My Transs*xual Summer (Ep 2 ) The true cost of Surgery, Transphobia and Coming Out!

[@Jackie_Sins]

I'm a trans woman. I've been on hormones for a little over a decade now. I've been having a hard time finding community in my mostly red state. You, Roly and others on KZbin have really been there for me lately even if you didn't know it.

[@Luxeria]

Our community is quite difficult to find! Mine is all from online spaces x

[@Struudeli]

As long as I'm aware there's many safe space discord groups for trans people, something like that could perhaps be useful for you. I don't know any specific groups myself but I'm sure you'll find one to fit you if you want to.

[@sam-feet.paws.hooves]

I feel you, my community is also mostly online!

[@CherrrrBear]

What state are you in Jackie? I live in SC, I’m a cos woman but I’m an ally and I have friends of all types ❤

[@EmmaSpAce111]

I hope you’re not in too much danger there, I know red states can be bad, especially with legislation

[@CrazyMattLine]

So proud of Biscuit for coming out as a proud sock thief!

[@averyeml]

My mom’s newest puppy ripped my sock off my foot over the course of this video which I felt was on theme

[@lisadgingersnaps9843]

​@@averyeml😂😂😂 I do love the puppy stage.

[@jesslovesawalk8557]

This comment made me smile 😄

[@mikethepigeonwhisperer]

I kinda love that he kept those pre-transition pics, my friend kept theirs too and describes them as "an old friend who suffered a lot for me to be who I am, of course it hurts to look at those photos, that person gave me everything" There's a kindness in retrospect that we never really have in prospect. I love this show, when people help each other and connect with each other, the world is a much nicer place to be in.

[@mlokgerm]

That is so lovely 😭

[@bexmw]

That’s beautiful 🥹🥲

[@cattrainfit8393]

Drew’s mum was absolutely lovely

[@Luxeria]

She really was!!

[@AngelDRose]

I was literally in tears.

[@amethystmacleish2768]

Oh so much, parenting done right

[@virginiasoares826]

​@@AngelDRosesame

[@DestructionGlitter]

From the way Drew interacts with other people, I had a feeling her mom would be lovely. Kind parents raise kind children.

[@doomsdayadams]

As a cis woman who never developed basically any breast tissue, I totally understand this plight. My gender affirming surgery was something I went happily into debt for. It took about five years to pay off with Horrifying interest but it was emotionally well worth the investment.

[@felvkitties8]

I'm the same but I'm old so I've decided not to get any surgery but I totally get why other women would.

[@kelly6491]

Aww, that makes me happy for you sweets! congrats on the boobies! Reading that made me think of past patients of mine, (tho I’d say most were post cancer treatment) but being there after and seeing that rush of emotions. Having that feeling of your outside fit the image in your mind hit you like a truck. Amazing. To watch someone experiencing one of those moments, it’s impossible to wipe the smile off your face. Cheers for inspiring my little wandering trip down years of memory lane lol

[@GreatDavu]

When I came out as a trans woman to my mother I was so freaked out nervous. I knew she had friends in the LGBT community, but I was still really scared of the infinitesimal possibilities. After I told her the first thing she ask was, "Do you feel happier? Good, that's all I ever wanted for you." I was so relieved, I am so lucky to have her in my life.

[@rebieroo99]

higher quality camera making you look even more gorgeous slay queen

[@Luxeria]

Thankyou gorgeous!!

[@XXkatnipXX]

I just felt so uncomfortable watching poor Drew go through that "job interview". Especially seeing her physical appearance commented on as if they had the right to do that and then justifying their bigotry by framing it as an issue with potential "customers". You're totally right to say that if it was any other minority group this wouldn't happen, imagine if they were saying the same things but applying them to race. I imagine this was exactly what she'd been afraid of which makes it even more sad to see. I hope she's doing well now, she seems like a sensitive and caring person

[@DrewAshlynMUA]

I'm doing amazing thank you. I've changed alot since the show and we are all still amazing friends x

[@JadedGenXer]

