Narcissist in Your Life? You Need to Hear This! (with Maia Ece Ergönenç)

Things you would hate to learn about yourself as the victim of narcissistic abuse and things you better know about the narcissist.
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[@Prlvrboi1]

My mother is a malignant narcissist. Thank you for helping make sense of everything I’ve have experienced. Now I have the language and have the knowledge to avoid these creatures.

[@onaja5791]

I'm so grateful for your excellent work, proffesor Vaknin. Many greetings from Poland.

[@DeaScot]

I came here to learn about my narc & found out more about myself as a borderline with PTSD. Listening to Sam I have learned more about how my mind operates I thought I was Losing my mind. I have to walk around with earbuds like I'm listening to music when talking to myself. smh

[@samvaknin-text_account]

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[@itchyscratchy7167]

This is so enlightening. My narc at the devalued stage told me I had a bad odor. How hurtful It was only 2 weeks later that he upped the anti and I left him.

[@sensimiller420]

left him, so you never had to address your smell? smart 👍

[@Quadster19]

​@@sensimiller420Well they may or may not have a bad odor. Narcissists will find whatever bothers you.

[@mukomyuku]

What if, and this might sound crazy, but what if you actually just had a bad odor?

[@harima36]

@@sensimiller420 smart ass

[@harima36]

@@mukomyuku who do you think you are?

[@meidaslisa]

This keeps me out of therapy thank you!!! Lisa

[@Sheila-s7t7h]

What would we do with out you Prof Sam? Thank you for helping us understand & how to heal

[@YaLittleFriend]

The narcissist reveals more about yourself than you realize. ⭐️

[@lowhangincherry2270]

😂 52:38

[@harima36]

Please elaborate / elucidate. That’s a big statement.

[@Cindyyy768]

I think it's really helpful to understand the dissociation and multiple personalities of the narcissist, especially if you're dealing with the vulnerable or covert. They can easily gaslight you and isolate you because you will question yourself and worry if others will believe you.

[@samvaknin]

Narcissists do not gaslight. Psychopaths do. Narcissists are delusional.

[@Quadster19]

​@@samvakninI never knew that distinction before.

[@Quadster19]

I have a friend I'm on the outs with at the moment. Come to think of it every winter we're on the outs. It sounds seasonal but business wise he struggles every winter and he viciously lashes out. He often devalues and discards numerous people in his life at this point. I happen to be a prankster so I'm the first to go every winter.

[@michaelagiddings1520]

​@@samvakninwow. that makes perfect sense too.

[@dannysharkDS]

@@samvakninProfessor, narcissists DO gaslight, hard

[@annejara7746]

dear professor, thank you very much for your very interesting and important work and videos. I have one comment namely: it is very understandable and logical that victims of narcissistic abuse feel innocent (and therefore the victim) because that is an important aspect, if not the key to the door of the shared fantasy. letting go of the shared fantasy is difficult, it would mean that it must be faced that a blind spot, perhaps an unfulfilled need was the cause of all the misery that followed. where it started it will end. 🙏

[@meidaslisa]

I am angry, I believe what people say to be true. He discarded me and I was so hurt; many times. This time I've blocked his number and emails. He cannot get in touch on a whim and rope me back in. I'm done.

[@harima36]

I support you in this

[@rena523]

Very revealing. Thank you, Professor Vaknin.

[@castorotutubbiano1265]

Thank you prof vaknin

[@talhabaz1599]

Hi mr vaknin , greetings from turkey. I am a huge fan of your contents. As a narcissist i also very benefit from your ideas.

