Narcissistic Abuse - The 3 Modes Of Healing

[@drlizyorke]

As a clinical hypnotherapist I entirely endorse the work Melanie is doing. The issue of re-traumatization is a real one - it is absolutely necessary to access the sub/unconscious/body feeling briefly in order to locate where the pain/trauma is, before reframing and releasing it at all levels of the psyche (including past lives, genes etc ). Only then can we reprogram our psyche towards empowerment - we can powerfully orient ourselves towards a different future and free ourselves from the negative operant conditioning and the trauma bonding of the narcissist - and Thrive. Neuroplasticity requires this...

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Liz Yorke Right ON Liz, so, so true - and it will be a wonderful day when everyone realises this truth - what is REALLY necessary to reprogram ourselves and our lives and how fruitless surface level treatments are. Thank you for your post Mel xoxox

[@rain3743]

I can't believe people comment on anything you wear. Good grief! You're fabulous. Go no make up and dressing gown, if you want. I love you.

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Rainbo T Bless and much love to you too!! xoxox

[@teiwaz3095]

Finally..... REALITY !!!! Don't ever stop putting all your strength wisdom and Real Healing out there..... You are a genius !!!! Thank you..... Thank you..... Thank you

[@rebeccaaitchison9097]

The Thriver Model Tool is the last piece of my puzzle i have been looking for THANK YOU SO MUCH.

[@rlee6052]

I feel the same 😃

[@Lisarata]

I just discovered the Thriver Model and Ms. Evans. But I can testify that going into your dark places, with your eyes open, you can find a magnificent gift that your life is holding for you.

[@101wrf]

The most helpful part of this video, for me, was when Melanie addressed people who were criticizing her, and simply said "if they don't realize the value of what I have to share, that's their problem and not my problem'. That's what I needed to hear today. Very helpful, thanks Melanie!

[@karenlangley7543]

Melanie, I can’t thank you enough. So much information available on what NPD “is”, but I knew/know that I need to be healed from trauma that I have experienced and not had the tools to deal with, my entire life. While knowledge of what NPD is, was extremely valuable, and helped me to identify what I was dealing with, and start on this journey, I knew I needed more to help me heal, and so I continued to search, and came across your program. Just signed up for your webinar, looking forward to it! Thank you so much

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Aww Karen I am delighted you have found the healing workshop, it will answer many questions on how to heal from narcissistic abuse for you. Please let me know how it goes for you. xoxox

[@amywind3145]

Hi Melaine, I am so grateful for you and all the work you are doing for the community. I am a NARP member and have been working your program. I loved this show because I am a very positive thinker and do believe in the Law of Attraction however as you stated you can not up level and evolve until you face your own inner wounds. My goal after being abused was to never have this happen to me again and that's when I found your website. I love myself and I am so thrilled about where my life I s heading. For the first time in my life I feel a sense of purpose in my life. God bless you and you are truly an angelic messenger.

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Amy Wind I am so thrilled your inward journey with NARP has freed you and thank you for your lovely message here!! xoxox

[@kamalamasters9448]

Melanie, your heart, wisdom and compassion is what shows up clearly. I love that you are yourself in your beautiful unique way!...it gives us all permission to be uniquely who we are too. I look forward to connecting with your wisdom every day. Yes, whoever commented about boots (I can't believe that's a problem for anyone).

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Kamala Masters Thank you - and I believe it is SO important for us all to be our unique self! xoxo

[@brendadrew834]

Totally nails it! Thanks so much...all your great videos are a tremendous help to all of us in Narc Abuse Recovery! Peace, love and namaste~

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

My absolute pleasure Brenda xoxox

[@joytotheworld6804]

Yep, this is spot on, I totally agree, talking over and over again, about any traumatic event doesn't help.Really like your work, thanks!

