Narcissists Only Surround Themselves With Enablers

[@jasoncenters5366]

So true. And even worse when children are involved

[@rosyrose9827]

Yup, his favorite is an enabler & manipulator. How perfect is that?! 😕

[@PrettyMamaPatchwork]

I'm going through it now, but I stay close to God.

[@DalilaJones-p3y]

Am thankful I had a miscarriage my poor baby would had grown up with a narc dad.

[@MohamedAmin-zz8wo]

​@@PrettyMamaPatchworki am sorry...this is really a big issue and the world is not even talking about it much. Stay strong, i went through hell. Suicide thoughts crossed my mind many times. But stay strong

[@MrYou-n4f]

I know it's easy to think like that when life gets sad and but the way I see it I will be getting mad and I or scared cuz I've had both but I would not and I don't want you to go kill yourself when what you need to do is separate from the trash bag narcissist and then they will Target their own so-called friends and then their friends will find out would you always knew What makes me so sick is the way her fake friends have never known me to be a bad person but these Hypocrites brim hat wearing fake fake Christians are actually the worst ones because they go to church and then they even trained their children to hate me although what they're saying about me are repetitive lies hypnotizing their stupid children who hates someone being me that they literally don't even know under the assumption that they're being told the truth without them even getting to know me to find out that it's a lie Most of them are aware of this trash bag Behavior but they are just as disgusting and trashy which is why the narcissists in question that I'm speaking about never has any decent men or women in her life Decent classy people would never want to be around trash bag like this narcissist Thank God I found this woman's videos because it makes sense to me of what I could not understand what's happening for all these decades once I was blind now I can see clearly now ​@@MohamedAmin-zz8wo

[@boogieuggie7865]

That includes family members that know them very well too.

[@onejamaican1551]

This

[@johndupont8628]

Going to be a manipulation free holidays this year

[@jenniferbloh-michael8662]

My ex's family wanted to act like I was as stupid as they were 🤷🤔🤨

[@hopeausbyn1734]

Grifting Mama, Old Maid sister, acting like her NARC brother is her husband.

[@NormaGracia-tu6ig]

❤Amennnn!

[@almondmilksoda]

This is exactly why narcissists in the workplace are such a nightmare and often go unchecked for far too long.

[@sammiee9258]

These jobs are infested with narcissistic people it’s disgusting.

[@jasonjones4492]

Ain't this the truth.

[@TerriMagoo]

Oh my word- TRUTH it’s all so crushing

Never hesitated to call them out, held my ground, returned the rage watch the collapse, and moved on. No toxic people, bosses, family, period. Life is much better.

[@thehappywanderer6469]

Thank you for saying what I don't see people say or want to say in these comments that rage can and should be returned. You did what I tried to do and failed. My rage is something I carry with me now forever.

[@sparklesp9304]

​@@thehappywanderer6469 people who are codependent typically are separated from rage.

[@aloksrivastava7938]

Sometimes, they get physically violent or they use their minions to sucker punch you. Always be careful of everyone who is in your surroundings before calling them out. If you are not as strong as their strongest flying monkey or enabler, it is best that you do not engage.

[@LisaSidels]

Good on you! 🎉

[@DebbieDavis-d6e]

Thank you for your expertise and speaking out boldly about others who are willing to participate with the narcissist evil deeds.

[@Wisdomforthehour]

SO well said. Thank you. This clarifies why people at work are more on the side of my ex who's the narc and seem to not want to believe me when I tell them why we are not dating.

[@sreach93]

I've wondered why the people closest to them don't tap them on the shoulder and say " hey, do you know what you're doing" ?. This explains why they don't.

[@teresadvorak6145]

They only discard those who see & say anything about how they dirty deal. The best thing we can do for them & ourselves is GO NO CONTACT. Unless ya wanna stick around for more of their dirty BS 😮😮

[@lettersandwordsandstuffs]

How do you know what you're doing...

