My Take on the Nigerian Cardiologist That Deleted Himself in the Usa | Marriage Is Not Everything

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[@Shadedgray]

You have never married or dated a western woman. You don’t know anything about these women.

[@drcharlesapoki]

@shadedgray Sir we want to learn from your experience Sir explain more , because her father is a Nigerian. We need to learn from your experience who has dated or married them. It will help us a great deal. God bless you sir.

[@ifecoAE]

especially the black ones. Western blacks are a kind of people that will break every law known to mankind and still remain the victims.

[@Shadedgray]

@@drcharlesapoki her father might be Nigerian but she has been westernized. Many Nigerian women spend less than 2 years abroad and become hyenas. What then do you expect from a woman raised by a philandering father? I don’t believe the physical abuse excuse without evidence as it’s been shown that women lie unprovoked and they are believed majority of the time. I won’t claim to know the whole of the story but I’ll say this; if you like treat western women like queens they usually feel there are greener pastures outside. The mentality is creeping into Nigerian society quickly.

[@walebanire9284]

And so ... ?

[@Shadedgray]

@@walebanire9284 who hasn’t gone and doesn’t know people who have first hand are dealing with conjecture.

[@ChiomaBeulah]

We must hold the things of this world with loose hands, anything/ anyone that wants to leave you just let go and maintain your peace, this life is not eternal. Thank you doctor Apoki for your insightful video . My heartfelt condolences to the grieving family of late Ikenna Erinne

[@effectdirect001]

I agree

[@Resilientlizzy]

Take your flowers doctor Apoki. Very well said. Great analysis

[@zeb-ovienoel3716]

Your frankness as a preacher is phenomenal. God bless you Sir ❤

[@obaroaluya3762]

Am telling you. So frank & spot

[@terigibsonTrainer]

You are saying something! Life is more than marriage. When we understand our life is more than anything, we won't be so stressed and angry about things that happen in life.

[@sharonwilliams2582]

Thanks for sharing your insights, sir. Life is more than marriage.

[@FB-hv6gf]

I just discovered you today. I live as you live, here in beautiful Seattle, and not addicted to anything or anyone, not even my small beautiful Yoruba family. You are funny and speak the truth.

[@cakeuniverseltd5718]

Because his parents are still together doesn’t mean they are stable. It is not how long but how well

[@chyko635]

I love you, Apoki. You're a blessing to this generation

[@adeobinyan]

A very serious discussion, yet delivered with humor-I couldn't stop giggling! That brother lacked street sense. There might also be more to the story than meets the eye.

[@tierraokonkwo6671]

There is always more, but May God bless him

[@jakoboliver5187]

Yes definitely there is more to it. Very sad 😢

[@faugrace]

You do not know what you are talking about. What is street sense? Street sense is actually foolishness disguised as “being smart”, that hurts others in the process. It is street sense that destroyed the mentality of most Nigerians. So, don’t come on here and be promoting that nonsense.

[@Godson02-lq1rh]

​@@faugrace can you pls calm down? Why all these aggression? Can't people disagree in a respectful & dignified manner? Na wa o.

[@layikannike7828]

That was an intellectual conversation, thank you sir.

[@Dana-rd7pu]

Oh my goodness. Sir, you nailed this 👏

[@irenechidi1429]

Your frankness is so phenomenal that there is no second you sir. Keep teaching, you are a gift to this generation, l have told my son to be listinging to your teachings.

[@Michael.P247]

Very wise of you to have introduced your son to this Chanel. There are so many other Chanels on KZbin with wicked women (mostly women based in the western world ) putting up videos about this Ikenna matter and overly supporting his partner (baby mama). May your son never ever meet their type.

[@patsonu774]

I love the perspective you always bring to issues❤. Thank you sir.

[@Elante0808]

It’s the “ YOU BE WITCH “ for me 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Chin-li2xy]

First time here, I've subscribed. Your video is very Insightful, God, bless you sir. RIP Ikenna🙏

[@odettetumenta4248]

Dr Apoki, you dish out wisdom in a very hilarious way 😅

[@josephesenu2282]

There is more to life than marriage! Dr Charles Apoki

[@georgeokechi7540]

Absolutely

[@OluremiOtitoju]

Absolutely correct ​@@georgeokechi7540

[@cheryl_isaac]

So true

[@annmaxwell6728]

We love you Dr. Apoki,you are an embodiment of knowledge 😂😂😂

[@florence8236]

You said it all Dr Apoko. God bless you. Nothing is worth your life.Jesus has paid the price both for your life and your soul.