[@IAm-zi1sf]

Thank you for relieving me of the burden of feeling like I'm wallowing by just feeling sad ....to just be able to feel as low as I've ever been ...as lonely disappointed scared ....and curious and maybe at times a spec of hope. Thank you for showing me that rage is my response to control dependency abandonment fear sick and insidious programming and tactics ....and being on the wrong path completely....that I don't have to focus and work through every detail of every narc I've been connected to and simply need to have the constitution to sit with me ...I don't have to tap dance for anyone anymore ...thank you

[@MG-ej3mj]

I just broke up with my narcissist after going to visit my family alone for 3 months, and being apart from him made me see more clearly what he really is. I was about to move to Australia for him and my life would have been so different if I went over there. Can’t help being even more down because I feel like I don’t have a purpose here with no job and no intention to stay in the area, yet can’t leave until I’m healed.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi M G, be gentle with yourself Dear One xoxox

[@JacoboDeLobo]

I can't even put into words how much this helped me and it blows my mind how I found your video at just the right time. I needed this. Thank you for putting this out there. I hope that anyone else who is going through the same thing heals and I'm sending love to absolutely everyone, no one excluded.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Jacob I am so pleased this has helped. Thank you for sending your love to all! xoxox

[@amybennette3404]

Hi Melanie. This is not something I usually do, but I just had to comment and say thank you - your videos have pretty much saved me. I have a friend who has NPD and as a devoted psychology student, one would think that I'd pick it up immediately. But in all honesty, I didn't...until I ended up on the receiving end of the abuse. I thought that merely discovering he has NPD would give me motivation to stay away and cut all ties, but I soon realised that I was already stuck in too deep. Getting out of that frame of mind and trying to repair the damage done is an uphill battle, primarily not only because all my friends could never understand - which I hope they never have to understand or go through, but I am struggling to hold down a job. I never realised how one person could completely shatter me and make me feel like I'm a worthless piece of nonsince (because I never thought that of myself before). My performance at work is highly affected by this and most days I just feel emotionally exhausted. I have managed to let go of all of this pain before, and I know it's a long process, but as soon as I let go he somehow finds a way to pop his head back in the picture and everything from the past comes right back and slaps me in the face. As a firm believer in the law of attraction myself, I have noticed that the whole point to it is to truly feel - even if negative feelings, allowing them to play out so that you can come to a state of feeling empowered. However, doing this isn't helping in this situation...I just feel worse. I have begun to look inwards and am finding this process extremely rewarding. So thank you so much for spreading the word and making your knowledge known.

[@anneabbott1868]

Melanie how generous and caring of you to feel like that and still do your show. And it was very helpful. Thank you. Hope u feel better soon!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Anne Abbott Thank you for your acknowledgements! Bless and much love! xoxox

[@melindap9133]

Brilliant - a Gem of a Video. " Reprogramming subconscious trauma" - you nailed it again, as you do .I find it so tricky to explain to people about what ARE the differences between so many psychological healing modalities out there, versus the Thriver Model. Thank you so much for providing videos and talks that can be shared to those I can't explain so eloquently to - but deeply want to. I am able to share these talks so much more easily than Moi attempting to do the same - thank you so much.

[@drawingonthemoon]

You articulate complex abstract concepts so incredibly and beautifully well. You really nail it about what is missing with the Law of Attraction. Thnk you so much Mel. I am getting so much healing from these videos.

[@leahhibbin1561]

Manifesting YOU - I couldn't agree with you more! For the first time in nearly 50 years I can see the light of hope at the end of a long, long tunnel of pain...and it's Melanie shining a torch....not so much and "angel in Disguise" as an angel with no wings : )

[@alisonkendall4561]

thank you Mel - I dont care what you wear, or if you are in a bathroom for the recordings - the content is always GREAT!!!

[@sandranewson9521]

Love, love, love this video :) Did I say I love it haha By clearing those wounds, limiting beliefs and subconscious programmes the law of attraction manifesting just keeps on coming. It's saved my life, literally. Thank you Mel xx

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Sandra 250 Yes you did say you loved it San! I know how beautifully you live L of A as a Thriver Sandra it is a joy to see and a pleasure to be a part of! You rock lady!! xoxoxo

[@martynstanley5308]

Melanie. after the strangest day. you saved a life today with your videos.

[@savii3101]

Hi Melanie, All your videos and newsletter are amazing. Since I subscribed to your website I am beginning to heal tremendously. I still have a long way to go but coming across your work, advice, positiveness has given me a new dimension that there is my whole life ahead of me and without the horrible past. So I thank you indefinitely for helping people like me to have a better future. Lots of love Savi

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Maju Savitree Lots of love to you too and I am so pleased my work is helping you so much! You are so welcome Savi! xoxo

[@deborahkern]

I'm so grateful for your practical, grounded way of sharing these teachings. THANK YOU.

