My X is facing prison time | Update

[@JessicaKent]

Silence gives abusive people power. I will share whatever I choose to when and if I’m ready. I have documented everything for over 18 months and I haven’t said a single thing that I can’t prove. Keeping a detailed account of what has happened has helped me more than I can ever put into words. My memory is horrible and bc I forget certain details like dates or w/e he was able to better gaslight and manipulate me. Emotional abuse affects your memory .. and it literally causes brain damage. Side note if you feel like you have to record everything.. that’s usually your sign that you’re in a toxic or narcissistic relationship. I know a lot of you want to hear his side and that’s on him. He has internet access. Side note he and I filmed 2 videos together back in march. This happened about 2 weeks b4 he assaulted me again on 3/14. Watching them sent chills down my spin and made me even more aware of his lack of remorse and empathy. I won’t protect him by staying silent. If you don’t understand this kind of abuse please don’t comment. If you’re going through this please find as much support as possible. Don’t explain yourself to your abuser. Don’t defend yourself to your abuser. Don’t engage in conversation that feel like a never ending circle of confusion. Don’t take it personally. ❤️ *side note the woman talking about the case being unfounded was from DCFS. They investigated for over 2 months for the second time. My kids are safe with me and very well taken care of*

[@adria89]

I wish you all the best. It takes time, but life will become so much better for you and your girls. ❤

[@nessakerri8416]

You are one BRAVE a$$ woman! Stay strong, stay you! 🙏💞

[@jazmineschouler599]

we will support & love you no matter what Jess. I’ve dealt with this with my two ex husbands, & it really sucks, especially since i have a baby with my most recent one. You’ve helped me throughout my darkest times, reaching my sobriety to get to where i am now. So we will all support you now! ❤️❤️❤️

[@simpinainteasyRHEC]

You're a fkn warrior girl, stay 💪strong!

[@danysanerd2383]

❤❤❤❤ & That's so true. If someone hasn't personally experienced narcissistic abuse, then they shouldn't comment. I get so sick of people who don't care to dig any deeper and seem to just take the side of the abuser. Makes me think that if they see no problems with the narc's actions, then they are probably just as bad, if not worse!!

[@jessicaelecta]

You sharing this has helped me get out of a 5 year toxic relationship. Thank you thank you thank you

[@bulbasaurevolved]

I hope you’re doing good ❤

[@melinda8036]

Wishing you all the best.

[@rando9820]

me too ❤

[@charmainedethierry4166]

Proud of you

[@WhatTheFudge212]

How did you do it? I’m out too, but I wanna go back every second of the day…😢

[@savannahcarlon7033]

HE is the one making HIMSELF look bad. I think it's important for anyone who feels comfortable to share what they've been through. It helps people recognize early warning signs and reminds them they aren't crazy once they question the relationship. These videos could save a lot of people, Jess.

[@xCLIPxGODx]

No she shouldn't have the kids.

[@jessicaengel3151]

​@@xCLIPxGODx please explain why she shouldn't have the kids and who you think should have the kids

[@abisummers6789]

​@lolamartinez3424 I searched her name and didn't find anything that linked her to any new offenses. if it's so easy to find this 'info' then please provide sources/links, thanks

[@sherribell4032]

​@lola martinez you don't believe that people can change?? Some of us definitely have a past. I do but I am no longer that person! God preaches Love and Forgiveness.... You should try it!❤ Be Blessed 🙌

[@juliemclain5841]

If we could only convince the rest of the world of this truth, that would be amazing! They seem to get to lie and control the narrative. Speaking of Narcissists.

[@Arting_Through_Life]

I grew up in the position of your daughters. Does not matter if you shelter them or not, does not matter if you speak about your story online or not, they know what is going! You are doing amazing and I wish my mother had done half of what you are! ♥

[@josielorraine8466]

1000%…I’ve been sober 12 years-my kids spermie donor can’t stay sober more than a few days. Went 2.5 years we RARELY saw him…I have full custody-no legal obligation to even do visits. She’s 8-kid picks up on things I DONT even see, and I’m pretty dang good…she asks questions because of what she has seen when we show up at grandmas..I am not lying to her. She knows if I lie..she picks every little thing apart. So yes, kids are SOOO smart and intuitive.

[@Cdthoughtsandthings]

I think the “it’s my story to tell” is so important. Anyone with the most basic understanding of domestic abuse knows that silence is key. Isolation, guilt, blackmail, shame, bribery, threats… it doesn’t make how they get your silence, but it’s required to continue the abuse. Now we have this societal pressure suggesting you’re betraying his privacy by stating what factually happened. His ownership of the story is no greater than yours & while it doesn’t need to be a current concern or pressure, telling your story is helping others. Hiding his story isn’t doing good for anyone. Yes, I know people do lie, I’m watching a male friend go through a divorce with a woman making literally impossible accusations. But, it’s my gut feeling that Jessica is telling the truth. I know supporting evidence may be one sided but I can only go by my own experience & instinct, and that says she’s trying to be honest and unbiased. I had a friend who had been around less & less. She showed up at a bbq with her boyfriend of a few months & a few bruises. It wasn’t her first abusive relationship. I believe in 2nd chances, but not in the secrecy that allows mistreatment to move from an incident to a pattern to daily life. I just wanted to see if removing that bubble of silence would change things, if he could still lose control if he had to look his own mother in the eyes the next day to tell her what he’d done. I’ve been through abuse & I’ve seen it too many times. I decided to try something new. I pulled the guy aside & told him I knew, but I was as non confrontational as possible. I acted sympathetic. I felt sympathetic. He did admit to “losing it”, and swore it would never happen again. He was suddenly apologizing like I was his victim, which was rattling since I HAVE accepted apologies I shouldn’t in the past. I talked with him about his childhood, what masculinity means (in his definition, never hitting a woman was important even though he’d grown up witnessing abuse). We talked about therapy & the odds of it never happening again. In just that 30-40 minute talk he’d gone from “a one time thing” to it being close to weekly. I didn’t really have a plan but I told him I’d support him & their relationship, if he just came out. No hiding it. I said he could make a public apology there & if it happened again he should be accountable. Tell his mom, his friend & coworkers as openly as he’d say “we got in a fight” he needed to be willing to face his own actions & admit what he was doing without hiding her away. If he leaves a bruise, she’s as free to post that image & story on social media as she would be flowers he brought her. This is not advice & even as I said it I was thinking about all the ways it could backfire. I just figured it would be good to see someone who really wanted to change take accountability, and I thought ending the secret would end the abuse. I don’t know that abuse can survive social transparency & interpersonal honesty. On some level he agreed with me & thought if he was a “real man” he’d be able to tell the truth. I felt bad for him. He was ashamed of himself. A couple weeks later they had a big blow up. He punched a wall, but didn’t touch her, he just left. The next day he dumped her. She was stunned. I suspect he wanted to do the things we’d talked about but couldn’t bring himself to actually let people know that aspect of himself. He SHOULD be ashamed of it. That’s kind of the point in what I had proposed. I didn’t want to call police or get someone to rough him up, I wanted him to face what he was doing. I guess he couldn’t. I did recommend therapy, I hope he got some, but I never saw him again. People make mistakes, we lose our tempers, & it can go too far (especially if drugs or alcohol are involved). If it becomes a secret, it’s shackling both people. There’s now a wall between the couple & the rest of the world. And if the abuser happens to be ok with what they are doing, a sadistic or narcissist, then it’s permission. If you wouldn’t want others to know you did something, don’t do it. If you are abused by a partner, don’t let them silence you. Especially if you’re not ready to leave. Don’t cover, don’t excuse, don’t lie. Gas station clerk asks what happened to your eye? “My boyfriend did it. He can’t regulate his emotions.”. If he/she knows you’re not complicit in your own mistreatment, odds are they will stop the behavior or leave you. It might hurt, but if you can get an abuser to dump you it’s a lot safer than breaking it off with them. No one likes rejection & these are people who don’t have the tools to control their emotions. Leaving is always the most dangerous part. Anyway, I love the transparency. I assume he’s watching & it may bring some insight. His family & friends who are outwardly siding with him might also be taking it in, processing things they probably know but don’t want to believe. When I was raped at 16 by a 24 year old with an overlapping friend circle, most people didn’t believe me. A few didn’t want to “take sides”. I felt very alone. The first (only) person to flat out say “I believe you” was a woman I’d never met before, in a parking lot. It felt so validating. I later learned she was his new girlfriend & realized why she believed me. His friends just could not see that side of him. I’m grateful she came out & talked to me. She must have been torn. She might have been looking for help but I was too young & dealing with my stuff to realize that until years later. Every rapist, abuser, murderer & pedophile has loved ones. None of us want to believe our loved ones are capable of those kinds of things. We can’t all be right. It’s really important, though difficult & painful, that when an accusation is made we step back, out of our own bubbles & view of this wonderful man/woman being accused, and look at the evidence. Try to hear the victim as you would a complete stranger talking about a stranger. Never just assume it’s a lie because your person wouldn’t do that. You only know what they want you to know. How much easier would this be on Jessica if his family detached emotionally, read the police reports & chose to support HER? Secrecy is the danger. Please, please do what you can to not get trapped by it.

