Jen where's your doek? - The Bala Family | Mzansi Magic| S1 | Ep 7

[@GoitseC]

They don’t like Jen and it’s sad cuz she’s been in this marriage for 12 years. And she was right to remind them that they all have failed marriages. I think the bigger problem is they can’t accept Loyiso’s spiritual standing and how he keeps them away from his family, but I think that is why his marriage has survived this long. No annoying family that is hell bend on not understanding you while also trying to control you

[@happyasouthafrican]

She must not allowe them to control her,they all failed so they must shutup

[@priscillakhambule1141]

Yena Umama likuphi elakhe iduku ungumama omdala. Makuqale yena abonise ukuthi nali ngilufakile nawe njengomakiti kwamele ubenhe can June family gatherings

[@Ms-lb7lb]

So true!

[@ShareTheGospelTV]

I completely agree. They trying to control her. I'm glad she reminded her meddling and controlling inlaws that shes the only one who's still there .😂

[@florencemei1013]

Let’s hope their marriage doesn’t start having issues now that family is involved. Clearly they did fine without everyone.

[@ntokozopearl6177]

Sometimes family can mess a Son's marriage..I also think this is probably gonna create some issues for Jen and Loyiso.

[@xabisonxantsiya5444]

But loyiso guyz is very humble and calm

[@Sharlene711]

I just noticed. When Zwai or Loyiso gets angry, they start blinking a lot😂

[@tumimasibi2366]

Yes😂

[@thamsanqathesonsinxezi]

Mama ka loyiso must lead by example though and stop telling Jen things in front of the whole family because that feels like a humiliation and a humbling tactic.

[@ZomziWeAfrika]

It’s a family meeting though

[@thamsanqathesonsinxezi]

@@ZomziWeAfrika men don’t need to hear womens business like that. She’s saying these things in front of Jen’s husbands brothers it’s not appropriate. When a makoti gets married, the older women of the family groom her. They don’t tell her these things at a family lunch 😂 they’ll never tell you how to be a makoti when there’s men sitting there. And I repeat, uMakoti learns by example.

[@phililezulu3213]

Well said, I definitely agree. Your approach is important, and right now it seems like she is being ganged up on

[@thamsanqathesonsinxezi]

@@ZomziWeAfrika it’s not, it’s an anniversary celebration 😂

[@fjhkerwoiero00]

@@ZomziWeAfrika it's NOT a family meeting, it is a Brunch & they are invited by Jen & Loyiso! How do makoti invites you for food & enjoyment at her home & then you start berating her?? Poor timing from jolling Makhulu!

[@anastasiakhumalo6985]

How can one family be so blessed musically? No man. It's not fair. The Balas have a distinct sound and I love it ❤

[@samkhoza1828]

I’ll tell you one thing mtase we are blessed as Seventh Day Adventist Church njengoba besho nje music is the way ❤

[@amandadladla7839]

Thank you Bala family for allowing us into your home ❤😍. I pray we get more seasons, such an authentic reality show

[@neosjournal_]

Shame these people have made it clear that they have a problem with Jen. Especially the sister in law! Bathong, ke jealousy or what??? I love Jen for how she always stands up for herself😂❤

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

She can't win ngwana batho. And she does not even pick fights with anyone.

[@neosjournal_]

@@keepitfrankwithfentse they stay provoking her shem

[@allthingswithnsovo5196]

I wanted to say the same thing, what is the issue kanti.

[@zrtopics2418]

I feel terrible for Jen so many digs.

[@revothomas9343]

But why is Loyi not standing up for Jen?

[@molebohengsehume6419]

Zwai was touched😂😂😂can't blame Jen...when they're attacking her like this...she must use every tool to fight back.

[@mizzleefromsa3493]

Jen is right, she's the only still around because for 12 years they were married with her husband they didn't have the in-laws meddling in her marriage. Side note, they ALL have failed marriages, except her & Loyiso.

[@Nasiphii_M]

its none of her business . It doesn't matter . How has a failed marriage or not . She must wear. A doek . Or ask .they invited them . For saying that she was disrespectful.

[@mizzleefromsa3493]

@@Nasiphii_M Your sentence construction my dear, let me try to decipher what you're trying to convey to me. 1st of all, she invited them to their home, that was not the forum to address such, secondly if they do things culturally, they must invite her elders, & do things the proper way. They can't come & dictate to her what to do in her house, that's not right. If she goes to their house then they can have those demands. There was nothing wrong with her dress, it covered her arms, did you see any cleavage? NO. And for the mother to say "that's not my daughter" that's where the danger is🚩🚩

[@mizzleefromsa3493]

@@Nasiphii_M It is her business that they have failed marriages. I won't listen to a single person to teach me marriage advice, just like I won't take advice from a failed business man.