[@Cod12Osc]

Definitely surround themselves with enablers, DEFINITELY

[@srfsummers6261]

Yeah, i was welcomed into her family circle. Her mum and sisters all knew exactly what she was like. They watched me burn for two years, knew the truth, then stood by the narc with no repercussions.

[@MrYou-n4f]

What year describing matches up with our scenario in which the family knew that the nurse was a scumbag but we're glad to unload his garbage into our home knowing that he was stinking garbage It makes me wonder what type of friends those were that knowingly kicked the garbage grenade into our side of the fence and into our home enjoying the benefits of freebies at our expense while we got nothing but torture violence why they make believe that he's such a great guy until we kick the grenade back into their house then we saw their true face come out and how disgusted and angry they were to take this garbage back into their home again after all those years of hell I still blame the home owner adult for letting trash sit in our place no longer safe for all those years because if she wasn't trash herself she would have kicked that s*** out of our house in the first second three strikes he's out motion Instead like a garbage bag she ignored it encouraged it by giving it a free place to live free food and benefits Beyond Your Wildest Dreams like a real idiot endangering all of our lives and when I rescued her she turned on me in order to impress The Narcissist like a real freaking idiot which is why now when I'm told that The Silent Ones who let this happen are sick or want to talk to me I don't even freaking move an inch in that direction they need to feel the burn for what they've done because they want to make believe nothing bad ever happened and she always goes oh you're lying I don't remember those things happening she's probably a narcissist too

[@Dozta]

Ditto 😒

[@banjiddle]

True, it happened to me too.😢

[@lori-annefay4138]

AMEN! this is the truth.

[@Sheri-sb1yr]

NOT HONORABLE PEOPLE, AND THEY NEVER CHANGE.

[@MrYou-n4f]

That's why women narcissist told me that they were sick and their health was not well I didn't even give a hoot or a s*** to ask because I don't care to be backstabbed 99 more times for being the only one who cared the only one who saved her came to her rescue extended her life gave her a life of power Freedom luxury while I was being smeared and falsely accused behind my back of being the opposite of what I truly was And someone I used to love died believing the lies and hated me and I never knew why until I saw these videos now I understand why all of a sudden people were saying things about me that made no sense never matched up now it all makes sense and this was the missing link

[@Luckylassie]

They trap people, getting away is not easy. They are so manipulative. They are seriously ill and scary people and will do anything to silenceband control.

[@sylviaduncan6663]

​@@MrYou-n4fsome time's they found out to lat

[@philipmulvihill1455]

you are one of the best on this horrible horrible topic and subject on you tube!!! bless you 👍👌

[@muma6559]

yes, one hundred fold !

[@theenlightenedtarget]

I appreciate it

[@muma6559]

they do a double bind, they get people between a rock and a hard place, so many can't get away, have to wait for the kids to grow up, etc.

[@sparklesp9304]

They also do the same in work scenarios where they get in positions of leadership.

[@MrYou-n4f]

That's bull crap don't use kids as an excuse to stay with garbage because you're damaging the children you're damaging your health your damaging your children by teaching them that this is normal and you're going to die a lot younger possibly due to low immune system due to high stress and then your children won't have you in their life as they cry at your funeral If you love your kids then you would actually run away with your children to protect and save your children by Saving yourself so you can love each other for many years to come in a truly loving healthy loving environment

[@Coolingfin]

Absolutely. Why I walked away from my family of origin, multiple jobs and everyone I was ever friends with.

[@regaininglife9084]

6 months ago, I did the same. I completely destroyed everything. Left my remaining family, who are just the narcs and their enablers. Quit a good job, moved 1400 miles away, lost my only few connections to people I was building a relationship with. I have nothing. I am still struggling to adjust and remain unemployed. I have horrible insomnia that has been going on for a year. But I refuse to keep living with the chaos and conflict.

[@thehappywanderer6469]

Hoping life gets better for you soon. They say time heals but no one says how much time is needed. The deeper the damage the more time it takes I guess. I made a mistake in the last 4 years and let another narc destroy me at a job. Healing is a full time job now.

