My wife is super lazy. 😣 [Hello Counselor Sub : ENG,THA / 2018.02.05]

[@galuhrarasati9252]

when the husband said to the wife, "i wish you have a dream", i really thought he's such a good husband and partner. having a comitment with someone for a lifetime is not easy, meanwhile the husband have to run his restaurant all by himslef he still want his wife to have a dream she wants to achieve and just at least do the minimum share of chores she have to do as a wife. i hope everything turn out well for him.

[@murfinsmommy3649]

Galuh Rarasati u wrote such a sweet message :)

[@enfpflower5751]

Galuh Rarasati yeah me too, where can I find a husband like this? Most husbands tell their wives to stay at home (everywhere around the world there are close minded men), because they’d feel inferior if their wives would become more successful and earn more money than them

[@btsismyhappiness1818]

Where can I find a husband as caring as him? /sigh/ she's really lucky to have him as a husband if I've had him as my husband I think that I'll be hapoy cause he's very considerate and sweet

[@lalakuma9]

He's too good for her!!!

[@oj1689]

its so sad...that there are mne like this married to women who cant appreciate them..especially since there are good, hard working women waiting to be loved in the same manner.

[@Doug.0305]

"they are two different dishes, but taste the same" our school canteen can relate

[@zainyodus5404]

Lol

[@tyrox1342]

So true

[@novakiara6150]

I don't even have a school canteen

[@eybayby-dul]

lmao

[@annabelasare1147]

I can relate too...🙊🙊🙊

[@marsha160]

Just listening to her i feeel all the energy leaving my body, imagine living with her.

[@Lockeygal]

Ikr!!

[@nukafeladina2976]

Yeah the worst i've ever seen

[@selenatamang3892]

My anger issues can never

[@okaycuttt32]

oh my god, ikr...she's so calm but it's frustrating

[@wazahwahid5790]

Omaigod,me too!! she's so calm,i feel like slapping her face so that she'll wake up and have some emotion😅i think she's stressed out , that's why she became this way

[@glyza.913]

I feel the burden on the husband side. It is not easy to take care your family after a long day of work. Playing computer games is just one way of his relaxation.

[@jen5138]

I have an older brother and I would never want such a woman as his wife. He will suffer. Gosh scary just thinking about it.

[@Yahya-rm2ze]

Ikr Like she was using that against him when all she does is watch the TV and order her husband around

[@normalaharun5812]

I think she is plain spoilt and lazy. She refused to learn to be an adult because she is so used to having other people thinking and doing things for her.

[@wavy6470]

@@normalaharun5812 have you watched the video? Her mother didn't care for her, she is probably depressed

[@kristinesharp6286]

He works at a restaurant. He is the only person working at the restaurant. Is his own cooking that bad? Gone 10 hours a day he is home well after dinner. Why would she make dinner long after 10PM?

[@poodie6648]

For someone who's lazy she sure got some good skin.

[@whatacutie6380]

Shes blessed w it n has no stress thats why

[@MissesWitch]

Those genes, my oh my. Meanwhile I daily care for my skin.

[@christinahasan9086]

Its called PLASTIC SURGERY

[@dervla7786]

Poodie the less you wash and do anything to your face the better, once a day with some soft mild cleanser is enough. My skin is great now that I am more relaxed with my skin care

[@falhasc0me]

Christina Hasan dude wtf

[@destinychambers8459]

The only part I got mad at was when they said she didn't sterilize the bottles for FIVE DAYS. No honey. No.

[@jhopestan4517]

I heard it doesn't really matter if you sterilize them or not as long as you wash them with soap and water and your water is clean now i'm confused

[@destinychambers8459]

@@jhopestan4517 usually no. As long as you wash it with soap and water it should be fine. That's all that was ever done to mine. But there are two problems. 1 I think that the translation means wash and not sterilize as we think about it and 2. The younger and more prone to disease and ailment the more important it is to heat sterilize bottles. While not necessarily required, it can help prevent things that are hard to kill or get rid of with regular soap and water, that would usually not cause problems but can in rare cases of immunodeficiency or compromise.

[@jhopestan4517]

@@destinychambers8459 ohhh thanks for explaining lol yeah its not ok if she isn't washing the bottles before every use I was confused bc I thought they wanted her to sterilize the bottles daily or something 😅

[@totally_a_spy]

@@jhopestan4517 I'm a bit late but you are actually meany to sterilise bottles or put them in hot boiling water if you can't

[@nanaouzumaki6044]

just washing is fine. But sterilization is the best.

[@lucialeong1719]

In my opinion, she actually need a proper guide about parenting, housewife, etc. Since she lived with her grandma who did everything for her, so she didnt know how to do decision. She lacks of confidence, for example buying stuff and tasting her own cooking (she afraid its gonna taste bad), her own attire, her baby clothes. She also lack of critical thinking, like how to handle her baby. She doesn't know what right or wrong, like mixing situation where she fight w her husband and refuse to go meet her parents for dinner. She just lack in many place, and thats where she reeeaaaallly need proper guide on being an individual. Her husband need to be patient and guide her. She need help.

[@samhayet4286]

Totally agree. Very few people seemed to understand from watching this.

[@uzmafaheem3315]

U can learn cooking but she can't learn parenting and housewife manners online

[@indayhobiinnightjongdae5942]

@@uzmafaheem3315 I think her husband can help her and guide her with patience and love

[@indayhobiinnightjongdae5942]

@Destiny tran not everyone is a strong woman we have to get it and maybe she is mentally disable I am myself 20% like her so I can totally understand her. Idk how people say be strong we r not we want help what can we do🙂 u dk how it is feels

[@chun_lisfii3596]

Finally, a clever analysis

[@taereungie414]

................and I thought I was lazy

[@teeteesoprecious]

Jimin's Flexible Neck idk why but this comment made me lol, best comment on this video 😂

[@itsjhopenotjhorse5175]

Me too😂

[@RebeccaJ720]

Same, I actually came here thinking that I was going to relate to the lady. I’m productive enough to keep my hygiene check like wash my hair and do laundry.

[@Nico.Robin7]

Same. I thought I was bad.

[@aikies9692]

It's good that i found a new definition of lazy........

[@truongkhanh2414]

I think she’s not really mature yet, she needs time to “grow”. So getting married for her is not a great decision, it’s seems to be too early for her

[@devaniasou9596]

I'm getting married 17yrs old and giving birth 18yrs old, and I can do anything while keeping my eyes on baby... She's lazy and not respect her husband

[@divikaramie5176]

@@devaniasou9596 periodtt, you're so rightt

[@cindyduran706]

@@devaniasou9596 they're not talking about how old she is when saying she needs to "grow" she isn't just lazy she's depending too much on her husband because she's used to have someone tell her what to do, she acts like a child who doesn't know how to do stuff, she does need to grow up and learn how do things on her own but I also blame the husband he knew she was like this and he allowed that behavior before and decided to marry her.

[@devaniasou9596]

@@cindyduran706 Yeah I know what u mean... But other people think, she's got depression or something else but I think she's just lazy and husband don't do anything and just let his wife do what she want... btw, I got baby blues and depression about my past but I still can manage everything specially for the baby (Sorry if my english so bad I'm trying so hard😊)

[@vf4224]

@@devaniasou9596 I think you are very well-raised, considering you are very mature now. That's why you and her are very different. You can't say she's lazy or doesn't respect her husband. She just does NOT know how to do things, because she lived with her grandmother before and maybe she was really spoiled. She can be 25-26 years more or less on the outside but on the inside she is just a child who doesn't know anything. She's not mature yet. We can't say a child is lazy just because the child can't cook, or can't do the laundry, or can't do the chores. Let me repeat, she is a child. So that's why her husband need to teach a loootttt of things before expecting anything from her. Her husband needs to be patient. Such a pity for the husband, but what else can he do now? He's marrying an immature woman.

[@toilmeid]

Guys she has been like this before she gave birth so i dont think its post partum depression

[@alexanderpascual1911]

I think since she is a beauty compared to her husband she is kinda being a narcissist.

[@-sunny3619]

Alexander Pascual why the duck are you attacking the husband now

[@lavoshakern]

Then maybe she's had depression for a long time. It doesn't have to be postpartum.

[@joannekim8433]

I don’t know for sure but she shows some signs and symptoms of mental illness.

