Naomi Judd conversation with her mother 1995

[@nicolecushway1227]

If all mothers only knew the power they have over our happiness and our wholeness. We need to realize how much we can heal our children with simply our love. It’s a powerful thing.

[@lorrainetaylor8570]

Beautifully said,yes💗💗

[@TheGymnast71]

truth

[@cosettelaplante699]

Yessss!

[@boundariessetinstone5893]

Yup a mother is a child’s lifeline I’ve said this a million times to many ppl including my mother. Mothers like Naomi’s are 🗑🚮 and because I know what you are talking about. I raise my baby with total acceptance, love and honor everyday not just sometimes. The silent generation was the worst and they raised many children just like them. But it seems Naomi tried to break away from that to not pass it on to her children but didn’t fully succeed.

[@ambsat]

Absolutely.

[@tracychavez7914]

Naomi's mother is very stern. Naomi is vulnerable and wears her heart on her sleeve.

[@cosettelaplante699]

Best comment ever.

[@renae5283]

I agree @Tracy Chavez.

[@brendabrooks9699]

Naomi’s mom thru pickles over her head when she was ready to go to an important dance with her date right there cause she disapproved over her hairstyle like wtfreak!

[@brendaresendez1343]

Her mother seems very cold hearted. But must admit that beauty was 3 generations. Just so sad that she didn't know how to love her daughter.

[@reneecolbert2747]

Her Mother seemed to be very controlling. I'm 66 & mine still does it.

[@eddiern]

Seeing this makes things clearer. Her mother was a woman of her time. She could never be good enough for her mother. I have a mother and a grandmother like that so much generational trauma going unhealed because of pride. RIP Naomi. May you be at peace

[@vintageragdoll1991]

Right there with you! I'm hoping this brings more awareness to generational mental issues. My Grandpa is a veteran who was in Vietnam and can be cold and tough as nails. He was abusive in the way he would discipline my uncle who had a disability and also especially, my mother, the oldest. My mother grew very cold to me at a very young age, I was a product of divorce, domestic violence and drugs and alcohol youngest years and again in my early teens. Her coldness left me very confused and sad a lot of my life. Now, I'm 30 and still trying to mend that relationship. My relationship with my mom are so much a like Winona and Naomi in certain ways I can see it after re- watching their show.

[@eddiern]

@@vintageragdoll1991❤

[@doniellestenson3502]

the proverbial nail on the head. Thank you!

[@lorrainetaylor8570]

@@vintageragdoll1991 love from across the pond.💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

[@traceonthecase]

Sadly Wynonna felt the same way about Naomi.

[@razorbackstud]

I’m listening to Naomi’s book, River of Time. It’s sad, educational and riveting. This interview is such an indicator of the pain Naomi felt throughout her life. She was 76 but still had the pain of her childhood and lack of love from her entire family.

[@leeanncostlow2766]

Who's here after her passing I'm so proud there from KY and so am I it shows not KY people are bad hillbillies like sometimes were put out to be

[@wrinthiak3431]

I wonder if "Diana" had ever been healed, the end result would have been different? Naomi had her difficulties but Diana - who she was before the stardom - carried a wounded heart.

[@donnabayers5700]

😢

[@JenAmazed42]

As a hillbilly from the mountains of upper east Tennessee, still as backwoods and Appalachian as it gets, I can honestly say that I've never known a woman on either side of my family who was like Naomi's mother. I've heard stories of others who were like this but I'm so thankful that the women in my family, though we've still faced emotional problems and mental health issues, were never so cold as this lady was. I'm so glad that I was able to know some of my great grandparents and that even their generation was more like Naomi than Naomi's mother.

[@wrinthiak3431]

@@cathylewanski7881 that inner peace that can only come with a relationship with God. Though I didn't know her, it hurt to see that she believed the lie that "Better" was death. I am sorry that she let go.

[@anthonybriggs7061]

What an odd cold mother - poor Naomi 💔

[@nolafan4612]

You can see the contentious attitude her mother has for her. Her mom seems like an ice queen. Poor Naomi! I thank God every day for the supportive and most loving mother I have had all my life.

[@k.g.m.254]

The fact that Naomi can communicate SO well in front of one of the most emotionally hurtful persons for her. She was a pillar of strength for SO many years...it was eventually too much. 😭😭😭

[@joycenesselhauf1220]

It’s heartbreaking that Naomi couldn’t just walk away from that toxic relationship and know she WAS good enough. I had an alcoholic mother and horribly abusive stepmother. I got to adulthood and realized for me to succeed in life mentally and emotionally I had to leave both of those relationships behind me. It’s too bad her mother didn’t love Naomi for who she was. May she have peace now.

[@joycenesselhauf1220]

@@maen9691 In that depth of depression there is no reasoning; no thought of the consequence. There is only a want to stop the pain….the thought or feeling that one cannot go on.

[@lorrainetaylor8570]

Thankyou 💗💗💗💗💗💗

[@germaineprien7691]

You got that right!!!🙌

[@pamelabrown9484]

I think her mother, also a victim of abuse, loved Naomi with what tools she had...Remember these ladies are from diff generations, where in her mothers generation one just soldiered on... I think if her mother had gotten the help she needed things would have been different. So very sad no matter who you label the abuser/victim... They both were!

[@user-oz7nw9sq7y]

I had a mother just like this. COLD and so arrogant! She always needed to be right and I never felt loved or safe. One time I told her how I really felt and she played the victim and wouldn’t speak to me for years. When my father died I think I cried everyday for a year, depressed for many more about the loss. When she died I did not share one tear. I can relate so much to Naomi, may she Rest In Peace now.

[@lb1798]

I AM.....so sorry😔💔

[@johnhuber354]

Same For me.

[@beverlynielsen860]

Their is to much focus on their relationship with one another which can make the situation dysfunctional

[@doreendaykin6693]

😢

[@tenaciousone4721]

Mother's like this do more damage than any member of the opposite sex could try to wage.

[@eyelutalulu7266]

I see the yearning of approval that Naomi seems to search from her mom. Breaks my heart. RIP Naomi, know that you were loved so much by your fans.