[@folukeoyedeji9213]

Great wisdom, Dr. Apoki.

[@modesolamichael1867]

You made sense too much that i subscribed and liked today 👍👍👍👍👍👍 good job sir

[@azzariomaperdijbssa]

It's always good to hear from you Dr Apoki... so much wisdom ✨️

[@JosephineAgim-ds8uc]

Very good advice Dr, all of us should learn from your take. Tnk you!!!

[@ShayB-w3x]

What a loss. One of the largest heart hospitals in the Caribbean is founded and run by Nigerian US trained cardiologists. Smaller underserved areas would have been happy to embrace him. Or big cities. New frontiers. So sad.

[@tierraokonkwo6671]

If people understand the kind of love God have for them by loving themselves , they will not unalive themselves

[@Healing_with_Joy]

God afternoon sir! Always amazing to see you and hear your words of wisdom. I think I have come to realise that our generation lack proper problem solving abilities, basically the skill of how to abase and abound as Paul pits it. The ability to break situations down and pick the best solution and keep it moving. People like control and only God can handle control. Thank God for fathers like you sir, who give sound wisdom and encouragement to learn to keep moving. Much love sir.

[@zionsville22]

Wow! To think that I read about Rebecca,Isaac,Jacob,Esau and Laban yesterday. It baffled me last night how deception was a thing in the family. Honestly, only the Holy Spirit can reveal these things to us. RIP Nkenna( I hope got your name right) keep resting in the bossom of our God 🙏

[@onyinyembata5516]

God bless you doctor. You made my evening today.

[@Divinity11112]

Dr. Apoki, the embodiment of wisdom ❤

[@tonyufuah5278]

Almighty God bless you abundantly sir

[@RealTalk196]

I really enjoy your practicality and down to earth attitude in your videos. I watch silently, but I am compelled to explain few things many people, especially those in Nigeria May not be aware of. I explain this as an elderly person who reside in America, raise 5 children (men & women) almost 40 yrs. 1: The stress in the USA is not comparable to anywhere is in the world. 2: Depression is very frequent here and suicide occurs when a depressed person is so overwhelmed and see no way out. 3: The affected person needs therapy to get over a depressed state. 4: family support is crucial! Parenting does not end at 18. We have to still carry our adult children spiritually and psychologically. Be open enough for them to be able to talk to you candidly about issues of life. No judgments!! That alone saves lives. Suicide begins with an ideation. The event of suicide cannot happen without the means. (Gun) In Ikenna’s case, he had suicide ideation and the means. The only thing he missed was the buffer( therapy, family support, personal resilience) My heart is broken as a parent for the young man and his family. RIP! 😢

[@LavenderOrganizes-k7q]

Amen! your so Correct!

[@maxwellsamson7774]

God bless you and give you long life and more wisdom

[@kwamestar968]

Well said!!!

[@michellerob80]

Thanks for your words of wisdom. May the Lord be exalted over all our situations in this life.

[@johnoluwafemi3432]

Many words of wisdom here. Thank you sir.

[@briefflix9397]

Thank you, Sir 🙏🏾. This teaching really helped me navigate my emotional pains in marriage. It was right on time. God bless you immensely 🙏🏾.

[@africasaveursoul7137]

Dr Apoki you are indeed a realist . I hope the young shall learn from your wealth of wisdom 👍👍👍👍👍

[@mcnstein646]

More grace, Sir. All you have said are perfectly on point.

[@jidefayase6420]

Baba you have spoken. Great advise.

[@militarybishop6053]

😭😭😭😭😭 I'm a Medical doctor, and I know what it takes to be one.

[@emiliaurama6034]

A powerful message. May God bless you, Sir.

[@feliciaa3258]

You are a great man sir I love listening to you

[@XtoP-w6u]

Truth talk Sir much love ❤❤❤❤

[@lojuogunde]

Thanks for your honesty and openness

[@oselegodwin7109]

To have a father-in-law with such record, he must have done some serious coaching or emotional damage to the daughter.