[@ElNo-hn5ll]

My lady... You are amazing. I came across this by chance and every word makes sense.

[@arnelnacino6754]

Boots?! What boots? When? And what was this business about people commenting about your lipstick in another video?! Don't they have anything more important to worry about, like maybe, the topic of your video? I wouldn't have noticed any of this since I'm too busy looking at your lovely face, and listening intently to everything you have to say. Keep up the excellent work, Melanie. Your youtube videos are enlightening, and this one is no exception.

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Arnel Nacino hahaha the comments went wayyyyyy beyond just BOOTS from this one delightful person!! You are so sweet Arnel, always love your wonderful support

[@DaveKohler]

Hey Mel - Love the content and don't care how you dress up (or dress down). I learn and grow so much from you!! Thank you and I hope we get a bit of a tour of your new home! All the best of abundance, peace and love to you!!

[@MarinoMatthews]

I have used you and your thriver model since 2011. I have been through 2 narcissist and as you mention, it is just an opportunity to up-level some more. I found recently quitting a bad job - QFH helped with that. What came to mind listening to this show, is their is an aspect of talk-therapy, law-of-attraction that have value. However, when you combine them with QFH - you will have total success. It is important to figure out what the problem is (talk-therapy). It is important to believe that you can truly have whatever you want (law of attraction). However, it is paramount if you truly want to heal to up-level the weeds of your soul with QFH - then you can use talk therapy to figure out what you truly want, use the law of attraction to get it and then you can have a happy and fulfilled life. Thank you Mel, for bringing me back from the land of zombies xo

[@KateBarbourvoice]

Great approach and well explained. This is my experience too - I couldn't really go through the "positive thinking of LOA" but I searched for different tools for releasing blocks and for healing traumas. There are many different methods how to do that and it's good to find one that suits you. I appreciate so much your video because it just agrees with everything I learned about healing emotional traumas and LOA. Thank you!

[@joyceshafer9653]

Such a clear, valid explanation, Melanie. When people first learn about or become involved with Law of Attraction, it’s tempting to land on the Positive Thinking wave - and miss the key point: LOA operates in accord with what’s stored in our subjective (subconscious) mind. Our subjective mind contains beliefs we are aware of and ones we aren’t. Opposing forces cannot occupy the same space, e.g., doubt and faith cannot be held at the same time: the one you FEEL more strongly is the signal you send into the creative field, as well as the one you operate from. The objective (conscious) mind can change subjective beliefs (whew!). This is where NARP does its work. It’s where beliefs that hold you back are given a safe place to surface and be released by conscious choice so you can shift. Here are some Ernest Holmes statements from The Science of Mind that remind us of this and support what you said in this video and teach: “Merely to abstain from wrong thinking is not enough; there must be active right thinking.” “Man’s subjective Mind is really the use we are making of the One Law.” “Each draws from Life what he thinks into it.” “To learn how to think is to learn how to live. This is not done by holding thoughts but by knowing the Truth.” “All thought is creative, according to the nature, impulse, emotion, or conviction behind the thought.” “The Conscious Mind is superior to the subjective and may consciously use it.” “We have a conscious mind that operates within a subjective field, which is creative.” “The conscious mind is Spirit, the subjective is Law.” “Look a discordant ‘fact’ in the face and deny its ‘reality’, it is an illusion.” “A limited condition has no real Universal Law to support it; it is simply an experience of consciousness.” “Appearances have no real power; only consciousness does. Cease to believe in them, and they shift.” “It’s not a power of will; it’s the power of choice. We get what we believe most.” “Treat until you get results.” “Give up any belief that hinders the desired demonstration. This is not about denial, but about absolute perfection and freedom.” “Anything the mind thinks, it can unthink.” “Man’s outward life is a result of the subjective state of his thought.” “That which we look upon is real while we look at it.” “Leave off old mental reactions to transcend previous experiences.” “No person whose entire time is spent in the contemplation of limitation can demonstrate freedom from such limitation.” “We do not compel or coerce something to happen, nor use willpower. Treatment is not something you do to another, an environment, or a situation; it is always the thing one does to himself.” “Every problem is primarily mental, and the answers to our problems will be found in Spiritual Realization.” “What life does for us must be done through us.” Anyone reading to this point can (I hope) see what Melanie and NARP provides, and that this is provided through truth about how Mind and Law work together. The fact is that effort (doing the NARP work) leads to results and rewards.