[@Hibbity_Hobbity]

As a trauma therapist, it is completely valid to share your story. You have a platform that can help a lot of people. Sometimes it can help you process and heal by sharing these things. How you handle your life and your trauma is your business and we live in a world where this kind of information doesn’t need to just be swept under the rug which has basically been how families have handled crises like this for decades. You are doing what you need for you and your babies. I’m just so sorry you are even needing to be in this situation in the first place. You keep doing what you need. Just make sure what you share doesn’t impact your court cases. Your true ride or die crew is here for you.

[@willowbrooks]

The true Rider dies don't seem to have a problem with the people she has hanging around her children, WHY?!?

[@lauracherebullock7288]

So, you think this is healthy for her kids? To see this , one day,? Hmm, Been talking to my " experts " they don't believe this whole platform is healthy for the kids.

[@MsTinkerbelle87]

God help your poor patients…

[@conservativetears]

​@@lauracherebullock7288Why the f*ck are you letting your kids watch videos about prison laura?

[@kkittycatkat1990]

You still think that? Terrible therapist. Awful.

[@chroniclesofashlee951]

"I didn't tell anyone what I was going through because I didn't want him to look bad" - absolutely feel that so deeply

[@lifeofreilly9943]

Something I was thinking is I wonder if we unknowingly protect a Narcissist because we are ashamed that others will judge us by how long we endured the abuse. That or their mask fell off so suddenly that our minds cannot process quickly that someone who we thought we could take the world on with and love so deeply could hurt us so much without explanation. It's truly sad

[@Kimieaaboe]

Me too ❤

[@ScottieBibble]

Same - and he still does hurtful and shady things

[@caseyw.6550]

​@@boredonyoutube8289 She doesn't owe YOU solid evidence. Either believe her or leave. You don't have to be here.

[@DinDooIt]

@@caseyw.6550 If nobody calls out the bs then you are just in an echo chamber of "believe all woman" and we all know how that turns out.

[@raxacoricofalapatorian5256]

Honestly, as someone who has dealt with narcissistic abuse, I just hope you and your girls are safe.

[@TheSleepingonit]

You met my father?

[@kavitadeva]

If he is allowed to be with the kids for any visitation, it's way too dangerous.

[@Mehlia626]

Me too. Im concerned 😟

[@debbieshaw3438]

If you don't want people to know...don't do it! Exactly. I can imagine how hard it must be to share EVERYTHING but know the facts helps drive it home to others in abusive relationships. Writing is on the wall. You are doing the right thing momma bear.

[@orestes1984]

Narcissists never change their spots.

[@shirlynb148]

Honey as a retired Sexual Abuse Counselor I can attest to the fact humans are attracted to what they know. Breaking the cycle is hard, venturing outside of what is familiar, known and comfortable can be frightening. Be strong as what you do now will impact your children. Lead by example & teach them you mean more then him, your children mean more then him!

[@ephemeral_cryptid]

She doesn't care about her children. She brings convicted child abusers around them

[@dutchik5107]

​@@Brooke00755 people do go back to what they know. If you think that something is normal. You won't see the red flags.

[@kdaze10]

​@@Brooke00755 it's very apparent that YOU aren't smart....not sure about the others.

[@tianwong7168]

"We accept the love we think we deserve." Perks of being a Wallflower.

[@ltv..123]

Very well said.

[@LydiaTaylorMusic]

To a lot of us it means a Lot to see you continue to share your story. A handful of people still doubt my abuse story to this day but that doesn't make it less important to share.

[@pinupdoll97]

Nothing hurt me more than not being believed. It broke my heart that some people I loved think I would make such an awful experience up. I’m sorry you dealt with the s as me.❤

[@sg-cg6lr]

It's not "negative" if it's your reality. Anyone who thinks a victim is being "negative" as they navigate their realities, is part of the issue.

[@jamiebanys2816]

I've watched and I think of her videos as educationally informative of her reality to help people. Someone might have a similar situation and might not think rationally.

[@hashtagmate]

Fr like sorry for souring your mood with my "negative" story it was pretty fcking souring to live through as well 😅

[@mjaymes94]

THIIIIIS

[@trilikvlt]

My family calling me an energy vampire for spewing out shit that’s happened over the past month (because loneliness, I needed a kind fucking ear)👌 And oh the gaslighting…. Like oh bitch this situation is draining MY energy, they tell me to be responsible for my feelings, but damn it, family should support each other. And if you need to be responsible, then it’s your fault for getting mad at me sharing !

[@cary9479]

​@@trilikvlt Even if it would be the case, it isn't bad to sometimes be an energy vampire.

[@charlenemarie5808]

The people who haven’t been in an abusive relationship will NEVER understand. They’ll question every choice you made and condemn your actions. Keep doing what’s best for yourself, even if that’s sharing your story online & ignore everyone else.