[@topeadeyemo576]

The father in law himself is a very horrible entity. He doesn't fit to be a father in law at all.

[@Nanette665]

The father in law is like 95% of Nigerian men. You all do the same behind closed doors or in public.

[@ngozinwankwo5051]

That man is worst father in law. What a at 70 the only achievement he could show case was the number of women he slept with 😮 what a man!

[@sylviakelechi7698]

Reason why family enquiries is still very important. Never fall in love anyhow with anybody without tracing their root

[@Michael.P247]

I’ve grown in experience to know that women from such backgrounds are not marriage material. I have the experience. Too many damage from their family life …. Ikenna definitely fell in love and couldn’t break off from the woman….sadly, especially as they had children together

[@crypticcyril8005]

Very insightful and brilliant assessment of the situation, with a tinge of comical flair. I do subscribe to your stance on the case and would not have articulated such thoughts succinctly. Welldone, Sir, Dr. Apoki

[@nwokorostanley5354]

Much respect Dr. Charles Apoki

[@petermichael6363]

Dr. Apoki no go kill me. 😂😂😂😂. Marriage ehn, I kon dey fear to enter.

[@transacumen5172]

Shine eye. Most women are actresses in 2025.

[@petermichael6363]

@ Exactly!

[@redeemerliveth2589]

Jesus has paid for our ransom ,Thank you Dr Akpoki ,God Bless your heart ❤️

[@toksjones7214]

Apoki Baba! My man! That your brain is so big!👍 👍 😂

[@emiliaurama6034]

You are a great father❤

[@alabielizabeth3330]

Am blessed with this video

[@efewilson9184]

You are very correct and on point sir Dr Apoki

[@buk2lat]

The young man just got into serious depression 😢. Don’t know what kind of support system he had. Too sad 😞

[@amandiokeke802]

Thank you very much for the message I learnt a lot from it

[@jamesattanah9699]

Migwo Sir. Thank you for the deep insight

[@olawunmia5239]

Thanks Doctor for your enlightening content and wise counsel. May those who have ears , let them hear and learn life's wisdom.

[@ibrahimabdulrazak6926]

Thanks for your kinds words to the deceased parents Dr Akpoki

[@Irone7861]

Sir, it is always a pleasure to hear your fatherly opinion on every day issues of life. May the young man”s soul rest in peace. Sad story indeed.

[@alorasmiles]

Dr Charles... THE GREAT ONE 💯 Baba, your messages dey make plenty sense . Even tupac said life goes on People should learn

[@yetundeshopeyin6468]

Dr.I liked the way you tackle problems.May he rest in peace. Only God can comfort his family.

[@talengekatenga9012]

Thanks Dr

[@lugards1819]

Exactly my philosophy. My primary responsibility is to protect and keep my life as long as possible. Other things will sort themselves out. Young children have the whole world 🌎 ahead of them. I can do anything to keep myself going. Not even American citizenship or whatever on earth. If it's life threatening, I'll change my gear and brace for the war, with whoever, even my twin. This is craziii!!

[@emmanuelosuagwu5741]

Doc, you are straight to the truth, well the saying that a prophet is not known / respected in his land / home, is a fact.

[@anthoniaehikwe128]

Thanks, Daddy. You're right on point, sir

[@joeoma3388]

Fully support u on this. No need to die fighting for the custody of children, they ain't going to the grave or heaven with you.

[@jonathanosagiede3786]

Well spoken, sir.

[@oluwatoyinajimobi2157]

Listening to you sir,its highly appreciated

[@mercyk2672]

In America, a divorce can bankrupt you as a man. My fellow Kenyan brother lost everything he had worked for for, for 20 years and his wife got the house and his pension. She claimed that he was planning to leave her and move to Kenya. He went from being a very successful banker, making hundreds of thousands, to being homeless. Don't joke with American women, it's better to marry a fellow African, at least we have commonalities

[@ugooko7569]

African women can be worse too. Pray you find someone good

[@ucheofia752]

Fellow Africans are even worse these days, so it's a matter of being with the right person, and not necessarily where he or she is from

[@roybrown3391]

@@ucheofia752All women resident in America are trouble or potential trouble

[@NewLifeJourney24]