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Joyce Shafer Wow - your post is sooo full of wisdom, power and insight!! Yes, it is so true a tool was needed (and QFH is not the only one) where we can safely and powerfully meet and heal the subconscious, because that was the only way many of us were ever going to break free. xoxox

[@kroftytattoo]

Thank you so much for your videos. This is only the second of yours I've watched and I'm so excited. I am at a point where I really needed some help, and yours were the first videos that really spoke to me on a level I can get with. No talk of chakras or just explaining what a narcissist is and what abuse to expect. You were straight down to a logical and cognitive way of healing yourself. Thank you so much. I feel hopeful :-)

[@jromeo8247]

and your message is never ever distracted by whether you are a cow or a goddess (you are) your message and its truth is what saved my mind, life - it changed it. you are a gem. inside and out.

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Josephine Elizabeth Romeo Bless! And I am so pleased I could help you!! xoxo

[@FTSD2023]

I wanted to share with you that I've been utelizing the phrase you've said "this is not a part of my reality anymore", this has been so freeing. OMG!!!! My ex did that to me- 10 months of supervised visits with my FIRST child!!!!! The entire experience except for the first 5 months were nothing like what I wanted or ever imagined! I'm still letting go of the anger and sending that time frame love, to let go and heal. Yes, hijacked emotionally is a perfect description of what I have been living. Currently he is stonewalling which is a relief compared to the up & down crap we were doing before. We're still living together until I can save up to move out. I had a huge aha moment yesterday that all of the pictures we had ever taken were specifically taken by me, never him, and as I was deleting all of our pictures together because I no longer want to look at pictures that are lies, I noticed over and over again how many times he just looked miserable and I was trying to always cheer him up, make him care, and I just really saw how miserable he was. I realized for myself how long I've been faking it and trying to make him love me like I wanted him to, like I had wanted my mom to, but she consistently rejected me and still has. I've just cut her off as an adult, we had a conversation where I told her when she decided to grow up and forgive me for the mistakes I made as a child we could have a relationship. Sadly, I kept trying to get her to let me back into her heart, she's refused. I finally gave up this year and let it go realizing that she wants to hold onto all the blame and guilt tripping and anger. Now realizing she was a narcissist and that the physical assault I experienced as well as the verbal slaughter of me as a child growing up finally makes sense. I just thought she was a rage a holic, but now I get it. My brother was always the Golden child and I was told I was the wild child uncontrollable one, the black sheep, the bad kid. Unreal what is surfacing. I love that, thank you- you can't heal what you're not ready to feel. Me saying this is no longer my reality is helping emmensely. I'm looking so forward to your 3 hour training. Thank you for following your life mission to be here doing this now. I am so grateful. Who cares what you wear, people are silly, they need to focus on the message which is life saving. But then again if you choose to be distracted on non important issues, that just shows they are using that as a redirect tool instead of doing the inner work needed to move forward. Bless your heart for doing that while you had the flu!!!! What a blessing you are!!! Sending you so so much love, light, and hugs across the miles. 🙏🙏🙏😊😊😊😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

That is terrific Francesca and so powerful. I am so glad to be of help. Love, light and big hugs to you too dear lady. xoxox

[@janegore6047]

VERY useful video indeed thank you so much. I couldn't have done a video like that feeling as tired as you did! Well done and thanks again xx

[@debrushton6778]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for bringing clarity and awareness back into my life. you're awesome!

[@MisT39T]

Hi Melanie, Thanks for the explanation, it provided a lot of clarity on these issues as I have had a lot of experience with all three of them. Now I understand how the emotions are the issue. For me the narc was like a catalyst so I could resolve the music issue with my father. I came to see how my x-husband, brother, father and non-related narc figured into the mix. I'm much more aware of my body and I can see how my inner little girl befriends me. There is the other side. The relationships I am participating in now are very rich and fullfilling. Whew!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Terry Fischer Great stuff that you are connecting the dots and breaking free. Thats wonderful!! xox

[@peacefound88]

THANK YOU!! This has brought so much peace within!!!

