My Best Friend THREW AWAY My Anxiety Medication And Wants ME To Apologise - AITA Reddit Stories

[@BruinPhD2009]

What the hell does God’s forgiveness have to do with developing a generalized anxiety disorder? Emily is a control freak and completely nuts. Perhaps she could benefit from some meds herself.

[@memyselfandi7782]

SAY IT LOUDER FOR DA PEOPLE AT THE BACK!

[@Jessidafennecfox]

NOTHING

[@elaexplorer]

Growing up we were literally told that depression is from despair and if you're in despair that means you don't trust God. There were a lot of kids that were being abused and we were told to just suck it up. I'm just glad it was never something I took to heart.

[@fnjesusfreak]

In some circles, illness is seen as a lack of faith and the answer to anything is "needs moar jebus".

[@Jessidafennecfox]

@@fnjesusfreak I know thankfully my catholic grandparents were fine about dealing with my mental illness. They understood my meds were the same as ones I took for epilepsy. OP roommates toxicity is beyond Jesus freak

[@Merryfrances]

Story 1: the relationship with Emily is absolutely one of OP’s anxiety triggers.

[@Mscrimsondragon]

Yep, I wouldnt be surpised if they find out how much Emily was contributing to their anxiety after a week or two of scraping this "friendship" off. I know I feel like a 10 ton wieghts been lifted after cutting out a toxic person.

[@wildfyah]

This

[@SilentSakura-]

She should throw her out the window. Whether figuratively or literally is for y’all to decide.

[@kayq3231]

My pastor dedicated an entire sermon to how mental illnesses aren't God testing us, a punishment, or a reflection of our faith.

[@immortalsofar5314]

I'm one of those born atheists (the kind that the "god helmet" wouldn't do a thing because my brain isn't wired that way) and through theosocial events, I've come across all kinds of pastors who, apparently, are describing the same god. The ones I've got along best with are those who tend to be at odds with their church - the anarchist vicar who opened up the church hall to save the lives of the homeless during a freezing storm, the catholic missionary who laid into the psycho rebel to save his assistant. Religious people need to realise that their "opposition" accept anyone, even them. To them, we're the outside group but to a humanist they're still "one of us", just with some pretty weird ideas which, so long as they don't hurt anyone with them, don't matter at all.

[@devchekhov7512]

Your pastor rocks. Next time you see him, tell him that he truly is doing God's work and there needs to be more people like him in positions of influence.

[@kili_liniani_3768]

That actually sounds amazing!!! I actually got the sermon of “Mental illness is a demon tormenting you” and that if you have them “you are weak”. After that, whenever that pastor goes to my church, I don’t go. I felt so awkward because I have both a depression and an anxiety disorder. It was horrible

[@immortalsofar5314]

My cousin committed suicide when I was 17 (kind of - more like f*ck it, so what that lead to a semi-accidental overdose but that emerged later). The church's official stance on suicide is unchanged for centuries but the vicar gave his own take. We now see suicide as an illness and god does not punish sick people. That's a logic that holds with or without theological belief.

[@anndownsouth5070]

My pastor tried so hard to help my late husband with his depression. Since my husband wouldn't go for formal therapy, but our pastor had some training in that line, he took a hour or two every week to go drink coffee with hubby to try and help him. I believe that God gave us people to create medication for the problems that is in our lives because of the imperfect, broken world we live in.

[@atinyevil1383]

Story 1: NTA, so Emily is abusive. Got it. She’s being way too controlling.

[@mbyerly9680]

She was punishing OP for refusing to stay under her thumb. This could turn scary.

[@ruthbeamish8849]

Possibly Emily is in love with OP but cannot actually accept this reality. Just a thought!!

[@kevindoris4241]

I hope Emily never has kids that need medicine.

[@lynnw7155]

I wonder how much of OP's anxiety is due to Emily's controlling?

[@GIChiyo]

Story 1: if she is your "best friend" why do you need to hide your girlfriend from her?

[@bethanntay]

As a Christian... I would never throw someone's meds away. That is horrible. I wouldn't judge for needing a little help with something. She is horrible.

[@annisa8863]

How come your surname is Akhtar? ...or is that also a Christian name or something

[@toysruskid5074]

@@annisa8863 Hyphenated names typically mean marriage. And judging someone's religion by their name is... kinda racist.

[@carolroberts4614]

I don't know much about anxiety, but it seems to me that Emily could have made it worse over the years!

[@joaolima7131]

@@annisa8863 As gay and a previous Christian, I have to agree with the commenter below, people are allowed to have any name they want, regardless of religion, even if you don't believe in God, I think religious people must be respected, not all of them are ignorant and overbearing.