No matter how progressive the employer might or not be at the end of the day a dressing room is not the place to be having the conversation about your feeling about if a customer is comfortable about having a trans person seeing a women in their nickers who wants to buy a wedding dress, same with if your wanted get a fitting and buy a new bra in a retail setting. You are going to get push back . Woke doesn't live in this space. I work in health care and strangely if a male client needed assistance in showering or with a bowl movement a lot of them are just not comfortable with a man showering because they don't want men touching them while in a state of undress and most women are not comfortable with a man doing the same. Their wishes have to be respected no matter what promoun are perfired by the service provider because it's not up to a service provider to tell anyone how to feel about their personal privacy. This is about an employee going in to clients private spaces and that shops bread and butter... Fitting and selling wedding dresses. At the end of the day a more suitable retail setting would be general fashion as the sales assistants don't enter the dressing rooms or maybe home wears or maybe shoes. You get my drift . A bridal shop was a not very well thought out idea unless it was set up to cause a bit of drama for the show. Really, could you imagine a working environment having to inform every client that comes in for a fitting that your trans, day in day out regardless of whether you are passing or not regardless of the amount of people that may be ok with it being on the shop floor but not 100% in the changing room spaces . Having to dox yourself to sell a dress would be so demeaning. Think. It's more intimate than the public toilet debate as public toilets have locks on the door and strangers are not wanting to help you out your clothing back. And not talking to clients about this is a breach of trust that is nefarious to say the least. Big backlash could come of that and it would be at poor Drew's expense.

[@JadedGenXer]

​@@DrewAshlynMUAhay drew, who set up the job interview? The net work or did you find the job listing yourself ??

[@suddenlyezra5782]

The NHS denial of top surgery reminded me of this personal story: Baby trans me in 2010 changed my name legally and while in the social security office (USA) I asked about changing my gender marker. The woman told me I had to have bottom surgery for them to change it. I complained on LiveJournal (2010!) by saying that I felt like the rule amounted to forced mutilation, because my body wasn't necessarily the problem, just other people's preconceptions of what my body should look like. I was kicked from that LJ group and told that because such surgeries are called mutilation by cis bigots in general, the rest of the context didn't matter and I was a terrible human being. Requiring surgery to have your gender recognized is not the same as choosing to have surgery to better align yourself though, and in the past 13.5 years since that experience, my position has only become more firm.

[@tiffytattoo2450]

Germany had this rule of forced castration of trans people until 2011. We are trying to get compensation but it seems a long political way...

[@nincure]

This was in 2005, but I was on LJ too, and found a group that was trans people posting pictures. There weren't that many pictures in the group, I scrolled through the whole group. There was a trans woman I saw and thought she looked cool, but I didn't comment on her pics. She looked at the pics I posted, and commented on my post. So I guess we were meant to talk to each other! I ended up going to Melbourne, Australia to see her for 6 weeks. She stopped talking to me a long time ago now, but it was an awesome trip and I would do 99% of it again!

[@eev14]

@@tiffytattoo2450 Same in the Netherlands, I have a trans parent and they got bottom surgery around 2011/2012, 2 years ago they got a small sum of money from our government because someone from our own circle that is active in politics and a non-binary trans person (they've transitioned and de-transitioned a long long time ago) has spearheaded the need for an apology and compensation for trans people that were forced into surgery within a particular timeframe. I had a conversation with my parent about it around the time they got compensation and it came down to the financial compensation not making up for even 25% of the costs of surgery at the time, they also revealed to me that they weren't sure they would have even ended up getting bottom surgery had it not been mandatory to be able to legally change your gender. I also know that my parent had complications and ended up going through 4 rounds of surgery in the hopes of fixing those complications, the whole process was traumatic and incredibly violating in a lot of ways.. Quite frankly a formal apology and a small sum of money are not enough to make up for all the lives lost and people damaged by these horrible regulations, but at least there has been some sort of acknowledgement of the grief caused.

[@mrfearsmom8857]

So have you since then been able to change in social security?

[@tarynriver]

Bottom surgery hasn’t progressed enough to be safe for everyone to get if you don’t feel completely uncomfortable with your downstairs you should not have to fix it if you completely pass otherwise it shouldn’t matter your marker should be changed that’s ridiculous and I’m sorry

[@_.Apollo.]

The whole scene with Drews mum honestly did make me cry because it hit so close to home

[@TokeTiger]

Yeah it made me very emotional 🥹

[@Awatsonillustration]

I found out one of my friends from uni also watches Lux from me randomly qouting "daytime tweed and an evening chiffon" Sidenote: its so sweet watching this group be so healthy toward eachother. Really makes me wish i had even more lgbtqia friends

[@Awatsonillustration]

*I am also gay and nonbinary sorry that sounded a bit weird ahaa

[@Awatsonillustration]

@CherylFennerBrown it definitely is refreshing especially with current climate of anti lgbtqia but especially anti Trans laws. Love that its still nice and friendly here

[@jainasimpson]

As a trans woman with no real trans friends this show and your videos have made me feel really seen and heard. I relate so much to this content and in today's age of TERFs and right-wing dogma it is so nice to find community online. Thank you for sharing this show with me and creating these videos. It's been a big source of comfort.

