How to Reinvent Yourself - Part II

[@nathanieldrew]

I think last year's video is an excellent compliment to this which you can watch here → kzbin.info/www/bejne/aKqZi5V_gtV-gcU Also, some timestamps to help navigate this piece: 3:08 - I lay out my gameplan for the coming year 5:06 - 1st part of the equation: How I plan on improving my "environment" (consistent sleep, designated spaces, training focus) 10:30 - 2nd part of the equation: How I plan on improving my "mindset/internal dialogue" 13:10 - A couple of book recommendations that pair nicely with this video

[@starshipx1282]

Hey. How can I talk to u

[@starshipx1282]

Your methodology on trying out peoples schedule is blown

[@LyndeyPearce]

Amazing video ND, as usual:)

[@osamaabbasi7372]

How is your comment 4 hours ago ? But the video is only 13 minutes old 😂

[@e.m.4750]

I recognized a lot of the places you filmed here because I live in Verona. Are you going to do some sort of meet-up event where people who live right next to you like me can come, meet and talk to you face to face?

[@samempie123]

I swear sometimes I think you can read my mind.

[@alexandrinaaa1274]

Its so nice to see that we all go through the same struggles 😊we can do everything we put ourselves up to

[@alexandrinaaa1274]

@Karan Thanks, from Bulgaria

[@rafaelzamora3357]

Sam Empie No, Sam. They’re called commonplaces. Saying or writing generic stuff that practically anyone can relate to (another example of them are horoscopes). He’s not a genius or enlightened, he’s just good at prose (combined with cool video editing).

[@static3131]

The matrix knows you.

[@dreond33]

Literally same

[@melissamascorro9682]

“We don’t have hobbies, everything is a side hustle” literally just heard this in bestdressed’s video! I’m listening universe

[@noonehehe3416]

yes!! bestdressed is amazing and him and her are just. ah. too good for this world

[@jan-nn9ix]

Coincidence universe does not care about you specifically or it would help babies dying of brain cancer

[@melissamascorro9682]

J S what a small minded way of viewing things, but in this world of free will you can go ahead and view life as you please

[@ensyuksel]

"If self-discipline feels difficult then you're doing it wrong" - Mark Manson This could be the best quote of my life. Thank you for sharing!

[@junipewr]

you should totally read his books, it's life changing! i mean as Nathaniel mentioned mindset in his pyramid ( i am going to follow the same pyramid) and if you too, that's a great start for mind practices.

[@ApexWR9]

@Faris Salhi Make the discipline easy. E.g getting ready for the gym. Lay down your clothes beforehand, and when you're in the gym, bump some music to get in state.

[@isabelcervantes2945]

What’s the name of the book?

[@junipewr]

@@isabelcervantes2945 the subtle art of not giving a fuck and everything is fucked.

[@thelightesthour-positivity4795]

@Faris Salhi I think of it as, it shouldnt feel like such an obligation. It should be rewarding and motivational - which makes you want to do it

[@MrJoon360]

"We don't have hobbies anymore, everything is a side hustle, and we're all looking to boost productivity" hit it right on the head. It's like joy isn't part of the equation anymore.

[@Imabadmuthafucka97]

“I’m just a dude on the internet right now” lmao funny how the people on the internet with videos like this help us more than our family and psychiatrist so keep being the dude on the internet! Lol your helping more than u ever know 💕

[@itsflyin]

Rayne Storm They definitely can!! Although I also hope your family and you can develop a stronger bond since they’ll always be with you ❤️ but don’t get me wrong, these videos help so much when it feels like no one understands, but maybe, if you can tell your parents the truth, they might understand?? Idk, sorry if I’m not making sense haha

[@konagred1462]

Flyin wrong assumption

[@konagred1462]

Flyin our parents, in most cases, do not teach us a lot of the things about life and happiness, etc. because they either do not know themselves or for any other reason

[@itsflyin]

Kona Gred I think it depends a lot on your situation!! (: but you’re definitely right there’s a lot you can learn about life and happiness on your own journey as well

[@nyraaa3515]

Straight facts

[@JasonPizzinoOfficial]

“A hustle used to be a hobby.” When fun turns into work, you know you’ve forgotten your journey. 🙏🏼

[@thataintnomoonsucka]

Right on man. This comment needs more love.

[@igorsitnikov1513]

Wish the best and most productive year to everyone! upd: well, guys...

[@SmallAuk]

Same to you! :)

[@m.hernandez1245]

Same Igor!

