Narcissistic Supply: How Does it FEEL?

[@letmedohumble]

Life of a narcissist is pain, pain, pain, eternal pain

[@YIE63248]

Seeing them as cocaine addicts is helpful. He kept saying he didn’t mean to hurt people. It’s true that he hurts people, and it may also be true that his intent wasn’t to cause pain. He’s chasing his addiction because without supply he’ll collapse.

[@tanyabell7748]

HEY DOC...HEAR THIS ONE BEFORE?? Like the narcissist said on his first date... "Sooo, THAT'S enough about me....now, tell me, what do YOU think if ME!?" Chuckle*😂😅😂

[@beachybird1251]

This all sounds very cult-like to me. There is no middle ground. Either you are with them or you are not. Independent thought is not allowed. Once programmed, it is highly difficult, if not impossible to break through their defenses and nonsense. Particularly when from one day to the next I am told I do not exist as a part of their world. It is crazy-making to say the least. These are not simple issues. Thank you for your videos!

[@williamwoody7511]

They are the cult leader and you are in or out…

[@rong3648]

This is culty asf

[@divyanshsh]

Sounds monotheistic in nature

[@veroest21]

Trump. One hundred percent. And my ex husband. I can totally relate to women who have been in cults. So many similarities and it is plain evil to be love-bombed, used, abused, and discarded like a piece of trash. Your research and vulnerability in sharing your own experiences, Dr. Vaknin, is transformative. Knowledge is power. You have been instrumental in helping me reclaim mine. Thank you and bless you. 🙏

[@sargamswift5928]

It is cult like… and indeed a cult leader is narcissistic

[@rosiemckinzie8608]

As a kid growing up my narcissistic father used to say all the time “ I’m a legend in my own mind”. I always thought he was trying to be funny but in retrospect he was being serious 🧐

[@makingpeacefulminds]

It's so childish that narcissism even exists-when you take a step back and think about it it's almost hilarious like what? 😭😭😭

[@justinekelly7137]

I used to say that to my ex husband, not knowing at the time that he was a narcissist… 😢 26 years wasted

[@veroest21]

29 years wasted for me. The important thing is getting out. No contact equals peace, health, new beginning.

[@nailaamer6541]

Living with a narcissist for 22 years, all my supplies have exhausted, ive nothing else to offer other than silence and indifference, dont know how to get out of this grand arrangement with three grown up kids, house, jobs etc he is like a hologram, you poke and there is no one there

[@mec.laurapalmer7155]

What do you mean by this hologram metaphor.

[@christycomer373]

Exact same situation here, to a “T”….. perfect description of what I am married to…. There’s absolutely nothing there…. He watches the Flintstones every day like it’s his job.

[@nailaamer6541]

@@mec.laurapalmer7155 its like living with an invisible person, he is visible to rest of the world but for you he is never there, you can’t share ANYTHING , he was intentionally absent in all of my hardest times like sugery, childbirth, when i needed a hand to hold. If we are sitting in a social gathering , he would act as if i never existed, ask me the meaning of cravings for love, attention, possession… he has deprived me big time so for me he is a hologram , a husband who was never there for me

[@nailaamer6541]

@@The4thWayExperience my kids r 21, 17 n 15… yes i have a job, i thing that i made him do all these years is to pay all major bills including children education, if i walk out now, he won’t be paying for their uni and i dont have that much of a saving

[@marilynbrowman5520]

I love your comment. Holygraph to me is an empty shell, nothing fills them up. I too am exhausted, indifferent, distanced. How can we not be!!!!

[@YIE63248]

It’s helped me in my healing to see that the narcissist’s actions are pretty compulsory; he does them literally to survive. Supply helps him feel perfect and deserving of love finally. He would collapse / die without these moments. Separating from “Mommy” is also compulsory. It couldn’t have gone any other way. The one thing that trips me up though is he also has BPD traits (I felt he used me to help him regulate his intense emotions). If BPD people do get attached to people, why could he discard me so easily? Maybe the answer was, he just needed new, non-stale supply more than the stability I provided. (He has ADHD too.) And I think I started feeling disappointed by him and was giving less adulation. Also, I guess he was so delusional and did crazy stuff to be w me in the beginning because I gave him such grade A supply. He told me I made him feel better than anyone ever had. Maybe he was telling the truth that losing that supply was painful. Maybe he was in pain. Maybe he moved on so quickly to survive. Had to harvest new energy to live.

[@Princesslatifah]

Great interpretation

[@joripascarella9998]

Omg. You just described my ex in a nutshell I hope his initials aren't JJ. To think there are multiple of these people is very scary

[@Sci-d9c]

Professor Vaknin, your work is amazing. Your ability to break the information down into simple terms is incredible.,My understanding of the Psychopathology of NPD, Psychopath, Sociopath, and Borderline is overwhelming clear. The information helped me to understand my Fake Relationship with a Narcissist and exactly what happened within that period in the relationship. The relationship lasted about 7months and I left because of the inconsistency and wired behavior. I noticed after I left he’s stuck in my brain. However, everyday it’s getting less. Understanding the process helps tremendously. Again, Thank you!🙏🏾

[@greatglidesby3322]

Wow. This is wild. Sometimes I think I might be a narcissist while I’m watching S. V. Now, I don’t think I am. I’m a normy - just a normy with my fair share of flaws. I’m cool with reality.

[@enoch6977]

Are you saying that you think his information is tainted by his need for narcissistic supply?