[@conceivebelieveachieve9653]

You are so beautiful ❤

[@jainasimpson]

@@conceivebelieveachieve9653Why thank you! You just made my day

[@blo0dy_valent1ne]

Luxeria is ultimate transition goals fr

[@Luxeria]

Omg Thankyou 🥰🥰

[@xXRedEyedJediXx]

Honestly, tho

[@SewardWriter]

IKR? She's the epitome of femme. 🖤

[@blo0dy_valent1ne]

@@SewardWriter she is glamour to the max

[@dollface2917]

As a cis woman, I could only dream of being as feminine, beautiful and funny as our Lux ❤️

[@anonmous4468]

Biscuit graduated from beauty blenders to socks 😂

[@Luxeria]

He did! Naughty! 😂😂

[@MicrowaveCheese33]

He is a Bisquweets

[@leobeboop4944]

Im so glad that we see the conversation about bottom surgery because ive been made to feel like im not trans enough because i don't want bottom surgery. The idea of it terrifies me because it is a difficult thing to go through and top surgery will help to alleviate my main element of dysphoria to the point where i dont feel that the benefits outweigh the risks for me.

[@Lars_erik]

I think it’s ridiculous that anyone would want to force anyone to do any kind of surgery. A transition is to relieve gender dysphoria. If you don’t feel like it’s necessary for you (right now), it would be stupid to go through a very invasive surgery just because other people seem to think it’s necessary.

[@RuubinSelena]

He has to get bottom surgery before top surgery? THAT IS WILD and it makes NO sense! What if he didn't want bottom surgery? I hope this has changed, I'm absolutely disgusted.

[@RuubinSelena]

In Norway where I am top surgery is a part of the process. I'm really gagged that the UK NHS thinks otherwise..

[@luxtobeyou]

Giving me major icky "We want to make sure you really want this!" vibes, like get the surgery not visible first and then we'll reward you with one of the ones that most affects you passing

[@Harrison_J_T]

​@@luxtobeyou This is 100% the attitude when trying to access gender affirming care still, even privately it's about proving that you definitely are trans and definitely want to do this and lot so called gender specialists have incredibly binary and outdated views on gender and what the presume trans people would want from their transition. It often doesn't feel like they want to help you but rather gatekeep treatment from you. I don't know if the NHS still requires you to have bottom surgery before getting top but less abd less people are getting NHS gender affirming care as waiting lists are too long. GIC in London currently had so many people waiting to be seen that, based on the number of people waiting and the number of people offered a first appointment every day anyone referred now would be waiting roughly 20 years to be seen

[@fattopratto6687]

NOT THE KEBAB COMMENT OMG 😂😂 As a trans guy it's really nice to see the masc and femme aspects of being trans to be represented both on KZbin and even on a TV show from a more questionable time in public media. Even moreso now the variety of people who fit under the trans umbrella feel more represented and there's such a great sense of community on KZbin, it really does make me happy. Also you're goregous, absolutely love your content it always makes me smile. And when you and Roly host Gag of the Millennial-- gagged, dead, buried absolutely adore it ❤️

[@lucienm4921]

Can we nominate Drew’s mum for the mum of the year award? She does everything right. She wants to help drew, make her stop hurting, she doesn’t make her hurt more. That whole scene was just very emotional because it’s so relatable to so many trans people. You want your family to love you. You want to stop hurting inside. You just want to be okay and loved. ❤

[@heatherchisholm89]

When i was a young child I used to shave my face because I was led to believe shaving would make hair grow and I wanted a beard. My whole life I've felt much more masculine than feminine. I have a twin brother (that's him with me in my profile photo) and I've always wondered if we were both supposed to be boys but the majority of my family treated it like an illness. They made me feel so bad about myself that I've over corrected and got used to acting extra feminine. I'm a mum now and I'm still stuck in this mind set that I'm supposed to be a woman, I need to act like a woman but I watch creators like you because it feels good to see that some trans people do succeed and while watching your videos i feel like I'm here with a friend, like I'm seen and understood. You are very loved and appreciated

[@glynislily]

Omg I have never cried this much watching your channel. Knowing where Sara is now just made me feel so much more for her in the episode.

[@namelinzinaw3564]

My daughter left me a letter, saying she was transitioning from male to female, sooo proud of her x

[@joannasliwa8147]

I believe this is one of the most private and genuine vlog from you .

[@Luxeria]

Thankyou, I agree!