[@LaPlaztique]

Exactly! It’s crazy that people will put down people for talking about their narcissistic abuse by saying people don’t want to hear your dirty laundry. And I feel that’s so ass backward. It isn’t always vindictive, it’s more so therapeutic instead.

[@elizabethgregory]

I was in one for years!! And yes a lot of us do understand...that's the thing.

[@willowbrooks]

Hello I've been in plenty of abusive relationships, your girl Jessica ain't no saint.

[@kitsu13]

I'll add that "an abusive relationship" isn't strictly a romantic relationship but could be any kind of relationship, including friendship or a parent-child relationship. Anyone who's experienced abuse, especially domestic abuse, should understand.

[@cary9479]

I would not say they would never understand, but sadly many who didn't experienced abuse, doesn't understand how it would be.

[@abbigailburkes4408]

So I’ve seen some stuff on the internet about supposed wrongs you’ve done regarding you relapsing and your new relationship but regardless if any of that is even true I honestly and truly feel for you. This is a scary situation and you and your girls are in my thoughts. You sound like you are really doing your due diligence in protecting yourself and documenting things. Keep it up! Better days are ahead just keep up the good work you are doing for you and your girls.

[@MaineCoonMama18]

"If you don't want people to know you do bad shit, don't do bad shit." Exactly! He has no one to blame but himself. So glad you left and are keeping yourself & your girls as safe as you can!

[@ephemeral_cryptid]

She isn't keeping her girls safe. She's bringing them around convicted child abusers

[@AliceEvelyn93]

❤

[@mariacardenas2501]

This abusive men tend to make you feel guilty as a form of manipulation. They make you feel guilty for verbalize their abuse and play with your mind to the point that make you doubt of your own judgment and you start feeling sorry for them, yes to that point their full blown manipulation gets.

[@WhateverLibra]

Literally 😂 it really is that simple

[@modernvivienleigh]

You do realize she is at just as much fault right? She had to take down a video because she keeps releasing information she legally can't release & is leaving out the documents that make her look bad right?

[@jenmck23]

Hugs to you and your kids. Haven't watched it yet but I'm sure you're feeling torn about this. Thanks for your honesty. SA/DV survivor here myself.

[@savvylovexx]

When a narcissist’s mask falls you will never seen them the same way ever again. I am so unbelievably proud of you for getting out. You’re so strong. It’s the love bombing and bread crumbs that we fall for. Stay strong mama! You got this

[@lifeofreilly9943]

Yup and the healing is so confusing because you've been abused and it's silent. Total smear campaign. Always comes after being love-bombed. First thing to understand. You will NEVER change him. He's Narcissistic. It's what he does and it hurts more than anything.

[@darcymoon2109]

Yup. You can not unsee it expresses it perfectly.

[@Theothersideofwho]

This! ❤

[@savannahcowgirl001]

Amen

[@nybsbfan18]

Be strong. I believe u.

[@mallori6610]

You’d think we would be past the whole “protect the abuser” thing! Women and even men have been forced to do this for soooooo long!! You don’t have to silence your journey and what you went through just to make sure people who only know him from a few online videos don’t see the truth about him! I get that he’s in the throes of addiction but that’s not an excuse for his abuse and it’s certainly not a reason for you to stay silent!!! If he truly cared for his family he would just disappear in his addiction and come back only when he is sober. Addiction doesn’t make abusers and horrible people!

[@Ashley-wu7hy]

It's because u don't want them to retaliate esp when u have kids. Most family's the father n mother get 50/50 custody n then u panic and stress..don't sleep the whole time the abuser has the kids.

[@JessicaKent]

It’s also bc during relationships like this we don’t want to accept that the person we love isn’t real. Its not easy by any stretch of the imagination

[@Bunnie333]

​@@JessicaKent honestly, I'll tell you what I'd tell my own sister. just do what you think is right bc you know your situation better than anybody. and even if u make a mistake, we're still gonna be here to support you and your decisions. Not everyone is going to agree with you, and some people may just never understand why your doing what your doing and thats ok. As long as you know in your heart that your doing your best, that's all that matters. Keep doing what your doing. I have no doubt that your going to get thru this and come out stronger. 😊 your an inspiration to so much of us struggling and I'll continue to support you no matter what. Stay strong love ❤

[@Jaya-zn7vr]

I'm afraid drugs do change people! Abusers often follow a similar pattern. When I went into a refuge and told my story I was shookth that everyone nodded their heads and told the same stories. All that matters atm is the safety of Jess and her babies and doing whatever she must to ensure this happens...

[@CharleysAquaticNook]

@@LostFilre You mean a WOMAN not “women.” One woman is a woman. Plural women is women. Get it?

[@SpottableBus]

It's smart that you're so organized and prepared about things (like recording that you entered with a key, having receipts for all your things that you took out, etc). All the back and forth he's doing would be a thousand times worse if you didn't anticipate he was gonna pull such crap. Also I really love that you don't let anyone take away ownership of your experiences, just because they involve another person.

[@ephemeral_cryptid]

Ah, yes, it's very smart that she's bringing convicted child abusers around her kids too. Truly a genius move 😍

[@jasminesaxvik7300]

@@ephemeral_cryptid And what is your proof of this? Do you know her or her kids personally?

[@daisysummer514]

@@ephemeral_cryptid shut it

[@JaimeAnderson-rz2iq]

@@ephemeral_cryptid😊 Thanks p

[@AutumnsYouTubeAcct]

Even if you don’t explicitly say it in your videos, your POV is always well thought out and pull from your experience and education. Please keep talking. I went silent and lost my entire career. I spent years accommodating to people’s questions whether than healing. Thank you for showing up for yourself and your girls 💗

[@melissacoviello2886]

Silence is how the abuse continues. I remember being so afraid to talk about his relapse and his abuse because I thought it would make it harder for him to get sober again and in reality it just put my sobriety at risk. I’m so lucky I didn’t have relapse over it all. He got better for a while and then unfortunately decades later he went back to his old patterns and he didn’t make it to 50. My husband and I were just talking today about how we both miss him (yes it’s strange, but we’ve never been normal). Sending all the prayers for all of you.

[@angelajohnston7332]

How do you know this and where did you find that info? Surely you couldn’t make all that up

[@mentallyunstablellama3686]

​@@Rosie-372how do you know?

[@donnybrasco1977]

@@angelajohnston7332 it’s apparently obvious that she doesn’t know much!! People who blurt out accusations about others without facts. Never have a clue about what they are talking about!!people who love negative attention. Are usually hungry for attention!

[@adamburdt8794]

The fella is grasping at every last straw that ties him to you, and trying to squeeze every shred of control from it. It is heartbreaking Jess. Stay strong. We know you are!

