@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone The comment here "No response is a response". I heard once that when we REACT towards someone and say something like "you MADE me angry" you're giving that person power over you, power over your emotions which I have done all my life. I have been emotionally unstable all my life, and after having found this channel, I hope I can heal and become emotionally wise, level headed and mature.
@lourdesecheverria62099 ай бұрын
"NEVER ALLOW SOMEONE TO BE YOUR PRIORITY WHILE ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE THEIR OPTION." Blessings to all! ❤
@ILENENETERER8 ай бұрын
Yupe, that was me!!!!!
@TheDerangedBlood8 ай бұрын
EXACTLY. I had a "friend" who invited me to go out with her on a Saturday because she didn't have any plans. I sent a text on Saturday morning to see if she wanted to meet up in the afternoon. No response until Tuesday when she wanted something from me. I said, nope...you made plans to go out with me and then ghosted me. In her lying mind, she thought we made plans on Sunday and proceeded to tell me she had plans on Saturday to go on a wine and painting thing. She couldn't even bother to scroll up to my text to see I sent the meeting time on Saturday. I said, so you ghosted me so you could go out with your other friends to a wine event? She knew she was caught in a lie and I wasn't falling for her damage control BS. She even tried to tell me she respected my feelings. I told her, you really need to think about that because if she had ANY respect for me, she would have called or text to cancel. Yeah, we aren't friends anymore. I know the signs and I'm not falling for it.
@lourdesecheverria62098 ай бұрын
@@TheDerangedBlood Just blocked two "friends" who were nothing but users. I gave and gave into the friendship and realized they would cancel and be late and never valued my time or had any respect for my loyalty. Bye narcs! Blessings to you!❤
@TheDerangedBlood8 ай бұрын
@@lourdesecheverria6209 We seriously need to find better friends. It seems almost impossible this day and age which is really, really sad.
@kissmyazzbitches4wat8 ай бұрын
That part ❤
@lizwilliamson83329 ай бұрын
Silence is golden 👍 The less you say the better - it gives them nothing to work with 😁
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
💯🤫😌🙏
@michelleelms94118 ай бұрын
I have gone zero contact. I have a box of photos, documents etc that I need to return to him. I have yet to mail it though. I don’t want to open the door to neither positive nor negative communication. I am torn as to how to get the box back to him without him thinking I am reaching out, or worse, that I am being nice to him/miss him. Nope!
@lisashope29268 ай бұрын
Everything Andrew says is true. I've had one on one sessions with him and I have never been as understood so quickly by anyone. I can't recommend him enough as a therapist. I'm at a wellness retreat and all I want is a session with Andrew. So much pain has come up.
@Trish-ql9kz8 ай бұрын
@@michelleelms9411just send it.. you don’t need to add any message, silence.
@lizwilliamson83328 ай бұрын
@@michelleelms9411 my question would be *why* do you have to return a box of photos and documents? Do you really need to? If it’s not absolutely necessary I wouldn’t bother. You’re agonising over something that may not even be required 🤔
@enchantment88 ай бұрын
I discovered silence drives them crazy.
@teresak64639 ай бұрын
It’s like I dropped off the face of the earth. I’d rather be alone than be with people who are supposed to love and protect you just try to end your life. Keep strong and keep fighting my friend. ❤
@gerryberg54669 ай бұрын
I agree. I would rather be alone too. I am learning to love myself now.
@teresak64639 ай бұрын
@@gerryberg5466 It’s so crazy that by the time you finally leave you have to relearn your likes and dislikes and even hobbies. It’s painfully beautiful. We get to reinvent ourselves! ❤️
@amiblack82949 ай бұрын
Agreed. Am much happier without them in my life, and felt more alone when they were in my life because I couldnt count on them to do anything except aggravate me and cause drama.
@teresak64639 ай бұрын
@@amiblack8294 It was actually MORE painful being around the fakes than being sick and alone. ❤️
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌💯🙏❤️
@goinghomesoon32108 ай бұрын
Silence suffocates the narcissist
@stephaniepiazzese26023 ай бұрын
Oh!!! That’s good. Great comment. Thankyou. I’m writing that down!!!😊
@Michelina222 ай бұрын
I wish I knew more about this before I started a relationship with him He was a completely different person at first until he got me trapped Upstate Just seeing a mountain triggers me I’ll get back to myself, almost there In the name of Jesus Christ Amen 🙏🏼
@anndra11608 ай бұрын
"I'd rather learn how to adjust my life without you in it, than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespectfulness".
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌😌💯
@Thewokesuckass8 ай бұрын
good one
@juanadrianrobaina57638 ай бұрын
Well said ,so true ,the constant walking all over me game really hurt me a lot😮😢
@sandrajones-p4658 ай бұрын
Poetic!!!
@MaureenBonanno6 ай бұрын
So did you?
@JustaNobody-j8x9 ай бұрын
Narcissists crave attention and a reaction. This gives them fuel. By going silent, you are speaking to them in volumes by denying what they crave.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌💯
@Catina-jz1tp8 ай бұрын
Yessss!!!!👍🏼
@juliebraden48658 ай бұрын
For sure! The sweetest revenge. 💗
@datnursenicky30227 ай бұрын
Yes! I got a message from the Narc ending things, I know he expected a reaction. I never reply or question his actions. I am radio silent and I know it's killing him. He did it before and came back and confessed how depressed and sick he was. He begged for a second chance but because I set my boundaries he disappeared lol. It's neither here or there with me this time.
