Narcissists see themselves as the victim

[@stevelangely8004]

When I pointed out abuse, my ex wouldn't address my concerns but would counter with: "You do stuff, too. I just ignore it." I didn't ignore the abuse. I ended the relationship.

[@vickiebrown5790]

Especially true for covert narcissists. When you are “in”, you hear these stories about how other people hurt them and think, that doesn’t sound logical. When you are “out”, you know those stories are being told about yourself. It’s almost like they LIVE to have a victim story, or there’s no life happening for them. There’s always a bad guy in their life.

[@kellyandaaron2005]

In a last letter from ex before I went no contact, he 'fake' apologized for things he had done, but after each one he blamed me in the next sentence. Deflection is their way.

[@dlocke49]

Round and round with them to nowhere but frustration. You can never win so get out. It will always be your fault and they will make you miserable unless you just are a gluten for punishment. They love doormats.

[@ZenZone-li4fr]

Yes, that has been my experience 💜🕊🙏🏻

[@Tw1ztedS1zter]

My ex made himself so believable to family and friends that I lost them all. It took me years to get over the hurt of what he's done.

[@davidporter1039]

Dang, so true. You certainly know what you are talking about. What a beautiful person you are! Keep sharing, caring.

[@judyhart2311]

I so understand this because of my ex-husband. He did the exact same thing. And he left me when I had cancer. But if you ask him there is every reason why he needed to leave me when all I did was have cancer. Not looking for sympathy. Just this is the facts.

[@GarnetDart]

if your friends or partners take no accountability for their actions you need to leave them and find better people

[@dianaunderwood9807]

Sometimes, they don't tell you their hurt !!!

[@user-ck6uy5ij7e]

So so true.

[@lisa-marieniddrie9764]

Sounds like my siblings...

[@MB-sg8dx]

SPOT ON

[@tamimchoudhury4285]

I am going through divorce, that is exactly what my husband is doing to the family.

[@shannonadler5479]

❤TY SISTER 😢🎉

[@user-wl1ie8kx7b]

It’s so confusing.

[@sugarray7456]

Correct, special victims unit😅😅😅😅

[@tathe3786]

Truth

[@CrzBoarder]

100%

[@nicholecornes1915]

😂 don't try to

[@natevoid9955]

Ok so what’s the opposite of this? Because I always feel guilty for everything even stuff that’s not my fault

[@sweetrose813]

But what is there hidden logic even though the got caught with their hand in the cookie jar,!!

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

They make up their mind about how they see themselves first and then they make the situation fit their preconceived notion. So, no matter how many cookie jars they get caught in, they have already decided that they are a blameless victim. They make that idea fit the circumstances any way they can. They are masters at mental gymnastics.

[@GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp]

Add so fox says I'm saying you know people like this they a bunch of wolverines

[@Michael_Arguello]

I appreciate you protecting me from myself and deleting my comment. I understand the place from where that came. I think I just wanted to put out there that people like me indeed exist. And now you know.

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

I honestly don’t know who you are or what you’re referring to.