This is a very frustrating concern. 🙄🤐 [Hello Counselor Sub : ENG,THA / 2018.02.12]

[@Ravenstar2296]

i'm glad her friend cares enough about her well-being to consider this a concern too because her family apparently doesn't

[@artofreusing10]

Ravenstar2296 yea I agree

[@Ravenstar2296]

Ri'AikaCröw i would say she takes it farther than your case because she doesn't speak up about things even when it's necessary. Feeling shy and timid around strangers is normal. Not speaking up when you're in a car with your friends as you're about to throw up is worrisome. What if she accidentally ingested food she was allergic to because she never mentions it? Like she couldnt reject strangers who obviously dont have positive intentions. That's dangerous.

[@KawaiiChunsa]

Ri'AikaCröw I don't think she should expect the rest of the world to baby her that much. Sure me and my friends are considerate enough to ask if anyone has a dietary restriction whenever we go out with new people but it's not always something you think of. It's not very good for her wellbeing to keep everything to herself. She couldn't even follow her own instincts and still went into that car. That alone is very worrisome to me. She doesn't have to be an extrovert but she should know that her opinion matters too,she doesn't always have to go with what everyone says. Not everyone will be as considerate as her or will have good intentions towards her.

[@KawaiiChunsa]

Ri'AikaCröw I can actually relate to her a bit since I am similar to her in that if it's not a big deal I just go with that my friends say even if they ask for my opinion just to avoid any sort of conflict or further discussions. But when a stranger asks me to get into his car or anything like that I will go with my instinct and say no. I can't tell you how many times I spent more than what I wanted because I felt bad saying no. But I realized that it only harms me in the long run so I try to stand for what I really want as much as I can (which I continue to work on). I guess what I'm trying to say is there's nothing wrong with not wanting to create conflict and even sacrificing what you want for it but when her safety is involved that's when I see it as a concern.

[@persephone2246]

Ri'AikaCröw ya but the problem is when her friends ask her time and time again about what food she wants and she gives no answer then people will go for majority vote and if all her friends voted seafoods then how are they gonna know she is allergic if she never said anything.people don't read minds.i have a sister who is extremely shy and intervorted in public and over the years we have learned to read her expression but we convinced to at least voice her opinion even with a simple yes or no.

[@llllll1897]

The girl in the concern is far beyond shy. She might even be bordering on social anxiety.

[@suzychocolate7]

yes, i was thinking the same thing while watching her concern

[@getgot3461]

yeah it's very obvious that it's not just mere shyness it's a mental health issue and I feel so bad for her I wish I could hug her TT it also doesn't help that this show makes stuff like this be taken lightly as if it's a joke smfh

[@babadukk]

Yes, let's diagnose strangers on the internet.

[@lyne3783]

o anii o "She might have" And what if she "diagnostic" someone on THE INTERNET? isn't like this girl is giving her a full treatment while calling herself "the owner of the truth".

[@babadukk]

ly ne It is harmful and stressful towards people experiencing mental illnesses because casually diagnosing people can lead to general misunderstandings, as well as trivializing or pathologizing certain experiences. If this doesn't seem like a big deal, that is exactly one of the issues. Plus I'm pretty sure she never consented to being subject to a bunch of internet randos playing psychologist.

[@muhammadazri4271]

She and her friend are very pretty!!

[@noraebang_]

RUN AYIE IKR I WAS LIKE DAMN

[@tokyolizy383]

IKR DAMNN

[@mielle3470]

Ikr.

[@huberteychzapata6356]

you got it right but i prefer the friend wearing yellow sweat shirt

[@idk27212]

That really doesn't matter.

[@okokoklalala844]

I have a friend who is similar. She doesn’t really express herself and instead just agrees with everything we say. Like sometimes when we try to choose a place to eat she’ll be like “Wherever is okay” or when we’re trying to watch a movie and we ask her to choose one she’ll say “Which one do you guys like?” And we all answer and she just ends up choosing what everyone else likes. At first I used to think she was just really chill and went along with things to avoid any delay bc of disagreements but after a while I noticed she just went along with things bc she was afraid of voicing her opinions. The whole group knows now and we’re slowly trying to get her more comfortable with sharing things like whenever she says something we all agree with her right away or nod to let her know that we understand. I can happily says it’s working bc now she’s sometimes adds her opinions in when we’re talking and she gives her own answer when we ask her to choose something.

[@kajitani13]

knj you and your groups are a great friends

[@kst4692]

Oh wow you guys are awesome!! Please be a good friend to her for a long time! (:

[@vkookiesandyoonmins3054]

a guy in my class used to be like that and would also be really shy but now he’s really open after making good friends

[@krism_96]

Same with my friend she was really quiet when I first met her and we would often chat more using social media and because we are both shy we often just end up saying one or two sentences during break time at school. Now that we’re adults she opened up a lot more and she became one of the closest friend I have because she always listens to my problems and genuinely enjoy our time together.

