My Wedding Was Hijacked By My Husband's Brother. Is Our Marriage Beyond Saving?... - Best Reddit

My Wedding Was Hijacked By My Husband's Brother. Is Our Marriage Beyond Saving?... - Best Reddit
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My Husband Let His Brother Propose At Our Wedding After I Said No And Is Now Asking For Forgiveness. What Should I Do?
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My wedding day began as a dream come true. The morning sun bathed the room in golden light as I adjusted my lace veil, preparing to marry Liam, my supportive and kind-hearted fiancé. The ceremony, held in a quaint chapel adorned with white roses and twinkling lights, was everything I had envisioned. As I walked down the aisle, the joy in Liam’s eyes reaffirmed my feelings of being the luckiest woman alive.
Following the ceremony, the reception took place in a lush garden, filled with the fragrance of roses and jasmine, laughter, and music. It was a joyous continuation of our special day, marred only by the presence of Liam’s brother, Ben, whose behavior had always unsettled me. Despite my misgivings about Ben, I remained polite, understanding the familial challenges he faced growing up alongside Liam, who was diagnosed with high-functioning autism during their childhood. This diagnosis led their parents to focus more on Liam, inadvertently neglecting Ben, which had lasting effects on his behavior.
During a family dinner four weeks before the wedding, Ben announced his intention to propose to his girlfriend, Melody, at our reception. I initially thought he was joking, but the seriousness of his plan soon became apparent. Liam, eager to please his brother, immediately agreed, not understanding the social implications. I suggested to Liam that we help Ben plan a separate event for the proposal, aiming to preserve our day and still support his brother. Liam agreed, and we thought the matter was settled after explaining this to Ben.
However, as the wedding approached, Liam’s family began to pressure him to allow the proposal at our reception. Despite our efforts to resist this pressure and maintain our boundaries, the family’s insistence only grew stronger. Liam struggled with the desire to please both his family and me, a balancing act that became increasingly stressful.
On our wedding day, despite prior agreements, Ben proceeded with his proposal during his best man speech, catching everyone off guard and overshadowing our celebration. Shocked and betrayed, I left the reception in tears, unable to cope with the blatant disregard for our wishes.
In the aftermath, the silence from Liam’s family was deafening. They made no attempts to reach out or apologize, instead celebrating Ben’s engagement as if nothing had happened. This reaction only deepened my sense of betrayal and highlighted a stark difference in values and respect. Liam tried to apologize, explaining the immense pressure he had faced from his family, but the damage was significant.
Seeking clarity and hoping to address the unresolved issues, I met with Ben a few days later. During our conversation, it became clear that Ben had not fully grasitated the impact of his actions, viewing the wedding as an opportunity for a grand romantic gesture. Despite his apologies, the trust between us had been severely damaged.
This situation left me questioning the future of my relationship with Liam and his family. The lack of empathy and understanding from his family was troubling, not just for the event itself but for how it reflected on their views and attitudes moving forward. As I considered the possibility of salvaging our marriage, I knew that any path forward would require clear boundaries and a new understanding of respect and communication.
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[@kellymcdonald9552]

Just get an annulment and move on. Find someone with a backbone who shares your values and isn't so easily manipulated. Staying will just lead to years of this repeated behavior, it's not worth your sanity.

[@jessicathompson236]

Yep because every special moment and event in Liam's life will be overshadowed by attention hungry Ben.

[@outbackfirefly1154]

What I would do in place of the bride? I would stand with microphone in hand and announce annulment of the marriage. If husband can’t stand up for his wife on a wedding day, he will never stand up for her during that marriage. No amount of love will compensate lack of respect. He let his family destroy his marriage, he is not worthy of it.

[@Yazevski]

You only get a single attempt at a first wedding, you can't get that back.

[@jessicathompson236]

I'd send the brother the bill. Clearly it was a proposal party and not a wedding after all. (And that marriage would be annulled.)

[@lindalmiller429]

Liam will always fold to his family. Move on.

[@anniedeedrix6732]

Why do use Reddit as a place to test out their writing skills ? I’m annoyed by all the unnecessary information , don’t care about the sky or internal dialogues ..

[@panmoncada7257]

It’s this Chanel only I thought I blocked them because they only do these stupid fucking narrative stories

[@arikemeiziii5549]

Thats why 98% of these read like bullcrap. Creative writing college essay type essays

[@Da_bear-ij9gm]

@@arikemeiziii5549”why do the people who write paragraphs upon paragraphs for free sound like people who enjoy creative writing classes” I’m sure you can figure that one out smart guy

[@ccannon1]

Yeah that whole intro was completely unnecessary.

