My Wife Told Me I'm Replaceable & Shortly After I Had A Heart Attack r/Relationships

[@beingalittleextra]

Wife: You're replaceable God: Alright, bet.

[@niyablake]

Blows whistle. Wife substitution. Wife now has shocked look .

[@TigersandBearsOhMy]

Made a comment just like this and then scrolled down to see yours. 😂 Nice.

[@shirokusanagi3901]

LOL

[@ElleD308]

​@@niyablake​how the h*ll you tell someone that pays your entire lifestyle and takes care of your house 'you're rplaceable' 😂😂😂 like whaaattt?!!! Tell that to the mooch you're maintaining and they're not doing sht

[@WhitneyDahlin]

​@@ElleD308 I know I really feel terrible for this guy. I think he really believes he can't find someone else. And that's not true at all. She is the one who isn't going to be able to find anyone willing to put up with her and pay for her. She's a bad person. You have to be in order to say something so cruel to someone you claim to love the most. Even the smallest lifestyle changes are so difficult to make that way over 85% of people fail. Such as exercising more or eating healthier. It takes such a huge amount of time energy effort and dedication to do something so small, that the failure rate is extremely high. So to make a huge sweeping personality change on top of all of the lifestyle changes such as her cleaning the house more. That's so difficult it's basically impossible. Unless her brain chemistry is literally being changed by medication, which it might be, I don't believe this change is permanent

[@GBunnyG]

Story 3: Baby carseats are expensive. You know what else is? Baby coffins.

[@syreetabrown8801]

And so is therapy after losing a child.

[@MetalSStar196]

Baby coffins are ludicrously pricey!

[@OZARKMOON1960]

And defense lawyers because if she is in another accident and it is found she took (stole? thrifted?) a second hand one - that has the info of previous accident on it! - there will be charges filed if her child is injured or worse.

[@nondisclosure3920]

​@@MetalSStar196that seems so exploitative of grieving parents. Makes me sad

[@staceyhunt6769]

I don't own a car, do not drive, my kids have never been in a car yet. Despite this I own and very carefully store car seats for each of them so that if they ever do have to go in one, I know they have safe seats to use vs absolute uncertainty. They were expensive seats, too, because I wanted them up to specific specs, they have steel frames and still weigh more than my daughter does. When they outgrow them, because the car seats are usually still in their original boxes and I know how safely I have stored them I contact local baby charities and ask them if they need them (They always do! And usually the proof that it is safe is a must!). There are seats out there with an indicator on to show if it is still safe, but I struggle to find those in my country. If the car seat takes an impact enough to compromise it, the indicator changes to red. Child safety is no joke. It freaks me out that public transport doesn't have any safety stuff for the passengers either. How people feel they can skip out on car safety is insane to me.

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1:Sometimes you put your foot in your mouth and you say shit you don't really mean and then all of a sudden that dumb shit you didn't think about: Causes your partner to have a literal heart attack You have to move out of your house Your partner is accusing you of cheating on them during marriage counseling Your partner is going to have that comment permanently burned into their mind for the rest of your marriage. Y'all gotta start being careful what you say to your partners.

[@felipeamezquita7827]

Yea but in this case the wife not only stuck her foot in her mouth she also proceeded to swallow both her legs whole

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

@@felipeamezquita7827 he should've divorced her and tell her oops it seems youre the replaceble one

[@jaleesagreene6800]

Maury taught us that years ago

[@crowdemon_archives]

​@@felipeamezquita7827 she practically became an Ouroboros

[@felipeamezquita7827]

@@crowdemon_archives fo real

[@StephFish1004]

Story 2: She was sending nudes to someone? Yeah that takes it beyond an emotional affair in my opinion. Good riddance

[@Ravenishish]

The line between emotional and physical is weird enough there really needs to be a middle ground like digital affair to cover situations where physical actions are being taken but STD tests aren't needed (though never trust a cheater to tell you anything so always get tested anyway)

[@SkyEcho751]

@@Ravenishish I'd probably call this something like a 'distance' affair, where you aren't actually meeting up to get involved with each other, but you definitely aren't 'physically faithful' to your spouse. Personally though, I think that if she was sending nudes, she probably is lying about not actually meeting up with AP.

[@jrod1591]

@@Ravenishish the fact she wouldn’t tell him who it was shows locational closeness. My bet is a coworker or ex.

[@damiang888]

@@SkyEcho751 I think the same, but it's funny how her answer to being caught mid monkey branch was offering that OP becomes her jailer. I guess it was easy for her to offer that, since she already felt free because of the affair.

[@SkyEcho751]

@@damiang888 I actually remember a post from sometime in the past 6 months, where an OP was caught having already cheated, agreed to 2 years of basically prison, and then it turned out his wife was cheating the whole time. Starting before they were even married(and long before he cheated). Turns out she didn't want to lose OP but still wanted to cheat. The whole jailer thing does nothing to help the situation. All it does is cause hurt and suffering.