[@ashleywo1272]

my friends are like that too, so i always try to get them to voice their opinions because it really irks me when they say "oh, you pick" or "i don't mind" or "i don't know" or they look at someone else to say something

[@sofichimin]

I understand exactly how that girl felt. I used to be exactly like her, expressing my opinions or thoughts were such a huge burden to me that I rather kept it to myself and just let things slide despite not liking or agreeing to stuffs. It's kinda a regret of mine that I was like that in the past but I'm slowly changing myself. I hope she will start expressing her feelings instead of keeping them inside too Edited : I didn't know that so many of you behave like this too since everyone around me was so outspoken that I feel left out. I wanted to be like them, speak like them but I couldn't. Back then the teachers complained a lot to my parent that I was too quiet and barely spoke. It was so difficult back then so I hope that we can go through the journey of changing ourselves together guys ♡

[@kamikazeshibarushi8548]

i was like that before too but as i attend high school i start to change

[@dinidino8136]

yeah, I was like that too.. now I (still) try to let people know what I am thinking, well people will not know what is exactly I feel or think when I am not tell them.

[@ss-cat7]

I was like that too. I used to think I was being nice,but then I realised that it was hurting me and that I had to prioritize myself before others. Also,I realised that I could have stopped a lot of harmful stuff if I had just expressed my feelings at the right time.

[@sakuurrraaa]

potato chim I'm exactly like her when I meet people for the first time. Once I get to know them, I'm my normal self.

[@oberdamujigae]

I have the same problem. I'm in the process of changing it but it's so hard to just directly express ny opinions to people because it's become a habit to me to just follow the others, like after our convo is over I'd tap on the other's shoulder and say what I feel. I feel sorry for them to have to deal with someone like me 😔

[@taehyungsbuttcheeks7081]

this show is quite unfriendly towards introverts like I'm not talking about this episode in particular; other times too! it was clear that this girl was really uncomfortable as they kept on making jokes! she probably just wanted to have a quiet, serious talk! she definitely suffers from social anxiety and I personally feel she should get proper medical therapy

[@OliviaRiveraMGC]

ugh right! most of the time the jokes are in the most inappropriate time.

[@TuberoseKisser]

Well one, she's not an introvert, introverts prefer to be alone but are fully capable of socializing, she just straight up can't. Second, sometimes you gotta break a few eggs to make an omelet, it may seem inappropriate but at the end of the day it's for the better.

[@PersonaChick]

no the guys were down right disrespectful when they were cracking their jokes. Almost down right insulting to her, I would have been furious if I was that person's friend.

[@janeausten1820]

I think that there are a lot of expectations in South Korea, being quiet or an introvert, or just being different are looked down on. I mean I like this show for the most part but I hate when people come in with real issues like this that may need professional help, they treat them like they need to buck up or something. This is just an example of how South Koreans can’t handle real mental health issues

[@Skittlelover105]

I was looking for this comment.

[@echostarr4745]

I admire how her friend has stayed with her through all those years, even though it was difficult for her. I struggle with a very similar shyness. It's so hard for me to approach people, to say no, and to share my opinions. If people would take time with me, eventually they would get me out of my shell. But no one ever takes that time for me. No one has ever cared, or ever stood by me due to my shyness and it gets very lonely. She has such an amazing friend. I wish I was friends with her. ♡

[@emilynguyen1964]

I am a shy person myself having the same struggles but I also dont think we should blame others for not approaching us. Like to talk to someone like that's like us takes patience and understanding. We shouldn't rely on people to bring it out of us although they could act as a support. I'm not trying to say become someone entirely different but become a more confident version of 'ur self' at your own pace by challenging yourself. Itll take time to figure out

[@norajeane8445]

Jesus cares. I was once like that because I was afraid to voice my opinion about porn, etc but God is good so even talking to the air(to God) or someone you know or trust in God can help. Psalms 56:3 says "What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee". I hope and pray that this helps even if your non-religious know that God will always be here even when you don't believe in him.

[@nuggie449]

*"I shouldnt stand out and just be quiet."* Omfg that's like my life goal atm.

[@reyreyes8718]

I actually do that tbh, i got involved with plasticity, spread rumours about me and eventually when I found out that it was my former friend; i completely avoid her, smile when we meet and completely changed to be more silent than ever.

[@kspina3063]

'I punished her by beating her when she was loud in a restaurant' um okay so she was beaten and now she's timid and likes to please people and doesn't voice her opinions/feelings because she was taught that something like that deserves punishment. She was abused. Like? This isn't some funny quirky teenager lmao

[@KatharinaSmile]

My thoughts exactly!

[@pikabiga]

Yep. She learned she’d be punished for being loud or lively and internalized it until now. That’s quite sad really-it stunted her growth as a person along with everything else she endured growing up.

[@Serendipityismy]

Yeah :( but at least the dad regretted it

[@sm3655]

K Spina well, actually idk about you guys but it’s quite common in Asia to get beaten up by parents until you reach your teens or puberty. Some households could give a bit more freedom and they would just smack the child lightly but in other households they are very strict. I was a quiet person as a child so didn’t cause much issues, didn’t get beat up, but my brother who was naughty since young got beat up till his teens... but it doesn’t matter because it’s usual and the child knows it too and is happy anyways . What I wanted to emphasize is that beating up in Asia is common, especially in india, South Korea etc... yet there’s a thin line btw abuse and beating up to correct the child and this parent meant he beat her up to correct her as she was naughty since young.

