The real reason you aren't happier.

[@gagopoliglota]

The goats were like: "Excuse me Sir, this is the water we drink. Could you please get your 4ss out of there?"

[@poetryjones7946]

😹😹😹👏🏻

[@phelipealexandre2]

Hahahahahaha

[@contrerasmamanilorenastefa4046]

Hahahahaha cool! To think of joy as openness + purpuse + jokes - attachments :3

[@svetlastoyanova4513]

Those are sheep

[@sarahf1107]

😂😂😂💕💖

[@MishaElRusito]

I have to say I envy you in a very good way. I've never had such a relationship with my father, even when I moved to another country I was happy now I am far away from him. Never had that kind of mentor in my life but I am gonna make sure my future kids don't go through the same. Great video, Nathaniel. Love seeing you with your dad. Saludos desde Mexico hermanito.

[@michellemesri2903]

Lamento escuchar eso, también aprendemos de nuestros padres a no repetir sus acciones. Proba usar te admiro en vez de te envidio, yo cambie eso y lo veo de una forma mucho mas positiva! Saludos

[@JaneG]

I would say the same about my mum or my dad. I've never had such a close relationship with them or having them as my mentors or a good example to follow. I would definitely say that it has to do with their mentality, how our parents grow up and in which conditions (I assume you were born in Russia, I was born in Russia, too, and lived in Ukraine for 11 years). URSS's countries mentality is pretty rough and tough and everything seems to be a struggle and life is hard, there's no time to think about happiness but about survival and a better life (at least, according to my parents). That's why I'm so different from them, I don't expect them to understand me or to be my mentors since we're just so different that it's just impossible to understand each other on a deeper level. Saludos desde Suecia!

[@maxb5640]

Same thing happened to me. And I must say that my life became much better when I accepted my father When I took all negative things and memories I had in me about him and turned them into positive experience We have a lot of things in life we can't control. But we can control our attitude to it.

[@JaneG]

@@maxb5640 that’s for sure!

[@fasahatrizwi8907]

So true, going to university in a different city was what helped me really become myself, and I hope to try and be a great father for any kids I have!

[@DerekBearzi]

I love your dad's perspective on life. He's so laid back, but at the same time very optimistic when things don't work out. Such a great way to live life to the fullest.

[@adrianursacki7272]

"Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way " - gold Idea . Thank you so much , Nathaniel .

[@janecornwell6487]

the unwanted x resistance = suffering

[@shreyasak5179]

@@janecornwell6487 🙌🙌

[@ZoeMikelStites]

A therapist told me that happiness is an emotional like any other, and because of that if you make just happiness a goal you'll never truly succeed. But things like mindfulness, staying present, working and living in alignment with your values, things like that will help you build a life that can bring you happiness

[@seemranhoro]

Agree!

[@emilier.6780]

And fulfillment

[@yy8269]

Awesome thought! Thanks :)

[@rootedro]

Happiness is just another state of being. As humans, we have to accept the fact that we are multi emotional beings. The clinging to one state of being is what causes suffering.

[@ogmoiz]

Bhuddism 101

[@rootedro]

@@ogmoiz exactly 👏🏼😊

[@AaronArao]

perfectly put into word! Everything is temporary, enjoy the ride.

[@poetryjones7946]

Once I realized this, such a sense of freedom, as if I’d just learned the secret to human flight! 🙏🏼🌹

[@sleverlight]

I prefer being peaceful with myself rather than happiness. I still feel my heart is in chaos but Im slowly finding peace within myself. Meditation really helps

[@gonewiththewynns]

Expectations are a joy killer for sure. Great lessons and loved seeing you with your dad.

[@MonsieurLeBoucher]

@Nathaniel have you ever tried Vipassana Meditation? it fits so well with what you videos are lately, i think you should definitely try!

[@shivaninaidoo2483]

"Maybe happiness is this: not feeling like you should be elsewhere, doing something else, being someone else." - Isaac Asimov.