[@annisa8863]

@@joaolima7131 OK, did I say any of that what you're claiming though? Dude if you want to be offended by someone being curious, fine. Its your problem though, not mine. I find this whole thing pretty laughable tbh. I shouldn't have to justify myself, if you want to create something out of nothing, do it. You both clearly got issues.

[@halleyangel1706]

Coming off Prozac or zoloft like that is like getting off strong hard drugs. You can even have seizures from not coming off them in a healthy way (you're weaned off them)

[@insideAdirtyMind]

I had to get a medication change and I was not allowed to take my previous pills anymore because of heart problems. I puked 3 days nonstop under medical attention. An aprupt discontinue of such medication is no joke, this can end the life of a person.

[@Daydream_N]

I actually had a seizure bc I abruptly stopped a certain medication

[@elaexplorer]

Yeah suddenly cutting off prozac can cause overwhelming self harm thoughts and actions

[@memyselfandi7782]

As a christian, traumatic event that needs treatment, what has she even done to make her need to repent?!?!?!That is THE stupidest thing i've ever heard. She's abusive. Point. BLANK.

[@ginathecookie]

agreed

[@Digitalfairy]

I'm an autistic Catholic that still has trouble with social interactions and even I know better than to mess with someone's medication. Emily's just nuts and using her faith to excuse her thoughtless actions.

[@indianspartan76]

Story 1: ironically, Emily needs a therapist and likely anxiety medication if hearing pills rattling while she's in the shower bothers her

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

S2: NTA, and the boyfriend stealing the money is 100% unacceptable, and he is TA, but he seems like he’s being abused by his dad, and I’m a bit annoyed no one is bringing that up. His dad lost his girlfriend’s jewelry, and tells his 17 year old SON to give him $800?! The son was more afraid of his father’s reaction than the repercussions of stealing from his mom? What type of relationship could this kid have with his parents where he reacts like this as a teenager? The rest of the son’s behavior seems like the actions of a kid whose been raised on eggshells and has been conditioned to blame himself when things go wrong. If the “parentification” thing is true, then the reason he’s always nervous about other people’s safety seems like he’s been blamed a lot for times when his siblings did something wrong or got hurt. I bet that when his sister broke her arm, he got an earful from his dad about how he could have done something about it. I’m glad he’s getting therapy, because he ABSOLUTELY needs it.

[@patriciaviles4033]

Bingo. Dad has definitely raised him with a “everything bad in my life is your fault and it’s your job to fix it,” mentality. Asking your son to pay for his screw up? No assholes here except for the BF’s dad. Jfc, that makes me mad. That poor kid needs his professional help and a 17 year old girl should not be expected to be able to handle that. Breaking up was the best thing until he can get his stuff together.

[@soulmate5750]

100% correct

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: *NTA* You NEVER mess with someone’s meds. Religion is not an excuse. And honestly she’s being like those crazy evangelical Christians telling OP that her anxiety is a punishment from God. Kind of ablest…. Emily needs to stay in her lane. Don’t apologize to Emily, I would’ve screamed and cussed her out too. OP should talk to their DA and try to get a change in living situation. Honestly hearing the last part where OP knows Emily will hold a grudge for a while and feels guilty for making Emily upset by turning her phone off…… Emily sounds like one of those very overbearing/Overcontrolling/dominant friends that will make your life a living hell if you don’t do what they want…..the fact OP has to hide her girlfriend out of fear of Emily‘s reaction and how to make sure the pills don’t rattle….. this is not a way to live and honestly that doesn’t seem like a friendship worth keeping. Honestly constantly thinking about how to not make Emily upset it’s just going to make anxiety worse. Op does not need a friend they had to walk eggshells around to live their life and will use religion to gaslight them about their mental health. ATU: Wow really goes to show how Emily was a blight on Op’s life. STORY 2: *NTA* Originally I was going to put YTA because it seems like boyfriend is just one of those caring and compassionate people that will go the extra mile to help those he loves…..until I heard he stole $800 from his mom to give it to his dad. That is BS especially since he most likely had no intentions of giving his mom $100 to replace what he stole from her. Glad Op gave the woman a heads up. Honestly you can’t do villainous things, like stealing from your mother, so you can come out as the hero. ATU: Glad he’s getting help. Honestly the way he was going about helping people by stealing… I know we all heard the phrase don’t set yourself on fire to keep people warm. Him stealing money from his mother to help his dad is basically setting the cold person on fire to warn them up.

[@damien678]

"a punishment from God" aight, im with the devil then lmao

[@TheNormExperience]

Thank you! You *NEVER* mess with someone’s meds!