[@MrYou-n4f]

Me too frig them Now the nurse wants needs help and guess what I'm not going to piss on The Narcissist now that the now that the bastard is sick all of a sudden wants to act so friendly towards me when the hell pipe needed for the past years What are the change my life for the better but chose to pull me under water meanwhile when I was underwater I put myself last and pushed her up above me not knowing she was going to pull up the ladder and yell let's go let's get out of here while leaving me behind MTN fuel tuckered out tired after rescuing her Now I'm going to let her pay or she can go ask her stupid dumb friends to come help her like they never wanted to now she should find a Hoover real friends are she's going to know my value after all the years of me doing superhero things behind the scenes I can tell you she would never exist without me not even the paid professionals pulled off what I did and good that the professionals did could have never come about without me I did everything for free from my heart and this is the treatment I get????. 😢

[@MrYou-n4f]

​@@regaininglife9084oh my gosh you too this sounds like I'm reading about myself😮

[@MrYou-n4f]

Now I know why the distance men never bothered calling her ever again because she's a narcissist no good people would want to be around garbage

[@danielegintonlandscapearch4953]

This is so absolutely dead on accurate. I find ALL of your videos so validating. So much so that in a way, I feel better about who I am and the thoughts I have, as well as my own beliefs. ❤❤❤ After 50 years of being silent, I finally told my truth to my family about my deceased father’s behavior, as well as the behavior of others within my family. For the most part, I alienated myself from them. Now, I have my son (17 years old), who has a big heart and we are very close. My relationship with my son and his high emotional quotient, came from a lot of hard self work on my part. Your video’s along with Dr. Ramani, have been life altering and in my case have help “reshape” the future of my family. Thank you for all you do!

[@namehcvl4884]

That's wonderful❤

[@deborahwales1717]

Yes, I hear you! 51 years of abuse, and a brother who is an enabler! Danish B is brilliant too. Sorry, can't remember his last name, but he's Indian and comes from a family full of narcissists just like I do. He has helped me the most because he has insights no one else has.

[@melissas1331]

girl 💯💯💯 Hello fellow scapegoats; we got each other ❤

[@miriamj.5385]

Describes my My narc sister’s husband. I used to feel sorry for him until I realized he was very much a part of the problem. They both deserve each other;I pray for the innocent ones, the children, caught in the middle.

[@winning3329]

They are not honorable people. That statement hit very hard.

[@JKDVIPER]

You wouldn't believe how much manipulation they traffic in. 😐💯

[@LisaSidels]

And the lies...SMH

[@LadyBugPicnic12]

What sucks is that my mother enables my sister to abuse me, and acts like they both are saints. I cannot remember a single time my mother has stood up for me to anyone.

[@Candlelight777]

I know what you talking about. Guilty for speaking the truth. My mom is dead but ganging up on someone knowing you intended to start mess and didn't like what said back then physical abuse afterthe victim spoke what you didn't like, and the victim hit back to stop the intentional mess maker and your so innocent. Let reverse the innocent to be the issue using even the law. The people who know the truth says nothing bc they was involved or Narc gaslighters themselves

[@eg4151]

Same here 🤬

[@kaystephens2672]

One yeah. The children of drunkards with money are the worst. Abusive men to their women and their children who put up with them for their payoff. The truth is, I’ve seen this 3 times in 3 families in my life. And the children either turned into unconscionable jerks or psychopaths who gaslight and make up stories constantly. To get to their money. If anyone you ever meet, tells you that somebody who’s close to you that they don’t love you, somebody called you names, or that somebody’s doing something behind your back, they are manipulating you. They are nothing but emotional blackmailers preying on your deepest fears and insecurities. And they’ve been studying you and your family. Like a predator. I met one. And they are extremely dangerous. My advice to anyone who’s spouse just can’t say no to anybody, and needs constant admiration and attention, pay attention to that. The only family they need to be protecting is their own. Not a distant relative from their father’s previous marriage, as a long lost sister or brother. Protect yourself, your own family, and your life from these people who just aren’t responsible to you. Divorced 23 years and proud of it. Shame on these people who but in to other family’s personal business. Deal with your own problems with your spouse and they don’t listen or care, just walk away. Everybody has a past. And no matter what, theirs just might just come back to haunt you and your children. Know who you are getting married to and rip off those rose colored glasses. Know their parents and any hint of devaluation, walk away. No one has the right to judge you for being yourself. I was a great wife, a great mother, and I’d do it all again to be here and warn people about the dangers of mentally ill people’s selfish behavior. Don’t put up with it. Not for one day.