[@Seokjinnnnie]

@@lavoshakern This is definitely true. We obviously can't diagnose her but from her actions and answers, it sounds alot like what i went through when i was severely depressed. If this show was actually helpful they would have a therapist on the team to help her

[@stephanietm100]

I'm lazy but if I don't like something I do it myself

[@Ta.888]

Irene TM nice 👍

[@minakyc3003]

why do people likes to call their self lazy like it is a good thing or makes u dIffErEnT than other people. I think u should try to help your family. Hope u guys didn't get wrong, have a good day

[@ms.chuisin7727]

Then you are not lazy. Lazy people want others to do things for them.

[@huffy6479]

Same

[@t-e-x157]

Me too! I like things in a certain way and I do it myself because people do it wrong.

[@Irem-sf4ug]

She talks like a dead person,like her soul left her body a long time ago idk

[@Irem-sf4ug]

@WANNABE Awww:( but I think no one would beat her in talking so lifeless So you're good I guess👌🏼😂

[@peachyjae9162]

Out of sudden im worried about her babies life...how she can through it😩😳...

[@m.m5436]

i feel bad cuz around 20:00 it looked like she was ab to cry :(

[@ham-sley1308]

I love ur profile pic hehe

[@Beeesshh]

Agreed

[@BTSARMY-bg3ft]

After cooking , cleaning and doing dishes my mom still calls me lazy😅... I should show her this video

[@imsoftdonttouchme8351]

Typical arabic mothers , you can never satisfy them

[@imjustlucky3076]

EXACTLY IM A SOUTH INDIAN I RELATE 😥

[@Reijin-d1f]

same, my mom also like that. 😂

[@keyb8764]

@@imsoftdonttouchme8351also Indonesian mother

[@xxxpop9232]

Lol😂😂 i guess we really understand eachothers situation and relate it.. Hello!!!😄😅 I am Nepalese Army💜💜 and i purple you😚 Also me: I must have gone crazy and meddle up in an unknown comment section. Actually i am bored because of lockdown T.T T.T

[@laylac]

Rather than being lazy she reminds me of a child that doesn’t know about the world. Not knowing how much salt to put in the food, not knowing what to wear, etc.

[@beautifulforever503]

True

[@rerai5996]

@@beautifulforever503 she grew up not knowing what to do and was completely dependent on someone. She has no confidence in her own decision and needs approval. My neighbor is like that. She relies on my mother for the tiniest thing. These people are mostly just dealing with something extremely stressful or are depressed. Rn all she has is her husband and that's why relies on him. Take her last hope away from her and she's gone. I can understand her well. She isnt lazy she's just dealing with something big without knowing how big it is

[@anthyavila9726]

@@rerai5996 She's lazy AF. If she has some kind of condition, she should be getting therapy, not dragging her husband down by being a burden. He's not a professional, he's not going to be able to help her.

[@sandraagustina8463]

Therapy is the best if u dont know what happened at yourself.. (sorry bad english )

[@cactuseliana7850]

@@anthyavila9726 how can she go to therapist if someone (her husband) didn't bring her there when she literally cannot even shops by herself?!

[@lilycha9398]

I sincerely believe that there's no such thing as a "lazy" person. It's either they're going through something, a result of parenting, a mental illness, or simply a loss of motivation due to a.) lack of confidence or b) fear.

[@bella-pq7zu]

exactly what I've been through right now

[@milamarshall7842]

Nah she’s an abuser, straight up. She’s abusing him and her child so she can have a care free easy life. They asked her if she thinks she does ANYTHING bad and said no. If this was a man demanding his wife to do everything for him, even order food, you would not be finding her excuses.

[@yuyanglong225]

That's still not an excuse to keep those behaviors. I have a host of mental issues and disorders but if I had a baby I wouldn't be so careless and at least ask for help if I can't take care of him by myself.

[@hellotokki839]

She should definitely get checked for depression, hormonal imbalances and ADHD. It's not just laziness I feel like she is genuinely overwhelmed.

[@laarniariola7559]

I agree

[@semihat1630]

Autism could also be something at play here

[@hellotokki839]

That's not fully true :) I have been living in Seoul for 3 years now and actually got my ADHD diagnosis here at a great clinic. I go in every month for a checkup and there are plenty Korean clients in the waiting room. While it may not be discussed much in public settings, people do discuss and take care of their mental health in private these days. Especially people in their 20s and 30s.@SmileAway21

[@flamingoxebec6336]

Agree,,, something not right about her mental state

[@sansabhushrestha7623]

I was just about to comment this

[@mihiyoon4274]

I don't know about depression being involved here but to me it looks like they are both frustrated with their lives. They lived together before their marriage and the wife probably had no plans of marrying him but had to because she got pregnant. She probably realised this later and hence has little to no affection for her child. Probably she blames her husband for things and troubles him by calling again and again for the same things and not doing any chores to make him regret. If that's the case she seems quite childish and unhappy with her marriage. The relationship seems to be falling apart to me and the baby will suffer because of her.

[@nan6962]

The most logical reasoning in the comment section

[@user-gv7uz4wh2l]

Yeah and I think the fact that she can go out to drink but is lazy enough to do household chores means she has serious problems. I always think that family-planning should be placed first always because in the end, the child will be the one to suffer the most. I hope that she tries to change slowly for her family and I hope that they can get to the bottom of their problems and get rid of them.

[@rosagorskikh9825]

I would take custody of the child and leave her if I was the husband

[@reenezach8817]

She's toxic to her own husband and their baby..like seriously she's so selfish,no common sense, irresponsible and not even trying to be better.stop with the excuses and grow up already.. she make a commitment as a mom and wife.she chose that life so suck it up..

[@nurafifahshuhardi8240]

She selfish

[@rabiaak8763]

Is nobody talking about the child? She's go to sleep while the baby is crying? Poor little baby

[@utkarshaggarwal1631]

atleast he won't remember it later. lmao sorry

[@user-vp2ii3sl8d]

@@utkarshaggarwal1631 he might watch this

[@user-vp2ii3sl8d]

In the future

[@utkarshaggarwal1631]

@@user-vp2ii3sl8d hmm point

[@lalitaghising9040]

She is a zombie with no feelings and no brain

[@khaleedaR]

She should be thankful because her husband is a kind man....🙂🙂🙂

[@alexanderpascual1911]

She thinks she is too beautiful for him

[@Luzgoishzre]

@@alexanderpascual1911 someone venting their own insecurity

[@deetrailer8805]

I don't get why she refuses to taste her own dish XD she thinks very differently to most of us i guess

[@shwetatapele1848]

deetrailer I don't know why but even I don't like to taste my own food.. :P

[@dobichan7548]

Even me i dont taste my own dish . Usually i ask my mom or my brother to taste it

[@bacitracin_]

Dobi Chan then don't season it. let the husband season it. but she said "You need to season to be able to cook." they suggested to, let the dish be unseasoned so she don't have to ruin it. I think she can't come into a common sense.

[@fe5398]

Mostly i dont taste my own dish. Cause i dont think i need it. Beside i already aware with the amount of ingerdients and how the taste become. I just taste something when i try something new.

[@finniethecat]

I hate tasting unfinished food too XDD honestly that's why I prefer to bake.

[@Flameblossom_]

U can see that the husband doesn’t really feel good exposing his wife this way but he really got enough I feel bad for both of them

[@jermanica]

This should be a lesson for everybody. Married life is supposed to be man and woman working together to make it work. Make it balance. But I really dont like the wife behavior. It really irritates me. Of course i want to just sit down, watch tv, play games, but believe me, you will waste your life.

[@thedarkestpath7464]

Miracle Sonnia It's not just man and woman, it's partners working together, not every marriage is straight lol

[@jermanica]

comeback kid ops so sorry... I didnt mean to offend other. Yes true what u said :)

[@thedarkestpath7464]

Miracle Sonnia It's not a big deal, I just thought I should point it out.

[@mykpoplevelisobsession1015]

Miracle Sonnia True, I just feel like a lot of people (not just in Asian countries) get married just to get married. I know a lot of people in my home town that are so called "stay at home moms" but yet they do nothing just like the woman in the video. They want someone to take care of them without having to do anything. A lot of people, especially now, think that being a stay at home mom means you don't have to work hard which I feel is a bunch of bull. Whenever I watch this show with married couples and the fact that the reoccurring problem happened even before they get married makes me think even strongly that they get married just to get married. I just feel like there is either no true love in the relationship or it's just a one sided thing.