[@nincure]

@@Luxeria I'm always interested in people's backgrounds, so thank you for telling us about your more personal experience. And I'm really happy that you're happy with your boyfriend!! I love seeing trans people in good relationships! Thankfully I met my fiancée on Facebook, on a random page, we were both commenting on this post about trans people. People were like trying to come at me. But I don't care 😂😂😂 and I guess she did, she was defending my comments. We started talking on messenger and 2 days later we both said "I love you". We were long distance (pretty much across the USA) for about 2 years. She moved here to be with me almost a year ago. Dec 2nd will be our 3rd anniversary, and we should be living together at that time! (She's over at my place all the time already lol) So, she knew I was trans and didn't have any issues with it. (She's pansexual and cis) We started talking and pretty much never stopped. First conversation, we found out we have the same favorite band, and a lot of other things in common!

[@leanderdato4764]

I remember coming out to my grandparents. they were of course a little confused and didn't quite know what to say. my grandma as alwas said "i'm happy, as long as you are happy." my grandpa didn't say anything at all. about a week later I got a letter from him in the mail. where he, in a very respectful way, told me that he couldn't understand, that i was such a beautful woman. but also that he would love to hear from me, so he could try to understand. I wrote him back, explaining how I felt, and basically, that I'd rather die than keep living as a woman. and he seemed to have understood, because he has been very supportive ever since. I think sometimes people from the outside don't understand how it can literally be a life or death situation for trans people to live their life as who they are.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Thanks to this show, WE MIGHT GET A CELEBRITY INTERVIEW!

[@Luxeria]

😂😂😂 a CELEBRITY!! 🖤🖤

[@Lindsay-zn2zq]

This has become my favorite series on your Chanel. Just got some Starbucks iced coffee and this is the perfect start to my Monday and week. Can’t wait to watch it!

[@Luxeria]

Iced coffee and a scandal!! Best combo! 🖤

[@bluesoulsearcher5424]

Same 😊

[@kathleech8044]

I watched this with a big smile on my face (until we got to the wedding dress person) - people supporting people to help them live their best, most authentic lives. It is what we all deserve.

[@SpookiCooki]

I had bad vibes from that woman too. I understand that they're afraid of losing customers because bridal shops are sooo niche that it's difficult to run such a shop as it is. However, they could have and should have given Drew a chance. I don't think customers would turn away at the door by the mere sight of her.

[@victoriashevlin8587]

oh my god, Drews mum is just so lovely. Really makes me miss mine. She was always the mum who was supportive and understanding. Sometimes I would have friends come just to see her for advice. Sarah just broke my heart when she was with Drew's mum. Nothing like a good mum/dad/aunt/grow up in your life. I'm in my 30s and I stand by this 😆

[@muchomangotangos]

I was looking forward to another episode. The last one was so entertaining in the best way and informative on trans experience. Trans joy is the best joy.

[@Luxeria]

It really is!

[@muchomangotangos]

@@Luxeria Sarah having support by Drew made me so happy. I'm glad her mother was okay with her coming out. Coming out is one of the most stressful experiences in life.

[@SpyderQueen1988]

If someone ever dared to ask what I had in my knickers I'd tell them "gout" and walk away!

[@anabanaification]

The last segment during the job interview made me so upset. The way they put all the blame on her to manage customers comfort is disgusting. I feel Drew gave some amazing advice what she could do, she was so level and professional and calm. I am just heart broken.

[@charsielux]

This was such an emotional and enjoyable episode. What a hateful dress shop though… poor Drew. She definitely deserved better. 🖤♥️

[@DrewAshlynMUA]

Thank you. I got an amazing job in the end and I'm so happy. We are all still friends to this day

[@charsielux]

@@DrewAshlynMUA This is incredible to know!🖤♥️Thank you for sharing this. Love hearing all of your stories. You are all so amazing and beautiful, inside and out.

[@joycelinlgbtq]

@@DrewAshlynMUA you got done dirty by them! (See my other comments for details)

[@deadlymelody27]

When Drew's mum was talking about how she hopes Sarah's mum is ok with her etc. I do not know how you werent crying. Im sat here sobbing and im not even trans. But i am a mum and i cant ever imagine not accepting my child. Then again i came out as bisexual when i was 12, was told it was a phase, internalised that shit until like 2 years ago when my daughter was born. So i cant imagine how it wouldve been if i was trans.

[@Endogal]

“You can’t draw things for a living!” You are such an inspiration to keep going for the creative life you want!

[@alexlothbrok4130]

Trans man here, was brought to tears about the ftm experience on screen.. I've come so far (1.5 years on T) and out for family friends and work. Waiting for top surgery is so hard! I have at least a year to wait 😅 and I don't mind getting the scars! I also don't know how to deal with bottom area 😅 if anyone wants to help All that happened thanks to my cousin who once told me "f* it just do what you want" ❤

[@milesmace]

im LOVING todays eye look!!