[@VFKAdventureRabbit]

Not to say it's a valid excuse, it just sounds like Christianity is the excuse she uses for her behavior though, and I hate that kind of thing. Last I checked Jesus wasn't anti-medicine, and he was DEFINITELY against stealing, so on either aspect, it wasn't the Christian thing of her to do to steal and destroy medication. Jesus also wanted people to spread Christianity through actions more than words, and her aggressive hostile actions are DEFINITELY not the message to send about Christianity. It's people like this who give Christians a bad name. Much more Old-Testament than New, a lot more "fire and brimstone" about their beliefs than "love and forgiveness".

[@theminisimmer]

I'm an evangelical Christian and use medication to manage my mood. No one should use their religion as an excuse for doing that.

[@karimygirl5826]

The boyfriend thought he was Robin Hood.

[@n7hughesgaming223]

I get the feeling that the boyfriend in story 2 gets manipulated by his dad A LOT. Like I wouldn’t be surprised if the boyfriend is the way he is due to his dad blaming him for everything bad that ever happened to the family and then holding it over his head as a way to guilt him into doing his bidding.

[@Azulakayes]

Agreed

[@Zaddy-Lu]

Story 2: he needs serious therapy. That level of needing to "protect" others is not normal, and he needs to learn to let people be. Plus, that level of needing to help/protect others is going to turn into a crippling level of guilt for not being able to rescue people, as well as being exhausting for his loved ones. Add to that him flippantly stealing from. His mom to give to his dad, it shows that him feeling like he's helping is what's most important, even if he has to hurt people to do it. Ultimately, he's being selfish.

[@Hellion912]

Came here to say this but knew in my heart it had already been said. ❤

[@fulanadetal6099]

He sounds like my neurotic overbearing mom. He needs to acknowledge he has a problem and needs therapy.

[@adambartlett114]

Yup, it's entirely selfish but mostly it's OCD. He has tied his emotional well being to being the hero & is controlling everything to manage his anxiety attempting the impossible... I see it in dogs all the time, a highly submissive dog being forced into the role of dominant. The job really eats them alive. They turn into pretty vicious bullies in an effort to control their own anxiety.

[@fishbowl5308]

I see the stealing from his mom more about his dad poisoning him against the mom. I don't see him as a bad guy just a broken one. I have a feeling his dad put it in his head that a real man protects everyone and turned him against his mom probably made her out as some monster. Hopefully he does get the help he needs because poor guy definitely needs it

[@RockinTheBassGuitar]

Holy crap, people can die from chemical withdrawal from anxiety meds. No matter what recourse OP uses she isn't the a-hole.

[@rmhartman]

it doesn't matter what her intentions were, that was a crime. literally. a criminal act.

[@brianbarber5401]

She did not have good intentions

[@RylieRiddle]

S1: What in the literal fuck is OP suppose to repent for in Emily's mind?!!?? For grieving her parents dying? Having a disorder that modern science can help abate? Glad OP saw it before Emily did something worse, like calling her culty friends to kidnap her and force her to repent whatever she saw as sin. S2: NTA, the first bit sounds like anxiety he needed to see to but stealing from his mother for his dad and criticizing her parenting makes him crappy. The update mentioned parentification so he needs help but good on OP getting out of that relationship before he ran himself into the ground.

[@milieg3309]

pretty sure he broke up with her, her update was all about how he didn't ignore her on purpose and shit like that so she was definitely not in the mood to break up. I feel like she put the bit about breaking up coz she felt embarrassed. Pretty sure she just wanted him to forgive her solely for the validation

[@emilybarclay8831]

In a shocking number of Christian circles (even some of the more ‘progressive’ ones) mental health and even physical health issues are a result of personal moral/spiritual failings and you must have done _something_ to deserve it. Much of Christianity is based on self-shaming, after all (everyone is born with sin that MUST be cleansed)

[@EmmyKirk14]

Story 1: Just because you've been friends for a long time doesn't give them the right to treat you badly. OP is NTA

[@2Ten1Ryu]

I wonder if Emily actually might have contributed to OPs anxiety. I know a couple where that was the case.

[@shells500tutubo]

Just an fyi, Prozac is one of the few anti-depressants with a long half-life, and withdrawal symptoms, if they happen at all, would not show up until a week or more. SO OP's reaction the same day was more related to just knowing what had happened than a physiological reaction to deprivation. That said, a police report definitely needs to be filed against Emily, and she is just crazy enough to own up to everything OP has told us, because she is a "true believer". She deserves a criminal record, or whatever it is she can be charged with. And SHE should be the one who gets kicked out of the dorm, or she can find someone as religious as she is to room with.

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 2: There is some definite pathology here, possibly overcompensating for perceived lack of control in some part of his life, sounds connected to Father's behaviour. He needs some help pronto. Good for you for notifying his mom.

