My Wife Has No Sex Drive: Here Is The Solution

[@RonHarrisMuscle]

Isn't it ironic how so many wives struggle to change and mold their husband into being what they think they want, only to lose all respect and attraction for him when they succeed?

[@MagusKali]

Do they ever really know what they want?

[@francikoen]

Isn't it ironic how so many wives struggle with obnoxious, selfish, drunken, drug using, gambling, pornography using, bad tempered husbands... yet you spew hatred at wives! It's ironic how many men are filled with Toxic Masculinity and cowardice, so they blame women for men's vices.

[@DeadpoolX9]

@@MagusKali No because it requires honesty and ironically enough for the untethered privilege they have with being able to mouth off to everybody without fear of being punched, being honest with themselves is not something they do especially when the sisterhood is pumping them full of self destructive lies.

[@deathshead556]

It goes to prove what they want and what they say they want are two different things.

[@j.p.5716]

When biblically, the exact opposite is what God commands. The wife should be changing and molding herself to conform herself to her husband. When that happens, if the wife does it for the right reason, and she is willingly able to lay down her pride, both will be happy.

[@LV-1969]

Women are not attracted to their husbands until they leave and become happier with someone else. Women hate that.

[@MrJfortheElohim]

Yup, that's because they love drama.

[@smokingcrab2290]

They only hate it because the man isn't miserable anymore. They want the man to be as miserable as they are.

[@mcc7762]

True. Your happiness infuriates them even more. They are mental patients.

[@badass1g]

Someone younger and hotter. I’ve seen this happen so many times

[@originalmix2546]

@@mcc7762 mental patients, when they are not happy that their bf's and hubbies cheat on them? huh lol Should they be happy when they got cheated on instead? Okkkk. guess you would be very glad if your woman got with someone behind your back...now that's a true simp!!!

[@johngreen1776]

Old timer advice: Keep your masculinity intact and don’t fear losing your wife. If you keep your masculinity intact you will have your own self respect which is the most important. If she does not want you, a masculine man can easily find another woman if he wants to.

[@frankbroker726]

Finding another woman is easy... so easy. Tw

[@JW-iz6mv]

You are absolutely correct... If your wife is not fearful of losing you you're going to have problems..

[@v.r.2834]

😂😂😂 sure… that’s why 63% of men in USA living alone …because they can “ easily find another woman” 🤡

[@b.d.hooten1785]

@@v.r.2834 nope. Thats because they know most single women these days are single for a very good reason. And they're not about to bring that level of crazy into their peace.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

I understand this.

[@Belg6179]

How prevalent is this? I have coffee with my fellow retirees once a week. This subject came up. 5 of us at the table. 5 of us married. 5 of us have been denied sex for 3 years or longer. 100% fail rate at the coffee round table. The one thing all of us agreed on was #1: We want sex. #2: We want it with our wives.

[@edgilchrist6374]

I think it is the norm. The confusing thing is why we put up with it.

[@jongault7527]

Way past time for you and your friends to assert your marital rights... 3 years minimum??? If you and all your wives are in good health, You all need to work to work to solve this... This can't be healthy for your marriages. Me: 33 years married, twice a week minimum. She controls the weekdays... I control the weekends...

[@j.p.5716]

@@jongault7527 - You need to retake control of the weekdays.

[@j.p.5716]

None of you should have let it go that far but it's never too late to fix a problem. Go back and tell your wives that a no sex marriage is not a marriage at all and it's unacceptable and if they don't start putting out again they are going to be punished for it. If any of you are Christians you can use God's word to correct your wives sinful behavior.

[@zaidoonabdelhadi1996]

Try sounding or acting like you might be having an affair; it works like magic on the "on-off switch." You're better off always getting a prenup or don't get married to begin with. No real benefit for men. We are not breeding bulls yearning for "emasculation" by some psychopath.

[@donfranklin6956]

You nailed it! A man cannot try to have “game” with a woman who is emasculating him. He must immediately stop trying to romance and please her. He must entirely untether himself from a need for her.

[@francikoen]

Cowardly cucks blame women for men's vices. Don thinks men don't have reason & free will, which would mean they are not human. Don blames women for men's vices.

[@ffarmchicken]

If the wife denies sex, tell her you are going to get it with somebody else. Nothing personal, but men need to have sex to prevent prostrate cancer.

[@J-WOT]

I was gonna say that the core issue should be taken care of before even attempting any "game" on your female partner. Because "game" requires two people to participate even if the man initiates it. Romancing when every sign on her face is saying that she doesn't want to romance... You will be shut down faster than Stephen Hawking asking someone to dance. So you are right. He needs to gain his masculine confidence and power separately from her. I personally think that when she starts noticing that's when the real conversations to address the problem will open up.

[@thetruther954]

“Emasculating”, it’s been called that by a counselor that I had. I don’t like the term. I’m not sure I like the box we sometimes stuff feminism into. I just never understood the emasculating women who all sit around with crotch and pits and arms exposed like they were with a priest. Ever see that happen? And me, I am always Charlie Brown trying to kick the football. It’s not that women never pay attention to me, that would be those two men at the center of the room. I wouldn’t say I’ve been emasculated. I would say, once again, I trusted down the road, something was supposed to happen.

[@rjkubr]

You can't negotiate desire.

[@jwg9338]

100%. My ex-wife was repulsed by herself, but projected that on me via emasculation. Everyone around her tried to get her to see it was her lack of self-love that was the cause of our misery. Thankfully, I've found a much better, more confident woman to make a life with.

[@deathshead556]

You dropped this...👑

[@francikoen]

@jwg9338. You think you don't have any agency yourself, which makes you a dumb animal. Cowards blame women for their own vices.

[@smokingcrab2290]

This is how mine is. She doesn't manage her time, take care of herself, manage her emotions, etc. I come home to a woman who has everything she wants. She's a stay at home mom with only one child. Building a homestead. I make good money. I'm in shape. I do as many chores for her as I can. But she acts like she's entirely overwhelmed and she stresses herself out like crazy over just one kid. She almost never wants to talk to me when I get home. Barely responds to my texts. And almost never touches me. And then she nags me, emasculates me, doesn't take my advice, doesn't ever ask me questions and just goes straight to judging me, doesn't care about my needs. Etc. She just thinks she's doing her part by making dinner, changing diapers, and doing the laundry. No desire for a relationship.

[@francikoen]

@@smokingcrab2290 You're lying. You're an INCEL living in a fantasy world of degrading women... except your celluloid girl friends.

[@deirdremorris9234]

​@@smokingcrab2290Key word I had to find was diapers! Ok so yall just had a baby? Did she have a traumatic birth? Whats her age? How old is your baby? Does she have friends? Family near by?

[@mniks8860]

25 years married, wife has been a SAHM for 18 years, two wonderful kids. After 2nd child was born 11 years ago she started pushing me away, almost 3 years ago finally said it was no longer possible, she is not interested. I tried everything, finally naturally started doing exactly what this video says to do, for about a year now. I just went about my life, more friends, working out, playing with the kids, standing up for myself...now, I no longer have those kinds of feelings for my wife and I dont want to go back to having them, I feel completely disconnected and alone, but no longer emmasculated.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

I understand this. "I'm a broken soul"

[@iankaplan6590]

Late reply, but going through the same thing. 25 years married also. She told me she doesn't care if she never has intimacy again.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

@@kevinlamberg9724 Me also.

[@alaskatoy]

I'm there too. It took 15 years of misery, but I'm finally reclaiming myself. She's fine either way. I have to find things that make me happy and stop worrying about her.

[@JRRodriguez-nu7po]

It's interesting how much Churchianity condemns pornography and sex outside of marriage, but never holds a wife accountable for her Bible ordained DUTY. Feminism is cancer, MGTOW is chemotherapy.

[@tedlogan4867]

Every woman who thinks she wants to be a wife must hear this. In a word: the problem is HER, but in the current socio-cultural climate, NOTHING is EVER the woman's fault for ANYTHING.