[@МарияЛесниченко-б4я]

I wish u not only the most productive year but the year when u finally are in peace with urself if ur still not like me☃

[@jinzuk6142]

Igor Sitnikov: Same to you-(:

[@MindMathMoney]

Same to you Igor. Lets work harder and smarter next year!

[@alethea.]

Avoiding things when you’re under pressure is your ego avoiding failure.

[@will_bx]

Never forget that YOU are the most important person in your life. You deserve to give yourself the best. Enjoy 2020 everyone.

[@jarrettmcintyre6250]

Unless you're married lol.

[@jarrettmcintyre6250]

But I'm not so that comment was ironic!

[@valq10]

JESUS>NEIGHBOURS>YOU

[@msizziekay]

4:40 "that horrible brand of self-care or self-love, or whatever they call it on Instagram that promotes all kinds of unhealthy, destructive behavior" - can somebody please illuminate me on what exactly is meant here? Thanks :)

[@jauxro]

At the same time, I do not wish to be the type of person who treats others as though they are unimportant. Prioritizing myself has made me a little more callous toward others' pursuits.

[@justbeingania]

SELF-SABOTAGING was literally my definition of 2019. Time to restructure EVERYTHING for 2020 and life ahead.

[@rianignasiak7531]

Personally, I couldn't agree more. I'm off to do the same thing, so I just wanted to wish you well :-)

[@wtfveganfood]

It’s like what Mel Robbins says, “procrastination is a coping mechanism for overwhelm.”

[@shirinpitale7789]

I relate to this on another level

[@ginn9513]

"treat myself as a i were a good friend" really needed to hear that, thank you

[@osse1n]

*Pressure* comes when we want to experience things today that take ages to reach. Gazing over horizon and wishing that we would end up there without travelling the distance. Enjoy the ride!

[@KaranOdedra]

I see your comments everywhere :)

[@celissewillis9399]

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me who’s to say everything that causes pressure has to take ages to reach? Everything we want is already within us, it just takes being in alignment/agreement with it to be present in our experience, & that doesn’t need to take ages at all! That’s a limited assumption from someone who teaches about mastering the mind 🤔

[@alexandraaikonika]

Here I must recommend Marcel Proust’s “In search of lost time”.

[@Ari-ih5un]

thank you for your wisdom!! so the antidote to pressure is patience then? ^^

[@trw4war322]

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me Well Said. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@MattColbo]

I've never seen someone who looks like he smells fantastic as much as Nathaniel

[@kelseykramer1783]

I feel like he smells like dove soap

[@CaptainSinbad]

Not only the message and the visuals, but your sound design is incredible :)

[@EriksonMemories]

Thanks.

[@VeritableVagabond]

Ai ai Captain

[@Cheekywill]

Watches Nathaniel drew once

[@pursueexcellence7737]

Sooo...who's idea share the same video title?

[@angelcarlos8041]

What do I type to look for those kind of songs ?

[@nlbhaduri]

I grew up in the '70's...and I now struggle with the ball & chain of accessible technology...what you are doing, Nathaniel, is returning to MY childhood. Lock up the phone, put away the technology, listen to your quiet internal voice, walk in the woods, be a part of Nature!! The weaving you were doing is excellent method to settle yourself with a "creative" task while you learn to listen to yourself. I think you are really cool. You are on the right track and you are helping those around you with the difficult journey of living!! I have learned there is much peace and joy in the SIMPLE THINGS

[@MatthewHyatt]

I think you're already in a much better place just recognizing and acknowledging these things, dude. No pressure. Just let it happen. But easier said than done, I realize. We love ya, dude.

[@patiakreles]

I went through this process about a year ago. I suddenly realized I needed a "break" from the stupid pressure I put on myself. I can't describe exactly what I went through, but it was conscious efforts of listening to my body and trying to lower my stress. I started to understand and actually experience self love. Before I would take care of my body and mind with the mindset of being "successful"... I mean, in order to be successful I "have to do" certain things. I worked out, ate healthy and studied... all for the wrong reasons. Sooo... Now I am as happy as I have ever been, I quit the gym for a while since I realized I was not enjoying it at all, I picked up gardening as a hobby and that changed everything for me. Since I live alone I did this just for myself, I enjoy seeing my plants grow, I like to sit by them and that is so simple. I feel that watering my plants in the evening is the single most "intimate" thing I do by myself (idk how to express this feeling very well). It is very hard to acknowledge that the self impossed system may not be working, I'm glad that I'm seeing more people questioning this side of the whole "goal oriented" mindset.

[@joshuakuruvilla]

Nathaniel 'hear me out' Drew Just for chuckle's, absolutely love your content

[@PaulLegolas2307]

Nathaniel „i obviously don‘t have all the answers“ Drew :D

[@graceoline]

I love this

[@kpacubo.]

