Why Narcissist Must Abuse You (Adventures in Adversity Podcast)

[@desouzarm]

Every video from Prof Sam is GOLD

[@brendacostarella9473]

@@desouzarm totally agree

[@dashabukreyeva]

I appreciate seeing Bre react with strong raw emotion at times, not because she’s in pain (I wouldn’t wish that on anyone!) but because it’s validating to know that the damage caused by narcissism is very real and relatable. Gaslighting was the norm in my family, and covert narcissistic abuse can be so “invisible” that I can easily gaslight myself into believing I’m overreacting. Thank you always for educating us, Dr. Vaknin.

[@Zizi-m9p]

We're no longer victims but survivors! Sending you love and light. Continue thriving ✨️ we've got this 💪

[@demigaines5644]

Thank you So Very Much For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This After Years Of Emotional Abuse And Psychological Abuse I Wanted To Give Up I Lost Myself I Went Through Horrific Loneliness And Sadness. I Became Addicted To Wanting The Narcissist Acceptance. I Became Severly Sick Mentally.I Began Researching A Therapist And Life Coach. I Am So Very Proud To Say That I Have 4 Months Of No Contact. Narcissitic Abuse Is Brutal.

[@melchi777]

I watched a lot of your content but this interview is one of your best. This Lady's presence must have magnified your synthesis capabilities.Awsome work 👏👏👏

[@na.pf.3963]

Thank you Mr. Vaknin❤ From my own experience: Narcissists destroy your self-confidence down to the last crumb. It takes a long time to find yourself again. it's a long way. But then you are the powerful person you always wanted to be.

[@erirosesan]

This was a phenomenal interview! Bre is all of us as she reacts and responds to the process of how the abuse takes place and unfolds. I am so grateful for the authenticity of these two! Thank you!

[@Mushroom445]

"remnants of the true self". Jesus mary and joseph. This is it... The maternal protective instinct kicks in... Jesus this is it. Thank you Vaknin . "Im going to love you... Like no one has". Wow

[@kristin_NZ]

You're an absolute legend, Sam.

[@NicolaiChristensen-q9w]

it seems like the never ending story with these people - only solution is to free oneself from them, however it may come about and with whatever means one finds works...few people understands this - don´t ignore the threath to your life from these "people" ...save yourselves !...🙏❤

[@AstridMartin666]

Beautiful vulnerable gut wrenching devastating this is pure gold I will cherish this one ☝️ and I’m only thirteen minutes in thank you professor

[@brendacostarella9473]

Is he not the best with this subject...so needed

[@rubberbiscuit99]

Yes. Straight talk.

[@anniemiller8927]

… he is the best

[@YaLittleFriend]

Yes! ❤

[@Mushroom445]

Anyone who went through it... Immediately finds comfort in his voice and words. He speaks them almost exactly. It's like a poet who is writing poems for you. It's unbelievable how fucking crazy it all is when it's over. You're like Clint Eastwood in the middle of a cowboy western... Saying "what the fuck?".

[@brendacostarella9473]

@Mushroom445 witnessed someone going thru such a situation...horrifying..bystanders get whiplash too.. Truly not idolizing the man..just THANKFUL for someone imparting the knowledge

[@virtuallyrealistic]

Hearing Professor Vaknin and Bre, I suddenly remember the pathetic smear campaign. Her younger brother didn’t buy onto it. From her mother’s reaction she too did not buy it. I suspect her divorce attorney appears to have, but her experience was limited ( and she was the ex’s second attorney, the first was disbarred). The ex’s second attourney required my help comprehending my 401k (retirement plan), and my highly experienced attorney ( with help from the lead council for the company I worked for) wrote the divorce agreement. It was educational at the time to watch how inept my ex was a navigating the divorce proceedings. Contrary to the image of herself from the shared fantasy. Fortunately, like Bre I had supportive professional friends that refused to let me feel sorry for myself.

[@alexbluemountains]

O.M.Gosh! 😮 Holy Mackerel! Amazing... the best interview I've heard so far, answering so many of the questions I've asked and never found the answers to. Profound, unbelievably helpful, and so grateful you have both shared this! Thank you so much! Words cannot fully express the feeling and message! My mind has been blown! 🤯 🙏

[@poofosu]

I am grateful for all your work in turning on the light for the survivors of narcissistic abuse ❤

[@soraiamalinowski1090]

To tell you the truth I married a narcissist is ironic to say but it was the toughest way for me to learn to love myself to welcome myself and see that although I did not have the narcissistic disorder I managed to see my narcissistic traits and understood that in fact both we non-narcissists and they are all fighting with the weapons that we have and all of them and we are victims in the end.