I know everyone's situation is unique. However, some say don't marry American women. But, no one ever speaks about the American wives who are wonderful and submissive to their Nigerian husbands who signed up for monogamy. But some Nigerian men have ulterior motives. Have plans to secretly marry another. Or hide that they have wives back home with children. Who they are not even loyal to. Then, when the American wife finds out they are labeled bad when they remove themselves and children from a toxic situation, they didn't sign up for after years of marriage. Yes, I am that woman. It hurt like heck when I found this out. My "husband" still hasn't taken accountability for it. Even though i secretly heard this from his own mouth. Narcissist at his best. However, I still wish him the best, just not with me. Also, I don't want the house, but we do need to sell it to split the funds. It wasn't a problem when he was secretly sending money back home to his other family I didn't know about. However, I have to take accountability because i over trusted him, and he underestimated me.

[@NewLifeJourney24]

​@@ucheofia752 💯 true!

[@edwardskycat2619]

Sir, you are that great Teacher, Mentor we need. It's nice I meet you and learn from your teaching.

[@aj-gw1rl]

😂😂 very true sometimes we have to make life simple. There is more to life than marriage

[@saraoseghale8360]

I respect your advice. I miss my late father. You’re just like my father mindset.

[@ernestkanu1247]

Dr. Apoki, One of the worst things that can happen to a professional in the Western world or in Europe is to loose one's professional license to practise that profession. It is practically impossible to go to another country except in Africa to get a job in the same profession. Most people change career once they loose their license, because unlike in Africa most people are very interested why you left your previous job and consider you unfit for hire in the same career one lost his license. In the late 80s or early 90s, I heard of a Nigerian doctor whom you may have known because he finished in your set in your alma matter, committed suicide because he had problems with the licensing authority in the UK.

[@agboolaayodeji8458]

Nice message dr

[@peterifeanyichukwu2178]

SIR YOU JUST SHARED WISDOM UNPARALLELED, THANK YOU.

[@NeckyUmeobi]

You have spoken well daddy. It's very good to do background family questioning before going into any relationship or marriage.

[@briefflix9397]

I didn't do this and I am currently regretting in my marriage

[@NewLifeJourney24]

@@briefflix9397 same!

[@giftynatchiah-blay2780]

Dr. I like your advice very helpful. If u loose so much in life u wont hold on to things, l love that

[@nanaannlyamgohn4734]

Great talk sir

[@stanleydivine1781]

The only thing I am scared of or can't afford to lose in this my life is my salvation. Every other thing, Bust you!! 😂

[@akuesolomon7535]

This is so Funny 😂😂😂😂

[@adebayoadeyemo2691]

..... You are damn correct my Brother.....!!

[@asareawuahebenezer5165]

😂😂😂😂

[@carolineuvbo4832]

Thank you very much sir for this teaching I pray that our young men and women will take and learn from it life does not consist on the abundance of what we have or possess. At the end of the day the parents/family of Ikena are the biggest looser as you rightly said he could have walked away if he feels the judgment was unjust. Another thing is we should take care of our self though he's a doctor nothing stops him from have a family doctor who if he's not able to manage his mental health can refer him to a phycologist he is not here to tell his own side of the story. Very sad my heart goes out to his family I allof us learn from this .children should please listen to wise counsel of parents I for one God forbid will not allow my child male or female marry the father inlaw's child even if the are the richest. I pray God gives life i have decided my son will Not marry a black girl Not because of her skin color but because he's like me with sickle cell traits parents should if they can stand their ground we their children are making life decisions above pray for them except the Lord builds a house the labor in vain that builds it

[@agboolaayodeji8458]

Dr God bless you Apoki

[@ola.o.3172]

He should have relocated back to Nigeria instead of killing himself.May his soul rest in peace.

[@anselmahamefule1447]

Dr Charles Akpoki is on point.

[@nuhu7354]

First time listening to your video from beginning to end. Life first, every other thing follows! Huge respect OG 🫡

[@luckyehimen1338]

Everything you have said about the diaspora is all facts, including the African societies. Thanks for the message.