[@wolfpecker5710]

@@Halfstep2024💯

[@Kay-nr9us]

As a victim of narcissistic abuse, there’s a difference between sharing a story to help and influence somebody, and then telling a story for views. Now, I do not know Jessica can’t, and I’ve only watched a few of her videos, however, as a survivor of narcissistic abuse, everything that she’s doing is exactly what you’re not supposed to do when dealing with a narcissist. I understand standing up for yourself and fighting for what you believe in, but to go through the lengths she has gone through just doesn’t seem right. She said that she is going to see a therapist and I’m pretty sure if her ex is as narcissistic as she claims, and he has done all of this crazy off-the-wall stuff to her, that her therapist would’ve advised her to go gray rock, which is zero contact at all. That does not mean that you take him to court for damages or you file for child support. I’m not saying she’s wrong, but I’m saying those are the things that a narcissist will use to fight with you and if you’re truly wanting to be done that’s just not the route to go, she has such a big platform and I don’t feel like she’s using it properly. Not once have I heard her advocate how to get away from a narcissist steps to take, things to do, resources to reach out to, etc.

[@Kay-nr9us]

@@Halfstep2024 it’s funny I just read your comments about this whole ordeal. I don’t know who Jessica Kent is. She just recently popped up on my for you page and I think it’s because I follow Christina Randall, but I watched probably like two of her videos and something doesn’t sit right with me, I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse and when I tell you some of the stuff that she is saying I’ve been through and by the time it was all said and done I just wanted that man gone and I did not call him, text him, see him, file for damages, file for child support. Nothing the most I did was fall for an order of protection, and I did that via zoom. That’s the last court appearance I made. I feel like she is doing the absolute worst thing possible by not just documenting what’s going on, but sharing it with the whole world and kind of antagonizing the situation. In none of her videos, does she recommend specialists, to do list, signs to see, ways to get out, support networks, just anything that would be helpful for a narcissist victim, if that makes sense.

[@ryanwilkinson571]

Yea this is the correct assessment of what’s going on!!!!

[@kaleidoscopevision4959]

She's the one who sent a 6'4 400 lb man to his house at 1am to get a reaction The whole reason he was arrested

[@jjspell]

Sending lots of 💜💜💜. I just wanted to say that as an abuse survivor and child of a very turbulent and DV household; no one gets to tell you what you can or cannot share. As long as it’s true, it’s your right to communicate what happened to you. I think I’ve shared this quote before; but I’ll share it again just in case it helps. “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” - Anne Lamont

[@AmberLovesMystery]

That last part, that hit a chord. Wow Thank you so much for this quote ❤ Also, I’m so sorry Jess 😞🩷

[@ZoeF.O]

​@@AmberLovesMystery Jess just said, this second: If you don't want people to talk bad about you, stop doing stupid shit. You're degrading yourself. Which has that exact meaning. 🎉

[@MagistraY]

‘No one knew what was going on…’ We get blamed for not telling, accused of lying, when the real lie was days, months, years of abuse, hidden to protect him & my counter-productive pride. I hear ya, Jessica, and I hear me coming out of your mouth. I’m old now, with a a man for 22 years who helped me save myself. They don’t bleed anymore, but the scars never go away. The difference is I wear them with the pride that comes from survival. I won.

[@juliemclain5841]

​@@You.Tube.Sucks. WTF

[@liahamilton8931]

Ong and I regret lying for him. Finally left him for good and wish I hadn’t told the cops he didn’t touch me bc how’s that gonna look in court when they go over the reports.

[@laurac86]

@@liahamilton8931 it’s very common to cover for an abuser especially when it could be more dangerous to speak out and the courts know that

[@lilirobin7136]

I had a narcissistic mother. I am 60 years old and I was never allowed to talk about my abusive childhood. Each time I tried my mother would accuse me of "rubbing her nose in her mistakes". At age 50 I got married for the first time and she disowned me telling me I was trying to go above her and children ( I was 50!!!) should never try to go above their parent. She had been married and divorced 4 times and always picked men who would abuse us. I am finally free!! She told all our family friends that I disowned her! I try to tell them the truth but they believe her.

[@jaggirl]

My mother is the same. She has done no wrong, in her eyes, ever. She plays the forgetful old lady card. When it suit's her. She can't remember doing anything wrong ever. But can remember everything small thing I've ever done wrong. Pffft My young toddler grandbabies, wont go near her. My dog hates her..🤔 Thankfully my children grew up with her around, being a crappy grandma and a crappy mother to me. The other adult grandchildren have experienced her too. She can't run and hide now. My dad took his life last year. Because of my mum. Now she's a lonely lady. Trying to get back into our lives. Her false innocence facade, is not attractive at all. She won't acknowledge doing anything wrong and doesn't apologise. Blow her..

[@vanessab2392]

It's usually what happens. When you have the courage to go no contact with your toxic mother, then it usually ends in no contact with the whole family. Hope you're doing well.

[@lilirobin7136]

@@vanessab2392 I have a great circle of friends and family through my late husband. It's strange when Mother's Day rolls around. I have rebranded it as "Abused Daughter Day" and nurture myself.

[@jessa8267]

My mother is the same. All I can say is that provide my children with a childhood they can look back on with good memories they don't have to recover from. I want my children to do better then me. I want more than anything for them to be happy.

[@zoedawn7032]

Been out of an abusive situation for years and I still get anxiety about wanting to go out to an event by myself or if I spend too long at the grocery store. Even though there is no one that is going to be mad at me when I get home. Abuse really sticks with you. I hope you and everyone else that has suffered finds healing. Hope things wrap up quickly and in a nice bow for you.

[@mikeskidmore6754]

Never feel Guilty for telling the Truth ..

[@sweetluvgurl]

Except when it’s putting you and your kids in more potential danger.

[@a.walters123]

@@sweetluvgurl I agree. There’s a line between speaking up about abuse, and broadcasting it to the world. I’m not sure how I feel about this video. If someone is being abused, it shouldn’t be kept private, friends and family should know. Informing strangers all over the world is different and it can put a child and mom at more risk because it unnecessarily inflames the situation and triggers the abuser to at times even kill.

[@lindseycampbell4271]

​@@a.walters123 no matter what telling the truth will always make you feel lighter as a human because you're not hiding stuff anymore when you're hiding stuff you feel like a fraud

[@tyreseforren6721]

@@paulafamularo5001 what are you thinking about 🤔???

[@lindakim3051]

I’m only 7 minutes in and this is SO relatable; my ex was also emotionally abusive and I also found myself making excuses for him. It gets confusing, being in a relationship with someone who twists reality like that. Thanks for sharing.

[@skibunny1631]

A narcissist twisting your reality is as natural as breathing for someone else.

[@Kenny-nu3co]

I think this is so important because sometimes we forget that progress isn’t linear, just because you came from hell and back doesn’t mean there is no chance things could go bad again, it’s not always happily ever after ❤️ stay strong Jess been watching you since 2018 and excited to see where life takes you

[@kme823]

I am sorry Jessica for both of you. You both seemed so happy, and being a family. I know this is hard on you and the girls. KZbin can be brutal, just know you have people who really know you. We are still here. I will never forget you. I was going through a lot emotionally, and you were always there to support me. If people really knew you they would know that you are not a bad person. Thank you for personally being there for me.