[@m.b.8314]

And I completely agree what you said in regard to the LoA. It's the one thing that's always bugged me about it: not dealing with our shadow side. Thumbs up!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+M. B. Bless! xoxo

[@fourmakeup]

Melanie, This is so Powerful and has had huge clarity for me. I need to listen to this a few times at least! You look beautiful with your hair pulled back today!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Yvonne Ouellette I am so pleased it helped and thank you for your lovely compliment! xoxo

[@AlysiasArtStudio]

Just started watching this video and when you said someone had a problem with boots or something you wore I actually giggled lol! I watch first and foremost for healing, secondly I do observe what you wear because I think you’re very stylish! And healing finding myself includes some work on my outside, I think your style is on point! Classy and all. I discovered a year ago how deep the abuse was from my mother etc, so your videos help on many levels. Even the fashion a mother or sister may help you develop, I didn’t have that so I appreciate that side of the help too.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Awww thank you Alysia for the style compliments and I'm delighted my work resonates with you too. Love and blessings to you xoxox

[@jenniferhenderson739]

Thank You Melanie! Love your integration of neuroscience and the reasons why talk therapy is not effective and counter-productive. This has been my experience as well.

[@sweetestbluebird]

Hello Beautiful Melanie, a couple of years back I was one of the people asking you about applying Law Of Attraction and confused as to why this wouldn't work. Down the line you have been consistently and completely accurate in everything you have said. You can only attract what you are reflecting from inside - as above so below- like attracts like. When you are coming from a place of unworthiness and self abandonment you can only attract the same. On top of the deep seated feelings of less than, the narcissistic partner is hammering away at your wounds externally, therefore how can you possible come from a state of true well being, happiness and bliss? It is not even remotely possible. It's only when we do the inner work on ourselves and heal our wounds, then we can attract a relationship that reflects a wholesome and blissful inner state. Thank You Melanie for sharing your profound wisdom, eternally grateful. XOXO

[@NarcissistFreealmost]

This brings so many things together for me. Thanks so much Melanie!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Narcissist Free My pleasure xox

[@douglasstrickland1738]

Melanie, you are wonderful and your information and advice is priceless. Thank you so very much.

[@seagaul94]

Thank you for your wonderful insight. Listening to you just keeps me positive and motivated. You are a beautiful person.

[@priscillahernandez5129]

thank you melanie🙌 well said emotional trauma. day by day is healing. 🌻💜

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Bless and you are welcome Priscilla xoxo

[@lightenupjuicechakracleans5057]

I am moving right now too and all of the above!!!

[@forgetmeplease1414]

Makes sense. My body will get shaky and panic, even if I logically am not worried at all. I logically know its ok, but my body recognizes people, places, experiences, and reacts to that, no matter what I think. There are tons of chemicals and hormones that produce without negative thinking. It takes time to replace those strong holds with positive outcomes.

[@KTLees]

Can't wait to do the quantum freedom healing. This is so in-line with my healing journey so far. Thank goodness for your programme. I'm ready!

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Ohhhh, yay Katie!! I can't wait for you to connect up!! See you in the webinar!! xoxox

[@millimiaou9105]

A coin really fell down for me here and gave me more insight. Thank you so much Melanie!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Millimiaou My pleasure I am so pleased the information resonated with you xox

[@kimfawcett1725]

Once again another fantastic video to give us food for thought. It's wonderful how you get us to focus on thriving rather than staying stuck as a victim or even a survivor and heal completely. Dealing with self avoiding is so important. Being in love and not powerlessness and taking responsibility for letting these people into our lives is also important (family not included in that) The thriving model is the only way forward. I have really liked your free 16 day course so far. I look forward to moving on to your actual course after. Thanks so much for this video and indeed all your video's. Thanks again. xx

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

It is my absolute pleasure Kimberley and welcome to the Thriver Community sweetheart xoxox

[@rebeccki]

you're videos have helped me so much . I can't thank you enough

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Rebecca Anne My pleasure xoxox

[@beverlyclark8324]