[@alabielizabeth3330]

Thank you Doctor

[@1705HubTV]

People often overlook signs of ill-treatment or anticipated red flags that would create an urgency for an exit plan. Don't build your life around any career, organisation, or people

[@oyeyemiorebiyi7778]

Great message. God bless you sir. Wishes people will live in peace with each others. Lesson to lear. Your words are just perfect for the issue today. God pls help marriages of 21st century. It’s sad. Oh Lord heal the wound of their love ones and comfort them in every area. Give them balm of gilead instead of ashes Amen

[@Judy.083]

Amen 🙏🏾 🙏🏾 🙏🏾 🙏🏾

[@viviannwoke2453]

You are a genius sir, u are great in all, love to hear you talk sir .God bless you sir.Ikenna did it wrong,my condolences to Ikenna family.❤🇱🇷.

[@PanAfricanist1963]

You are a wise man Doc

[@alexidornigie4599]

He was not mentally fit for the struggles of this world. He felt betrayed. But, that's life!

[@TheresiaNchendia]

He was using his time to build himself. Not going around

[@waskyhenry6306]

​@@TheresiaNchendia You're spot on 👍. The guy was so young to be wasted like that. To be a practicing Cardiologist must have taken so many years of his life. That's very disheartening. A tragedy indeed.

[@justinokalla1]

Dr Apoki everything you've said is true. Thank God for phones with camera that's how some men escaped total destruction but even their escape from incarceration for the fraud of their wives still impacted the men with very little or no sanction for the lies told by some women.

[@xtopuzee]

These labels will be thrown at you, namely: deadbeat, irresponsible etc. The only label you should desire as a man is stoic. A child is not a legal right nor a possession, I can never drag one with anybody. I'm not the one to play any ex's script. You'll be cut off like a plague. When my wife broke Ikenna's news to me, my first question was "doesn't he enjoy garri?"

[@Zamsyo]

They were never married. Such a sad sad tragedy. Anyone going any through difficult life situation should hand in there. There is always light at the end of the tunnel even if you can’t see it right now. Get help! Seek counsel! Change location! Seek counsel!

[@johngreg12]

Why did you say that they were not married? The state of Maryland records shows that they got divorced. How do you get a divorce without being married?

[@pastryshack551]

He did not marry to the other woman who he had a child and was going to marry, but his family told him she was not african, so he chose the woman who came from his area. Don't know if it's true

[@abdulmalikidris1278]

Great point. I am very sorry to his family and physicians, especially in the diaspora. Losing a trained cardiologist is a huge loss to society. As Muslims we believe the purpose of life is to worship God alone. When you come to terms with this, you realize everything is temporary and it eases travails of this life.

[@Zainab-ts4mj]

Very true, so sad he's no more 😢

[@pukpabi]

So, what about the Muslims that have stolen Nigeria blind; that kill people at the drop of a hat? Please stop.

[@Solutiondtalkingspirit]

Hahahahahha 😂😂😂😂😂😂 this man too get mouth I don laugh tire …. Thanks for all you do!

[@fredericmassoua4982]

If you have never come close To this time of situation you won’t understand what triggered the downward spiral ..

[@emmanuelaudu6875]

I just left the funeral. He was my classmate in Nigerian Navy secondary school Portharcourt. He was too kind as an individual. Some information going about on social media are false, but I guess his family don’t want to speak now because they want to respect the dead for now. I’m sure they will come up with a statement later.

[@ichechin.alikoresq.990]

The false information abound. However, I am glad that the people that know him and his family are celebrating the wonderful human being he was and have chosen to ignore the noise from bloggers and content creators.

[@ngozinwankwo5051]

Chaii my condolences!

[@chiefs5822]

Its always the kind ones, falling for these jezebels! such as promising future, done because of a lady from a man who boast about women butts and how many he sleeps with! People should look into the family they marry into

[@pdm8446]

May he R.I.P. condolences to all of you that are directly mourning. 🙏🏾

[@Lifestyle_LuxeTV]

Hi Emmanuel, RIP to Senior Ikenna. May God rest his soul. I also schooled in NNSS Ph. 2015/2016 set. 🙏

[@martinadebowale3839]

God bless you smart man

[@kunezicomfortmandah88]

Ooooh!!! What a pity! When you lost everything, you sit up, encourage yourself, restrategize and restart from zero. Many of us are doing it. Giving up is not a good option

[@Island-Nation]

This man is very a 😮wise man