[@momop1848]

Story 3: I recently started doing freelance work that's related to car insurance. Car seats are definitely meant to be replaced after an accident, and the replacement may be covered by the insurance company paying for damages. Worst case scenario, the dumpster diver is going to get their child killed to save some money. Baby stuff is expensive for a reason.

[@damiang888]

yeah but for an irresponsible person, a car seat that was in an accident can still be used to avoid traffic tickets... yeah, it scares me just to think about it

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

@@damiang888I knew someone like this. Couldn’t stay friends. Child neglect makes me nauseas and I had to tell them they inspired me to vomit horrifically when they talk

[@jessicaparker2011]

I can't imagine being willing to risk my childs life for a free carseat.

[@cindervox9961]

"Anne is a known dumpster diver." Pause. She's fucking what? Op knew she would go through her trash. WTF?

[@asherikamichaela8425]

Some people do it as a hobby, finding what they feel are interesting things and sometimes refurbishing and/or repurposing the found items. Others do it as a way to save money, though depending on what they're "diving" for, it could cause more harm than good, such as with the car seat. They are indeed only safe through one accident. I'm a parent myself and know that well.

[@mbyerly9680]

The good news is she had to dig through the dirty diapers.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

@@asherikamichaela8425 Guess she hasn't seen the numerous videos of people digging through dumpsters of retail stores. They are interesting to see what they can unearth, but I don't think I would ever climb into a dumpster to find things to resale!

[@JootjeJ]

​@@mbyerly9680 🤣🤣🤣 Thank you for that. You gave me the giggle I needed today.

[@CouncilEstateRach]

We are encouraged to be better at not wasting things but there are certain no nos and this is one if them. Sometimes, they don't even need to be in a crash!!!! If they have been dropped, like a crash helmet too, if they've been dropped and smashed against the floor or another hard object, better to be safe than sorry. Why expensive crash jeets mist be talen care of and literally of they are dropped they are then at risk if not working in a crash

[@michaeldowson6988]

Wife: You're useless to me as a husband...but please, please be my jailor and monitor every minute of my cheating life!

[@susankaempfer8427]

I think she was just having a self pity party. She knew he would never agree to it, but if he had, she could have really twisted it to make herself look like the victim.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

@@susankaempfer8427 Exactly. I'm waiting for the inevitable "you weren't a good enough jailer for me as I found someone else who wanted a quick hop-on".

[@susankaempfer8427]

@@user-wr3vt8uq4s or just make it look like he was controlling and abusing all along and that’s what drove her into someone else’s arms?

[@AndyyWithAY]

Anne is a b and a choosing beggar. She'd be trying to sue OP if her daughter got hurt. I hope OP or someone responsible stays in that baby's life. I feel CPS will be needed sooner rather than later

[@Sassy_Kat]

Right. It also seems to be a one-sided friendship, maybe it’s just that her entitlement rubbed me the wrong way that’s got me thinkin it’s like that. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@theundone777]

No one is replaceble, unless you view them as a resource instead of a whole human being. Could she find another husband? Maybe. But people aren't replaceable, and that's a cruel thing to say to anyone.

[@Harvest133]

Everyone is replaceable. Just how things are.

[@theundone777]

@@Harvest133 not if you view them as actual people and not a resource. Clearly you view people as resources. If you have kids, do you think that if they die you can just have a new one? People are not replaceable.

[@Harvest133]

@@theundone777 you are replaceable to everyone under correct circumstances. It's not about people or not people. It's about how people naturally drift apart and how no one is truly that unique. There's a lot people who are very much just like you in the world. No one is special, even if some people may or may not see you as such.

[@MrGreenAKAguci00]

​@theundone777 @@Harvest133 both of you are correct.

[@Berasu]

​@@Harvest133You've just proved his point...

[@FlipTheBard]

The moment someone tells me that I'm "replaceable"...I'm gone. Be it at work or in a relationship.If they can't or won't see me as irreplaceable, if they see me as "just someone else" then they certainly don't deserve me and what I bring to the table.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Getting caught having an affair then trickle truthing, there's no coming back. Apparently boundaries regarding cheating is necessary. A woman had an affair with her sister's husband and somehow tried to justify it by saying she wasn't told not to do the boom boom with BIL 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@kuno3336]

Ugh I remember that story. Golden child syndrome, man

[@VFKAdventureRabbit]

When I heard "Wives are replaceable, mothers are not" At first I thought that was a clever proposal to the wife to have kids. Full sentence was sadder.