[@misterserious3522]

Thats because females wont pay the bills that the govt and lawyer rack up. Thats why they always find the male guilty and forced to pay for everything, Lawyers dont like to work for free, they get their money by ransoming your rights to you, temporarily and with no guarantee youll get to use them successfully.

[@siredith8846]

If she believes that, let her. We’ll look elsewhere.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

I now understand this.

[@VikingMan44]

The problem is him and her. She emasculates, he allows emasculation. If she stops emasculating but he remains open to emasculation, that might still kill her sexual drive. She is turned on by confidence and strength.

[@JasonlaroseLaRose]

Goddesses can't be wrong. Who wanted to be like God knowing good and bad? Who is the mother of all women?

[@lowcarbRD]

Problem is most women never develop this level of self awareness.

[@DeadpoolX9]

It might actively be dangerous for them. The brotherhood values and respect honesty and uncomfortable truths. The sisterhood values conformity and will actively shun and denigrate anybody who does something otherwise so they're actively incentivized to do the opposite. Its why men will stand up to men for women but women barely stand upto other women for men.

[@smokingcrab2290]

@DeadpoolX9, women are at each other's throats constantly unless it's to shit on men. Then they're lock in step.

[@smokingcrab2290]

No they avoid this self awareness at all costs. I'm a pretty analytical dude and I like to ask questions and to figure things out. And I'm curious about my wife's mind. And even if I ask her about herself and how she works in her head, she gets frustrated because it's like she doesn't even want to think about how her processes are. I don't think women are even interested in self awareness because it's too hard for them. Too much bandwidth for their ultra sensitive brains.

[@mcc7762]

No, they don't. They don't care, and are too lazy to put in the work to improve themselves.

[@deirdremorris9234]

​@@smokingcrab2290How long have you been married? Religious? What kind of religion? Sexual abuse in your wifes background? What are your ages?

[@zaidoonabdelhadi1996]

Why are we talking about emasculation as if it’s law of nature like gravity ? It’s devious, abusive and damaging. Why do we see such women as victims of being emasculative !!! That is an abusive person, regardless of where it’s stemming from. When men attempt anything similar it is ( rightfully ) called abuse. No one speaks about men’s “relationship with themselves “

[@Jaco3688]

💯 % true. But, you know, we’ve got to sugarcoat it for the gals.

[@zaidoonabdelhadi1996]

@@Jaco3688 Maybe that’s where the problem ( and the solution) resides?

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

Actually Karyn touches on it. Paul Elam covers it as well. Trying to satisfy your wife will only result in them despising you. Men need to be confident and not rely on their wives for feeling good.

[@sammyb1651]

Straight facts.

[@canelareina3795]

I don't know what a "relationship with yourself" is. I think she means women are miserbale, have low self esteem and hate themselves - Lol, in reality women think too highly of themselves.

[@bugeyes5396]

So this is 100% issue we had and it didn't seem to matter how constructive I was. Whenever I would point out or we try to talk about the issues she would just get defensive and just push it all back on me. She's not open-minded to hearing she does anything wrong ever! So I left it, I'm Much happier. I just wish I would have learned a lot of this stuff before we had a child together because now our child has to suffer and that breaks my heart.

[@ironglandx3270]

Same thing. Going through it too. Tried to talk, she shut down. But if our conversation had anything to do with me being the problem, she would talk all day long. Eventually, it was too much and left too.

[@francikoen]

You cucks think men can do no wrong and women can do no right. Not surprised your wife found you repulsive.

[@allenplant1702]

I had the similar issue with my ex wife. No matter how many counselors we went to/classes I went to.... She didn't want to change HERSELF. It was easier for her to tell me I was the source and only one who needed change and growth. I'm sorry for your suffering.

[@francikoen]

@@allenplant1702 The vast majority of men are egotistical, selfish, greedy, lustful, intemperate, dishonest and slothful towards personal relationships. Men lie about their ex-wives all the time. So I don't believe you. *Men love to hate women.*

[@kiheidude]

Yup, same problem here. Everything is always my fault. If i try to lovingly talk to her; she gets defensive then angry. I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut and suffer silence just to keep peace in our home.

[@logic45audio]

The day I married my wife was the last time I saw her. We were so tired that we went to bed that night and when I woke up she was a totally different person. She didn't look at me that way she wasn't interested in me she started arguments and kept things going the whole time. I even cut the honeymoon short because we weren't getting along. I have waited 29 years and she is still the same way to me. I told her that she has less than 2 years and I am leaving if she hasn't changed. I will be 60 in 2 years and I don't intend on turning 60 by myself. This is horrible and no one understands just what a man goes through. You're supposed to try to be a good husband you're supposed to try to do all the things a husband's supposed to do but you get treated like a crumb. I've had enough if she doesn't change I'm going to leave. The rest of my life will be screwed up after this because we have a home that is paid for vehicles that are paid for and quite a few animals so this is a horrible thing. She's never going to change I begged and pleaded and done everything I can I've been mad for so many years and resentful and it's just made for a horrible life. If I had to do over again I would have never met this girl. I don't deserve this and I don't really care what her reasons are at this point I'm tired of this. I'm a good man and I've made a lot of mistakes and I've been really mad for a long time but how can a person stay happy like this you're supposed to keep smiling while they treat you this way. If you don't want to be with me why are we together? So you can punish me for something I haven't done right

[@cairnex4473]

You've wasted 30 years on that woman, she isn't going to change. Don't waste another day.

[@cherrypieforbreakfast1499]

Same thing happened to me. I waited 20 years, which was 20 years too long. You've waited 29 years too long.

[@tropics8407]

Wtf…. Women have a high capacity for evil

[@SilviaLampa]

I am sorry. I am 32 and very unsure about my marriage as well...I think I am wasting my life at this point

[@dimitri652]

It sounds like you're not going to do nothing about it. I would tell you to go oversees, like the Philippines cuz even though you're 60 you're still quite young over there. One man's trash is another man's treasure.

[@Boilermedman]

My happiness has evolved away from my wife & on to other things, hobbies, etc. She stays on her side of the house & me on mine. We're housemates only, and have some fantastic grandkids as our only thing in common anymore. The tragedy is the loss of what could have been.

[@johnlong7178]

Brother I’m right there also, she sits upstairs and I sit and sometimes sleep in the basement where my stuff is. I hate that I feel like I’ve wasted the last 31 years. She cut me off 12 years ago, because of my religious belief I’ve stayed but I’m reaching the breaking point. At 63 I’m still in pretty good shape and get my share of flirts by women younger and my age, trouble is I just can’t cheat it’s not who I am…good luck to you and me.

[@MrJfortheElohim]

@@johnlong7178if you only knew that your religion goes the opposite of what is written in the Bible. Sirach 25:26, you can find it in the 1611 KJV Bible in the Apocrypha.

[@j.p.5716]

@@johnlong7178 - John, if you are a Christian I am going to share some scripture with you in a way that you might not have heard it before. The Bible tells us that God allows divorce in only two circumstances. 1. Matthew 19:9 gives us one case in which divorce is allowable: sexual immorality. This term translates the Greek word "porneia", which can cover a wide variety of sexual sins and not just adultery. Repeated, impenitent sexual sin is proper grounds upon which the injured spouse may seek a biblical divorce. A wife denying her husband sex IS a sexual sin (1 Corinthians 7:3-6) and thereby legitimate ground for divorce. You need to explain these verses to your wife and give her a (very short) opportunity to repent from her sexual sin. If she does not, you are free to divorce her. 2. Paul gives the other grounds for a biblically permissible divorce-desertion on the part of an unbeliever (1 Cor. 7:10-16). A Christian married to an unbeliever is free to remarry if the unbeliever leaves. A Christian wife is also to submit to her husband in everything. This is taught in Colossians 3:18, Ephesians 5:22-24 and 1 Peter 3:1-2. You need to teach those verses to your wife also. It is your job as her husband to "Love her as Christ loves the church" and to "wash her in the water of the word" to help her in sanctification (Ephesians 5:25-27). This submission is required in EVERYTHING. Sex included. Another way that Christ loves (His bride) the church is detailed in this verse where Jesus says: "Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline. Therefore be zealous and repent." (Revelation 3:19). If you are to "love your wife as Christ loves the church", sometimes you might have to lovingly discipline her if she refused to repent from her sin. This can be tricky and painful but it is part of how husbands must sacrifice themselves for their wives. If in this process your wife leaves you, something else the bible tells Christian wives they are not to do (1 Corinthians 7:10). if when you start putting pressure on her to repent from her sin and she gets mad and leaves, that is just another sin she is piling on. If she does not repent quickly, then a case can be made that she is not really a Christian at all. "And by this we know that we have come to know Him, if we keep His commandments. The one who says, “I have come to know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; " (1 John 2:3-4) Another verse for women who claim to "love Jesus". Jesus says: "If you love me, you will keep my commandments." (John 14:15). At this point you have been abandoned by an unbeliever and again are free to divorce and remarry. The cancer of feminism has diseased us all (men and women) and we men need to take back out God assigned leadership role and husband (and love) our wife the way God intended.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Dude just get divorced

[@mcc7762]

It is a shame you cannot just go get your own house. She is not worth the trouble.