[@DavidSmith-ki2we]

Exactly!! How did she even agreed to have sex n have a kid is beyond me!! Wasn't that too much work??? She pissed me off so bad

[@pinkynas]

She's pretty and soft spoken. I bet she going to be a good wife but she needs to change, a lot. Yes true, wife is not husband's chef or maid. But, naturally, if you're not working and just stay at home with kids, you do have to time for house chores. The husband has worked hard during the day, of course he wants to taste a decent home cook meal made by his wife..

[@cassieb.3869]

pinkynas Stay at home mom IS a job: maid, chef,nanny, driver, etc. That’s why you should respect them. She’s just lazy, she should get back to work if she doesn’t want to do the things that a stay at home is required to do.

[@puterinana21]

pinkynas i agree with you.. i know for sure she had psychology problem.. she just need someone to told her that its okay, the time is yours, i will be by your side.. geez i wish someone said to me.. 😥

[@maisarahhishamuddin1089]

yup totally true..But she soooooooooooo lazy!

[@ezzatisaid]

Chores aside, she could at least just wash her hair every now and then without being asked. Personal hygieneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[@vanessamae736]

pinkynas

[@LunaCidnie]

I feel like every couple on this show got married without having dated each other long enough. A lot of them get pregnant and then get married right after and were together for less than a year at the time. That’s probably the biggest relationship lesson you can gleam from the show. Don’t jump into marriage and use protection...

[@felisa1362]

agree🙁

[@김나희-i5y]

Jessica Pena how about you do it after you’re married for a while

[@mo_7199]

@@김나희-i5y personal choice. some people want to know before they get married

[@SantiaLingamTheAwesomeCreature]

@@김나희-i5y nothing is wrong about doing it before marriage. but before both parties step into that realm, they should have a calm conversation whether they're ready to have a baby in their current relationship in the case of a failed contraception. they should also plan what they're gonna do if the woman just so happens to get pregnant (abortion? raising the child?). so much of thought should go into this before taking this decision and i'm afraid not many give too much thought into this.

[@김나희-i5y]

Santia Lingam bruh I never said anything was wrong with doing it before marriage

[@viviphio760]

She wants to have a happy family, yet she doesnt make effort to make it comes true..

[@heliconialee3017]

phio phio she too depends on her husband...I guess she is an introvert person...cant do anything by herself,so shy with ppl...she need to be stronger..

[@Ariasofnight]

Heliconia Lee Shyness shouldn't interfere in washing the baby's bottle, cooking, or washing her hair....

[@Kt-cn2rq]

Heliconia Lee I'm kinda like her but more with dealing with people on the phone. I can never get to where really need to be. Eg. Where press buttons sent 300 different people. Just to get a simple yes or no question see if kid can go back to school lol. Seriously...

[@priscellia1639]

Introverts are independent people because they want to do everything by themselves to avoid any human contact, if possible.

[@peachperfume3694]

Heliconia Lee introvert doesn‘t mean lazy and incapable. I consider myself an introvert and I‘m not shy, I have a masters degree, multiple awards and people always compliment me on my diligence. I can make friends easily and I go out and travel a lot. There were days in the past when I was enthusiastically selling merchandise on the streets and talking to strangers all day, and there are some other days where I need my boyfriend to talk to the sales clerk while shopping because I just couldn't deal with people at times. I consider myself an introvert because it‘s super exhausting for me to interact with people all the time and I need a lot of alone time to recover. Being introvert doesn't mean being shy or lazy. An extrovert, on the other hand, thrives and get energized from social interactions. This girl is just pure lazy and too comfortable.

[@loreleylinarez5061]

My mother was raised by her grandmother, she felt alone back in those days because she didn't felt her parent's love. She was also afraid that when she has her own family she couldn't show us affection, but she demonstrated, that if u know where are your feet at, nothing else matter, because she couldn't blame on us. My mom always does her work as mom and wife. That girl isn't ready to be a mom. She's not that mature yet.

[@yanjindulamculture147]

Loreley linarez quezada you don’t have be an “Adult” to know to taste food before serving. You don’t have be terribly bright or smart to care about others.

[@spectraviolet3269]

Salute to your mum

[@Kt-cn2rq]

Elena Culture lol I never made meal for my in-laws myself because they be shocked at how bad I am at cooking. The reason may not like cooking is because maybe not taught to cook and doesn't want to kill her husband.

[@letsgetthisbread1799]

Are you creating am exuse

[@jonniejonnie5710]

Well thats not an excuse, what if it affects her child? She knows that she's a mom and wife and she should take responsibility of that. What if her child ended up like her or even worse, she's the one who would take actions for her child. Obviously I see that she's just making up some excuses and lazy (Also she should be Thankful for having a child, she should think deeply that because of her child she would stand for herself and for the child also to grow as a person and inspires her for her dream.

[@runyoufool2856]

I am conflicted. I feel for the husband and at the same time, I feel for the wife too. Originally, I thought she was chronically lazy and had a devil may care attitude. But when they spoke about her innermost feelings, I saw the guilt, the sadness and most of all, self reproach for being useless and unprepared. Narsha understood the core of the problem relatively better than the others, which is why she burst into tears when she spoke to her. The husband loves her and their baby to pieces, but is frustrated that is wife is slow and at a loss for everything. Hence, he feels burdened and tries to destress with computer games. Both of them need counselling and a little more drive to make a warm and happy family.

[@nyxnightshade_]

I feel sorry for the husband. Like hearing all that he has to do is making me so stressed. Like he is a hard-working man. Okay, but why does she really feel like a wall to talk to.

[@nongmaithemnomitadevi2638]

the husband is one of the best... when he said he wants her to have a dream its so touching i can really feel his love for his wife

[@yukiange1384]

More and more i watched this show, i became more unsatisfied about how they supposed to helping them... But they actually dont...

[@anggaa1970]

They call real counselor off stage and perform variety show on stge

[@syusaurus]

@@anggaa1970 waaaa is it true?? i thought they never have professional help for this show tho...

[@ViaH__]

choco mint they do. Hence the name "hello counsellor". They basically broadcast the situation and give advice based on their opinions, once the episode is over all three parties go backstage and receive counselling from a professional (only the ones 100% involved not just bystanders). I know there's a lot of controversy around the, but you have to watch it with your own perspective. The concerns are sent to them and they host the show, the. The concerns are sent backstage. It's all about showing how wide of a variety of issues many people face.

[@fiyyhobi5937]

yep i agree

[@ireneonly]

I saw one with a drunk father making her girls cry and they didnt help them at all....

[@bangtanandgfriendendedyour2993]

She's a very soft talker but it's a bit of frustrating lmao

[@lucia-gu5uf]

bangtan and gfriend ended your favourite. HAHAHA ur username 💗 i love it

[@deathpearl360]

No wonder why her husband said its like talking to a wall.

[@bangtanandgfriendendedyour2993]

deathpearl360 i cant hear her clearly and it's so frustrating

[@-maggielindson-3445]

bangtan and gfriend ended your favourite. ^^^^reply to ur ursername No they didn't.

[@horololosquid9309]

it's a username can people take stuff like this more lightly lmao love your u/n anyways 👌

[@Missgrumblepuss]

I think the fact that she got pregnant first is partially the reason why she doesn’t really value her marriage. The feeling that she doesn’t want to do the chores and taking care of the kid since it’s not the things that she want to do. I don’t see the husband marrying her because of love either, just an obligation because he knocked her. In simple way they’re just good people not ready for marriage and commitment.

[@aq3048]

True

[@_ifuf]

I’m not a doctor but she might be depressed. Depression does that to people, I believe. The lack of energy and the laziness and all of that scream depression. I hope she sees a therapist.

[@Noobgamer-bm2kb]

I don't think it's that simple. I have depression but I am not that lazy that I will keep my baby crying nor would I try to cause any trouble for anyone. She is far worse than me. I can tell that even the average depressed people don't make people this frustrated. She should get therapy fr. I think it's much worse than depression.

[@itsmwabi]

I don’t think she suffers from depression, I think she got babied a lot plus her actions could lead to her child being in serious danger. Not sterilising the bottle, not washing it for 5 days. The lady will only learn when her child gets seriously hurt

[@lang-ed3bk]

I believe it’s possible she is suffering from depression. I’ve always been an extremely tidy and organized person (more than the average person), but once some bad stuff happened to me in the last few years, and very quickly I became a lazy and dirty person. All of a sudden my tolerance for dirty things or broken things was really high; things was go unwashed for weeks and if things broke, I’d just go without, instead of getting it fixed. Depression, not just laziness, could be possible here.