[@SamSpray-jg9hz]

Exactly, Jesus forgave, but he didn't trust or tolerate evil, there are consequences for evil.

[@MrYou-n4f]

You're a superhero mom for saving your kids and pushing that garbage out of your house or departing from that garbage I know a stupid mother what was going on for years and allowed it to continue now she plays deaf dumb and blind allowing Our Lives to be destroyed now instead of apologizing the stupid b**** tells me I'm a liar Now she's sick and asking me to come visit her to the city together Stop letting me get treated like crap for all these decades and she wonders why I'm not running to go see her???? It's a fine balance as things may have gotten worse if I allowed him to punch your face off but in hindsight maybe I should have not rescued her and let her face in the mirror the repercussions of her choices decisions of allowing a pig to live with us for all those years of torture and yes she's a damn hypocrite letting the abuser narcissist save up so much money that he could afford to have a house after living for free at our health expense Talk about rewarding bad behavior then when her life was turned to crap because of all of her decisions she told the world everything was my fault and she would crap on me every day and abused me to impress the narcissist begging The Narcissist to come back and finish us off like a true idiot would

[@MrYou-n4f]

What's crazy is I'm the only one with true love in my heart is a sweet idea list while I like you said perfectly everyone else is fake trying to get their money and the sickest part is that money would never exist without me allowing for that person to get that money with all my work behind the scenes all of a sudden all these users come out of the Woodworks and when that person died all these fake people get all the money while I never got help which would have changed my life forever so be careful of who you help in this world because if they're stupid they won't know who their enemies are if they're immoral they'll backstab you after you save their life and make them rich While dumping in your face after I acted as a representative instead of letting them go to jail or rot in jail or become a homeless or get robbed I got their two trucks back and this is the treatment I get is narcissist or ungrateful users and abusers

[@andreariegler]

Silence is, in fact, its very own response.Makes it tons easier to weed out enablers imo

[@elunclesamprz5801]

And that Ladies and Gentlemen,is the absolute TRUTH!! period...................

[@tinalaursen8993]

Amen to speaking this truth. Thank you for putting to words the egregious behavior of the narcissist and those who associate with them.

[@katg5746]

yep. especially with parents and children they raised to be just like them.

[@RohanDudhnath]

Those glasses 🕶️ are pretty 😍 'classic woman

[@tamaraveze3196]

Liquid Gold! Thank you

[@pennyenzor]

She is telling the truth. Unfortunately I have experienced every bit of how narcissistic people operate. After years of misery, I finally realized, that I couldn’t win, no matter what I said /or did.. I had to get out. And I did. Praise the lord for helping me.

[@Mia-r9s9p]

Thanks for this. This is so exact and tremendously reaffirming. Thank-you so very much. 💝💝💝💝💝

[@jamesjirik2245]

Yes!!! Im learning so much on this topic. I firm true on all these lessons. Mother & brother were and are nasty Narcs

[@amyitis]

This INFJ was an enabler.... and in the end.... the narcissist lost..... you're welcome.

[@googleuser2480]

I was a victim of my narc and his biggest enabler before going to therapy and coming to terms with the abuse I had been subjected to.

[@robertrmohr1972]

Jill I love you. You're delivery of facts is as if you sat on couch watching my childhood. You have a way of understanding like no other ❤️

[@aletheabelcher5251]

This is soooo true, and the sad thing is that they train their children into becoming narcissist. They act like this is normal. These people are pure EVIL...