[@shiningWiz4rd]

I feel so discouraged to get married. It's not worth the hassle it seems

[@derfalschejunge]

It seems much more work than gain.

[@canelareina3795]

Spend time with masculine men who who are successful with their wives. Pick up how to do it too.

[@namegoeshere2903]

Passport bro...look it up.

[@mcc7762]

Just watch how her mother treats her father for an extended period of time. You will see the cracks, or you will see a harmonious relationship. Then you know whether to dump or jump.

[@nefster9777]

Marriage is wonderful, it’s like anything else, it takes work to keep it alive. Now days couples are too quick to get divorced!! No one wants to work to stay together. It’s easier to leave than work things out. Yes there are time when it’s about to fall apart, money issues, kids, life!! Marriage is not easy, but if your really meant for each other keep talking, stop blaming, stay the course!! You will have love that will keep you together. Sole mates!!

[@tag_76]

If someone as an adult must be taught how to treat others; whether sexually or not, move on. They aren't the one.

[@j.p.5716]

You are going to spend your entire life "moving on". Women have to be taught and trained. If they didn't get it from their parents (single mother) then it's up to the husband. They don't call it husbandry for nothing.

[@mcc7762]

Yep, not worth the trouble. Feminism has destroyed the natural dynamic.

[@Reallgeemachine]

@@j.p.5716 They were taught and trained by feminism. Many people in the west do not keep their parents culture. We have created the ultimate brain washing system with our media and school system. Most western women are fucked, they will not be able to resist the propaganda. The smart people create very strong morals and cultures in their own families and make a strong emphasis on teaching their kids these intricate social issues that we dont really ever notice.

[@tedwojtasik8781]

@@j.p.5716 Personally, I would rather be alone. I was not put on this Earth to be the "daddy" or "teacher" to a grown woman. If people have issues, get help BEFORE you decide to get married and screw up someone else's life.

[@darlingtonbesa2021]

This is true.

[@ofrank6551]

I fought for sex for 40 years. I literally just gave up! Simply got tired of fighting for it! It’s been a year now since we’ve had sex. I don’t hug her or touch her in any way. I’ll even walk around the other side of the room to avoid her. She does not even care! I WILL NOT RESPOND until she bring up the topic. She never does. Don’t see it changing any time soon! I very sad and heart broken!

[@anthonywilliams855]

You deserve sexual honor seek it thru a concubine and not a prostitute

[@iankaplan6590]

I said I would not denigrate myself to begging for sex from her. Waited for her to initiate...something...anything. 6 years later I'm still waiting.

[@steveross4151]

Women dont wanna be wives, they just want weddings. U should leave that broad immediately. That aint your wife, thats ur room mate.

[@jsdevtom]

I'm sorry brother. I hear you.

[@Boosted_aj]

Leave

[@edgilchrist6374]

This is the first sex advice I have ever heard that is the simple truth. The other influencers and advisors are just grifters. The more I try to be a helper and savior to my wife, the more she shuts down because it makes me look weak in her eyes. This is very non-intuitive and counter to what we all learned from our sisters and mothers as boys. I don't have to be nasty and manipulative, I just have to not look weak. Easier said than done; I am still trying.

[@simplerider3159]

A lot of women out there want a man to please them, but they are not attracted to the pushover. But when the guy is not a pushover the relationship becomes a turmoil and chaotic. It's a catch 22. Women either need to find the wimp they created attractive or realize a man that won't put up with her unreasonable self, tantrums and all that. Will not want to stay with her.

[@sammyb1651]

Otherwise known as the "grass is always greener". Otherwise know as "they're never happy".

[@robertdevoy3119]

When your car is broke and not worth fixing, you replace it. Do the same with your wife. Do whatever it takes. Sell the house, split the proceeds, divide the assets, etc. Move on and get happy.

[@blatherskyt]

Also, Covert Narcissists have serious issues with intimacy. So make sure you understand that personality disorder and the signs of it.

[@dereklauer8151]

I agree, in that boat now.

[@mcc7762]

Absolutely right. They are mentally incapable of having sincere intimacy. They only use it to get what they want, and then go back to being insensitive robots.

[@katemizu]

My husband. He withholds sex.

[@VooDooMaGicMan81]

Narcissists of all varieties are hard wired to be promiscuous and adventurous sexually. You're not dealing with a covert narcissist, they routinely sleep with people without feeling a drop of emotional connection.

[@VooDooMaGicMan81]

​@@katemizuyeah, that's not a covert narcissist. He would be the complete opposite, you would be a toy to him.

[@bizzyb2622]

I remember my wife would tell me All these reasons she wasn’t interested in sex, she would say maybe if I changed certain things like spending more time with her, helping with the kids, it was a list of things. I would always say it didn’t matter if I changed all the things she mentioned, you’re still not going to change, and she would say to me, you don’t know that. So I changed a lot of things, spent less time with friends, and playing basketball, spent more time, changed jobs with better hours and pay, even cooked more, took away things that would tire her out. Here we are years later, and it’s even worse. Spends more time on her phone, in the garden, and always to tired for me. Tries to blame early premenopaus, which is BS because she’s in her mid 40’s and she’s been making excuses since her late 20’s. At this point I’m pretty mentally and emotionally checked out.

[@dingdong6005]

Find another women

[@tonyjones1560]

Call this bluff: "I did everything you suggested and you're even worse now than you were then. Just like I told you. But don't worry. Outside of a divorce court, we're never going to have another conversation about sex. And no, I'm NOT going to therapy or counseling because I'm not the one with the problem. You may as well come play basketball with me, because the ball is in your court."

[@theautodidacticman_]

Intimacy is the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship.

[@barbmelle3136]

or a business partnership.

[@caseyshelton1606]

My wife always has an excuse. Now i am going to withdrawal all affection and not give a shit.

[@mnelson505]

Easier said than done.

[@originalmix2546]

hope she divorces you ASAP

[@gianni_schicchi]

@@originalmix2546 you were literally just in another comment thread saying how it’s both partners responsibilities to keep the marriage happy together Total hypocrite talking about how the advice here is bad, but look how toxic you are, to use a word you love to misuse

[@rayrwyr]

Note that wives never lose interest s3x with their affair partners. So interest in s3x is not the problem. What kills wife's interest in s3x with her husband is the certainty, safety, commitment of a devoted husband. Without fear, uncertainty, anxiety of losing him, without the challenge of catching and retaining him, a woman does not get s3xually excited about a man. There is no easy cure to the problem of fixing s3xual attraction for her husband. How can she develop attraction for her husband? That can happen only if she feels insecure and uncertain about her husband. She must fear that she may lose him to other hotter younger women. She must fear her husband is leaving her and replacing her. Only then she will redevelop respect for him and redevelop s3xual attraction for him again. So the husband must understand this dynamic and he must take the bold action of not tolerating her BS. Wife will never do that for him.

