My Sister Attempted To STEAL My Watch But Mom Wants Me To Apologise To Her! r/Relationships

[@poohbear4515]

Mom: “How dare you get angry and embarrass your golden-sister! Don’t you know how specially innocent she is? I demand you apologize to her right now and lie to everyone else that you wanted to give her the watch, but tried to make her look like she stole it!” OP: “Okay. I’m sorry that she decided to be a thief and steal my watch, and later cried about it to mommy. I’m sorry that she had been raised to be a spoiled, selfish child that will never grow up. How does that sound?”

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

Perfect

[@robertx8020]

I can't understand that OP refuses to pay for such a wonderful parent 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I would want to pay someone to film her when she realizes that she has to pay for everything herself 🤣

[@JK-sh8rc]

So did OP's mother think that yelling, insulting & berating would force OP into giving her money? Awful awful mother.

[@robertx8020]

@@JK-sh8rc Yes, becasue ppl like her don't think! They just are under de delusionn that they are doing YOU a favour for letting you pay for them

[@Nerdificent]

Or 'Sorry for humiliating her, would you have preferred I call the cops and press charges?' If she doesn't keep her sticky fingers off other people's property, that will happen again. For a $30K watch, that would be one nasty sentence if that went to trial.

[@Empress58]

Story 1: Wait…Mom accuses OP of not “sharing his wealth” but he’s literally paying her rent????

[@CyeOutsider]

She's upset he won't let people steal from him. Bizarre.

[@JordanDragonAs]

Golden Child syndrome

[@PriestApostate]

He should just cut the mother off.

[@jamiesatyr1309]

I would have cussed my mom out of guilting me like that: "I don't owe you $#!t." 😅

[@lorifiedler13]

Time to stop that crap.

[@CrypticCharm]

the first story is an old one, but every time i hear it, i get mad on behalf of the OP. how the hell did he survive with such a shitty toxic family and turn out sane is a miracle in itself

[@AmukaAkuma]

Well, he didn't really. The mom and sister had been financially abusing him for years. It took a grand larceny attempt to open his eyes to the abuse.

[@anonmouse15]

I've seen less blatant parasites under a microscope.

[@robertx8020]

@@AmukaAkuma And Reddit (sometimes it helps to ask online ...and sometimes it makes things worse )

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@AmukaAkuma She used the age old line of “I fed and housed you for 18 years (or whatever), so you owe me!” Translation: I did what was legally required of me! How dare you not support me for the next 40 years!

[@ellorasg4525]

Same

[@n7hughesgaming223]

Story 2: So like, does OP even like her dad? Cause the way she talks about him makes it come off as her absolutely despising him.

[@9999plato]

No doubt. She is o clueless that she has to ask Reddit if she is the AH.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 1 - Never looking through someone’s purse only applies when they aren’t a life long thief who steals from family without a second thought. Mom raised an untreated kleptomaniac who should have gotten treatment ages ago, and is still enabled to this day.

[@AutumnForest862]

Kleptomaniacs don't limit their stealing to valuables, they are irresistably drawn to steal anything, the most random worthless trash along with valuables. This chick is just a thief, no excuse. She needs jailtime. And as a woman, I totally agree with you about the purse!

[@mindyschocolate]

Yup. Sooner or later she’ll find herself in prison

[@PriestApostate]

Odd: I call "untreated kleptomaniacs" "thieves!" I guess it translates differently in different cultures! :-)

[@somedragonbastard]

​@@PriestApostate kleptomania is a disease. It doesn't mean they aren't stealing but they deserve to receive treatment and support. Kleptomaniacs steal as a compulsion and struggle to control it. The mom should have gotten the sister treatment long ago, instead of allowing her illness to fester

[@JasperCatProductions]

Simple story one no contact with sister and mother. Be 100% done with them, never have them in your home.

[@sashwing7726]

You're funny 😁 there are at least 100 stories like this where entitled parents show their true colors. The problem is that it never ends with a simple no contact, even in this case she when no contact and the mother contacted her through a friend. The mother basically said it's not your success and/or money it's mine.

[@locusxe1411]

@@sashwing7726 it really doesn’t matter. That’s where the end starts. Once you go no contact and they try everything in their power to to talk to you you’re always out of reach. It doesn’t matter what the mother said. What op says goes. No contact is simple and easy to do. If they want to go further there’s always the police

[@charliegone1652]

Yep 100%. Don't contact either of them ever again.

[@anonmouse15]

Go one step further, and get the police to search her purse instead.

[@Alissandre_Iskander]

Story 2: That update did that brat zero favors. I could picture her rolling her eyes as she typed that update.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

SAME AF, OMG 😱

[@floraposteschild4184]

S2: "oh nooo! My father gave me something GRAY and not BLACK -- that's so totally different! I might as well be an orphan." Seriously, I wouldn't bother to give this brat an expensive present again.