[@nightlongg4758]

I relate to the girl so much, when I was younger I had a loud voice especially when I spoke English or get emotional. I was not really a bad child but I too got beat for things to this day I do not agree with. That caused lots of “issues” with me growing up. Like for a short while in elementary school I’ve become almost mute, and just stop talking when I’m not at home and even at home I was still quiet. To this day I have trouble talking with people and voicing my opinions/ feelings to people, all of that messed me up so much that the people I have the most trouble talking to are may very own parents.

[@nurfarihah7492]

Omg i'm so jealous when she said Woohyun is her style omg omg she so lucky to meet him

[@maebelleanneandaya4564]

I think this is pretty common among people who prefer to go along and are afraid to offend others. The important thing is to catch yourself when you're doing this and just remember that your opinion matters just as much as the rest of the people around you and as much as you respect their voice they want to respect yours as well.

[@jessicamarie6448]

This was like a girl in my class last year that wasn't close with but we were acquaintances, she never spoke to anyone and because she never spoke to people people didn't bother to speak to her, I decided to try and start speaking to her since she seemed lonely, for a while she wouldn't really talk but eventually she became more comfortable and started speaking more, it shocked me because I happened on one random day but I was so happy that she finally felt comfortable enough to talk to me, through this, her confidence grew and she started talking to more and more people, fast forward to today and we are very close friends now and i would never want to lose her

[@grace-chloe2743]

There is a girl like this in my class tried to talk to her bc I don't like seeing lonely people...but I stopped talking to her bc I like I was bothering and it's was very awkward since I can't lead a conversation...but one day she backhugged me I was very happy...but she still doesn't talk to me😔

[@grace-chloe2743]

*I felt like

[@PersianGirl11]

Jessica Marie we need more people like you :,)

[@helind.martinez5120]

@FLEUR NGAMby I am just like the girl you describe trust me if you try a little harder just by saying hi she might talk to you bc sometimes we feel like we want to say hi but like our mind is not letting us is kind of hard to explain it and that make us regret a lot of things so keep it up maybe she will be more comfortable around try to talk about things you both like maybe that will help hope it helps 😊

[@lishlovesappletea]

Same

[@acousticnude7183]

The girl is really pure and she kinda remind me with Rosé. Hope she can be more confident and voice her opinion without being shy💕

[@Kt-cn2rq]

Girlgroups Enthusiast don't worry like me I voiced more when I became a mom tired of being stepped on.

[@comradeleppi2000]

Which rose?

[@lisha842]

DONGWOO’S LAUGH IM DYING and the girl is so adorable omg but I agree she should try to be more firm and confident!

[@gyuswolfcut]

Ikr I was laughing my head off

[@kit153]

i still get scared of pressing the button when no one else has pressed it yet and it’s nearly at the stop

[@aonairskies]

carmallama me..

[@yeolodies5205]

i scared to ask additional paper during examination

[@amymarrin5630]

@carmallama does the bus not stop at the bus stop unless you press the button??

[@kakashihatake7712]

I don’t turn in tests till everyone is out of the classroom so I can give it too my teacher personally I’m too scared to go in front of everyone to turn it in

[@sweetchocolate7113]

@@amymarrin5630 yes where I live as well if you don't press it it won't STOP I think it's dumb but that's how things go

[@eommajinius8525]

I like how her friend hasn’t taken advantage of her but is more concerned and has stayed with her all these years

[@xoxogarden2452]

18:37 "Let's start with Woohyun." "You're handsome." "You're very honest." "What part of him is handsome?" "You're my type." he's so proud 😂 -The girl is very pretty, especially cute. I hope she can overcome her shyness and become her best version. Also, her friend seemed so happy and proud of her. She truly seemed relieved that her friend was able to speak in the opinion exercise. True friendship.

[@mellchiril]

This was a strangely uplifting episode, even though the concern was actually pretty heavy. I'm glad she has a friend who looks out for her this much, I hope they do stay friends forever.

[@averixu4836]

Literally the sweetest person I've seen on tv, she just seems so caring and pure hearted. I hope she learns how to express her self and be more vocal but hope she remains this clean hearted and her dad melted my heart. They are soo cute and shy

[@couchpotato3067]

I like this girl. I think she's a great person and she's cute. I understand her, I was like that too. When they started talking bad about her at the beginning I was really upset. I know it's hard for other people to understand.

[@nisaalliyah5565]

I ship her with woohyun. I can imagine him treating her like a princess

[@renjunisalegend5155]

Nisa Aliyah I THOUGHT IM THE ONLY ONE

[@joylee6976]

Nisa Aliyah WELL, I DID THINK ABOUT IT ALSO

[@ir9398]

LOL YOU READ MY MIND

[@artofreusing10]

Nisa Aliyah who’s woohyun btw?

