3 months post-breakup... here's what it's like being single

[@poppycalliope]

so mature of you to realize that you're not in the right head space to date someone at the moment and jump into a new relationship. Take your time Nat & I know that you will become stronger day by day ❤

[@SarahSchneider2]

I went through something in the last few months where I realized my focus wasn't on a relationship and that was unfair to the other person involved.

[@stephaniegerard1602]

You're so lucky that you have the social support that you do. It's so hard when all of your friends are in long-term relationships / married when you're going through a lot.

[@Julia-dj7kp]

I also broke up with an amazing guy about 3 months ago. I can say that entering in new relationships is tempting, but spending some time alone single is very much necessary. It just feels weird because you feel like there won't be a person as good as him... but I guess it'll just take time to heal and look at it with a different perspective.

[@nicolegonzalez7718]

The friends part!!! Sometimes it’s the greatest gift from a breakup to grow deeper friendships ❤

[@LayneFable]

Yes!!

[@2010kalex]

I *LOVE* how you touch on having friends that are in the same life phase as you I'm 30 & 90-95% of my friends have families, are in a relationship or have kids and I have none of those things in my life currently I'm also looking to move out of Michigan and finding/forging new friendships with people who are in the same stage as me. So hearing you say that really hits home (in a good way) and make me not feel so alone. I love you girl and proud of you Keep pushing and doing you❤️🤍

[@maddyrazz5747]

i’m 24 and went through a breakup with an amazing guy this past summer. i resonate so much with everything you said! i’m so thankful that i left that relationship a better person & that he gave me such happy memories. but there’s so much comfort in knowing that if you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much more you’ll love the man God has for you! 🫶

[@Sallylovesgood]

i went through all of this at 23 (2 years ago). 1) Youre doing GREAT and 2) you're right, you need to stop talking to each other to move on. It's really hard and sad, but worth it. Also I've been single/celibate for 14 months now after another big heartbreak lol and its super fun! I get to discover and develop so many parts of myself because I have so much time to myself. and Ive also been able to get way closer to friends because of it

[@michaelb6106]

The fact you can be so honest about your feelings and keep your life/business together makes you exceptional. Just remember: You will (in time) meet someone as amazing as you, be a better partner/person because of your breakup, and you will be happier than you've ever been. before. You will persevere...

[@emnels19]

I am the same with having a string of relationships. I'm newly single and planning to be for the next year at least. I haven't had time and space to focus on myself as much as I need to be the best person for a future relationship. You got this girl!

[@lauraevelyn2189]

Routing for you Natalie! So mature realising that you are not ready to date anyone. I feel I have went through something really similar right now and it is empowering knowing your feelings and know your worth and what you need in a relationship now. Stay strong and focus on you x

[@davidbuttrick7141]

Definitely take the time you need to feel better because breakups are never easy. It's good to hear that you are surrounding yourself with good people. Surrounding yourself with good people like friends and family can be a huge benefit to feeling better and coming back stronger. Wishing you the best during this next chapter! 🤙

[@LayneFable]

I got out of an 8 year relationship and it definitely has been a learning experience for sure. I’d had a boyfriend since 16 and I’m now 28. I feel like we’re going through super similar things

[@CC-br9qg]

I am in the exact same timeline as you, except I got out of a toxic/abusive relationship where I lost my sense of self. I really admire your independence and branching out with your life. I am now dealing with worsened mental health and trauma that has hindered me in every aspect of my life. I am 3 months out and feeling like I am barely surviving. I am still stuck in fight or flight mode. Thank you for sharing this. It gives me hope.

[@cs2506]

Ive been watching you for a while and want to say thank you for being an inspiration. I also recently broke up with my bf after 14 years and its been extremely hard. So the one piece of advice I have for all women out there is have your own life and maintain your friendships because thats been the hardest part for me, not having any friends to help me through this hard time. So like you said Natalie, friends can make the world of difference.

[@trk2889]

I broke up with my 7y boyfriend yesteday.. after 6 months of "keep holding on to him" with no contact situation.. I was so tired because of feeling uncertainty and unworthy . Finally i decided to break it off and he didn't even stop me. He just keep updating his social media with very sad quotes (but still not making any movement)...Guess i love him more than he did..