[@taabishkhanself-improvemen7331]

*5 things to quit right now to be happy:* *1. Overthinking* *2. Trying to make everyone happy* *3. Living in the past* *4. Worrying* *5. Doubting yourself…* 💙 Love from a small channel

[@sickasiam5024]

It's so great to see someone have that kind of relationship with his father. Beautiful. Not jealous at all.

[@bbacalhau]

Amazing work as always dude! The vulcano shots 🤯

[@AaronArao]

3:05 - Accepting things for how things are rather than dwelling on how they could be has brought me so much peace. in turn also happiness

[@518mussa8]

This was so wholesome. Your relationship with you dad makes me genuinely happy

[@jessburton7133]

Nathaniel I’m not even joking I think this video just 10/10 changed my life. Also I live in Australia and am jealous you are able to travel right now!

[@elvarwinston]

I am genuinely interested in what you are going to do differently now then before watching this video how did this video change your life?

[@wolfiesasha887]

Is Australia still in quarantine?

[@jessburton7133]

@@elvarwinston Hi! That it is important to make memories with my parents while they are still around.

[@jessburton7133]

@@wolfiesasha887 Hey, yes. Citizens are still not permitted to leave the country without government exemption. Non-citizens are still not allowed to enter the country. (Unless you are a celebrity or athlete)

[@wolfiesasha887]

@@jessburton7133 oh😔

[@renjithr1705]

Cool dad and nice flowing video 😇

[@AnmolKumar22]

Love the way you combine these travel films with a meaningful message in almost a vlog format??? It is so fresh and unique and amazing to watch. Thank you for always being an inspiration ❤️❤️❤️

[@JaneG]

I love that too! Always expect his videos!

[@obonyoemmy]

Cool dad man.

[@annarchi]

Every one of Nathaniel’s videos make me view life a different way. It’s like my mind is stretched each time.

[@seranes_silence]

I just found myself found in a hole… 2 days before my holiday is over I realise I’m having a hard time enjoying myself, being happy, scared of if it being over, of happiness being over, of becoming older, my youth someday being over, everything being over without having been able to enjoy any of it and then regretting everything This Really Really Helped Thank you oh god so much.

[@chiyungwong3774]

I’m a parent. After watching your dad I now know what kind of dad I want to be! Thanks

[@caroline8029]

I imagine you get more chance than most at moments of happiness. Just being able to afford to travel to some of the most beautiful parts of the planet and take in the awesomeness of those places is a blessing. I have no money, I can’t seem to improve my circumstances and I am stuck in a concrete jungle of a place to live. I have responsibilities, debts and life is a drudge. I long to find enough moments of happiness within each dreary day but it is a challenge

[@stewartnelson52gmail]

Hi Caroline how are you doing?

[@Beaut_Beau]

Your dad is cool!

[@netta1383]

When the video started I was like "how did Nethaniel got 20 years older?!" You & your dad are EXACTLY the same! The voice, the face, body language, life views.... He is definitely your father....

[@amatullahaa]

Several Muslim scholars have said: When you are given be grateful, when you go through trials be patient and when you sin, seek forgiveness and these are the tenets of happiness.

[@dangalilaa]

Your dad is really fun

[@Apollo1999xo]

MY QUOTE OF THE DAY "Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way. Purpose, on the other hand, is about finding meaning making sense of how things are"

[@AntonPatsi]

Those volcano shots in the beginning were probably the most beautiful pieces of cinematography I've ever seen on this platform

[@federicogonzaleztatuador6458]

Necesitaba este video boludo! Muchas gracias!

[@talkcommonsense]

The young kid nailed it... a sense of purpose... no matter what country you find yourself in... : )

[@tamsinholland1297]

Wow, seeing your dad's face when he was in the hot spring (was that a hot spring?) when he was talking about how heavenly it was, made my own chest expand with emotion. Just watching his joy was lovely; I played it over and over. Thank you for sharing that moment!