[@lb1798]

But for Naomi....I dont think it was enough....Sad beyond words.

[@eyelutalulu7266]

@@lb1798 yeah, seems like it might not have been .

[@lb1798]

@@eyelutalulu7266 On the Judd docuseries that was on OWN....part 3 & 4 told the whole story...❤️💔💔💔😔😢 its on You Tube

[@tammyjones8136]

Yes… wow it’s so sad.

[@whatagreatlife]

I agree. She couldn’t love that woman into the ground - she is so defeating

[@sandracarstairs7232]

I feel so bad for what she went through in her life the abuse the cold mom and the torment that depression caused her I hope she’s at peace now She deserved all the best I pray she’s happy in heaven 🕊💐

[@desiderata333]

Naomi gave her mother wayyy too much credit due to their trauma bond.

[@michellescarborough16]

lAs a mother myself, I. noticed that Naomi's mother never even looked at her in a loving way. Almost hateful in a way. You will AWAYS love your child no matter what they do, but you don't have to like what they do. Two very different things. Your in Jesus's love now Naomi. Rest In Peace. You will be missed sweet lady.

[@houston5568]

Mom probably has heard how she was to blame for a lot of Naomi's problems and is very defensive; in a way I don't blame her for those feelings; reading Naomi's book it sounds like she did the best she could under the circumstances. Not make excuses for her.

[@Switzer1234]

YOU'RE (not YOUR) in Jesus' love now. YOU'RE = YOU ARE YOUR does NOT = YOU ARE

[@michellescarborough16]

@@Switzer1234 You must have a lot of time on your hands. It was a typo!

[@Cynthia00007]

AMEN✝️✌️♥️

[@Ginger_AIe]

@@Switzer1234 do you feel better now?

[@pamelabrand5210]

That is a relationship that I would have had to walk away from and never looked back. My heart bleeds for Naomi…what she had to deal with her whole life…to try to achieve that woman’s acceptance.

[@ch-xl3xm]

Makes you wonder if that uncle that molested Naomi could have been one of her mom's brothers could be why the name isn't mentioned and her mom may have not believed her. Makes you wonder why their relationship wasn't good for so long. Dear God when a child tells you someone touched them that person needs to be arrested immediately. My Dad was in WWII I know what he would have done and my mom was very protective of us. I thank God for them they have passed on now.

[@pamelabrand5210]

@@ch-xl3xm So true…that feeling when your mother doesn’t believe you when you tell them you’ve been touched is none you ever forget, I know first hand. Although my mother never treated me like hers did…she eventually realized I was telling the truth about her friend. I just pray she has peace now.

[@mariannemarek6683]

@@ch-xl3xm Maybe even her Mom was molested too by the brother. My Mom had a pedophile that married her Aunt and my Mom had nightmares saying help help and my Dad would wake her up. Years later my Mom was told that this man fled Europe because he was a pedophile. All she ever told us is that he made her skin crawl when she was a child. No one really knows only God. I admire the family they are making lemonade from lemons and helping others by sharing. Their Mom is proud of them for helping others.

[@LS-ek1fd]

And she never did, get her Mom’s acceptance.

[@lisacranmer8005]

@@ch-xl3xm I agree

[@DallasTexas8888]

Uh oh Polly is giving her the glare which means Polly feels judged. Meaning Polly can lecture but Daughter Naomi must never complain. Daughter Naomi must listen and do as she is told.

[@kishagreen4578]

A lot of moms feel that way. And it hurtful to their children especially daughters.

[@taramoonshadow363]

HORRIBLE!

[@anabaird3835]

I think that's just her resting face. Some ppl look angry all the time bc of lines btwn their brows from reading alot of books, focusing, or just plain genetics. Or, if ya have a round face, age causes all that roundness in one's cheeks to droop & thus pull the corners of one's mouth down.

[@sandrajensen647]

Cold mother. I believe this is where Naomi illness came from. Naomi is a sweet gentle soul.

[@taramoonshadow363]

TERRIBLE!

[@tenaciousone4721]

You are 100 % right.

[@livewithnick]

From one video you make a strong statement about her mother where she really said nothing bad. She even praised her daughter. Then you make an uneducated diagnosis on Naomi at the same time. Weird…🤔

[@jennyhayes2883]

She was molested by a family member at 3 or 4 yrs old...that's why she had mental issues

[@sks8269]

Ok, I will chime in on this comment because I'm from that neck of the woods. Growing up in those parts, I understand how one can take out of context the demeanor of her Mother being cold from watching this. Her Mother isn't cold...just a southern woman raised to be strong and emotions don't play huge parts. Does this mean she didn't love Naomi? No. Not at all. Stop trying to diagnose/blame what happened to a person from a video due to some issues with her Momma. It's a mother/daughter thang!! Show some respect.

[@septube26]

Naomi said her mom was cold. They never had a good relationship. Naomi watches her words in this interview.

[@Ed-uz6em]

There’s allot of hurt in this family

[@flourpower7417]

I see what she meant. Now we can see ....

[@lb1798]

@@flourpower7417 This interview shows the core of it all.

[@veronicaherrera7586]

@@Ed-uz6em like most families. We all need God’s grace. But Naomi felt tremendous guilt for leaving her girls with relatives while she pursued her dreams. Ashley wrote about it in her book. May Naomi Rest In Peace

[@jennjames1977]

I Must Say, Naomi Loved Her Mother, BUT She Didn't Like Her Mother's Choices In Life! Plus Don't Judge Her Mother, She Was Married Out At A Very Young Age! Living Back Then Was Hard & No Birth Control Her Mother Gave Birth At A Very Young Age! They Both Went Threw The Death Of Naomi's Brother, After A Long Battle With Cancer At The Young Age Of 17 Years Old! No Mother Is Ever Perfect! Please Spread #JuddStrong #SuicideHelp #NeverStopTryingToLive

[@Entertainm897]

Depression comes from family emotional disconnections… from dysfunctional parents. If one parent isn’t present, physically and/or emotional in a child’s life, then he/she will grow-up with a permanent emptiness in his/her life. Healthy love of both parents is greatly needed to become an adult free of emotional illness…. But the mother’s role, of bonding is the most critical… The father can be missing, but the love & care of a great mother cannot! This story is a great example 💔

[@tnt01]

100%

[@veronicaherrera7586]

And grief from mistakes and brokenness We all have some brokenness but there’s a tipping point. Rest In Peace

[@rhondablack8079]

It also can come from tyrannical fathers. My ex husband was this way with my daughter

[@patriciasalas4210]

The mother doesn't realize what she is saying " she would not love her if she doesn't do as the mother wants" that is horrible specially with her background of criminals in her family

[@kimberlystrother5134]

What a cold mother. I can totally relate. She even questions loving her child unconditionally if they make mistakes. She looks at Naomi with her nose in the air.