[@Luxeria]

Thankyou!

[@eev14]

The job interview bit in the bridal shop gave me stomach cramps, that moment the one lady said "I couldn't tell", that already feels uncomfortable but then that quick response of the other woman with "Couldn't ya?!". Babe, it's not a skill to "be able to tell" that someone is trans, good lord, that whole situation felt so judgy. Those comments about the 'adam's apple', absolutely unhinged. Also for trans people here (or anyone for that matter) that are in job interviews where someone is saying such rude things to you; you can get up and leave! They'll probably reject you for the job anyway with that attitude and even if they hired you it would be a terrible work environment so the moment you realize that this isn't a respectful interview you have all the right just go and walk out that door, let them have their moment of realization.

[@dancing_raptor]

One of the things that created a rift between me and my parents as a teenager was them forcing me to sit in the living room when I didn't want to talk to them. I wasn't comfortable talking to them about what I was going through and by them trying to force me to talk it shattered any trust I had in them.

[@matchbox420.]

The perfectly blended eye makeup, neutral lip and Fanola hair is SERVING, QUEEN 👑

[@SquishyArt1]

Oh poor drew - that was so hard to watch that interview. Those women need to GET IN THE BIN. The customers dont even need to KNOW shes transgender! Are they going to walk through the door and drew immediatly has to say " im transgender, are you ok with me serving you today?" Oh get out for goodness sake. Also drews mum was amazing - like what a saint!

[@alex_racoonboy]

It is great to know that there are people who survived and are thriving after having so much trauma and just awful stuff happen to them as a trangender person, it really gives me hope for my life.

[@yelleyelley7036]

OMG the happiness of "OMG I GOT THEM DONE!" that made my heart melt!

[@nikkiviolanti4477]

Omg that mom is so wonderful, she had me in tears.

[@Lorelai_Di-Angelo]

Lux: ''I'm gonna try to not make this video an hour and a half long'' The video: 1:26:25 Me: ''Welllll it's technically not and hour and a half''

[@KingsleighVon]

I adore you. You educate your following and I'm so grateful. I have a 14 yr old boy who I want to stay (emotionally) smart, thoughtful and current with topics like these. So he can be loving normal to all ppl. I've had surgeries to just enhance/fix the woman I am and I can't fathom what it's like to feel even more in the wrong body. -Anyway I wish everyone going through these things know there's lil old me rooting em on.❤

[@weenrfart3000]

not related to the video, but im a trans man and ive been on testosterone for 3 months now and am super happy with everything im seeing so far, everythings happening to fast and its so exciting! i love your channel, it's so nice to just have positive trans content from a smart and kind person

[@TBG1]

Congrats on starting T, my friend! I'm so happy for you!

[@nincure]

On Aug 14 I'll have been on T for 17 years! Haven't had top surgery but I hope to get it soon. Congrats!

[@waterdragon2224]

“All I want is to be wanted and accepted.” I think that statement resounds in every single one of us, cis or trans. I really felt the emotional impact of that. 😢

[@08eks]

I dunno about everyone else but with Drew's level of energy and expertise I'd be so hyped to get a wedding dress working with her! Missed opportunity!!! But to be fair, also glad she can go and shine somewhere that actually might respect her?

[@heathermcfarland6317]

To hear her mother talk about self harm made me fall apart. I really wish my parents would’ve talked to me like that. I’m not trans 🏳️‍⚧️ but I do have body image issues that led to self harm. My family is so not accepting 😢 that at 39 years old I still haven’t been able to come out to my parents. They don’t get what pansexual is anyway. I wish just one of them would’ve talked to me the way her mom is talking to the two of them.

[@maggiemars6756]

As messed up as this is going to sound. Going through treatments for cancer at a very young age made me the woman I am today and im thankful I struggled through it. Not saying I'm happy that I had to. The journey may not have been pretty but it changed me for the better. So I definitely understand exactly what you mean about going through things (hard or not), those things make you the fabulous and strong human you 💪❤

[@littlelizzi3135]

Good evening! Socks are the ultimate prize 😂 my new little rescue is constantly after them.. looking forward to the next episode of this, the last one had me quite emotional ( in a good way) Wishing you a delightful evening that is gout free and full of puppy love 💜🐾💜

[@Luxeria]

Socks are definitely the ultimate prize!! 😂😂

[@user-fe2or2oc3u]

Lol...just be careful! My dog ate a sock and had to have surgery !