[@JuniperJadePR]

S2: Even though OP's Dad got the "wrong color", he clearly thought hard about the gift considering that he did buy a top of the line kitchen appliance. If OP had told their dad the truth too, they coulda gotten it exchanged for a different color since KitchenAid sells them in like 20+ colors/finishes.

[@9999plato]

She is a B witch. A future recipient of ugly Christmas sweaters for life and no inheritance other than a lifetime supply of cheese samplers at Christmas season. Nothing like a plastic wrapped preservative filled old cheese platter to help you mull over your mistakes in life.

[@JK-sh8rc]

Story 2: Was there a reason OP couldn't return the mixer for one in another color? What an ungrateful brat!

[@MrSiren52]

@JK-sh8rc yes, the reason was she wanted to hurt him by giving it away.

[@toothless3835]

Honestly, it being too big was my main thought. she should've asked for a gift receipt so she could get a different one. But it being too big would've been my issue. If it's not functional for me, it's useless. No matter how much it cost. And I've told this to my family before and they understand. Just like I understand when something I get them isn't useful. This is for when something is SUPPOSED to be used like the standmixer and not something decorative like a plush toy or something. I believe this for ANY electronic. The gift giver may not know what the person is looking for and should ALWAYS give a gift receipt so they could return it. Like it's not ungrateful if you know you're not going to use it at all and need something else. Computers. Game controllers. Head phones. Video Games. You can be grateful but still need something else because what they got isn't going to work for you. My mom and my sister got me the same stand mixer and they knew I was going to return one and didn't care which because what am I going to do with two stand mixers? Keep them and have one them have wasted their money? That's dumb. And I don't have room for two stand mixers.

[@ReyK_47]

Oh wow, the stand mixer throwaway story makes me feel so bad for the dad. My parents are very loving people and they've definitely bought me gifts that I absolutely hated. But I said thank you and made it clear how much I appreciate them for thinking about me. It's not hard to not be a jerk to people who are giving you things because they genuinely care about you, even if they miss the mark sometimes.

[@catbitmaster8216]

I just posted on reddit about this story, and while I think the way OP handled is a bit AHish, based on the way the parents are insisting some things, I think there is a lot more to this story. Basically what I posted on reddit about the parents are as below: "...I have a feeling this might turn into ESH down the line. Your father insisting that grey goes with everything is just odd, like he is in denial. In addition, why does your mother not stop him from picking grey, if she was supposed to know that you hate grey, since as you put it, everyone knows it? To elaborate further: 1. I seriously think your father is someone who just buy expensive gifts for the sake that they are expensive. Growing up, does your mother always get gifts from him? 2. Why is your mother so insistent that the gift was thoughtful? Just because a gift is expensive does not make it thoughtful. If she did know what your father was getting you, I think she might be expecting you hate the gift and offer it to her instead."

[@fandomfan2800]

lol no

[@seangarvey8232]

​@@catbitmaster8216 sounds like an entitled spoiled brat. Since she doesn't appreciate it dad should not buy anything else for a long time.

[@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh]

@@catbitmaster8216 ultimately if he can afford anything then what does it matter? It’s the thought that counts right? She stomped all over his gesture I’d only be giving her a card every year after this 😅

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@catbitmaster8216 it was thoughtful on how long the dang thing lasts. My mom has a mixer from the same brand 2-3 years before my older sibling was born. They are in their late-mid 30s. OP’s dad thought “she will never need a mixer again” because it is true. My mom hates the color white and her mixer is white and she still uses it because it was a useful and thoughtful gift and she never had to make another purchase on a mixer. It doesn’t even just mix either, it minces at the top, it shreds cheese, it does so much else. You really think her mom said it was a thoughtful gift JUST because it’s expensive? 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@riley6740]

Oh my goodness!! From here on out, her father needs to give her dime store trinkets for any gifts that would fit her cheap personality and character. She doesn’t deserve anything more than that.

[@9999plato]

Like I said.. Ugly Christmas sweaters from the January discount rack for LIFE. She can re gift every one of them because she will always get a new one!

[@skyelindsey687]

@@9999plato no, that’s too expensive for her tastes. She’ll probably like those cheap plastic cups that barely last a week from the 99 cent store.

[@virginiacrowder2357]

That mixer rocks. I would never get her another gift, a card with $50 bucks in it should be sufficient. Umm she may not green either.....

[@kristyrowland111]

Right those mixers are amazing. I would have broken down into tears if someone got me that

[@hanoh2904]

Ah yes I remember this story and I remember redditors ignoring the main issue and focusing on the price of the watch. Like they can't comprehend people have different degrees of wealth or that people can spend thier hard earned money however they choose

[@skyelindsey687]

Yep. I love it when Reddit misses the point of the post. I honestly have difficulty following the mental gymnastics some of them do to make the OP TA. Especially with the abundance on stories with a male OP. They might as well just come out and say “I think this is YTA because you’re a guy.”