😂😂

[@AlexMaguey]

1.- super consist sleep. 2.- designated spaces. 3.- training focus.

[@maya_9962]

“I peeked when I was six years old” the truuuth

[@sarthaksengar1698]

What does that mean? English not my first language. Could you explain?

[@blakeblanderson]

@@sarthaksengar1698 It means like being at your highest point, so if I peaked at playing basketball when I was 19, that was the time when I was best at it (it doesn't help that they used the wrong spelling, it's "peaked")

[@sarthaksengar1698]

@@blakeblanderson thanks for explaining!

[@MaryShelleysNib]

sarthak sengar Reaching your peak, like climbing to the top of the mountain peak .... you’ve reached your peak, attained your best, it’s all downhill from here 🤣 (peek means to take a quick look at something, a sneaky peek, a quick peek - different spelling)

[@KatrinaSherokee]

I get you 100% Lately I’ve been applying way to much pressure to myself, to where everything that I want to accomplish is only in my head because I can’t even get the motivation to get up and do it. My space became cluttered, unnecessary stress was built and I realized how ‘stuck’ I was. Today I finally got up, started cleaning and getting ready to take a bunch of things to be donated. Cleared all of my social media. Unfollowed a bunch of people and content that don’t inspire me or add any value to my life. I’ve also decided to write down small attainable daily/weekly goals. That way I can feel better when checking them off. Rather than unrealistic goals that’ll make me feel like a failure. With that said, I am definitely going to be reinventing myself this year.

[@joeclarke6424]

As this may be your last video of 2019, I just want to say I've been watching you since the beginning of this year and have found your videos to provide so much benefit to myself. I want to thank you for helping me turn my life around this year and help find clarity in what I want in life. Thankyou.

[@user-fz3ip3ke8p]

Same here

[@AikiraBeats]

Same his output along with Matt have been more than just a video it became a way I started living my life

[@joeclarke6424]

@@AikiraBeats Nathaniel and Matt are the only two KZbinrs I really watch. They're the only two creators that create content I find meaning in anymore. They don't grind out tons of videos a week for the sake of it, they put time and thought into each video and I really feel I can take away so much from each new upload.

[@hoviettrung1501]

Seriously, how many youtubers are there who put sponsor at the end of the video so that viewers won't be distracted like him? Nathaniel, you are the man.

[@boshamochabo]

My God can we just take a moment to appreciate the choice of music??? Like holy shirtballs!!

[@ZohirHamid]

how can i find music like that ? doesn't it have a name or something ?

[@behindthemasks]

...Holy wut ?

[@boshamochabo]

@@ZohirHamid check Musicbed and Tom Fox Spotify page. I'm not too sure about the names though.

[@boshamochabo]

@@behindthemasks holy shirt. Got that from a series called The Good Place.

[@johnypanta6208]

Some one is watching "The Good Place"...

[@darkexcalibur87]

*Listen to your body.* This is so important! I wish I had known this ten years ago when I started college. I pushed myself too hard and didn't listen to my own needs. I thought that when my body was asking me to stop that meant I was lazy and looking for excuses, so I kept pushing. I now have a myriad of health problems that I have developed from years of depriving myself of sleep, skipping meals for the sake of getting more done, not prioritizing exercise, and undergoing extremely high levels of stress that don't go away for months to years. It was so hard on my body and I regret all of it. If you are reading this and you also do these things, take care of your body first and foremost! It is the only one you have and if you are healthy then you will be more productive in the long-run.

[@HIMA]

I feel you, really. It is actually odd how we try to run somewhere all the time even knowing that it's better just to stop and reflect on things and enjoy the process. But honestly it's mostly depends on a community you are in. If everyone around you runs somewhere it's really hard not to run as well. For KZbinrs that's also horrible since if you don't post videos you're out. If don't make a lot of videos you're out. Thank you for your videos, really. Every single time I am stuck, confused, not clear I run into your videos and then I come back to clarity and a much calmer condition. Thanks again.

[@SiberianGoneInternational]

whether I want it or not, I'll definitely will need to change myself and my life a lot in 2020. Apparently I'm moving from Finland to Canada whether I want it or not, since I have already asked my manager to transfer me there in order to unite with my boyfriend, who has changed his mind about our relationship last minute and now I'm on my own. I'm trying to see it as an opportunity for personal growth. I'll try to document my journey on youtube

[@SiberianGoneInternational]

@nahfeese coleman thank you!