[@originalmix2546]

@@rayrwyr instead of all this nonsense you just wrote, go talk to some older men, your grandfather's age, learn from old men and their fathers even, not from young easy money -fame makers on youtube who eagerly give out worst possible ''advice'' for views and for the sake of their agenda.

[@deezynar]

"Sex is a choice" No. Not in marriage. Sex, regular sex, frequent sex, is obligatory because sex is one of the main things that marriage is about. Sex is one of the things couples promise to do with their spouse in their marriage vows. Get it through your head that you are the sole sexual outlet for your spouse. You. And your spouse is your sole sexual outlet for you. If you are masturbating while telling your spouse that you have a headache, you have broken your vow, broken your commitment.

[@BC-vg3zf]

Yes but to see it as part of the whole. Better for family, better for community ,better for self and safer for sexual health plus your partner

[@toddrickbradley7220]

I hypothesize that ladies are actually wired to try emasculating their husbands. But she is so right because when I stand up for myself I have a much better response then when I was trying to be a people pleaser. LOL

[@jimjohnson394]

True. In the manosphere, it is called "excrement tests". Women will see what they can get away with, and one of those tests is to cut off the sex. I don't think it is entirely a conscious effort, but they want to be reassured that their man is a strong provider and leader. If you fail, they will lose attraction for you.

[@j.p.5716]

You are right and it's called a "Shit Test". A kinder and more descriptive tern is "Fitness Test". Women are naturally insecure and they are always second guessing themselves and that goes with the man they chose also. They, some without even knowing it, will test their men to see if they are strong enough to (benevolently) put them in their place and if the man passes the test, the woman will feel safe and secure and happy again. If the man does not pass the test(s) they get even more insecure and unhappy and it goes down hill from there. A woman will never be sexually attracted to a man who she does not respect and she will never respect a man she can control. A man should never submit to the whims of his (or any) woman. Never go out of your way to try and please them just because they are unhappy with you. The only time you should do something that pleases her is as a reward for her good behavior. Never reward bad behavior, only good.

[@arcotstyle]

it's the same for women who are people-pleasers.. people in general respect those who respect themselves and take advantage of those who don't, sometimes unconsciously.

[@smokingcrab2290]

My wife fights me even when I stand up for myself. She gets madder, and madder, and madder. Yes all women have built in shit test devices because it's a cry for help. All women are insecure and they all need constant reassurances every day the man isn't going to leave them for giving them shit. They want to know that you can handle them at their worst and still love them. But then they do everything possible to destroy the man.

[@mcc7762]

Standing up only gets them to back down for that episode. It doesn't change their overall behavior, because they ALWAYS try again.

[@raamtselon]

My wife used to say: thats how im made, so if you have a problem- talk to God " In other words - she wouldnt see the need to work on herself.

[@deirdremorris9234]

So many women and men just like that.

[@MrJfortheElohim]

The Most High made a woman to be a helpmeet not to be a heart attack in a wig. So, no we won't be taking that up with The Most High, we just won't be getting any more state marriage contracts involving the state in what God created. Marriage in America is going to become a pariah. This would be my response to the BS she vomited out of her mouth.

[@j.p.5716]

@@deirdremorris9234 - In our current society, men are not enough of a problem to bring up. It's the women who are the problem. Stop trying to spread the blame.

[@j.p.5716]

Since your wife brought God into the conversation, you should have shown her in the bible what God has to say about how wives are supposed to treat their husbands.

[@MrJfortheElohim]

@@j.p.5716 not only that but he also going to judge them on how they submitted to their husbands. Studying that now in Sirach 26.

[@jazzman1626]

The frustration caused by her withholding sex, which a man NEEDS, is painful. I don’t feel well because of being friend zoned in marriage for a long time.

[@johntiggleman4686]

@jazzman1626 my marriage can be said to be in the friend zone, or a room mate situation; the friend zone happened around 2007. Before then, I was "shooting blanks at the rifle range of love" for about 20 years, but the range was closed down on occasion. Understandable; life does intervene at times. Two years ago, it was closed permanently. Her excuse? "I'm too old." At 68? Shouldn't be. I'm 73 and I pretty sure I'm not. I keep hoping to find a friend with benefits. And I don't want any 20-30 year old with any drama.

[@jazzman1626]

@@johntiggleman4686 Mine has the tiniest hole on the planet and I once had to use a full tube of KY, half on her and the other half on me. Still it was difficult. She has Turner’s syndrome which means she was born with no eggs. There’s various physical flaws that come with it like a very very tight vagina. We didn’t do it very much because, as you can imagine, her cries of pain and the difficult situation really kills the mood. Mr. Floppy returns pretty quickly. I gave up. She also seems to be asexual. If I try to go up to her from behind and at least touch and kiss, she acts as if she doesn’t know me or like it’s really inappropriate or something. She has the typical sack of potatoes attitude, like she doesn’t know what it even is. She’s not even a good kisser, which is something I miss, and she doesn’t even touch or give me a gentle little rub on my back or arm. A friend of hers, at the new year, at the bells, kissed me on the cheek (wife was in the room so I couldn’t try for a kiss on the lips). The friend is so feminine, a strong contrast to the wife. Her kiss on my cheek was juicy and left me so wishing it was a long lingering kiss on the lips. She must be a fantastic kisser! As we left that night, the gorgeous friend gave me a gentle rub on my back and a hug. That delicious honey of a woman would have me feeling like I was walking on air. Not having any affection is painful. It saps any sense of masculinity I ever had. It’s very emasculating indeed. Next time I see her friend, I’m going to touch her arm or rub her back. I’ve decided to clear out the spare room and set up my artist’s easel and start painting again with a view to selling them. I’m taking back my masculinity!

[@jazzman1626]

@@johntiggleman4686 My reply to you has disappeared. I’m sick of this “Big Brother” interference of KZbin’s. I feel your pain. I’ve decided to take back my masculinity.

[@SamBaker-z9h]

wait oh my gosh men die if they dont have sex? no its a want not a need- food and water are a need. you have two hand if you get blue balls, use em. Jesus men are such babies.

[@thereasajohnson5540]

I just found your content. I love it. And I love it as a woman that loves men. I love my husband. I am so blessed and l couldn’t imagine a life without him. Please continue to help these women. We need so much help. Keep telling the truth.

[@idropagearbabye6822]

Marriage is a game i prefer not to play

[@snowplow7883]

Sadly there are so many women who married the “wrong” man who they were never sexually attracted to begin with, they got married for security and child support… and s3x with their husband is at best a duty… these wives have 0% chance of changing, oh yeah if you do have kids… get a paternity test before you file… it’s Christmas time, buy the kids a test as a family history and roots gift…

[@namegoeshere2903]

It's because they were promiscuous prior to marriage and burnt out their pair-bond ability. A virtuous woman is more rare than rubies.

[@mcmerry2846]

​@@namegoeshere2903virtuosity requieres Intelligence, no woman/man under 130 IQ would be making a healthy relationship

[@DelBartel0956]

After 40 years of marriage, I don't recall ever being emasculated, and I always stick up for myself. I am confident in my masculinity. Her focus was always on the kids, not the marriage, so it eventually failed. I was expected to do all the heavy lifting in the relationship, but it takes BOTH people giving 100% to make it work.

[@waylayin6159]

One thing I've noticed about these videos is that it's always the man who has to step up his game and jump through all these hoops. . It's ridiculous. Going to work, providing, caring. That's not good enough for your wife.. you have to be more manly and play her mind games. Or you won't be desired and you get to suffer. It's exausting.. it's no where near enough to just be a good guy even though your with just a good women. I don't want to have to prove my worth every damn day and slay a dragon every other hour to MAYBE have sex.

[@JoyComesInTheMorning16]

Did you hear her say that the advice “step up your game” was terrible advice? She’s calling out women here, not men.

[@BEAN6183RR]

Lobotomy

[@floyddavis7221]

My wife has taught me that the first person who gets to, “NO!” Wins. I have more fun with my wife when she is not with me.

[@mona_d]

Spot on! I speak to women on this same root issue-that when the respect is gone/wives don’t respect their husbands-everything else falls to the wayside. Respect is paramount. Great video!