[@ephemeral_cryptid]

If she wasn't a bad person, she wouldn't be bringing convicted child abusers around her kids

[@southphillylilly]

I don't think people say she's a bad person. I think people say that she's a liar. At the very least, she could explain why there are so many discrepancies in the amount of prison time that she says she did. In that video with all of the men and their related crimes and prison time, she says five years. She also says two years in other spaces. She also says 2 1/2 years. But it looks like she did a year and a half which, is more than enough time to make you credible. But why are you lying to say five years because it makes you look like more of a hard ass. ??? it doesn't it makes you look like a liar

[@galilaya42]

@@southphillylilly I don't know for sure because I haven't seen all her videos but I'm pretty sure she's got time more than once. Maybe she's adding up different times?

[@carolynt2513]

It's so powerful that women are speaking out more and more about all these kinds of abuse. Yes it IS your story and I applaud you, Jessica. ♥

[@ProvingSpooky]

“He can not break me and put me back together. It does not work that way” ooof that’s something I needed to hear. I’m at my getting angry stage but haven’t left

[@kaylynn1085]

Incredibly poignant statement.

[@hippychick420]

If you're this self aware girl run.

[@Kimieaaboe]

Please make sure, that you are safe ❤ The time when a person leaves a bad relationship is the most dangerous time. ❤

[@LivvyBooks]

Please leave your abusive relationship!!

[@mickefy]

Set up a confidential, safe place to go *when* you leave as abusers become so dangerous when they know they’re losing you. If you have children, keep them by your side 100% of the time. Stay strong. 🫂

[@franniebear777]

Good job on getting your girls out of this situation as much as you could in the moment. Kids are resilient… they will be okay. You will be okay. ❤

[@mrs_maverick1121]

Jess, you have soooo many people behind you!!! You're doing the 10000% right thing protecting your beautiful girls! STAY SAFE!!!

[@kelseyhaag6427]

Girl!! You have 1million subscribers for a reason! You are going to save some lives with these videos!! This is YOUR story and you tell it what ever way feels right! I just watched the movie “Enough” the other day and I couldn’t help but think of it when you were talking! Sending you all the love girl!! You will get through this!!

[@dpofahl]

Stay strong, Jess! As a DV survivor, it’s easy to cling to the good memories because our brains have a tendency to try to shut the bad stuff out in relationships. It gets easier, I promise!! In some ways, I think talking about it online is helpful because it gives you some accountability in the moments of grief and loneliness. I wish I could give you a giant hug and let you know you’re not alone in this roller coaster!! 💜

[@Dman425]

She doesn’t want accountability. What woman takes accountability for anything? She wants validation

[@dpofahl]

@@Dman425 that’s a really shitty response. DV survivors often have more success leaving when they finally open up to people about what was happening behind closed doors. There’s some accountability because people will be more willing to ask questions if the victim decides to go back to the abuser. Jess has taken accountability for a lot of the things she’s done. I don’t see Jess as someone who avoids accountability. It’s also disgusting that you paint women with a broad brush when saying “what woman takes accountability?” A person’s gender doesn’t have any influence in whether they take accountability for shitty things they’ve done. I’ve seen my fair share of men who don’t take accountability but I’m not going around saying that all men refuse to take accountability.

[@Dman425]

@@dpofahl cry me a river. It seems like Jessica has been through this for years now. And, with my experience, women never think they are part of the problem, EVER! I would like one of these women just to admit that they are addicted to bad boys who treat them like shit! Just once! Then, maybe after they take accountability for that, then, they can start to heal.

[@dpofahl]

@@Dman425 I was! I was abused as a child and thought it was normal. Got into an abusive relationship and it took years to realize it wasn’t healthy.

[@Dman425]

@@dpofahl but, you don’t continue to make videos of awful you were treated, every few months for years, right?

[@katebriggs8380]

Hang in there mama! I was married to the same kinda asshole for 15 years! I left in 2006! Took my 3 kids and flew away when he went to work!! The life we started over in was so strange yet freeing!! Enjoy your babies! Do not waste a moment on those who have not walked in your shoes!! Unfortunately he is still apart of YOUR story! If he doesn’t want you telling people about the way he behaves then he needs to remove himself from it! Hang in there! It’s been 17 years since my freedom day! I don’t think about my ex at all! Once he lost control of us he got bored and removed himself from all of our lives unfortunately for my kids. His loss! You got this lady! Stay strong! Love from the Pacific Northwest ✊🏻❤️

[@mickefy]

Congratulations on your freedom. It is EVERYTHING! ❤

[@katebriggs8380]

@@mickefy it certainly felt like a rebirth! I got married at 19. I was 34 when we divorced! I was never “aloud” to have a job for a reason. To keep me dependent on him! I’m so thankful that Jess can easily support herself and her babies! I stayed way to long because I was to afraid to try and support myself and my kids. It was worth all the struggle in the end!!

[@DannoM_]

Damn, I'm so sorry to hear this is getting worse. It's sad to see him throwing his life away and doing this to you and the kids. Especially since Riley is the only one that's his but I'm sure it's still affecting Micah. It's good you are educated on the law and court system enough to handle the steps needed to protect yourself and the girls. He's spiraling and that's why you still care in a way because it's hard to watch that take place. Stay safe.

[@alyssak3714]

He adopted Micah, and she sees him as her dad. This situation is so sad 😭

[@tuffsmurfen96]

@@alyssak3714 No, he never adopted her, he and Jessica would have had to get married first.

[@jessicaw6930]

​@@alyssak3714 thankfully it never happened. It was supposed to but it was put off and I am glad now it was

[@PianoDisneygal10]

@@tuffsmurfen96doesn’t really matter on an emotional level if he adopted her or not. That’s the only dad she has ever known.

[@franniebear777]

Also getting out of a relationship with a narcissist. It’s hard. I know behind the scenes it’s probably worse than what you can even put into words. Sending love to you and the girls ❤

[@angelapruitt5091]

😊😊

[@angelapruitt5091]

😊

[@hannahthufvesson]

​@@paulafamularo5001 Do you mind if I ask you what you're basing this on?

