My Toxic Dating Experiences

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The Religious Hippie

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@davidblattner2777 3 ай бұрын

Have max do a a show for the guys. I'd dig seeing his perspective on issues men face in todays dating landscape.

@AlexLoverOfPipes 3 ай бұрын

My fiancé has experienced many of these types of men before we got together, I was always shocked that this was a thing, and as I learned that these experiences are happening quite frequently to girls and women, it has made me very disappointed with men, my to be wife, is my best friend, and I would never treat my best friend with such wickedness and violence, that’s not love, and as we know from Holy Scripture, Love never fails, Bless you!

@TheReligiousHippie 3 ай бұрын

We need more men like you and Max, thank you!! God bless

@AlexLoverOfPipes 3 ай бұрын

@@TheReligiousHippieGod Bless You and Max!

@eh4306 2 ай бұрын

I feel like this is the timothy gordon syndrome. People actually believe his crap that the church doesn't even teach

@thatpoignantpenguin769 3 ай бұрын

Don’t forget, as men, this stuff can be good to know, if we’re not in the loop about what toxic things women experience with other men, we’ll keep making blunders and have no idea what’s going on 😁 thanks for this segment Amber! God bless your work 🕯️ 🙏

@beccalami4967 3 ай бұрын

The finances thing is huge! I went on one date with a guy, and during it he said that he didn’t like the idea of a woman making money in anyway after she was married. Now I’m not against a woman being a stay at home Wife and Mother, I would love to be a stay at home Wife and Mother, however with the current economy, I think it’s very smart that before children the wife has at least a part-time job to help with finances, even if it’s something just to put into a investment account for the future children. That was the one of the main reasons there wasn’t a second date.

@TheReligiousHippie 3 ай бұрын

100% you made the right choice

@VeryThatDiana 3 ай бұрын

Your not ready to be a married woman ..clearly. That man was telling you he will provide for you and give you everything. How is that even a bad thing. Thats why yall end up with bums that make you split the bill on a date.. 👎

@Cold_Ethyl 3 ай бұрын

@@VeryThatDianaSo that she has no money to escape if/when he starts abusing her? FTS. Grow up.

@VeryThatDiana 3 ай бұрын

@@Cold_Ethylok when the heck did abuse come in to this equation?? Im specifically making a note on the context given.. no abuse remarks were made. Only that a man was straight foward enough to make it clear he doesnt want his woman working. Nothing wrong with that.

@emilcioran2919 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry you went through all of this! I pray my children will never act like that boy. May God bless you!

@thebadguywins 3 ай бұрын

I really do appreciate people being able to talk openly about these things. And to see God's blessing that it didn't just make you give up. I'm a guy, so some issues were definitely different, but I went thru two relationships so abusive I completely gave up on the vocation of marriage. Often wondered if it was punishment for backing out of the seminary. Thank God for his mother and the rosary. Has helped a lot in working to accept the single vocation and getting past viewing it as the "participation award" or "consolation prize" of vocations. Thanks for the courage in sharing

@nicolasw4423 3 ай бұрын

The fact that you remained catholic when you thought this was what catholic relationships were is incredible

@TheReligiousHippie 3 ай бұрын

It was hard lol

@brennanbosco9477 3 ай бұрын

Absolutely loved this one as a man who is coming back to the church. The type of people who kept me away from the church for so long were these type of people. I am 21 and I am of course looking for a partner, but the male role models that were in my life (not all, but the ones I was around on a daily basis) were narcists and not Catholic. That meant I was clueless and I looked for answers in all the wrong places. Over time I found my way back to the church, but I am not completely there yet. This is the type of stuff I needed to learn so that I can properly lead a family rather than running around with my head cut off not knowing what I am doing even the slightest amount.

@paulmacdonnell2720 3 ай бұрын

This is absolutely horrible to hear men did that. I can’t believe this happened. Yikes.

@TheReligiousHippie 3 ай бұрын

It's a sad reality for many women looking for a Catholic husband :/

@icanhaaslagz934 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing these stories. Life is hard and it can be confusing to tell which people have good character. My heart breaks for these good people having to deal with brutal and challenging relationships. I'll keep praying for anyone facing these difficult challenges

@spacetrains30 3 ай бұрын

Dating a Catholic will make it easier to explain why you don't want to have sex before marriage or use contraception and ensure you will be able to bring your kids up in the faith. It will not mean your partner is any less likely to have the same personal flaws as everyone else.

@Livelovellamas 3 ай бұрын

If max is comfortable, I'd be curious for him to talk about his conversion story, and if his studies of philosophy influenced that decision!