[@WobblesandBean]

Agreed. This guy sounds exhausting to be around, let alone date. OP needs to dump him pronto, if he's willing to steal close to a grand from his mom without even a moment's hesitation, just think of what else he might be capable of. OP is not safe around this guy, especially since he refuses to acknowledge that there's something wrong with him.

[@scifiwriter6092]

Growing up, my mother's purse might as well have been Fort Knox. Even as an adult, if she asked me to get something out of her purse, I would just hand her the whole bag. I can't imagine stealing from my mother. Her trust was sacred.

[@owl7072]

Same, my relationship with my mom is a bit strained but even I would never steal from her. She could ask me to get her glasses or wallet from her bag and I'd just hand the whole thing to her because even though she _literally_ asked me to, it feels almost wrong to go through her stuff.

[@scifiwriter6092]

@@owl7072 You sounds like a really nice person. I hope things smooth out between you and your mother. But if there is no way to bridge the gap between you and her, I hope that you find acceptance and love in other people who care.

[@owl7072]

@@scifiwriter6092 Thanks, and I think her and I will be fine once I've moved out. That's sounds bad lol but I know her, and me leaving gives both of us a chance to calm down since part of the strain is from us just being stuck in the same house on a daily basis and not having a space where we can be alone.

[@logirl1975]

The update to the second story was what I'd thought it would be. When OP was describing his actions it felt like there was a lot more behind it than trying to be there for everyone. It had a manic compulsion appearance. I hope he gets all the help he needs.

[@Lillypop93]

Coming off of medicine like that can really wreck you and it can cause side effects to start going back on them I went through this myself with an ex I feel bad for OP

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Story 1: Holy SHIT. I also suffer from GAD and need to take SSRIs. I had tried a year of just PD therapy and my psychologist and I concluded it wasn't enough alone. I started taking SSRIs (Sertraline/Zoloft) and the difference was staggering. I suffered from severe anxiety symptoms from just *living*. Every social interaction used to be a mental spiral. I had to think, plan, and overthink every move I made, every sound I made, every *breath I took*. While my anxiety isn't completely gone, God, I can't imagine going off my meds and getting horrific stomach aches from the thought of stepping outside my house. If my "best friend" would rather I revert back to how I was before taking my meds, they don't know me or care about me. All of my friends and even acquaintances noticed that I was much happier and more confident after taking meds. The fact OP's *best friend* couldn't see how much better OP was on her meds and wanted her to go back to how she was before shows how self-centered her so-called friend is. Thank God OP removed her from her life.

[@LaineyBug2020]

Me after reading title: FILE CHARGES!!!

[@queen_of_flatulence]

Hello beautiful person!

[@theloverlyladylo9158]

Story 2: NTA. Jesus, that dude sounds exhausting. He sounds like he has a legit anxiety issue, but as someone with anxiety, you do not get to take your shit out on other people. Having to walk on eggshells constantly because this dude thinks literally everything is his fault sounds like hell to deal with, and I say this as someone who tends toward that. Sometimes, you need the reality check rather than the hug

[@bunnyslippers191]

From the description he seems to have massive anxiety and possibly OCD. He needs help ASAP.

[@felipeamezquita7827]

I'm a catholic and can say this isn't her being a crazy religious person she's just a crazy controll freak I'm pretty sure most catholic and Christians would listen to this story and say this girl is insane.

[@dancing0nthe3dge]

I RAN to comment on the second story. I have diagnosed OCD and what the boyfriend is experiencing, obsessing about something bad possibly happening... Two people he loves, needing to rescue them, temporary relief, cycle repeats... Obsession, compulsion, temporary relief, this sounds like OCD. Edit: I'm not trying to diagnose him, and I'm not saying that his actions are okay or that this excuses him stealing the $800, it absolutely does not... However I would look into a psychological evaluation.

[@jodieg6318]

Oddly enough the story reminded me of an episode of Supernanny when she was dealing with a boy that had a super hero obsession because his baby sister had something wrong with her brain. He wanted to care for and save her so hence the super heroes as a coping mechanism.

[@moonbear5929]

First Story: Sounds like Emily could use some Prozac and chill out! What is her problem? No one should ever touch some one else's meds. Cold stopping drugs like Prozac is dangerous! If some one wants to stop those, you have to slowly wean yourself off with the guidance of a doctor. It can take weeks to months to do it! Emily is the asshole for sure! She has gone overboard with her "protection" over OP. Time to end that relationship. Second Story: I had a feeling this guy has this hero complex because of some sort of pressure his parent(s) put on him as a child. He needs to go to therapy to talk out his anxieties to a professional and get some help to move past the trauma that makes him act like this. I'm glad he's getting some help. I don't know what that entails per se, but at least it's a start. I hope he calms down and gets better.

[@AKASANJEEWA]

2nd story. You bf has anxiety and his father is one of the enablers. Asking a teenager for 800 bucks! What's wrong with him?