[@nisaalliyah5565]

ART OF REUSING the guy on the thumbnail. Look him up

[@love_rose1059]

I used to be like her when I was younger but I grew out of it because I was tired of being afraid. Also I do not like her father because he legit smiled through the part when they were talking bout how she put herself in dangerous situations and was lik yeah it is dangerous.. and seemed like he did not care

[@jazminchance9659]

Yea its like he wants it to happen...

[@astar269]

Sometimes when people are nervous they smile in various situations. I don't think he wants her to be kidnapped it's just he is very veryyyy considerate of other people so he smiles because he doesn't want them to see some blank serious expression and feel that he's being rude.

[@oOJapaneseOo]

That father though... Host: "She could be kidnapped" The father (with a smiling face): "That could happen" ..... 👀

[@bubblymoon7435]

🤔🤔🤔

[@-j1940]

That sounds a bit worse in writing 😅

[@kylecutie1374]

LIKE A DAMN SOCIOPATH

[@krishna-nx7mh]

@@kylecutie1374 Olivia rodrigoooo

[@MiniInspirit]

the girl looks like babysoul ..or it's just me,...

[@kalanada6100]

Mini Inspirit , I agree with you....👭👭👭

[@Ismi968]

Same

[@Balqissuraya96]

The way she talks also same like babysoul... Slowly..One word by one word xD

[@jinstan1433]

Whos babysoul?

[@MiniInspirit]

Lovelyz's leader :)

[@kelnit9741]

I don’t know her , but I feel so proud ! She’s such a good person and she’s trying to express herself more ! She’s an amazing human being and give me faith in this world

[@thedustwhispered]

18:58 "You're my style." oh my godddd girl get it

[@MegaElsya]

throughout the video, i could see that a guy that is like woohyun might be the guy that can help her change herself and express herself more and later at 18:57 she said that woohyun is her type wkwkwkwkwkwk my ship is sailing bye (but only in this video hehehe don't be mad guys)

[@anneganda8435]

Elsya and i noticed too that woohyun did not laugh at her which is good.

[@swagittarius5748]

That dad though. If I were him I'd be super happy and thankful that she has friends like that who care for her so much. Like, the friends came there because they're worried someone might do something to her if she can't say no, not because they are annoyed by her. That's a very precious friendship right there!

[@doyouknowosolemio3295]

*Sungjong is so handsome, our maknae is a grown up man now 😍😍*

[@Aigoohan]

I am just like her 😂 I tried to change but people hate me. They said I am not like I used to be. Then I bcm quiet again. I usually try to tell my opinion but nobody take it seriously. But when I accept everything, they said I have no opinion, why cant I say no. I am actually tired of people. I just want to live my life quietly.

[@kadikarolin997]

I can relate to this. People really do find a reason to complain no matter what :/

[@aetherdemigod]

I feel you. I really dk why peeps complain when i'm quiet when i just wanna live life peacefully until I can go back to my home country. I don't have many friends where I'm currently living and i feel like school is destroying my mental health. but I hope everyone that has this problem can talk more and voice their opinion irl cos u only have one life so don't regret it.

[@evelynn3941]

samee,I try to be more social when I'm with my friends but whenever I want to voice my opinions,they think that I'm interrupting their talking and if I don't speak too much,I get scolded so Idk what to do..

[@karamelpuddingmakaroni2991]

I hate how they always assume ppl will say ugly things about Yeongja. Shes the reason I watch this show, the fresh face among them all. I just hope those jokes dont Get to her and she stays cheerful. Youve got lots of fans abroad Yeongja❤️❤️

[@soraeverblue]

I've watched several concerns from this show and i see Yeongja as a wise person and i love her confidence. She sees the core problems, ask the right questions, and point out the truth towards a concern. Yeongja already has a beautiful mind, her confidence in showing herself and being one of the most front panelist of this show makes her more attractive to me. I would want her as my teacher or older sister figure

[@Sujongi]

Her personality surely constructed by her family. You can notice that her father also has personality similar to her. I can relate this bc that's also happened in my family too. My family rarely shows feelings but get along really well and my parents taught me strictly so i grow up as a quite person. I just realized that my personality could get me troubles when i went to university and had to live far away from my parents. This is actually a concern although there's no one to blame bc people grown up differently based on their surroundings and how they face every situation. I try to change (bc the more i get along with this personality, i get hurt more often) but it's not easy to do it. I get hurt too, at first, but now I can feel better bc i could express what i like and what i don't like. I have no regrets for deciding something when i want it. Human's mind is complex :)

[@teleleleleletvxliitay4587]

Marel Amera this is really relatable.I was quiet and I was taught to be polite too and stictly. Being a quiet person who doesn't express feeling often and always find it hard to say no, it make me hurt often and now I want to change and I hope I will slowly change too..