@TheReligiousHippie 3 ай бұрын

I'll talk to him about it :) he is a really private person and doesn't like being online but I'll see what I can do😌

@Livelovellamas 3 ай бұрын

@TheReligiousHippie ofc if he's not comfortable we will all understand. Hope the two of you are doing well! :)

@mkristof83 3 ай бұрын

@@TheReligiousHippie you shared a couple of pictures from him, and from you wedding. And my intentions was, he is such a good guy. You chosed well.

@melaniealcantara8055 3 ай бұрын

Thank you very much❤ I haven’t dated, I am 18, and this video is very helpful :) May God bless you 😊 and by the way I LOVE your bangs!!!

@TheReligiousHippie 3 ай бұрын

Im glad it helped! Thank you so much :)

@thelostfrog5174 3 ай бұрын

I saw a good discussion ago by Simone and Malcolm Collins a where they argued that the modern tradwife phenomena is an outgrowth from BDSM rather than from any form of tradition. This might be even more true than I first suspected.

@billie5057 3 ай бұрын

That's exactly what I was thinking!! I listened to an episode of Catholic Truth. " From sspx to Catholic (becoming Catholic sspx and extremism)" they had a Sikh convert on, Kirti. She really detailed how gross it got. It honestly sounded like a fetish that was being pushed on unsuspecting women.

@milagroscapomasi8525 3 ай бұрын

I was also in an abusive relationship, so I feel you. Though mi ex lied to me, told me he was catholic but it turned out he really hated the Church and belived in a really toxic spiritual guru from Uruguay (Isha), and I felt so betraied believeng him. He wouldnt let me pray and pulled me away from God and I was miserable.

@gigitony4170 3 ай бұрын

Being nominally catholic with no faith is worse than being a pagan.

@diadhuit 3 ай бұрын

Glad u escaped that controlling tyrant...teens need to be thought about boundaries...spotting early when things are off.

@rachelelaine7094 3 ай бұрын

Why I’m single at 31. Though people are surprised. Also when I get pressure from church or my family to marry young it doesn’t help. The number of biological clock comments I get from older women at church is way too much.

@gabrielreal2172 3 ай бұрын

They most likely do it out of the kindness of their hearts but do not know how to express it. The window is not that long and it is a real issue for both men and women who wish to have children.

@Stronghold511 3 ай бұрын

Ngl. I grew up in a time when anything a man did was considered “toxic” or “abusive”. I was genuinely shocked when I heard what happened to you. I thought that kind of stuff was only a stereotype launched at trad men. Sorry for what you went through. I hope this evil behavior is called out for being Pharisaical and anti-Christian in all communities. Jesus loves and doesn’t manipulate, hurt, or guilt trip.

@gTimber1930 2 ай бұрын

As a male Catholic i didn't date much(for various reasons) but I really wanted to marry. It wasn't easy as i wasn't going to "settle". The good road can be difficult. Trust the Lord, prayer, prayer, prayer. Life may never be perfect, but can always be worse. Be thankful for what you have, serve, do Jesus's works and life is easier. I finally found a good woman and happiness ensued. Still many struggles but that is life. I found the Catholic Pre-marriage course extremely helpful and important. We talked a lot because to make the marriage work we had to be on the same page for the important things. We saw some couples not converse prior on some topics and had somewhat heated debates. Better before marriage than after. Anyway God Bless you all and much appreciation to The Religious Hippie for this platform. Christ is KIng!

@Niamh-pj1kt 3 ай бұрын

Going to make a mocha to listen to the livestream. Sounds like an interesting one

@brigid6609 3 ай бұрын

Great topic, I hope it helps women. About Saint Michael, the saint Michaels Lent sterted august 15th, so anyone who wants can join in now ;)

@zsedcftglkjh 2 ай бұрын

These things really happened, guys. SeRiOusLy!

@trueblueclue 3 ай бұрын

I'd love to see what your bf's perspectives of the modern dating world and what advice he has for men (younger and older) who are struggling.

@musicmama2864 3 ай бұрын

If he has to ask you to submit he’s not the one. IMO a good Catholic marriage should be a team. I submit to my husband of 20 years when I realize God wants his point of view. He honors and listens to me and respects my voice. Please run from someone who is controlling, especially while dating. Satan is using these situations to create weak families where women don’t have the voice the Holy Spirit gives them.

@karolina3920 3 ай бұрын

Wow your first experience is really awful, i am sorry to hear that, but thanks for sharing..!