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@AndyyWithAY]

At 17 you shouldn't be carrying the weight of an unstable person on your shoulders. You need to look after yourself. He needs professional help, maybe there can be a friendship in the future

[@somedragonbastard]

Story 2: BF needs therapy and maybe meds. That level of paranoia and anxiety is not healthy.

[@viennperidot1119]

Story 1: NTA. My Uncle Mchad schizophrenia and his older brother (my other Uncle) started taking Uncle M to the church he and his wife were part of. This church is a global one, notoriously anti-psych-medicine and anti-LGBT behind their shiny public image. The encouraged Uncle M to stop taking his meds and start praying instead. He developed a morbid obsession with the story of Jesus' death and resurrection. He tapped out of life at Easter several years ago. From what we can piece together, he became obsessed with the idea that Jesus would make him perfect after death, maybe giving the voices in his head their own bodies so he could talk to them face-to-face. (Uncle M said he felt lonely when he took his meds bc he couldn't talk to the voices anymore.) His neighbours found him on his living room floor on Easter Sunday, when they got back from their long weekend away and wondered why his alarm clock was going off in the middle of the afternoon. Post-mortem confirmed it was self-inflicted and he had been lying there for at least three days. That funeral was the closest in my life I have ever come to punching a preacher of any stripe. NOT THE ASSHOLE. People who think like your frenemy (seriously, that's NOT a friend) currently does get people killed.

[@ajzephyros7454]

If someone did that with my meds, if I didn't get them back within a few days... it would be bad. Really bad, like Psyche ward bad. I've been there once, it was hell.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - OP is NTA. And wait a minute; how did BF's dad 'lose' jewelry? pawned it and gambled? bought drugs? was transporting it and 'lost' it? sounds fishy AF to me. And this kid had the balls to outright steal $800 from a single mom raising 3 kids? no, that kid needed a big reality check and it sounds as if OP needs to just step away now.

[@rylashadow18]

S1) This isn't a friend this is a control freak that's demanding of being the center of attention at all times. No one who values you would ever be so careless as to throw away any of your medication unless you said there was something wrong. The fact that she demands an apology for being so self centered is just unimaginable. I say don't apologies, let her cut all contact in fact be the first to do so. She wants you to feel bad for having boundaries, other friends/ people who take priority to her and her behavior is unhealthy. Do what you need to do for your safety and well being cause this isn't a friend. That update was an eye opener for the OP. That ex friend wanted her to think the only person she needed was them. The only person that cared for her was them. Just straight up abusive and toxic. I'm so glad OP's moving forward in a loving, healthy and positive way. S2) He stole from his mom which is a crime to give money that wasn't his to someone else? That's not being a hero that's being a yes man and there can be burn out to this. Trying to live up to other's expectations and you loose sight of your own. Eventually there's going to come a time where he can't please everyone at once. He might need help with counseling to get to the root of why he feels he always has to please everyone at the expense of possibly harming others. Cause stealing from his mom has harmed her. That money was for bills, rent, and food not for his dad. If he doesn't have the money himself he doesn't get to take it from others. I'd say its time to sit down explain that his behavior is concerning and that you want him to get help. He's hurt his mom by stealing from her. He's 17 years old which means he can be charged as a criminal for that theft. Is throwing his whole future away worth it to please people who are old enough to be looking out for themselves as adults and parents? Cause he's going down that way if he continues this behavior and the next time he does something illegal he can be facing consequences. Good that you told his mom. If he can't see he has a problem it's time to ask if you're ready to be the one to bail him out from his consequences? Cause that's the road he's leading you to OP. Honestly I bet the dad lied about loosing that jewlery just to get him to "Help out!". In that update it just proves the dad was manipulating his sons desires to be "Helpful." I also agree he needs to get himself looked after before he thinks of moving on with his life. Mark you make great art and I love seeing your work!

[@Nevermore-Nevermore]

I have a couple disabilities and I have to take medication throughout the day. Honestly, judgement of medication taking is huge. Only had one friend react badly when she saw my meds, told me “you’re addicted” and “you need to stop”…yeah, myself and my friend group cut her out.

[@lornaackerman7022]

Story 1: your roommate is not your friend and she has untreated problems.

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 1: NTA. There is no justifiable reason for anyone to touch YOUR meds. A psychiatrist prescribed those to you and they do not do so lightly because each prescription is a risk to their license. If they prescribed the meds to YOU then only YOU can decide what to do with the meds. Again, there is NO excusable justification to mess with someone else's meds. And her being Christian has nothing to do with it. The fact she did this shows she is not following the faith. One of the 10 Commandments is "Thou shall not steal", which is what she did by taking your meds without permission and throwing them away. I hate it when other "Christians" misrepresent our faith and/or distort it for their own purposes.