[@joanamourato2148]

this really was what I needed to hear. you make it so clear and simple. I would just add that attachment is also related to our comfort zone and if we don't ever leave that comfort zone, we won't feel as alive as we actually can - which is such a waste. I really need to learn from this video and, most of all, apply it.

[@mariannesonntag2543]

Nathaniel, your smile is beautiful, your happiness is palpable. What a fun and rewarding trip with Dad! Thanks for sharing your insights with us,...blessings all around.

[@NicholasGarofola]

My favorite channel, showing where I get to go in two months!! Amazing video!

[@McFraneth]

If you can't stand emotional pain, don't ever become close to anyone ever. They'll die or leave or change. Or accept that life is about suffering too. Your parents will grow old and decrepid, your children will disappoint you, your friends will betray you. Etc. Just accept that these things happen. Stop trying to control everything beyond your control. Be grateful to be alive.

[@jimmymckinney5496]

Love your dad's simple words of wisdom. When is he starting his KZbin channel?

[@waterfirelord]

Yes please. the a channel name Bernard Alberton that advice to the young people and wisdom in life.

[@poetryjones7946]

👋🏼Second that!

[@AsaRowanTyne]

"unhappiness is wishing things were another way" ... love that

[@stephen-finance]

Your dad is really cool! Loved watching your relationship on this trip!

[@lindafirth1562]

Father is gorgeous!

[@wannettamalcolm1630]

'Unhappiness is wishing things were another way.' I felt those words - straight to the marrow. Time to reconfigure my thought process...and to accept and flow with it or away.

[@Chaseosa]

I think it's also important to remember that happiness is a journey, not a destination. And that you can't be happy all the time. You don't really know what it's like to be happy until you know what it's like to be unhappy. And the more mindful you are, the more you can control these sways of emotions. Love the content!

[@monojoy4270]

This is one of the best videos I've ever watched.

[@THEWELLBELL]

Super cool .... what camaraderie with your dad!

[@gerardbannon5403]

Having a great relationship with your dad is a good reason to be happy - its also one of the reasons that you are such a nice, vital and well adjusted person (I would say)

[@isweetyness]

Wonderful video with thoughtful and helpful words on how to alter our way of thinking and reactions to be more positive and joyful. I worked hard in my younger years to become the positive thinker I am, but still need reminders to alter negative reactions when they pop in. Thank you for this beautiful video! I watched because I met you Dad when we worked on a project together more than 20 years ago. I thought him an amazing man then and am very happy to see he has raised and incredible son in yourself and you can enjoy these memorial hour use together! Very special. I am going to forward this to my 2 adult children. Thanks!

[@RoselySS95]

You and your dad look like two goofy happy-go-lucky kids living the time of their lives and I love it! Hahah and your excitement seeing a bunch of goats just staring at you two 😂😂 that was definitely the highlight! Great video Nathaniel! 💖

[@WilliamJonesChess]

There are so many serene scenes. Combine serenity with eye-candy and you get this video! This video is so well made. I enjoyed watching it! Key moments for me 1. Unhappiness is wishing things were another way 2. Do not take happiness at face value.

[@adrienmoroge1068]

Does anyone even noticed how Nathaniel's video have gotten so much better and thorough in terms of : a. Overall shots quality (composition, smoothness of movement, overall texture/look/feel) b. DEM MOTION DESIGN BOYYY!! Sick as hell! On every video I find myself surprised on how complex, cinematic and good your visual effects are. The titles, graphics, glow effects, everything looks just so nice! Do you do it yourself or do you hire someone else to do it? Anyhow, great work! Much respect - keep it on Nathaniel! 👍 Yours truly, Adrien

[@ancoraspot]

"Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way", it is very true, and it's the reason why we can't just live for happiness, because sometimes we do need to accept things but others things aren't supposed to be as they are, and we need to act to change them according to our values and authenticity. But first, we need to acknowledge and accept we are unhappy.