[@hazelrivers7642]

This is very very true n its sad but there is karma for narcissist n the enablers

[@CopperMoon4747]

Yep. I'm the what's good is bad now. I can't seem to get away from these people! 👿

[@demelzaknights2513]

Well said. Clear, concise and accurate. Stayed clear of family members for years and never felt so much peace in my life.

[@allentempleton2429]

This is especially true in families where say one person is living with the narcissist. No one else wants the narcissist to live in their home and they know the truth but will turn on the person who has to live with the narcissist in a second because they don't ever want to have them live with them.

[@banjiddle]

Spot on! Only some of their flying monkeys will continue to be top enablers. The others are silent and will stay away already knowing the truth. The narcissists will then lie about where they are, but not why. It took me a long time afterwards to figure this out. Thank you for showing me and others the truth!

[@mariafemarquezdeguia4431]

So true, Ma'am!

[@deborahwales1717]

Thank you. My brother is an enabler. His treatment of me is deplorable!!!

[@demelzaknights2513]

Same.

[@Frances457]

Throughout my life, as an empath I’d give a thousand 2nd chances to everyone. It made me easy prey. Now, after all the years of narcissistic abuse, if someone is rude to me, it’s the first and last time it happens. I cut them off. I’m through being the rug for insensitive people to walk all over.

[@Jireh_woolridge777]

💔💔💔💔💔 100% my spouse! She utterly destroyed our blended family (6 boys), moved 1000 miles across country, ended up homeless multiple times during the 2yr separation. All while acquiring counterfeit relationships to enable her and supply her with the fuel of sympathy and adoration she absolutely needs to stay alive to justify her demonic insidious behavior!! BUT GOD, has a way of humbling evil people!!

[@popfoot7965]

Wow this is timely. Just ended a friendship with a narc and waiting for the bombs to drop.

[@AvecPoesie]

This has been a Life of pure ANGUISH.

[@sevlc5334]

I am so glad having found you... In this Short you are confirming my experiences and observations at work. Narcissists are evil, really. Especially if they are in power position in companies. If you had a bad childhood, this is not an excuse for becoming so reckless and self-centered. Very few of us had a perfect childhood, but not everyone turned out to be a narcissist. It's a matter of empathy and moral decision, if you feel comfortable with consciously wanting to make others feel bad or not.

[@wavesbnice1]

The people who know what's going on and don't say nothing are the worse offenders.

[@dave23024]

Spot on! I'd rather be smeared as a successful hermit than as an unsuccessful, untrustworthy POS.

[@nicholasnoble]

This is absolutely true. I have two people in my family with NPD and since I'm the only one that stands up to them, they have now ruined my life. They split my marriage apart so much more

[@vanessas2363]

It's enough to drive one quite mad. I turned very mentally ill from it all.

[@nigellegg6105]

My father-in-law is a total narcissist, mother in law is the enabler, she knows it’s wrong but does nothing through fear of rocking the boat. I’ve walked away from that abusive relationship.

[@duke50623]

Yes experience all of it she was a user who was attacking bashing me she was a demon run away stay away from them narcissists they lose the plot throw it all back on me when its them just avoid them go silent stay away theres no real love just a nightmare

[@Hurkuhntreeks]

Society is built this way by percentages and statistics The real victim will have few or mo one on their side usually. People prefer the peacock

[@muma6559]

It seems that way in society, and it is that way. However Jesus said that a house divided against itself cannot stand, trust these words! No matter the numbers or the statistics trust the principle of the matter, they can't last, by their own deeds it's impossible to last. You will see it.

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

Yep, I have seen this many times in families. The support is for the narcissists and because they remain silent the narcissist thinks the silent enablers agree with them. The narcissist counts themselves as bold and speaking for everyone else in the room.

[@adelalaird6318]

Thank you for sharing this message here.🌟🌟🌟

[@Adhdorwhatever22]

Happened to me. I was getting abused for years thinking I was the problem

[@RowanRiverstone]

This is why I'm NC with my entire family of origin. They all enabled my mother and tried to pressure me to go back to her when I went NC. I gave them one chance to understand and listen to me. They squandered it, so bye. Don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you.