[@tso77.77]

Because these ones are fake. Nobody talks that flowery when recalling an event that happened, but they do when writing fiction

[@margaretsnewtoylynnparks5336]

Dump Liam. This will REPEAT!!!!

[@jikook7457]

"What beautiful moment did Ben create?" Would've been my response to those saying it online. "Did U mean the beautiful day Liam and I created that Ben highjacked?"

[@bakkwa8705]

I think there should be a law enacted that requires people who propose at other people’s weddings to be liable for half the wedding costs . That should make them think twice before pulling this shit .

[@jikook7457]

I'd be happier if op announced a baby at Ben's wedding 😅

[@jessicathompson236]

Or all of it plus a clause that gives the wounded party compensation for the ruin of their marriage

[@anacheah8981]

100% of the cost.

[@QrincessQri]

My petty self would try to get pregnant around the time of Ben and Melody’s wedding so we could announce our pregnancy DURING their reception.

[@joannegregory3024]

If he caves on that on your wedding day he ll always cave to his family

[@LadyJoolree]

OP had three conversations about this before the wedding and made her feelings on the matter clear. She gave them the grace of good communication, and they acted like they agreed. Liam broke his vow to forsake ALL OTHERS, and that includes his family, within minutes. No one deserves to be manipulated and bullied, let alone on their wedding day, and especially not by a spouse or their family. OP needs to get that annulment and sue Ben for costs of his 'magic moment'. If she wants to stay with Liam they need to start again from scratch, but he needs to know she respects herself enough to be taken seriously. Personally, I'd keep stepping!

[@samoea19]

I could never stay married to a doormat

[@dianecheney4141]

There's an old saying that Ah's use often. It's easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission

[@hazelmary]

disgusting you should never do that at some one else wedding its big no no the family member on her husband side are disgusting vile people OP should get rid of this family and find some one better who will respect her as equal

[@Mop222]

And the fact that there were no posts on their social media accounts about Liam’s wedding, says it all. Run away from this wuss who allowed it, after you specifically told him your feelings. He will always cave to them.

[@hazelmary]

@@Mop222 yes true he always will cave I think he is people pleaser

[@CF1971]

Its fake, but i would send the family a bill for the reception aka the proposal ben created

[@jeremycoley4376]

This fake story was filled with more inner monologue and scenery than the actually story.

[@tobykai6]

She should announce a pregnancy at Ben's wedding.

[@RedditFamilyTales]

Do you think that is a good option? But why?

[@jessicathompson236]

Nah. Then it's just a pissing contest of mememememe

[@c00lbreeze]

Lol that intro... can you imagine if people actually take like that "I sat on the toilet, adjusting the delicately laced veil that cascaded down toilet paper roll"... sooooo obviously a bs creative writing story

[@carlamurphy9328]

I have high functioning autism and even I know that allowing a family member to high jack a wedding to fulfill their selfish desires is a big no no. I am a people pleaser to an extent, but have enough of a backbone that grew from getting tired of being the proverbial doormat to be trample over. That’s how I learned the importance of boundaries and advocating for myself. OP needs to decide if she wants to stay married to Liam and if it’s worth keeping peace and happiness with in Liam’s side of the family at her expense. If she is within the timeframe allowed by her state to get an annulment, she should do so. Otherwise she would have to go through the process of divorce. She should consult an attorney to find out, especially if she has to go through the divorce process. If she decides to give Liam a chance, she needs to lay out her terms in black and white explicitly telling him what it will cost him should things not change (expense). Boundaries have to be set with his family too. If he won’t even listen and continues making excuses for his family, she will never be first as his spouse. Liam needs to think about the price he’ll pay if he continues putting his family’s selfishness ahead of what should be his priority. OP sounds like great lady and deserves better. I am glad there aren’t children in the mix because that would tie her to him and his family for the next 18 years regardless of whether they stay married. I would like an an update to this story to see what happened and if she stayed married. They say they will make it up to her, but there is no making up of fixing what was done, only moving forward however she decides.

[@RedditFamilyTales]

Thank you so much for your kind words.

[@unkle_iroh]

Is this story ai cuz no human writes like this unless it’s like a novel or smthn

[@jeylincim5655]

I think so too, it’s so weird for a Reddit post

[@hookedonreactions7649]

I think they take Reddit stories and ‘enhance’ them.

[@aidenmartin6674]

Sounds fake

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Yeah it’s AI or creative writing. This is how you’d write a story but not a Reddit post, people don’t naturally use this much description conversationally

[@eliciabonnie]

Sounds like a ChatGPT story

[@desrayann]

OP needs to move on and get a divorce the family is toxic and she will always be last place to her husband family they did not care about her feelings and her husband didn’t either so why stay married to him if he would allow his family to do that! No one apologized after so much days and her ass of a husband sent her a stupid email after the fact but how come he did demand for his family to show up and apologize! That because he really don’t care! She need to divorce him she will be unhappy in that marriage and I f children comes along they will be treated like shit too!