[@tonikendrick8029]

I think there is a difference between joy and happiness? Even the look of the words infers a variance - ‘joy’ is solidly anchored on three letters, while ‘happiness’ gleefully runs along 9 letters, repeating some letters with abandon. Happiness is a euphoric state that comes and whips up our emotions, allowing them to soar for a time, but then releases them to some other sensation. Whereas joy is a deep-seated, solid state of being that allows you to dwell in a secure state of substance. Acceptance does produce something more solid in my emotions. I call joy a God-given state is not swept away or challenged by unreliable sensations that can ripple through you day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment - it lingers. I enjoy your videos ... I hope you revisit them when you need them.

[@nicholeiby]

Your and your dad's perspective is so refreshing. We need more people like you two in our lives!

[@samblack8727]

I think i would say the same thing 'i envy your relationship with your father'. It's so good to see that you have a good father figure who can show you the ropes of life, including its pitfalls and beauty in it. It's really good to see things like this for real.

[@Aarony422]

I've been watching your videos for a while now (so I don't know how I missed this), but just realized your videos have spanish captions, which totally makes sense given language learning is one of the many recurring topics on your channel. As someone who's trying to learn spanish, I found this super useful and engaging for learning new vocabulary and expressions in spanish! Definitely something unique to your channel and a great resource for language learners!

[@poetryjones7946]

🤭 Every time I’ve tried to communicate that exact phrase (“ happiness is so overrated”) people look blankly at me, as if I were some weird vegetable from Jupiter. How perfect that you saw these things in Iceland, a place I’ve always wanted to visit. I’ll be watching this video many times, my friend. Thank you 🙏🏼🌹 ps - How lucky you are to have this soul for your DAD! I’m so envious!!

[@juliekennedy9270]

hhahahahahaha "some weird vegetable from Juptier"- thats hilarious

[@CharlesAndreSD]

Papa Drew has got some incredible insights, damn.

[@pepis-world]

Accepting reality as it is and not worrying about things that we can't change, plus being grateful for what we have, I think, is a big part of happiness. Btw, Iceland looks like such a magical place!

[@bhavleensmoot1219]

"we will continue to explore tonight and tomorrow and we might be late delivering the car, but who cares~" love it! Your dad is such a breath of fresh air in this constant capitalistic society which is obsessed with control and constant results. Thank you for sharing this with us, and your dad's wisdom.

[@pensareminimal3348]

Happiness is overrated, while being bored without any distraction is so underrated. Nice messages as always in your video Nath!

[@MsGinSling]

Everyone needs someone like your Dad in their life.

[@shibiaoyuan3958]

Thanks your video always calms me down

[@l.s.11]

I could notice so many similarities between the two of you; hand gestures, the way you speak, mannerisms, gestures, micro-expressions, movement, body, style... :) Such a cool dad you have, I can see you picked up a lot from him.

[@chaluleaucassandra6557]

Mec, j'ai rarement des eye opening moments on KZbin but your definition of unhappiness definitely is one of these moments

[@MamaAkina]

Your dad seems like a wonderful human! Lots of wisdom too! I am grateful for both of you.

[@lisaleblanc5324]

I love the way you combine travel with meaningful messages in videos!

[@denisemungor9399]

Watching your videos help stop the negative mental loops. I love how your dad doesn’t force the idea of happiness, but to just “experience everything and roll with the punches.” That’s a lesson I’m still learning. Thanks for always putting out positive, yet realistic, content :)

[@ChimzDesign]

This video is therapy Nathaniel! Much like most of your videos. The idea of reaching happiness without forcing it, or imposing expectations seems so logical, yet it’s so incredibly difficult for most of us to just be and find joy in being. It’s lovely to see you approach happiness in a more effortless way. It’s also inspiration for all of us too. Beautiful work! 👏🏽👏🏽

[@zigajelavic1437]

The fact that expectations make us anxious is one of the best things I could say to myself when feeling down, please my friend keep up with the good work!

