My Wife Keeps Buying Expensive Gifts!

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[@MartianAmbassador69]

John and Dave roasted the heck out of these people lol

[@littleripper312]

I have friends who are broke that spend a ton at xmas and peoples birthdays on gifts. They have 5-15 people they buy gifts for on xmas and then buy another expensive gift on bdays and spend $100 going out for the part also. They are literally in student loan debt, and barely have anything left over after rent and bills. They also go out every week blowing a bunch of money. They see nothing wrong with this and complain about not having any money.

[@rebeccanewbaker7839]

I love when Dave shares a real learning moment he had like the roses 🌹

[@Ryan_DeWitt]

I like when people say things like "My wife does the budget, and we're 100k in debt, but she generally does a good job and Dave says something like NO! She is obviously horrible at budgeting."

[@JS-sv4ol]

The cognitive dissonance is strong 😂

[@reese85]

If there 100k in debt! Doubt it’s all the wife fault

[@larryjohnson6398]

I like giving money away but I only give what I can afford to try and help out people that need it thanks for a great show and the advice

[@erikprestonTV]

My partner has the problem of buying gifts for every family member, friend and acquaintance, and sending expensive packages to people for every holiday under the sun.

[@angelesteban1525]

Sell the wife, pay the debt, get jacked, save money and buy a sports car.

[@blueking5739]

As he should

[@r.j5451]

Never getting married bro lol Sorry,Not sorry. Can't get me to sign my life away 😂 Peace quiet freedom in my household 👍🏻

[@ohmylanta9973]

@@r.j5451 have kid? if not, don't have any! if you do glad things are well!

[@r.j5451]

@@ohmylanta9973 I'm free I'm free lol nope no children. God bless my friend, have a great day 🙏🏻

[@mb2367312]

100%

[@robloxvids2233]

If you decline this gift she will resent you for the rest of her life. That's how women think. 12 years from now when you ask her why she forgot to close the refrigerator door she will start crying and tell you you returned her gift.

[@genxx2724]

My guy friend calls that logic “the v@gina twist.” 😆

[@davinasquirrel7672]

"That's how women think" Really? Every woman? You are talking out your rear end pal.

[@jimroscovius]

My wife feels the same way. If we've decided no gifts, she gets mad if I buy her a card. She doesn't want jewelry. She'd rather use the money towards a nice vacation, which we do. If I bought her a diamond, she'd kill me. We do go out to eat on birthdays, anniversaries, and Valentine's Day, but we have no debt and a paid-off house.

[@kbanghart]

My wife doesn't like diamonds cuz of the whole conflict thing

[@genxx2724]

My family agreed to stop buying cards for each other because they’ve become too expensive. I now find a free one on-line and print it out on regular printer paper. I had to mail Mother’s Day. I bought a 6 x 9 envelope in a pretty color for 50 cents at my mail facility. Father’s Day I fashioned an envelope out of a sheet of printer paper.

[@lynnebucher6537]

You can always get a card from the dollar store or find a free one online.

[@Sinful_Survivor]

Nice, sounds like your wife isn't materialistic and enjoys experiences more 😊

[@jimroscovius]

@@lynnebucher6537 That's what my wife does too 🙂

[@kristencampbell5533]

People just grow up with different norms. I love gift giving. My husband couldn't care less. My husband and I sit down each year, write out each holiday and all the people we're shopping for (including our kids and each other), tack on a few unexpected events that will inevitably come up (marriages, babies, etc.) and make our annual gifts budget. From there, I can feel free to give gifts without worrying about his reaction. Also, sitting down and writing every holiday and person out in full, we realized it is jaw dropping how much you can spend on gifts without even realizing it! After we saw it, we suggested switching to a family draw for Christmas for the adults, and everyone seemed relieved when we suggested it.

[@simonthebroken9691]

Thank you!!! I absolutely love the blunt Doc. Where do you keep this guy locked up? Let him out more often Dr. John. The blunt guy needs to show up more.

[@lluviagarcia3529]

One time my husband gifted me a pair of diamond earrings and later I found out how much they cost 😳 We immediately had the conversation of you are never doing this again. It obviously sting but it’s a conversation we needed to have.

[@jaqueitch]

Did you return the jewelry?

[@Veilfire]

Some people don't know how to show appreciation or love except through expensive gifts. It's sad because people usually like something handmade or just quality time together more.

[@denesecardwell8532]

I prefer potted plants that I can enjoy for years versus cut flowers

[@bettysmith4527]

Except they seem to attract those little black flies...

[@denesecardwell8532]

@@bettysmith4527 I prefer plants that go in the yard

[@truthseeker6370]

Yes you return the tools! A "gift" that costs you money isn't really a "gift". If she's so sweet, she would want to work on your debt free journey- provided she's included in discussion about the budget and plan to be debt free.

[@reese85]

How you kno the money wasn’t hers?

[@reese85]

@Reese B what? If she’s working and paid for it with her money, she got it

[@reese85]

@Reese B if she works, than it’s her money and I have mines and we put together some money

[@davinasquirrel7672]

Good point by John, it could well be a 'testing the boundaries' thing. If he ignores the situation, she then feels as if she has permission to keep going on gift giving sprees for everyone. Nope, nip it in the bud. Sit down and set a small budget for essential gifts (suggest dropping all adults, they already have stuff, don't need more stuff). For each other's birthdays etc, agree upon a cheaper solution like pizza or other favourite take-out food, as a small treat/reprieve from the gazelle intensity. For my adult life, about 90% of the gifts I have received were really unwanted. Most given away or thrown away.