[@Feynix4]

It was awful to realize what he really meant

[@dolly15rox]

Too old to find a new relationship at 33? I guess I better start hoarding cats now in preparation 😅😂

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Fr that doesn't even make sense lol you're never "too old" to start a new relationship. People in their 60s+ find partners so idk what they're talking about 😂

[@syreetabrown8801]

😂😂😂

[@roevhaal578]

commenter living in the 1700's

[@itsjustmaddisen]

@roevhaal578 vampire novels be like 😂😅

[@cliffdweller990]

I remember a conversation I overheard in a bus from a man in his 80s: "So I met this nice girl. She stays in ABC retirement house. We'll meet up and see how it goes "

[@NoOne-fo1di]

About the car seat story- OP is 100% correct about the 1 wreck durability of a car seat, but the ignorance a lot of people have about car seats is unbelievable. I worked at walmart and we had to zip tie the fuck out of our displays because of theves but the part that bothered me is that those aren't car seats, theyre fucking displays in the truest since of the word. This isn't like the floor model of a tv or bicycle in that they took them out of a box so you can see what they look like but could potentially use. The displays are just models of the actual car seat and do not offer any protection whatsoever for a child. We had signs up but it's also stamped onto the plastic all over the fucking thing at the factory that its a display item only and cannot fucntion as an actual car seat and will not protect a child. But people would still take them if they could. When we threw them out we had to literally destroy them beyond repair because apparently people who come and steal them and sell them on Craigslist. Breaks my heart to think how many children have been hurt or killed because their parents are thieving morons. Thanks @wmdkitty

[@AntarticSiren]

Wow... I was completely unaware that ppl really tried to cheap out on such a high risk item and put in danger their own kids... Idk what to say... Legally in several countries you need to cut the straps and take different steps before putting a car seat in a dumpster... It's so sad that we need to do that to avoid this sort of monsters to endanger kids 😢

[@NoOne-fo1di]

@AntarticSiren that is true about the car seats, but since the display isn't actually a car seat, that doesn't apply. I was baffled when I heard that. I started on the remodel crew and we worked the 7p to 7a shift and when we were installing the displays my boss told me why we had to go through putting so many zipties down and I thought he was joking. He said 1 person that was caught trying to steal one was told they did work and he said "I mean if a cop sees it they'll still think it's an actual car seat" like wtf? THAT is your excuse? Who cares if my kid dies in a wreck? Just as long as I don't get a ticket if I get pulled over smh. He also said that it's not a rare occurrence for people who do steal them to try and sue walmart or the company if the child is hurt or killed, that's why we had to go through all that shit and why they're stamped all over saying that they're not an actual carseat.

[@terriwetz6077]

Until reading this I had no idea the carseats on display weren't real. I never looked that close at them to see the "Display Only" stamp.

[@wmdkitty]

It's "thieves". You're welcome.

[@NoOne-fo1di]

@terriwetz6077 I didn't know either until I saw them. I just thought it was to deter thieves, but it's mostly for people who end up buying them from thieves 2nd hand aside from liability reasons

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 2: Yeah, not disclosing the AP means that she is still violating OPs trust and will continue to do so even if OP gets counseling with her. It's probably someone that is much closer to OP than he probably realizes, and he would be looking at his inner circle and work colleagues for certain behaviors.

[@TheKatienabox]

That’s what I thought too. He definitely knows whoever the AP is. The double betrayal makes it all worse. I hope he finds out who it is at some point. The details may provide some closure but also to cut off the ap from his life. Good riddance to both of them.

[@wvanyar1801]

Why do the cheaters offer getting counseling after they get caught? When my wife and I had marriage issues we got counseling. If one of us didn’t like that counselor we tried a different one until we found one that we both agreed too. As for the monitoring the cheater, never accept that. You need a partner in life, not a convict. Also, it is a strong possibility that they have been cheating for a long time or had other affairs that you never found out about. The cheater feels they can put smart you. Trust has to be rebuilt in the relationship. Being a jailer is not how you do that.

[@trippstudios12]

If a significant other says you're replaceable it's because they have someone else they're with.

[@Swnsasy]

I'm replaceable? Hmm, ok, gotcha. We'll, let me take care of that for you then! Papers are on the table and sign them before you go..

[@immortalsofar5314]

Really? Well who do you have in mind as my replacement? (Even if nothing is going on right then, "replaceable" implies something is in mind).

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

he should've kikced her out of the hospital after his heart attack and told her go find my replacement but first sign these papers

[@MetalSStar196]

... and, on top of that, I've found a girlfriend who treats me with dignity and respect while you and I go through the divorce process.

[@Swnsasy]

@@MetalSStar196 Now I like that one!!!

[@zathtanks]

@@MetalSStar196no this is a bad Choice as it basically says you committedadultry b4separation and you can be crushed financially

[@chaseashley6775]

My jaw dropped seeing the title. Also I just got results back from my Audio Engineering 2 midterm; I got a 248/250 on the proficiency exam on the recording console, and a 176/185 on the written exam! So I’m super happy right now

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

CONGRATS!!!

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

CONGRATS!!!!! Treat yourself! U deserve it!!!