Thank you so much Melanie..this makes so much sense and you explain it so well. Also glad you stood up for yourself with regard to people comments about what you wear. Their issues and none of their business!!! Carry on with your great work. You are an inspiration!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Beverly Clark Bless and I am so pleased this video resonated with you - and thank you for your lovely support! xoxox

[@beverlyclark8324]

+Melanie Tonia Evans Arhhh thank you for your reply so grateful and for your videos. Sending love & light to you for the UK xxx

[@lillyboldlyshewhispers7145]

Thank you Melainie. I missed out on your live webinar. But I am getting your emails. 💜 its all about healing.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Beverly, You are so welcome and I'm so glad this helps. You can sign up again for the webinar here: www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinarIt works well with the email resources to answer so many of the questions we have about these relationships and why they happen. Love and blessings xoxox

[@sumanbhatia2814]

Totally head-on, Melanie! Thanks! God bless!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Suman Bhatia You are so welcome. Blessings to you too! xoxo

[@kayweav1]

I am so thankful to have found your channel. You have been a light during my breaking point for me. I plan on watching all of your videos to get a better sense of how to handle myself. Do you already have a video on tips for the initial leave? I'm very codependent on this relationship, financially and emotionally. I would greatly appreciate advice and more information. Thanks!

[@heidismisdom]

loa states : what you focus on gets bigger, (good and bad stuff) so indeed if you don't clean up and stay focused on that....you will get more of it... so I think that your thriver model goes hand in hand with loa in that way...keep up the good work you're my saviour in difficult times big kiss from Belgium

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+heidismisdom I'm so glad I could help, and big kiss back! xoxo

[@klattalexis]

I love your cozy, relaxed-fit sweater & want one.

[@frankiehope336]

Thank you for another wonderful video, Melanie. You always look elegant, classy and completely at ease. Good luck with your move xxx

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Frankie Maxwell Thank you so much for all your love, support and blessings! xoxo

[@frannybeazer]

Hi Melanie You are beautiful! Thank you for bringing up the law of attraction. I have always believed in this concept. I agree very much with what you are saying. I believe that the law of attraction does give us messages and is a gift. When the trauma is still in our bodies, this same law ( the Universe, God, the creator)whatever we choose to call it, will show us what we need to learn to come out of the trauma! Blessings Fanny

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Fanny Bea So so true Life is always reflecting back what we need to heal to be our Highest and Truest selves, and your are so welcome! xxx

[@genevievebraem301]

Hi Melanie, You're so good. Just left a a pervers narcissicist. Best thing for me : naturopathy and buying a kitten. WIth the naturopath I was able to choose a colour in my life (yellow and?or orange) and it's the theme of my new home> Not overpowering but a positive message at each corner of my house> The kitten as well has given me the opportunity to focus on something else> Id like to have a chat with you about the message of the numbers, so many numbers and situations are matching in my life> For instance : lost my mum of suicide at 3 years of age in Belgium, finishing in Adelaide Australia and ... we found in our previous house a wood beam on which it was written Adelaide-Belgium or I got my huge breakdown on my 20th wedding anniversary> Could we have a chat about that. Btw for me thriving model is DEFINETELY the solution to start to heal. Big congratulations for your work

[@rhondarussell6344]

I've tried cognitive behavorial thearpy and it was more damaging then helpful. My pain is so super deep rooted, I realized that home thearpy is more beneficial. You are helpful to my questions.....Thank you!

[@m.b.8314]

Very, very well explained! Couldn't have said it better. This vid's a gem :). Thank you for your hard work!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+M. B. My pleasure and so glad you enjoyed it! xoxo

[@hbruce5868]

It always amazes me how people judge others solely on their externals and do not even make an effort to go deeper. On a certain level one can only feel sorry for them because they often miss out on what they really need to hear for their own benefit. Mel, you sound a bit overwhelmed because there is alot going on(positive things) but nonetheless you need to retain your energy so as not to get sick. You need you and so do we. Boots? Seriously? Thank you for another amazing video. Also sorry for sounding like "my" mother.