[@NanaMazwide]

@@mizzleefromsa3493 well said. Pinky Bala is the one that irritates me, poor Jen.

[@mizzleefromsa3493]

@Nana Nxumalo 😂I know right? Yes, in this episode, she annoyed me too.

[@kgadiyaditshehla389]

The singing warmed my heart ❤️

[@tshepotyrenmodisetshepo4852]

Sispinkie'voice tjo and Zwai's baritone 😢😢😢

[@bettymofokeng3404]

❤️ love Loyiso and Jen , humble couple and rooted in their believe👌

[@Mmeme2023]

No one talks louder than the sister-in-law with no husband. I wish she would shut up maan! 🤐

[@NunuNkosi-jn9oy]

bathong😮

[@duchesstyra]

Yazini she’s out of line

[@tabithabrenda9878]

Yhoo makathule nyhani uyenza mbi yonke lento

[@gentlesoul9046]

In Xhosa culture she has seniority in the family as U dadobawo .

[@kikiUN1]

Exactly!!!

[@zohjiyane6046]

But mama, where is your doek? She is taking your shape.

[@alinahcindi2783]

Thank you wear is mama's doek

[@asive_dimpho]

She's not married to Loyiso, and Jen is not her mother-in-law so she doesn't have to.

[@happyasouthafrican]

🙄🙄🙄 they all failed in their marriages to apply wat,they want Jan to apply yet they expect Jan to follow all this crazy rules after 12 yrs

[@zama8386]

@@asive_dimpho but she's married to the man she came with

[@asive_dimpho]

@zama yes, tradition doesn't say you cover up when you with your men it speaks to your in-laws, Jen is with her in-laws and not with her husband and friends. Read up on IsiXhosa tradition guys if you not Xhosa, the only thing I can agree with yoll on is why they waited so long to teach her the ways of being a Xhosa bride.

[@rethabilemohapi]

That's her house tjooo...she isn't naked or half naked or dressed in an appropriate way ..ae suka tlohelang ngwanemong...Pinky itholele lejuba

[@lungiswankitha9193]

They are expecting Jen to wear a doek and yet they are still addressing her as Jen. They are trying to instill the tradition when it's convenient for them. Poor Jen 😢😢

[@lisanomafola6804]

They don't have timing at all imagine after 4kids they tell me to do things as Makoti,hayi leave Jen alone

[@alinahcindi2783]

Seriously they don't hey. Love how Jen always has some come-backs though 😂😂😂😂

[@shazi6336]

Jen is what a wife should be! 🥹

[@tumimasibi2366]

I like the way she stands up for herself

[@NanaMazwide]

@@tumimasibi2366 I also like it. It's so hard to do that sometimes she is very brave.

[@happiness_moth9295]

Lol😂😂telling someone to wear a doek in her house

[@unathigesha513]

Tyhini, umhlola😂😂😂

[@NonkululekoNdlovu-r1f]

Yazini yintsomo😂🤣 😂

[@MóTee1]

Why do people do this? Because she could have addressed her makoti on the side not put her on blast like that no! After 12 years of silence and disregard, now you want to play catch up like this?? No. And also, Jen wasn't being shady bhut Zwai, Jen was just saying she is the only wife to her husband and the only makoti the family knows concerning her husband like there is no other that will replace her. She was not referring to anyone else's marriage. We need to learn to have generous assumptions of people not always jump to assume the worst. Or rather people should talk less and just eat and part ways because wow😂😂😂 the discomfort is tangible.

[@kemisosefatsane9476]

Pinky can sing maaaan!!!

[@chuenemasoga1935]

Imagine someone coming to your house and tell you how to dress

[@happyasouthafrican]

in the name of culture that she failed to apply in her marriage😂🤣

[@zama8386]

and after they have been married for 12 years😂😂 Cha ayi

[@hleziphidhlamini1012]

She remains a makoti to avoid a lot of issues dress appropriately uphume kubo. Avoid izinkulumo

[@NCarterMed]

@@hleziphidhlamini1012I agree with you.

[@xoliswaxoli4005]

@@hleziphidhlamini1012Qwaba!!!

