Navigating your 20s & 30s while not having a clue what you're doing

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Here's a video all about navigating your 20s and 30s while not having a clue what you're doing! I cover societal pressures, social norms, career, kids, marriage, feeling behind, single life, etc etc. Let's chat in the comments!
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[@ErinsHoose]

Firstly, WHAT'S WITH THE AIR QUOTES, STOP. LET'S CHAT - what do you think about all of this? Also, when I say you should live life for yourself, I don't mean in relation to caring for others, I mean in the sense that we should be living free from societal expectations and other people's opinions :)

[@Hills623]

Your entire video and even the train of thought is what me and my husband went through two years ago---it led us to make new decisions and we're living more by our own wants now. It's made going through all the craziness a lot better. I support you and your journey ❤️

[@vernonchelski7385]

I'm surpised at how you can change your looks so much in these videos.

[@gothcosplays]

I agree with it all, 100%. Heck, I’m in my late 20s, pretty much going through a similar situation as you did, thought I knew what I wanted in life/thought I had everything figured out, but NOPE. Now this video is helping me realize: I don’t 100% know what I want in life. I also didn’t start going to college until 21, but that sadly didn’t work out like I wanted it to. I’m also trying to stop being hard on myself when it comes to certain things/ 💩 on myself for still living with my family as an adult, even though there is NOTHING wrong with that. Also get moments here and there, where I just feel worthless or like I’m not getting anywhere in life, even though I know it’s not true. Thought I wanted to go to another college, but now I’m questioning that stuff/keep getting told I need to find a really good job. In a way, I get it. But at the same time: Like you said, what is even success? Yeah, a person could have a really good job, but what if the person isn’t happy with their job, and all? Then what? I’m also kinda word vomiting, I guess: But anyway… Point being: Thank you for making this video. I really needed to hear everything that was mentioned in this video.

[@Skulljeep00]

You get used to the frequent changes at 30. I'm 33 and totally understand your perspective. I take an uplifting positive and energized approach (aries). The one thing that I wanted is marriage and kids. I want to be a father. I have a house, a career, I just gotta keep the ball rolling.

[@TutAnkLoki]

I have a son; it has inspired me to make changes in life. I am 31, my last named used to be Crosby and Im a Leo

[@larrybell1859]

I am 63 years old and everything you said is 100% correct.

[@charliestevenson3500]

Erin, you are still 29, the events of 2020 and 2021 suspended the passage of time. Do what is best for you and look at this time as a new beginning. I wish you the best for your future. You are smart and will figure it out. Take care.

[@alyssat534]

You have no idea how much I needed this 🥺 I'm only 23 but I feel like I'm so behind. I graduated college about a year ago and it's been so hard feeling like I'm the only person without a job and a boyfriend

[@ErinsHoose]

Oh nooo you're still SO young! Congrats on graduating college, that's a HUGE achievement in itself. So many people struggle to get a postgrad job so don't beat yourself up about it. And pffft, boyfriends are overrated ;)

[@jamesroop6572]

I'm 61, single, and back in school to learn an entirely new career. It's kind of scary, but I've heard someone say if being scared is the only thing holding you back you should do it.

[@ErinsHoose]

Love this!

[@WEstHamUTD777]

You're so right, don't let society pressure you into anything just live your life the way you want to .

[@lawrencejack5038]

An old quote “Tomorrow is a mystery. Yesterday is history. Live today, it’s a gift, that’s why they call it “present.” Your doing just fine, Absolutely nobody has a life without any challenges regardless of what age they are. Keep being spontaneous it’s more exciting 😉

[@krystalperkins2011]

Hello Erin, I am 35 (36 on the 15th) in America and yes I am married with kids but completely agree with you. I often feel very stagnant in my own life because I am busy helping my children through theirs. I love my children and husband but wish I had more time to figure my own career out. I still have no idea what I want to be when I grow up so there’s that! You always seem to inspire me and I appreciate you and where you are in your life!

[@ErinsHoose]

Thanks for watching!

[@roddymcniven8734]

Grow up? You’re 35 ffs 🙈

[@krystalperkins2011]

It’s a joke, but I see you could use the advice. Sorry you misunderstood.

[@Lukei182]

Love love love this! Might be my favourite video of yours so far. I’ve never been one to plan too far ahead in life and I’ve always been fairly content with whatever my current situation is, but in today’s world of constant social media bombardment it’s almost unavoidable to have moments where you feel like you haven’t got your shit together as well as others. Thanks for spreading such positivity!

[@ErinsHoose]

Aww thank you! For sure

[@madbluebirdproductions3159]

33….still single….still figuring my life out. I LOVE that this video exists!!