[@h.f6364]

​@@hannahthufvesson the voices in her walls, probably

[@Jayblue02]

I feel you. For anyone trying to move on from a relationship right now.. including a toxic one where you were gaslit, blamed and often confused, and didn’t even realise until afterwards. Please realise that wasn’t your weight to carry. You didn’t deserve it and you don’t ever have to tolerate your boundaries being crossed again. I just got past a whole year of this uncomfortable, painful feeling of wanting to go back to someone who was hurting me. Trust me, it gets better. Good things are coming, you just need to make the space in your life and heart and choose to fully let go 💛 This can be SO difficult. I know.. however I’ve found one of the most effective ways to stop yourself drifting back is to redirect your energy and attention to yourself. Ask yourself.. What’s best for me? How can I choose abundance over scarcity? Where can I make new connections in my life? These will help me leave behind the old ones. New people, places, passions, skills, ways of loving myself. When you get stuck wondering what theyre doing just think.. that attention could be put into the next phase of my life. Let yourself grieve the loss of them and what you had together, but choose yourself now. You’ll be surprised how much easier it gets one day at a time when you become your own energy source rather than feeding off of the fragments of them. As much as your heart wants to go back, if it was meant to be with them life wouldn’t feel like shit. You got this 💛

[@hammycheeks]

Congrats on 1 mil girl, I’m so glad to see that you and your girls are safe and that you’re doing better. Much love 🥰

[@marsharowaihy6725]

Being in a trauma bonded relationship is a roller coasters & you have the right to say your side. I’m in the middle of this as well it’s so hard with kids. Jess praying for you

[@crazydaisyog3984]

Jess I feel horrible for you and the kids. R is a narcissist & you have suffered narcissistic abuse. Now you're experiencing the stalking and smear campaign for breaking free with the kids. The obsession & cruelty is above and beyond anything you could have imagined. I'm glad you're getting help. Only someone that's been thru, narcissistic abuse can truly understand the depth of the insanity. You and the girls are in my Prayers. 🙏❣️

[@RaeAnne232]

Never go to a house to get your stuff without a policeman with you. Also, don't make decisions about what you should ask for based on trying to be fair. He owes you big time. It's very hard when you've been abused to stop thinking about being fair to him, but he's not trying to be fair to you.

[@labuenavida3051]

THIS

[@SeeWitch]

This exactly. Narcissists mess with our self worth. Get everything legally owed to you, sweetheart.

[@morganpoff4237]

Unfortunately alot of police will not go somewhere with you to get your personal belongings and will only come to a location if something actually happens that warrants police involvement. I know this from personal experience. Its very sad when they are supposed to be public servants

[@Damnnnjenna]

Yes! Unfortunately our friend group knows this all to well but from the other side. His ex girlfriend came to pick up her dog and sadly her did take her life and then is own. So tragic and so not necessary. 💔

[@djholliday5132]

Take your girls as far away as you possibly can. Screw everything. You can work from anywhere in the world. Make a series on it! Prayers for you & the girls, Jess. Stay strong. You can do this.

[@hannahkayee831]

Being a bad husband doesn't mean you are a bad father...

[@djholliday5132]

@Hannah Kayee With respect, that statement was created by crappy men to make excuses for themselves. If a man is on drugs, breaking many, many laws, and not treating his wife as he should....he is not being a good father. That is abuse. A good father treats the mother of his children well and shows his children how a man should treat a woman.

[@cary9479]

​@@djholliday5132 I wouldn't say, how a man should treat a woman, more how a human should treat other humans.

[@kristahathaway9308]

@@hannahkayee831 he 100% is a bad father when he is hitting his baby's mom in front of them when he is doing drugs he is a bad father when he is drinking and driving down the road and getting into crashes he is a bad father he is a bad father point-blank because of the abuse that he has caused his family that's what makes him a godfather a bad human and he needs to get his shit together

[@nikatnight1990]

@@hannahkayee831 you’re right he may not BE a bad father, I think when he’s sober, he is a good father. But he is ACTING and making choices like a bad father right now,

[@SkullsLuvbugs]

As someone who has been through abuse, emotional and physical, I just want you and your kids safe. Whatever that looks like keep being the best mom you can be stay safe and be happy you all deserve it.

[@RegratorNovem]

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, Jessica. You are so strong. I’ve been watching you for years and you truly deserve peace in your and your children’s life!

[@annegreenwood3624]

my mom always made excuses for dad so he wouldn’t look bad the neighbours thought we were the best family it’s about verbal emotional abuse you hide your pain to protect the abuser thanks for sharing your story i believe when we share it might help another victim find their voice,know this is not ok

[@jessicamessicak]

I was hoping to hear "I am angry" because it does take a hot minute to get there! I out loud said, "Yes!!!" Keep pushing, Jess. 05/31 edit: please surround yourself and those girls with safe ppl

[@solidsliquidsandgasps6742]

Hi there. I really felt compelled to reach out after watching this latest video. I have so much respect for your willingness to share the hardships as well as the good times. Your innate empathy, conviction(not the criminal kind lol), and true compassion shines regardless of what you are taking on. I’m just a random person on the internet, but your stories and words have helped me as I’ve walked my own path. All that to say that you have an important story and a powerful voice. Thank you for all you have given of yourself to others. Much love and respect sister. Sending you peace. 💜

[@Sasharra]

I relate to this so much. My father was a narcissistic abuser and when things finally went too far and my mom left I was SO proud of her (I was 12). My life got so much better and some of my best memories with her are from the time right after we moved out when it was just me and her. You're doing great Jes, stay strong!

[@jragan05]

Agreed her kids are prob really glad they don't have to listen to the ranting

[@Meipmeep]

My son is turning 18 in June and his dad is finally starting to pay child support and get sober. I’m very grateful that I kept him at a distance because my son has a lot of health issues and we didn’t have the strength to deal with all the drama.

[@annetteantoniadesyoutubers9400]

I dealt with my 1st sons dad and I had to get out when my son was 6mths. I couldn't let my child deal with the verbal and emotional abuse. I am glad you found the strength to leave it for the girls. Keep up your strength.

[@ashley1968]

Omg Jess. I’m so sorry for the stress, I hope you don’t keep it all in. Rage, cry, scream or breakdown, it doesn’t make you weak. You’re the strongest person. ❤

[@Mehlia626]

Jes, my heart goes out to you and your babies 💚 I have a friend I found out literally minutes ago that he's going to prison for 2 years. 6th OWI WITH his children in the car. Im just so furious. He's lucky his children survived. This is unforgivable, I hope losing his children and prison are his rock bottom. Those babies are so fortunate to be alive. But at what cost. They'll go years feeling like they aren't enough. Anyways... wow that went off the rails. I just feel so much anger over this. Thank you for sharing your story and being my internet friend to lean on in times of trial. Fun news though. I'm bringing my 10 yr old bb girl to tswift next weekend in Chicago. So drop all the child friendly must dos. My childhood was shit, but hers is is full of love and we're out here breaking cycles.

[@CatsInaCradle]

It is so incredibly sad for the children. 😢

[@cleosworld9096]

Oh u r right to be upset and also right to still love ur friend. Also my god this tickets r expensive. I’m so excited u Gus get to go;)

[@HannahRose19960]

I am a slower learner I suck with some observations what'd OWI

[@heatherdontcare]

​@@HannahRose19960 Operating While Intoxicated =DUI or DWI

[@cleosworld9096]

@@HannahRose19960 it’s like driving under the influence I’m not sure wat the exact letters mean but that’s the basic of if

[@ThomasSlodzinski]

It never ends for you Jessica. Someone said to me just recently when you are trying to do good everything comes at you double time. That is exactly why a percentage of people relapse. Be strong take care of your girls

[@456ism]

Been following you for about a year. The content you share is important, just like you are important. Documenting and sharing your journey - ups and downs - has incredible power. And it is helping. And you.. are force of nature. Your girls are so lucky to have you.