[@Sujongi]

Ashlynn Sania i believe you will change too! Although being quite is not a problem, but if it gives you more disadvantages you should do something about it, right! I'll cheer you up! :)

[@teleleleleletvxliitay4587]

Marel Amera thank you:)

[@lkim2855]

Woohyun as thumbnail will always got me. He’s so handsome 💕

[@n4musica]

I used to be just like her. I would just go along with the crowd to not offend or inconvenience any one. I totally relate to not wanting to ring the bell on the bus. When I was younger I would spend minutes on the bus building the courage to stand up and press the button. But I think that guy (the idol) is right. When you find your passion. You over come it. I wanted to become a music teacher and when I decided that, everything changed. It’s more difficult to be shy and a music teacher, so I pushed myself past my social anxiety. I think my anxiety is still at the same level, but I’ve become used to pushing myself to do what makes me anxious if I KNOW it’s going to be okay. If she has the will and the support (which she obviously does from her friends) she can do this :)

[@ezodragon]

It's not that what you're scared of becomes less scary - it's scary, and it's more surprising that most people can ignore how scary it is, than it is surprising that anyone is afraid; - but you become braver. That's how it is when you find a reason to go on, something to fall back on and say, even if I upset somebody, or they hate me, or they laugh, at the end of the day I said it for the right reasons

[@hawaiian1942]

I can relate to this girl on a spiritual level, I’m just as quiet. Having this problem causes people to lose interest in me really easily, if they notice I can’t carry a conversation properly then they would immediately leave for someone who is loud and expressive. You get too paranoid that others may judge or find you weird with whatever you have to say that’s why I decide to not say much, it’s a fear that goes deeper then you are able to understand that’s why others who are not you are unable to be considerate (for the most part). It really frustrated me that the mc’s found this behaviour annoying because everyone is expected to be able to socialise when in reality not everyone can. The easiest way for someone to overcome this is to be forced to step out of your comfort zone by close friends or family because I know personally it is hard to make the first step. That is why it is important for her to go on a show like this to being able to gain some sort of ground to overcome this because everyday is filled with regret of what “I could’ve done.” I hope she is doing good now, I rambled on for too long REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT ALONE LOVE YOUSELF.

[@ayshamantici8134]

Hawaiian that's so true and lol you said Love yourself I love BTS if she wants to become more sociable and Love herself she should listen to BTS it works, i definately don't love myself when i look in the mirror i only see flaws i'm like oh i have spots, i look ugly, i want to be skinnier, i want a nice figure and nice legs and i want to be a little more tanned, i'm already dark skinned because i naturally have olive skin and i don't burn in the sun i just tan because i'm half Turkish but now i love BTS i'm trying my best to love myself and see the good qualities for them

[@chiberi]

what are these new titles LOL doesn't really give a hint to what the concern is about

[@RennyTa13]

little birb because curiosity scores high time

[@emi_wuuuuu]

thats kinda the point haha, it's kinda like clickbait

[@namconorauchiha1593]

Oh I would also have said the same thing to Woohyun. "You're my style." !!!

[@idawoohyunieinfinitelove8932]

ME TOO KYAA....

[@aisyahnadhirah5080]

Repeat after me! THIS👏🏻GIRL👏🏻MUST👏🏻BE👏🏻PROTECTED👏🏻AT👏🏻ALL👏🏻COSTS👏🏻

[@receldofeliz2353]

Clicked bc of the thumbnail! 😂😍😍

[@inspiritgirl6980]

Recel Dofeliz haha same😂 woohyun hahha

[@ennasunstar]

Same xD

[@poojakotian4351]

Same 😍😍

[@inspiritedgoldenastralexol4122]

Same haha

[@Cocogirlzchannel]

Woohyun hahahaha 😍😍😍

[@meggydc5284]

I believe she could change. I used to be timid too, but people around me taught a lot of thing about express the feeling and I am getting better now.

[@luvhrs]

18:56 Woohyun is so cute his reaction when she said she was his type at 19:02 was freaking adorable what a squishy mochi 😍😍 lmao and honestly I’m really concerned about this girl she’s far beyond just shy. She’s got a real problem. I hope she’s gotten help from a professional after this because sadly they can’t diagnose on live TV. I loved her though she’s so cute ❤️❤️

[@user-mv9gi9xz3x]

GIRL LET ME PROTECT YOU!!

[@samaratavares4645]

I understand the girl,because I was like this years ago.I didn't have so much friends because of that.And now I am just trying to change,but sometimes I can't say what I really want to eat when my friends ask me what I want for lunch or snack(all this because I really don't want to disturb)

[@BlueMeaney49]

But don't you understand it disturbs them MORE when you are being wishy-washy? Eventually they will just stop caring what you want and won't ask.

[@samaratavares4645]

BlueMeaney49 Yes,I really know that,but It's what my mind think and automatically I do

[@garekim8627]

+BlueMeaney49. Mind your business if you got nothing nice to say. You sound like a bully and you ain't helping anyone with all those rude comments you leave.