@milagroscapomasi8525 3 ай бұрын

Oh that camping story is HORRiBLE, people usan catolicismo to be Mean is sth that really enfureates me! Dont use the Churches teachings to be a horrible person, if that Who you want to be, own it, dont blame it on the church

@musiccg223 3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry these things happened to you guys. Def not men who understand what submission is either…. Gaslighting central

@IndyCure 3 ай бұрын

I watched the video with you and Fr. Ambrose and the first thing I thought of when the audio was going weird was I bet there's something weird going on! It always happens when people like Fr. Ripperger etc are talking!

@TheReligiousHippie 3 ай бұрын

Yep! Always happens with exorcists 😭

@kemmow25 3 ай бұрын

So from a guys point of view, SO called Men like these are not good examples who you should be with, no matter what.

@TheReligiousHippie 3 ай бұрын

Facts

@trueblueclue 3 ай бұрын

I think of submissiveness as a corporate eboard or a ship. The man is the CEO (the husband) and has the final say but he takes counsel and delegates what's necessary to his COO,CTO etc (the wife). Or a husband is the captain and the wife is the second mate. The captain is in charge but the second mate has his ear and sometimes is granted authority.

@brennanbosco9477 3 ай бұрын

exactly. To treat it as "oh, I am the CEO and you my wife are the new hire" is exactly the opposite of what is supposed to happen.

@hazeljordan1797 3 ай бұрын

Why can't they both decide? If there is a disagreement, why can't they pray on it until they come to a mutual agreement? Sheila Wray Gregoire, who is a Christian author and commentator on gender issues in the Church, found studies among Christian couples who do this very thing of the husband being the final decider on decisions, and found that these couples were still likely to divorce. Maybe for some couples, it's easier for one to make the final decision. In some areas, one spouse might be more gifted and therefore be in charge of that area of their life together. I think whatever works for the couple should be the case, instead of forcing people into stereotyped roles.

@inmyhead6206 3 ай бұрын

This is so sad 💔

@unknown-l4j4i 3 ай бұрын

Hearing these stories about what you and these women have gone through leaves me flabbergasted. I am sorry. Know the plan of the Lord will lead you to peace, not chaos!

@18Tonks 3 ай бұрын

thanks for doing this!

@XxAces15xX 3 ай бұрын

8:07 Geez did they give a reason for you not being able to speak after 9:30? What’s the point of having you come if you can’t join in the campfire convo. If you want to have men only talk just make it a boys trip at that point. I’ve had a pretty good experience with the SSPX/TLM community overall but when you hear stuff like this it just furthers the stereotype and drives people away.

@Brenna_Ellie 3 ай бұрын

Oh my gosh Amber! You couldn’t talk after 9:00? Where does it say that in the bible that’s ridiculous

@TheReligiousHippie 3 ай бұрын

Yeeeah

@solidhalon 3 ай бұрын

Horror stories whit a happy ending with the Religious Hippie

@haydongonzalez-dyer2727 3 ай бұрын

interesting video

@m.pixley8413 3 ай бұрын

misogynistic men are attracted to religion, it's sad. Ultimately misogyny should be considered a male mental issue (I call it ball-steria) that they need help for. I wish priests would call out misogyny more because it seems to be growing and many men don't understand how harmful it is. Regarding the trad stuff, I often ask myself "traditional what"? I was once speaking to a catholic surgeon who seemed enamored with trad stuff, but especially the trad housewifes of japan..nevermind Japan has the largest shrinking population, prostitution for both married women and men, and that their trad prayers are addressed to the rice God lol

@garrettstephens91 3 ай бұрын

"Your biological clock is ticking so you need to get married now" That one isn't toxic per se. 100 years ago both men and women would have said that to women because it was culturally normal to get married young. We need to be the same way today, people need to get married young and stay married. I honestly think that people mature a lot slower than they should be nowadays and delay marriage for dumb reasons (guys and girls) and that needs to change.

@bobrob6629 2 ай бұрын

I recommend to every man to forget about dating and just stay single . Many women today even Christian women are polluted with this 'feminist ideology' that makes women see themselves as equal or better than men in everything including relationships ...this only creates conflicts bcoz God designed a man to be 'the leader' and a woman should submit to her husband and let him be the leader he WAS meant to be but instead they often challenge mans position and this gradually leads to broken marriages and families. . ..Even the Christian women imo don't understand today what it is to be a godly Christian wife . The godless society is polluting peoples minds , the patriarchy which is so despised by women today IS the way God wanted it to be . This is the reason i recommend to every man to abstain from women , most of them will cause you more suffering than they are worth it ....(just get yourself a doll if you have to ) ...i have seen what these so called Christian women did to many members of my family and to other men - it's absolute HELL .