[@shrek1140]

You should I’d watch it. Same situation with the recession we ended up living in London from 2006-2015. Ngl I really miss it and I even got citizenship and plan on moving back when I graduate

[@SiberianGoneInternational]

@@shrek1140 then welcome to my channel =) My manager promised to give me all the details around NYE, so I should find out pretty soon when will I move. London is definitely not a bad place to live in! I undertsand why you wanna go back. I lived in the UK for 3 year and loved it there (except the fact that they've never heard about such thing as insulation of the houses), though I wasn't living in London.

[@shrek1140]

Siberian Gone International I even got a bit of an accent since I was around 2 when I moved. And now we live back in my dads hometown with like 15,000. But yeah it was a pain to have to explain why I have a British Accent and citizenship, even though both of my parents are Americans with American accents. The main thing was that everything was close. I used to go with my friends to Amsterdam or Paris just to go mess around for the weekend. Now it cost $800 flight just to get to anywhere in Europe

[@SiberianGoneInternational]

@@shrek1140 haha, yeah, I know what you mean, it's a shame that transatlantic flights are so expensive. Have you checked Norwegian? They sometimes have rather cheap flights to Europe from New York and Miami

[@LIGHTBEING0]

You have inspired me so much , I struggle with alot of anxiety and depression, I put alot of pressure on my left and 2019 honestly was one of the worst years of my life, I'm 19, living with parents and I'm trying to get put and on my own and you made me realise that I'm cable of achieving goals at a healthy pace

[@kalunkoup]

Things you can do: 1. Move out from your parents house. You love your parents but they fuck you up by restricting your potential. You need to go out and explore your potential. Seek and find whats best for you. 2. Criticise and articulate more. Tell the blunt truth. Learn to not agree with everything. If you’re not satisfied, tell. Protect yourself from being manipulated by having a say. 3. Try new things, make mistakes, own up to your mistakes and learn from it. Repeat. Let go of your perfectionist. It ruins you. It make you not willing to take bigger risk which make you fail very big. Take very big leap then fall. Survive the fall and learn from the lesson. Life is an lesson. It is not taught in school.

[@keelanesquivel3854]

hey man, lets be friends. My name is Keelan, im 19, and I'm willing to support you in your ambitions. You got this man!

[@nadeshkaholmes9511]

Wish you the best in this new year, you can do whatever you put your mind into, you're strong and capable! Take care of yourself, you deserve only the best

[@technikal270]

I feel you, I'm about to turn 18 and graduate in May, and have a bit of fear of the unknown. Best thing we can do, is try our best to make our ideas come to life. Save money, start small businesses, experience life. It may not happen all in one day or even one month, but if you stay hopeful it'll happen sooner than later. I wish you the best, have a happy New year. New beginnings .

[@thabisohadebe4851]

Keelan Esquivel let’s be friends too , I’m 19

[@MongTonk]

These life issues, thoughts, everything, is resonating with me so much. Sleep, all my life, inconsistent. The importance of spaces, and designating them, I am working on that, and it's weirdly satisfying. I can't multitask... But I'm distracted all the time... Focus is my #1 goal of 2020, but now my PhD and creativity are suffering. When I am on a roll, I am able to create, to imagine so much, I world build. Then in these rare moments I am super sharp and eloquent, but I need that person to be there more 😢

[@vbalaji682]

It takes lot of "self realization" to connect your thoughts with the masses. I don't know how you are connecting these dots...but I could see the efforts you are putting in each of your videos.

[@kpacubo.]

This!

[@justinv3512]

Nathanial seems like such a genuine dude, just super sincere in what he says.

[@leonjhendrix2]

Same here... I used to set 15 different goals only to achieve 2 of them halfway, being way too ambitious and unrealistic, putting too much pressure on myself. This year I'll only set one goal but that one, if achieved, would change the biggest impact on my life in all different areas. Also making a video about it...

[@beth02x]

You have inspired me to delete some of my socials, it's not even been 24 hours but I haven't missed it for a second. I now just have an Instagram where I follow 5 people and have 5 followers just so I can stay in touch easily with close friends. I'm happier than I have been in 7 years and I just feel so grateful for what has gotten my to this point, even though I'm not exactly sure how I made this turnaround. You're an amazing and inspiring person, keep doing what you are doing!

[@sameoldpanda5707]

"Stability is key". Crucially important. Also, that Mark Manson quote is eye opening. Still watching the video but thank you for the quality you put in your video

[@Lunalane567]

please don't stop posting these videos, you are literally changing my life, and honey I am 30 years old, you have more intellect than I EVER did at your age. Please don't stop posting you have so much to share and help the world.