[@majomoranh]

I'm two months post-breakup. Sending you lots of love💕

[@NatalieBarbu]

Sending you love too❤️

[@VeggiesbyEos]

I was in the same boat as you in terms of not having been on a date after a big break up. I had a 4 year relationship out of high school that was toxic. I then was single for a year and not looking, then a relationship developed with a friend, dated for 2.5 years and my heart was completely broken by him. It was weird dating after that, but i just put myself out there and went on several dates and even if some of the dates meant absolutely nothing, I think it still helped getting to know new people and finding out what I do and don't want in a relationship from seeing different people

[@carolinekvu]

It’s inspiring to see how much you’ve grown in the past 3 months- thanks so much for sharing your journey with us 💙

[@alicemanferdini9042]

hey darling. right now i'm on my 4 months post-breakup so i perfcet understand you: it's a journey. the healing process is very hard and it seems like a rollecoaster of emotions: somedays are amazing, somedays are terrible but we aren't alone! i'm slowly understanding that everything happens for a reason: sometimes it’s still so hard trying to figure it out everything. But I guess it’s life: we grow up, we change, we learn and I guess life it’s perfect on its imperfection. So yeah, these times are like a rollercoaster of emotions but I know that as you grow up, you started to learn that life is not as easy as it seemed. Keep going everyone, we are going to be okay and always remember that are major the moments when we are happy than the moments when we are sad❤ this will make us stronger and best of all: theaches us to focus only on ourself.

[@flyingwrenproductions]

Girl this is so relatable right now! Broke up with my partner of 3 years two months ago, we've caught up a few times as well and I still have so so so much love for him and I know in the future we will be friends which makes it easier in a way too. The past two months have been really hard, I've been a shell of myself in many ways, but I'm finally coming out of it and making an effort to see my friends more and put more time and energy into work and school. I definitely feel that single phase as I've never had that either and I'm really looking forward to it. Thank you for sharing your experience with us, sending you so much love and light energy.

[@AmrikKulana]

Hey cutie you're so beautiful keep it up ❤ love you so much ❤

[@jaceallen4985]

I’ve been single since birth. I’m 20 now. I gotta say, the saddest part is being used to it, like I for real feel like if I ever get into a relationship I won’t do good because I just wouldn’t know what to do. The happiest part is glowing up and not having to deal with stress or being cheated on. I just need the right person for me to be happy, idk when she will come but I know I’ll find someone. Whenever I hangout with my friends I’m always 3rd wheeling but i don’t care I always find something to make me happy.

[@renee4869]

same :( it feels like i’ll never find anyone and it gets kinda lonely. But I also do enjoy being single sometimes

[@jaceallen4985]

@@renee4869 you’ll find someone :) they won’t come right away, but you will find someone, I promise you! I definitely know how it is being lonely I get that feeling a lot so you are not alone at all. Yes, sometimes being alone is fun cuz you can do what you want without someone telling you what to do and you can get all the time to yourself that’s what I love about being single. Don’t worry you’ll find someone it may not be today it may not be tomorrow, but you will find someone, you just gotta have a little hope :) ❤️

[@haleigholivia320]

10:52 had me dead. Girl it’s rough out here 😭

[@natalierodriguez2712]

I have to thank you for posting these videos. Since my name is also Natalie, I’ve been relating so much. I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months (i know not that long compared to 4 years) but he was my first love and he took all my firsts. He’s been completely fine and I cannot stop crying. It has been like 5 days and your videos are helping me so much. It also hurts because he was so fundamental to my growth and he there with me through all of quarantine. I have to focus on myself now. Thank you❤

[@thinkbaubles]

journey to healing is different per person, I used to move on so fast but my recent lasted almost 5 years and I'm in my 5th-month post-b-up, I broke up with him because we have different goals and beliefs, and yeah you have times questioning yourself if it's the right thing to do, and yeah it's been a rollercoaster of emotions. definitely, I have my better days but there are times when I just feel sad or feel like crying, so I just let it out. I maintained the no-contact rule and I know it will help me heal faster. I also don't feel like dating yet, I tried but yeah it will really take time.

[@thinkbaubles]

question though, did you know that it will lead you to break up eventually? in between those 4 years?

[@hanzomain9991]

23 here after 5 year relationship. 3 months in and shes still on my mind all the time. I cant imagine getting into a relationship anytime soon

[@hanzomain9991]

@sarajanet7283 damn Im glad you were able to get through it, Im doing better. Time really does heal all wounds but Ive accepted the fact that she’ll always be in the back of mind

[@vunessuh]

Sending you positivity and good vibes

[@kendracopenhaver3191]

praying for you natalie ! the lord is so near to you & i’m confident He’s going to show up in really amazing ways during this hard time ! so glad you have an encouraging community that’s there for you during this / keep leaning on jesus 💛

[@Camw000w]

Thank you for this honestly. I just broke up with my boyfriend who I love so much a week ago and this week has been so hard. I know I did the right thing but I keep going back and forth 😫

[@xoxjelloxox]

How do you have the confidence to walk away or know it’s the right decision?