[@annward4149]

My mom was cold unloving and always right. I could never do anything right and never was good enough. I was verbally abused with hateful words. That have scared me for life. I was under my mom control until I was 64 yr now I'm 70. She passed away when I was 64. I've learned it's ok to breath without fear. When she passed away. I looked over to my husband tears streaming down my face and said I am free. I didn't go to her funeral and I'm still ok with that. I'll never totally be ok . But life is better and I don't get sick at my stomach when. The phone rings.

[@emh8861]

@ Ann Ward Enjoy the rest of your life . You deserve to be happy.

[@annward4149]

@@emh8861 thank you for saying those kind words

[@maryc6091]

@@annward4149 Sometimes you just got to do what you have to do to survive. It’s sad when you don’t go to your parent’s funeral but if that’s what it takes to be yourself then so be it.

[@annward4149]

@@maryc6091 I didn't go to her funeral to be myself. It was for a life time of reasons. That you couldn't even began to understand .

[@danieldalton6544]

This must have been BEFORE their reality show because Naomi let out a lot of anguish regarding her mother and her mother didn't accept the invite to their final tour show.

[@kittygrrlhk]

Mothers can also have a lasting effective on their sons. My dad's mother criticized him his whole life and it caused him to have a lot of depression.

[@carolyndehart1402]

Naomi is beautiful! I see her as (flawless), she has the most beautiful smile and she is warm hearted . I love Naomi ! She is a great artist!! I'm 72 and I know all about being a mother of 2 small girls in the Appalachian mountains of KY. I know the feeling of despair and the fear of never feeling that I would ever escape the poverty of not being able to feed my children good food. (Home Made Vegetable Soup) was a source of making it from one week to the other. I respect the Judd's to the fullest. Times were difficult back in those days . God Bless Naomi, Wynonna, and Ashley. Carolyn

[@mariannemarek6683]

Thank you Carolyn for sharing. People do the best they can and No One knows what demons each is fighting. Each person loves differently. In her Moms'time you showed love by providing for your children. Her Mom grew up in the Depression and that had an affect on her. Little time to cuddle and hug when trying to survive. I have the greatest respect and admiration for the people of Appalachia and love them dearly for their strength and courage.

[@mmarco612]

This is so hard to watch now. Her mom was so cold. RIP Naomi

[@lb1798]

It TRULY WAS..... hard to watch....and insightful at the same time. 💔😔😢

[@bernadetteb.maston735]

No wonder she has no wrinkles. The mom. I'm glad she wasn't my mom inlaw.

[@annebalderston2520]

The mother sounds like she is saying she will never love her in the way she needs her to.

[@rainingonyourcharade]

This was actually painful to watch. I remember hearing Naomi once say her mother wasn’t capable of loving her because she didn’t know how, and I finally understood what she meant seeing this. Her mother didn’t look proud or grateful, instead she looked resentful, hostile, and heartless. It seems that much to her mother’s chagrin, her daughter made an impact on the world she wished she’d been able to make, lived a life she wished she’d lived, had the beauty she wished she had, and lived the life she wished she’d had. This makes me somehow respect Naomi even more, she is truly a legend.

[@MsSugar1209]

I feel a lot of jealousy as well.

[@lb1798]

#ISoAgree

[@lucilleyork2428]

They both did the best they could. I did. You did. It's just the way it is.

[@boundariessetinstone5893]

Mothers who give silent treatment to their kids are abusers and 🗑🚮 it’s our duty to reach our kids with our hearts. RIP Naomi 🙏🏼🌻I’m sorry you didn’t get the love, approval, validation you so desperately wanted from your mother I know the feeling. I don’t care if me and my baby ever fight if she’s 60 I’ll always be the one to reach out and open her heart again. Mothers who do this do extreme damage to their children we are the parents act like it. F adults and their trauma passing shit on to their kids grow tf up man up woman up for your kids.

[@boundariessetinstone5893]

@Lucille York Don’t give me that bs what it take to love your kid validate your kid nothing it’s f free give me a break.

[@tinavestal2154]

It is painfully obvious that Naomi is so much wiser than her mother. Her mother's egotism and pride interfered with her ability to love and accept her beautiful daughter, so heartbreaking 💔

[@boundariessetinstone5893]

Same with me and my mother in so f exhausted from trying to teach her smh

[@boundariessetinstone5893]

Mothers who give silent treatment to their kids are abusers and 🗑🚮 it’s our duty to reach our kids with our hearts. RIP Naomi 🙏🏼🌻I’m sorry you didn’t get the love, approval, validation you so desperately wanted from your mother I know the feeling. I don’t care if me and my baby ever fight if she’s 60 I’ll always be the one to reach out and open her heart again. Mothers who do this do extreme damage to their children we are the parents act like it. F adults and their trauma passing shit on to their kids grow tf up man up woman up for your kids.

[@pattyvanpilsum9897]

@@boundariessetinstone5893 ..AMEN.! THATS THE TRUTH..!!

[@jennaburg5177]

Poor Naomi , what a cold mother !

[@Judy2aT]

There can be jealousy from moms, sometimes, and that's what I see here.

[@lasuvidaboy]

Exactly. Naomi was beautiful, talented and by all accounts very caring. Her mother may have been jealous of all that.

[@ZRanchLady]

I see a highly narcissistic mother and a highly sensitive empathic daughter. That is a very volitile combination and says volumes about why Naomi took her life the way she did. Damn, she tried so hard to heal too. Some never do. RIP angel girl.💗

[@inharmsway1965]

@@ZRanchLady Mom never used Naomi’s name, referred to her as she, very strange.