[@littlelizzi3135]

@@user-fe2or2oc3u I know! I'm going to have to lock away the laundry basket, luckily so far she just wants to treasure them 😂🐾

[@SewardWriter]

HE'S NOT NAUGHTY HE'S WONDERFUL. 💖

[@Cheyscrochetshop]

Just finished my autism/adhd testing and I’m so happy to see your video to bring my brain back to life after all those questions and exercises 🙈🖤

[@lilme7052]

Mate, I'm at the beginning of that I'm not looking forward to it all it sounds exhausting. ❤

[@Cheyscrochetshop]

@@lilme7052mine is online and I’m home alone but it helped that I sat on my exercise ball so I could move around a bit 😊 I literally spat my coffee out when I remembered I had to do that stuff today and without stimulants 🙈😂

[@ambientsentient]

Hope all goes well for you and that you get the support you need!

[@yesterdaydream]

@@lilme7052 Same here, diagnosis/treatment feels so daunting to accomplish. Good luck, y'all!

[@KingOfGaymes]

Can you get tested for autism as an an adult? I’ve always heard that it’s not really done for adults 😭

[@angelmarie1112]

Forever jealous of Luxerias' aesthetic and vibe!

[@sarahbromley6887]

As someone who is an ally but not part of the community thank you for the education xx

[@truculentbelly]

drew reminded me so strongly of my first babysitter and made me miss her so much, even 30yrs later

[@Bildgesmythe]

How sad there are people so hateful they can't bear to see others happy. So nice too see people like Drew's mom.

[@leaveterra]

Thank you for sharing such important advice!!! When I came out to my parents when I was 18 years old, I knew that it wasn’t going to be a pleasant conversation. I moved out of my parents with roommates and once I felt comfortable, I went back home, came out and that’s where I was disowned and stopped talking with my parents. If I were under their roof I would have most likely been on the streets. Have a plan when coming out!!! 🖤

[@JuliWieApril]

the way, Luxeria shrieks "OH MY GOD" in 45:36 is my new favourite sound xD because same, sis, same ... And I didn't even see anything but a blurred blob

[@luviemoo]

26:34 I was just trying to eat my dinner and watch some KZbin and now I’m bawling over my Yorkshire pudding

[@alexwaters4238]

Oh wow! I spent half this episode crying! So emotional! 🥲

[@tomsautocadstudio6446]

Coming out as lgbtq is always a ball ache you have to do it when you're ready.

[@Luxeria]

Yes absolutely!!!

[@ragdollrose2687]

And you don't have to come out all at once! I've been out to some friends first, then most friends after a couple years, then out in most situations (like not policing my speech when it comes to relationship discussions, in public or at work), then posting a lot of queer stuff on my socials... but I'm still not explicitly out to my family after years cause it's just not an issue I need to address with them. But some people will feel the need to go a totally different route, and it's all valid 😊

[@UndergroundUncle]

I actually really love this series and I really wish that we lived in a world where more shows like this that center around trans people could be created. It's uplifting to see other trans people. It's affirming to know that other trans people exist amongst you and that you aren't so alone. Even though I have trans friends now I actually didn't when I was younger. I grew up and came out in a very small town right around the early two thousands, and there just wasn't that much representation and I was basically the only openly out trans person at the time. What wonders it would have done for my life if I had seen this show growing up, and what wonders it would do for young trans people nowadays too. It's just so strange to know with very real evidence within my own lived experience that we were going forward in progression for quite a while there and now we are going backwards. To the point that it almost feels worse than when I was younger because this whole gender veil has been lifted and we are all collectively able to say that these bigots are just flat out wrong, and yet they still have such a strong grip hold on our representation and how we are allowed to be perceived in the media today. Ughhh! 😂 Anyway! Sorry. I felt the need to rant. THANK YOU Lux for putting this out there now and allowing it to be seen and enjoyed. 🖤🖤🖤

[@toniv77]

That job interview was brutal. One of the most uncomfortable things I've ever seen. Poor Drew. I got the same bad vibes and even the good cop turned so fast on her when she was told. Awful situation.

[@Wolf_Ghost]

Learn "color temperature". There are set modes for that. I learned it all in uni. Went to Full Sail here in the states and lighting was my specialty. Worked with bands after that on road gigs. I love your channel. I'm on my own trans journey and you give me the strength to carry on, love. Cheers!

[@shadeybitz9499]

I am a mother of 2 queer children. We give them life so they can live it. I can't imagine loosing your child or them hurting themselves because you refuse to accept them as they are.