[@englishbeauty88]

I’m also 26, and I feel the exact same way when I go on hinge 😂😅it kills me, I get so anxious and sad like fuck I really had such a gorgeous partner and I fear I won’t find someone I’m that attracted to who fits me so well

[@Colls-m8i]

If it helps; Ecclesiastes 3 ESV 1For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: 2a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; 3a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace. 2 Corinthians 4:17 NLT 17For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! Ecclesiastes 4:17 ESV Again I saw all the oppressions that are done under the sun. And behold, the tears of the oppressed, and they had no one to comfort them! On the side of their oppressors there was power, and there was no one to comfort them. Deuteronomy 30:3-13 MSG 3 God, your God, will restore everything you lost; he'll have compassion on you; he'll come back and pick up the pieces from all the places where you were scattered.

[@michaelb6106]

*Last 2cents: Stop putting off taking the tennis lessons. The younger you start the higher your improvement ceiling will be. If you like it, join a tennis club. You will always have people to play with, and it's one of the very best ways to network (personally & professionally) with interesting and successful people.*

[@sonyakaur4976]

1 month being single..have line up of dates but i want some time

[@kimberlyvilla1943]

LOL the hinge comment is so accurate, every few weeks I redownload it and am shocked cause idk how people date on there😅. I always expect it to be different each time and am disappointed. And then I delete the app because it’s too much in a bad way. I’d rather just wait to eventually meet someone in person

[@thoughthub8900]

hi nathalie. im going through a similar situation. loved listening to your thoughts and your outlook. youre so wholesome and lovely

[@mirandaalexis]

when i got dumped by the dude i deadss thought i was gonna marry, my bestie from nyc and a couple others got me through it. its also the attachment issues for me

[@Jibril_Abdulkadir]

Sending u 💗 very strong for sharing your hard times

[@bobbybero7452]

You can have friends in a relationship but it is harder

[@shaylahaveryoates]

I love your videos and your content. I'm so happy you're pouring into your friendships. You speak so highly of Kian... why does it feel like he was your person/"true love". I don't think you ever shared the specifics on why you broke up and you don't need to. I guess i'm just confused why it feels like you are forcing yourself to get over him and move on?? Like how are you so sure God is saying he isn't the one for you when there seems to be no negatives about the relationship/him? Either way God loves you, and we love you!

[@xoxjelloxox]

Following

[@haleyexoh]

i've been wondering this exact thing honestly!

[@tori3951]

I think you can totally love someone so much you won’t speak on the bad parts for their privacy and out of respect. I get this question all of the time. So I can relate. I know it may not make sense but I hope it someone does I am not her but I truly get this question alot about my breakup.

[@shaylahaveryoates]

@@tori3951 I totally get this! I usually don’t comment on things like this it’s just so sad to see her let go of someone she loved soo much. But obviously she knows what’s best for her life.

[@tori3951]

@@shaylahaveryoates I’m following you(:

[@eatpraylovetube2146]

Prayers ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[@ketasetcook]

What if he called and wanted to work things out? What if he learned and changed?

[@maimunaazan5646]

Omg breaking up with someone is really hard Last year i broke up with my ex and it was really hard for me and i gave myself some space on not to date anyone for one year and some month We broke up last year April And i got a boyfriend this year on September 27 but we broke up on 30th November just two days ago And i don't know what to Coz I regret why I'm feeling same pain i felt last year

[@gigisantini5346]

Thanks for sharing ❤

[@mannytheengineer22]

Hi I been single 25 years single it's ok

[@soniapinto5654]

How did you make friends in Florida? Were they connections from school etc? Asking coz I've always been concerned about making friends in a new place

[@katerynka_alieko]

Thank you.

[@megcreates2.0]

Can square space work for a network marketer?

[@NatalieBarbu]

If you need a website, it can!

[@DomDoesDrum]

You are beautiful 😍 I’d love to take you out some day. Keep grinding and going after your goals. His loss.

[@syyyddddd]

but..if you were in love..why did you breakup w him?

[@boosterkidrg]

Hypergamy is the answer...

[@NatalieBarbu]

I explain kinda in my podcast :) without giving too many details

[@BellaSwan881]

10:20-11:15 wow, that's me hahaha

[@davidparnell4675]

Awesome

[@yukarinakasone186]

💕💞💓

[@ThemilyCurran]

🤍🤍

[@jesuschrist1501]

dayum that's how you know he got a good dik, keon you got it right.

[@imikalsoe4794]

3 momth rule is stupid thing. As a good advise, do not increase your body counts from that you are free from the relationship, cuz it actually lower your social value and chance that you can date high value guys, and increase chance to get another bad guys. Do not go just “he is cute” since man build own value not born with. So many devorces have increased bc most women start relations just bc “he is cute” and then being afraid of getting outta that confortable relationship saying “oh we been through long history” 😂😂 Remember, in all human tragic, only ur lawyer end up being HAPPY

[@luisar6136]

So in other words he broke it off with you

[@NatalieBarbu]

I explain kinda in my podcast :) but no

[@itscrystaltan]

I am so so so proud of you 🥹 the growth is so visible 🫶🏻