[@atthena127]

that definition you gave of ‘unhappiness is wanting things to be another way’ reminded me a lot of how nietzsche refers to resentment using the french word for it ‘ressentiment’ or ‘refeeling’ so we want things another way and keep refeeling the event of when it wasnt

[@atthena127]

thanks so much for sharing the way you view things and life; these videos are by far my favorite online

[@ElieBeth___]

Shit man you’re videos these days… if you were aiming to inspire you not only nailed it dead centre but drew a smiley face around that target and made it glow. Beautiful video. Absolutely brilliant. Felt like I was experiencing those moments too. Think we all needed this. I did.

[@JH_Productions]

What I got out of this video is too be free and happy is too have no expectations of life and let go of any perceptions you have.

[@MacM545]

I agreed even with the first words that were said in the video about not forcing situations to be good. I fell into that "trap" before about desiring things to be "better", but later realized that things were actually better for me how they already were!

[@joannajoy5996]

really needed to hear those opening words from your dad 🥺 also... as always, love the video!

[@notyayo]

Loved this video, "just roll with the punches" mentality is what I have lately. It's been hard but that's how it is.

[@drearoach]

I just knew you must have great parents

[@christineruby635]

Hihihi! Your dad's comments about how easy it was to get there and pay were not at all out of context or lacking meaningfulness. I was happy to hear what he had to say :) Just as valid of an experience as everything else! :) Gorgeous scenery and film making as always. I can't wait to get my chance at traveling to Iceland too. Have a great day Nathaniel!

[@musicbrii]

You and your dad sharing these moments made me so happy ❤️ I love Iceland, this video is amazing

[@elsagoldwasser_]

this video reminded me of a quote that is on my refrigerator. My mom wrote it on a scrap of paper and stuck it up there so long ago it's completely faded and i can't even remember a time i wasn't aware of this quote. It goes like this: "If you understand, things are as they are. If you do not understand, things are as they are. If you think things should be one way or the other, you have not yet understood." I feel this related to what you are talking about with having expectations vs trying to better understand the world and the way it works. Anyway, Iceland is SO BEAUTIFUL and this video just put it on my list of places to go if it wasn't already there for sure :) the way you capture the landscape around you is amazing! so thanks Nathaniel!

[@Julie-bq6iz]

Your dad's great! You two seem to be very compatible. Looks like you both had a good time together.

[@Lena-vm9oo]

This video really hit me. This is exactly what I have been experiencing recently. Putting expectation on certain things happening in a certain timeframe and being so frustrated with other things poping up and not allowing me to do the things as planned. And the thing is ok I wasn't happy doing the other things but me being so caught onto the ideas of how my time should look like just made me so much more miserable in comparison then if I were to just accept things as they were and still enjoy my time. Being stuck with my idea of how things should look like is definitely something that I need to work on unlearning.

[@francesauraliadelacroix]

I LOVE your reaction or emotional response to the goats. Its how I feel about alpacas and i have absolutely no idea why i get so happy when I see alpacas 🤣🤗

[@sophatt]

This idea about happiness being dependent on expectations is totally what engineer turned entrepreneur, and writer Mo Gawdat says with his happiness equation, and in his book 'Solve For Happy' --- happiness is equal to or greater than your perception of the events of your life -- your expectations of how life should be. Mo seems like such a great guy and an awesome thinker.

[@nojerama788]

I adore your father so much, he has so much wisdom and kindness in him. He is a wonderful role model to have

[@AnnalizeParadys]

Waauw Nathaniel… first of; you made me put Iceland on the top of my bucketlist. Second: I loved the quote about unhappiness is wishing things to be another way. And third; I LOVE YOUR DAD! He is exactly how I want to be when I’m his age. Traveling with my son or daughter (I’m 28 and no kids yet) and talking all philosophical! Oh and I love watching you enjoy life and learning! That smile on your face and the your eyes shimmering is all I need to make me feel good about my day! 😃☺️🥰

[@aaroncurtis9324]

Your dad is soo cool man. I'm jealous, this video made me miss my dad. You're blessed brother.