[@sakurasea1074]

Lucky Mwabi I dont think she will learn even then.

[@sakurasea1074]

lang 1007 Yes maybe

[@윤민경-n8i]

She's the type of person that something REALLY bad has to happen for her to understand the problem.

[@marisawu3646]

I think post partum depression might be a possibility

[@AncientAmature]

It sounds like she's pretty severely depressed...

[@shxxn4781]

Well then his husband must have wanted to commit suicide alrdy from having a wife like her

[@lolo-vh6xh]

Her husband works sooo hard. I'm sorry for him.

[@InfiresTaekook]

@@shxxn4781 she wants to die, u think she cares? Depressed people are sick. Wake up.

[@choiwyd848]

Infires Taekook How do you know she’s depressed? Are you a psychologist? Stop diagnosing people without any knowledge.

[@jen5138]

Depress people don’t go around looking to drink and socialiSe with friends. They just want to be alone and hide from the world. Speaking from experience as I’ve been depressed before.

[@yellowofficial1198]

Love how Narsha see things. She must be a good listener and advisor

[@avianm.1346]

“She doesn’t wash her hair for 4-5 day” Me:..... what’s the problem I only wash my hair on the weekends Me:..... Me:.......... Me: oh right I’m black

[@avianm.1346]

If you aren’t hip(lol), black hair is very curly. So it takes longer for dirt and oil to reach our ends, and even when it does, it’s rare that our hair stinks. Also, washing our hair more than 3-4 times a week can be really damaging so it’s better to wash our hair 1 a week, every week.

[@Alia-ys1zt]

Im black and same I only wash my hair on Fridays! high five girll

[@niyocagordon4884]

👍🏼 so accurate

[@armella.h]

It's diffrent for asian, their hair gets oily and stinky very easily. That's an inconvenient of having a nice hair like theirs xD

[@emiiilia.G.G]

Hahahahaha girl thats me

[@jihfv]

Wow, if this was the opposite people would be fuming against the man, here they try to sweet talk to her, give her "reasons" why she mad.

[@goodmusic4731]

Football Dynasty ikr

[@venomusdrake2888]

Football Dynasty omg exactly

[@Loriani93]

Lol thats not true, it's because this isn't an extremely bad concern. They always try to see it from both sides but especially when the concerns are a bit lighter.

[@theluxuryoflife5076]

물만두 imnida but thats shouldnt be a problem tho. She dont go to work. She's a stay at home mom. Before u ask me to live that life, yes im married, two kids age 7 and 1y6m. I work ,my husband work, but everytime after work i still hv the time to cook, take care of my childrens, clean the house and still hv time to talk to my husband every night asking how was his day. And no, my husbdand dont treat me as A MAID OR PROSTITUDE coz thats not what husband and wife are for. She's really lazy, no excuse for her. When i clean the house, my husband look after our childs. Give and take is what they should do. Im married for 10yrs now so one year of marriage shouldn't be that hard already. 😊😊

[@DeletedAcc-fv9zg]

imnida물만두 shes straight up just lazy and its not a "oh sorry he doesnt act like ur personal maid and prostitute" thing.Like how lazy must you be where u dont bother sterilizing your baby's bottle and just use it without cleaning it properly and just rinsing it with luke warm water.but yea the comment saying about how the guy is lazy and how she isnt his own personal slave and prostitute makes no sense cause if u actually bothered watching u wouldve known is more deeper than that

[@foriverv]

I don't think they were even ready to settle down and have a family

[@christineyu1933]

She’s laughing with everyone else makes me feel like she has know idea that she’s not okay. She doesn’t even feel embrasses at all. I feel bad for her, she seriously need help.

[@priyamehra6179]

But she has tears in her eyes. She just need some help And also she's cute

[@GeethaNaido]

when i was young, my mum always choose what we wear. if we choose something outself, she would say its not good.it became our habit to ask her. one day, she suddenly got angry and said why can’t you do it yourself. Its was a really ridiculous situation, she made it that way and we got scolded...need to talk to the grandmother...probably the grandmother kept criticizing whatever she does, so she is very unsure of what she is doing..and need someone to check and fix it...her laziness...doubled from that..unmotivated..

[@mina.k4419]

purplehobie I totally agree, my mum would be the same, planning one step ahead. It would be frustrating trying to go along with what she told me and my siblings to do and resulted in confusion when we got older. I think with most people, they rebel also, but majority, you don't know where to place yourself, especially when you're put in certain situations and can't explain why you can't decide or explain yourself to others when asked

[@JustThatLauren]

I agree, I was the same way. Had the same struggle

[@beep7634]

purplehobie That. Is. Exactly. Me. I thought I was the only one

[@musa_01m]

there is no love in this relationship, they really need to divorce, like, ven tho the girl need therapy and solve her problems, she just dont care about her husband and the baby..

[@kittyneko8568]

i know right.And if they divorced i think that baby should be with her husband.💆🏻‍♀️💆🏻‍♀️That baby should not be with the wife.Maybe the baby will get sick🤒

[@fatinfarhanah2633]

@@kittyneko8568 true af

[@kristinesharp6286]

Her husband is calling her lazy cause she needed a c section. What a jerk. She should run away with the baby. Neither of them had used bottled freshly sterilized and they are not dead. All these gadgets they make you think you need you don’t. Korea now has clothing stylers. And they also are installing vacuum cleaners in the entrance to apartments so you get rid of the fine dust off your clothes. Nonsense devices. If your spouse is gone 10-10 and works in a restaurant why on earth would you at 10:30 or 11PM have a full meal ready for them. You would be asleep. Baby wakes up early. He is the only one there. Is his cooking that bad? She is on 24/7. Of course she will relax when he is home and she isn’t the only person on. Don’t forget they get money if they get the most votes.

[@andreahl3494]

She is not soft spoken, her laziness just shows through her speech.

[@thisisntallowed9560]

Haha I didn't see it like that

[@itsximin]

She married a man thinking he'd be her caretaker, her parents who would take care of everything nicely. He married a woman thinking she'd help out in taking care of the house but he married a baby.

[@sabbrinam]

The only true comment

[@ninepuchar1]

(ー_ー)

[@mayahusn5171]

@Erinne Cat very simple he married an extremely unmarriagable person!!! His bad luck!

[@MommyENotes]

My husband was like this in the beginning of our marriage. He didn't know how to order food, talk on the phone, ask for anything, or speak to authority. He frequently messed things up or shut down and got nervous. He spent his teenage and young adult years studying, working, and going home and pretty much doing whatever his parents wanted him to do. Like a robot. He never had a chance to do anything on his own or make his own decisions so when it came to doing things on his own he froze it. It appeared like laziness at first but it was actually indecisiveness, social anxiety, and shame.

[@singsing515]

I think so, too. I'm not a psychologist, but one of my friends has social anxiety and depression and it actually manifests very similarly to what can be observed here. She also might have postpartum depression, it's far more common than people think.

[@waterlily972]

The thing is the wife still looking relax like nothing happened😅😅😅

[@anushkapandey8588]

I don't blame her. They need real counselors. All these celebs just criticized her ability to cook. I hope the husband starts working at home and starts cooking while the lady should get a job already. They should try doing stuff that the other person does to know what they're going through.

[@heyitsmeh8465]

@@anushkapandey8588 the do have and provide them professional counselor off stage

[@fmamamaba1460]

She cried tho

[@elaijoya]

*_has anyone else noticed that KBS is using emojis on their titles_*

[@catilya9120]

kinda cute hehe

[@Ta.888]

Me thooo xD

[@nandagumolung6418]

those r so cutee

[@딸기요]

I had to scroll back up 😂 Too cute ah KBS

[@Kiklo854]

I love kbs

[@moonlightpaw5868]

If she keep being lazy and uncaring like this he should divorce her. He deserves better. Imagine have to work 12 hours a day in restaurants alone and come home without food being prepared. Do not care what excuses she give out.

[@sr3821]

It's easy to say, but how about the child? When you have a child, you must think about his/ her well-being too. Adults may divorce and remarry, but young children need mom and dad. The first few years of the child is also extremely important for his/ her physical and mental health.

[@moonlightpaw5868]

@@sr3821 Divorce is not the end of the world. It up to you how to tell your kids and educate them about it. As long as you don’t turn into asshole towards your kids after you divorce, you kids will be fine.