[@niccolehoody7317]

I would had sue someone

[@srsh12345]

Bride got a sneak preview into her lifetime of marriage into this family and still can't walk away?

[@annelies8538]

Sigh! Brevity is the soul of wit.

[@Diapason32]

Excess adjectives are the soul of creative writing class.

[@susanconroy7911]

So what happened….did she walk away in the end?

[@nancyriggs8170]

He is using that old its easier to ask forgiveness than permission trick on you.. Dump him, he will always bend over for his family, and youll just have to deal with it.. Weak man:: run girl run..

[@jenniferhoisington66]

Baby Benny is bbeing enabed because his mother can't cut the cordJust run

[@mochipark1995]

Op should announce something important on ben's wedding day too

[@betsyab121]

Soooo...what happened? Annullment? Reconciliation? Why go into a psychology lecture at the end? I am confused! And I just wasted 20 minutes of my life that I will never get back!

[@robinrobin02]

I would have noped out of that marriage. Husband also doesn't give a damn about the wife.

[@jodenney5727]

So disrespectful to do that at someone wedding. Ben is the ah.

[@lynngrant533]

A good story but it really needs an update.

[@RedditFamilyTales]

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[@tarunsharma4915]

Break up with him. You will always be secondary to the family.

[@dianecheney4141]

I'd have your husband start putting away money every month for five years and then you go do another destination wedding some where far away from his brothe

[@jazzyl145]

If it was the other way around would be ok? I think not

[@RJ-sb5qr]

So what happened? The added commentary was unnecessary or wanted. We want to know what the bride did. Did she go back to Liam? Did she have it out with his disrespectful family? The story was ruined by unnecessary information.

[@tweetsypeasy]

I'm so tired of these creative writing stories.

[@brianahyler381]

I will continue downvoting and reporting rage bait

[@hermit44]

So much yapping and so little action. Womp womp

[@Rorschachqp]

Basically OP picked the wrong guy to marry. She liked the people-pleaser but found out he’s not HER people-pleaser. This might be a OP personality issue.

[@RedditFamilyTales]

It sounds like you're suggesting that OP's personality might be part of the problem. Can you explain more about what you mean by OP's personality issue?

[@jeremycoley4376]

Reddit family tales i get that youre trying to make a quick buck but please use real stories to avoid such trash.

[@TheCreepySmile]

If this is real, and that's a very big If, then she should be happy for her Family members. Things like that happen in family. Like every day. She is talking about communication and respect but is neither to the family. Sounds very selfish. She is very self centered and can't be happy with this Family cause they will never accept her. And she is actually trying to get him away from the Familie. A lot of red flags in my opinion. How would she handle kids for example, if she handels a proposal like that? I think she is the Problem, cause she wanted it to be about her, when it was in fact - about two families comming together. What she managed to destroy with fervor. I think thats the big disconect nowdays. It's not about you. Darn it.

[@BeatrizOliveira-wt6mu]

That's the red flag? What about lying and manipulating? That's what the whole family did to her. They KNEW she did not want that. She is also paying for the wedding. They all knew yet they chose to lie and manipulate tbe situation. Also compromise? They did not compromise they went completely against their wishes. I can only hope you're that benevolent in case someone proposed at your wedding even though you said you didn't want that. Its disrespectful

[@janetd5121]

You DO NOT propose at someone else's wedding without explicit permission from both the bride and groom to do so period. The brother was even offered an alternative and still did it anyway. You simply do not take over someone else's event, it is Ben who is self centered and can't be happy for one day for his brother to have uninterrupted.

[@RedditFamilyTales]

I understand your perspective, but please consider that most people only have one wedding. Disruptions can profoundly impact the bride's emotions and memories of her special day. It's important to respect that.

[@LadyJoolree]

Its not about the couple but about two families coming together? Pleaaaase! 😂 It's about witnessing the couple taking THEIR vows, otherwise they would all have stood up and taken vows together en masse. Ben, Liam et al have shown they lack the calibre to be part of OP's family.

[@robinstedman1270]

Tell Liam to pound sand, tear up the marriage license (before it can be filed), and take Ben, Liam, and their parents to small claims court to recoup any money you and/or your family spent. They went against your express wishes, knowing exactly how you felt. They deceived you, and conspired to hijack your wedding for their own selfish wants, Liam included. He will always knuckle under to his parents and their "golden child".

[@Diapason32]

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