[@deirdremorris9234]

Agree. And respect goes both ways. I do get concerned about men who dont resepect and love themselves.

[@smokingcrab2290]

You can be a good man in all your ways, but the woman will still refuse to respect you. They have a built in relationship destroying device.

[@DaninVirginia]

Ok, define “respect”, exactly. What is respect? What does “respect “ for a woman towards a man (and vice versa) look like? “Respect “ is a word a lot of people toss around casually but have difficulty understanding or explaining what it means.

[@deirdremorris9234]

@@DaninVirginia The word respect means to regard, revere, honor. IF one knows that all peoples are capable of doing nasty things and wonderful things, we then know the field is even. There may be things you dont like about a person, but because you honor humanity, you apply a certain kind of grace/allowence. I think because of religion and patriacrchy, people have a warped sense of respect. For instance: if my husband said "Hey I dont want you to drive your car today. I heard a sound in it and want to check it out." I know and trust his mechanical knowledge and respect his request. Likewise if Im about to cook something and the bacon (that I just bought) smells off and I say, "Hey, we cant have bacon with our breakfast. Im not chancing us having food poisoning." My husband trusts and knows that Im keen on smells and my experience with food prep. Direspect in both situationa would be to disregard the information, caution and concern. One cannot just get respect without earning it and proving a trustworthiness.

[@mcc7762]

They always find a way to lose respect. These kinds of women should never be in any committed relationship, because they never look inward, only project who they truly are onto the closest man.

[@n9wff]

Social media helps prep people to be narcissists. When your wife is watching movies, playing games and listening videos at the same time, you know you are on the bottom of the totem pole.

[@keid1020]

Married for 9 years, I've laid down the law at the very beginning and kept those standards and our marriage is as strong as ever. My wife KNOWS if she cuts me off, her worst nightmare will come to fruition which is being alone.

[@TheEnterthedreaming]

JfC, what's wrong you? Your wife can be happy without you or with someone else. Probably better off too. What kind of horrible person thinks you are the ONLY person that can bring someone happyness.

[@keid1020]

@@TheEnterthedreaming my wife and I read this comment together and we just laughed. I never said she couldn't be happy without me, but I know she enjoys my company immensely and I appreciate that, she gets respect, love, and protection and I literally just built a house for our beautiful family. I think she's good, lol.

[@TheEnterthedreaming]

@@keid1020 That's exactly what you are implying here, "her worst nightmare will come to fruition which is being alone." You are an abuser you just haven't realized it yet. Anyone who threatens their wife by "laying down the law" doesn't love their spouse they are an insecure child. Love doesn't need to lay down the law.

[@keid1020]

You're an idiot. Even my wife has standards and expectations like, not yelling at her or disrespecting her in private or public, is that abusive? Of course not. My wife loves our relationship dynamic. She thinks you're an idiot as well btw.

[@mcc7762]

Most women will not care about that threat. They never dream a man will actually leave. They threaten divorce, push him away, and think he is weak. That is why you leave them unhappy and alone with their cat.

[@allenhuling598]

Preach, Karen, love your take on this very important topic!! I doubt there has ever been a time when these things needed to be said more!

[@rb4680]

I’m in my 20s and dating, and I’ll be honest this is a huge fear of mine entering into a serious relationship

[@deirdremorris9234]

Im a grandma. My youngest son is 25 and single. PLEASE be very careful out there. Are you dating for fun or dating with the intention of marriage? Sex? I recommend against it. Do not get trapped with a baby! Ask the girls you date, hard life questions. And as I told all my sons, you should wait till you are around 30 or so beforw getting serious. Travel. Go to school. Get different skills.

[@michaelmcgrath4769]

Don’t rush into anything or don’t let others push you into anything. Stand back and take it easy. You control your own life. Marriage is not what it used to be. It can make or brake you. You are still young

[@deirdremorris9234]

@@michaelmcgrath4769 TRUE THAT!!!

[@Belg6179]

Unless you want children...Don't get married. It's what I told my sons.

[@cyrusp100]

@@Belg6179 Even if you want children don't get married.

[@rayrwyr]

Note that wives never lose interest s3x with their affair partners. So interest in s3x is not the problem. What kills wife's interest in s3x with her husband is the certainty, safety, commitment of a devoted husband. Without fear, uncertainty, anxiety of losing him, without the challenge of catching and retaining him, a woman does not get s3xually excited about a man. There is no easy cure to the problem of fixing s3xual attraction for her husband. How can she develop attraction for her husband? That can happen only if she feels insecure and uncertain about her husband. She must fear that she may lose him to other hotter younger women. She must fear her husband is leaving her and replacing her. Only then she will redevelop respect for him and redevelop s3xual attraction for him again. So the husband must understand this dynamic and he must take the bold action of not tolerating her BS. Wife will never do that for him.

[@WillDegraaf]

I stood on while she berated and bombarded me with acusations . When she couldnt find a way to control me she left . Men need to be men no matter what these days . This lady tells the truth and the truth shall make you free !!

[@jdemille79]

She's touched on this in another video I think, about how women use sex to get what they want (i.e. relationship/marriage) then when they get what they want they stop putting out and that is not acceptable. Was married and now divorced (she wasn't attracted / in love with me anymore) and it's hard to want to be in that situation again. I did all the things right til she got what she wanted, then when she was done using me (we had 4 kids and we both wanted a big family) she kicked me to the curb. Obviously all women are not like this but it seems to be more and more prevalent now. Wife is 'unhappy' so she leaves. Husband is unhappy but still stays because he made a commitment and his children's happiness is more important than his own. When it was good, I loved being married. Coming home to my best friend and all the memories we made and shared. I want that again, but what are the odds the same thing doesn't happen again? It's very easy to see why any guy with decent options would not want to settle down. You get the girl, then some time later she gets bored / loses attraction, blah, blah, blah and then she's done. Marriage doesn't make much sense anymore these days. At least not if you want to keep getting laid.

[@chriskirsten8221]

if you dont want to have sex with your husband, then you dont love him or just want to inflict mental and emotional abuse. Just divorce and move on, life is too short to be in a miserable marriage

[@ewconway]

Divorce is a last resort, but both of you try and fix the issue of no sex. If either one does not want to give this basic need, I agree call it quits.

[@chriskirsten8221]

@@ewconway when women with hold sex (for any reason), shell play the victim and turn it back on you. Divorce is the best option at that point.

[@jessiesheldon-huffey1824]

I think men assume women perceive sex the same way they do: if a wife is attractive, the husband wants to have sex with her. Women are not always so simple as sex is not a "need" for women as much as men. If the husband is attractive and she respects him, the wife wants to have sex with him, but there are a few more things as well. She wants both herself and her husband to be clean, she wants to not be in an exhausted state or in pain, she wants to be sure she is the only one he has sexual activity with, etc. So there are conditional situations that may make a wife want to have sex one day but not the next....

[@chriskirsten8221]

@@jessiesheldon-huffey1824 Women hold the keys to any sexual relationship, they always have and always will...thats just a fact. Wanting to have sex one day to the next is not the same as a sexless marriage. If the wife refuses or just stops havng sex with her husband, thats abuse and NOT a good marriage.

[@ericmatos1025]

@@jessiesheldon-huffey1824I do’t think that the situations you described are what the OP is referring to. You are in control of your time and your emotional state. You make time to eat, sleep, work, relax, watch a movie, etc. If you deliberately put up walls to avoid your husband’s needs, fill your schedule with more important things, and simply do not care enough about him; then it’s not in the husband’s control. All he can do is walk away.

[@treygleason657]

I cured my problem by ditching the miserable wife. Now I have a happy life. My ex-wife not so much still miserable and not my problem anymore.

[@TheHillrat4wd]

I truly thank God for you. I see your heart. God has touched it. Thank you so much for giving good men valadation. Most men's red pill stuff is out of balance. ❤

[@BC-vg3zf]

It’s the counter swing which may look too far one way but is only the outcome from what came before

[@finngamesknudson1457]

Wow. Wish someone had given me this advice thirty years ago. After so many years of emasculation, I no longer have an iota of desire for my wife.