[@lexbel8394]

41:53 I’ve never thought of it that way. I’m 22, never been in a relationship, and really struggle to find one, especially since I’m autistic and demisexual. So thank you this is really helpful!! 😊

[@taraw2951]

My partner is autistic and demisexual. We met online and spent several months getting to know one another. When we finally met, he felt comfortable that we knew one another well enough for him to take the plunge for our real life date....We are getting married in two months time 😊 It can and I'm sure will happen for you, just as it did for my partner.

[@halfwen4575]

I've found much more success in my ND relationship, but ymmv

[@Efaya13]

I feel light headed after watching Sarah's coming out moment, because I'm pretty sure I was holding my breath the whole time.

[@waterdragon2224]

Kudos to Sarah for her accomplishments in Brighton. ❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 😊

[@EmilyDayzie]

Yes! I'm so excited for another episode of this show. I absolutely love seeing people living their true self. The last episode made me grin from ear to ear and cry. You look absolutely stunning today Luxeria!

[@charlottesimmonds]

I'm not surprised about the NHS letter. I'm not trans but I'm living in the UK for the first time and I've been through hell trying to get the treatment I need for my chronic mental illness... I can only imagine how bad they are when it comes to trans people :(

[@leobeboop4944]

Oh god the mental health support here is very difficult to access I really hope that you can get the treatment you need! If it is a big struggle to get help through the nhs we do have a few charities you could try and reach out to!

[@charlottesimmonds]

@@leobeboop4944 thanks 💜

[@yelleyelley7036]

Drews mom is mom goals! so much love oh i hope they have a wonderful life!

[@ragdollrose2687]

Being autistic, I definitely relate to the idea of being grateful for that thing that brings you such hardships. It has been - and still is - difficult to exist in a neurotypical world, but I'm happy to be autistic, I wouldn't be myself if I wasn't ( I can't even imagine who I would be without the neurospice!) It's just how it is, I wouldn't change it. I'd just wish for a more gentle world that I can exist in without the reminders that I'm perceived a certain way... And a ban on neon overhead lights, but it's another topic 😂

[@Hufflestitcher87]

I feel the same way! I like myself and my neurospicy brain. Agreed on the overhead lighting though!

[@chloehopewell8362]

I recently got a pin for my backpack that says neurospicy and another that says I can't adult today, am AuDHD and those 2 pins sum me up quite well lol

[@dieselblazehaze-desireiona6910]

We seriously need some long moments of trans joy! Lots of them. I just cannot fathom why people need to interfere with the lives, and happiness of others. It is beyond me how someone being trans effects anyone other than the trans person. Precisely why I want to do charity work to help trans folx with the financial aspect of their transformation. I am drawing drag performers, so I can make a book that the proceeds go to helping with this.

[@RaineSophiaLewis]

I’m not trans but fully support the tans community. I had four kids, though I was straight but last year realised I’m a lesbian. Welp, I don’t really speak to my family anymore, my 82yr old Nanna and my kids are awesome though! ❤

[@QueenCloveroftheice]

This episode was so informative! We have such a culture of never talk about bodies, especially private parts, so I’ve never heard anyone discuss the actual process of surgery before. I feel like this series would be a great resource for trans people considering gender-affirming surgery!

[@DiscordBeing]

Thank your for all your personal commentary. It's been such a wonderful ray of humanity in this time where as a person trying to figure out if I am trans to get thoughtful responses without all the rightwing hate potentially lurking.

[@joeisafreakk]

Drew is so adorable and I think every company wishes to have such a sweet person in their team. It's their loss tbh. Also it's very nice to see supportive parents in this show, having people backing you up is very important.

[@sidexyz5971]

Girrrrl I still can't get over the quality it's higher quality than my vision and the lighting the color the glam... emaculate 😍❤️💯

[@Luxeria]

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@barbqtails9345]

I agree with appreciating who you become through trials. I used to feel disappointed in myself for so many "mistakes," but eventually I realized all those mistakes led me to who I am today. ♡ I wish that for everyone.

[@p1aydumb280]

Definitely think a where are they now would be lovely to see. Like personally gone from playing in metal bands to studying to become a beauty therapist in a year of transition, old early transition pic and love seeing people grow and learn.

[@_RiveR__]

i definitely feel like alot of the ppl in the pub scene, were respectful and just didn't have the vocabulary + education/awareness to fully understand the trans experience

[@AS-ri1mb]

Those people at the bridal shop were morons. “Oh I’m finding it hard to see why people wouldn’t give you a job? 🤨” and then 2 mins later “you existing might make our customers uncomfortable”.