@stephaniepiazzese26023 ай бұрын
Wishing so much I knew these things months ago. 😢
@Hummingbird649 ай бұрын
Don't defend yourself , explain , engage , or correct them. Don't call them out . . .😮 It's eye opening just how many there are . Circular conversations that turn into a tornado rage .
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
💯💯
@Meggiebeth198 ай бұрын
Yes. They can never be wrong. It’s a waste of time to try & reason w/them. It will get very ugly if you do.
@Thewokesuckass8 ай бұрын
been there it is never ending waste of time and energy
@debbier95558 ай бұрын
I'm beginning to think the world has more Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, etc. than 'normal' healthy people. We need our own world to enjoy peace.😮
@mistiquefire34624 ай бұрын
NO POINT TO LET THEM GO FREE IN THEIR BEHAVIOR. GONNA CALL THE C*NT OUT AGAIN.
@mortischahicks53418 ай бұрын
I BLOCKED 🚫 THEM AND LEFT THE SCENE! HE CAN'T FIND ME!! GAMES OVER I WON 🏆...
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
💯💯😌🙏
@kimlorraine3694 ай бұрын
I thought same. they found a way in. I am strong. I did get away. and stayed away. and maintain my silent zero-contact..
@jeanettecook108815 күн бұрын
Yes you did win! Congratulations!!🎉😂
@hd-be7di8 ай бұрын
I agree there should be classes in school focused on personality disorders, namely the cluster B's. Kids should be aware of how to identify mentally ill abusive people
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌😌
@KR-pp7wp2 ай бұрын
That would expose the Politicians, Dr's, etc. They would rather they remained hidden.
@Hannah-pc7hg8 ай бұрын
Lost many years for nothing. Glad to finally be free.
@monikaballah9316 ай бұрын
me too.
@giseladauer40973 ай бұрын
Me too.
@lilithschwarzermond73423 күн бұрын
I do not look at the time with him as a LOST time, because I learned very important lessons for my life.
@annamariehewitt31739 ай бұрын
Classy is when a lot to say but chose to remain silent in front of fools.....
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@jackiepowell75138 ай бұрын
The word classy - illustrates lacking it it.
@datnursenicky30227 ай бұрын
Yes!!!
@Michelina222 ай бұрын
Yessss ! So hard to do however I’m doing it 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@danihannah44939 ай бұрын
Today was a good day. Feeling stronger. The hurt is less. Thank you Andrew and this wonderful family of kind people.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome 😌🙏🙌
@joannedomingo23989 ай бұрын
My Narc told me a few months ago, “ You will never know me. You have to peel back so many layers.” Well in my calling him out text , I said I peeled you like an onion.
@MM-kt4is8 ай бұрын
👏 👏 👏
@Sanlynnben8 ай бұрын
I would add to that - ‘You must know that opera song ‘ Mi mi mi mi mi mi..’
@lebovskievgeniew47488 ай бұрын
@italyparis69759 ай бұрын
"Become dull,and boring and get off the radar" point taken 👍
@yvettemoreel42379 ай бұрын
You came into my life a few years ago right after I fought back a horrible Narccist and still fighting for my rights through court. I’m stronger now and much better. I will never get trapped again.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
🙌💪💯🙏
@Starman3569 ай бұрын
They will try to break you mentally. You have to have pride.
@Changesforpositive9 ай бұрын
You’re nutts
@lynnh47868 ай бұрын
I went through it in court as well my daughter is now 34 wants nothing to do w him. He exposed himself in court and to his daughter just wait on it. They never truly win! The justice system is seeing them more now than ever. ❤ be strong 🙏💕
@nicholecornes19159 ай бұрын
I DONT EVER want to loose my health AGAIN
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@adamroth7197 ай бұрын
I see right through them now… especially gaslighting you into a reaction to blameshift.
@Gitte5858 ай бұрын
Silence and absence. And no communication. And stop romanticizing it🙏
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌😌💯
@TravelBits2228 ай бұрын
They want you to accept the disrespect, the lies, the manipulation without questioning them. Questioning their behavior is not an option for the Narcissist. It’s their way or the highway. There is no negotiation, no conversation because they are not open to any of these.
@michelleleeschaeffer34828 ай бұрын
They don’t see anybody as having their own autonomy. Everybody in their circle is just a snapshot of what they want them to be. Its their littke fantasy world and if you don’t play Then you have destroyed their little snapshot in their head, and it makes them go crazy. Everybody has a role to play in the narcissist life because they’re looking for their identity. It’s a very sick illness but unfortunately their victims suffer twice as much. I’m the mother of a 30 year old, female narcissist. I am going through it right now. I’ve been in her Stonewall discard phase for about 40 days. But this time it’s different because it’s starting to affect my physical and mental health like never before. I know it’s hard when it’s a partner or an extended family member, or a coworker but when it’s your child, it’s almost virtually impossible to close that door. The pain is ridiculous. And as a loving mom, all I’ve done is try to figure out where I went wrong believe me I’ve been studying this for six years. The only thing I came up with was that I may have overprotected her but still, if you knew the whole backstory you would be over protective too. But in the same vein, I had a strictness to me but I believe it was normal like do your homework can’t date till you’re 16. I think I was a pretty normal mom and I know I showed her all the love I have in my heart and now six years since she left she’s extorted over $20,000 from me and pretty much suck the life and joy out of me. But when I listen to these videos, it’s really not hard to put anybody in that seat whether it’s your child, your husband, wife, boyfriend, etc. the behaviors are exactly the same sadly they don’t. Care. If it’s their mom or even their own child, they really are borderline possessed.