[@roselindagaoses439]

Pinky looks like their mommy❤❤❤ beautiful women including Jen. Ive always admired their family

[@thandazateka5880]

When they broke out in music 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍.

[@NelaNos]

One thing about Xhosa families we will sing our little hearts out when we gather

[@sebongilemonene6505]

Pinky's voice😍😍😍😍

[@tshepotyrenmodisetshepo4852]

I got goosebumps while listening to her

[@NunuNkosi-jn9oy]

Well said Jen futhi uZwai uyaphapha

[@patienceikombele9161]

Mama is a Christian and she doesn't follow culture, but Jan must wear doek and follow a Xhosa culture. They must give Jan a break. Now that she has moved closer to the family, she'll have headaches.

[@ncesh8348]

The mother in law must tell the daughter in law to not wear a doek even if the mother doesn't follow tradition . The daughter in law gets permission from the mother in law

[@khanyimkhizwana8048]

To wear a doek is not a Xhosa culture, it is a mother inlaw's responsibility to teach her daughter inlaw how to conduct herself as a makoti that has got nothing to do with culture.

[@thobekamvimbi3041]

You do not understand what this Monster in-law is troubling my spirit. She's evil, questioning that nonsense of wearing a doek, on other hand doesn't conform with that traditional work or do that was happening there, she wasn't happy at all. Meaning is confused, She's a Christian on other hand, she wants her daughter in-law to wear a doek as symbol of respect, but do not want to support the traditional gig that was happening in the family. I was very patapt, it just shows how arrogant in-laws can be towards their daughter in-law, and as a husband you have to keep quiet , not back chat bcz you respect your family, and compromise your relationship to your siblings. It does put a man in a dilemma bcz he cannot choose between his parents and wife. Going forward , that abuse will destroy their children's marriage. Mother in-law on other hand, is not modeling the right thing, is not wearing a doek to show Loyiso's wife how to go about as a Nkosikazi. Khona, why these years they've been married. It's tiring!

[@khathutshelomatlou9712]

@@thobekamvimbi3041 I also questioned the doek thing since she's christian. I know there are christians who follow tradition but you see it in practice. I just see hypocrisy here.

[@ZoliswaMtsishe]

Yhoooo Pinky can sing 😢😢❤

[@lydiazondo635]

Mother in law must wear a doek.I love Loyisos family and the whole show

[@queenythedark1tt933]

I like how you all don’t see a reason of Jen dressing as a Makoti infront of her mother in law but all of you married Xhosa dress accordingly hee ndiyanoyika

[@humblebeginningstv917]

Zwai has anger issues did you notice his nose when Loyiso wife says lm the only who is still here

[@duchesstyra]

Yes I get a feeling of resentment

[@thandiswamngcete9439]

But Jen was so unnecessary and unsympathetic Zwai got divorced who would want to be reminded of that an then anga understand when ppl don't like her

[@BM-dr4eu]

@@thandiswamngcete9439she feels she is untouchable. That was not very nice of her

[@asivegaxa9788]

​@@thandiswamngcete9439 not that her kissing asses will buy their love, there's absolutely nothing she WILL ever do that those inlaws will be fine with i doubt they even recognize her in general unless it involves her family's finances. Double standard!

[@anitanxumalo7900]

​@@thandiswamngcete9439uyagula wena. Where was the kindness when she needed it? Stop justifying amasimba mfethu.

[@Mariathechoosen1]

I feel like this family wants to bully Jen 😢 If they know it all well why are their marriages all broken 💩

[@joycemzini9514]

Amen I love you bala family. Your singing 🎶 🎉🎉🎉bravo😂😂❤❤

[@houseofentertainment7243]

If they were as cultural as they try to come across ,they wouldnt be telling Jen these things now. How to be a makoti after 3 kids and so many years in marriage? Mxm

[@yolisamrso9827]

Maybe in their little minds they thought Jen would'nt be here by now hence they didnt bother showing her what is expected of her as a makoti.

[@happyasouthafrican]

Their little mind failed them and they are late with their so called culture.

[@thamsanqathesonsinxezi]

They hate each other’s guts 😭🤣

[@ZomziWeAfrika]

Every family has issues in the real world. Their is being publicized that’s the difference

[@thamsanqathesonsinxezi]

@@ZomziWeAfrika I agree with you there.

[@NolwaziPrudenceMaliSkosana]

Jenn must learn from Mamazala, how can you tell makoti to wear doek but WENA?