[@ronaldlee3537]

Ladies, you folks have your work cut out for you. I was at a local department store, and the cosmetic counter was busy with women customers; somehow, these big corporations have convinced women that they are ugly or something, and that we have the solution for you. So many women lack the self-confidence in themselves, and they put on makeup to convince themselves in their minds that they are beautiful. In many instances if you are yourself and exude self-confidence, people will see your inner beauty, and not face full of makeup.

[@deirdremorris9234]

TRUE!!

[@mcc7762]

Make up is just a tool to ensnare an unsuspecting man they want to destroy.

[@rob21]

The only lesson you need to tell women is, if you don't enjoy sex, do not get married. Stay a spinster. Don't have kids.

[@racebannon96]

Sounds good but their bad behavior usually doesn't start until after the marriage or when the kids or born.

[@rayrwyr]

Don't be fool. Women enjoy s3x but not with their husbands. What kills wife's interest in s3x with her husband is the certainty, safety, commitment of a devoted husband. Without fear, uncertainty, anxiety of losing him, without the challenge of catching and retaining him, a woman does not get s3xually excited about a man. She must fear that she may lose him to other hotter younger women. She must fear her husband is leaving her and replacing her.

[@zenithcric1171]

Maybe marry a virgin - but good luck with that

[@Ekam-Sat]

@@racebannon96 That is true. Bait and switch...

[@michellesmith7363]

I guess case for not being a virgin when getting married

[@crabmanrockefeller9117]

The core issue is getting married in the first place - no wife happy life. Facts - dinner 1/2 hour salmon and veggies and salad. Laundry - 15 minutes every three days. Put it in the washer in the morning, dryer when ya get home, 14 minutes fold and hang. vacume 30 minutes once a week. Why live with a lady that would torture you........

[@mcc7762]

They hide it until after you are married. They are great actresses in the dating phase.

[@deirdremorris9234]

I agree! Very very few people have what it takes to be married.

[@Daniel-y7g5y]

Most men don't want equal partners, this is a recipe for years of dominance struggles. Men want helpmates, not co-pilots. A woman who is unable to defer to kind, nurturing, and loving authority will lose respect for, and ultimately destroy the man she purports to love.

[@AviAssayag]

I wish I knew this 6 months ago. Now I'm divorced and don't want anything to do with women again.

[@peterhoffman4129]

This is so true, female attraction is the thing men have trouble understanding about women in relationships. The reality is that in a sexual or romantic relationship, the more you comply with a woman’s demands, wishes, rules, the lower her attraction for you becomes over time. She is happy when you comply with a demand but here attraction for you goes down. Saying no to a woman from time to time makes her more attracted to you, Saying yes to all of their demands reduces attraction and increases her temporary happiness. Also having a life outside her and chasing your goals will help a lot.

[@peterhoffman4129]

If your best male friend talks to you like shit or doesn't respect you the first thing you do is correct him. Most men do this with their pals but not with their girlfriends or wives because they are so afraid she will leave. Guess what...if you don't correct her bad behaviour, she will @@john24110

[@kennethbennett4618]

I wish that leaving was an option, but I’m not leaving my daughter because of my wife’s lack of respect.

[@jackcarter8333]

My father did the same thing. He waited until my youngest brother went to college; then divorced my mother. I did not understand why he divorced my mother. But, after helping take care of my mother and the mental gymnastics she tried to play on me I know know why my father ran.

[@mikegathercole]

First I had to become aware when she was doing it because it had become so normalized. Then I would just say in a calm voice to stop criticizing me or don't talk to me that way. Every time she did it I made her stop. She gradually stopped doing it and we get along better now.

[@turtletouche]

Well my case i was in an open marriage and i didn't even know it. My kids walk in on them one day and the rest is the end. I was a good baby sitter while she had fun.

[@ffarmchicken]

This won’t fix anything if the wife is bipolar and schizophrenic. Ask me how I know.😢

[@mcc7762]

Nine-tenths of women will never change as she has, or even recognize a problem in themselves.

[@racebannon96]

You have your hands full. I hope you are taking care of yourself.

[@boardtodeath46]

I’ve come to the conclusion that a lot of people marry someone who doesn’t fit right. A lot of the time, The relationship was build on hormones and intimacy. Our brain chemistry changes within a year of marriage and if the bond and friendship was not built before that first year ends, it’s going to be a battle. Kids come along and change the dynamic, and the number one issue is womens bodies change after pregnancy and that lack of confidence causes a lot of emotional issues. Not wanting to be touched, wanting peace and quiet. Time to themselves. Their role is to raise the children and forget the husband comes first. It is a sad, vicious cycle.

[@LeadingIndicator]

Q: How do you make a hormone? A: Don't pay her.

[@keith5459]

My wife was a controlling abusive narcissist who tried all the time to be little and control me. And I wouldn't allow it to effect me. When it didn't have the effect me like she wanted it to, she would become even more angry and upset. It was a constant battle. The only reason I stay and took the abuse for so long was to protect my kids from their mother and the abuse she would have given them. Amazing when a man is accused of abuse, how quickly the courts will get involved. But when it's a woman, it's amazing how the courts will side up with the woman. The women today are nothing like the woman of old like my great grandmother and my grandmother. Those were women of character who knew how to be a good wives. My great grandparents and my grandparents were happy people and happy couples. My advice after two bad marriages. Not worth it. I lost everything from my second marriage, including my kids. If you're a good man, you'll lose everything. I speak from experience.

[@NWTejas]

The solution is simple. It is divorce. Respect yourself enough to walk away. Yes, it is crushing and EXPENSIVE; but it must be done. With respect to the author, one cannot make someone respect you. If she has lost respect for you, that is her problem. It is not something you can fix. Accept the choices she has made and leave. I believe in the sanctity of marriage; but I also understand the world is a broken place. It is not your job to fix her. If she choses to not be a wife (and respect you as a husband) then the marriage is over. Go find your purpose elsewhere! Then when you have re-centered and refocused, you may find a good woman again. But she is not your problem. Let her live her consequences. (yes, been there. done that.)

[@rayrwyr]

If she believes she will be replaced by a younger hotter girl if she ever stops s3x, then she will be super attracted to you and she will give you the best possible s3x everyday.

[@ad70preterist]

She is describing the Fall in Genesis 3. The curse that befell all women is a “desire contrary to your husband, but he will rule over you.” Sadly this curse is played out millions and millions of times everyday, until the men just say enough and allow her to leave because the hassle is too much.

[@BC-vg3zf]

Makes you wonder about Adam’s first wife Lilith

[@CrochetNewsNetwork]

EXACTY. I just posted this same example . I can tell you most pastors will NOT even touch this subject, and Christian’s women just don’t believe this Scripture. Women continually say " well if you did …. We would have more sex, or if you would just listen to me …. We would have sex. Absolutly every excuse except to own this Biblical scripture and NOT WALK IN IT.

[@mjchecksfield914]

This is the first time I think someone has hit the nail on the head! Think about it, your wife was in love with you in the beginning and the sex flowed easily! Then when she fell out of love she started the emasculation and the nitpicking and fault finding. Now I have finally worked out with confirmation from this channel what needs to happen for me and her to get back to that I love you part!

[@SamBaker-z9h]

could be the kids. once we have kids we have 0 energy and some resentment. our bodies aren't the same, our energy hormones plummet, we deal with the nightly wake ups and sleep deprivation. here's an idea. dont ask for kids and you won't have issues. pre kids- it was alway go go go, after kids, its akin to doing chores.

[@rayrwyr]

If she believes she will be replaced by a younger hotter girl if she ever stops s3x with you, then she will be super attracted to you and she will give you the best possible s3x everyday.

[@aristotlekumpis7095]

I love your videos. Just started listening and I love your passion and how truthful you are. I am struggling with my girlfriend of 1 year. She has a low libido and mine is very high. She doesn't have the desire and shuts me down every week. And it makes me feel so horrible. And it's starting to get to me. I love her so much and we have a great foundation of a relationship. So these videos are giving me good things to think about.