[@Gumbier_Than]

All right! 💐✊🏾

[@Swnsasy]

WOOHOO!!! You go Waffle Squad Buddy!!! I'm proud of you! 🎉🎉🎉

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Yay congrats💜💜🤗🤗

[@brandyb2931]

If my husband ever told me I was replaceable, I would tell him to consider the position open. I wouldn't stick around with someone who treated me that way.

[@shadowsaiph]

Story 3: Another aspect to consider... if OP's friend used the "recycled" car seat and was in an accident and something happened to her baby... she would probably be on the hook legally for knowingly using an unsafe seat. Negligence is what I would assume she would be hit with, but not a lawyer so couldn't say. Absolutely NTA.

[@kuno3336]

I remember seeing the "sending the MIL divorce papers" story elsewhere. Fun to see it pop up in the comments of story 1

[@RamonaSchnauzevoll]

Give me another reason why i better stay single 😂

[@millicentspears]

🎯

[@laurag502]

sometimes it’s easier to just go at life alone🙃🙃

[@Nyanx4]

Here's one! You get to make all the decisions about your living space and have it just how you like it and exactly how comfortable it is for you. I think a lot of people who enter relationships don't realize how much they value their own space until they don't have it anymore, and it can cause a lot of tension where there otherwise might not be. Oh that was rhetorical? Sure, but I've got more if you want 'em lol

[@b.c.9358]

​@@laurag502agreed, but I'll always have my sisters and brother even if my romantic relationships don't work out. I have a healthy support network I've cultivated.

[@immortalsofar5314]

When people have said I should have kids, I ask them which of my exes they think I should be paying child support.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: Not even asshole adjacent. She can have the guy and the job. Hell, how can she even think about reconciling if a week after being caught she hasn't even told the truth? The AP can keep her.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

I'm gonna be honest.... I could never get over that. My thought would keep going and going thinking, is she getting something better? Will she leave? For me, it's cruel, hurtful and... Unforgivable. I couldn't find a way to... Forgive her. That's just me though.

[@MisterNightfish]

Story 1: Honestly, I don't think this will last. There are some things you don't really come back from. They might patch over the cracks, but what she said is going to stay in the back of his mind.

[@jrod1591]

“Can’t find someone else at 33,” 😂😂 that’s the prime of a man’s life.

[@gaaraxnaru]

Of anyone's life, really.

[@teddennison344]

Men die earlier. The older a man gets, the more the dating odds turn in his favor.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Who is foolish enough to have told him this??? Seriously, that may be the dumbest statement I have ever heard. If anything, the woman might have more trouble (still not even remotely close to being impossible), finding a serious long-term relationship that is something other than just booty calls and FWB.

[@kimsvisualdiary]

I was 33 when I got engaged and 34 when my husband and I married. People act like that your life is over once you’re out of your 20s!

[@emilynelson5646]

I got married at 38.

[@BraveryWing26]

That comment about the mom and the Momma's Boy being miserable together is HIGH KEY the best moment of the video,

[@britnicox3929]

1: “for some reason I decided to be a dick” the reason is bc she called him replaceable and he was still hung up on it. To me that was his revenge for what she said and he got it out-of-the-way, and now they can do better. I’m glad both of them are actively working on that

[@meganrenfro1704]

He wasn't even a dick in my opinion. If OP is so "replaceable," who's to say she hasn't already been looking for said replacement and just destroyed the evidence when she found nothing better. I think OP was completely in the right, and the wife is just suffering the consequences of her words and actions.

[@MrModamanReviews]

​@@meganrenfro1704my thoughts exactly. She called him replaceable and then left. For all he knows she found a replacement.

[@GallowayJesse]

No self respecting man would have reconciliation on the table after being talked to like that. Seperation is the only way to move forward with self respect

[@tonyjones1560]

Being told you’re “replaceable” is right down there with hearing, “I settled for him.” Painful AF to hear, but also a blessing in disguise. Why? Now you KNOW where you stand! Whatever happens afterwards is “on” you.

[@lori4762]

Story 3 YES you replace the car seat after an accident.

[@brandyanderson3522]

OP#2 needs to look at the people in his life. There's a reason she won't tell who it is. It's a friend, family member, or the spouse of a friend

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

You are not allowed to sell used car seat. Here, when you go to the hospital you have to have a receipt for a new car seat

[@RodgerJ30]

Telling a man that will stay with us for a long time.

[@asherikamichaela8425]

I think it'd stay with most anyone, really. That's _incredibly_ hurtful, especially for no apparent reason like here. Just... wow.

[@whitneybennett4857]

I'm not sure I could ever forgive someone for saying that to me. In fact, this is probably how that would go down: Partner: You know, I really don't need you around. I'd have no trouble finding someone to replace you. Me: Is that so? Well, looks like you'll have your chance to test out that theory now.

[@hmspretender]

FYI: NHTSA is the National Highway and Traffic Safety Administration here in the US. So, the ones you should definitely listen to about safety.