@sagenosnibor91737 ай бұрын
Facts 👏🏽
@angelsusannoy8998 ай бұрын
19:40 "Your silence does the talking for you. It really does. So close the chapter. Block them, delete them, etc." "Do not accept a Hoover. Understand that Narcissist just wants to keep you in a manipulation game. They want to keep you trap in that cycle." "The more people they keep in that abuse, the better off it is for them, and the worse off it is for you."
@lios5839 ай бұрын
Knowing when to be silent, honoring being silent and choosing to be silent- is also how you win and take your power back. Thank you Andrew for your tireless efforts, I appreciate it very much! ❤🙏🐬
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome 😌🙏💯
@marypalmer10629 ай бұрын
today, I stripped off all of the acctrimonts of gold and precious metals that I had been gifted to me,from my fam and had them melted , all the talismans with everything.. Forgive yourself. Turn the page. No more!
@JuliaLeoSun9 ай бұрын
What's sad is that you don't just want to enjoy the movie, it's that you want to enjoy the movie with 'them'.. the person you thought you fell in love with, who never existed..😓
@joseenoel80939 ай бұрын
Lots of sad things but it's not our fault!
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
💯💯😌🙏
@MariShall-rg4yv9 ай бұрын
Oh my gosh I am learning so much from you Andrew. You describe the narcissist that yes, I didn't know what I was dealing with, So right on Every time. It's like So draining & confusing. Thank you you wonderful man and I hope you are having a Beautiful day 🌞
@merrillcrist57028 ай бұрын
Yes! This is where I am. Letting go of him is no problem. Letting go of the persona he presented the first 6 months of a 3.5 year"relationship" is istill ncredibly painful. I have come to understand how important NC is for my healing.
@jannonjackson30069 ай бұрын
My narc bought the house across the street from me and I have blocked every avenue for him to communicate with me. He sits on his front porch and stares at my house when he isn't at work. I am definitely tasked, tested and tried. I am proud of my silence. Once I finally understood the power of my silence my healing process was expedited significantly. 🙏💛
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
💪💯🙏🙌
@Hatbox9489 ай бұрын
Wow. How weird. It reminds me of my daughter's husband's ex wife buying a house 1/4 mile down the highway from them.
@Arcturus5499 ай бұрын
Oh my goodness, that is wild.
@amiblack82948 ай бұрын
MOVE. Don't let this person steal another second of your peace.
@jannonjackson30068 ай бұрын
@@amiblack8294 I wish it were that simple. I've been here 15 years. He doesn't stay anywhere very long. I pretend he doesn't exist and I document/video anything concerning. Also our police department has a support system that knows everything & they keep a running journal on all of my concerns. It was so much worse when he first did it because I was absolutely mortified and reactive which he loved. Now I have black out curtains and stained glass window film on the front of my house and I use the rear entrance etc. It really is bazaar and hasn't been easy to endure or navigate by any means. My complete silence put the balance and control in my favor.
@lucasmichaels22048 ай бұрын
They all say the same thing: “Hey, you completely dissapeared!” No, I just don’t mess with you!
@faith52179 ай бұрын
Thanks Andrew- you are absolutely 💯 % correct. TIME is our most valuable asset. Don't waste your time or energy, once it's gone you can't get it back. Spend your time as carefully as you would spend your money. Please don't waste your time. 🙏 ❤️
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome..🙏🙌❤️💯
@dianemaltese31717 ай бұрын
When you realize there is no reasoning with them, the nonsense that comes out of them at times is ridiculous. When you realize there is not one thing you can say at all the best thing you can do is stay is silent.
@SharonJohnston-l1o2 ай бұрын
“The pinnacle of indifference.” That’s where I am with my family now. It took 5 years but I’m at the top of that mountain!
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone2 ай бұрын
😌💜🙏⛰️☀️
@importdoc79 ай бұрын
16 months no contact and divorce final last week to a total Narc. Best time of my life now. 🙏
@MM-kt4is8 ай бұрын
Enjoy every moment of your hard fought freedom! You walked thru hell and made it out!!!
@debbier95558 ай бұрын
Enjoy your Freedom!
@importdoc76 ай бұрын
@@MM-kt4is thank you and all the best to you on Your journey 🙏
@importdoc76 ай бұрын
@@debbier9555 I am. And thank you so much.