[@kotyayv]

I don't know why you are surprised that your channel is growing. So often in life, we spend time on pointless conversation. Yet with you, conversation has substance. I grow or am pointed to reflect on something each time you create a new video. That is gold. Thank you for taking the time to do this. Hope to meet you one day.

[@airailimages]

Wow. You nailed so many things here. So here's a voice from another generation. I'm old enough to be your grandfather, and I find your observations on self-pressure and the other things you speak of to be relevant and recognizable in my life. I had a 2019 that was partly exhilarating because of the rush of work and opportunity, but partly exhausting for the reasons you list. I look forward to a 2020 that is a different blend of accomplishment and lack-of-accomplishment in the interest of things like the H-word you mentioned: Hobbies. Things that are not always a side hustle. Yes, I'll be working and advancing my KZbin Channel and writing. And yes, I'll be playing and not advancing a darn thing commercially some of the time. So best of luck to you in 2020. (And, by the way, I like your video production style.)

[@tierrapetersen4651]

You are so relatable. I've noticed this about myself as well, that the more pressure I put on myself when I feel like I'm doing really good, trying to maximize my potential developed good habits, then I crash and burn. Too much pressure I'm putting on myself to succeed. Then I self sabotage. Your so right, it is the biggest zapper of joy and creativity. Thank you for this video.

[@LivingBobby]

Love the talk on pressure bro. Amazing self-reflective outlook for 2020!

[@sufaijasaifudeen5303]

Brother, I thought I was the only person who deal with such intense unexplainable thoughts. Stopped sharing such thoughts to others because they say why du have to think too much...sharing your journey of life in public is helping us to rethink for ourselves than ignoring it...May God bless you with the right light...good work👍

[@cadenscamera5444]

"Applying too much pressure is the same as having no pressure at all" - Nothing has resonated with me more in my life. I find most of the time the pressure for me comes from the quality of what I'm doing, how well am I doing it or am I doing it "right." But I've been trying to keep in mind the idea that, "Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly." I find the other kind of pressure cones from time. Like everything is now or never or needing to grind to get somewhere someday. Dont really have a fix for these but thats how I feel I put pressure on myself

[@speak_life218]

currently taking a time out after putting enormous pressure and reaching burnout. watching this in quarantine and shocked at how relatable this is

[@MrsStevenBrown]

When people say they think they have “peaked” in life....just remember that THAT time was like a grand feast sitting at the kings table! You think you’ve had the best of the best... But there’s more “meals” in this life, picnics that will mean more to you than any feast, a snack on a train and for some reason youll remember the taste of the chocolate and the view of the mountains, there’s small meals with friends that last in your memories...Just because you “think” you’ve had the best..doesn’t mean you’re not hungry and can enjoy another meal..it just might BE the the next BEST! 🤩

[@qcasj]

Making Nathaniel my vlogger for the year. I learnt so much from him, tried meditating for an hour a day this year inspired by him and many more. May be he said all the things I thought about and needed to hear. It feels good to hear people that think like you or are as introverted as you.

[@ErikaK]

Relax, have fun and enjoy the process ♡ it's about having a purpose, giving meaning to what we do, loving what we do, waking up every day looking forward to our day and living intentionally and purposely !

[@tafavor]

What got me out of bed today *today* was the notion of designated space. This video spoke directly *directly* to Me. ♥️

[@austin5977]

REMINDER: people are a part of your environment. I know its incredibly cliched but you have to limit the contact with people that inhibit you. You don't have to completely cut them out, just make sure the negative people aren't the only voices you hear.

[@ABeautifulHorizonTV]

The shot where you see your phone and then the focus becomes the reflection of the window was amazing! 📱🖼️🙀🙌

[@LieLikesMusic]

Totally know what you're talking about with the "too much pressure" problem. I struggled with that A LOT when i was in my early twenties. Nowadays i'm more aware of taking time off to rest luckily. It really helps me getting more stuff done when it's time to work again.

[@twosidenathan]

I was finally getting my shit together(Eating, exercise,sleep,money,mindset, taking consistent steps) and I would get these moments of overwhelming happiness where I would just smile and tears would come to my eyes out of no where. And you just adding the icing to the cake. I dont feel rushed or hurried anymore, at least not in a painful way. I feel at ease with everything. I think you are finding those waves in life, to ride them, and just let life soak in. But you cant do that if you're not focused

[@libnabarron6000]

Watched this video when published last December. Wasn’t until now this December that I in a point in my life when I can be receptive of the information you’ve shared. Thank you for sharing such great content! It truly is relatable!!