[@merlinathrawes746]

Story 1: OUCH! There's being angry and being cruel. Telling you that you were "replaceable" was nothing but cruel. A LOT more context would be needed to determine if she was deliberate about that though. Her being at the hospital when you woke was at least a good sign. I think you need to have a heart to heart and delve deeper into this. But you need to do what is right for you. UPDATE: I'm glad you're doing better physically and that things appear to be going well between you and your wife. Best wishes.

[@jrod1591]

Usually when something like this is said, it’s because she has someone who she is looking/has someone to replace you with. I wouldn’t be surprised if she did delete any evidence out of feelings of guilt.

[@jennacoryell4160]

∆∆ THIS ∆∆ she knows he's replaceable because she already replaced him.

[@lynnw7155]

Yeah, that's the hurtful part. Any independent adult doesn't NEED a spouse; we are with them because we WANT them. Saying they are replaceable imply that you may have found that replacement.

[@bhutehole]

he was already being replaced as she went out on a date with the man she plans to monkey branch to. now it seems it may benefit her to stay due to getting everything he owns if he dies which looks to be much sooner than she expected.

[@Masenken]

Boa, the internet really does assume the unmitigated worst in everybody

[@RobDaCajun]

@@Masenken because that’s usually how it plays out.

[@Regrettable-Username]

Story 1: Things like this are why I walk away from the situation when I get heated. Words have power and it's your job to keep yourself in check.

[@jasminedavis3030]

Story 1: While it started off like it would end in divorce for OP & his wife, I'm glad that the seperation helped them understand what they both needed to work on as a couple. I really do hope things work out well for them. Also, hi Mark, wishing you & the rest of the waffle gang all the love from Fl, USA! ❤❤🧇🧇

[@130shooter1]

Story 2: my 1st thought when she offered ti quit her job and never leave the house was, "yeah, ok, then you can get even more in the divorce and have evidence that he's "abusive"" 😂 Also, the fact that she is protecting her affair partner is a huge red flag. Send her back to the streets

[@astrofan1993]

Story 1: As the old saying goes, "You don't know what you've got until it's gone." As OP said, they took each other for granted, but it took his heart attack and the two of them being separated for a month to make them realize just how much they needed each other. One can only hope that they mend this relationship further, and spend many more years together.

[@DrownedInExile]

"They paved paradise, put up a parking lot"

[@jay_dave8722]

OP in story one is simply a push over

[@savvivixen8490]

Story 3: Well now! I learned something new! Even if I didn't know, she's still well within her rights to say "No, I'm not giving this to you" until it actually hits the dumpster, because it's still legally hers. Now we know the logic behind her refusal and a brief overview on her policies on sharing with her friend (talents AND products), and she sounds like she's a pretty stand-up friend! It's unfortunate her buddy seems to take her relationship and subsequent benefits for granted... 😓

[@SpiderRiderKya]

Man, I don't even have kids and even *I* know that you have to replace a carseat after it's been in an accident, no matter what it looks like. Same goes for helmets. Once thy take a hit that's it. One and done.

[@carolinelabbott2451]

Bicycle/Moterbike/Scateboard/Racing Car helmets, Safety Goggles, Work Hard hats, and all Personal Protective Equipment in general are a one and done deal. Now as a new mother many many years ago I did not know about Car seats being a one and done deal, but thankfully my mother explained how the child Car seats worked and showed me safety leaflets from the Baby shops and GP surgeries (well before Internet days) and then I understood. I would never knowingly put my offspring in danger, not even now they are grown. Of course now having worked a few different jobs with very good safety training courses, I'm maybe have become a tad too zealous over home safety but at least I have never (touch wood) had an easily avoided accident at home.

[@ianesgrecia8568]

Story 1: Oh poor OP. She IS cheating. 100%. She is literally just waiting for your life insurance

[@Calories_To_Calibers]

If she’s calling you replaceable she has someone In mind

[@Daug555]

S1: Everyone is replaceable to some extent. It hurts to say it out loud to someone, but if you can be replaced in a job, you can in a relationship. S2: yeah, it’s over.

[@imweakfordeaky]

Story 1: “Replaceable”… ? That’s not a common insult in the midst of an argument - she slipped up and accidentally revealed she had someone *already in mind*, if only in potential. But to follow that with not answering calls from the HOSPITAL ? - nah, she was ignoring the phone in favor of the Replacement Guy. OP is in for a world of hurt. He should have stuck out the separation - he seemed way happier and more at peace without her.

[@sltslt24]

Sometimes hospitals call from your phone or can show up as an unknown number. When I was in the hospital the caller I'd didn't recognize it and my mom didn't pick up I woke up and called her from my phone

[@wessexdruid7598]

Story 1: The one thing I'm not seeing is an apology, in any form, from OP's partner.