[@rotikapada7370]

Professor Sam, Thanks a million for this Video especially the concluding sentences @53.22, where you mention about Narcissists invading the mind and is talking to you in the head..... this part of Psychosis needs at least 1 Video from you to help explain us. I have battled many narcs in my life time. They are in form of Relatives and Boss and they have entered in my mind and they are talking to me ALL day. From Night time I go to Sleep until Early Morning first thing as I am awake and then thru the entire day on and off. I feel I will become insane due to their talking to me. Images in my head change from Boss to a Relative from one relative to another. How to stop this talk in the head? I cannot leave my Job as yet because I did not know until few months back that these personalities are Narcissist and I was their verbal abused victim. Also I do not reply back to people when they insult or shame me. I am now starting to come into realization .... Is there any hope? Is there a technique to have these Narcs stop talking to me in my head? Also do they know that I am talking to them and replying to them? because they seem to reply me back immediately..... in my head ... not in reality at all

[@samvaknin]

Watch the NA Healing playlist.

[@mattiaswendel5684]

My former wife said to me: I don’t feel anything.

[@liltarres2898]

Thank you!!! this is a masterful class!!!

[@samvaknin-text_account]

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[@danielsamsel1544]

Why my narcissistic partner is open to doing different things with other people, and I am marginalized (unpleasant duty)? She loves to do parties, trips, gym, meetings with friends. I don't exist in this aspect. I get it when I demand and always involves Acting out.

[@keiwa-yourdreamvacationstl6537]

Had this same thing with my ex … I left … now he keeps trying to get me back … you’re the safe base I guess for her to go explore the world … you’re not meant to explore the world with . … the safe base mummy … I’d leave if I were you , you deserve better than that .

[@harima36]

Yes I agree with above comment. Leave in a clandestine manner and never respond to their inquiries.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

@@keiwa-yourdreamvacationstl6537 the safe base mummy, yes, have fallen into that trap in the past.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

this is my mother, you can't communicate with her because her narrative is a broadcast. If I RECEIVE it with a smile, she is pleasant. But if I try to shift the dynamic to something more reciprocal, she gets very annoyed, sends out a ''warning shot'' and then if I ignore that, I get the silent treatment. In the past I would eventually apologise for upsetting her but ... and she'd accept the apology but cut me off again. The first time I insisted on being heard, I was excluded from the family. My mother shut down all communication, and yet, blames me for the damage that did

[@Taneean]

I came across your videos in Sep 2024 and been watching religiously ever since. I must admit that I try to stay away from continuous watching but it’s nearly impossible, your content is GOOD. While through your videos I’ve been able to find clarity to 99% of my questions, there’s a 1% I haven’t been able to figure out. However, after watching one of your resent ones in which you addressed the comment of one of your faithful followers what I now refer to as a ‘fellow co-follower’, since I consider us your followers to be a little cult kind of crew 🤣. I used that particular video for reference because he/she said if the narcissist does some type voodoo. Which in my mind that was the most accurate description ever used for those of us that can’t describe it any better. Now on to my question: Why is it that survivors can not avoid/decline to enter the shared fantasy to begin with? It appears as if it’s not an option or is out of the survivor’s control.

[@Rebecca-p2i]

It's because most of us don't know where in a shared fantasy to begin with and before you know it it's too late to get out.

[@belindared3389]

I understand 👍.........yes, it is all the small things 😊😊

[@samvaknin-text_account]

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[@Александра_1_1]

Спасибо, Сэм)❤️

[@samvaknin-text_account]

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[@DilfuzaKHaydarova-e1p]

Thank you so much ❤

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[@markminister2599]

Fantastic!

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[@lowhangincherry2270]

Sir Thank you for

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[@jozsefnyari5516]

Dear Professor, I regularly listen to your videos about narcissistic personality disorder. May I ask you some question? Is it impossible for a narcissistic person to discover true love for another person? Is there a cure or a cognitive understanding in this persons about their mental problem? Can a narcissistic person be cured of their personality disorder? Can a narcissist be made aware of his/hermental state?

[@samvaknin]

Watch the Mind playlist.

[@judycrockett5357]

Thank you Dr. Vaknin. The descriptions berween psychpathological behaviors and morivations as opposed to NPD/ motivations are enlightening. To help me better understand PD overall, what is your understanding of PD and brain plasticity. Given personality are perhaps set, how might plasticity be involved here? Would you mind directing me to your resource coving this topic, please? Once again, thank you very much.