[@RaeLarz]

It feels so freeing to let go of the pressure of an old dream I was hanging onto, for fear of what others (and my old self) would think if I let it go. But now I'm fully committed to my REAL DREAM right NOW, which is making a living creating inspiring videos on KZbin, as you do. I don't need or want to be an Oscar winning actor. I just want nature, connection, and time alone. Thank you

[@daria9855]

Thank you i needed this. 2019 i ve suffered from Panic Attacks and quitted my job because of burn-out. Now i realised that I am not the Problem and shouldnt hate myself so much. It was too much pressure. In the end i realised that i didnt even liked this job and forced me to so it. I am looking forward to a new mindset and also talk to myself friendly.

[@zoederwesh1847]

Same, how did u overcome it?

[@edgepixel8467]

Same. Most jobs suck.

[@irenejacob8553]

I am currently reading a book called 'power of your subconscious mind' and clearly emphasis on how powerful your subconscious mind is and the fact that it has answers to all of one's problems ,its ability to heal,mend,and improve circumstances around you .I feel listening to body connects you to the universe on a spiritual level. You almost feel like everything you searching for was right there inside you!

[@adamdavanna6229]

I’m going through a strange area of life. I’m having the opposite issue to you - I’m not putting enough pressure on myself. I’m not putting any effort into anything I do, resulting in poor outcomes and an unhappy life.

[@jauxro]

Same

[@josephbitter7091]

Any idea of what to do?

[@streetmagikesp8296]

You’re probably putting too much attention on the fact that you’re not putting enough pressure on yourself, if that makes sense. I would recommend you to take some time for yourself, and think about what would you like to do for a living. Try a lot of things, and discover what you really love. Once you know that, productivity, self-discipline and hard work will come without you even trying. I hope that makes sense, I’m from Spain and sometimes don’t know if what I’ve written is correct 😉

[@falkadhimi]

Write up a gameplan of what needs to be done.

[@adamdavanna6229]

Thank you for the tips! I’ll give it a shot

[@tessiij95]

That 'shutting down' of your body is something like depression i think. The body has 2 ways to respond with stress. Fight or flight. That's why so many people now have problems with anxiety or depression. So much people don't listen to their bodies and just keep watching at screens or plan everyday of the f*cing year full with bullshit. I think it's really inspiring that you just talk about the things nobody really talks about and just be honest with these things. Thank you for all your wisdom this year! :) You made us better persons!

[@lewishowes]

Love this thought process. Fun and joy should be what we strive for. Work hard but have fun every day on the journey to bringing your work and gifts to life. Love this video!

[@TRIBESOUND]

Dude, what you were saying about putting too much pressure on yourself being almost the same as putting on none at all is honestly SO relatable for me! I’ve never heard anyone else say it and thought I may be the only one so was starting to worry but the fact you’ve said it out loud honestly has made me realise where I’ve been going wrong. I’ve just finished college and have been working from home as a self employed music producer/writer and have really struggled with finding a balance. Super relatable video, thank you so much for sharing this with the world. Keep up the great content and good luck for 2020!

[@zubalizuba6639]

This reminds me of when I started kayaking as a hobby. It's so easy to remain focused on the water and the paddles of the kayak that you forget to look at the view around and the sky, especially the sky.

[@preranapradeep3963]

What are you trying to say here? Is that you loved the focusing power so much Or You're saying that bvz you have to focus, you missed the amazing view?

[@damiendesmond8893]

Nathaniel, I came across your videos earlier this year when I myself was organizing and growing myself, my life, my habits, and my goals. And at first, I felt like while your videos were interesting and thought-provoking, I also felt like they were a little quixotic, overzealous, and even just touching on truisms. But over the year since I've followed you from Mexico to Italy, it's been a fantastic journey to see you bloom into your own brand and style of storytelling and seeking the things that truly matter, and sharing them with the world. Thank you for your growth, persistence, and creativity, as it has helped me tremendously to step into my own.

[@scottlawson9027]

Ive watched your videos for years and every single one if them many times. Never commented on any. Here goes:. You sir have completely changed the way I think and see the world and made it clear that was I have been Searching for was mental clarity. You just soeak your mind and I really appreciate that. You really have helped me sooo much. Congratulations!!! Please please keep these sort if videos coming! Happy new Year 2020

[@mschrisfrank2420]

I love New Year’s resolutions. It might be an arbitrary date, but the new year is an easy reminder to re-evaluate where I’m at and where I want to go. And most of my “resolutions” and “goals” are habit related or environment related. I also do a mid year check in where I can change or even abandon goals that aren’t serving.