[@cassiebrown9786]

I experienced jealousy from my own mother. I still remember I couldn't ever measure up. I think the dynamics between Naomi and Wynonna had a lot to do with ego. Wynonna was estranged from Naomi for a long time, but seemed to patch things up before Naomi passed away. Mother/dsughter relationships can be so complicated.

[@gigieyre]

Mom's body language is saying much more than her mouth. Poor Naomi. Growing up with the ice lady must have been very difficult. People just don't realize the lasting damage a parent can make on a child. People think you can just get over it or grow up and grow out of those feelings. It's usually the opposite. Those feelings just grow and get worse, unless they're truly dealt with.

[@cooltoad7828]

That’s so true! I’m 27 and my mother fails to understand and thinks I’m a crybaby when I tell her that the one time she scolded me when I was 8 affects me to this day, etc.

[@Cynthia00007]

Yes, her mother even gives the🙄. It seems that her mother played a major part of her mental depression. It's oblivious that her mother was disconnected with Naomi throughout her stages of life. It's very sad and such a loss how much Naomi suffered. I think Naomi was always looking for acceptance from her mother, that's the way I see it. GOD let there be PEACE for NAOMI. ♥️🎶Love Can Build A Bridge🎶♥️ ✝️♾️ 5-13-22

[@donnacollingridge5709]

She is such a beautiful woman inside and out.You can tell she is really hurting.Depression is a deep dark illness.It is like being in a hole and you cannot climb out no matter how hard you try.The best thing she did do was go to Professionals and getting it out by talking about it.Very sad I think she felt unloved and unwanted by her mother and she carried this burden for years.May she rest in peace.

[@barbaracubert4782]

@@Cynthia00007 Why judge the mom maybe we don't know what she has been through

[@ravenraven966]

@@donnacollingridge5709 , I had a mother like this. It affected my whole life. I've tried everything but the damage is deep to the core. Same with Naomi... Even with all her success and all her availability to medical care....... As we can see , some wounds cannot be healed... I pray all the time for the strength to get through each day. I truly don't know how I make it through each day. I'm so weary and all alone in this world. Thanks for understanding. ❤️

[@meganb5710]

I grew up listening to the Judd's. Naomi was/is the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. I now, at 39 years old, can relate to her so deeply.... especially in my unexplainable depression

[@kara_haight]

Naomi was so beautiful

[@beealexanders2450]

THATS PROBABLY WHY HER MOM HATED HER BECAUSE SHE WAS TO BEAUTIFUL

[@jessicajones3379]

@@beealexanders2450you are probably right. I think that’s why my mother was like that towards me. I finally had to give up on trying to get her to love me and just walk away

[@beealexanders2450]

@@jessicajones3379 it depressed me alot through out my life but I have finally let her go thank you for your message

[@hoagymapleton2206]

About 3 hours ago my best friend for over 30 years quit his job he showed up drunk and made his way back home crying and throwing up and apologizing I told him it's okay don't worry about anything Danny I love you you'll be okay after watching this interview I'm thinking the core of why he drinks is he never got love or validation from his father or his mother and that never ends even though I give him an avalanche of love he still doesn't feel Worthy I'm thankful to whoever posted this so I can gather that information.. I'm hoping God will lead us to where we go from here I'll never leave his side though I know that

[@boundariessetinstone5893]

The mothers is the most important she is the lifeline to the children.

[@hoagymapleton2206]

@@boundariessetinstone5893 exactly,, he can't even remember what his mother looks like she didn't know how to be present neither one of them ever said I love you to him and there's no pictures of when he was little they don't exist., I always said that he can easily be a sniper with the cards dealt to him but instead he's the most nice and most humble decent person I've ever met., I thank you for your input

[@allison2941]

This was my mother. I see it so clearly. I would have died. Her lack of love and control over me would have killed me if I hadn’t found God’s love and worth he created me to have. Jesus restored my value and worth so I no longer needed my mothers love and approval. Praise God for that. Rip Naomi. Such a sweet gentle soul.

[@ruth_gordon]

AMEN. I feel the same. So grateful for God's healing love 🙏

[@Lpetq]

Me too. Glad I no longer look for my moms approval.

[@CarolynMatyjanka]

So.much.this!!! 😳😭🤗

[@SunnyDays70s]

My story too :) ❤

[@shannons8724]

I feel nothing but hurt for Naomi 😞 her mother seems like she just wants to over talk her

[@LoriAbner]

Why in the world didn’t her mother help her when she struggled to raise her girls?

[@eyelutalulu7266]

makes me wonder too.

[@jacquelineperry4790]

Maybe mom was showing her hard love she may not have been who she is if mom had helped her sometimes kids and parents don’t make it as a family.

[@poodledaddles1091]

Naomi wanted to get away from her mother, I also think that she indirectly blamed her for her molestation

[@TypicalScrapbooker]

Naomi also had very deep pain because her mother kept her away from her father.

[@pattyvanpilsum9897]

Just because you have children does Not make someone a Mother

[@louisejones7891]

Naomi is one of most amazing creations of conversation. Her words her speech her softness. Ashley speaks so much like her mother. The words they use to express themselves are soul touching. Where WY uses her singing voice. Rip NJ

[@Citrusfruits50]

Naomi was stunning

[@kathleengrice6754]

Being this vulnerable takes amazing courage; Naomi was an amazing human.

[@aliciapena373]

Naomi looks really hurt and reverses to a child look when discussing her role as a daughter in their relationship.

[@doniellestenson3502]

My mother was critical of my physical appearance.Always making remarks about my weight. As well as negative comments alluding to my mental health.If you are raised like this.You become groomed ,conditioned if you will.My self esteem,my body image ,self doubt were impacted.She was my mother..The most toxic relationship of my life.

[@TheSonjaxfactor]

Sadly, I can relate.

[@shannons8724]

Naomi said it right I rather be happy than right...... So many mothers these days just have to be right. I have one those

[@joylopez2735]

I have so much gratitude for this mother & daughter sharing with the viewers the importance of communication, and speaking in loving words--despite their own past struggles and tribulations. This is their love building a bridge in action, words, and presence. 🌺Much love to Ashley & Wynonna Judd--their Pop, too.