[@somedragonbastard]

I think a 30k watch is a bit absurd but fundamentally, it wouldn't matter if it were a $30 watch either. The problem is the theft, the value just makes it worse

[@dakotasan8719]

I’m betting sis promised to split the profits from fencing the watch 50/50 with the Mom which is why she’s so hellbent on it

[@blitsriderfield4099]

"couldn't help herself" why. why couldn't she help herself. could it be that the mother enabled and normalized this behavior?

[@carolroberts4614]

Sounds like she ' helped herself ' to anything she could lay her hands on!

[@somedragonbastard]

Fr. Maybe she'd be able to handle it if she had gotten treatment for her apparent kleptomania when she was young

[@novabrilliant4510]

I wish someone would give me a KitchenAid stand mixer. Honestly, that story was so sad.

[@katwiltz1134]

Youth is wasted on the young. Mine was my mom's whenever I was very young and it will mix dough it will grind meat oh and it mixes I use it once a week I make my own hamburger patties I grind my own chicken it's got a sausage maker attachment these are all things that you may not think that you need but whenever you're trying to save money. But the mixer being Gray mom didn't say anything that you hated Gray does your Dad loved gray? Do you think he gave you a mixer that he wanted himself?

[@katwiltz1134]

Yes you should have tried to give it back to your dad you should have just told the truth instead of giving it away when you know it was expensive. And then you took your thought listeners and blamed it on him that he is your father should know you don't like gray know your mom should have known that but you're right it was a gift you can do whatever you want with it just remember as your parents they could have did the same thing with their kid

[@katwiltz1134]

If your dad knew that your least favorite color was gray then he would be your mom.

[@TheArnaa]

Story 1: I had heard the first story up to where mum was demanding the apology, but not the saga about OP paying his mum’s rent. I appreciate how Mark tracks down the updates so we get the full story😊 Also, the appropriate response to mum saying OP owes her all this money for raising him is, “You mean the support you were legally obliged provide me to avoid being charged with neglecting the child you chose to have?” Story 2: since OP hated the colour of the stand mixer so much, she could have easily made/brought a cute cover for it so the only time she had to see it was when she was actually using it. Then if dad asked why it was covered, she tells him it’s to protect it from getting dusty.

[@n.a.nameless5435]

And there is also paint. That mixer could have been any color she wanted. The color of a $700 appliance is literally the least valid reason to ditch it.

[@jamiesatyr1309]

​@@n.a.nameless5435 Oh, this girl is a piece of work. Why not just put it away until needed. It worked ffs. Blender didn't have to be exposed and on the counter. 😮😊😅

[@samoanjoseph1457]

Not only should OP not apologize, he should tell everyone at the party what happened. If I have a friend with a stealing sibling, I want to know. Because if he knows and doesn't tell me, and I get robbed, I'm blaming both of them. And the entitlement in that update, so not only does mom think sister should take his stuff, mom is already taking his money. Yeah cut them both off.

[@operationangel7940]

I say send the email to every other family member and see who in the extended family is worth keeping.

[@shebakoby]

Story 1: I think we can guess who the Golden Child is. Yup, it's the sister. OP is the scapegoat. OP's mother is one hell of an *abusive* narcissist.

[@jimpame2]

The mother is gaslighting the son into thinking he's a bad person.

[@whitneylivingston5706]

I am sitting on the edge of my seat wanting another update for that first story. I want to hear the fallout from mom missing the deadline for the new apartment. Please let us know when they give another update!!! Second story, that girl is totally the AH!!! I would have kept the gray one… at 24 year old what kind of spoiled brat turns down a $700 mixer because it’s not her favorite color?

[@Galworld761]

Or she could say thank you and just exchange it. I don‘t get the behavior…

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 I heard this whole saga before. Op was did right by finally cutting them out.

[@1964Puddles]

Omg, the mom is just as insane as the sister. How the heck did OP grow up to be as normal as he is with the Delusional Duo??

[@DigitalCowboy000]

In the first story I love how parents or other "senior" members will *ONLY* play the "but family" card on the victim. But *NOT* on the person who committed the crime or the act of violence.

[@sgtjarhead99]

Am really disappointed OP didn't file charges against the sister just for good measure. Even if it doesn't go anywhere, it'll certainly teach them both a lesson that OP is not screwing around.

[@beeppboopp]

Story 1: OP's mom : why don't you share your wealth with family? OP: has literally been paying their mom's rent, and financially supporting her. Huh?? 😭😭

[@agentzapdos4960]

S1: You absolutely should never look through a lady's purse. Here's the thing, though: that sister is no lady, she's a thief.