[@strawberryshortgirl2637]

Wish I had more friends so I could evene get asked what to eat :/

[@nellychou]

I saw Woohyun, I just clicked, no matter how frustrating 😍

[@peachjenny5519]

That feel when she said "you my type"😍😍

[@ehetenandayaur]

She's like an angel 😭 she's so nice omg. And when she smiled, she resembles Seulgi 🤗

[@Unicornwerewolfvamp]

She reminds me of my friend, she's very quiet and reserved. I met her in middle school and we've been friends since. I think inviting and ensuring she participates in converations will vastily help her be more open and confident.

[@katieener8171]

This situation isn't that usual, she is just shy and is scared to offend others. It's usually like that when a person lacks self-confidence so she tends to just keep her own opinion for herself. I was like that before, maybe even worse because I felt like I need to cater to other people's needs (I became a people pleaser that time) so yeah I always ended up in not good situations and being burdened by others because I was scared to offend them and scared that if I'm not like that, people wouldn't like me which is later on I realized is so wrong. If her friend wanted her to change, she should remind her that everything starts within herself and she should start building up her confidence all by herself because there was no other people who knows all her strengths and weakness more than herself.

[@halfmoon308]

Dongwoo don't worry, you're my styleeee. PS: I miss infinite in variety shows.

[@Animelover-jq2be]

She's so pretty

[@lukinamstan4523]

I'm really happy for her the fact that her friend believe it as a concern and bring up to help. From my experience, there was no one but constant cruel jokes, insults and ignorance. I am used to being ignored and, honestly, comfortable with such situation. But I feel so mistreated to get insults for being like that. One time, there were classmates who have a lot common interest. At first, as you predicted, I talk so little and behaved aloof. But we have ended to make a group project and I THOUGHT we became close. I was comfortable being with them, so was being expressive, funny and share ideas a lot. But one day, one of them commented on me that I was like a cat which pretended not being able to catch mouse.

[@chajunhonation6611]

the thumbnail is a click bait... that's y im here... woohyun so handsome

[@rachaelmin4234]

I get her, saying no or you don't like something to someone can be really hard when you're a really considerate person.It becomes really hard because you might just hurt yourself while trying to please others.I've fallen victim to that kind of thing( passive aggressiveness)all my life thinking I had to put others feelings above my own all the time, even if it's something I didn't like but I decided this year that I could be kind and considerate to others while valuing myself more😊😊😊,I'll try harder FIGHTING

[@pushmoyanteh78]

Rachael lewis Yes. Love yourself. Be considerate to yourself. No one should judge you for it. I hope for your well and happiness. Fighting :)

[@rachaelmin4234]

push mo yan teh Awwww thank you so much🤗🤗🤗🤗 I hope you're happy and well also 😊😊😊

[@lightoflove7869]

i just want to hug her and be her friend. and im glad that her friends are nice towards her :)

[@vanessabader39]

I ship this girl with Woohyun so much right now xD

[@biasedbykpop8487]

She's so kind;;; I feel like we all should be like her (talking about her kindness), at the same time, we have to express our opinions without being rude, hurting others or spreading hate

[@chimcham6762]

I used to be like this as a child and early teen years but as I approached late teens and now young adulthood, I became more confident and very outspoken. Sometimes people who remember me as a kid can’t believe it’s the same girl standing in front of them. I still get bouts of social anxiety but for the most part, I am outspoken, opinionated and a good conversationalist (but that took YEARS of taking active steps to overcome my shy and timid nature) This girl is so sweet but I think she suffers from social anxiety. Counselling (actual professional one) will help her in the long run and hopefully she’ll start speaking up and voicing her opinions.

[@musiclovesu23]

This was really sweet, i hope she does well.

[@소-k1r]

She reminds me so much of EunJae from the drama Age Of Youth

[@woraam]

Bin true true

[@bkuuiing906]

omg yesss thats exactly what i was thinking

[@bbuwu-ji3df]

Omgg yes yesssss

[@rosemariesy4855]

If she could give me a little bit of her personality I’d be so glad lol. I can’t help but to say everything especially if I don’t want to do something and in a straightforward way too.

[@chandhubogum7433]

Rose Sy same here😂😂😂😂

[@michellecampa9850]

I wanna be like you, its sad and lonely to be this way

[@DelaneyJane00]

I am exactly like this girl. Throughout my whole life I've always been super shy and quiet. I'm not confrontational whatsoever and I'm the biggest pushover. The word 'no' doesnt seem to be in my dictionary. I hate drawing attention to myself and have always tried to remain as invisible as possible wherever I go. My mom is always telling me to grow up and get over my shyness but I think it's a lot more complicated than that. I dont think it's something I'll be able to change overnight, I wish though.

[@cokesm2263]

same

[@avanue8326]

They use emoji for the title wow

[@m.y.4292]

I hate that people always say that with concerns like these they should seek real help. Keep in mind, talking with people that sometimes make jokes and are still serious during counseling is way better than going to a place where you feel tense because of how awkward it is.