[@bunscita]

My wife has several friends with several kids each and all of the birthday parties we go to each year, she insists on spending at least $30 on gifts for the kid who could care less and prefers screens over any gift. This adds up to over $500 / year wasted and closets filled with unappreciated merchandise.

[@ashleycnossen3157]

Uh, lots of stretching on this one, don't you think? You're really good at making up people's motivations and internal attitudes.

[@jomontanee]

If she spends “our money” or “your money” to buy gifts you must stop her NOW. If it is her money, let her be

[@joecooper8527]

Be grateful for this one gift and tell her for the future to not do it until the debt is paid down.

[@nepatriots77]

Nope, set the tone today

[@andytaylor1588]

No gifts or other flivolous spending until set up for the future. And even then, on a budget.

[@genxx2724]

They’re not even the tools he would want.

[@fwebster6226]

Talk it over with the wife so that she knows what you appreciate. Let her know that the gift is not appropriate and you would like to return it for something more suitable. You need to discuss max value of presents etc

[@toddseales8222]

Here’s how it should go: Wife: “What do you want for your birthday/Christmas/anniversary?” Husband: “A trip to Nashville to do a debt free scream at Ramsey Solutions.”

[@katemiller7874]

Or John she really is a giving person. That’s a love language. Gift giving and receiving. Don’t be a Schmuck some people are very loving and sweet

[@mikeshaw4610]

Why is this a hard conversation from his point. It’s simply that was a nice thought but there not needed.

[@steelmill888]

A routing number will work wonders my man.

[@Itsdjsigi]

Dave said it best, these men now a days are soft and don’t take charge/lead

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

No into buying gifts for people and don't want them. Saying "no" flows like butter as well.

[@joyaustin6581]

If her love language is gifts steer her towards cheaper ones.

[@TioJan01]

Co-host: “You’re gonna sit down and tell her you’re grateful that she bought you these gifts” Dave: “Tell her you’re not grateful” Co-host: “YES”

[@random-nz7dy]

lol such a funny moment. Rachel would have bantered with dave about that but John just noped out of his thoughts

[@adamseidel9780]

Best solution is have this tough conversation John and Dave discussed, but also have a conversation about how to show affection without gift giving. Dave was right on to bring up love languages. Seems like gift giving is one of her love languages. Most people have other love languages too so caller could help her come up with other ideas to show affection.

[@lookingforsure]

Theu put such a negative twist to this story. She probably felt good about their accomplishment and wanted to make sure he would not feel deprived so she bought him a gift...

[@hollym1751]

Am I Sharon Ramsey? I think I might be Sharon Ramsey 😂😂😂 don’t be coming up in here with no impractical flowers that are going to end up in the trash when we have bills to pay

[@Jen-fx4ms]

I don't understand how these people are married and can't have this conversation. Could benefit from some communication counseling. Really isn't a big issue.

[@OTOWN2STOCKTOWN]

Please, would appreciate Dave on this broadcast "solo" instead of with a person name that rhymes on boloney

[@ahmadabdelqader388]

John you need to stop name calling people that call for advice. They need help and advice, name calling is unnecessary. You as a “mental health” professional should know that

[@jimbragu]

ever heard the terms "tough love" or "hard truth". some people need a shock to wake up and fix their problems.

[@ahmadabdelqader388]

@@jimbragu no I haven’t, because if the roles were reversed they would of called him an immature brat and a child. That’s how these calls go on the simp Ramsey show

[@cm5394]

Agreed. Saying someone is a wimp and a coward over a situation like this is uncalled for

[@jimmymcgill6778]

@@jimbragu That is not tough love.

[@jomontanee]

@@ahmadabdelqader388 But he is a wimp! How can you change without cold water wake-up

[@doublet8142]

If you wanna catch the rabbit you gotta beat the bushes...😏

[@unusyousuf9506]

This dude needs to grow a pair

[@jeffgo5742]

Told my wife I wanted a new coffee maker for Christmas, probably get one for $40. Instead she bought me that stupid Meta VR thing that cost $300 😐. Yet she pays most her bills late

[@ChristopherNguyen360]

Sell the wife lol

[@truthseeker6370]

Clearly you aren't on the same page or working together. "She pays her bills late". Smh.

[@Jajaky]

@@truthseeker6370 yea who tf marries someone, and then says HER bills? my man, you're ONE entity now

[@reese85]

At least she’s paying her bills!

[@kbanghart]

Im getting my wife new recessed LED lights as a surprise haha.

[@genxx2724]

Give each other a picture of the gift instead.

[@stacycreates22]

Should always buy the faux kind. They do die in my house though.

[@RandomVids519]

Dave stop talking about your wife it’s annoying

[@FirstLadyButterfly]

Why people in comments talking about marriage they can’t afford.

[@dipsuny]

Hillbilly: Ramsey rather he give her two black eyes?

[@XPuregaming15]

First

[@ahmadabdelqader388]

Please don’t simp like you both do

[@davidmilhouscarter8198]

🐱🦶

[@jaqueitch]

Wife is sabotaging you. She is foolish. She wants to appear kind and is burying your family.

[@cuh720]

All these videos make me regret getting married

[@fabulousfamily564]

Why? You didn't marry the videos.

[@cuh720]

@@fabulousfamily564 fair

[@summerforever6736]

divorce her

[@gingercat7925]

My guess she has depression and finds joy in making other people happy.

[@untouchable360x]

Is she also giving herself free to other men?

[@truthseeker6370]

Inappropriate and uncalled for.

[@bettysmith4527]

Uh, WTH does giving gifts have anything to do with this???? TROLL!