[@Vasilia4]

*A heart attack at 30 is crazy*

[@draconicfeline6177]

Lost my grandfather that way

[@cpaul9269]

S3 - NTA - I didn't know that about car seats for children, but I don't think that's the point. No means no. Period. It was yours to do with what you felt what right, regardless. Her reaction would be enough to distance myself from her - the hubris. Unreal.

[@Shin_FTW]

Telling your partner they're replaceable or something or that nature is grounds for ending the relationship. The psychological damage will NEVER fully heal.

[@EandE_ASMR]

Story one is cruel. I remember my ex saying during an argument that "he would just get another woman and have my 2 young kids call her mom instead"🙄

[@TH-hy9kr]

Glad to hear he is an ex. What a nasty jerk!

[@EandE_ASMR]

Thanks 😊

[@McAnik-uo1ol]

Story 1: I heard a youtube short where the speaker explained that his wife said: "I know we will have arguments but angry or not remember to always speak to me like somebody you love." You are replaceable? That's cold. No love in that statement. My wife said something similar once, years ago. I told her I will never forget and never forgive. She is sorry but I am true to my word. Now I am thinking that this woman is going over this scenario in her head. She tells him he's replaceable. He has a heart attack. Instead of recovering he dies and her last words to him were cruel and unloving. She gets to live with never getting a chance to make it right. Fact is that be it heart attack, car accident, rando disaster you never know if the last time you spoke will indeed be the last time. Do you want things to end there? Like that? Story 2: She's still protecting "the affair". Only grudgingly giving up details, refusing to reveal info about the AP. Shows who and what her priority is. Shows she is NOT willing to "do anything". Just say anything. No second chance because in truth she does not even want one. If she did her actions would be otherwise.

[@carleyglambert-secondchannel79]

OP 1: Lucky OP was able to pull out of the Heart Attack and was able to fix things with is wife. It would have been a different story. Would have been OP's wife posting that story, The title would have said "Am I The A-hole for telling my Late Husband He's Replaceable before he died from a Heart Attack?" She would have regretted it then So his wife is very lucky to still be with him.

[@stellamccoy5259]

I was married for 32 years before I became a widow. In those years, we had many arguments, and not once did I tell my husband that he was replacable. Even when he was in his addictions, I never told him this. That kind of talk is a relationship ender. The car seat story. This is the same reason you don't buy used motorcycle helmets.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 3: Why do some people think that people in their 30s are undesirable? Like I know that there are some creepy people but 30 is still relatively young.

[@borgerborgersen372]

Story 1: A very interesting and good outcome of a bad situation. Kudos to OP and his wife for how they resolved the issue and also handled the deeper issues. What the wife told OP, you're replaceable, during their fight was really hurtful and indicated their relationship was seemingly doomed. She probably lashed out of frustration because of underlying issues and knew how to hit him where it hurt the most. She got a serious wake-up call when he ended up in hospital with a heart attack. Fortunately she realized her huge mistakes and didn't try to blame him for saying what she did. She accepted the need for him to live alone for awhile to sort out his feelings. That was smart even though the instinctive action would be to resolve the issues immediately. When they finally spoke about their relationship situation and her actual hurtful words she understood how she had hurt him and apologized unconditionally. She didn't even object when he believed she might have found another man. She just said she hadn't, but could see why he thought so. She swallowed her pride and completely owned up to her mistake. She volunteered for counseling to figure out their underlying relationship issues. I think she saved their relationship by showing him she knew how she hurt him without blaming him at all. He also saved the relationship by abstaining from humiliating her by getting revenge. The only time he went a little too far he immediately apologized. They both understood you don't get a good end result if you insist on being right. OP did well when he told his wife he forgave her, but won't forget what she said. She knows she got a second chance, but needs to work on herself to prevent it from happening again. She does that by going to therapy. Good luck to both of them. I never saw that positive end result coming. It's really refreshing to hear stories that don't end in divorce or break-up. That shows you can recover from messing up if you act like and adult and own up to your part.

[@LilyLuluko]

If I never hear the term “trickle truthing” again I’ll be a much happier person,

[@sylviajones6745]

Yeah, maybe, but it's the truth. I've been trickle thruthed before. It's not a pleasant experience. Wasn't even with a man, a family member.

[@swiftninja91]

Story 1 - yeah, no. There's no walking a comment like that back. I don't think I could ever get over being told something like that.

[@cynthiaholland13]

Story 1: it's refreshing to read a story where couples actually go to counseling and work their problems out and reconciled. I think a lot of the people who give advice on Reddit have never been married or in long-lasting relationships because they are always so quick to tell people to give up.

[@babybookworm003]

Story 3 car seats are the one baby/toddler item you should never use second hand

[@Pintosonic]

When your wife tells you that you are replaceable…. She’s cheating or has someone lined up to cheat with.

[@justine8387]

Like you wouldn't say that unless you thought a replacement existed. Its just a unkind and wildly cruel thing to say.