[@suzystone244]

Hello Sam. I have regulated him long enough. 9 years was like crawling through mud. This is a great teaching experience. It sounds ludicrous. Then again, we are dealing with narcissism.

[@Missrock1]

This is why being the supply feels so horrible

[@samvaknin]

The source, not the supply.

[@Missrock1]

@@samvaknin yes! Oké.that is a difference. I understand.

[@777Honeypie]

Thank you! The comparison of supply to a drug is helpful because I know when addicts use, their drug of choice becomes a primary relationship and the partner becomes valued as what they can do for the addict. The addict is controlled by their addiction. The craving a highly emotional and painful experience ... I think the attitude has shifted to be more compassionate towards addicts and I believe it will towards narcissists. That doesn't change the fact that the codependent partners need a lot of help and I think they get overlooked and ridiculed. I think they are in the best position to help and that shouldn't be dismissed. That's my opinion. I think this comparison gives good perspective.

[@vaidehikeskar]

Thank you for the humour, Professor. It helps.☺️

[@ewape1313]

Hi Sam, what you say is really strong. I am a narcissist myself and confirm that every word you say is true. This video sorts out my observations and reflections on man behavior. Thank you so much!

[@eugeniebrown6207]

I’m glad you admit you’re a narcissist and can get help with a therapist 😊

[@MilkaYam]

חחחחה "כשלנרקסיסט אין צפיות הוא מדבר עם פילפילון" אוהבת כל כך את ההומור שלך :)

[@glenmorse9533]

Thank you Prof. Wow, I think I get it now, I know I still don't know half of it yet, it just keeps coming, we appreciate you a lot though!

[@LHanna-gn3qw]

Dankeschön. Narzisstische Zufuhr war für mich immer schwer nachzuvollziehen, weil es mir ziemlich egal ist, ob andere mich mögen oder nicht, gut allein sein kann und das einfach nicht brauche. Dann eskaliert es häufig zwischen mir und narzisstischen Menschen ... 🫸🏻😡💥

[@enoch6977]

Your language looks cool. I don't comprehend a single word of it but I like it.

[@lindaerman3436]

❤ Pil Pilon is right! You are much appreciated.

[@erikal1593]

My ex was bipolar I and my father is a narcissist. Thank you for making this connection! I had to stop the video because I am still mourning the relationship with my ex and the realization is something I’m processing… But it has given me such insight because there were behaviors I knew mimicked narcissists but couldn’t put my finger on it. Thank you 🙏

[@Missrock1]

This make so much sense. Thank you!

[@drechterovich]

👏👏👏 the pilpilon was correct in his observation

[@thanostiliakos3249]

Best analogy on the topic.

[@Rina-ov6eb]

Love your jokes, Sam!😊 And thank you for what you are doing.

[@sargamswift5928]

Thank you so much for this information 🙏

[@margaretjohnson1401]

Narcissists are indeed pitiful and they render their victims so too, sadly

[@MRSH100]

Professor Vaknin Is situational narcissism or transitory narcissistic traits possible in chronic illness?

[@samvaknin]

Yes. In any traumatic situation.

[@marquese1960]

How interesting it is to hear how they 'kill' and consume their victims 😮 this is how it feels when I walk into my narc family's residence when they are all there, it feels like a feeding frenzy and I find myself been kept under close surveillance by at least one of them at all times.😢😮

[@chiliart8056]

I plaid saviour clown golden cousin now Im crazy I disturbe tham if I say truth .It really feels like I came to judge .But when little I was black sheep.I just avoid tham as much I can .But in any set up that looks like family I have flashback and can't be relaxed.

[@Missrock1]

But why is hè so critical to his supply? And why does he want to devaluate the supply? When the supply is so importent for him?

[@samvaknin]

Watch the shared fantasy playlist.

[@Missrock1]

Thank you

[@Missrock1]

@@samvaknin oke

[@timsaunders8989]

Sam ,thank you, Aleikhem shalom

[@EduUy2024]

Hello Sam. A follower from Uruguay 🇺🇾

[@RHathemoment]

I love your ornaments and mugs. :')✨

[@cleodivine83]

How do the internal objects serve the narcissist when these people have left him for good? @drsam Is it like a private museum of dead exes, which he tours??

[@samvaknin]

Watch the shared fantasy playlist and search the channel for "hoover".

[@chiliart8056]

😆

[@zenmaiden1]

Very sad, " 99 percent of profoundly dumb people.. ripe for con artists, laughing all the way to the bank."

[@justinekelly7137]

My exes new supply is a professor of science; Professor Vaknin, is it possible that she may never see it that he is a narcissist? My ex demonstrates so many of the traits and behaviours. I listen to so many of your videos and he could be being described by you. Thank you for your knowledge and sharing with us.

[@Tsverik]

Is the narcissistic euphoria similar to a ‘flow’ state?

[@samvaknin]

More like hyperfocus. Search the channel for “attention”.

[@Tsverik]

@@samvaknin thank you

[@valevazquez7262]

Pilpilon

[@ElOmarco]

0:26 I'll buy one if it really works. XD Sounds like a bargain whatever the price.

[@YouMarch308]

I hope I can tag the coaches here advising women that they are queen and powerful. 😂 and the religious community as well. We are all perfect and etc. by God. Be wise people.

[@PeterShaw-ne1yq]

But the narc must perceive the external supply as expedient to facilitate their fantasy paracosm; I paid a compliment and an offer of help perceived as a criticism and one up and she fell into a rage shouting at me followed by extended silence