[@tdayy31]

I'm married to one as well. Its a sick, sad debilitating way to live. Arguments for absolutely nothing like toddlers. All I can do is pray and love myself until my grand finale ❤

[@chrisguida95]

18:20 "the Freud Self" Best Freudian slip ever!!

[@melindamcmaron-v2c]

Thank’s Professor Vaknin!

[@LvndrBeez]

We had the same life. I feel you 💯 🤍 sweet soul

[@melindamcmaron-v2c]

@@LvndrBeez Bless u! 💗

[@maryvera123]

Thank you both Prof. Vaknin and Bre for this wonderful interview. It is definitely one of my favorites.

[@turtlelake5560]

WOW Doc you are right on.

[@thenaturalhuman9568]

This point at 1:00:00, is so important.. nothing the partner could have changed

[@Mushroom445]

Same partner 40 years.! We all mnow now. No 40 years for us. Sam vaknin breaks the cycle. Thank you sir.

[@Yasmin-v5g6c]

In one of your previous videos, you said that narcissism is a choice and that when a narcissist ends up in prison, their narcissism disappears. Am I right in understanding that in prison they still don’t develop empathy? That having empathy for a narcissist is not a choice? Because the lack of empathy is connected to brain changes in their childhood that cannot be undone?

[@samvaknin]

Behaviors change, not the underlying pathology.

[@pupchubs6301]

Thanks Professor Vaknin, great interview! Funny and much more interesting to listen to than those where you simply steamroll the "experts". ..Your instruction to consult the Healing and Recovery playlist was very graciously managed. I wish I could sit in your lecture hall, and hear all about entraining from you. Thanks also to Bre, you seem lovely. I wish you the best.

[@rochamds]

One of his best videos so far! Thank you!

[@carmencruz5290]

Thank you, Dr. Vaknin for existing!🙏

[@RaniEnergy]

So well explained, thank you so much. This makes the pain and suffering tolerable. I really don't know where I would be without this understanding. I have started reading the Malignant Self-love book also, it all is so interesting and very addictive!!! Im going to watch all your podcasts...might take me a few years though 😂

[@samvaknin]

Would be grateful if you could post a review on my book’s Amazon page.

[@christinenicholson1009]

42 years. Traumatised.

[@dmcsunshine1]

Consequences are for life

[@tomasto3919]

THANK YOU PROFESSOR!

[@dawnia4291]

This is a very insightful and helpful video. Thank you both so much!

[@Tureco-Audiovisuales.]

תודה רבה על הכל אח יקר

[@Moonlovefreedom]

Bless you...felt the 😢....thank you ❤

[@beth3535]

Abuse interwoven with gaslighting. An all-weather bodysuit.

[@brendacostarella9473]

Wow..thats good

[@kristengilbert3566]

my daughter has had this for a lifetime, we adopted her at 3 from Bulgaria orphanage and we did not make her this way she has always needed sooo much attention and bossy and now at 25 she is a huge mess!! i had pull away in last 2 years and now no contact. I wish i could see a brain scan, does not make a difference she has huge problems, and alot is from the wound she suffered when her mom gave her up for adoption

[@nathansmith-nd9nq]

It was a good interview ,absolutely!

[@SamSamson-go9dq]

So am I to understand that narcissists usually arent physically abusive unless there are some anti-social component at play?

[@samvaknin]

Antisocial or sadistic.

[@RickJames-302]

I appreciate your videos SIR✊

[@gastropodahimsa]

Yes. Me personally. All of them. It's awful.

[@residenthillbilly1194]

My narcissistic father arrived onto the scene full time, when I was three years old, after being laid off from a job in the oil field. He destroyed the hard work my mother had put into my first three years. She put me on a solid foundation and I was bold enough to confront my dad when I was four years old. He made sure I would never confront him again with the impression he left on me. That beating just seemed to never end. So I do not agree with the data.

[@olgat40]

You will build your identity during the entire life after that, it will not heal in 18 months, just to know 😢

[@TheEvelyna69]

mindblowing ,

[@LvndrBeez]

Omg my mom outsourced all her ego functions! Therefore took over all my siblings it just sucks u know!?!?

[@sehc100]

Perfection! 🎉😂❤

[@benkyle76]

I’ve completely lost count of the number of times I’ve said “that’s his best one yet” 😅

[@LvndrBeez]

Wowzers 25:05

[@cnoor30]

Dear Professor - please would you analyse the clinicians in the LL miscarriage of justice case that happened at COCH in the UK? I thought of how you said medical doctors would be the most dangerous category of narcissist. Thank you ❤

[@WeRNthisToGetHer]

Long story short: Cuz they petty! 😂😜

[@ellev11]

Wow!!

[@cheraka7177]

Wow