[@redbigtown2017]

Guys, take the lead. Never let a woman control the relationship.

[@racebannon96]

Easier said than done. Add two kids to the picture. Wife is lazy and doesn’t want to cook for two hungry kids. Dad has to step in and do the cooking. Wife usually claims she is too tired or doesn’t feel good to spend time with the kids. Dad has to step in and become the primary care taker for the kids. I lived it. The wife finally left us after lining up a boyfriend. It is the gift that keeps giving.

[@MultiMrban]

Very insightful. Tqvm for sharing. Ironically, some women are proud of their true colors although they possess bad values i.e.indifferent,no self respect, arrogant etc

[@daniellejordan9847]

Woman here: Did you have any "right now" tips that we can do? Like something i can do today to work on myself and not emasculating him? Or pinpoint ways that I may be doing it?

[@ryanmccann2539]

Show some enthusiasm. If your response to his requests and suggestions are half-hearted or begrudging it feels so disrespectful. Show some interest and excitement about what he has to say. An enthusiastic response to sexual advances feels sooo good. But if you act like it is a chore; you might as well stomp on our dicks.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

The solution? Divorce and get yourself a bird that wants sex.

[@falloutmodder]

This is an amazingly powerful episode, thank you so much. I will try to tell you what this means to me but you must already know. When I first saw your work, I thought it was too good to be true. I thought you were toying with men for attention, but you're not. You're really serious, and I'm so happy. You are beautiful. I have downloaded The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands as well due to your suggestion and these are all such new ideas for me, I do not even know what to say. My mother and women my entire life taught me that as a man I am the front line, the insensitive one who must be strong and smart to make the sacrifices for functionality so that the females and children who are softer and more sensitive and a lot of the time don't understand what's happening may live better and happier lives in the rear without having such concerns. The way I understand myself and my value in a relationship is to be sacrificially useful to a woman and this has been unsustainable and led me to chronic homelessness with her kicking me out and taking or destroying everything that I build, demonizing me, and claiming to be a victim while getting exactly what she chose. I have a limited lifespan and abilities. I can't maintain a steady job with her attacking me and making me sleep out in my car seat in the parking lot. I have been constantly misdirected and lied to and used up, attacked for things I have no control over and abandoned at my weakest. It is lucky that I am even still alive after how vengeful they have become, forgetting all the work that I did every single day and the challenges we (I) conquered for us to be together, choosing a dark view of me instead without reason. She has told me to act exactly the opposite of how she wants me to act and then attacked me for it, over and over. I was not the one who invited trouble, I was the one working hard on a difficult project to improve something when they unpredictably decided I was the enemy and ripped life out from under me without any reason or justification. I have left the places I built where I became unwanted over and over. I am not even attractive to women any more after how much I have lost because of how willing I was to give it all to them, so I can be alone and build something despite my identity being to love her - thank goodness I have so few needs alone but when I have money again I will be a danger to myself seeking her and she will destroy me just the same unless I can find someone with this new (old) mentality. It has always been a bad idea to seek and express my own human romantic feelings, let alone needs, just a horrible horrible idea. I watch these things happen like a terrifying nightmare and spend large amounts of my lifetime coming up with positive things to offer women and wonder why I have to feel so inspired to love them when it is nothing but eternal torture. Why do I sing or write poetry, what is the purpose of my caring, when am I ever enough for them or what they really want? What must a man do to find, deserve, and receive unconditional love? How many dragons must be slain? So much of my life's energy is wasted this way and not by choice! She got what she said she wanted! Shame on me for existing and being truthful and straightforward in offering myself to her as a functional part of her life with legitimate usefulness and belief in her guidance! Maybe seeing someone like you and understanding that there is anything better out there means I may find one who will understand why I might be worth their investment, that I am beginning to heal and understand why I might have reason to be hopeful again instead of afraid. There are currently no solutions, I cannot win by being a satisfying and supportive influence. This only means I receive nothing except what I keep to myself.

[@kiheidude]

My wife blames it on the fact due to her hysterectomy and going through menopause, she has zero estrogen (she was tested for this). She tried the pellets, but it made her hair start to fall out, so this just. created more anxiety for her as she said she only took the pellets to please me. Because that didn’t work, she now blames me for her hair loss. Further, she says I don’t understand because she has lost her hormones while mine are still alive and well. i am 66 and she is 59.

[@ruhi_willys]

Could a possible solution be for guys to marry much younger women? If a man marries 'his age mate' she will wear off and wither long before the man.. there'll be a mismatch

[@mcc7762]

She was likely brain-damaged before mental-pause. Women are full of excuses, and never want to be blamed for anything, while blaming men for EVERYTHING.

[@payasoinfeliz]

I can just stop doing dishes and blame my low dishwashing drive. I never heard of doing things FOR SOMEONE ELSE. Is that a thing?

[@saladboy1465]

Yeah i wouldn't spend the last 20 years of my life being locked out of getting s3x go get it somewhere else. If it's that much of a burden to her it shouldn't bother her

[@v.r.2834]

What should young women do with old goat ?! 😂 I am 51 and only like young , potent men

[@dalekillion1]

It’s not necessarily that I receive the verbal abuse, at least consciously, but it’s the hopelessness that comes with the constant borage of bs, that I can no longer please my wife in almost any way.

[@MrsJHow05]

This is obviously a generalization of women, because not all women are like this. I am blown away that this is really a thing because of my personal experience. I must be an anomaly. My husband didn’t want much to do with me sexually after we had kids. With the exception of stretch marks, I still looked pretty dang good, too, super fit and all. He said that me becoming a mother changed the way he viewed me. He was the one who hardly wanted sex, barely initiated it and it seemed like when he did it was out of obligation. It felt like he rejected my advances more than we actually had sex. Now, after 19 years of being married, he says he’s no longer stressed by work and actually seems to enjoy having sex with, and frequently! We have come a long way. But there are still days where the past rejection stings.

[@rayneill4888]

So refreshing (and an enormous relief) to hear a woman voice an issue that I believe I have been dealing with for decades….

[@James-eg3nf]

My inlaws in their late 70s still have sex. Their parents before them had sex into their 80s! As we age, frequency of sex may decrease for various reasons (health, stress, etc.), but it should not stop indefinitely, and the moment it does, it needs to be a serious non-negotiable blocker in the relationship. I have known far too many couples where the sex stopped and those people (mostly the men) are absolutely miserable yet they put up with because they are afraid of divorce. Sex should be a regular part of marriage for as long as both partners are able. And when the sex stops, what do you think happens? Sexual desire magically goes away? Nope, it likely gets fulfilled outside the marriage.

[@meridacardenas745]

Love your channel. Thanks so much for sharing.

[@thystheron9147]

Great to hear this from a woman !! Spread the news !!!

[@gringotaxis2296]

Your self reflection is amazing! Question how can one help guide a woman to this place that you seem to have found. There's finding this in ones self and then showing it to someone else. There has to be a starting point, is it simply a desire on the woman's end to make things better? Is it a need she feels? Can you break this down to the absolute basics. Admittedly I have just found your channel and haven't looked through your other videos. One thing we as men need to look out for is not just the emasculation, but where does this come from. This is a big thing for a covert narcissist and that can be not only a situation that cannot be repaired but also very destructive to the man.

[@legislatedanarchy1380]

The only solution for a man is to tell her straight to her face that she is abusing you and that you will no longer tolerate it. I will be home late.

[@waynethompson3605]

I’ve moved on my wife won’t change, still married w/ 2 boys. We tried canceling it gets tough and she just quits. She’s a great mother to her boys, she works hard, but struggles with drinking. I can’t help her I’ve tried to be supportive but she looks at me with disgust. Sucks to see this happening to us, I miss her but she’s not there anymore.

[@waltgreen8759]

great segment! 100% spot on info.

[@juliejohnson5724]

Here’s what men need to do. Marry a happy woman. Period. You’re welcome.