@Nothingbutlovehere3698 ай бұрын
My daughter (40). After decades of trying to help her, lead her to health and light, love her through it all… I’m now choosing me. It’s painful. But I can’t allow it any longer. It tried desperately, for decades, to protect her from her father’s (narc) influences…and yet. She has become one. And I’m now letting it be. To protect my heart and my soul. To protect my peace. Sending love to all….❤
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@Nothingbutlovehere3698 ай бұрын
And thank you Andrew for sharing your pain and healing, and for being a bright light! ⭐️❤️
@hollylorn1319 ай бұрын
"The narcissist will come at you in different shapes and forms" and until you get the wisdom and apply it, this lesson will still be taught to you (us) over and over. Once we get this lesson and apply the knowledge, these narcs will be repelled and we will move onto the next Life lesson. Thank you, Andrew, for this great video with all the examples. Silence is a very powerful tool to deal with narcissists. I have seen from personal experience that silence isn't tolerated well by a narcissist. "Your silence does the talking for you." as you said in the video. Namaste. 🙏 ❤️
@alonzomosley79 ай бұрын
Being late is a passive aggressive technique
@sxfnlc8 ай бұрын
I have gone silence, block, no contact and it’s the only safe way. This whole relationship has been hellish. I am hurting. This hurts so much.
@a.howell78Ай бұрын
There is light at the end of the tunnel!
@ThePonyd9 ай бұрын
3 months full NC, your daily videos are a lifesaver Andrew. Possibly quite literally. Her behaviour was so shady I spent a year in therapy but have now risen from the ashes, a new low in life she sent me to, and I'm a better person for it. Thanks for your channel and thanks to this community x
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome 😌🙏🙌
@sheilaking13009 ай бұрын
Well done on three months. I’m three years free, life does get better.
@Crave88evarC8 ай бұрын
@@janetgdabsolutely ❤
@richardprice89519 ай бұрын
I fell for the, "Oh, he's just an old high school friend". For 15 years she cheated with him until I caught them together. I feel so dumb for falling for it
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@Arcturus5499 ай бұрын
That's why I stay away from women with male "friends". A lot of these types do that to have men on the back burner ready to go for a monkeybranch, and for cheating.
@marcialussier24679 ай бұрын
Don't feel bad about it. You were masterfully manipulated. Of course you would not have known about it. Because you've never known people that do things like that. They're not like other people. Give yourself a break. At least you're out of it now, and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Take care of yourself!
@geraldfriend2568 ай бұрын
It’s ok. You are expected to trust, and they are expected to be trustworthy.No failure on your part.😊
@ac-hk4fs8 ай бұрын
I understand how you feel.😢 My adult child caught their Dad cheating with his hs girlfriend. We are in our 50's. I had no idea- the humiliation, lies, devastation, etc. brought me to my knees at first. After some time and the most amazing support system, I realized I was way better than this and didn't deserve to be treated like trash. I wasn't the problem, he was. Two years later, I'm much happier and in an amazing place. I still have moments of sadness and reflection, but they are fewer and fewer each day. We are all worth SO much more. Don't let these fools ruin your life. YOU ARE AMAZING.
@Mariah.B118 ай бұрын
They do not appreciate what they have. Silence provides respite and breathing space from the derangued nonsense.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌💯💯
@ericad84128 ай бұрын
My mom went through it my grandmother couldn't leave, the cycle ends with me. I am not afraid to walk this world alone.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@amandahodge38098 ай бұрын
It took me a long time to realize my silence was so much louder than my words. But now that I know, it literally feels so powerful because I’m not giving any attention or energy to the narcissist, and our silence eats them up, they hate it! Stay strong! Thanks Andrew 🙏🏽
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
Welcome..😌🙏🙌
@AstridAdams-h2x8 ай бұрын
There is no need to explain, they are not able to understand and they will never change. Even if they know they have gone to far, they will do everything to glue their mask. Nothing has been done/said only for you, everything was just for their advantage.
@pinkkittyize9 ай бұрын
"You are damned if you do, damned if you don't" Spot on Andrew.. Dont !! One of the most precious things I've discovered since refusing any narcissist to darken my day is the fact i will never explain myself to anyone, ever again. I have no need, i am me, i do the right thing, treat everyone with respect, that is all anyone needs to know. If someone demands more than this, they have the problem, not you Much love, everyone 😊
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌🙏💯🙌
@hayleyzimmass17759 ай бұрын
Well said! If anyone demands more, they have an agenda.....
@mary25758 ай бұрын
Talking to a narcissist is like arguing with a cloud of noxious gas.
@gratefultobehere9 ай бұрын
Silence is a friend to those of us who’ve come through. Thank you for the reminders. There was a broad list of all the things the narcissists want…how about we don’t give them what they want and just keep silent. Learning this is invaluable. Stay warm everyone. Mighty chilly 🥶 these days 🙏❤️
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
🙏💯🥶
@patriciasmith39738 ай бұрын
Nothing near their cold, cold hearts though.
@maristella2878 ай бұрын
SILENCE IS THE BEST --AS THEY ARE IRRATIONAL and CANNOT EVER BE REASONED WITH!
@anitahedgecock19689 ай бұрын
I think you're Exactly Right Andrew...They do prefer negative supply it brings them happiness to keep you manipulated and miserable.. Even when they do you wrong and gas light you every morning and every night they will blame you. Beware!