[@viviannguyen1645]

her condition is way more serious and i hope she really overcomes it. i can relate to her in a way. i’m shy and i hate meeting new people. i never really say no to people. even to people i dislike. which is why people mistaken me for being fake. but when a person asks me for something, i have this sudden fear and i start to panic then i agree to do it even when i know i don’t want to. i know my extents (knowing there’s a point when i can’t do it) but even just these little things i can’t say no to. my best friend finds it as a concern and i’m working my way to be more stern and be more upfront.

[@newaccount6414]

I am kinda like this too, agrees to everything my friends decides cause I didn't want to be a burden but not to a point where basically agrees with strangers Lol. I'm glad I grew out of it and I only agree when I genuinly want to and disagree when I dont..

[@PoppsPoppin]

They are both soooo pretty, they could be idols. The shy friend has Dara vibes. Love it!

[@geen_aaaaa]

If she wants to become a clinical psychologist she should converse more. As a college student doing degree in psychology, what a psychologist need is to be a socially active and can communicate well. And I'm happy that she's changing.

[@zahpasta]

she got a real bestfriend because not every friend have this encourage to came here and share the problem. What a beautiful friend ❤️

[@an_kpopgalaxy5119]

Woohyun is stealing my heart 😍😍

[@CzarnyVampirek666]

I loved how her friend was genuinely concerned about her. Even in this show we often see so many selfish people, like the mother being only thinking about herself and not letting her daughter go out, or the drinking teenager, or the mother making her daughter work at the hair salon. The problems were caused because they generally did not care about anyone around them. And here comes a girl genuinely concerned about her friends' behavior and being so happy when she speaks her mind. People even asked why she was friends with her (which was really rude btw) but she didn't even understand why she wasn't supposed to be. It's so nice to see someone so worried about a friend to even bring her to a program like this. The girl may be shy but she definitely has great friends to protect her!

[@octaviasmiler]

I was once in her condition, but I changed quite a lot when I started to be friends with people who express their feelings so much. So, I got influenced by them.

[@teleleleleletvxliitay4587]

Octavia Jung same with me! I learned to change slowly by looking at how my extrovert and talkactive friend express their feeling without hurting other

[@armycaratigot7onceblinkbud867]

She is so humble and kind. I wish I had a friend that's quiet,humble and kind but if she doesn't talk much I'll ask her and express her opinion 😊💙

[@PJ-zw6ow]

Wahhhhh i miss woohyun And also im glad that her friend is concerned about her..because there anre only few whose just like her

[@cherista]

She is so adorable. I hope she becomes confident and express herself more and more. This concern ended on a lovely and happier note.

[@sunshinehope2235]

I just keep coming back for the part where she says “you’re my type”.

[@wooottff]

This is one of 5he best and heartwarming concern I've seen so far

[@Spidernana93]

Omg She so cute! I really love considerate people, but it shouldn't get her into situations that would harm her... I want to protect her so bad ❤️

[@hottyJunsu]

She's so kind, it's hard to find a person like her nowadays. It's sad that the world is too dangerous for a person like her.

[@fayelockwood7656]

Since most are talking about Woohyun, I'm just gonna say how amazing Jang Dongwoo looked in that pink sweatshirt ❤

[@ellajeong21]

Before, I am an introvert person too. I cannot express my thoughts and emotions to others and always allowing myself to adjust with them. But then when i entered highschool i feel bad that i had waste much time and memorable things with my friends if i had showed them what truly i am. So, im very blessed to have my friends who didnt leave and stop caring to me. Because of them i learn many things and improve myself.

[@nanana2447]

omg that quiet girl is really pretty. the way she talks makes her even prettier.

[@gakkibear]

I used to be a nosy friend but I became like her as I age... I think something happened to her somewhere. because for me, I've met people and guys who told me how unnecessary I am etc., I think those little words could really change a person.......

[@ilovekpop726]

I can really relate to the girl cause I'm also like that I feel like a burden to everyone around me so I'm trying my best to be not a burden to anyone by just agreeing to what they want.. I can't really change myself even though I tried so many times cause I feel like no one really cares about me cause every time I try to express my opinions, feelings and thoughts they will really not listen, they don't really care especially my friends.. they will change the topic of our conversation to their own opinions, feelings and thoughts and will forget mine cause they didn't really listen... I can't help but to listen to them cause I know the feeling of being forgotten and ignored and I don't want them to feel the same way that's why I will still listen to them.. it's just so hard for me cause I don't have anyone... They have me to listen to them but I don't have anyone to listen to me.. I feel like all people that surrounds me are like that.. hayyy it's just so depressing for me...