[@maddiemaccheese8170]

Story 3: My dad taught us to always say "thank you" when recieving a gift, even if that gift was toilet paper, and to always be grateful and respectful to the people giving us gifts because they care about us enough to get us something, whether or not we actually like the gift. OP is unimaginably entitled and rude. I couldn't even imagine doing this as a toddler.

[@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh]

THIS!

[@BlackLotus30]

OP is delusional, Grey does go with everything (just like Guile's theme) especially if he bought her the metal one(I(mom) have that model and colour)

[@jamessweat9168]

She clearly hates her dad. Even in the edit doesn't cover what she did. It's just like *just what ever I'll say sorry not meaning it.*

[@coreymartin6486]

Yep, I've known children that were more respectful and grateful for gifts that weren't the "best" or maybe their specific desire.

[@robertx8020]

"but I gave to someone special" who the ffff cares? even if you gave it to the president, I would still call you TA

[@schwagecko5589]

It is entirely possible to put a lot of thought into a gift and still get it wrong. One year my sister bought my mum and dad extremely thoughtful gifts. I half-assed it by just grabbing a random bird book for my mum and a book for my dad that I knew he had the ebook of but might like a physical copy. My parents were stoked with my gifts, turns out mum had been looking for that particular book for years and I just happened to pick it up. My dad loved having the physical copy of the book. They didn't really pay attention to my sister's gifts and I was really disappointed they didn't appreciate all the effort she put into them. Mum ended up swapping the book my sister got her and my dad never used the book she got him. Honestly I was kinda surprised because it seemed like the perfect present for him, way better than me getting him a book he already owns

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

S1: I have never heard of a more entitled mother. Not only did she think it was completely acceptable and reasonable for her daughter to steal from her son, but she thought he should apologize to the SISTER, and then demanded he pay for all of these expenses she doesn’t need. How could one person hold all of this audacity?

[@rf159a]

Last story: I was living with a woman and around Christmas time she bought this POS electric screwdriver as a present. It was one of those dollar store ones. Now for some context, when she did buy me things she really bought nice presents but when it came to tools, she was clueless. I told her it was a nice thought but I was going to use it. She got a little upset at me but I told her when it came to tools, I usually only bought good ones. I said why not just give me a Sears gift card so I can pick out what I wanted. That was when Sears had really good tools. She got insulted and said that was like giving someone money which you shouldn't do. She had some thing about giving money as a present as being tacky. I don't know why she thought that. But, after that, She always got me a Sears gift card so I could choose the tools I wanted. People need to speak up and say thank you but it's not my style or whatever. Then the two of you could go shopping together to replace the item you really don't want and even make a day of it shopping, have lunch or whatever!!

[@9999plato]

All true but it was apparent that the daughter WANTED to snub her father.For One she gave it away entirely to someone who is such a good friend that they are moving away (I never gave expensive parting gifts to friends) and Two having the BF buy the smaller cheaper model in another color. It was a double insult. I' married 24 years and know my wife's favorite car color is black but her overall favorite color... I dont have a clue. That's how men are. That daughter is a real piece of work. She does not deserve the corn out of a 3 day old turd.

[@ericaallisonc]

Lol, I love getting money. it's the gift that keeps on giving.

[@rf159a]

@@ericaallisonc Yes it is, lol

[@toothless3835]

Yeah exactly. With ANY electronic or big item, give a gift receipt. Especially if it's not something you're familiar with. The person may have what you got already, OR it may not be what they need. My mom and sister both got me the same stand mixer and they gave me a gift receipt so I can return them incase I wanted something different. I don't like giving money by itself personally, so If I'm giving cash, I'm folding it into something interesting. Like a graduation cap for when my brother graduated or a dress and shirt with a tie to my friends who got married.

[@darkmask5933]

What really surprises me about Story 1 is that the sister, who caused the whole mess in the first place (well, she was the catalyst) stayed silent throughout the entire ordeal. Almost always you hear that both would be spamming OP and calling him names. Makes me wonder if maybe sister is feeling humiliated and ashamed and is laying low, or if mommy told her she would be taking care of it, although even if the latter, I am surprised she didn't start calling OP once he blocked their mom (although maybe she was just smart enough to realize OP wouldn't want to talk to her, either).

[@kyoxtohru112]

Yeah, the sister may be bad, but my goodness the mother is a raging fire and probably where the sister gets it from. Honestly, seeing how the sister is older by 2 years I could see her being the 1st piggy bank before she started stealing if the mother's like that.

[@catte.]

Wow the KitchenAid story makes me so sad... I feel so, so bad for the dad

[@BlackLotus30]

I know right those thing are indestructible and pretty much do everything. I'm not that passionate about cooking but I love using my mom's KitchenAid.

[@9999plato]

@@BlackLotus30 While mine has limped along for 25 years there is a definite burning smell in the motor when mixing large batches of oatmeal cookies and the occasional skipped tooth in a gear. They can be repaired though! My wife said she married me for my Kitchen Aid stand mixer. The way to a woman's heart is through her stomach. So I am told.

