inspired to travel and following my heart. I left my relationship of almost a decade at the age of 27 and traveled for 6 months. When I found out they broke up I checked into therapy, I was like omg what you mean true love doesn't exist? I've been on the love journey and learned about agape, philia and eros in 2020. No way she just learned about it in 2023. And the book attached, read that in 2017. Mimi used to have so many new things to say. I don't know if she became stagnant or maybe she was complacent but I miss those days where I was so fascinated by her and what she had to say. Now I feel like the roles have reversed. She's just experiencing her 20's now in her late 30's. She married Alex at such a young age and I'm so glad I didn't marry that guy in my 20's. I'm 36 now and just got married and he's everything I've ever wanted. It's the best marrying later in life.