[@KatMerriam75]

I'm in tears because you get it. I kept going back to my ex because of a trauma bond. It was just like an addiction. I finally have time and space away from him and can see things I was blind to

[@beckyklepper315]

Jess, You are doing a large service to many by sharing your story. I have lived the narcissistic abuser with PTSD and highest functioning alcoholism I have ever seen. He was the most manipulative, isolating, and terrifying human. I'm still scared of him and I left in 2015. I have been experiencing lots of PTSD and nightmares recently. You posting is helping me so much. I lost all my kids baby photos and my mom's jewelry, etc etc. But I got my son. Thank goodness

[@Kimieaaboe]

❤

[@lashundalovelady4601]

Y’all are just nosey. You think no one has every heard of abuse esp now since everyone wants to be poster child for abuse trauma and mental illness? We hear it all damn day everyday. So stop with this Jess please spread awareness shit!

[@michelle7352]

I went through something similar. Three things saved me. 1) we had no children or possessions together (we were married only 4 months when I left, middle of night, with just my dog, my laptop and clothes on my back); 2) I hid in another city until I got marriage annulled; 3) I didn't value money or possessions I lost, I just wanted to be free. It took about 6 months till my name was unhooked from his, and I gave my house, which he was living in, to his mother. As I said, things were not important at this point. Sad to say but he died not very long afterward, so i was finally truly free. That was 29 years ago and I've not had any relationships since. My faith, trust and confidence were destroyed and I've worked inch by inch to heal.

[@mentallyunstablellama3686]

​@@lashundalovelady4601"yall are so nosy" as you are watching a video to comment hate...wtf😂

[@livinthedream4250]

As someone going through something very similar right now I'd like you to know you do you girl. It is your story to tell, no one can silence you. Truth be told!

[@alysegaul5517]

Thank you for having the strength to share your story as it happening. I know how draining it can be to deal with stuff like this and keep a healthy relationship with family as well as keeping your videos posted. You're doing so amazing and have been such an inspiration to those of us atruggling with similar things. I've got just over two years in recovery and also use marijuana to help with sleep and anxiety.

[@heatherdawn0420]

"He cannot break me and then put me back together." So very true. Thoughts are with you and your baby girls always.

[@wren5452]

Just seeing the title, I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now. Love you so much, Jess ❤❤

[@alexisandbillclerico15]

Jess, please vent whenever you need to. You've helped me + so many in the past several years, so I'm glad you feel comfortable sharing your concerns. Stay strong... Ride or Die Crew will always be here for you.❤

[@pkae]

I’ve loved your content for so long, and I was always so worried about him. As a recovering addict and victim of abuse he always concerned me. I’m so sorry for everything that you have experienced, but I’m so happy that you and your children are getting away from him. ❤❤

[@2bleushadow]

I agree. Something always seemed off. So glad she got away before he injured her or worse.

[@406ninja]

long time fan 🔥🖤 just watched this after watching your docuseries. the difference is astounding, you’re absolutely doing the right thing sharing this on a much deeper level. it’s one thing to hear the words once, but it’s another to watch how it unfolds, and to see how real things got. keep standing in your power. literally went through some similar things, with my last, some parallels there in circumstance too. so it’s wildly reassuring and inspiring even, to watch your bravery and uncut TRANSPARENCY through all of this ✨💎 proud of you 🙏

[@donaldheed7829]

You survived prison, you’ll get through this too. Remember how far you’ve come. You’re a fighter

[@jenniferrose2360]

And a liar 😂

[@stevegeorge6880]

This is just tragic regardless of where one sits in relation to it. He's a person who has done good things, but like all of us, has to be responsible for all of his choices. It's just doubly sad because of all the genuinely noble and heroic things he did and could have continued to do. Praying for the best for all involved and that Justice is served.

[@dont_panic8458]

Jess I have been going through a similar situation (without physical violence) with my husband/other parent to our children. He is a narcissistic verbal and mental abuser. I filed for divorce and he is fighting me every step of the way. He will be vicious, but then be so sweet and will pull me back in and I think things may get better....for us and for our kids, but then things happen where he shows me again who he is. I've been struggling so hard with finalizing the divorce and whether I should wait and see how things go, but this was a good reminder for me that I can't fix him. I can't be responsible for his behavior and I will be fine on my own! Thank you ❤️. These are things I already knew, but sometimes a good reminder is needed. Good luck and love to you ✌️💕

[@alannatiernan61]

Best of luck to you. You can survive on your own, just find that inner strength. It's hard to release yourself from that bond.

[@KittyKittyBangBang249]

It is not our responsibility to fix broken men. You absolutely can not only be on your own, but thrive! I’m 52, have a 25 year old son but I have never lived with a man. You are so much stronger than you know!! Good luck. I just feel like if you’re questioning whether or not to go through with the divorce how good of a relationship could that possibly be? Trust me, there is way better out there than what you’re getting. Mind you I’ve stayed single for the last 19 years and they’ve been the best years of my life in a lot of ways. Ok, sorry I’m rambling. Good luck!! ❤️❤️

[@dont_panic8458]

@@KittyKittyBangBang249 thank you so much for the positive and encouraging words 💕

[@franniebear777]

Sending you lots of love from a fellow ex h addict in chicago. Hoping you and the girls are doing okay, you will be okay! ❤

[@NickleFerner]

So sorry you’re going through this… watching old videos with you two together you can tell how he wouldn’t let you share end he would comment and talk for you. You look so much happier now and I hope your fairytale weddings comes together and you have a lifetime of love happiness support and strength!! Thanks for sharing your life with us all. I hope you overcome these troubles and you help so many people get and stay sober

[@cplmpcocptcl6306]

This brings up a lot of memories.😔 I wish I had been as brave as you’re being now. You have wonderful insight.

[@JustMe-px9qy]

I feel sorry for the girls. The drama, the stress, the negative emotions, the unstable environment.

[@JustMe-px9qy]

@@JacieCabrera8675 - I agree 100%. Jess craves attention…even when it harms her innocent daughters.

[@JustMe-px9qy]

@@JacieCabrera8675 - true. Google and the internet are forever.

[@cristina7423]

Also she said he's constantly texting her eldest daughter but then says she has to beg him to talk to the kids. He also took in a kid that wasn't even his

[@liciaboo8539]

​@Cristina doesn't matter if it wasn't his kid. He chose to be a part of that kids life and has nothing to do with him abusing jess. He is actively in his addiction and you also can't change a narcissist. He is currently facing gun charges, he is on camera fucking with her. Those girls are taken care of by her clearly

[@liciaboo8539]

​@@JacieCabrera8675 those charges he is facing are public record. He is slandering her to online creators behind the scenes. This is her job even though people don't see KZbin as a job. Why keep his secrets when he is abusive??

[@danielreher1987]

I found your channel through your your interview with Mama Dr. Jones. I look forward to learning more from your stories.