[@mpumelelontombela589]

But she is the wife and its about respect

[@fez6840]

​@@mpumelelontombela589 it's her house tho

[@thamsanqathesonsinxezi]

Unxibe iWig ngelo xesha yena umamazala 👀👀👀👀 like pls

[@amb549]

Even if she's got her opinions its how you say it. Respect and loving way.

[@houseofentertainment7243]

Cz they doing it for TV

[@nkhen_c357]

My sister been married to Xhosa man for 20 years. She dont wear doek unless she wants to. Her husband told her it doesnt matter and her mother in law. How does wearing doek represent respect honestly?

[@NelaNos]

It's our culture and if you decide to partake in a person's culture then you respect and comply

[@lisanomafola6804]

So if they're going down to rurals they don't Weare iduku? How did she do it with other makotiz

[@houseofentertainment7243]

Lol and Xhosa ppl acting like they are cultural really is new to me,maybe cz they on tv. Those ones go to an Afrikaans speaking place and turn coloureds,go to JHB for a week,come back Zulu

[@ncesh8348]

​​@@houseofentertainment7243 I know a lot of Xhosa people who come back from Joburg and still speak pure Xhosa. And yes we are cultural, in my village married women wear docks especially when they are going to meet the mother in law. There's is nothing wrong with being friendly and speaking other people's language's ungade uthi sijika sibe ngamaZulu namacoloured.🙄

[@yomie7026]

Its tradition. Each family is different and can change their traditions.

[@LeratoManaka-e9k]

Loyiso blinks a lot though 😂

[@nontokozozwane728]

Jen you loved. Contine to be humbled

[@mankumaria1185]

Sham Jen an loyiso ...wishing you guys more blessings and prosperity.

[@lesleymoyo4384]

the singing reminded me of my family

[@auntyb4130]

Amandla Jen😍😍

[@ShareTheGospelTV]

I'm glad Jen stood up for herself as a makoti. Way to go, Jen!😂

[@degraciangubane480]

Azikhale bathathe Jenn🤣

[@CarolineMfolo]

Zwai 😂😂this guy has anger issues

[@maphefodikobo]

I love their singing part

[@babaliwesotshangane2029]

The setting is Wrong wethu. Mama could have requested Jens ear privately about those things not During the people aibo. Now wenza ugirl ikomkyk infront of her kids

[@tshepisomabebo7213]

I just feel they don't like Jan. Jan u are beutiful and be strong dear❤

[@juliamasilela5579]

Is it me or PINKY has a problem with Jen??

[@khanyimkhizwana8048]

I think her favorite makoti was Melanie. And from what I have picked up on other episodes Jen also doesn't like her inlaw's.

[@auntyb4130]

Yes

[@brandonstilinskit3924]

Yes, zwai aswell

[@vimbaimupesa4670]

@@khanyimkhizwana8048 Melanie is who's wife

[@constancenikiwe4145]

No it's Jen who is a problem here to her it's all about Loyiso not his family must watch carefully and she's defensive

[@yolandamalamlela1057]

kodwa mama...you shouldn't have spoken about the attire in front of the brothers

[@zamamanana1124]

Love the music of this family 🙏🙏🙏

[@nomsabertha1512]

Yhu I love you the BALA'S.Mama you are so great.❤

[@Luvbengs1]

Pinky and Mama must leave Jen alone, it’s been 14 years later and you want to change things and don’t wanna respect her Approach is important

[@nonjabulokhumalo4908]

They can sing though ❤

[@xichavoveronicatheka7047]

Such oppression on someone else’s child, daughter in laws will never find a space in homes they married in yhoo, sister in law must stay away.

[@happyasouthafrican]

worse she failed in her own marriage😳

[@NanaMazwide]

I dont understand her as well. sister in laws should not be mingling She should stay away.

[@FakaziKhumalo]

This show is so authentic and I love it

[@vogueelle88]

The singing 🥰😊

[@hlengiwemasondo2858]

They are a beautiful family

[@thabisosimelane7730]

But it's her home. You cnt tell her what to wear in her home

[@anitanxumalo7900]

Gaaaawd she's A LEGEND 😂❤ JEN MADODA

[@neoveronica9907]

I wish Jen can just call them to order in Afrikaans if she is😍😂😂

[@neosjournal_]

She’s Polish 🇵🇱 & Ghanaian🇬🇭

[@shalbec3232]

​@@neosjournal_ then how did she end up on the show?😂

[@chiefer1325]

She is Polish +Ghanaian

[@chiefer1325]

​@@shalbec3232she is married to one of the Bala brothers, Loyiso

[@kayzwebber3133]

Wow what a beautiful family. ❤❤

[@nolubabalomcengwa6935]

A love a singing family❤️. It reminds me of my own🥹.