[@missymeakin6945]

Don't be surprised if a good portion of your anxieties are because of your ex friend and your symptoms are now reduced now that you have cut contact.

[@damien678]

I forgot to take my antidepressants (thats used for my fibromyalgia as well) for two days and could barely stand because I was wobbling on my feet that much, and that's a much more mild withdrawal reaction. FFS. It wrecked me and freaked me out so much I try much harder to not go under, nor to even think about going over, what's prescribed to me.

[@eamsee657]

STORY 2) Speaking as someone that has been diagnosed and in treatment for PTSD for going on a decade now, the boyfriend may have some unresolved trauma. Hypervigilance is a common symptom of PTSD and one of the ones that seems to get overlooked in society the most. The brain gets stuck in the "fight or flight" mode and it's incredibly difficult to turn that off.

[@damien678]

this, my hypervigilance was baaad, and i have a pretty bad fight response (at least emotionally, i try very hard not to throw myself at loud noises outside and end up just freezing up instead)

[@SuperBatSpider]

I think if OP didn’t leave Emily would try to make them a blood sacrifice

[@starbird3939]

Story 2 - NTA Stealing money from someone to help clean someone else’s messes is not being a hero, it’s committing a crime. The father is an obvious piece of work.

[@TangomanX2008]

Story 2 NTA, tell him to get counseling. End the relationship.

[@kili_liniani_3768]

Story 1: NTA absolutely. I come from a very religious family. They didn’t want me to go to therapy for my anxiety and depression, the just told me to pray or tough it out. It took me having a big panic attack in front of more than 100 people for them to actually think “huh, maybe she does need therapy”. To this day, they still force stressful inducing situations on me on purpose, with the belief that doing that will take away my anxiety disorder. You cannot stay close to people who see your disability as an easy thing to cure. They wouldn’t tell a person with Cancer or any other physical thing to tough it up like that, or to not take their meds and just pray it away

[@alexlibby5087]

Story 1; NTA WTF, NEVER throw away someone’s prescription meds - especially anxiety meds. I take Effexor - if someone threw that away and I had to miss more than 1 dose? I literally can NOT function the withdrawal happens so quick and STRONG. Worse than any hangover I’ve ever experienced and the mood swings are scary This is so so so not ok

[@jettaspop]

Story 1: This is an excellent example of the sunk cost fallacy. OP has invested so much time and energy into this relationship they don't want to see it end, no matter how toxic it is.

[@AndyyWithAY]

How can you be the AH. He stole from his own mother. Can you say delusional!

[@terramarini6880]

May have been the rent money, everyone could have been homeless. He has a problem, if mom had not intercepted in time he may well have snapped trying to rectify the crisis he created.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Wow first story get away from that nut job! She is dangerous! Run run run!

[@prin0428]

Story 1: I feel so bad for OP in this story! The audacity of her friend to take another person's PRESCRIBED medication, and flush it! WTAF is wrong with this crazy friend???? Who does that? OP needs to get this person out of her life. Good luck OP

[@sherryflanigan7680]

I'm surprised no one touched on the fact that she said Emily thinks her girlfriend is just her "friend". If you have to hide your relationship or who you truly are from someone, that is definitely not your friend.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 1: OP should've called the cops as soon as the roommate admitted to stealing the medication and flushing it. Then she should've given their college the police report of the incident and let them deal with disciplining her from their end too.

[@markiusgalfordii9248]

I'm sorry to say but your friends is psycho one of these times you're going to make her mad and you're going to wake up with a pillow over your face or a knife to your throat she's already through where your medication she wants to control where you are where you go who you hang out with it sounds like a possession person I've heard men do this in relationships I've heard women do it in relationships this is the first time I've heard about a friend doing it do not let her use her religion for a excuse there is no excuse for the actions she's done

[@HunnieSuckle24]

Story 1: Emily liked the control that she had over OP. OP came off as a pushover for Emily and Emily knew how to play off that. She used her anxiety as a weapon against OP. Now that OP has come out of her mental fog and has seen the light, Emily is angry that she can't control OP anymore. Even with their friends, Emily can lie to them and turn them against OP. They don't even like her.

[@pamlew338]

She threw out your meds as punishment because you didn't listen to her

[@tooblessed8815]

I always wonder when one of these OP's will post "friend did this and I beat her to a pulp!" rather than I yelled or exploded at her. Some of these friends would be chewing on their teeth like it is Chiclets gum. I wouldn't hide a dam thing nor would I apologize. Emily would be put out of school.

[@bethanntay]

Hope all is well for everyone everyone!!.

[@queen_of_flatulence]

Hello beautiful person!