[@vickireed2936]

Best comment ever. The judgement in many of the comments of this mother is horrible.

[@80carolegriffin]

If u watched the movie Love can build a bridge, it goes in to what causes their estrangement. Naomi refused to testify against her dad in her parents divorce proceedings. Her mother didn’t forgive her for that and they were estranged for years. They didn’t make up until the funeral of Naomi’s dad. Parents shouldn’t put their kids in the middle of their problems. I was around Naomi every year at fan club parties. She was the sweetest person. She made u feel so welcome. It rips my heart out to see the recent videos of her where she was clearly struggling mentally. My hope is that she and her mother are together and that they are at peace.

[@sweetreny1155]

Exactly she should've never expected her child to testify in grown folk business first of all. That's so not right no wonder why she was dealing with so much and depression hit her hard because her mother expect her to testify against her father who she had a different relationship with than her mother shame on her mother for doing that to her.

[@dianebradley1470]

Oh my gosh what a cold icy mother the reason they divorced nomia s DAD and MOm she ran him off with her icy heart her mom thinks she's never wrong and perfect far from it may you rest in peace nomia God has blessed you you are with him now and angles I love you wyonnia and ash

[@lisacranmer8005]

@@sweetreny1155 what if the Father almost killed the Mom and the FATHER broke the Mom back and almost killed her for defending herself after he hits her on the Head, grabs her by the neck and said no man will ever want you except for your body....would it be wise that a 18 year old be there? Well, my x put both my adult KIDS against me.... they both went against me...When I did zero..almost died of Sepsis, pancreatitis and had gastroparesis....to top it off..not one of my friends were there to help me except for 1....one who went above and beyond for me but my own kids lied about me behind my back.....I had no idea after 24 years of love and compassion and being a great MOM....my own kids went against me.... results....my son is 32 year old dead beat loser on the street, and Bipolar daughter remarried and has a daughter and wants to be in my life, after lies and jail and secrets....No way...She had the nerves to send me letter when she never told me son gf was doing illegal activities.....talked about her night after night and she NEVER told me.... protect her Father...can you believe it....The neighbor was told things behind my back but he was who married me and abused me, I just would not argue...he was who always was sneaky and bully me over and over.... self righteous but talk about private things behind my back...what happens in the dark will come out to the light no one can mock Jeh God and be blessed..

[@kimfrank2417]

The mother looks evil and unloveable I feel Naomi problems started with her mom. Rest in peace

[@Hatari2u]

This is so sad. You can see the contempt her mother has for her. Her mother and my mother are exactly the same. She would NEVER be able to receive validation or true affection from this woman. Sadly I understand completely and struggle with the same feelings of knowing I not only have a mother that didn’t love me, but having a mother that actively tries to tear me down and wants to see me fail. No level of success makes you immune to the mental agony of it.

[@pattyvanpilsum9897]

Yes I Understand And Identify With What You Have Said, I Had A Mother Like That Too..I Have Left The Family Been Gone Since 17 Yrs Old, I'm Now 59 And I Have Spoken To Her Briefly 3 Times Over All These Years, ..But I Understand From Others That She Still Tries To Plot Against Me From Afar And Wants To Know All That She Can About Me..She Is A Wicked Old Soul Who Is Living In Her Own Pain And Agony..My Only Brother Out Of 5 Siblings Tried Hard And Struggled With Trying To Get The Love And Attention Of Our Mother Over The Years, But He Failed In Doing That, And I Received A Phone Call Feb 24 2019 From My Oldest Sister That My Brother Had Committed Suicide..I Had Cut My Ties And Lost All Contact With My Siblings Because The Hate And Anger Of My Mother Was Passed On Through Them Too And It Was Impossible To Have A Relationship With Any If Them..But I Have Found Jesus Christ And Recieved The Baptism Of Both Water And Spirit Acts 2:2 (KJV) And suddenly there came a sound from heaven as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled all the house where they were sitting..) And Jesus Has Given Me A New Family And A Beautiful New Life..Today And Tomorrow Are Pain Free Days, Better Days For Me, A Completely Different Day Then That Of The 17 Yr Old Girl Who Lived In Pain So Long Ago.. I'm Blessed Now And Happy and Free, I'm Loved By Our Wonderful God Jehova Nissi, And There Is No Void Or Hole That Exists In Me, Just Simply The Message Of All That God Has Brought Me Through And Given To Me So That I Might Glorify Him And Help The Others On Their Journeys Back Home..

[@doreendaykin6693]

That Mother….. I don’t believe she could give her daughter (Naomi ) the love she deserved or truly celebrate how beautiful or amazing her daughter was. This interview made me very sad. That mother…. Cold as ice.. it appears to me that to give her daughter love..gratitude or appreciation would somehow take something from herself… She has to retain power or something…. She just cannot bare to let Naomi know how wonderful she is. Always has to leave Naomi feeling like she is just not quite enough…….Very unsettling…. I don’t believe that Mother deserved Naomi as a daughter …….

[@inharmsway1965]

Naomi did not have on too much makeup, her makeup was just right and not much more than mom was wearing, the criticism was unreal.

[@AmandaHW1984]

At 38 I still look to my mom for acceptance too. It feels good to be able to finally give each other that.

[@davos86]

Her mother seems very very cold.

[@gkespinoza777]

Yes she was. Naomi says so in later videos.

[@gkespinoza777]

@Piscesempress Yes, me too. My mother was a sweetheart 💕 I believe Naomi's mother probably contributed to her mental illness. So sad. May she rest in peace

[@Catfluff521]

She actually described her mother as a “refrigerator” who she could not talk to about her childhood sexual abuse. Naomi was beautiful, may she Rest In Peace.

[@mhenry4248]

Yes

[@debbiegaley2331]

I agree

[@AmandaHW1984]

The tension is thick! They're both trying to choose their words carefully.

[@melrose795]

The air is very thick and a wall between them. Naomi seems to be cowering somewhat, Momma seems arrogant and cold.