[@kellyparks11111]

Omg! ❤ prayers and support!! Yall girls deserve the best! Thank you for being so brave to share. Your honesty is healing. You are helping a lot of families

[@brendad7559]

Jessica, I'm a new subscriber. DO NOT let anyone silence you, that is part of the cycle of abuse. It doesn't matter if it's him or keyboard warriors. I also dealt with an emotional/mental/physical abuser. The best advice that I got was from my lawyer, he said "don't ever respond to anything your ex does, NOTHING!" It's hard, it has paid dividends though. If he is anything like my ex, he will use your kids to get a reaction out of you. Unfortunately I found that I had to do everything through lawyers. After 8 years I finally had to move 5 hours away. He sounds very much like my ex.

[@lexiwhitesfv]

“IF YOU DONT WANT PEOPLE TO TALK ABOUT OR KNOW ABOUT THE BAD SHIT YOUVE DONE, DONT DO BAD SHIT” LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK HATIN!!! I protected my abuser for years from my family and loved ones because I didn’t want him to look bad. This is your story too, not just Reece’s. Everyone talking shit about you sharing “his” story can fuck off. love you girl 💜

[@TheCyclops45-70]

Mind telling us?

[@lexiwhitesfv]

@@TheCyclops45-70 I actually have a KZbin channel too, I talk about a story called “my ex was possessed by a succubus” but I’m guna do more stories on him soon too because the stuff I encountered was crazy

[@Spatzenzunge]

Thank you for sharing! ❤ As weird as that sounds, I'm glad to hear you're getting angry. I'm also glad to hear about the security of your house as well.

[@NorthernOntario85]

I'm here til the end Jess I will always support you, you are an absolute amazing person sending you love from Canada

[@azul4904]

as someone who’s experienced this kind of abuse (to a much smaller degree), i feel so terribly sorry that this cycle is still on. i’m glad you’re doing everything you can and should to keep you and your girls safe. narcissistic abusers can play with your mind in a way not many people can understand, so if the internet trolls want to act like they know anything, please remember the people who matter will never doubt your truth. don’t let them think they deserve your explanations, we don’t need them. we believe you.

[@hollylanevintagetreasures]

As someone who is relatively new to creating content I appreciate your encouraging words. I needed it today more than you know. And you are right, our value is not in the numbers. Social media is fickle. However, congratulations on the 1 million, still ok to celebrate. ;) Praying for you Jessica, your road has been rough and my heart truly goes out to you. ❤️

[@walkerlocker6126]

Jessica, I've been subbed since you only had a couple thousand subs. And I never comment because I generally don't. But I think it's important to share what an inspiration you've been. You help the overlooked be seen and the unseen be heard. That is so important. I appreciate the transparency, girl. Stay strong, you can succeed in anything.

[@badzmomma]

This is your story. Don't let anyone try to convince you that you do not have the right to tell your story. You have been fair to him and again don't let anyone tell you different. I am so sorry you are going thru this.

[@roxanes43]

Thank you for sharing that really hard reflection for those of us who have endured the dv struggle. Took me less than one year also for red flags all over the place that I could no longer ignore. It's all about the power and control factor from the abuser, and still in 2023 women are chattel. Others won't get it, and I'm sad they bully you online. You're good at keeping the girls safe and you deserve all the joy lady!!

[@NinjaFalllow]

This just absolutely breaks my heart. I can't wrap my brain around someone who would go from what you were just a few years back to seemingly pulling out all the stops to do whatever he can to sabotage you.

[@lukaszzz365]

You proved your heart is loving, caring and hopeful. Now it's the time to do what is best for you and your little girls. I wish you all best, Jess!

[@sarahcooper7167]

I was completely enveloped into a toxic relationship turned marriage. For 12 years. I now celebrate my divorce and I do the same thing like eat dinner whenever and cook whatever I want! Keep going girl! ❤❤

[@43theodore]

Thanks!

[@livincountry]

Why send someone that is rich, your money?

[@sierrabird3817]

⁠@@livincountry why question someone else’s choice to do with their money what they wish?

[@laurenadcock1340]

Just want to say I support you and I am sending you and the girls all my love and prayers. ❤️

[@Lady_Katie]

Jess, your strength radiates from every video you’ve made. You have survived hell and you will get through this too. Take it a day at a time. We are all rooting for you! ❤️

[@_Alan01arthur]

Hi dear, how are you doing today?

[@Llxvtraqyouzal]

I'm so glad you decided to talk about this. It's very import for your mental health. You're an amazingly strong and resilient woman. I truly hope life will really start getting better for you. Nevertheless, never ever give up. A million+ of your subscribers from all over the world got your back!

[@JND-zf4sg]

Several months back I came across one of your videos. You had struggles in your relationship because of drugs, you adamantly stated with explanation that you would never abandon a loved one who is struggling with abuse. I am glad you have seen clearly and are no longer leading others down the path of "stay no matter what". Good on you❤

[@Efoster826]

I know it's different from the outside looking in but you are so strong and inspirational. You are standing your ground and doing what you have to do to keep you and your babies safe. Your one million subs are well deserved because your story resonates with so many people. Keep your head up and taking things one step at a time. You are amazing and if anyone can do it, you can!

[@danielallanillos6712]

Stay strong, Jess. And more importantly, feel what you need to feel. Healing is not lineal. This kind of relationship are hard even after you get away. The bravest thing you did was run. ❤

[@kaileemeyer04]

Keep your head up, no matter what you’re going through you’ll always pull through and live a beautiful life with your girls! Love from chicago❤️ always here for you

[@chandrajicha907]

I’m so sorry you are going through this… You don’t deserve to feel terrorized by your ex. That is scary, especially when kids are involved. I was trauma-bonded to my baby daddy, and it took me getting sober to realize how toxic he truly is. I hope that things get better for you and your children, you are such an amazing mama and truly inspire me. I’m thankful I stumbled upon your channel, because your story truly has helped me.

[@JulieIreland]

Stand tall! We're proud of you! You are NOT alone!

[@Omgbrittbee]

Just for the record, as a mother who has struggled myself with MANY things, we sometimes can’t share some details with our children, but that doesn’t mean we don’t want them to know the truth!!! Your videos Jess will be super helpful when the time comes. It will help your kids see through the lines a bit more. So of course you should never worry about that fact and most certainly not entertain those who question or belittle your judgement! We all know you are doing the absolute best you can, given your circumstances!!! And I commend you for that!! Good job Mama!!!

[@abbigailcarr2725]

And they will find out eventually. A lot of ppl tried to protect me from knowing stuff about what my dad did and I found out eventually anyway and usually in the worst ways bc it was so unexpected.

[@emilyjane9901]

Im worried for you and your girls Jess, but I know you will protect them fiercely. Its scary how much more dangerous the abuse becomes once you finally decide to leave. They dont stop. They get worse. I've been there. Its scary shit. Be safe girl. ❤

[@lexacastle]

My mom is going through a very very similar situation with my father. I appreciate you speaking out about how this situation impacts a family. Sending you all the love.

[@evelyna2617]

Congrats on 1MILLION SUBS ❤ I’ve been here since 10k I’m so proud of you. I’m praying for better days for you and the girls 🙏🏼

[@BarbieBando]

*You put this out at just the right time, honestly. I needed to hear it.*