[@lisanation5119]

I totally agree

[@leyzerat4157]

@@sr3821 The mom is neglecting the child anyways so it would be better for the child. Especially if the dad gets the custody.

[@rgarciaprl]

Agree

[@veryangryprojectilepotato4304]

I am a lazy young wife as well, with a hard working supportive husband. We have been together since we were in High School (I’m 21..) I can tell you that despite me being lazy it all comes down to not making excuses, I lack motivation and drive, have low energy and would rather sleep in and play games all day, but my husband goes through so much, and he works so hard to get me the things I want, we go grocery shopping and he buys whatever food I want to make, and yet we still go out to eat often. He makes good money and isn’t cheap with me. He confronts me often as he doesn’t feel appreciated, but the thing is he has to explain EVERYThing I did wrong as I don’t notice for some reason? I grew up a single child with an overprotective mother who divorced and remarried. My mother would do everything for me and make all my decisions. She would tell me what to wear what to eat what to say... I feel like this affected my personality, I also moved a lot (every year we lived in a new place) so I got used to not trying on anything because I knew all my friends and all my school things.. everything would be left behind... I love my family and I don’t blame them, I chose to be this way and have allowed myself to fall in this deep hole... I started crying the other day because I realize I’m an adult and I found myself arguing with m husbands 9 year old sister.. WHY? I don’t know how to act or do so many things... I can’t fight or argue, I get emotional easily, and discouraged... My parents left the country and now I’m all alone with my husband , and I feel so sad and alone, but he is very supportive and I have to just try my best to change, I cannot slow myself to lose everything I care about just because I “don’t feel like doing things” ... I don’t know why I wrote such a long comment :( anyways... we all have to work hard on ourselves to be who we really want to become and to change for the better 😭

[@thisisntallowed9560]

Since your mother didn't let you do things on your own, you didn't learn to. Kids learn through mistakes. If a kid falls climbing something, he will get hurt, but then he'll know he shouldn't do the same mistake or be careful. But if your mother keeps you from falling, you won't learn. You might learn that it's dangerous to make decisions on your own, because you might get hurt, so it's better to rely on your mother, it's also easier. You didn't learn that it's not the end of the world if you get hurt. You won't learn how to make your own decisions, therefore you won't learn to be confident. Maybe you learned some of these things too, even if a little. Anyone who would have been raised the same way you've been would have turned exactly like you. You say you're trying your best, I cheer for you. You're good, keep going.

[@meganod279]

Exactly, I agree with the previous reply. That's a problem your parents caused to you and it has nothing to do with depression. It's the babying stuff that parents don't understand how badly it affects the kids in the future. That's why this girl in the video has no signs of depression. In your case I think you understand your mistakes but you can't change easily. But in the girl in the video, she has no idea of her mistakes or attitude. I don't understand why people keep talking about depression when it's clearly not that the main point.

[@mokari9268]

Hope your doing well now.

[@SieMiezekatze]

Keep fighting, I am the opposite I suffer from parents neglect and it makes you overwork yourself so you don't have to think, also I avoid everything and can't let people in, I just don't trust anyone. funny how our childhood make us

[@armella.h]

Be strong! Keep fighting, and don't loose yourself and your loved ones. It's difficult, but you must rebuilt your personality and understand that you're an adult with responsibilities now. Good luck in life.

[@icanthandlehobisboogieboot5077]

I don't get why everyone is sweet-talking and making excuses for her? She is plain lazy. She might have gotten everything from her grandma and doesn't know what to do, but that's why this behavior towards her can't keep going on. She has to listen and take her responsibilities! She just can't rely on her husband 24/7 and watch TV or sleep instead... or make as much for him and her baby, that it's just enough to 'survive' (I hope you guys get what I mean). I was so frustated because they just kept talking against a wall. She doesn't realize or understand (but on the other hand, she kinda got this by explaining that her grandma raised her like this... so idk) that she is lazy and not a help for her husband and baby. Yes, her husband should be supporting her a little more, but he works till 10pm and then does the household because she couldn't done it by herself even tho she's home all day. It's normal that you would flee to gaming or something that relaxes you, after that. And yes, she has to take care of her baby but srsly, it's not as hard as it sounds like. Of course it's not easy but still more than doable. It's not much that is expected from her, but it's still too much for her. That really irritates me.

[@zehl45]

Ican'tHandleHobisBoogieBootyAnymoreSendHelp ur right and i so agree with u, like the child is only 9 months what more if that child turn 3 yrs so if the child run outside the house she would just stare and called the husband "our child left the house find her pls." 😑 nonsense theres a lot of people who raise a child and have more than one job just to give their child their needs and yet she's plainly didnt want to do everything by herself.

[@souupii.3434]

True, but she may have postpartum depression...? Maybe?

[@mandychen1240]

Ikr pls kbs just change the hello counsellor cast to ppl that can actually help them instead of airing all these problems without any solutions for the sake of ratings

[@leylamamat215]

Ha..ha..i have to agree w u

[@miunya]

You're so judgmental. You don't know how her mental state is. You can't lump people together.

[@lexxziemae7740]

I think she was being spoiled by her grandmother when she's little until she grows up she been lazy by her entire life that she become dependent to those people around her she doesnt want to listen she doesnt want to learn she think she didnt do anything wrong if i were her husband i will divorce her whats the point in just keeping another person to feed if u want to have a happy family learned to respect each other, know ur own situation, decide whats right from wrong and be responsible since i was little my mom already teach me to be independent to do house chores not to be lazy if it weren't for my mom i think my step sisters would be like her they sleep all day, they are too lazy to do chores, they are angry when they are scolded my mom said that we cant stop u in marrying somebody and have a family in the future what we teach u will be a great help .

[@amaihachimitsu2761]

I think she is having depression since we're really similar. When you think you just don't have the mental energy to do anything, you rely on others. I hope she gets better like I am.

[@Liv-mt7zw]

Honestly, poor man though. He looked so embarrased and done with her I just wanted to hug him

[@dagikiri117]

The husband is literally so sick of this u can understand from his facial expression

[@eeshaa8428]

the reactions were PRICELESS after they had a bite of her food!😂😂😂

[@user-mv9gi9xz3x]

This is the reason you should never spoil your child. My sister is a less severe case of this woman. My sister is the youngest and only have 3 brothers(including me), so my parents are a bit softer and spoil her more than me and my bros. She is by no mean what you call a 'spoilt brat' but she really cant do anything by herself. she has a really hard time communicating with other people, and she even need to ask my mother when she needs to pee,(there was a time she peed herself in our own home because of this, she was 15 or 16 that time i think). Im really worried about her future. My parents should have been stricter to her. But overall she is a really nice girl. I think she has never cursed her entire life XD.

[@arzetith7898]

Kay Dee Huh.. well i'm also the youngest and my parents also spoil me the most ( i'm 13 btw) but i do realize that i need to do things by myself but the sad thing is sometimes my parents wouldn't allow to do anything by myself and that makes me super sad :( that's why sometimes i feel so excited when i'm not with my parents and siblings, so that i can do anything by myself. And sometimes when i'm home alone i like to do the chores and take care of my pets. They never ask me for help and sometime i feel very useless. Everytime i try to help them they always told me to just sitdown. They only asked me when they're not in the house

[@elshie5043]

Kay Dee 15 or 16.....wow

[@andreahl3494]

I also have this younger sister of mine. I guess I feel a bit jealous because back in third grade, I had to wake up early to make rice for our lunch. Before highschool, I already knew how to make food and do household chores. Though I was lazy in between those times, I still tried to correct myself little by little. As for my sister, she can't seem to think for herself. She always asks "what to do next?" , "where is it located/ is it okay?". She doesn't do anything if not told every step of the way. But aside from that, she does listen when I ask her to buy/ get something for me . I just hope that she get more sense of responsibility and self reflection on what to improve so she will not stagnate.

[@andreahl3494]

Just a Hardcore fangirl :v Try to tell them your reasons. You are actually doing well since you've pinpointed your weakness. Tell them that you want to practice yourself in case you'll work far from them or that you want to relieve some stress by working. Do not be shy if they see you move around the house. Keep it up! 😄😄😄

[@baconfluffy]

Are you sure she doesn't have a mental /personality disorder? With the part about the trouble comunicating, autism comes to mind...

