Orthodox Jewish Couple Responds to Questions on Love and Intimacy

[@sanyogitachavan9825]

Although very familiar with Jewish culture, I didn’t know that observant Jewish folks didn’t shake hands. Few years ago I met an observant Jewish person and extended my hand to shake his. When told that he wouldn’t touch my hand and to not get offended, I smiled and said that I understood because in my culture we greet each other with a “namaste” 🙏🏼. I saw him again a few months later and he called out to me saying “Namaste 🙏🏼.” I thought it was so wonderful, thoughtful and respectful!

[@myJLI]

Wow, that's a really special story. Thanks for sharing!

[@sistersistera]

I am not Jewish however what this couple says is so true. I enjoyed their talk so much. Thank you.

[@myJLI]

You are so welcome! These kind of insights are universal!

[@beeos_an]

I'm not a Jew, but this perspective on marriage, 10 on 10.

[@GillyFromPhilly]

I love how they look at each other. Not all googly-eyed, but full of respect.

[@myJLI]

😊😊😊

[@CircassianLune]

As an Azerbaijani Muslim, I would like to say that you guys are today the subject of my prayers, may God bless you both! 👍

[@myJLI]

Thanks!

[@sistersistera]

This couple gave me so much to meditate on.

[@myJLI]

That's great to hear!

[@deanedubansky6923]

Now the whole world will see the beauty, the holiness, and intelligence of our incredible Rabbi and Rebbetzin. Through their examples, their teamwork, and their leadership, our Shul overflows with love, guidance, caring, learning, worship, compassion, holiness, kindness, and acceptance. Fantastic video. My sincere thanks and appreciation to you both.

[@myJLI]

😊

[@toddvoss52]

You are very lucky to have such a Rabbi and Rebbetzin

[@superm70]

Stunning I'm Christian and this is such stunning advice and a wonderful couple

[@MelissaKnoxwriter]

Love the way they look at each other. The trust.

[@myJLI]

Trust is so important!

[@MitchM240]

This dude has a serious way with words. well done.

[@myJLI]

Thank you!

[@lilianacm]

I am Christian .I also have values ,but I have found your message very,very special! The way you talk,the way you LOVE each other is an example for all the world👍🌏! Thank you very much for sharing! May God bless you very much🙏🙏!!!

[@myJLI]

🙏🙏

[@sandypeters5790]

I’m so happy to have heard both of you!! You are a beautiful couple, with a beautiful family and synagogue. I’m so grateful to be a part of your congregation! Arlene Parkin

[@myJLI]

They really are! Glad you enjoyed

[@mslady1521]

I like when she said that if you found love once you can find it again in that same person.

[@myJLI]

Powerful point indeed.

[@katipohl2431]

Feeling great sympathy for this couple. Wise rules and life advice.

[@myJLI]

💯💯

[@miracleswillhappen3401]

I love this so much. You both speak so well. I am a cradle Catholic and though I have never question faith I have struggled with Catholicism. I love to hear your passion and a commitment

[@myJLI]

So happy to hear! Glad you enjoyed, and thanks for watching!

[@DirMaverick]

Okay...let's talk about how he looks at her when she's speaking 😅😅 That's amazing.

[@myJLI]

😊😊

[@marilynryan7822]

@Michael Acquah…and the way she looks at him too.

[@margybernard]

And she likewise. 😊

[@margiematson781]

And vise versa ❤

[@elizabethwilk9615]

As a Catholic I share the same views. Bless you both

[@myJLI]

Thank you so much!

[@truecynic1270]

Beautiful couple with excellent values and great understanding of humanity and the guidance humanity needs

[@myJLI]

Well said

[@marinamayo7994]

I agree with everything you said regarding marriage! Thank you for this wonderfully informative discussion!

[@myJLI]

You are welcome :)

[@transformation2479]

Yes! Great conversation! More people need to be addressing these issues.

[@myJLI]

💪💪

[@sensationallyyours6520]

Beautiful couple with the right insights, living life, marriage and family the way it is supposed to be!

[@KeeHart]

The way it's supposed to be in your opinion, couldn't be further from what I think marriage is about, we're very equal in mine,I'm not treated just a baby carrier or just as mother,I'm treated as a woman where my opinions and wants are respected.

[@1951kvk]

I'm a traditional Roman Catholic and your way of explaining the whys is wonderful and agree.

[@myJLI]

Thanks!

[@blumberg1982]

Shana Tovah! May we all be inscribed for good, for blessing, for health and for maasim tovim in the book of life.

[@myJLI]

Amen! Thank you!

[@Zaxnafein]

Absolute gems of Torah wisdom 🙌🏻

[@myJLI]

Yes indeed!