[@ryangibson3022]

In my humble opinion this is your best content to date. This one definitely landed with me. Time to simplify!

[@Freedomandfeast]

Thank you Nathaniel, from a mum in Australia trying to help her son find clarity in this challenging world and find his sense of self love. You are a wonderful storyteller and I am grateful for your vulnerability xxx

[@margauxaimable]

Written at the end: “seriously, I don’t deserve to do this, you guys have been incredible” In this video you said you needed to learn to be kind to yourself, compassionate and patient as you were for your friends. Acknowledge that you’ve helped many of us, you’ve done good to get many followers and have positive comments. You deserve it 😊

[@Jaybird196]

That, and the "arrogant asshole, to have thought anything else" thing. Ouch, man!

[@VeeraEspo]

I just really needed this. I put way too much pressure on myself all the time and then I feel paralyzed to do anything. It’s a vicious cycle that I need to get out of rather sooner than later.

[@LIFEwithLAM]

100% agree that resolutions are overrated!! If you want something, go get it now!! Thanks for the video and happy new year everyone!! :)

[@Sayanamusic]

Checked out your channel and wow you have such great content too! Keep it up :)

[@LIFEwithLAM]

@@Sayanamusic Thank you so much! I really appreciate it! Nathaniel Drew is a huge inspiration for my videos :D

[@Sayanamusic]

@@LIFEwithLAM Can't wait to see you grow as big as him!

[@bitethatbullet7054]

If resolutions are just goals, how can they be overrated?

[@LIFEwithLAM]

@@bitethatbullet7054 In my opinion, the problem with NYR's is that people think that just because it's a new year, they'll suddenly become more productive or disciplined and they don't take the time to actually focus on the planning of the goal. They just wait for the clock to strike midnight and hope for the best. But again, just my opinion. :)

[@angelvantovier2235]

Honestly I am so glad I have found your channel , it's really helped me with restarting my life since my divorce and really allowed me to learn to simplify

[@1minigrem]

You are really on to something here, a lot of the conclusions you have about yourself I have come too as well. Stay kind to yourself, you can do it.

[@bobbygotsch]

Nathaniel, right before watching this, I journaled for an hour. This was the same conclusion I came to: Less pressure!! I'm glad someone else feels this, and I'm grateful you use your platform to talk about real shit. There aren't many people talking about this. Thank you, have a great year :)

[@HistoryTime]

I often feel the same way as you. Pushing myself constantly with no time to sit back and enjoy accomplishments. This is a really good video. Cheers. I'll be watching more

[@musicAle77]

Best History channel ^^^^

[@skyscodaofficial]

6:40-6:50 I felt that so hard. Glad I'm not the only one who has wondered that. It pains me by wishing I could be in a certain period of time a while back where I was optimized to my full potential, but can't get back too. Thank you for my much needed answer I've been seeking.

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

What an honest video, Nathaniel! Thank you for sharing. As a KZbinr I can definitely relate. I deal a lot with other people with the videos I produce so I used to be under stress constantly when planning a video, hoping nothing would go wrong/no one would cancel. I used to feel a huge pressure to never miss a week of posting, to make videos that were not only tough to pull off but also unnecessary just to prove something to myself. I began letting go more and putting less pressure on myself; even taking half a day off to do something different without checking my phone constantly can make a difference. Me putting pressure on myself wasn't helping anyone. Balance is crucial so good luck on finding yours! Your subscribers would completely understand if you took more time for yourself.

[@moonkrane]

No one ever really understood when I told them how I just shut down, and not gonna lie I did start to think there's just something wrong with me since no one else seemed to knew what I'm on about and clearly, I must just be lazy or something, I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one! Fantastic video, thanks for sharing your experience and the process!

[@_riippuu]

I know that feeling of shutting down and I feel like I've overworked myself to the point where I'm in a permanent "lock down".

[@user-oo8wt3hr1t]

Around the time I was your age I was putting to much pressure on myself and had set to many goals to achieve, I was meticulous about every detail and obsessively disciplined eventually my mind just completely shut down with stress and anxiety. That led to me suffering with depersonalisation for like 3 years and I lost so much of my "progress" but this lead to a huge clearing in my mind, like some sort of awakening, I now see what's important and am living exactly how I should have been all along, I felt angry at my old self for being so uptight and wasting all of them years but ultimately everything I have done has been a journey to me finally being content. Btw I'm just venting no one needs to read this lol Don't sweat the small stuff..