[@Yahweh-dn9cv]

Absolutely

[@hothotheat3000]

I wouldn’t have gone back to someone who thinks I’m replaceable. If you think that little of me, then please replace me. I’m outta here.

[@Yahweh-dn9cv]

He’s a simp

[@rainbowunicorn709]

Story #1: She has a replacement in mind and was trying to intentionally trigger something through stressing out someone with chronic health problems. See the 1979 television movie Death by Natural Causes.

[@Peeges_]

Thanks for hanging out with us ❤

[@kd9749]

If my wife called me replaceable we’d be done.

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

Story 1: I’m actually really happy to see OP came back with that update. It’s rare we get to see a (what seems at this point to be) functional reconciliation through some complex relationship issues and deep hurt on Reddit. I will guess that a lot of the drama llamas in the update comments were upset he didn’t divorce immediately and burn her world down, but to them this is just a story and then they go about the rest of their day. They aren’t the ones that actually have to live his life. It sounds like they are still learning to how to communicate and support each other in a healthy way but they have a good therapist, clearer perspective after the separation, and the most important thing- they are both still in it and still trying together. Maybe they will make it, maybe not, but it sounds like OP is in an emotionally and physically healthier place which is awesome no matter how the marriage goes.

[@craigwapples4200]

Story 1: That’s one way to call her bluff 😂

[@crowdemon_archives]

Unintentionally but yes

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

"you're replaceable" I left jobs where managers spouted that crap in meetings. It's definitely a problem in any type of relationship

[@MsTemptation]

S2: It's better to get a divorce for both of you because neither of you need to feel like a prisoner within your marriage. She wouldn't have to turn over all of the power over to op in order to prove to her loyalty to him. Op would be questioning every thing she does while checking to see if she is worthy of his trust. A clean break is the only option to keep both of you from feeling like crap. What they should do is find out what broke down in their marriage that created the crack that op couldn't see but his wife noticed. Especially since op assumed that their marriage was solid. Marriages have to be worked on like everything else and people seem to forget that during the course of being married.

[@JAYBOXPOWER1987]

1st OP is a total simp. He shouldve divorced her. As soon as my wife said that to me, we....are....OVER!

[@cynthiaholland13]

I'm so happy to see that love prevailed!!❤

[@heartabduction]

Story 3: imagine going through someone else's trash in order to save money and put your child in danger, and then calling them selfish😂

[@bloodangelsheart]

Story 1: “you are replaceable” is also a response to financial abuse, but also something a narcissist could say. There is a lot of info left out of this story that makes me question the author. He even brings up he makes more than her, and talks about how much physical stuff he brings to the relationship. If my partner ever said that to me my first thought would be “is my love that replaceable?” Even though I am financially more stable, I probably wouldn’t even think of that unless that was what the argument was about. The fact he is also holding on to the one time she said something, rather her actions makes me think he’s playing the victim. Like even the story with that story, the bad thing the husband did was gang up against his wife, what he said just made her realise it.

[@kateemma22]

Never let someone tell you more than once that they don't want you (or that you can be replaced). He pays all the bills and does most of the housework? What does she bring again? Oh, yeah... horrible words. Run OP1, run.

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2: the commenters who thought OP was 'too old to find someone at 33' must be time travelers from hundreds of years ago lmao Plus I'd rather be alone the rest of my life than someone who's cheating.

[@ettinakitten5047]

I'm calling it that she's cheating on him and was thinking of leaving him for her AP in that moment, and then felt guilty about having an argument that stressed him out so much he almost died, so she's doing the honeymoon period thing to make up for it.

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 2: Cheating is cheating is cheating. Deal-breaker.

[@Johnnybanarna]

If a woman goes off-topic in an argument she knows she is wrong.

[@georgeascunce3142]

Says you’re replaceable Goes out without him When moved to the hospital didn’t answer lthe phone until she got home and you weren’t there. And the kicker is you’re putting more into this than she is She doesn’t love you , sadly probably never did . She sees you as a nice guy provider that she’ll marry to provide her lifestyle while she strays and rides the carousel . Divorce her and move on

[@DrownedInExile]

S1: Gigantic Nope! Wife didn't misspeak, in anger she revealed herself. I'm glad OP got away from her, showed her consequences for her words. But I hope he isn't making a mistake in taking her back.

[@LyllianaofMirrah]

If somebody is angry and make a slip and saying "you're replaceable" she actually mean it and you're indeed Replaceable and she does not love you.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Story 1: Husband needs to divorce her! She is responsible for his poor health!

[@Yahweh-dn9cv]

Ikr

[@charliesangel1]

You know something I've never been divorced but I met my now husband at 33 that was 7 years ago. And he was 28 he and I have been married for 7 years now 7 years so whoever told OP that he wouldn't find anyone at 33 is stupid and foolish!