[@melina_off]

The relationship between you and your dad is so beautiful to watch, seeing this I realized what I missed out on... You are both incredible people. Keep it up. :)

[@nandanparigi]

"Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way " - a gem

[@teodoraioanovici1570]

I think I just saw you last weekend in the Reykjavik campsite but I couldn’t believe that I actually met someone that I follow online 😄 Very nice video! And so much wisdom in the message! Not expecting things to be different is one of the most important lessons that I still need to learn. Maybe I’ll see you next time you visit The Netherlands 🙂

[@essa5248]

I liked the original picture (and caption) with you and ur dad it made this feel really personal rather than clickbait-y. Just mention this because I realized you’ve changed it a lot & knowing what I know from ur videos ur most likely over-thinking it 😆, much love man

[@AmeliaHeldt]

This was beautiful! Loved hearing your dad’s wisdom, such great interviews with the locals on their thoughts (very insightful) and amazing title animations too!

[@flaviassimas]

I was fortunate enough to visit Iceland in 2017. Stunning views. Your dad is a beautiful person, may the two of you continue to enjoy the 'is-ness' of life and share it here with us.

[@cderzzz]

I went to Iceland in June. You my friend did an amazing job of capturing the beauty. My lawd what an amazing place

[@clarisselibene]

I love your dad, your amazed eyes, the volcano, the talks, the depth of it all. The beauty of it all. This is so beautiful. Thank you Nathaniel.

[@alekhyagattupalli7756]

Your dad is too cool.....the perfect trade buddy! I absolutely love the video. But it also got me wondering....how do you stay 'open' and still follow your purpose without getting attached? How do we achieve our goals if we're not committed or attached to them? would love to hear what you think :))

[@coldcloakmusic6630]

Commitment and attachment aren’t the same thing 😉

[@jelliottlein]

Something that has helped me is to realize the difference between de-tachment and non-attachment. We should care, and work at what we care about, but not have our identity and self-worth caught up in a certain thing being attained or kept. Hold with an open hand, not a closed fist.

[@carlinroche]

So good man, thanks for getting your old man involved - what a legend!

[@dashingmay]

Don't think everyone is unhappy. I don't make that much money, I don't have the best education, the best car, the best friends but I have joy in my life. Sure some days it's less, some days it's more, but I have the baseline covered. I have learn how to walk in joy through finding something to be grateful for in EVERY situations. ✌️🕊️

[@victormarques414]

I love the way your Dad approaches life, and it is amazing to see it so much reflected on you! Thanks for continuing to inspire us to seek our own history.

[@catarinaassuncao157]

Glad you had the time to do all of that with your father. Some one us don't have that oportunity anymore. enjoy while you can.

[@catalinagalan]

This is one of your best videos, an incredible journey and very profound thoughts on happiness, plus your dad is so funny, you guys seem to be such good friends it’s lovely to see it!

[@connietransference4940]

Openness + Purpose - Attachment = Joy appreciate your intent and love--you make a difference

[@Gabelebabele]

Every month or two I come back to this video. It's probably my favourite video on KZbin. I am trying to reprogram my brain. Because I too often am in the habit of dwelling on what doesn't meet my expectations. How it "doesn't make sense that it's like this" how it "shouldn't be like this". It gets me really frustrated and discouraged. Even when I know it's not as big a deal as I'm making it out to be. So this video helps me remember what's really important. That my goals need to be broadened to keeping an open mind, experiencing life without expectations or attachments. And being devoted to that. Looking for the good there is to be found in every moment instead of amplifying the bad. Thank you, Nathaniel. Peace, love, openness and forgiveness towards anyone who is reading this.

[@我的天-y3v]

The cinematography in your videos is on another level! Absolutely love your videos and your perspective on life 🥰