[@annebalderston2520]

She is trying to appease her mother and get her approval. It’s never going to happen. That is the unhealthy part- she needs to stop trying so hard and let her mother go. This is re-wounding.🙏🏻

[@virginiawatson4845]

Yes her mother is very rude and un caring to her daughter . She is why Naomi has her mental disease!

[@donnapalmer9405]

She said her mom was not a good mom..

[@jeupelissa751]

So sad,but true. Parents who never wanted to become parents, never forgive the unwanted children for being born. As Naomi said once in a talk on stage, there was no love from her mother- because her mother didn't even know what that was.

[@donnapalmer9405]

@@jeupelissa751 So true I am one of those children

[@doreendaykin6693]

This Mother was clearly absolutely & completely jealous of her daughter ( Naomi) 😢😢😢💔

[@DDR7676]

The mother, was very critical of Naomi and pressed her so hard that she reverted to being internal and suffer thru so much negativity and never feeling worthy. Naomi, you was a great mom and your free of all dark and sadness in a beautiful placed we all wait to see… fly just fly Naomi. We love you 🥰

[@mamas-jeep1984]

I grew up w a mom like this.. Cold to me.. and she ghosted me for years after kicking me out at 16.. It's a void even if you know they aren't capable of loving you.. I believe it contributed to my fibro/ osteoarthritis.. Long term neglect/ abuse and not being loved by my mother.. destroyed a part of me.. She died surrounded by her2 golden children and that hurt me more.. My mother was married many times w 4 kids by 3 guys

[@tabby1412]

Forget her. Let it all go.

[@brewster13ful]

I can totally relate. My mother died two years ago. I struggled my whole life to get along with her. She loved her boys and treated me like i was the competition. The only thing i learned from her was not to be like her.

[@laraoneal7284]

@@brewster13ful so many of these identical stories on the NARCISSIST CHANNELS here on YT. God bless you.

[@eyelutalulu7266]

@@brewster13ful so sorry to read this. May you move in light, strength and happiness. Blessings to you.

[@nineyzavala82]

It's makes u a better person and stronger GOd bless you

[@skyangelthefan]

Nurse Naomi you have been relieved of your earthly duties. Soar high and continue on with your work for fighting for those suffering in pain and your music will continue to make us happy on earth. You helped bring awareness to the pain of fighting mental illness and you will not be forgotten. You were a FIGHTER!

[@123JustBecause]

There is a lot of love and pain at that table.

[@rachelstone7072]

💖The Judds, thanks for Teaching U.S. so many things!💖God Bless..

[@michelemurphy3541]

Polly is giving that glareI have referred to over the years…it is a look people who have deep issues give when they are sizing up an opponent. Very sad but a very telling video. My heartfelt condolences.

[@lisacranmer8005]

My x gave that look...to people....the I'm going to kill you later look..

[@laraoneal7284]

The mother is very removed emotionally. I had a mother just like this and I ghosted her permanently. Knew she never loved me. She even told she didn’t love me. I just was fed up with her toxicity and stopped by the time I was 26 sending Mother’s Day cards, stopped all holiday cards and gifts. Stopped showing up for holidays. Never saw her again. She never even asked me what was wrong. She died in 2015. Was not invited to funeral. Never would have gone anyway. More to this story but I just went no contact with my family of origin period. Researched toxic family dynamics and went no contact .

[@NK-4628]

I am No Contact as well, 9 years now. Hardest thing but best thing I could do. Only child, growing up with daily emotional and physical abuse, it continued into adulthood. I was doing family ancestry research in October 2019... I find an obituary online. My father had died in May of that year, and NOBODY, not friends, not family, not a soul told me. Turns out he had a widow maker heart attack, and she continues to play the victim. If there was any reason to doubt my decision, this cemented it. She still sends Christmas and birthday cards to my kids, and I just keep sending them back. She lives in a gated community, and can come/go at any time. Nobody can enter there without a passcode. I am always looking over my shoulder. It's been very difficult.

[@lorrainetaylor8570]

Thankyou for sharing that.the 💗💗💗

[@llogsdon9930]

You can see the eggshells Naomi was walking on

[@mpjpugs]

I can see Naomi wants love from this woman but she will not.Unfortunately,this woman is callous and freezing cold and Naomi should have broken this chain and remained working on she and her girls.

[@ttvictor]

It’s so remarkable the parallels of the relationship dynamic between Naomi and her mother, and Wy and Naomi.

[@catblack4091]

My goodness. Naomi Judd was one of the most beautiful people, inside and out, to ever live. She's just gorgeous.

[@lasuvidaboy]

The look Naomi’s mother gives her at 5:21 is very telling.

[@sassysunflower9982]

Yes!! I just saw that and then saw your comment. It looked like jealousy to me. Like “how dare she even smile or be happy”. My heart dropped because I’ve seen that look before.

[@victoriaeldridge7029]

I noticed that

[@jolimixx4212]

Her face was like that thru the whole interview, she despised Naomi. She was jealous of her the minute she was born .

[@barbaracubert4782]

@@jolimixx4212 Why judge the mom maybe we don't know what she has been through

[@depatterson6918]

@@barbaracubert4782 Right on. I believe, for the most part, people do the best they can.

[@MrErnieFaison]

Hindsight is 20/20, when watching this interview. To me, you could see and hear the hurt there. And it also seemed like she was holding her mother accountable, too. Such a sad ending. RIP

[@marielaganas3398]

I’m a daughter and a mother My personal opinion there’s always three side to a story. Celebrities are people that have multiple happiness and struggles. Unless you’re in their personal circle. You’re either acquaintance or fans with little real knowledge. Let’s make better decisions and hold deeper bonds with our loved ones. And not belittle or make accusations of others ❤️

[@boundariessetinstone5893]

You can see her moms side all over her face the kind of mother who is shut down, cold and refuses to give love and validate her child.

[@boundariessetinstone5893]

Mothers who give silent treatment to their kids are abusers and 🗑🚮 it’s our duty to reach our kids with our hearts. RIP Naomi 🙏🏼🌻I’m sorry you didn’t get the love, approval, validation you so desperately wanted from your mother I know the feeling. I don’t care if me and my baby ever fight if she’s 60 I’ll always be the one to reach out and open her heart again. Mothers who do this do extreme damage to their children we are the parents act like it. F adults and their trauma passing shit on to their kids grow tf up man up woman up for your kids.