[@jameslyons6655]

“You’re replaceable”. Awesome, good luck with that. Honestly, I know people say things in anger but you have to think it to say it. If I was told that I would gracefully bow out and let them go live their life.

[@Dr.RatioSnail]

If it's a minor crash you do not have to replace the seat but if it's a major crash replace immediately. According the highway safety or something like that.

[@EnDB]

An argument is a disagreement, not a shouting match where you scream the most hurtful things one can think of. She's an awful person for saying that. What she said means he's already being replaced, he just doesn't know it yet.

[@happilyevernever4289]

Hearing so many of these cheating cases make me unhopeful about the dating, marriage and commitment

[@valeriejames4675]

Infant and toddler car seats are like ballistic plates. After 1 use, they can only be used to collect dust!

[@jenniferrichards2122]

That is, frankly, an end to a relationship saying you are replaceable.

[@TanisAnnicchiarico]

My friend's uncle just got married for the first time at the age of 55. Don't let anybody tell you it's *ever* too late, love is not a uni assignment, it has no due by date. And if anybody needs to hear it, you're absolutely worth loving, and if you aren't blessed like I am to have found the one for you, then I pray that you'll find it soon b/c you deserve it

[@Zerif69]

My wife said something simular when we first got married. She told me she was going to leave me and move in with her parents over something so mundain. What I did was sit her down and told her if you tell me again you are going to leave me I will be doing the leaving. It worked and now 20 years later we are doing great. Set my boundaries at the start of our relationship that I do not bend.

[@Moffattt]

wha? story 1, "you are replacable" the dude cooks and cleans, earns more money than her. girl HE is not replacable, YOU are.

[@andersrkeness2721]

Story 1: It's Unacceptable. Marriage counseling first if it fails. Divorce would be next

[@dreadfuldee2432]

My husband told me that I was replaceable. "If you don't make me a baby I will find someone who will." I didn't forgive or forget. Still breaks my heart even though he claims he said it to manipulate me ...

[@kitarrah1422]

Are you still with him? I hope not.

[@ImaNerdANDaGeek]

admitting to being manipulative doesn't feel better.

[@CaitlinKelly-mo1ld]

I seriously hope you're divorced from the creep...

[@TH-hy9kr]

You should totally divorce that dude. What a loser. You deserve better than that.

[@nightstarstar1]

Did you divorce him? Clearly you should’ve….

[@spiralbuddy]

Story 2: I met my husband when he was 36, we got married when he was 40 and have 2 kids, married for 15 years now. Trust and communication is very important.

[@rokuth]

Child safety seats are like motorcycle helmets ; it's only good for one accident, then you replace it. Doesn't matter if it looks good, you never know what damage is lurking beneath that pristine outer core.

[@demonpaw11]

Story 1: we've all been there where we say something awful to hurt someone in the middle of an argument. We usually regret it later, but we can never take it back, the other person will never forget, and we can't escape the consequences of those words. That's why if im really mad at my husband I go to another room or do something else to cool off so I dont end up saying something I'll regret.

[@angeleyesgreen1586]

You can't come back from this level of distain and disregard. Ever. The wife does not love him anymore. She's just afraid her maid and meal-ticket will be gone.

[@squidmom3162]

That’s a pretty weird take, considering that you’re assuming that based off a single comment she made in an argument, only to rush to the hospital, crying and holding his hand, and doing everything in her power to help him heal What she said was cruel. I’m not dismissing that. But to assume based off a single comment in their long relationship that she doesn’t actually care about him and only cares about what he provides, especially when he’s stated that it’s not as if she doesn’t also work and do chores, seems kind of odd. Not to mention the way she acted after the fact. Taking the separation hard, not getting angry when he accused her of cheating, and offering to let him check, taking the initiative to see a therapist to work out her own issues, having no issues going to couples therapy. Plus taking up more of the housework once they moved back in together, continuing her own therapy and still going to counseling. Seems pretty intense if she’s just worried about a meal ticket, and odd that she’d take up more work than him if she just wanted a maid.

[@Evolution1101]

The wife was 100% out getting sh!t-faced and f***ed by some random she picked up at the club (Or more likely, the guy she plans on replacing him with.) He is delusional if he believes otherwise. Why else would she ignore all those phone calls? “I was angry with you.” just doesn’t cut it. She not only ignored his phone calls but multiple calls from the hospital because she was busy getting her back blown out after telling him he’s replaceable. The excessive guilt afterwards is guilt from her cheating not from triggering his heart attack. OP is a fool.

[@Bleg94]

@@squidmom3162 there is no coming back after such a comment, even if said in anger during an argument

[@miet5224]

2nd story: This is exactly why i will never buy a used car seat! I won’t even sell ours, i might pass them to family - as there needs to be a significant level of trust in the transaction… ❤

[@brycekline982]

Story 1, Wife truly believed she caused the heart attack. She's only a part of it but, at least they're working on it