[@skyelindsey687]

@@9999plato and what most people don’t know when buying them is there’s different attachments for different doughs and batters and using the correct attachment each time makes it last longer. I currently don’t have one but I am planning on buying one and the attachments as I can afford it. Especially the pasta attachment for home made pasta.

[@kanelovec4315]

Sister is never going to change until she goes to jail or court. This watch is thousands of dallors that can land you a few years in jail or few thousands is lawsuit. Time to cut sister, mom, and anyone who defends sister actions out of your life. Your sister bakes for the family so you have to pay +$8000 and more every month?!?! That is not equal. Op is family atm. He has to run and protect himself by freezing all credit cards or loans to stop any being made.

[@TsukiKageTora]

The “golden child” in this one is so strong you could mistake it for the sun itself

[@lindaouellette6656]

Mom: you should never go through a “lady’s” purse. Me: I didn’t😂

[@user-nb8tk6hh6x]

To be treated like a lady one must act like a lady.

[@EphemeraImaging]

Sister works as a pastry chef and is always happy to bring things from work. So Si is stealing from work as well, lol.

[@leaflet1686]

Story 2 update 2: The update makes OP look even worse... It reads like: I'm sorry you feel that way

[@rey273]

as an older sibling, i can't imagine stealing anything from my little brother. maybe its because i have a good relationship with him, but i really cant imagine doing anything on purpose like that. what a weird person.

[@boopboop2771]

Been in this situation with my friend's brother. He doesn't steal now but we still lock up our purses if he comes over. Unfortunately that's the only solution for now.

[@CyeOutsider]

Story 1: OPs mother is off her damn rocker.

[@MGP2210]

Story 01. OP needs to stop being afraid of losing his bad family. Specifically his mother.

[@9999plato]

Yeah, no parent who thinks they are owed anything for feeding their child is worth a damn. The funny thing is that the son did not mind supporting his mother. She was simply so greedy and excused the sisters greed and avaricious nature that she killed the golden goose. Perhaps one day he will marry a good woman and be doubly blessed to have a wonderful mother in law, they do actually exist. I loved my first wives mother, I could not deal with my first wives conniving nature though. My current wives mother was a sweetheart too but passed from cancer early in the marriage. Too bad, my kid needed a good grandmother that my mother was not.

[@StandYourGroundHomestead]

She can 100% keep herself from stealing. I would never speak with that sister or enabling mother ever again. What a despicable duo. Eventually she'll steal from the wrong person and be dumbfounded at having to face the consequences of her own actions for once.

[@Sunari]

Dang, that mum in the first story just really decided to change all the details to suit her personal story and preferences...just decided "oh of course he's paying my rent, and I can bully him into doing anything I want!" So glad OP is kicking her and the sister out of his life For story 2 - I mean OP could've worked with the dad to see if they could get it swapped for the black version? Maybe a little awkward, but it sounds like their relationship maybe isn't that great to begin with and it's hard to say if some of that's on OP's side or not.

[@9999plato]

There is clearly resentment on OPs side. Normal people dont regift $700 gifts that can easily be exchanged and then buy a smaller one in another color.

[@miguelmacias2401]

Yes, most likely their relashionship has never been good, i don't want to make too many assumptions but it seems like the father just throws money instead of actually getting to know OP and OP is just done with pretending to be ok with that

[@vulpixle9659]

On story 2 so most of the kitchen appliances I use is either black or red and if someone gave me a $700 teal kitchen aid stand mixer I would start crying tears of joy

[@Rankinen]

Story 2: 700 dollars housewarming gift paid by daddy... somehow reminds me of the Friends episode where Rachel's father cut her sister off after she gave her friend a boat as a gift.

[@ItsYaBoiV]

Dude, I have tons of gifts from my parents that don't fit my style, but they're gifts from people I love, so I still have them. Some of the gifts are even a bit of an inside joke. They become even more precious when you lose the person who gave them to you. I hope OP doesn't have to learn that the hard way.

[@sandeesandwich2180]

S2: That industrial KitchenAid mixer is so in demand. It's like the Rolls Royce of mixers -- people who like to bake dream about that mixer. You can get it in other colors; all you had to do was ask to exchange it. Yeesh! What a spoiled brat!

[@mbyerly9680]

The sister didn't fall to far from the maternal tree. Both are abusive crooks. I hope OP can get them out of his life.

[@ajwinberg]

Kids do not owe their parents anything. It is not the child's fault that they were born. This story is mind blowing. The mother sure acts very entitled.

[@ricardoospina5970]

In the last story I would never give the daughter anything more than a card ever again. He noticed she wanted a mixer and didn't like the color or the size, so she gave it away and got another mixer since she clearly wanted one. SMH.

[@Arylwren1]

30k??? That's felony level theft.