[@laraasskalany2574]

I'm still jealous of her for her man I mean honestly I feel like, if i was lazy I would just get the " obviously only you can clean and cook cause you're a women " But this guy actually helps out

[@nanaouzumaki6044]

agreed 😊

[@qaqaqa25]

It's funny how people are sugarcoating their comment toward the wife but if it's the wife who has complain they'll roast him to the bone

[@rickawuland1658]

Khansa Deryqa i will roast her to the bone, she's not ready yet to get married but already pregnant, postpartum syndrome or whatever at least she should sterilize the baby's milk bottle

[@yuciehayashi266]

Can't you see her tearing up already? If they still roast her she'll bawl and the show can't go on.

[@nerdybunny2367]

ricka wuland yes! That was scary to know. The infant's health is at risk with a mother like that. Being a lazy wife is one thing but being a lazy mother isn't acceptable. Your kid didn't ask to bring him into the world when you weren't ready. But when now you have done that, take responsibility. She isn't a teen mom.

[@rickawuland1658]

Nerdy Bunny yess agree, that's what i mean, as her husband's friend has said her lazy habit has been around since before marriage, so this is not a matter of postpartum syndrome or disappointment to her husband but I think her sense of responsibility doesn't exist yet, and when she answers Lee Young Ja's question with an innocent face, make me angry Sorry my english

[@christinekhoo9710]

Khansa Deryqa couldn't agree more like omg double standards much

[@njwblqis]

That's why marry when you ready not just bcs you're lonely or you want a baby -

[@ayunamaweru7089]

Many ppl say that she is in depression, but for me she is just being lazy af, because i know a girl who just as lazy as her n she is single.

[@apo_bangpo2096]

Yess and I think her husband is really being considerate to her.. rather than divorced her, he tried to find solutions for their problems.

[@ayunamaweru7089]

@@apo_bangpo2096 yes, i hope she try better from now on before the husband really sick of her attitude

[@apo_bangpo2096]

@@ayunamaweru7089 soo truee

[@sr3821]

Probably she just doesn't know how to make decision or to do basic daily things, due to her upbringing. It may make her "paralyzed" and "freezed". She does nothing because she is afraid to fail.

[@shazz286]

This is so embarrassing

[@joc-asmrtingles9860]

Having a mental illness is not embarrassing, everyone is just bashing her like jeez give her some credit she probably wasn't prepared to have a baby at such a young age and nobody even checking on her wellness and even evaluating her is the fucked up part because you have to be strong and not lazy to raise a baby

[@Kaaallllll]

JOC-ASMR Tingles No, she was lazy even before that. She admit that she was lazy, she used to being depend on someone (her grandma, friends, andnow her husband). Trust me, my mother is (almost) like her

[@joc-asmrtingles9860]

@@Kaaallllll Is your mom depressed or lazy? People are that way when they have no hope or fun in life she's really young and should be active at that age. It honestly seems like depression because I have depression and before I had depression I went out with friends, socialized and even volunteered for the homeless people in my spare time, and after having 2 kids now I don't socialize with friends and don't even want to go out not because I'm lazy, trust me I wish I could but the anxiety and constant panic attacks made me depressed because it's stopping me from going out, have to make excuses to my friends, there is no reason for someone to just be "lazy" there are reasons.

[@Kaaallllll]

JOC-ASMR Tingles did you hear that she went out drinking the night before? She was spoiled before, she lived with her grandma when she was growing up and her grandma did everything for her (my mom was spoiled too, her act is kinda similar with my mom). She now wants her husband do the same for her. I think instead of depressed, she doesn’t know that what she does was wrong

[@joc-asmrtingles9860]

@@Kaaallllll Maybe she misses her freedom.. It can be laziness it can be both or she became more lazy or depressed after the kids, I don't know what you're trying to get at and convince but I'm just speaking from my experience.. Just seems like you're against depression or dismissing depression like many other Asian people.

[@fionnn_21]

I love how she answer the questions so confident 😂she didn't even felt shame or what 😂

[@NeonnaCh]

Ikr?????

[@intactsanity]

That's ego

[@jen5138]

Moral of the story : don't shelter your child too much lest he/she becomes like that. Her grandma did everything for her hence she's used to being lazy and being served.

[@amarisbelghiti94]

Bro. I’m a home body but I make sure the house is clean for my husband he works 12-13 hours a day. I work 8 hours a day. He’s from Morocco so I’ve learned some dishes where he’s from. Chicken and olive Tagine, Kefta, lentil soup with chicken, Harira. There’s a joy in cooking. I guess since I’ve been doing it since I was nine it’s easier but my sister who didn’t start cooking until a couple years ago has learned a lot despite it not being her favorite. Being married and having your husband work full time, it would be nice and helpful to make sure he’s fed. Also having a child and being too lazy to keep the health of the child a priority is horrible. She needs to rethink her laziness and have some drive about herself.

[@manala.r.m.y6412]

🙋 I'm Moroccan😌 I wish you happy life. 💞💖❤💓💕

[@tiarajulianazhar9973]

Yes me too, i'm from asia also.. And my husband from algerian.. Algerian and marocco they are it's same country.. I'm try to learning how to can cook algeria food and how to take care home and children also

[@ayatahery1427]

I mean if I am also working, why would I have to do all the chores ? You should divided it between husband and wife

[@ayatahery1427]

@@tiarajulianazhar9973 I hope he also learn that

[@samil304]

A person who suffers from depression is more likely to have post partum depression after birth of a child. Usually stronger. When you suffer from depression you become numb...you don't feel or think like a person who does not suffer...you lose interest in life, cleaning, cooking, taking care of yourself is a mission. to someone who suffers it seems like a very huge task and they don't have motivation or energy to do something so small. They have no energy and the happiest they feel is when they sleep...This is why people who suffer in silence end up ending thier lives, because noone understand the suffering and battle they are fighting with in themselves. Its a war that they constantly fight in thier head. And it's very lonely because they have noone who understand what they are going through...then they are labeled as crazy, lazy, weak, and made to feel worst then they already do. My heart breaks for her and I hope she gets the help she needs mentally before she does something to herself.

[@AmanishaketoMeroe]

Not every depressed person is lazy and not every lazy person is depressed.

[@crazy97liner12]

@@AmanishaketoMeroe But for some reason, her face suggests that she is in fact super depressed. I observed the husband's facial expressions at the same time and he seems the type of impatient person who'd make you feel down if you made even one mistake. Laziness isn't something ingrained into us by birth, it is caused by how we are brought up and then later on part of us becomes our fault when we refuse to change our habits. However, when you live around people who are toxic or make you feel undervalued, life becomes dull and you end up wanting to do nothing even when you want to. And that at times is how people end up committing suicide even because nobody really understands as to how blocked their nerves have become. People in this day and age really don't understand how neurological and psychological disorders work and that's a big issue. If you could just see in how stress tangles up your nerves above your spinal cord, you'd understand what I am talking about. Your brain basically stops functioning even when you want it to.

[@JustThatLauren]

Ikr. I was shocked so many people think she's awful but it seems so clear to me that she has depression.

[@masonr1717]

@@crazy97liner12 SHE NEEDS TO GO TO PSYCHOLOGIST, THATS ALL..

[@crazy97liner12]

@@masonr1717 There is a thing called "reading micro expressions". Go search it up, study it and then come back to discuss it like a rational person instead of screaming shit in CAPS. 🙄🙄🙄 Animals and humans have a different biological structure with regards to expressions. Humans have expressions with regards to smiling, sadness etc. 🙄 Actually, even animals have certain expressions but I don't think I want to discuss biology with a person like you. 🙄 Our nerves systematically react in a manner that we have adapted from our surroundings through observations so yes micro expressions tend to be similar in most people. For relevancy, you can read read up on reports where even the Homeland Security uses it. 🙄

[@blackjii2457]

I know this was 2 years ago but, she need to be reborn again like seriously.. danggg

[@putrikrisna3344]

please call Choi Youngjae from GOT7 he has the best and positif advise for you guys. you will know and feel that world is beautiful if you spend time with him (actually so many people around him said that) so please he is such the most positif and hard working person. you should at least try to invite him and you will know that he is very very a great person alive and you will be want to know him more 😘🌸💕

[@changuk_biased2010]

ars choi him and Fiestar Yezi always gives good advices. They also take these issues more seriously (which I don’t expect from the majority as it is a variety show) but still, they try to be helpful no matter what the issue were about.