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌💯
@Divinely_Guided4449 ай бұрын
This video holds a powerful message about stillness and silence. One of your best Andrew. ❣️🙌✨️
@gratefultobehere9 ай бұрын
❤🙌
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Thank you..😌💯❤️🙏
@ricarellan7 ай бұрын
I blocked an ex-best friend 4 years ago and she’s tried to get the last word by texting me in a different number and I still didn’t respond and blocked that number too. She doesn’t my energy anymore after disrespecting boundaries, avoiding accountability, being manipulative and throwing me under the bus multiple times while appearing as a saint to others. I was blinded by it all and thought I might be overreacting like she’d claim. A major red flag that I missed was she’d pat herself on the back after we served food at a homeless shelter. I’m GLAD I don’t have to deal with her anymore!
@patriciabrooks29158 ай бұрын
I’m doing this right now it’s so difficult because I’m used to talking to this person and when I do they pick through everything criticize everything cut me off and turn around and walk and do something else when I’m trying to explain myself but when it’s their turn I have to have complete Surrender to them. I have to listen to every word they say they get real close and get in my feed I don’t know and I’just had it so I’m willing to be silent because every word I say is either wrong criticized or manipulated why this is now in my feet I don’t know, but I need this more than ever.
@cheryl9807 ай бұрын
The hardest part is knowing you fell in love with someone who didn’t exist. I’ve experienced it all, the gaslighting, the silent treatment, the mental abuse. But I’m finding it impossible to let go and move on. 😢
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone7 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@cheryl9807 ай бұрын
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone it’s comforting to know I’m not alone and sending much love to anyone going through this, but why do I still miss him and love him despite everything? Why can’t I just let go? I feel like I’m losing my mind. It’s so strange and hard. I enjoy your channel it gives me some comfort trying to understand it all.
@sagenosnibor91737 ай бұрын
One day at a time is how we all make it through. God bless your healing journey 🙏🏽
@cheryl9807 ай бұрын
@@sagenosnibor9173 thank you for your kind words. I’ll just take one day at a time. Baby steps. Just wish the pain would go away. It’s been over a year now.
@christophercaruso65036 ай бұрын
Run, it will never get better, only gets worse
@flynnnewsblog96272 ай бұрын
I reported her to USCIS and ICE for using her B2 visa to find someone to marry her, texted that to her, then blocked her on all apps.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone2 ай бұрын
😌😌
@RayleneSnow7 ай бұрын
I am just fresh into no contact. Wow this info is saving me! Thanks Andrew💗
@PaisChica9 ай бұрын
My narc continues to message me with how much he loves and misses me then turns right around and tries and make me feel sorry for him that I left. I refuse to answer and engage with him. He gets very angry when I don’t respond to him. He put me through hell and now that I’m finally free I won’t waste another minute on him. I have peace for the first time in my adult life.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
💯💯💪😌
@earleenGreene2 ай бұрын
ID RATHER BE ALONE THAN TO BE WITH A NARCISSIST THAT WAY I HAVE MY PEACE SILENCE IS GOLDEN 😊
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone2 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏💜
@rb29459 ай бұрын
So true I did not know what a narcissist was and I was married to One but I was able to get divorced. Now I’m free.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
💯💯🙏😌
@russellbennett85169 ай бұрын
My narc's partner told me she would be 30 mins late for a small gig in my village when I called at her house so I went by myself, Her anger was priceless, my satisfaction was golden
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@jazstar46229 ай бұрын
My parents tormented me Most of my life !! Even when we always had distance !so I was a silent & stoic person,now they have left the planet, there is silence & peace !!! ,Its very strange that I can now break my own silence !!!!Its very strange To hear my voice again !!! To be free ...
@mindlessmusician31178 ай бұрын
Been 4 years now since I went no contact.. They've tried twice to hoover back.. Once a year and a half after breaking contact and recently from a new phone.. That's why I was going through all these videos again so I'm not tempted to message back.. Silence is golden
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
🤫🤫
@deborahfairbanks40129 ай бұрын
You are one of the people who pulled me out of the quicksand...
@juanadrianrobaina57638 ай бұрын
Silence kills the narcissist from the inside,his greatest fear ,abandonment and rejection hand in hand with silence lolol😮😢
@arianstiebs66199 ай бұрын
Silence is golden...
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
🤫😌🙌
@KARMABELLA248 ай бұрын
Thank you for your life affirming videos. I met my ex BF almost a year ago. He was the first man I became involved with in 6 yrs. I saw red flags in the beginning and stayed vigilant. 3 weeks ago, he handed me a bouquet of red flags. We were riding bikes. I had not been on a bike in 10 yrs. While we were riding, he took me on a steep path. I stopped myself from crashing by leaning on the fence at the top of the steep hill. A week later , we were riding around his neighborhood. He was behind me, went around me, and cut me off. I couldn't stop and hit his bike, which ended in me taking a horrible fall. I landed hard onto the pavement and fractured my wrist. I need my hands to work as I'm an Aesthetician. He knew I was starting a new job in a few days. When I crashed into his bike, he had a smirk on his face. At first I accepted it was just an accident. A few days later, we were driving in his car. He was going 45mph. He undid my seat belt and pretended to open the car door. We weren't arguing or fighting in any way. He laughed at me when I became scared He proceeded to tell me a horrific story about a friend of his who had a wife jump out of the car, and he ran over her, and she died. Alarms went off. It took me a day to process this. I ended our relationship right then and there. Of course, he called me crazy and accused me of overreacting. I went no contact. I'll never speak to him again. He will never see me nor hear my voice. His sister begged me to give him another chance. She let it slip he has BPD. She stated that due to his mental illness, I needed to be more accepting. I told her, "I'm done." The year of mental manipulation and covert abuse led up to me being injured to the point of losing 4 to 6 weeks of income. People, malignant abusers will not stop at emotional abuse if we let them. They will physically harm us if we are doing better than they think we should be. Please love yourself and watch for red flags.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
Welcome..😌💯🙏🙌
@warriormom58439 ай бұрын
Daily dose of Andrew wisdom ✅💚
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
🙌😌❤️
@paulwisdom10909 ай бұрын
The last 2 words of your sentence are my Dad's name lol.