[@WeeScottishLass]

Been waiting for this video!!! Also typed an entire comment and forgot to post it and closed the window and now I regret everything in life. But 100% to the whole feeling pressured into having kids and finding someone. Only do it for you, not to complete you but because you're already complete and that would be the icing on the cake. Seen a lot of couples have kids to try and "fix" their relationships too and thats not what you should be having kids for. Other people don't "complete" things or make them feel "whole" you have to find that feeling by yourself first. Loved the video Erin! Some fantastic points!!!

[@ErinsHoose]

YEEEP! 🙌 thanks Tammy! :D

[@NightRaptor]

Thank you for speaking out on these things. I've always been unsure of myself & what I want to do. Always under the pressure of others who have things figured out. Especially relationships, I noticed that when people rush things too fast the least likely they work out like when people get married & THEN they find out that this is a horrible person. 💜

[@ErinsHoose]

This is it!

[@Spike0000]

@@ErinsHoose I still don't have a clue what to do. My "existence" these days, since it's just me looking after mumsy, is a bit like Mad Max 2...one day just blurring into the next. Mad really, considering back in the day I was quite loud and outgoing and sharp and witty...funny what a decade of boredom does, it's made quite the introvert these days...bit like Rocky trying to find his focus again after a physical/mental beating....My mates had kids then, cos they weren't' happy in their relationship...were asking ME why I hadn'y had kids. I made a conscious choice NIOT to have them and chose freedom and peace....

[@MENTOKz]

i love you talking alone its so funny and you are so great.

[@ATinyPlace]

Everything you said just hits home all the way. Chin up my friend, exciting things are coming your way!

[@tonyhomant244]

I told both my boys this when they were younger. You don't have to get married early, or at all, if you dont want to. You don't have to do what society dictates.

[@ghostlyMostly1]

I had something similar happen with a breakup (6 year relationship) and a new job all in a month. It felt like the winds of change blowing in at the time, and it was the beginning of a much better time in life!

[@ErinsHoose]

Oh wow! Congrats on the new job and I hope you're doing okay! ❤

[@ghostlyMostly1]

@@ErinsHoose Thanks I'm great! It was all years ago.

[@sophies4372]

This is the video I didn't know I needed. There shouldn't be any pressure for anyone for anything in life as you say. Great video! 👍

[@ErinsHoose]

Awww I'm glad you enjoyed! Thank you!

[@johnmccarthy2179]

You have it spot on, your conditioned too think one way only from the cradle to the grave, do not be a slave to the system. All the best from a seasoned 75 year old

[@steveshetterjr.6976]

Society says that we should do a lot of things. Some of these things really make no sense. As the "Black Sheep" of the family, I have decided to do as I want. At 54, my father calls me the oldest teenager he knows. I retired at 51, began with things I have always wanted to do and now the last thing on this list is go to Scotland for good. I know that some of the "Scots" will not approve of my vision but I am determined to make it work. I really hope that you can find what you really want and pursue it. Age is only a number. Love your content..

[@HielanYorkie]

Well done for addressing this, I know far too many people that are half my age who at times are in complete meltdown because they haven't got married, had children, found the perfect job, bought a house etc. All you can do is do you, live your life at your own pace, and make sure you enjoy what you do and how you do it.

[@ErinsHoose]

This is it!

[@eddieengland470]

Big changes can sometimes be difficult but I believe you give an honest representation of yourself here on KZbin. A caring person through your career choice with dementia patients. The preservation of nature through hill climbs and walks. A family that cares that you got your finances straight before moving out. And enjoying life having fun with videos out with friends. Seems to me you have the most important things in life figured out and are not in a setback at all. I wouldn’t worry too much, I feel you have an appreciation for life that those in the societal rat race aren’t even aware of. Best of luck

[@ErinsHoose]

:)

[@ChickWithBrainz83]

None of this is weird at all. I have always wondered why there's this cookie cutter concept to life. I don't fit into normal in any sense. I'm 38 and I started off believing that. At times it creeps back to bite me in the ass but overall I've been so much happier doing my own thing. I laugh that everyone talks about being free and when someone exercises this freedom they change to "That's not okay" . Human Beings are a massive contradiction lol

[@ErinsHoose]

I'm glad! Agreed

[@larrybell1859]

There is nothing wrong with not being married and not having children. Marriage and parenthood are luxuries and not necessities. They are personnel choices. Never let family, culture, religion, and government tell you otherwise.

[@PS3GamingScotland]

As long as your content with your life then that's the main thing.

[@danielstrunz5759]

My grandpa's sister remained single till she died. She was the sweetest person and so kind to us when we were kids. I still have socks from her she made for me! I'm 30 now, also single. Nothing wrong with it. However i think its better to move out and learn to stand on your own feet...i couldnt imagine living with my parents still :D

[@kevinroberts7365]

"I don't know what's coming out of my mouth. But I have feelings." Yeah, that is possibly the most Erin statement ever made!