[@pushmoyanteh78]

ilovekpop726 i don’t think that’s right for you. have you ever thought about confronting them about it? even if it gets awkward and you may feel uneasy, but it’s a step. i got tired being like that so i just voiced my feelings out. i remember saying “i don’t like how this happened and this happened. ive often felt like i was being left out. i have problems too. i wish you guys are able to understand them more.” and a bunch of other stuff. taking them to a private area would be nice like a secluded park. i hope you treasure your beautiful self more. be strong. love yourself. be considerate to yourself first. live happier. fighting! :)

[@banananas4947]

same goes with me,when i talked my friend seem not focus which hurt me so much.when i am still in the elementary school,i am a really active student but it start to change by time.i talked less and people didnt pay attention on me.sometimes i felt i am nobody.but one of my friend notice it and ask on why i act like that(silent and sitting alone) when the others laughing with each other.to be honest it quite frustrating for me.but,u can change things if u brave to voice out ur own opinion.anyway,good day!!😊

[@ilovekpop726]

push mo yan teh I tried to say that or to voiced out my opinion but they seriously think I'm just saying nonsense.. they don't really care.. thank you so much for your advice.. I really appreciate it.. don't worry I will learn to love myself more and will live happier.. thanks for reading my comment.. I don't feel ignored now .. hehe

[@ilovekpop726]

jeongmo•sekai•taekook ongniel•nanutt we can survive this.. at least your friend notice you.. your still lucky because for me? No one really noticed because they actually don't care.. thank you so much for your advice.. I really appreciated it.. your so nice.. I hope that you are now brave and can freely express your feelings and opinions to them.. Have a good day too... GOMAPDA!!

[@banananas4947]

ilovekpop726 glad that u reply 😊 anyway,u can face this.every good things will come after the bad one.so,just himnae!!i am supporting u from here 😁

[@imoriginalwooo]

She is so cute/pretty! I love how softly she speaks too. ❤

[@TrulyEgg]

I feel so bad for her because I understand Korean culture and I'm scared to speak my mind there too because everyone speaks so strongly and it's intimidating. I feel like even when I speak nobody listens so why speak? And nobody will ask how I am or notice if I'm Ill unless I say something. Korea has a social culture of not considering others so people who do don't fit there

[@vinitakumari7341]

Aaigoo she reminds me of my old self when I was captivated by my own thoughts...and find it very burdensome to open up in front of anybody But now I have changed a lot with the help of friends and family.

[@goldensly_]

slightly off topic but holy shit nam woohyun looks delicious

[@procastination_is_my_passi4182]

Her friend is a good friend to even address this issue while her own family tries to ignore it.

[@m_raja2]

I understand why she’s shy and everything but if she doesn’t change soon and start expressing how she feels, she could get herself into some bad situations in the future

[@lattea_pd9884]

One of my friends were similar to her, but i changed that so she can express her feelings with other people rather than me and her family. Now, she can express it, but she’s still quiet when she isn’t with someone who she is friends with. But she can express her feelings with the other kids, so im proud.

[@live56789]

미워할수없는 답답함이네요 ㅎㅎㅎ 러블리해

[@cloudcampos4555]

This girl is like ...idk An angel? She's so kind and calm I don't personnally know her but I can't help but be worried about her this world is too ruthless for people like her

[@-infinite_lovelyz_goldench7040]

I think i'm worse than her. i'm even cannot talk to stranger. my heart will beating so fast and my palm will sweat. i'm feeling so scared if everybody looking at me. huaa!!!! 😩😩 i want to change but i dont know how. this year i'm going to university but i kinda have this problems. 😭

[@Jxnjy]

You could be having social anxiety in this case, I was like that once as well. It's important to open up to someone about it, don't suffer like that on your own!

[@-infinite_lovelyz_goldench7040]

Born Hater its kinda hard if peoples couldn't understand what i'm facing but anyway thank you for your advice!!!! 😊

[@Jxnjy]

-INFINITE_ LOVELYZ_ GOLDENCHILD- No problem! Unfortunately I understand that its hard when many people around you can't seem to relate to it. 🙁 It's all about taking small steps to overcome your fear, & it's important to keep in mind that you shouldn't feel pressured to meet anyone's expectations under social situations ✊💪

[@vane6451]

I'm just like you before i entered college. It was very hard at first but i had no choice because i really need to talk with my blockmates. You should find friends who will understand you and they will help you with your college life. Try to communicate with others every opportunity you get and you will see improvements. Fighting!!!!

[@-infinite_lovelyz_goldench7040]

Vane i will and i should!! thank you so much!!

[@-s-684]

I really appreciated the way they told the girl to say something about each of them just to encourage her ❤️

[@ambya6431]

instead of consuling their simply roasting her for being herself

[@yukichan4347]

taro flavour ikr that her personality she can't change it quickly that why she's here

[@woozihae]

The dude idol is right. I was exactly like her too until I got into music and the right fandoms and such that made me have alot of courage and made me take care of myself and not get myself in a difficult situation anymore. I already knew from the start that it was a bad habit but it was still SOOOO hard to change, until I found some great role models that makes me improve myself to be better.

[@fc2682]

6:10 she didn't break a smile when they tried to make a 'joke' about her kissing and then he went ahead and said this?as if its funny? she seemed uncomfortable , this show honestly pisses me off sometimes, treating people with anxiety as a laugh as if they've never experienced it

[@Fantasyvid]

she's adorable! i hope she realizes that she can get better, with the help from her friends. they care so much about her!

[@doodletate]

omg she's so pretty

[@May04bwu]

She's so adorable! I think my personality is also kind of like that (for multiple reasons). I'd love to have a friend like that. She seems so calm.