@warriormom58439 ай бұрын
@@paulwisdom1090 Love it!!!! And what a cool last name!!! 👏👏
@MildredMaldonado-p5z9 ай бұрын
It has been the best thing I have done radio silence,it’s so liberating. Take care Andrew.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@wil3d829 ай бұрын
"YOUR SILENCE is SINCERELY a SUPER POWER. YOUR SILENCE DOES THE TALKING FOR YOU... ITS MORE POWERFUL THAN YOUR WORDS. You want to be FOCUSING ON YOURSELF but PAYING ATTENTION, You want to be OBSERVANT, You want to be SILENT, You want to be STOIC, You want to be CENTERED, You want to be CALM, You want to be LIVING in THE PRESENT MOMENT, You want to be LEARNING THE LIFE LONG LESSONS FROM THE PAST NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP and APPLYING THEM TO PRESENT DAY , You DO NOT WANT TO BE PREDICTING THE FUTURE. -ANDREW (from the Beautiful Carolinas) aka SENSEI
@mss803089 ай бұрын
❤
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌❤️🙌
@javongray43169 ай бұрын
I need to be quiet sometimes
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@LinYouToo9 ай бұрын
No going back for more abuse. Time, energy, and effort go to those I have a mutual, reciprocal, respectful relationship with. Buh bye toxicity, and hello love! 💕 the only way.
@lilfairycupcake9 ай бұрын
im a huge fan of silence, and it works wonders.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
🤫🤫🙏💯
@deebee46228 ай бұрын
Silence is truly golden when being around with a narcissist.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌💯🤫
@huei-yipan9 ай бұрын
This resonates with me Andrew because I got gaslit and intimacy withheld from me by my ex Mark. I never knew when his next rage fit was going to be. I got hit too. I am so glad I am not with him anymore.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
💯💯😌
@tinahill21349 ай бұрын
My Narc mother has always treated my sisters better than me , because she’s has so much control over them , but not me . I once told her that I’m not asking your permission on how I should live my life . My Mother turned my sisters against me many years ago . I have low contact with her now .I would always feel so bad from either being around her or talking to her on the phone. Her voice along would make me cringe.
@pauloloura28989 ай бұрын
It’s been almost two years since the narc packed her bags , she tried contacting me different times and gets silence, now I enjoy my peace and being alone.
@cindi96389 ай бұрын
Thank you Andrew! Your videos help me stay strong and stoic. I’ve started to feel indifferent at times, but it’s like an addiction and he’s still on my mind too often.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome 😌🙏💯🙌
@dawnramberg97849 ай бұрын
Please stay strong❤ I’d rather live on an abandoned island by myself then ever go back to my abuser! It’s been 2 yrs since I blocked him on everything and I just keep getting stronger😅 Thanks Andrew I watch you regularly!
@robinwyers9 ай бұрын
I tried no contact, I agree every time I get stronger it's like I learned so much about me too...
@marcialussier24679 ай бұрын
Oh wow, I just commented on that. It's almost a year for me, I live in an area where there are a lot of natives, he is native, and there are tons of specials and there's all kinds of special things going on for natives, stories on PBS, etcetera. I can't tell you how many times a day I am reminded of him and it's a very very hard time for me. I just have to keep remembering all the bad things and just found it through my head that this man not only didn't love me, but deliberately caused me pain. Good luck to both of us, it's a new year, take care of yourself!🎉❤
@marcialussier24679 ай бұрын
As far as being fashionably late, making an entrance, I have a really great example. One time, he told me that he and his brother had rented a hotel room for a concert. And then he told me that his brother went home early and he wanted me to come over. Now for all I know, he had a woman in there before I went over there. Anyway, we got dressed to go downstairs for drinks, he asked me to wear a certain outfit, a very flowy outfit. Great big flowy palazzo pants and a Gauzy looking blouse. He got all dressed up in his black jeans black leather vest white shirt boots, with his long flowing black native hair which really contrasted with my short white hair. When we got to the door he said, there's a different entrance on the other side that has a long stairway that goes down right to the bar, I want to go in over there and make an entrance. And honestly, we did get a lot of attention, we were a striking couple with the way that we dressed in the way our looks complimented each other. We constantly got compliments about that. But yes for sure he had to make certain entrances. One time I think he forgot himself as we were going into our local bar, and as we got to the door, he said out loud, shoulders back chin up. He was speaking to me and telling me what I should do before we walked in, or else he was telling himself, and I just overheard him.. Yeah he was a real piece of work.