[@Mindy56743]

I love this. My husband and I made the commitment many years ago and we had many problems during our marriage and had to rebuild the marriage many times. We had to fall in love many times. People don’t stay the same and find new parts of each other that we loved. Love is something that happens and you have to grow life a life plant.

[@myJLI]

Powerful. Thanks for sharing!

[@JewGotit]

that was incredible, thank you Rabbi & Rebbetzin for your Gd given wisdom, and open hearts with sharing golden nuggets with the world. May Hashem bless you and your family ad 120 and see you soon BH in Israel.

[@myJLI]

Amen! Thank you!

[@mosesandzippora]

What a great example! Love love !

[@myJLI]

Agreed!

[@paulalepadatu930]

First time i hear Marriage word in Hebrew is the same as Holly, wow! I am born again Christian and I agree to what you are saying about marriage, that is what I believe. God Bless You 🙏

[@myJLI]

G-d bless you too!

[@superm70]

Agreed !!

[@marcelofrmo]

Beautiful. It made me thoughtful.

[@myJLI]

That's great to hear, thank you for sharing!

[@StopDropAndLetGo]

I love you guys, thank you for the purity, honesty, beautiful and Godly advice and words. God bless you both 🤗🙏🏻

[@myJLI]

Same to you!

[@ThatJewishFamily]

Very nice! Thank you Viglers

[@myJLI]

🙌🙌🙌

[@hildaovalle1455]

All men should have a mind and sense of humanity that this rabbi has. Is no wonder that she is in love with him. I fell in love with him as well. God bless them both. Yes, the world would be different and for the better.

[@heatherkulak8633]

I loved hearing this lovely couples perspective Well communicated

[@myJLI]

So glad you appreciated!

[@michaelbass9321]

Excellent as always from Rabbi and Rebbetzin Vigler . Very insightful as we have come to expect and have experienced as relatively new congregants. Shana Tova... Michael and Brigitte B.

[@myJLI]

Shana Tova to you too!

[@mattfreelie55]

Interesting, we share a last name!

[@community1854]

I love what they have to say! And the end is the best part. Rabbi, leave ur wife alone 😂!! And she said what she has to say in a subtle loving way!! Anyone can imagine that! Very sweet and very spiritual and very deep!

[@Missmewithdat]

I would have loved to have grown up like this ☝🏼 God bless you

[@glenanleitner2606]

Great bring more

[@joanblack626]

a beautiful dialogue between the two of you....so proud of the two of you and feeling so fortunate and happy to be one of your congregants!

[@myJLI]

Will do!

[@rivkahrayzltsap9316]

I love this🙌🏻 And the way the answers are expressed!

[@myJLI]

Agreed!

[@Rosee3333]

Thank you for sharing. 😊 I have been struggling recently and you made some beautiful points that have helped me. From my heart, thank you. 💜💜

[@myJLI]

You are so very welcome

[@KristaLinford]

Beautiful ideas. Thank you for sharing these healing values. I am not Jewish, but agree completely with you.

[@myJLI]

😊😊🙏

[@ec7568]

I'm not Jewish but I can get behind a lot of these ideas. I think a lot of people don't like the idea of living within any guidelines.

[@rickv2629]

Thanks for this! Please gibe more Jewish relationship advice!

[@myJLI]

Will do! Stay tuned!

[@tomsik11style]

Love your view on observance differences vs orthodoxy. We are all different and go through a growing process. But every category always tries to separate us. We are such a small group. Don’t need more division.

[@myJLI]

Well said!

[@theresefournier3269]

Holy, sacred, set apart!💐♥️ 🔥

[@golda_devarim31.6]

really enjoyed this one. thank you for your efforts!

[@myJLI]

Happy to hear that!

[@deborahgolob6275]

So very well sad

[@syedabdulwahidsohaily493]

Salam, 🙏🏻 Rabbi Dovid and Chana Vigler, you are absolutely Right in your interpretation of Relationship, Marriage, Orthodoxy & Observance 👍🏻👍🏻🌹and I am so Happy that it is so close to the teachings of Holy Quran/Holy Bible/Holy Torah 👍🏻which binds us so tightly close,& rightly close by the Prophet Abraham's Religions 🙏🏻God Bless Humanity across the Globe 🌎 Amen 🌹 Sohail Karachi Pakistan ❤️

[@myJLI]

Hello 👋👋 Thank you for sharing these words!

[@jeana-geniawest1187]

I love this. Very insightful.

[@myJLI]

Indeed :)

[@angelaspina8466]

Enjoyed this video immensely!

[@seekpeaceinyalife]

This is the best way !