[@boundariessetinstone5893]

The silent generation was an awful generation as far as parenting goes.

[@shannons8724]

Naomi 😞 also feels like she had to appease her how very sad

[@deirdreyearwood3383]

See Mum sipping her tea. Very sad, but that's life. Rest in peace Ms. Naomi, you are loved ❤

[@melissagahn]

Naomi looks so beautiful here, and no she isn't wearing too much makeup. lol Now she is a beautiful angel in Heaven. Rest in Peace, beautiful Naomi.

[@whbbrd]

I'm not going to blame this woman for being so cold because that was probably the result of her upbringing. But she didn't seem equipped to raise a daughter in a way that would foster self esteem and a sense of security. Asking if kids should have "unconditional love" when they do things that the parents don't agree with means "when you don't approve of something, just take your love away." So cruel.

[@eyelutalulu7266]

I agree. Seems like Naomi's mom herself had no one to model love, unconditional love. Breaks my heart that Naomi had to be the bear the lack of love.

[@eternalperspective4136]

Yes, it just seems to be how she is...more logical and pragmatic. It seems that she thought that being rigid and stern was showing love.

[@sonyabowers1437]

I have already committed on how I felt about this unfortunately subject.It is real and it's Sad.I feel like if you had such a bad child hood .then why you gonna have a child into the 🌎 world before you get the help you need.and are able be healthy and ready for being a parent.with love and capable of taking care the child. D

[@sonyabowers1437]

The mother of Naomi probably needed help herself before having children. I really am sad about the whole thing.I guess I need to read the book.

[@Nicoletta13]

It's a shame that even as a grown woman ... Her mother was so cold. . why was she so hateful toward Naomi ? Was losing Brian ( Naomi's brother) make her resent her ?

[@eyespy0070]

Jealous

[@bethwilliams8029]

This video helped me today to set at our family table and I found myself not wanting to leave.

[@MsSugar1209]

Good Lord. That mother is a miserable nightmare.

[@pattipajestka9679]

My gut feeling is that Polly was very very jealous of Naomi. And she took it out on Naomi probably until the day she died. With her Naomi didn’t have a chance in Hell! I know Polly had a rough childhood but there are a lot of people that had rough childhoods and they don’t treat their children like this! Polly is probably one of these people that should not have had kids. But I am so happy we got to have Naomi Diana Ellen Judd in our lives! She was an absolute Blessing!!

[@cindyellis1483]

When I read in her book that her own mother called the CA government to turn her in for getting $100/month cash for taking care of a diabetic patient, I would’ve been DONE. She could barely feed her kids and was on public assistance. Her mom is not a nice person.

[@geylekinfraire8596]

Naomi, such a beautiful woman inside & out, too bad her family couldn't value the gem she was. See you on the other side dear sister.

[@amandam.6859]

Her mother seems very cold. Naomi seems very anxious around her mother.

[@ameliajones2073]

I wonder sometimes if this is a southern thing, or more likely an eastern Kentucky thing. Because my granny and my mommy were from the hills of eastern Kentucky, a little holler called Firebrick. But my mother was so cold, like ice water ran threw her veins. And granny was just a strong brassy southern mama. But I see so much the same thing in my family. My mom could be so cruel, all my aunts as well, and no warmth or love. If I got hurt, as a very young child, all I'd hear, is " that'll learn ya, you'll not do that no more, will ya! It made me tough, but it hurt me in my any ways.

[@Rebel377]

My family is from Kentucky and all the women in my family are like this. My mother is definitely a cold ice queen.

[@Armistead_MacSkye]

Polly seems like a vicious old crow. Happy journey, Naomi 🕊

[@jlit1336]

I think Polly didnt want to talk publicly about private issues. That generation hid things. Out of love she made an appearance, but was uncomfortable. It was probably very different with the cam off.

[@Lizzysheart777]

I don't know. I want to give Naomi's mom the benefit of the doubt. We don't know what secret pain she may have had inside her that makes her appear cold. I have known people like her and have felt very uncomfortable around them, but that doesn't mean they are that way inside. On the opposite side of the spectrum there are those (though few, thankfully) who are the most winsome and charming on the outside but are harboring dark and perhaps evil secrets inside. We really can never judge a book by it's cover. Personally, I think Naomi was a deeply feeling person where her mother was the opposite. That may be why Naomi felt very disconnected from her mother. That's my 2 cents worth.

[@jesicalynn4299]

Elizabeth your thoughts on their relationship is spot on! I agree. Naomi had a Big Heart and was always considerate of people's feelings. Her mother doesn't seem like she shares that same attribute. Unfortunately, I have the same Problem with my Mother. I care so deeply for others and am so Empathetic. My mother is not at all. She is very cold and insensitive. She never shows Empathy or any feelings at all. We have a very strained relationship. I have tried so hard to talk to her and tell her how I feel. I have poured my heart out, tears streaming down my face begging to have a good relationship with me. For her to look at me and ask me why am I crying? Her famous line is "Get Over It". I'm 38 years old and I try so hard to not seek my Mother's Love and approval. It's so hard to not care. I've cried many tears, but I'm working on just letting it be. She is who she is I guess. I know I have a heart of gold and I'm proud of that. I get it from My Father. I hope Naomi is at peace. She was so beautiful and Sweet. Sending love and positivity your way. 💙💫

[@lisacranmer8005]

I agree..said same..I got the looks and was treated so bad but I KEPT secrets and peace while they lied over and over and talked about people all over the place..