[@bethanntay]

@@queen_of_flatulence awww you're so kind!. Hello! Hope you are having a wonderful day/night!!.

[@gaxalee7392]

I have two different anxiety meds. One I take daily, and the other I only take as needed. If either was stolen or destroyed by someone, I’d never talk to them or their supporters again. I need those meds so I don’t spiral and panic and lose all functionality. That boyfriend needs therapy if every slightly trouble thing sends into a panic. He’s constantly stressing over the vague possibility someone might need help, and he decided to force others to participate in his “heroism”(i.e. stealing from his mom to help his dad). I feel sorry for him, but his mental health struggles and hero complex can’t be other people’s problems.

[@MidnaNightengale]

Story 2: "The road to Hell, is paved with good intentions"

[@amilikestea433]

Saying someone's "heart is in the right place" is like saying "That's just how they/ I am" or "I'm just being honest." They are all phrases to explain away and normalize bad behavior.

[@TangomanX2008]

Story 1. End that friendship. That person is dangerous to you.

[@mkaylor121]

Need to tell your brother that she is no longer in your life so that she doesn't report to him a bunch of lies

[@markiusgalfordii9248]

Wow second story I think this kid might need a little help seriously get him into a psychiatrist if he's that worried about stuff happening to where he's looking out for it I think there's a mental problem there he might end up hurting himself or someone else by accident he's only 17 and you're only 17 you got plenty of time but please try to get him help

[@battiekoda]

S1: What is Emily's deal?!?!?! Ok, so OP is out, living her life, hasn't picked up your call. Aaaaaaaannnnnd...... What? What is SO urgent that you can't wait for her to get back? Oh, nothing, so you'll just flush her meds instead because...... Why?

[@dm9078]

NTA time to find a new roommate and friend! Edit: Actually it is long past time to get rid of this lunatic. Stop being a doormat! Boyfriend needs serious help and OP needs to dump this nut bag now. NTA! For her own health she needs to leave him alone permanently!

[@itrasheditgood]

I think Emily had a suspicion of OP’s relationship, that is why she was on this whole, you need to pray for your sins kick. She somehow equated OP’s love of her gf to be a result of her prescription pill consumption. Her extreme Christian views were not in line with OP’s views, it was time to break the friendship up since neither could live with each other anymore. I think OP just simply outgrew Emily and Emily couldn’t respect OP’s life choices, I mean she crossed every boundary imaginable and expected OP to bow down. Good on OP for surrounding herself with a positive support group and cutting ties with that toxic woman.

[@Hinatachan360]

No one in their right mind would throw away someone's medication! That's just cruel and evil!

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#2 Ops boyfriend needs some serious help and needs to drop his ass. Good update

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 - NTA The girl has gotten power hungry from being OP’s caretaker for so long-and lashed out when OP decided to not be her helpless little patient. I am glad OP took every proper measure: reported the stolen meds to the school, stayed with better people, and cut that woman out of OP’s life.

[@tabbynakamura]

I think it's time to move away from "Emily." She's not a friend with the way she acts and it seems like OP knows it. Emily tracks her, threw away her meds and is clearly quite controlling. You don't get to push your religion and beliefs on other people and if you're going to be that way then you shouldn't have a roommie. Tbh, I'd be going to the dorm president about it. Also Emily's bf can go kick rocks without shoes.

[@jonstephenson9660]

Story 2: yea, pretty much from the start I was thinking “that doesn’t sound like a hero complex. That sounds like serious trauma”… glad he’s getting help, glad OP’s doing good now and wants to remain supportive. Good news all around.

[@h30202]

Story 2. Bf needs therapy. I think something happened in the past that makes him this way.

[@Silence-1170]

Have a great rest of your day waffles hope again that it's waffletastic!

[@noydb-1]

Good thing she ditched the Jebus Psycho. I'm pretty sure her next step would have been to kidnap OP and have her and have her sent to a re-education camp to cure her after coming out. I'm going to guess the "freind" was one of the things that triggered OPs condition.

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

Story 1 NTA You should give a extremely sarcastic apology like "I'm sorry you felt entitled enough to toss out my medication and got surprised I got angry"

[@LaineyBug2020]

Jesus actually tells his followers to use the medicine and listen to physicians of his day.

[@queenwilco3723]

As a person who just went off of antidepressants after years of being on them, going cold turkey could put you in a state like an addict going through withdrawals. It took 2 weeks of sweats, shaking, fevers, nausea, sleeping a lot, extremely scary and vivid dreams, dizziness, weakness and feeling bruised to the bone all down my backside, before I felt somewhat normal. There were several points I thought about going to the hospital. The thing is I quit due to high blood pressure the med contributed to. I would never, ever, ever do it that way again.