@ForexFortunes9 ай бұрын
I was discarded after 34 years of marriage and have lost my entire support system after an extensive smear campaign. Unfortunately we will need to coexist as we are expecting our 1st grandchild in April. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for all of your videos and insight, I had no idea that this sort of evil even existed.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@WorthyIsTheLamb-rm4pd8 ай бұрын
I don't "Coexist" with him and we have children, and grandchildren together. I'm strict NO CONTACT. I don't visit my children, and grandchildren at the same time that he visits them.
@realsteellawncare81679 ай бұрын
Thanks to narcissists I now suffer with social anxiety ptsd and panic attacks when trying to sleep at night.All I wanted to do was achieve and push forward in life but narcissists will try and drag you down and distroy everything you have and get people on there side.
@mss803089 ай бұрын
Absolutely 💯
@sofiaalonzo8076 ай бұрын
Silent is golden
@marybarton56519 ай бұрын
Well, the narc finally got his wish that I "move on. "... lol. Silence is golden... a hard lesson to learn and has been hard to do because there was a time when I was like a ghost. Invisible until he had a use for me in order for him to get something useful for him from me. That was forced silence. I have learned to speak out, but at times, I become silent for introspection so I can focus on how to become a better version of my true authentic self.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
😌😌💯🙏
@almosthome59719 ай бұрын
🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻 Keep healing!
@marybarton56518 ай бұрын
@almosthome5971 working on it every day, by the grace of God, who strengthens me... 🙏✌️❤️✝️😊
@angelsusannoy8998 ай бұрын
20:20 "Your silence is empowering. You do not have to explain to anybody. You do not have to defend anything to anybody." "Because you believed in you. When you picked yourself up and healed. And when you found the needle on the haystack which is the Narcissistic abusive cycle. You practice radical acceptance and you put yourself back together. You're a galvanized version of yourself. You're one of the strongest people on this planet. Whether you know it or not. I'm not talking physically. I'm talking mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You are really an incredible human being." "The narcissists tried to knock you down a lot of times. But they failed."
@mariahernadez97028 ай бұрын
The Narcissist in my life is in God’s hands I understand I can’t help & get hurt anymore 😢 thank you Brother & community 🙏🏼 for the support, love & push toward healing ❤️🩹
@huei-yipan9 ай бұрын
My ex Mark is so narcissistic he is still badmouthing me to other people behind my back just to play the victim card…. Thank you for your videos Andrew. Reminds me that I am a woman of high worth and value and that I have a bright shining light. I deleted and blocked him from my phone and Cashapp. Namaste Andrew. I love you. ❤
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome..🙏😌🙌
@writeousone87499 ай бұрын
Thank you once again Andrew. After nearly a year, I am getting closer to the pinnacle of indifference. Much love to our community💖
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome 😌🙏💪💯
@marcialussier24679 ай бұрын
Coming up on one year February 25th. Be vigilant, stay vigilant, because, if you don't have him completely blocked from calling you, on facebook, blocked from texting you, you could fall back in and it's worse than ever. It happened to me about 3 years ago. I had not spoken to him in one year in 3 months, and instead of just blocking his number, I had completely removed it so I didn't recognize it when the call came through, I answered and just before I did I realized it was his number. I should have just hung up. It was my birthday, and you know how they just love to get you all emotional or catch you off-guard on special days to try to Hoover you back in. But, we ended up getting embroiled for only about 4 weeks, and of course he pulled his same garbage again. Don't go back don't go back don't go back! Good luck and congratulations on one year!
@writeousone87499 ай бұрын
@@marcialussier2467 Thank you Marcia! You are right. I have left before and always got suckered in again believing his lies. 40 yrs and I've had enough. I needed this path to show me that they REALLY don't care💖 much love to you & all who are on this journey💖
@kiasunray8 ай бұрын
I’m in hiding from my narc, hence, the silence. It takes so long to recharge after being in their presence. Yes, I agree that they disrupt my energy. I feel smothered. “No” is a trigger word for them. They act entitled to my resources. I’ve learned not to argue with them. It’s exhausting.
@JUMPforyourLIFE9 ай бұрын
Andrew you are shining bright and keeping up 🆙 you have so much energy and passion. I admire you! I look forward to these videos. Thank you. 🙏🏻
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome 😌😌🙏❤️
@jeanetteedwards31298 ай бұрын
He told me he used me to suck my energy it was like talking to a demon! 😈 after years of this cycle he’s blocked and I am done!
@lebovskievgeniew47488 ай бұрын
like a vampire, and he knows, is selfaware! What a wreck
@gypsyblaik97029 ай бұрын
Thank you. I am strong and healthy and worthy of love and happiness and joy. I saw the ugly evil and unholy When you choose you. The Narcissist loses . You were the 🕯️
@AstridAdams-h2x9 ай бұрын
Silence and no contact is protection. I had a hoover and talked to him by phone. He was so sweet, so nice but it was clear what he wanted. Information, "friendship" and that I should do something for him. He wanted to tell me, that misses me although he had several new "one-time-supplies", that he has no money to pay the rent etc. Of course I am still his love of his life, of course we both are the dreamteam.. and he was in therapy which proofed that he is no narcissist only a bit manipulative....than I caught him lying. Immediately his mask felt off - screaming, shouting, using bad words before he hang of the phone. They will never change, their words are poison. It took me 2 weeks after the call to get this poison out of my head. The feeling of being abused was so present, the memories came back, just hearing this voice. He got what he wanted, he was back in my mind, I was thinking about him! I will definitely not brake the no contact again!