[@lisacranmer8005]

@@jesicalynn4299 We find others who live to love....DNT beg for love...my mom left me alone in the mall with no supervision to defend myself, so she could go out and be treated nice behind my Father's back....tell me to be at the other side where my Father would be when mall closed...I have no IDEA why I never said anything, except for I was tought to keep my mouth shut....to then be with a abuser of a husband who broke my back and almost my neck...who left me on the streets and Even in this horrible time my own mother would insult me, tell me that I DNT even buy her a chocolate... Wowwwww...I have no money barely and I was out night after night with no sleep and she needs to insult me...The wicked women who knew my x said he was going to put me in a nursing home.... really...he was having me drug up....no help for the Chronic pains he inflicted on my body, yet he was who called my job and told me to stay home....hitting me on my HEAD for no reason...hitting my son and put the bipolar wicked daughter on a pedestal....lier playing victim all over.... never calls me to say that he is sorry but runs AWAY from me when he sees me...looks at me sideways....the person who was abusing me since day one... Narc and even said why you DNT look at me when I talk to you....but never said he slept with alot of people, had no problem telling friends behind my back the TRUTH...lied to attorneys and talked about me to the neighbors and even said I DNT take baths when he has water heater on a timer....all was controlled by the phycopath...

[@Dfender67]

@@lisacranmer8005 I’m so sorry for all you have gone through! I hope you got away from him! Stay away from Narcissistic people! You deserve better!

[@elainelevenseller5568]

OMG that amazing view from your windows behind you is heavenly. I believe that was something that gave Naomi so much strength at times. You was and still an amazing women along with you two beautiful daughters and unwavering husband. Bless each and everyone of you. ❣️🌈🌹🐎🙏🏼

[@jenjen7728]

Naomi was on the tour bus during the reality show 25 years later talking about how awful her relationship is with her mother.

[@sassysunflower9982]

I can tell a lot by the way Naomi is wringing her hands. She’s under a lot of stress talking to her mother. I do that when I’m extremely nervous. Trying to hold myself together. Sad.

[@NK-4628]

Yes, I saw this as well. She's treading on eggshells with everything she says or does. What a stone-cold witch of a woman. I can see that Naomi brought SO MUCH SHAME to their "perfect" family, and nothing would have ever rectified that. Such textbook narcissistic behaviour,it makes me hurt so much for Naomi. I grew up with coldness just like this.

[@2flyb11]

The only time her mom showed more of a reaction was when she was being negative saying she had too much make-up

[@sandrajagroop383]

You could see straight through that mother. Really cold woman.

[@cosettelaplante699]

My mother was intellectually challenged. We didn't have much of a relationship. However, no animosity. Due to her mental challenges, I was raised as a ward of the court. My last foster mother was similar to Polly. And she was the closest thing I had to a mother. That said, I haven't spoken to her in nearly 30 years. The only thing positive about having lived with her is my sense of right and wrong... And that I am a hard worker and keep a nice home.

[@eileendoherty2836]

Cold woman for sure hug you daughter 💕🤗❤️

[@rjn6953]

Naomi was a terrific person. She will always be missed...

[@moonpie4480]

You can feel the chill its almost cringy watching them ( I don't mean it in a disrespectful way) not so much on Naomi's part, she always seem so motherly to everyone. I just want to reach in there and give her a big Ole hug. I wish Naomi could've found peace in their relationship RIP sweet lady you will be missed 😢 💔

[@valindamcqueen2443]

This is a very telling video and makes me very sad. I'm nearly 70 and have (and have had) relatives like this that impacted my entire adult life. It took years to sort out and still haunts me. I'm a whole different person but it does strain your self image until you finally figure out- it's THEM, not you.....Still mourning over Naomi as I loved those girls and have fond memories of dancing to their early music every week in Nebraska. They were so dynamic and gifted as a duo.

[@mexikunt]

I need mothers to understand how important they are in their daughters lives. It's a unique relationship. She's supposed to love you and protect you unconditionally for the rest of time, yet many mothers like Naomi's are so cold. The pain of having a mother like that is unimaginable and has so much impact, more than people think. I feel terrible for Naomi. I simply don't understand how you can be so cold toward your own baby. But I guess Naomi is right- hurt people hurt people until someone ends the cycle.

[@meadowbay529]

“would have wiped out so many lesser people”! I guess Naomi’s mother was not aware that just because people deal with illness differently, it does not make them lesser people. Naomi was so lovely and sweet, obviously did not get those traits from her mum.

[@lindafloyd9371]

She was a beautiful soul I can tell her spirit was broke over her mom but you can’t fix toxic just a shame she took her life depression is a terrible thing

[@jimrebr]

Yikes, this is uncomfortable and so sad, poor Naomi. Her grief with her mother is palpable.

[@tortiecat6459]

There may have been jealousy on the part of Polly towards Naomi's success and how she persevered through many hardships. She struggled to compliment her daughter. That was evident in the video. Sounds eerily like Karen Carpenter's mother, Agnes.

[@sandygoddard7478]

I'm noticing Naomi looking to her mother for approval and support, and her mother isn't having it and is aloof. So f'n sad how stern her mother is, turning Naomi out like that!

[@sheilaboroviak2714]

It's sad that as loved and adored as she was by her fans, that was never enough and the one person whose love she wanted most was never able to give that to her. In a way, not nearly as much, Naomi was also like that with Wynonna. I read Wynonnas book recently she said when she brough Naomi on the Oprah show it was because she just wanted her to be her mom and say she loved her and instead Naomi ended up plugging her book instead of just hearing what Wy wanted to say and letting it be about her and what she was going through.

[@dianar7055]

Yes, it's generational trauma. I was watching Ken Burns Country music documentary recently and the way Naomi spoke about her daughter, I was shocked! I sat there and thought why is this woman stunted emotionally, that she feels some sort of jealous personal competition with her own daughter?? That just spoke volumes about her maturity as a mother. Her words made it seem as if they were two bickering sisters instead of a mature mother with a daughter whose talent she was proud of and wanted her to rise beyond. Then I do some research on her own mother and it all made sense. Wynonna also passed it on to her daughter no doubt. Terrible and sad.

[@rhondablack8079]

The glare her mother gives her is chilling

[@franelliott8561]

Don't see how Naomi can be comfortable at all with her mom you can see she's nervous and watches what she saids. No empathy at all from her mother sad. So sad. It's amazing how she can forgive such pain from her mom and wonder if it's real genuine. God bless her

[@franelliott8561]

Meant if her mom in genuine by saying she's proud of Naomi.