[@Loriani93]

They dont read the comments girl

[@putrikrisna3344]

Kaihlee Lo yeah, at least I try so knet know they worth to be in this variety show

[@putrikrisna3344]

Loriani93 maybe, who knows

[@unpaidwaystarroycointern]

*positive

[@asianbejealous]

Just throwing this out there but it seems like she's depressed. She probably didn't have a great sense of self before getting married and after being married and raising a kid, she seems a little lost. She's probably relying on her husband for happiness but since he's at work all the time and doesn't give her attention when he's back, she just cruises through life without much thought or emotion.

[@joc-asmrtingles9860]

Exactly.. Thats how I am.. I got severely depressed during my pregnancy because my husband always came home late from work or drinking even didnt care about my birthday, I was all alone and he would call me a fat pregnant bitch and after birth I got post partum and it still makes me angry and cant forgive him for it when I needed him the most at the time.

[@shejar]

@@joc-asmrtingles9860 girl please tell me u left him

[@freshbaguettes8817]

I LOVE THE WOMEN PRESENTERS WHOS LIKE SORRY I MISUNDERSTOOD WHILST TRYING TO MAKE THE WIFE’S SITUATION BETTER AHAHAAH

[@hao9508]

So guys, the girl doesn't cook or eat alone, doesn't wash her hair, take care of the family or have a will in general. And y'all calling that lazy. I think that depression really deep depression.

[@ommaya5056]

Ha !O no it’s flat out lazy because she was like that before she got pregnant and married. It’s mostly her parents fault cause I can tell she was spoiled so she didn’t work hard most of her life. But she might be depressed but her husband would have helped her and not put her on the show

[@craft_med]

@@ommaya5056 She could have been depressed before getting pregnant? The husband doesn't seem to understand this either. She needs his guidance for even simple things like ordering food, shopping, choosing a hairstyle or clothes. That's not "lazy", she's mentally unwell.

[@ommaya5056]

loona la révolution bruh really stop saying she’s depressed. Like you don’t have a psychology degree so why are you saying she depressed it’s like someone telling you your on your period when ya not like stop saying things until you have hard proof even if she has some depressing signs doesn’t mean she is depressed she didn’t say “I want to leave” and again her husband would have helped her if she was you say “depressed” when you shouldn’t be giving out people their “mental issues” or “Health problems” like that will make someone angry or depressed like ya keep saying so stop that’s hella rude

[@craft_med]

I'm obviously not making a professional diagnosis, it's my opinion that she's very likely dealing with mental health problems like anxiety or depression. What her husband and her described is not normal or healthy at all, you don't need a PhD to know an inability to complete simple tasks clearly points in that direction. It sounds like you think I'm insulting her, but i'm not. Struggling with mental health problems is nothing to be ashamed of. What's hella rude is you writing her off as 'flat out lazy' or even dumb/selfish like the other commenters are saying. And like I said before, the husband doesn't seem to understand she might be dealing with this, plenty of people don't know much about mental health and warning signs.

[@ommaya5056]

loona la révolution yes you do need a PhD because telling her “your opinion” about her being a depressed is gonna make her feel depressed so just keep ya damn opinion to yourself instead of making someone really depressed so you can be “right”. Plus you don’t know her history so don’t even try calling her depressed

[@nusaibaamina4128]

She grew up with her grandma, so she probably did everything for her. Becuz of that she probably doesnt feel confidentin making decisions cuz she doesnt know how to do things

[@jinstan1433]

Nusaiba Amina ikr

[@vlee7025]

This is what old people say comfortable in first few years then suffer for the next few years.. hmmm...

[@nusaibaamina4128]

V Lee ??

[@wakywaky3169]

I see lots of ppl who r orphan child . They r even way more independent

[@ajconway4538]

This show needs some expert not a bunch of cellebrity, it's called "Hello Counselor" isn't it?

[@christiekang4878]

Yeah I agree, it drives me nuts when the hosts and celebrities try to give their own advices to the guests when in reality they dinner have any medical degree like Dr. Phil. especially Apink eunji, she acts like a know it all

[@fatimaanani2383]

@@christiekang4878 they dont act like they know it all but after all everyone gives advices from their own experiences (if theyre not certified psychologists i mean) and the way they dealed with their own problems especially the ones they relate to but then again what you see on the show is the way they discuss their problems and the votings but when every case ends there's professional help when it's a serious case but since its kind of a variety show they explain their problems in a rather entertaining way before getting help from the professionals offered by hello counselor

[@anggaa1970]

They have it, but they do it backstage. There was an episode with depression 5 yo, and they show a footage of that child talk to psychiatric before they filming on stage. And another episode they call a beautician off stage to make over a tomboy woman.

[@carolinadelahoya4324]

Well I mean they know they aren’t going to a professional counselor so why get man at the show. They’re the ones who decided to go on the program to try and win the cash prize at the end. Instead of going to get actual help this is why the show is a variety show, which means it isn’t serious it is a show to provide entertainment.

[@user-vp2ii3sl8d]

@@anggaa1970 what did they do to the tomboy woman,what look did they gave her?

[@faerybackgrounds]

I am addicted to this show I've been binge watching all day lol.

[@raramutiara8683]

She is really resembles my roommate. My roomate is beautiful and soft talker, so many boy are in love with her but she is supet lazy girl. She wake up at 11 am - 1 pm, she never cleaned the room, she never put back anything at the right place so our room is always messy, she just washes her clothes and her hair every 2 week or more, she never wash her towel, I'm worry about her husband in the future. I hope she will meet a good man who can change her bad habits.

[@gemixxxx6253]

Have you tried asking if your roommates Okay, because it sounds like she suffers from depression and rather than be a caring person like you're trying to make out you are, it just sounds like youre judgmental and uncaring. You literally just listed all the signs of depression and can't figure out. Get yourself together.

[@theDK468]

Gemi Xxxx i’d like to give anyone the benefit of doubt but not all lazy people are depressed, and they know their friend better than you.

[@Eddie859]

@@gemixxxx6253 here we have another online doctor giving a very reliable diagosis without even meeting the patient once, clapclapclap

[@nurdiyanafarah1870]

Some people are just mad lazy.

[@stillfangirlingtoday1468]

It's bad because she shares her room and should be mindful of her roommate. Aside from that, she can be all lazy as wants, it's her life. It's just shameful she does not care about another person who shares the same space...

[@user-si7yz9li9g]

I really like the way she said no instead of beating around the bush

[@Jaizy]

I felt mad at how lazy she was at first but it kept me wondering why she doesn't even see the problem herself. But you can see her holding back her tears throughout and when Narsha spoke, her tears finally went out. I hope they continuously tried to talk to her with open-ended questions instead of just a yes or no ones because I feel like she has stuffs buried in her mind which can actually help find the root or even help her express her emotions :( instead of being mad I'm starting to feel sad for her. I hope she finds help. This show really needs a psychologist D:

[@michellekercy4430]

I think that because everything was done for her as a child she never learned how to handle and deal with her life.

[@Rynryndu]

When I thought that I was too lazy ... and it turned out that this woman ... ah never mind 😑😑😑

[@anneharlowe1673]

Woman: Lazy, unrefined, sloppy Comments: OMG SHE HAS DEPRESSION Like ya’ll need to stop justifying laziness cause it doesn’t correlate to depression stop throwing that word around so casually you wannabe psychologists.

[@saadullahshahid5513]

Thats true like do you guys even know what actual depression is?

[@parism4656]

Laziness and depression actually do correlate lol... but I will say not all people who are lazy are depressed

[@anneharlowe1673]

Paris M I get that but calling someone depressed because they are lazy is a very bad conclusion. not to mention a slap in the face for people who actually suffer from it and it is a very serious illness that should not be thrown around easily. Saying someone is depressed because they are just not bothered is like saying someone coughing means they have lung cancer. Diagnosis should be run by unbiased doctors on a personal meeting not by a bunch of randos and that one medical student. I get it she is a bit too chill but again we are seeing her for the first time. I know people who suffer front depression and yes they do get lazy but it much deeper than that. I can’t describe how bad it really is and it just bugs me when people throw the word ‘depression’ around for everything. Look she might be depressed but it is not our conclusion to make

[@jadaalston8899]

Anne Harlowe actually we cant judge in general on whether she has depression or not. We honestly wouldn’t know. She would have to see a psychologist.