[@maisobh9390]

The thing that we tend to forget that there's so much in common when it comes to religions....as a Muslim we commanded to believe in all religions and all prophets without distinguishing them from each other " as long as it's practiced peacefully and respectfully".....and I found so much sense in what they spoke about in terms of the scarcity of the marriage and the sexual boundaries....all the respect 🙏

[@myJLI]

Glad you think so!

[@ruslanadovhal]

I love it! Thank you for sharing this beautiful video!

[@pamdewall4588]

This is so wonderful. I want to b in a relationship like this so much😅

[@StopDropAndLetGo]

I want the same Pam 🤗

[@shirleydoncel5512]

Me too

[@theresefournier3269]

In-DEED ♥️🔥🎶

[@myJLI]

🙌🙌

[@empowerme8029]

Thank you so much for this! It has helped me understand our marriage better without even realizing what we were doing.

[@myJLI]

Glad it was helpful!

[@pvabotelho]

I’m Jewish and this was so wonderful and made me think and meditate about some of the subjects

[@myJLI]

That's awesome! Thanks for watching

[@ks2994]

I love this so much.

[@c.m.b.7567]

intimacy and sex is not seen as impure and is not taught as bad like in other religions. it is sacred and holy

[@myJLI]

Exactly!

[@CalmPotato]

Curious to know which other religion you are referring to. As most I know speak of the same thing.

[@eatandchat7887]

I loved this video. Thank you.

[@myJLI]

You are so welcome!

[@hilarykay1777]

I met this couple many years ago at their Yom Kippur service in a hotel. It was my husband’s first time making it through the service without leaving. They are something special. Truly wonderful neshamas. We’ve now become Baal tshuva, but they gave us our first good taste of true chassidus.

[@monikabaranska6673]

What a beautiful couple ❤, well done

[@myJLI]

You are so kind

[@cathy1944]

I think all your answers are perfect answers and really should apply to all people and all religions not just being Jewish.

[@myJLI]

These ideas have universal relevance, and can apply to people of all backgrounds.

[@KittyM-]

What a loving couple.

[@myJLI]

Indeed 😊

[@StephenGrew]

I definitely agree. I've always felt that, too much touching, feely, feely thing going on between relative strangers.

[@helenclarke3517]

Thank you for sharing! As a non Jew formerly married to a Jewish man. I enjoyed your insight. Although not together we have an amazing grown son!

[@myJLI]

👋👋👋

[@bidinosaur]

When making more of these videos, can you have a voice over for the questions please? It makes them more accessible for people who are blind or visually impaired. I was unable to read the questions.

[@myJLI]

Thanks so much for the feedback!

[@jamescairns4051]

Hello! Lovely video thank you! Beautiful couple. ❤ שָׁלוֹם

[@jacquiwhitehouse2924]

Hello love this video, I’m Christian & I feel really uncomfortable hugging & kissing friends I’ve never really liked it when people invaded my space. I totally understand your commitment just to your family. Since coming out of covid for me it has now put a stop to this, I missed hugging our grandsons & our daughter so to keep them safe I no longer allow people into my space. God bless you both & keep you safe 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@myJLI]

Thanks!

[@angelaspina8466]

Beautiful couple! God bless you,,,God keep you!

[@kimberley8686]

Beautiful words 😊

[@myJLI]

Thank you! 🙂

[@elevateyoursoul1020]

I love you both! ❤

[@amyaias.alagoa]

G-d's involvement is vital

[@marthaellenconner98]

Beautiful and Godly perspective on intimacy and marriage. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻💜✝️✡️

[@myJLI]

Our pleasure!

[@nancylee1625]

I am a Christian woman and I completely agree with this lovely couple. It would benefit all couples to sit down with them to discuss the realities of marriage. It is all about commitment and loyalty.

[@myJLI]

Indeed!

[@brigitte1221]

Thank you Rabbi and Rebetzin for your wisdom. A question I would pose is, doesn't a hug or peck on the cheek of a friend show that you value them and their friendship above just another person you may know? Isn't it just a sign of affection for a dear friend without it becoming sexualized?

[@myJLI]

That's a great question! Perhaps this will shed some more light on the topic kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJrRpqyQl5J4iZo

[@migdaliavasquez1874]

That’s powerful 😊😊😊😊😊

[@myJLI]

Glad you think so!

[@lisca2866]

What a beautiful couple!!

[@a.m204]

So beautifully explained

[@myJLI]

Glad you think so!

[@adriennefranco6227]

I love when he says he was looking for a kind person - not a professor. Look for character not externals. Externals change, character does not.