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing..💯🙏🙌
@lilithschwarzermond73423 күн бұрын
I agree: They like negative supply more than positive supply. Great video. Thanks a lot.
@shirlspark_stardust8 ай бұрын
No contact it’s been almost a year I refuse to ever speak have any interaction with that devil narc thank God for making a way for me to get out I’m staying out 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌💯🙌💪
@elanaseger28689 ай бұрын
You speak such truth. Thank you for your love and wisdom ❤❤❤
@Willa44209 ай бұрын
Your knowledge and dedication is impeccable. Your videos are so healing.❤
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
❤️🙏🙌
@vivian86398 ай бұрын
Silence says it all 😂
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
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@bethpowell86808 ай бұрын
Once you get out stay out!!!! He’s 1000% right. A narc deserves another narc that I do know. Close the book ASAP!!!!
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
💯💯😌
@sweetpotatoepieeee2 ай бұрын
Silence always makes them second guess the way they treated you & fear sets in that youve met someone amazing & now you're happy
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone2 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@moonflower98508 ай бұрын
Very good talk! I dated a narc and had 2 children with him. It took all my strength and God to get out of it. 14 years later, and life is amazing. Leave a narc!
@amiblack82949 ай бұрын
6 years no contact and only wish I had done it sooner. Life is peaceful, joyful and enjoyable without them. I walked away from my entire toxic, dysfunctional family but gained so many positive things in doing so :) Andrew is sooooo right about the Narcissist coming after you but you have to be strong and stand your ground which means maintain your silence. The first letter I got from my mother after going No Contact was her attempt at financial extortion. The last letter I received from my mother told me to burn in hell (among other things). A year later came the phone call from her flying monkey about the potential heart attack she was having at 2:00 in the morning. My silence spoke volumes then and still does now. I don't hate them; I refuse to hate anybody because that's not who I am. I choose to feel sorry for them and still wish them well in life but I'm not going to part of that life under any circumstances. Thank you for putting things in perspective, Andrew and giving people strength, education and support :)
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
💯💯😌🙏
@hayleyzimmass17759 ай бұрын
Went through similar circumstances. It's surreal & mind blowing when u are disposed of so easily, w no remorse or atleast a clear explanation, by a parent, whether narc or not. Reptilian comes to mind....
@allieeverett90179 ай бұрын
A horrible narc in my life had a "heart attack" after I loudly and verbally laid down a boundary. He lived.
@tlamo8938 ай бұрын
Totally and thank you. I'm new to this channel but I realize I had family stuff and that's why I fell for it with my ex... Love-bombed heavily
@tlamo8938 ай бұрын
Oh and HEY... The discard was unbelievable after I put 12 years in, sold my house and let him drive my van until it's trashed
@glennrobinson71938 ай бұрын
Timely advice for one who has always thought it's best to be open and sincere, to talk things out, to vent, to be upfront and direct.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone8 ай бұрын
😌😌🙏
@glennrobinson71938 ай бұрын
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone ??? 🤔
@janetbressette6318 ай бұрын
Just went no contact with a narcissist guy I’ve been dating for 3 years. The words you speak couldn’t be more true! I spent so much time explaining myself. Constantly feeling interrogated. Why did I just hang up? Why didn’t I say I love you? On and on! The smear campaign is what I’m dealing with now! I am a serious empath and he took total advantage of me! Financially abused, mentally abused. This is a multiple of toxic relationships I’ve been in! The worse part, I taught him what to use against me!
@datnursenicky30227 ай бұрын
Same...
@datnursenicky30227 ай бұрын
OMG, you speaking so much volume!! He told me he healed and saw a therapist, ask for second chance, just when I was thinking about it, he disappear again. You know Narc very well! Thank you sir...
@glendaanderson11199 ай бұрын
Thank you Andrew. It's an oddity to some degree to be able to see people for the way they truly are. Myself included.😊
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome 😌🙏🙌
@flowerpower49449 ай бұрын
Support 🌟❤️💪🦋🌺❤️✨kind loving.and understanding,nurturing,,Silence is our Super power,,Go Empaths,T.Y. Andrew,, 👉✨✨❤️
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone9 ай бұрын
Welcome 🙏🙌❤️
@lalalovengun8 ай бұрын
I wish I heard this in my late teens/ early 20s!!! Thank you for doing these videos!!🙏🏿🙏🏿💙💙
@freespirit23199 ай бұрын
Andrew I think you went through all your turmoil for a reason. You have enlightened so many people with such articulation and eloquence i can't help thinking this is your mission, and that's not taking away from your trauma in any way. How I wish I knew then what I know now. I was terrified people would find out my husband would blank me, not speaking to me for weeks at a time. I would say to anyone going through this " share and expose them" especially to your family..I kept quiet for the sake of the children ! Wrong!! Thank you Andrew.