[@BruinPhD2009]

Story 1: In what sort of castle/mansion/fortress is OP's mother planning to live? I live in California and not I don't pay that much rent for a two bedroom/two bathroom apartment in a pretty nice section of town. That woman is beyond insane. We can certainly see where the sister gets her sense of entitlement. And speaking of nucking futs... Story 2: OP's update only made matters worse. A friend of mine is the third owner of a Kitchen Aid mixer (it's practically heirloom because the dang things are nearly indestructible) and I've had mine for over 15 years. They do come in many different colors and are easily exchanged. Great thing is they always make sure attachments (juicers, pasta makers, meat grinders, etc.) work with earlier versions of the stand mixer. The ease with which OP not only got rid of an expensive gift and continues to defend it makes me think there's something else going on in the relationship with her father. Either that or OP doesn't have a lick of common sense. Or is just some spoiled brat. Or all of that.

[@nkes50]

Bay area

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Well, if OP makes enough money to drop $30K on a watch, I assume he came from money and got a job that reflects that. He doesn't really say, of course, so this could be a leap on my part, but he did say the new place would double the amount he's paying for his mom's rent now. To me, an apt that costs upwards of $2000 a month is already luxury, it sounds like his mom just tried to upgrade to an even nicer place. I hope he blocks her and the sister for good.

[@TheRealVenna]

I had dreamed for decades about having a Kitchen Aid mixer, finally got one this past Christmas. If someone had gifted me one, I wouldn't give a SHIT about the color! I would have been extremely appreciative of such an expensive, but valuable gift.

[@Tammohawk1]

1. I can relate to OP. I too have a sister who is a thief, and a liar. Too bad too sad for sister getting embarrassed by stealing from OP like that. She is the one who needs to apologize and if she is embarrassed there is no one to blame but herself. Mom should be thankful that the cops weren't called and that's what Mom would hear from me. 2. OP gave away a Kitchen aide? OMG!! I'd love for someone to buy me one of those. They aren't cheap and you can get tons of different attachments for it. I would have asked to exchange it to a color I preferred instead of giving it away.

[@9999plato]

If they lived in a smaller town I would post the sisters picture on a few billboards going in and out of town with THIEF in bold letters below. He can afford such a fitting reward.

[@spikeoramathon]

don't go through a lady's purse? That sister ain't no lady. And of course Sis is a nasty little thief; Mummy has obviously never let her experience consequences for anything. What a great example of DARVO (say it with me, guys): Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. Every schoolchild should learn how to spot this. Leave 'em both behind. Counseling only works when people are ready to admit they need help, which in this case doesn't seem to be on the table. Mother is a gaslighting narcissist and Sis has been trained to be the same. The BBQ lunch incident seals the deal. OP, don't walk, RUN.

[@paden1865able]

She could have gotten the receipt for the mixer and exchanged it for one of a different colour. My Kitchenaid is cobalt blue and I also have a white one in storage for those times when I have to do a ton of baking. But, I am weird and prefer function over form.

[@e.w9641]

Story 2 reminded me of when my mom got me a blender on the ugliest colour for my b-day, but then she said it was cheaper so they had some more money left for another gift for me (a giftcard). My mom might not know my least favourite colour, but she does know that I care more about saving money, so it can be used for something else than a colour 😂

[@skyelindsey687]

I never understood why certain colors were cheaper for the exact same item. Like, is it the cost of the pigment used to color it or did it just not sell as well as the others?

[@SuperYoshi29]

@@skyelindsey687 I suspect didn’t sell as well so they are trying to move the stagnant inventory

[@joey3870]

She brings treats from work sometimes, so let her take your watch and pay my 4k a month rent it’s only fair…

[@RockyGems]

The stand mixer story made me so mad! My parents got me one of them for Christmas last year, and it's my pride and joy!

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 2: OP is totally spoiled to the fact that she feels entitled to other people's money and that everyone around her must know her favorite and least favorite colors and exactly what she wants at all times. She gifted another person a $700 mixer that she didn't buy so in effect she used her daddy's money to give her friend a parting gift. That's just plain disrespectful and shows that she has no gratitude for what her dad does for her. If she didn't like the gift from her dad, she could have told him and had him exchange it for one that matched her esthetics. OR she could have acknowledged that not all things will be her favorite color and she could have been overjoyed that her daddy was so thoughtful to get her the best mixer out there. OP's dad needs to stop buying her shit because I guess it's now her BF's obligation to buy her shit.

[@quinhoprimeiro1049]

I'm sorry but I kinda disagree, Colors are important to some people like me and her, YES she shouldn't given the gift to someone else, but she is entitled to be sad her DAD didn't knew she hates grey... I hate green and i can garantee you that EVERYONE, EVERY SINGLE PERSON in my family knows this.