[@londiwekhuzwayo7065]

Lyiso omg looooove him

[@zokobongs6094]

Tjooo this sister in law very strong, ngase atshate maarn. Its like ngue mother in law

[@NomandlaNyosi]

Ndibatanda ngentliziyo yam yonke❤❤❤❤

[@leratoboya7890]

The Balas are real! I love it!

[@nkululekomabaso1629]

I don’t wanna imagine what Loyiso would be going through at this point. 😢🙆🏽‍♀️

[@mama86163]

Tjo Jen and shade tjo wow

[@nomandlanyosi5126]

I luv u guyz👏👏your voices woow

[@hleziphidhlamini1012]

Sister 's voice 👌👌👌

[@pointa2b388]

And Zwai's low notes

[@palesapoho3165]

Yess Jen🎉

[@sindiswasheleni262]

Things can still be reviewed and re-looked at Jen, you can’t mend the past but only focus on the future, Xhosa 5:39 culture is best known by Xhosa people, if you had and eaten u Tsiki, khabavise kamandi maan nje bazive nabo banaye umolokazana, you’ll see, everything will fall into place,

[@zibonelemankayi9946]

Zwai is so matured, uyindodwa mfondini... 👏👏👏 Got a big heart...

[@anitanxumalo7900]

Mxm big enough to cheat 😂

[@busidhlongolo1382]

Mama lead by example

[@OkwithOG]

When she said “Jen invited us to Loyiso’s house” I knew she does not like her.Because how is it not Jen’s house to.Why not say they invited us to their house? And about Doek mother in law should set an example 😒😒

[@Estell-o3t]

Jen is very stressful to Sis Pinky. She wants to humble her so bad😂😂😂

[@OkwithOG]

@@Estell-o3t how?

[@SindisiweSithole-ep2dc]

Ey pho niyangiculela yini Bala family 💝 ningithatha ningibeke

[@jozok5234]

I’m the only one standing ✋✋

[@jodeemapoe9032]

Jen was so right!

[@TobekaMaja]

As mother in law she is not examplery ,the sister in law was suppose to private Jen not to be embarrassed by them

[@LadyT06]

Is it gonna be on ShowMax?

[@LM-he7eb]

Loyiso seems so offended

[@KayRamz]

Jen sorry babe 🥰🥰but with respecting your elders u'll go far even if u feel like it's unnecessary..do as they say.

[@balesengmarole8058]

So in-law and tradition apply on how Jen is dressed but not in other places lol typical Africans only to their convenience

[@patienceikombele9161]

My point exactly 💯

[@SarahFlavia-u8g]

Zwai sana is very emotional yhuuu ha.a

[@SNM2023]

Did Zwai’ ex wife also wear lk that?

[@NcumisaNgani-jx6tp]

What kind of a mother that tells Makoti to wear a duke in her own house yet as old as she is she never wears a duke to set the example for Makoti

[@MahasheS]

Klk they are trying to change that and celebrate with you guys...

[@mvelo2062]

Abasaculi kamandi❤

[@hihello7014]

Why the old lady is not wearing a dork? WHY the sisters in laws are not wearing doek ?

[@sandisiwehlengwa9788]

I'm the only one still here.... spicy

[@bulelwaSiwisa]

U Zwai 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ashleeserojane8456]

Jen is so respectful. So wats the fuss about. Think they want Loyiso s marriage to fail.

[@justzama3726]

Lol uZwai didn't like jen's shade

[@liviwemcinziba6614]

Kutsho umazala ongathwelwanga. 👀🙊 yhooooo

[@ntandomavuso8485]

Family ka Loyiso iyamonela

[@knowledgeflowSA]

Kakhulu futhi

[@nomfundisombali6687]

honestly they were supposed to dress her like in the ceremony which us black people call "amabaso" and as elder women from the bala family to give her advise in private inside a rondeville house and there will not be any drama

[@AnitaSibanga]

That doesn't matter if u are married 12 years u must wear as makoti infront of ur in-laws that's xhosa culture

[@neoveronica9907]

Pinky you can sing nd you beautiful akere...but uve never married girl maybe take a bck seat nd hear what loyiso has to say khala sakhe isqathulo mostan chill 🤫