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+H Bruce You are a doll Helen ... and thank you for caring and being a "mum"... (I would do the same!). Its all in check and since the vid as a result of QFH shifts and tons of Vit C and echinacea my throat is not AS sore, and the body aches are subsiding. All good - things are just as hectic - but it's also because apart from work and the move I have amazing Life Things going on as well. I'm too "Thriver" now to say "no"... and I DO love it all! xoxox

[@hbruce5868]

You, Mel, are truly amazing! xxo

[@becausekittenspaint1946]

Thank you for this inspirational video. Great info on the body mind connection during healing. 🌹

[@Owondr]

Thanks for addressing the LoT deficit

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

My pleasure Owondr and thank you for your kind compliments xoxox

[@TheK7aloha]

Melanie!!! I missed you!!! Did your program in 2017!!! So sooooo happy to have you pop up in my feed!!

[@academicsurvival3603]

Two years later and still powerfully relevant. Thank you!!

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

It's my pleasure academic survival xoxox

[@eklotz18]

Thank You SOO Much...You are very knowledgeable mashallah, much love from Medinah, Saudi Arabia :)

[@tinakelly4284]

A very inspiring talk Melanie, thank you. I've been thinking that I'm getting over my abuse quite well emotionally, but I have a lot of health problems at the moment. I'm not sure if it is because I haven't resolved all of my issues yet, and need to look deeper into things, or whether it's just the aftermath of 11 years of wear and tear from looking after my ex. I'm basically happy now, but I do find myself getting angry from time to time over the past.

[@natsdaley3543]

I love the law of attraction but this ti gold.. You have no idea how much of my healing journey is down to your teaching you are truly blessed ❤️🙏

[@sky2461]

So much good info, thanks! And u can wear whatever u want.

[@laraserendipity1424]

First off Melanie, anyone who's examining your outfits, are watching your videos for the wrong reasons. I have been finding more and more (or just noticing more now) that since my narcissist discarded me, and I'm feeling low, and my mom has a serious illness that I'm devoting a lot of energy to (and getting more depressed in the process), that I have been surrounded by so many cruel, empathy lacking people to me.(with the exception of my son, and maybe one work friend. I feel like I'm surrounded by sharks and bleeding!

[@Kaefer101]

Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! It is so helpful to me! Could you please do a video on selfpartnering? You have talked about it before, and I'm practicing it as good as I can, but I'm sure you have good techniques due to your work in this field. Love and light to you!

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Kaefer101 My pleasure and I certainly will consider doing that soon! xoxo

[@HAP68]

Melanie u r gorgeous 💓thank u for all the information that u deliver from your ❤

[@jromeo8247]

for someone whom says they are exhausted, you look absolutely beautiful.

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Josephine Elizabeth Romeo Awww thank you. The wonders of modern makeup!! xoxox

[@millimiaou9105]

And you are beautiful both inside and out:) Only good and totally allowed to share of ourselves.

[@jasminemoon4175]

I really love what you are doing and saying. I have recently left a relationship with a small child upon the slow Evolution that I was dealing with a narcissist. Over the years I have done a lot of self work in many of the areas you mentioned. I find your show refreshing because so much narcissistic abuse victimizes the individual who's not narcissistic. While I found the information helpful, my spiritual side felt ignored. Your approach addresses the spirit and healing, which is so important. I am a little lost at the thriving model exactly. I have identified over the years and continue to identify my childhood wounds. But then what? Does your model Base Healing on pure observation? White's childhood wounds begin to show themselves, then what? This is where I feel stuck.

[@triciamedora9274]

OMG, Melanie, I think that would be amazing. Why not PJ's & tea when you didn't feel well? A beautiful example of self-care. We choose to invite you in our homes, lives & hearts. This community is family and this, to me, is a journey back home to self. It is empowering to witness you unapologetically set boundaries, without internalizing judgment, You command respect and stand your ground. You are firm, powerful, strong, yet remain empathetic, kind, graceful and feminine. It's such a beautiful example of not allowing judgment to be internalized. It is so empowering💟

[@jeanjohnson2911]

This is amazing! So so true.

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Jean Johnson So glad you enjoyed it! xx

[@ppompeiable]

Powerful. What was the Three cases of ... program you mention in the end of the video. I played it many times and can't understand the words. I would like to join that conversation of the three tools to use to raise up your up leveling your subconsious directly that gives you the body shifts. I would like to join that. Please send me a pm message. Thank you. Thank you for sharing this powerful positive video.