[@hizui7904]

“That she feels entitled to other people’s money” except she doesn’t, that was never even partially showed, While yes she is in the wrong for giving away the gift i can see her thought process for how, “Im not going to use this, so i should give it to someone who will”, Nor did she “use daddy’s money to give her friend a parting gift”, though she didn’t buy it herself, it was a gift I personally believe it to be a bad mindset to view a gift as “x’s money” and not “x’s gift”

[@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh]

@@quinhoprimeiro1049 way to totally miss the point Guess entitlement just defends entitlement

[@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh]

@@hizui7904 but does she not know the value of $700??? Does she not care? Entitled is not a stretch Spoiled fits her like a glove 🥊

[@quinhoprimeiro1049]

@@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh So I'm entitled just because I hate green? Sure bro... LOL

[@formlesscorvid5336]

Story two: My father died shortly after I turned 18. I hate the color neon green with a passion. It gives me a headache. For my birthday that year, he baked me a lemon cake and he dyed the frosting purple, which is my favorite color. I'll turn 21 this November and I'd *kill* to recieve a neon green stand mixer or neon green toy car or neon green *anything* from my dad for my birthday.

[@9999plato]

You loved your Dad, she treats hers like crap deliberately.

[@Firstsurugi]

Pretty sure there was some misunderstanding or conflict with dad that was blown out of proportion by OP3, and now she's being all passive aggressive and playing ignorant when called out for it.

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

Story 1 still invite them over, but have a deadbolt on your door and when they flip out on you infront of guests, say the deadbolt is there to prevent anyone from stealing from me like when sister did

[@LordBison98]

Story 1: HOLY HELL AND EVERYTHING ABOVE DISOWN THEM!! Block on everything, disown them, tell them to get lost. This is NOT family, those are massive jerks who are just leeching off of you.

[@Shortypants1215]

That first story was epic. Good Lord! OP needs to go full stop NC and continue living his best life. Yeeesh!

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark stay safe please, peace.

[@DisneyChar]

18 years, is the bare minimum a parent owes for their decision to have a child. So from the sounds of it you owe them 0.

[@christinaishere9018]

Story One- OP’s mom needs to learn how to stop biting the hand that feeds you!!!

[@aserkill6096]

4250 DOLLARS A MONTH?! where the hell does she plan to live?? In a gold plated penthouse apartment?

[@Galworld761]

That is expensive for even NYC….

[@jonahhex18]

What really fucks with me is how after accepting the YTA judgement, she still tries so hard to justify herself/ minimize her problems

[@jadis3143]

Story 2 OP is an ingrate on top of being an AH😊

[@mirandakrohn1719]

Story 2: Did OP tell this friend that the mixer was a gift to OP? Or did OP play it off as something they bought themselves? From the way OP sounds, I wouldn't put it passed them.

[@myrabeth77]

I'd like a stand mixer, and would be over the moon for a big kitchenaid one to be gifted to me... BUT if it were given to me right now, I'd have to return it to that person or give it away. I have a tiny apartment kitchen with storage issues. A big standmixer would pose a serious problem in my current home. I think a lot of people missed the size issue in the initial post.

[@skyelindsey687]

I honestly don’t think there was actually a size issue, especially with her “I guess I was in the wrong.” She was probably just looking for anyway to justify her crap behavior.

[@deadlock89]

Story 1 - stealing something valued at $30'000 is not a small thing, that is grand larceny, possession of stolen property, and depending what she did with it probably selling stolen property, if it wasn't a family member she stole from but say a stranger, a co-worker or just a friend she could face serious criminal charges, if she is embarrassed be caught red handed imagine how embarrassed she'll be being dragged through a court case and being in jail for 10 years minimum.

[@dwilcox7706]

She definitely gave that mixer away to spite her dad. Spoiled. Any reasonable person would just ask to exchange the color.

[@skyelindsey687]

Or ask for a smaller model because they do make smaller ones that DT way longer than the cutesy one her boyfriend probably got from Walmart or target.

[@AndyyWithAY]

If she's a kleptomaniac she needs some services to help with that. She doesn't need to get off scot free. This needs to curbed post haste. People have gotten charged for shoplifting for way less. 30k is more than most people in the world make in a year. This wasn't a cheap watch from Walmart, which would still not be ok

[@AmandaGeyerSnobahr]

Sister and Mother in the first story need serious therapy. And OP needs to just cut the sister out of his life entirely.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#1 Time to go no contact with mom and sister.

[@heatherdickau5335]

Wow! We need the updates on the first story. Something tells mom will end up getting arrested.