[@sjokomelk]

I feel for the old man at around 54:00 questioning himself. I am a gay cis man, and I was online flirting with a guy a 5-6 years ago. After a while he told me he was a trans man, and I unfortunately spiraled. It made me feel some type of way, and it made me question myself too. I am so sorry that it did happen, and is only because of me being insecure. And I apologize to this man still to this day almost 5 years later.

[@rebeccadockerty1830]

I absolutely adore lux’s channel. My literal comfort channel🖤🥹

[@CandySphynx]

That was such an emotional episode, oh boy. What got me thinking, is that in terms of society's perception and discrimination of trans people, I don't think we've actually come such a long. So even though lots in this episode was heartwarming, it makes me terribly sad to see we've not moved much forward as a society. On a lighter note: Biscuit has grow so much, what a beautiful angel boy!! 🥹

[@Harrison_J_T]

Oh my gosh that thing about your mind becoming a security guard is so relatable. That's reassuring because I thought it was just me

[@UnbelievablyDaft]

Luxeria, I’ve followed you for years. This episode you provided such an incredible combination of empathy and insight with education and experience. I’ve always been so impressed with your way of explaining things and I’m so touched to have watched your journey. I adore you…. Also when you contemplated saying “relatable content 😗👀” I laughed SO hard

[@Amy-and-Ozzy]

When you mentioned about cis hetro men and attraction towards different women I relate. Im not trying to say this is in any way the same as being trans, but as a very plus sized woman you do get that shit too. So many men are ashamed to admit that they find someone who isn't conventionally attractive sexy. You can genuinely tell as you age that there are men who not only adore you as a large woman, but are proud to admit it

[@richard_reads]

Heartfelt and insightful commentary. Thank you for the respectful perspective. Another great upload Luxeria ✌️

[@sierranikole4260]

Luxeria you look absolutely stunning! I dont often comment but wanted to share how youve added positivity to my life. While I don't share the Trans experience, as a Cis woman who has struggled with how I present due to concern over how I will be perceived (in regards to body modification, tattooing and clothing), your videos have helped me to find confidence and joy in allowing myself to be as freely myself as I please. Thank you for being light ❤️

[@waterdragon2224]

I think if you can find happiness and acceptance within yourself, and if you can find someone who loves you for who you truly are, then you have found the key to life. ❤❤❤ I’m still on my journey…

[@MissLilyMusic]

So I was going to comment something deep and thoughtful and breaking down why society is the way it is... and then the narrator said, "it's the morning after the night before" and my brain melted.

[@JessicaLucy330]

I’m not trans myself but I’m such a huge fan of yours and how eloquently you speak about things! Please never stop using your voice! ❤

[@sachikawaii]

Thank goodness Sarah's mum didn't get upset, I had a certain amount of faith in her but you never know how its going to go, gave me shivers when she said its your life

[@lhproductions61]

I’m a trans man, just took my second shot of T yesterday this show is 🥰 makes me feel all warm and fuzzy seeing trans people flourishing and happy! I live in a “blue” state and my community is still mostly online and it hurts, having friends so far away when we just need to hug each other and cry. Video chats help for sure but…

[@BrigitteDiessl]

Luxeria, I found your channel because it was recommended to me. I watched you for the first time about a year ago and i had no idea you were a trans woman until you said. I was stoked that YT actually recommended something/someone/a channel I am actually interested in and enjoy thoroughly. I found Roly through you. I love both your channels. There are laughs, cries, educational opportunities and just a really good heart warming time to be had. Thank you so much. I am very much Gen X. I'm a 54 year old mother of two in New Zealand. I did my two year stint in London in the early 1990s and, when I arrived back in NZ the EEO had been introduced into law (Equal Employment Opportunities.) The "scene" that was Drew's interview was thoroughly upsetting. Her Mum is an absolute treasure. All mums should aspire to be like that.

[@AlexaMKDiss]

Luxeria, thank you for reacting to this show, because I am currently a homeless 19 year old trans girl who got kicked out of the house because of my true identity by my parents, and it is making me feel better about myself and it makes me feel less “scared” of being myself

[@duster497]

I wish Drew's coming out experience would just be the norm. Support from the start.

[@EllenPhantom]

thank you for sharing your thoughts. ❤ i have 2 transfriends and a friend of my mom is trans. i am the person "be nice to me, i am nice to you"-person, i dont care whats in your pants or what you identify as. just be nice. so i never had the thoughts you express. so, thank you for that. ❤

[@kellymaddick]

I love watching this series, when Sara met Donna's mum I was 😭 it was very emotional. I hope if either of my children ever have something to tell me, that they feel comfortable enough to come to me with anything and know I'd never love them any less. I can never understand parents that cut ties with their children over something that can't change and just being who they are. It breaks my heart