[@samvaknin]

Search the Brain playlist.

[@4helio214]

Dear prof. Vaknin, I have a question; why some people refuses to eat food they don't cook by themselves? My husband is healthy , isn't allergic to anything. Still, he refuses everything.From neighbors gifts, when friends are cooking, or even going to the best restaurants. There's no way to resonate with him. Everything coming from outside is bad, tasteless. Even my cooking. Can you please explain? thank you very much 🙏

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel for "body", "paranoi"

[@4helio214]

@@samvaknin Thank you very much!

[@lesleyt83]

Question. Once he devalues and discards you, or anyone, why does he repeat this cycle again with the next person? Why doesn’t this cycle break after it’s completed once? Hasn’t he « separated » from his mother in his mind at that point? Why can’t he be free.

[@Rebecca-p2i]

Cause it doesn't work stuck in this cycle for the rest of their lives.

[@samvaknin]

Watch the shared fantasy playlist.

[@1BlackDynamite]

Sam are there videos on the atomization of society? I searched and there isn't any one that's explicitly named "atomization." I just find the topic riveting and im eager to learn more. Thank you and keep up the good work.

[@thestriker269]

Sams videos on the pshycodynamics of social media and many others on how narcissicm is a organizing narrative talks about this issue

[@samvaknin]

Watch the contemporary civilization playlist.

[@lesiaponomarenko353]

Thank you Professor Vaknin an Maia. Can you actually support a person that has vulnerable narcissistic personality in your environment? Can a person with no history of being a victim of narcissistic abuse contribute to self-awarenes of someone with vulnerable narcisism and make them feel accepted with all their personalities, personas, fantasies and all the ways they are?

[@samvaknin]

Search the shared fantasy playlist and the abuse playlist.

[@harima36]

You are playing with fire 🔥

[@itchyscratchy7167]

Will a nar 0:49 c ever divorce his wife? I left him a year ago.

[@2025st]

Never 😅...if his wife gets him..maybe... it's his island of safety for getting his supply and keeping his social image intact...and "protected "to make his abusive cycles to everyone absolutely to everyone

[@sensimiller420]

why don't you file then? and if you are not the wife, shame! shame! shame! adultery is a cardinal sin!

[@TamaraGustafson]

If you only need 5 traits to be a diagnosed NPD, are there any of the traits you must have as part of the 5? Can you have empathy and still have NPD, for instance?

[@samvaknin]

No. Narcissists possess only cold empathy (cognitive+reflexive). I would say that a lack of empathy must be 1 of the 5 diagnostic criteria. Today, we no longer use these criteria exclusively, btw. Search the channel for "DSM".

[@Maria_Stancu]

If they’re not aware of their motivations, is that why he says he doesn’t know why he cheated?

[@juliettecrossley4864]

Am laughing at THAT one

[@sara.gh.83]

Does anybody have experience growing up themselves after narcissistic abuse?

[@samvaknin]

Watch the NA Healing playlist.

[@metra9709]

Do you do one on ones?

[@samvaknin-text_account]

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[@metra9709]

Do all nacs cheat

[@RA-ce2ot]

no

[@RA-ce2ot]

except for cheating you out of your existence

[@thestriker269]

Narcs don't cheat(intentionally),they do it for narcissistic supply. omniscient beings and gods don't cheat. psychopaths do cheat however

[@anitaevans5361]

Most do, in 1 form or another

[@samvaknin]

Search the narcissist's sexuality playlist.

[@abenonmenegassi7837]

O gen da incondicionalidade já foi isolado?

[@samvaknin]

No.

[@Maria_Stancu]

I guess my idealized self is what’s taking the cheating so hard.

[@Gehtdiechtnixau]

The narcissist never interacts with you only with your introject, there is no cheating bc there's no relationship in the first place.