[@chuck4abuck1]

True

[@andersnielsen6044]

The british band Garbage made a song called "Sex is not the enemy".. It really do tell what you do here so beautiful. ;)

[@brianesbaugh6897]

While no doubt this does happen, I’m calling bs on this. Ive never been emasculated by my wife, I am considered a manly man, but who is also articulate and nuanced in my thinking and my communication. It literally is my wife not desiring sex whatsoever since she hit menopause. I have acquiesced to varying degrees and yet taken the reins most times, yet zero makes her want me sexually, even though I’m still an attractive “tall, dark and handsome” man. Zero idea what is actually causing it really but emasculation is definitely not the reason

[@lazyturtle668]

I'm with you dude. Same situation, no explanation or understanding why is the painful part for me. Not sure about a solution either. I know for sure, I will never get married again. It's not worth it.

[@dginia]

you re lucky, then.

[@brianesbaugh6897]

@@JoyComesInTheMorning16 it most definitely does take away, or greatly alter, some, if not the majority of women’s sex drives, to varying degrees. But to say that it doesn’t take away the sex drive, implying within that, that you mean anyone’s sex drive, is fairly ridiculous

[@hosoiarchives4858]

The only answer is divorce

[@racebannon96]

Having young children with these creatures changes everything. I was not going to abandon my kids so they could be with their narcissist lunatic mother. Someone had to protect, feed, and raise them. Fortunately, she left us after 10 years.

[@henrikstenlund5385]

I am glad that there is at least one honest woman who dares to cut in half the marriage and say the plain truth.

[@limburgercheese1234]

Don't pick selfish people.

[@mcc7762]

They pick you. They do not show who they truly are until it is too late.

[@ronin2963]

You can not be a good man if you are not a bit dangerous. If you live with someone whom emotional and psychologically tries to break you down that individual is a clear threat to you and your life.

[@deirdremorris9234]

Karyn you got to address pre menopause and menopause. Pregnancy, birth PP, PPD, POP. These ARE hormonally related and MUST be understood by both genders. Go all the way. 😊

[@deirdremorris9234]

@@JoyComesInTheMorning16 Agree and dont agree. Just because you or I havent really had any issues, doesnt mean they are not real. I have had a few issues and dealt with them accordingly and fortunately for me, I can afford some things. They are INDEED hormonal based and not in ones head.

[@deirdremorris9234]

@@JoyComesInTheMorning16 What kind of work do you do? I agree, health is best.

[@joey3118]

I’m in a better place now, but think some of it comes from thinking about what’s best for the kids. I’ve always been masculine man that would never let a woman have any control over me. However, when my wife started doing this to me, I let it go too far. This was mainly because I felt like if I shut it down (the way I should’ve) our marriage would’ve ended. And that’s not what I wanted for my kids.

[@racebannon96]

I stayed for the kids too. She dumped every responsibility and chore on me. If I would have left, she probably would have dumped our kids at an orphanage to get back at me. She finally left us but tried coming back two months later. Her boyfriend is an alcoholic with medical issues. I said no to her and got the divorce done as quickly as possible. She would spend the next 8 years retaliating against me during her visitation. She would return our kids to me crying and hungry. She was constantly trying to change her visitation during the holidays and birthdays without consulting with me. The kids are grown now. I am relieved it is all over. Good luck to all.

[@joey3118]

@@racebannon96 Thanks for sharing. Glad you made it through.

[@keywestfan2503]

As a gynecologist, I’ve said this for years. Your “low libido” is not hormonal. You don’t like your husband. I brought this up at a conference. Speaker was discussing meds and hormones to increase libido in women. Like some type of Spanish Fly. During the Q&A, I asked if there was a medication that made husbands look less like Wilford Brimley…

[@sajuarosam3854]

So, women break their toys and don't want to play with them anymore, and it's now the toy's responsibility to fix itself. Check.

[@kenr4709]

This information is such a breath of fresh air, hopefully more people can hear what you are saying. Thank you! 11:05

[@JW-iz6mv]

If your wife is not afraid of losing you..... You're going to have problems.

[@ShawnDixon-r4z]

I love your videos, I’m on the fence about do I give up or keep trying. I’ve tried for over 20 years and I’m worn out not feeling wanted. Great intimacy make every day a more happy day. I only know that because it’s happened a couple times then back to being unwanted

[@aaronsinspirationdaily4896]

4-5 times a week. Mutual, passionate, communicative, creative and loving. Or I’m out. If she won’t talk and take action with me, I’m out.

[@deirdremorris9234]

HAVE THIS CONVERSATION BEFORE YOU GET SERIOUS! This. See no one is having hard conversations.

[@aaronsinspirationdaily4896]

@@deirdremorris9234did. They lied.

[@mcc7762]

@@deirdremorris9234 ...You can have this conversation all you like, and she will lie in agreement, and then shortly into the marriage, will do a complete 180 and cut off her responsibilities. Her word is worth nothing.

[@deirdremorris9234]

@@mcc7762 Same for men. They mask all the time. There isnt a "women are terrible/men are terrible" thing. All people are potentially terrible.

[@dingdong6005]

Bro you still getting some ? 😂

[@anuragsharma65622]

The video is so helpful. Thank you so very much.❤

[@acohen3951]

My wife of 17 years who did anything possible to bypass intimacy, cuddling and sex. Now she is dying from stage-4 cancer all over her body, and the only thing she is happy about is that this gives her the perfect excuse to say honey I can't have sex with you as I have cancer all over my body and she gives me a broad smile!!!

[@cherrypieforbreakfast1499]

That's.....awful.

[@tropics8407]

Mean to the end ?

[@BC-vg3zf]

That’s alright it will end soon - give broad smile

[@rayrwyr]

Even she got tired of giving you BS reasons for not having s3x with you. Finally she found a good reason and that makes her happy.

[@charlesbradford7233]

When she does that she has given you a gift, I call it the great indifference. When she has no cards to play against you, you are free to be you.

[@ALL4SCUBA05]

I weaned myself off of sex with my wife. I can’t stand how mean and narcissistic she is. She slowed sex down to once a month. From what used to be twice a week. And kept making excuses. Once she said that it’s MY fault… I no longer wanted it with her. Turns out I don’t need her for ANYTHING now. Just gonna let this marriage wither and die. Single for life after this.

[@dingdong6005]

😂😂😂 how are you doing now ??? I want to do the same. 😂

[@ALL4SCUBA05]

@@dingdong6005 Well it got to the point where she got angry about my indifference but then her anger turned to days of crying. Now she’s very different. Hot meals and sex are weekly. She’s way more appreciative now and we’re BOTH way happier. That required new rules and expectations.

[@dingdong6005]

@@ALL4SCUBA05 so what kind of new rules did you established??

[@ALL4SCUBA05]

@@dingdong6005 I get one weekday to do whatever I want with family and friends. No telling me what to do with my money. No yelling. Bills are paid 50/50.

[@danieldenardi9463]

Hey, Keryn! Your video is so great! I found it being mentioned in Medium and had to come here and congratulate for this excelent content. I'm from Brazil and think this is so golden content that I would like to ask your permission to translate to Portuguese. Also, maybe in the future, if you allowed, I would also like create a video on my on based on what you made (giving you all the credit, of course). What do you think? Anyways, even if you are not up to, I will keep your teachings at heart! Best regards!

[@Mortem_Tyrannis_24]

God bless you for what you're doing! Put up with this nonsense for too long with many different women!

[@billpetersen298]

My son and I went away to a resort, to take a break. (He has been working really hard, so deserved it). I had a good routine there, exercising, met nice people, felt really good. Coming home to unhappy wife, just dropped me into a funk again. The perpetual dark cloud, is so hard to shake. Yes, I did take her to Hawaii just before, to compensate. Feeling lost.

[@rayrwyr]

If she believes she will be replaced by a younger hotter girl if she ever stops s3x with you, then she will be super attracted to you and she will give you the best possible s3x everyday.

[@stephencummins7589]

You are so sweet.The real tragedy is that so many children’s lives are ruined as a consequence of this misunderstanding.