[@kritikayadav1716]

@BTS equals seven are you okayy??? You can talk about it if you want

[@NikeNikolli]

I feel so bad for him. I just want to go and help him with the chores and cook for him. Imagine having to work for 12 hours and coming home to see that nothing is clean, theres no much food and your wife is just laying there. She doesnt deserve him

[@yaizaaliffia8520]

After watching this video, I immediately clean my bedroom

[@spruillgirl1458]

This is a prime example why you should wait to get intimate in a relationship so you can see a person for who they truly are. Clearly, the wife doesn’t know her role in a marriage. My heart breaks for the husband. Mutual love, respect, and attention to one another is key. One spouse works so the other one has to step up and take care of home! Come on!!!

[@hazraconteur]

She looks so tired and sad.. Idk what's going on with her but i hope she figures everything out with herself and her family.. She's also completely gorgeous she's so pretty

[@uchu1092]

The words "don't give up" is really giving her that feeling 😭

[@user-jl3tr3km9r]

게으름에 문제가 아니라....우울증같은데 상담받으러 가야할듯.........산후우울증아니야....

[@lindseyrich8130]

watching this I felt like the problem was beyond the idea of her just being 'lazy' and 'uncaring' I feel as though she's struggling with depression (either postpartum, or general depression from lack of true parental figures and has been deeply affecting her all her life). When he mentioned that she lazied around and never wanted to do anything and how she puts such little care into the things she does do it made me think she was dealing with depression, when she started crying it only made me believe in the idea more. She started crying and explained it as just suddenly, "feeling sad." I think she needs help and she's so extremely lost, I think especially since she got pregnant before they were married (which I'm sure was not easy in a very conservative country) is a mitigating factor and only served to ramp up her anxieties and depression. She wants to do better and she wants to be the perfect wife and mom but she's want to understand how to do it. I hope that she gets help because I think this is more than just her wanting to just fuck off for a few hours.

[@Ray-ee8dy]

Letting the baby cry?? Seriously?? I can understand they had a fight, but don't let the baby take the hit! She/he's crying for a reason! If I'm ever a father I'm going to pick a responsible woman who can actually take care of another human being.

[@salomeabdaladze989]

post partum deression.Look it up. even the most reasonable woman might have it after birth. Also it goes without saying that you will have to share responsibility of taking care of the baby.

[@muhdamirul2225]

@@salomeabdaladze989 she likes that before marriage..

[@michellekercy4430]

@aries voy But he works and cleans and takes care of the baby so what you said is irrelevant to this situation.

[@xxuenii]

Excuse me, if the baby cry, shouldnt the husband help too? Why must she be the only one to attend to the crying baby and get the 'irresponsible' blame?

[@donkeyslayer8370]

@@xxuenii because he works 12 hours a day to feed the the family and doesn't even get a good meal when he gets home

[@hel814]

저정도면 그냥 갑작스러운 임신과 결혼 출산에 삶을 완전히 놓아버린듯 싶음. 극심한 우울증은 옆에 있는 일반인들이 못견딤. 치료받아야함

[@lilkirsche]

She clearly has a form of depression which never has been treated.. Maybe since she was a teenager. And normally getting a child makes it mostly even worse... Korea rarely talks about this. It's really serious and she is lucky to have such a kind husband. Hopefully she gets some help. 😔

[@chai_lattes]

Yeah, I'm so stumped by this concern. I wanted so badly to be like oh she's obviously depressed or suffering from post partum, and while that still could be true, there seems to be another underlying cause for ... everything. She seems upset with her husband, almost like she feigns ignorance out of spite because she feels powerless. But I was really confused when she said she's not at fault at all...

[@aparna12242]

Baffles me that NO ONE..not a SINGLE SOUL in the audience or in the comments section doubted the possibility of her having Post partum depression. It really could be a combination of her already existing, undiagnosed neurodivergence (ADHD or autism maybe) which became worse with postpartum perhaps. It looks very different in different women but it is very likely the poor woman is going through her silent battles without even realising it's a problem; why she confidently just say "I'm lazy" The problem may be way more than just her being a "lazy" person. Laziness is always a symptom of unaddressed blockers or trauma

[@singsing515]

Exactly my thoughts. When I heard the word child, it immediately popped into my head. It is far more common than people think. She might also have social anxiety or a similar condition.

[@maju4122]

People have pointed out that she already had the issue before getting pregnant, but as a autist person, I do wonder if she isn't some kind of neurodivergent (with mental health comorbidities probably). She lacks common sense, seems so confused and clueless, as if she doesn't understand herself. Her answers feel very short as she doesn't elaborate in her feeling everytime the female host (Youngja) tried to understand her. She gets emotional and doesn't know exactly why. (She also seems to take orders literally with the cat pose thing...) The show doesn't allow the conversation to get deeper, so a lot of things are left unaddressed and unexplored... she really is lucky her husband is kind and responsible, but it's sad to see that everyone suffers in this situation. She can't even take care of herself, thus she is unable to nurture her family. I don't think at all she is an ill-intended person, so I feel bad seeing her being addressed as a dead and useless person. Really would like to see what the wife, husband and daughter are like today... it would be understable if the husband had to give up on her as it too much for one person to handle alone.

[@fairy5859]

She's not lazy she's going through something and it has something to do with her life since her childhood. I can relate to her but she's on extreme level. Sadly few people in the comment section are understanding her actual problem. Mental health is very important.

[@AshleyKaulitz007]

I don't think it's just indecisiveness, sounds to me like she also has some social anxiety. Because of the way she was raised, she probably doesn't know how to function on her own. She's lethargic because she's hiding away from her own shortcomings instead of fighting through them.

[@chii3808]

omygosh i’m like five minutes in and this wife seems so frustrating.. he shld deserve a better wife but still they chose to love each other and get married so we cant rly say much bout them

[@sf9astro106]

Now i understand i don't have patience.. 😂😂😣 She was literally a dead soul😂😪

[@sf9astro106]

Oh my god i got 3 likes.. 😱 Including me... 😂😂

[@l.niengboihaokip9817]

Inspirit Aroha 🤣

[@TianXiaoMao]

So sad, this poor woman is severely depressed and needs help.

[@Elschan525]

TXM 100% right. She needs a doctor.

[@Kt-cn2rq]

Sounds like not just doctor but parenting classes or books on raising a child. That's what I did. Read about sterilize bottles and containers baby food. Diaper changes feeding should taught at hospital. This first kid is one learn from. The do's and dont's when have second one 😂

[@pamelavargas9794]

TXM it sounds like she has anxiety too because she's too afraid to go shopping on her own or order food by herself

[@golisopod7322]

that's what i was thinking! she looks lazy BUT she also seems sad and tired.

[@mielle3470]

Yes, we should diagnose people on the internet. Wow, a great idea.

[@mustachegurl1714]

I agree with Narsha that no one will be nice to you unconditionally, you have to work hard for it.

[@babadukk]

As someone who also grew up dependent on those around me, I can say the struggle is pretty real. You haven't built up the confidence or critical thinking skills to fend for yourself, and then you fuck up majorly when you actually try. People look down on you, underestimate you, or minimize you, and your brain tells you all these things and worse. It's shameful. It's paralyzing. You almost want to die rather than bumble through life as an idiot.

[@morjay8243]

Oh my gosh, you perfectly put into words what I've always wanted to realize but couldn't. I truly needed this. Thank you! I hope you are doing well wherever in life you are now.

[@emmya113]

There’s something really wrong she’s so forthcoming she doesn’t defend herself she barely expresses how she actually feels. It feels like she’s just empty. Like the lady said she’s given up and I feel so sad for her

[@trollinglikeabossful]

going drinking until 4am hen you have a 9 month old baby at home... shameeless

[@xxvoid4]

She needs to learn how to take care of herself and her family. She can’t be given everything anymore, she’s a mother and a wife now. I’m lazy too yet I do my part around the house and I take care of my dog well.

[@riyabhatoia9357]

I think it's anxiety and depression, it's okay she can recover very well

[@nanaabdulkadir3114]

Riya Bhatoia May I ask why you think so? I may have missed it but this woman showed no signs at all of anxiety.

[@vrajdumur585]

Nana Abdulkadir she kinda showed her indecisiveness by admitting that she thinks "maybe he knows a bit more than me". That is a big red flag for anxiety cuz it hints at how she doubts herself/thinks too much/unsure about her capabilities and is constantly asking for reassurance from her husband even for stuffs that should come as second nature to her.