[@diegovalenzuela4707]

Hi. I started seeing your content this year and it became my favorite on KZbin. Best wishes for next year

[@Jolipolie]

Dude! I felt the exact same way. I put so much pressure on myself last year, and naturally fell a bit short. I didn't feel bad about it because I did a lot of good things, but I decided to dial it back this year and enjoy myself.

[@logdog8]

Having just moved out on my own. This is exactly what I needed.

[@kerrybarrington3958]

You might as well become a preacher because you are speaking directly to my soul. Every single thing you stated is exactly how i live my life. Thank you for making this video. You literally saved a life.

[@tasiimdiliza]

Focusing on the dream! That’s what I love!!

[@prawncarl12]

It is mind blowing how much you have expanded in the last few months. I get that you need to stay humble, however, even that is a giant sign of wisdom

[@TheNewTravel]

It' been awesome watching your growth this year. Happy new year!

[@nathanieldrew]

Thank you, you too!

[@barbarag5387]

PLEASE stay as real and honest as you can. It seems as if when people begin to get noticed by others, something changes. What you are sharing is resonating on multiple levels with many. Thank you for being open and willing to turn yourself inside out. Blessings.

[@yoongishadow2201]

the fact that this was released in 2019 is uncanny considering how relevant it is to 2020

[@simonDopeSRB]

I'm 15 and your videos help me out a lot to prepare myself for adulthood and life, to learn about myself, to delete bad habits before they become harmful, Nathan, I learn more from you than in school or from my family, you're very wise for your age, thank you for existing and giving us these amazing videos dude, abrazos desde Chile

[@denisejuarez5266]

"Too much intention creates tension" -Mooji. S Happy 2020 Nathaniel!

[@kimberlynewsom9876]

In your video you said you wanted to start treating yourself like a good friend and then at the end of the video one of the text popups said that you "didn't deserve to be doing this." Would you say that to a good friend? No, you wouldn't - stop telling yourself you don't deserve things. YOU DO. Thank you for sharing.

[@positivelykiran]

Time is now! The power of now! Time to conquer our greatness! 2019 Here we are! 2020 Here we Come! 😊😊😊♡

[@dreamontis]

I paused at 0:58 to appreciate how much this video has already given me. It's just insane, 58 seconds and it already changed the way I'm thinking about the way to tackle 2020. Thanks man

[@samuelsmithmed214]

That’s a dope thumbnail, looking sophisticated as hell not gonna lie.

[@radnatalie]

oh my god. what you said at peaking at like 6 and shutting down from too much pressure resonates so much. thank you so much for this video!

[@joinae2646]

Sometimes I feel like you're translating my thoughts to me ..I don't know how to explain but ..thank you

[@AworShat]

Hey Nat. I think you'll probably never get to read this but my oh my you get me. I've been struggling with all the problems you've said you were facing. Last year I moved back home to start a KZbin channel, this channel, but along the way put too much pressure on myself, got somehow depressed and stopped altogether. I was gonna make a video similar to this to reinvent myself this year and this was massive. Thank you for this!

[@falconcara]

This makes so much sense to me, I can relate to everything you said

[@joaofalcao6258]

This video talked to me in a way I didn't thought it was possible. Lately, I'm not having a clue what the f* I am doing. But I learned that everything in my head comes with habits, my environment and my mindset. Like you I always had this thing of not knowing how to push for myself in an healthy way. Like you, I have too much input. And I'm not establishing the right pillars for me to be mentally clear. I think somehow I was waiting for this video. I knew this was going to be a big one. Your work inspires me everyday. I am currently in the first steps of my freelance photography project and I am grateful to have people like you putting out this kind of information based on honesty and self control. Compliments from Portugal💪

[@morriseperez1901]

When ever I'm feeling lost, I know it's time for me to come to a full stop. Acknowledge my feelings, thoughts and let it all out. Focus on the bigger picture. Then and there I recognize that I am just i part of this dumb obvious, yet super complex game of Life, that we're all a part of. Many of us don't know and will never understand the why. We're like zombies, roaming the earth, with no clear direction or purpose. Hamster on the wheel, not knowing why he is running but only knows to run faster because that's what he's been told is the correct thing to do. Why?

[@JessicaAntonelli]

Potholes in San Miguel de Allende! Lol sprained ankle capital of the world, cool to see you there! I moved to SMA 5 years ago and got into the opposite side of the coin that this vid is all about--super laid-back Mexican lifestyle. And yet this advice is still essential and speaks to what's needed if you are in the no-pressure or high-pressure world. Consistency, realistic expectations, treating yourself like a friend instead of having a terrorist inside your head. Cheers and happy new decade!