[@rokuth]

On the first story, I wonder if Emily is a closet lesbian/bisexual? A lot of her reactions can be also read as jealousy ( constantly texting/calling OP while she was out on her date, then blowing up at her when she gets back). If Emily is such a extreme Christian, then she would still date the opposite sex because it is the proper Christian thing to do. If Emily does have feelings for OP, it would push her to have such strong reactions and behave irrationally.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: Request for a new roommate. You can do just that if the living situation is toxic, which your roommate is at fault of creating. And apply for a new best friend while you’re at it girl. You deserve friends that don’t hurt you and don’t hate you for you or what you have to take to be healthy. You especially don’t need a friend who is trying to preach religion when you’re clearly not interested. You especially X2 do not need a friend who throws away your pills that you need to function throughout the day and be healthy. Praying to god will do absolutely nothing but appease the egos of those who believe in him.

[@arnold-shortsnigga]

Imagine your child stealing $800 from you for your ex's new boo

[@kimmurphy6621]

Story 2- clearly NTA but I have to comment on how some redditors were referring to him being a white knight. Clearly he has major issues he needs to get addressed, it doesn't sound like he is trying to be the hero it sounds like he is plagued with this intense worry for other peoples lives. That's not the same thing.

[@alyzu4755]

Definitely. He needs help. He's going to fall apart if he continues on this way

[@kkwatson8105]

Stopping some medications cold turkey can cause side effects ranging from headaches and nausea to stroke. That was an ignorant, cruel, and dangerous thing Emily did. Plus, don't flush pills! It can complicate water treatment or harm the environment.

[@stan8479]

The comments on that second story drive me up a wall. There is clearly something not right with the boyfriend, given that he's anxious all the time and has admitted himself that he can't help it. Also, none of the commenters know fuck all about his dad - he could've threatened him for all they know. It's all very unsympathetic. He's a kid.

[@cheskydivision]

Friend took your med you should have reported to the police right away. Room mate sounds like a nut. Break contact ASAP.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - OP is NTA and I have an interesting take, considering the absolute fit the friend threw when OP turned off her phone; makes me wonder if friend is secretly attracted to or in love with OP (even with her xtian leanings) and that is why she screamed about the phone being turned off and threw out the pills - hoping to make OP even more dependent on her. Just a thought. Really glad OP is far away from that circus, has GF, supportive family/friends and decent new roommate!

[@lyragwen1895]

first story: she's not a good friend. You need to change to another dorm because you are not safe without your meds. No one should be entitled to that level of control over you and you should not let her.

[@kathleenmayhorne3183]

Your boy friend needs a diagnosis, or counselling at the very least, to learn to deal with his anxiety in a more healthy way. This is not really a funny story, he could easily end up in jail. It needs someone to notice how off things are, and get the attention of someone who can legally take charge, like his mum, for this behaviour to be assessed. He needs help, this is not normal. Your brother is wrong, you can see it more clearly because you are closer than most, but not used to ignoring his idiosyncrasies which may be escalating, more than his family realise, as his illness progresses.

[@sephaya1563]

I have the slight feeling if OP in Story 2 was a man talking about his gf the response would be different. He cleary has psychological problems. But OP thinks it is a "complex" like he can just turn it off ans does all that stuff to feel superior or something. It sounds more like he is always anxious and scared no matter what happens. And instead of trying to get him to find help she tells him he has a hero-complex. Great girlfriend. The only right thing was to tell the mother what happened.

[@AlmightyCRJ]

I can't help but think if the commandment 'Thou shalt not steal.'

[@thatomnivoreteacher6869]

If my best friend threw out my medication I would have a complete meltdown, thankfully my best friend would never do that

[@NottyAries]

Story 1: imagine that! A Christian against anxiety meds was a big contributer to OPs anxiety.

[@ezra2701]

Story 1: I take 50gm of Motox or the “homebrand” (I cant remember the name) anxiety meds. I lost my meds for a bit over a month and I had so many issues. My memory was worse, my anxiety spiked, I was suicidal and not to mention the fact my meds are pretty strong so I had withdrawals from it as well. Never EVER touch someone’s meds unless they give you permission (eg “can you pass me my meds”) touching someone’s meds is messing with their life and maybe others (depending on the reason they’re in meds)

[@myeternalteardrop]

What does it matter if OP shut off her phone? She's an adult! Emily is not her mother, nor is she even a friend.

[@katemarr1984]

Have not read second story as the first one set me on 🔥. The roommate put OP'S in a situation that could have killed her and/or seriously harmed her - what an Ahole!

[@NanMax]

She's not a friend!

[@riceracm]

11:34 _Just speaking from personal experience here,_ the boyfriend sounds like he’s suffering from some type of OCD disorder…unfortunate situation all around

[@JP-eh4ee]

Story 1:. Emily is not your best friend.