[@irinaparker8657]

Right on point 👉💯 l thank the Lord Jesus Christ son of God 🙏 for delivering me 🙏 from that evil 🙏 spirit person 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@teresadvorak6145]

I know, I was in a place where I had to rebuke her because she really is a demon. The demon of ( narcis) possesses these narc people. 😮😮

[@marysullivan1815]

Never have I been in such an unhappy relationship

[@sherrysarpu5647]

I like to hang out with everyone ! I love studying behavior in humans it gives you lots of experience

[@4luv215]

Been in the crosshairs earned the love and respect of finally the narcissist is looking at his self and seeing. I don’t believe he knew he was like this. I saw the traumatic way he was raised and believed it was normal. All of us have a soul or rather, we are a soul, and all of us deserve love. We always need to hold those accountable for their behavior.. God would find a way… made in the image and lightness of a divine creator you are. I love you.

[@regaininglife9084]

Be careful, it can be an act. They are great manipulators. Pay attention to actions and not words.

[@csnymoodiesfan]

Absolutely! Her poor husband knows the truth and yet keeps defending her. What a sucker!

[@kevinmccool3719]

He has seen her wrath before and is avoiding it by defending her to keep the peace.

[@helenas7416]

Has anyone ever known a former enabler to change sentiment and behaviour and exit from the narcissist and take accountability? I know one. Such people are rare.

[@AndreaMelless]

EXACTLY what I've been going through for 30 long months! 2 of them created a nasty bully gang of 12. Absolutely furious that they can't take me down, this is hard tho, pure psychological mind games.

[@jodiburnett6211]

Yes! Thanks for the clarification. I love when they’re washed up, try to bad mouth , and everyone walks away.

[@MeAndOnLyMe]

This is the situation when the empath is fighting a group of jealous people . The narcissist and their flying monkeys and minions . Things really get ugly, Outbursts of anger when they can't control you 😅

[@LaGranTerca]

Mothers are enablers! Narcissists are not born they are created by the environment/parents/grandparents . Even though he does wrong . She never holds him accountable /or responsible for anything. Her son can do no wrong. She will choose him over her own granddaughter!😢🤯

[@benitalterry872]

My Lord, this is the shamful truth! Paralyzing Truths!! What a shame it is that they Hate The Truth. So disturbing.. Dear God, Please take care of and protect the incident children...

[@Traveganja]

Narco’s are experts on Abandoning all there guilt It’s usually how they chose there friends , Another great video Thank you gorgeous 🙏🏽

[@mowlessbeemore2107]

Stay away from narcissists. Stay away from their flying monkeys.

[@scottpeters4094]

You are absolutely 💯 spot on!!!! I finally broke free from my wife of 26 years!!!! She is definitely a malignant covert narcissist !!! You have helped me learn and heal by your advice and knowledge of this terrible disorder!!! I’m truly grateful for your guidance!!!

[@gavinogarcia1590]

That's HELLAAAA SAD !!!! 👎👎👎👎👎

[@petemoore8923]

What’s worse is when they don’t say anything and if you call them out, “she’s a strong powerful woman that isn’t afraid to speak her mind.” Meanwhile she’s at home belittling her husband and gaslighting the f**ck out of him.

[@ozzyoz5210]

Beautifully said

[@dididisun]

FACTS!!!

[@LRLC1123]

Love your glasses ❤❤ You are so right about the narcissist!

[@williemaeboyd2966]

Yes ma'am true the demons need to be protected from the truth the demons know the truth will set the narcissist free however the narcissist loves their demons and will never want freedom from their demons 😊

[@kimberlyharris9712]

Amen 🙏🏿♥️. 💯 percent accurate. You've described beautifully the characteristics of narcissists and enablers. Because of what I've endured with toxic people and their followers, I will move wayyyy different than I have in the past. Depending on the relationships, LIMITED/NO CONTACT. Boundaries with my time, ect. and building a strong relationship with God. The rest will take care of itself. 😊

[@cristig243]

Brilliant ! Excellent description for Ursula von der Leyen and EU 👌

[@Darwin-ty9jq]

You described a lot of Calvary Chapel pastors, especially the guy at the very top.