[@Owondr]

The wealth and the value is in the content...and your glorious hair 🤣🤣🤣

[@Shareshten]

Where is link for upcoming webinar? 💛👌🙏

[@Erin_The_Lotus]

Good info

[@RenaWith]

those people making comments are probably narcissist. :D :D :D You are very classy and beautiful and so well-spoken. I love listening to you.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Thank you Pearl. I am so glad you are enjoying my videos. Love and blessings xoxox

[@shellbell8062]

Perhaps LOA should be employed in our thought patterns - but not used for trauma. I love what you do Melanie - your work resonates deeply with me. Do you have any videos on how to access traumas and up-level them?

[@sarahmarzalek-kelly7503]

LOVE this.

[@SportSoulLife]

Dear Melanie, do you have something on the topic of how to act, when one realizes that one of your teen-aged kids is behaving like a super-narc??? Thank you for your valuable help.

[@Sleeping_Wolf]

just love you!

[@evelinel.9827]

Unload the past by Tapping (EFT). Lots of videos on KZbin. Feel it and let it go, you are not meant to be in pain.

[@veronicajernegan6208]

Hi Melanie, I am getting so much out of your vid's. I would like to attend your webinar however, I do not see the link you mentioned. Can you help me? Namaste, Veronica

[@EmilyBarr64]

I want a body shift - this is very interesting

[@allisfaith]

3 healing techniques 9:00

[@montelo555]

Osho addressed this years ago. Talking means giving attention, whatever you gives attention, grows. I had felt it even before I had a name for abuse. I knew in my heart that "this won't work". The best video I saw on the internet especially on narcissistic abuse healing. Law of attraction keeps you in ignorance and yes, shadow follows, even after a good day, the back of your mind is this unknown feeling of hopelessness and fear. Now we can understand what it is. Thank you, Thank you so much. You've set so many people on THE path, the path which have the least chances to be lost and to be healed in the least possible time with effectively.

[@natashazaikanova1850]

You are beautiful inside and out) and this video the most interesting.

[@magickology]

We would love to hear a video just about thriver model! Also is this webinar recorded or done periodically?

[@fourmakeup]

How can I sign up for the upcoming webinar? Thank you

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+Yvonne Ouellette Here Yvonne ... www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xx

[@alee9103]

I do have a slight confusion about vibrationally being in a good place and attracting good things. My ex N was very financially abusive (which I know is pretty common) and since our divorce I have struggled with money while he has flourished. And, he continues to be abusive financially through child support and health insurance issues, plus being a Disneyland Dad with the kids--taking expensive vacations and buying them things I can't afford presently. I recognize I've been functioning from a state of lack on this accord and so have begun to try to change this attitude both through Law of Attraction concepts, reading Marianne Williamson's The Law of Divine Compensation and working in your goal setting modules; however, if the energy that you are is the energy that you attract, how is it that N's are often so financially well off? Their vibrations are wretched, so why don't they attract dismal financial failure? Am I missing something here? I mean, I recognize they are ultimately tortured human beings, but I guess my point is more about if positive energy begets positive energy from the Universe, why are N's often "successful" financially or otherwise?

[@reg8297]

ALee So true what's the answer to that I like to know yes they thrive and are abusers

[@BonRain8734]

The recent comments about Melanie's appearance pertains to the "law of attraction" issue covered in this video....People perceive what THEY value. Those commenters must invest a lot of value into their boots and lipstick. It's strange, but I've seen that many times. I once showed a video to a friend, it was a talk by a well respected spiritual teacher. After viewing it, her only comment was how she couldn't stand the teacher's accent and hair style. I was shocked, it's as if she didn't HEAR any of the content! Later I realized how overly vain my friend was about HER OWN physical presentation (yet she considered herself to be very "spiritual"). It's an example of how, if one does not actually do the work to evaluate their own value system and consciousness, they won't even HEAR information necessary for their own evolution. Dear Melanie, correct me if I'm wrong here... :-)

[@PathsToEmpowerment]

+solis I completely agree. People "go to" the aspects of themselves that are of value (and stress) ... things required for them to have their "identity intact" (outer sourcing of value). Also big triggers that incite attack are unresolved wounds around the issues of the "assumptions / attacks". You are right ON it! xoxo

[@Jojo-sb1xs]

U are amazing xxxxxxxxxx