[@LifeofWiks]

S2-thats so wild how she decided to handle the situation. First by not considering her dads feelings when she did the ol indiana jones swap on his gift, but then by tearing him down and not showing a shred of remorse or even sympathy when he was hurt. I hate getting clothes as a gift because 1. no one knows my sizes 2. I dont wear anything i dont like and 3. I feel terrible not using/wearing a gift someone put thought into. I made it very clear at a young age to PLEASE (key word “please”) not get me any clothes from then on because the thought would be lost on me and they would spend years in a drawer with the tags still on and me too big to wear them before inevitably donating or selling it. They were defensive at first, but after i elaborated they agreed that it would be a waste of money and that if they were unsure, they could always just gift the money/come with me to buy clothes that actually fit/would wear, to which i agreed. It might be uncomfortable to say, but its definitely easier than dealing with whatever fucked up shit she got in her head that made her say THAT to her dad

[@whiskeyontherocks]

Story 2, I can confidently say my caring and lovely dad had no clue what so ever about my favourite or least favourite colour, he would probably have bought something pink since it was my favourite colour when I was five.

[@OhHeyItIsNano]

The moment I hear OP in Story 1 is in Cali my heart slightly sank. Hope he's doing Ok now. 🙏

[@munirahg9471]

Congrats Reddit you're making the world a better place.

[@chazdellwalker6912]

I'd apologize for dumping out her purse if she'd apologize for stealing and lying about it and agree to go to therapy for her rampant kleptomania.

[@kayelyninman7462]

I'm wondering after hearing all of the updates and the moms statements about taking care of everyone, if mom had the sister try to steal from her brother. She sure didn't act surprised and even sided with her.

[@Sovreign071]

Unpopular opinion, I'm sure: Parents with only enough love for one child shouldn't have two.

[@skyelindsey687]

More unpopular opinion: if you only have love for one then you shouldn’t have any at all.

[@jumpingmoose5554]

In story 1 OP shouldn't feel bad about cussing his mom out, she's an entitled pos. She deserves every insult for embarrassing OP.

[@believeinshadows139]

Man what an embarrassment of a mother in the first story. Abuse one child and set the other up for failure by teaching them extreme entitlement. I’ll never understand parents like that.

[@carolinenagel7085]

'I hate grey', 'I hate carrots', 'I hate playing with Charlie'. OP sounds like a child.

[@jhamps4806]

Never heard of ‘piss up a rope’ before… love it though…! 😂😂😂😂

[@emlofland]

Not going to lie, when Mark was reading the first part of Story 1, I thought to myself that the reason the mother was asking for the apology was that she thought that OP's sister was right to steal a 30K$ watch. I come from an entitled family like this, and I have heard this line of thought a lot before. So when OP's mom told him that he was supposed to "share his wealth" (particularly when it came to light that he was already doing so), I was not even surprised.

[@tinygabriel9760]

S2)Sounds like OP has been a doormat to their family all their life and their sister's last theft was the final straw... Good for them hope they stick to it and don't cave under the pressure. S2) Wtf so ungrateful.. why not simply ask for the receipt and have it changed (informing him on why etc)

[@RemyValo]

Sitting here under a tornado watch with your voice to soothe me thanks for the video Mark!

[@heathermiller5765]

Hope you're doing OK now Remy

[@leecc1574]

Family is the BEST travel agent for Guilt Trips.

[@HeidiGraham1982]

Oh, man, I've gotta remember that one! And it's so true!

[@jennifert8542]

The mixer story, grey does go with everything its a neutral and also they make stickers for kitchen aids

[@victorvaldez8869]

Story One: The guests DESERVE to know the sister is a thief, so they KNOW not to invite her into her home. The commenter who pointed out that it's a $30,000.00 watch, frankly I agree with the other comment that OP should advise Mom to get her into therapy before she steals from someone who will press charges.

[@shay4068]

Second story: Your dad was thinking of you when he bought the gift not your friend. your dad should embarrass you with your friend and ask you for the gift back so that he can get his money back. let’s see how you like it

[@AllistorMichelle]

story 1: nta but wtf i'd never buy something like a watch for 30k story 2: this is iffy. it was a gift since you didn't ask for it. but i hope you're not expecting a different one after giving it away [as in a 700$ one] edit to add: mark was right, you could have asked for a recite to exchange it. but i also felt that resentment too. story time: in my teen years i hated the color pink, it was my least favorite. you know what my grandmother did? told my step mom and dad [ who i didn't live with at the time] that i loved everything pink. so my step mom wasted her time on making me a pink blanket. i felt grateful but never told her i hated the color until the time came to move in with them and i didn't grab that blanket. i felt bad cause i hated it. dad also got me a pink ipod with pink headphones. i used that cause i could just not look at the color. that ipod is the old one with no screen. it had been dropped into the washer 2 times, the dryer 1 time and STILL works. i got this thing in 2009. i'm so damn shocked at how it has lived this long. i still hate the color pink but not as much.

[@vanessahausl6180]

I love it when you surprisingly say "say what?"

[@livewellwitheds6885]

the update omg... I love when parents act like doing the bare minimum [giving your child shelter] is some huge favor their kid owes them for later on! wtf!