[@myJLI]

So true! 🙌

[@gloriabatel9981]

Toda. Love your sharing and honesty.

[@myJLI]

So nice of you

[@naomie793]

Wow this video is just beautiful

[@dafnapns]

I'm beyond happy I've stumble upon this! Like founding a treasure. Thank you and to this beautiful couple. In G-g's will, I'll be married soon.

[@myJLI]

Please G-d! So happy you found this. Welcome to our channel!

[@JYO2023]

Agree thank,you

[@sharonlampert7452]

Beautiful Jewish Couple. Mazal Tov!

[@myJLI]

🙏🙏

[@lightwings7957]

Ty shalom toda

[@mimmiblu6138]

It's fascinating listening to them, because they really believe in what they say and they look very happy. But I also know that my life was very different and there are many different ways to be happy in marriage: I 've been happily married for 21 years and neither of us believe in God or verginity before marriage. And taking away physical contact with other human beings from me would be like killing me, even though I have never thought for one second that I could betray my husband. But hugging my friends of both genders in times of distress isn't certainly a sexual act, but simply an act of kindness.

[@toddvoss52]

Wonderful

[@albertlugassy3610]

Thanks for sharing great

[@myJLI]

Pleasure!

[@nllee7051]

Her hair is amazing! Ouu loving it 😍

[@myJLI]

Yes!

[@ashirahelat4749]

We change so much in the modern world that we want a spouse who can change in a similar way.

[@54leonilda]

Observant…great!

[@folkeholtz6351]

Very very good to underline that we are all keeping the Torah, since the word orthodox is a word given from someone outside the observant Jews. We are orthopratic. I like to do what it is said : Not take a observant Jewish womans hand. She belongs to her husband not to me at all. Very good information and teaching. keep up the very good work, Folke from Sweden.

[@tudormiller887]

Chanukah Sameach. Watching from London UK.

[@myJLI]

👋👋

[@davidfriend1919]

These guys have a great thing , this thing is the thing that everybody who is a human and not completely bent will understand and therefore the laws of jews will be understood and the same people , at least the sane people , will get it . And that is a good thing my friends .

[@myJLI]

Glad you think so!

[@davidfriend1919]

@@myJLI The contrast of how man and woman explain this thing is very intriguing , surely there is wisdom even by the example of the thing that you are on topic about , man / woman , in marriage and contrast in explaining the thing , two styles that become one ... Thank you for doing these videos , it is a service that deserves thanks .

[@pamelagonzalez46]

Amazing even if your not orthodox ! Thank you, Shalom

[@myJLI]

Shalom 👋

[@sgtrabbi]

HalleluYah! Be Observant! 🐏

[@beorngolden7923]

It's time to cherish as well, our private life.

[@myJLI]

Absolutely.

[@philipluxembourg9013]

I love these two beautiful people

[@myJLI]

🙌🙌

[@maryrosed8475]

I must say I missed hugging my close family and friends during Covid. However, people I hardly know hugging me drives me mad!

[@ardentabacist]

Yo Rabbi and Rabbi's wife, that was truly expiring and insightful and all that! I believe that what y'all was saying is the secret to happy marriage! Once when a young lady was axed if she "liked" a young man that she was dating and answered that she had the same love for him as any other jewish person the Menachem Mendel Rebbe said . . . “For a husband, you have to have more than basic love of a fellow Jew.” well this rabbi wife seems to have that, if you axed me.

[@myJLI]

That's such a great story and message! Thanks for sharing!

[@mdmommy]

I love you guys thank you so much my neighbor has been trying to get me to go to your Shull for a few years now I moved from Jupiter to Stuart but I have to tell you I'm going to show up probably on sukkot. I need to meet you. very inspirationl and many things you said were things that I needed to hear it is as if God just answered my prayers this week

[@myJLI]

That's awesome, thanks for sharing!

[@iloveyouyoulovemeify]

im not jewish or religious but i can tell kind ppl when i see it

[@myJLI]

😊😊😊

[@purpleandred7]

I don't entirely share the same opinion as you, that marriage comes first and then love; but what I do agree with is that love most certainly grows daily in marriage .. and that intimacy is more special - deeper, and overall incredible - in marriage. I believe intimacy outside of marriage cannot compare to intimacy within marriage. Another thing .. non-Jewish people just don't go around kissing and hugging every woman or man that we see, as your absolutely beautiful wife suggested. We do hug and/or kiss those we love and care about, of course .. but there are certainly lines drawn, for most people, as to whom gets shown our affection in that way. In marriage, loyalty is paramount, and our affection toward our spouse should be held in the most high regard than toward any other relationship or person. There is absolutely no wiggle-room whatsoever where that is concerned.