[@JenGable-Justeson]

Thank you ! This is pure fact and truth ! The enablers allow the NPD to continue their abuses/crimes !

[@PixieCropCircleDuster]

Thank you❤I needed this❤

[@wisewittyandpretty4210]

Love the dress

[@BrianPowalski-i6n]

Absolutely True it's Pretty Sad

[@mikerawn3960]

Love this information. Blessing!😊

[@lindawest4580]

Narcissists look for empaths to control and can destroy your life if you don't get away from them. There's many narcissistic people working in the Healthcare industry and the disabled and elderly seniors are easily victimized in their homes yet agencies refuse to fire these people. No longer allow such people into my home to assist me. I either do what I can or I ask help from those I know and trust.

[@nmHispana]

Been there and totally agree as are every one of their sociopaths within the insurance care coordination department and all those non profit organizations. Beware of wolves who come disguised as help.

[@vanessapehl7581]

TRUE

[@LisaSidels]

OMG, that exlains why his family jumped on me when i tried to get their help! Why didnt i see that when it was happening???

[@Richard-u5s]

Exactly what they did to me and everyone else in the family and I found out about that part too and they are passing around false information about me to take the focus off of them and blaming me for the stuff that they did and her kids because she didn't want anyone to find out anything about her kids because she wrote them off to get the money from the insurance company

[@nmHispana]

That's the purpose of the smear campagn to take the focus off of them and to project in fact what they are doing onto to you. It's a terrible way to have to live, however for this very reason why I have surveillance cameras (for which they are fully aware and warned in advance are there) and if if communication is necessary it will only be done in writing or audio recorded at all times.

[@beckymelnick1093]

I recently was able to let go of this but for years I struggled with obsessively over thinking how bad my mother made me out to be to all my family, close family friends, her coworkers and even strangers. Basically everyone! I’d rage inside wondering to myself how no one could see through her evil lies. So fake so phony! Now I realize they were all manipulated too! It’s different now as she gets in her 70’s. She has no true relationships. Family doesn’t even invite her or my dad to anything. I also don’t go to many family functions. Too many triggers and anxiety. I wish I had the internet growing up. My life could have been so different. I still struggle at 45yo. Wondering if it ever gets easier? :(

[@thehappywanderer6469]

Yes it does get easier. Seeing the narcs age and die is quite predictable. Distance your emotions and yourself if you can. Do not buy into the poor me I'm dying and you don't care. I got that from narc father. I did care but didn't want to play the games anymore. I fulfilled my duty and slept in chair at hospice but didn't feel anything but relief at the end. He never cared about anyone but himself. I was glad we were done.

[@maryanngray4519]

So true, they flock together

[@paulaadeoye987]

Fact’s they surround there self with people who accept their behavior. There just not deceit people at all .

[@ravenfox926]

They surround themselves with the weak, the desperate and those who the narcissist sees as useful for their image (i.e. some affluent person who they try to hide their narcissistic tendencies from). All others can piss off.

[@sn7956]

I work around co-workers like this.

[@LJH662]

Exactly my life. Has anyone sued a narc parent or their enablers & monkeys for intentional or negligent infliction of emotional abuse?

[@jonathanmack7771]

I said the same this the ways she act she gotta only deal with people who are like her

[@lacyelizabethboone4555]

If only I knew my ex of 8 mos this year was a covert narcissist. But I walked out of hell carrying 4 buckets of 🌊🥰🙏

[@bbbbbennyandthejets]

I was emotionally abused by an older brother with psychopathic tendencies. Then I tangled with a malignant narc and a covert one at the same time. They were 2 of 7 brothers-in-law in my wife's family. While trapped in the cycle of abuse for over 5 years, I witnessed their 'trophy' children being emotionally abused, who are now struggling with substance abuse issues. Three of my sisters-in-law are still living together on the same block and have been enabling them for 38 years. And I'm the crazy truth-teller for trying to help their children.