[@michaellemon8287]

Erin, I'm from Poland and watching your videos to get acquainted with the Scottish accent, which I really like. I visited Scotland many years ago and liked it a lot, watching your stuff reminds me of my past travels and how nice the Scottish people are. I wish I get the chance to go there again some day. I hope you are doing well and finding your happiness in life!

[@joeswitajewski130]

I really appreciate these videos.

[@gerbary]

Thank you for this!❤

[@anywoodsexploration4985]

Love this!!! Definitely awesome and important messaging. Great video.

[@ErinsHoose]

Thank you!

[@girlgotstyle]

That was brilliant!!! I only came here to learn a Scottish accent but you are adorable ❤️Loved the talk! Do what you want in life full stop!

[@darrenmr]

You're videos are always great

[@ujangibdaiesolutionenterpr3376]

i wish all da best erin

[@CalmDownTom]

Great video Erin. Even if you don't know what you're doing in your life (who does?), you still know how to give me and Nana a laugh!

[@ErinsHoose]

Thanks :D!

[@frankrobinson1322]

Greetings from San Francisco and thank you for great episode, your insight and honesty is truly inspiring. Thanks again.

[@petterbrads85]

I'm 36 and currently thinking that my life is over, as single lodging at home and in a crappy job that is toxic. Plus had this discussion with my therapist as I feel like you said "meet someone - move in, get married, have kids and be in a good job". Sadly i struggle on all fronts, as I am scared to get out of my comfort zone as i don't feel like I can cope for when i crash, plus I just feel like everything is over at 36 and I am just waiting for the end as everything has passed me now. So this video is where i am right now, but trying to build my confidence is the biggest thing i trying to do.

[@squishysquid9505]

Mon the Pisces! ❤

[@sigmundjester]

Hi Erin. I met my wife when I was 35, got married at 36, went to uni and changed my career when I was 37. We didn’t have our first baby together until 2 years ago when I was 49 and my wife was 41. I sometimes think it would have been nice to do things in the traditional (air quotes) way, in the traditional order. Then I realise if I’d done that then nothing I experienced for over 10 years as a single guy would have happened - and there were some really character building events during that period that I wouldn’t want to delete from history.

[@Awetopsy1703]

We miss you miss Erin we hope your life and times are going beautifully , thanks so much for sharing your life with us out here !!!

[@probuilder961]

Yes, miss your videos. Hope all is well!

[@shinmegumigaming2803]

I loved watching this video and listening to what you had to say. I am 31 years old and I constantly feel like I'm so far behind the curve compared to people I graduated high school with or friends in my life. It feels like there is nothing but pressure to have all of those things. I'm glad you made this video and talked about this. I haven't really dated in 5 years because I was just trying to learn and grow before potential commitment. I also agree 100% that if you aren't okay on your own, then a relationship isn't going to help. I loved the way you phrased it. I just love watching your videos. I found your videos because I wanted to learn the accent for some acting and roleplaying stuff and I've enjoyed every video I've watched.

[@murrayscott9546]

Loneliness is the pain of being alone. Solitude is the joy of being alone. Ask Superman. He had his fortress to retreat to when the responsibilites and expectations got to be too much.

[@murrayscott9546]

I, personnaly didn't have much of a clue what I was doin' until the age of 30. Looking back I consider most peoples 20's to be a bunch of kids playing at being adults. Testing the waters, so to speak. Aproaching 60 now, I think I have found my voice - kind of.

[@nobodyhere017]

Interesting video. I agree with you that social norms and expectations are nonsense. Although I would say that life isn't completely about living for yourself. That instead life is balance between caring for yourself and caring for others. But I would agree with you that comparing one's life to another person's is a bad idea. There's an anonymous quote that says, "Comparison is the theif of joy." Very true! Everyone's life is a wee bit different from each other. And the people online or on TV who appear to have an amazing life that's figured out probably don't. BUT that doesn't mean there aren't amazing people in this world. Amazing, not because they're perfect and lead perfect lives (there is no such thing as perfection anyway), but because of who they are, the type of person they are etc. Also the part about not knowing your future circumstances/living in the moment sounds very familiar. And as to kids, relationships etc again to each their own on that. Personally, one day I hope to have kids. Which is something my younger self would never have said. But, I also don't want them now. If I'm completely honest with myself, I'm not in place in my life where that would be a good thing...but eventually. I agree with you again that a partnership or relationship shouldn't/couldn't make up for any sense of lack in one's life. One is a whole being forever growing. And like you said, a relationship should be there to add to life. One needs to be comfortable alone. And my introverted self has found much joy in solitude. But I also want to share my life with someone too and would feel privileged if someone wanted to share their life with me. That sometimes, to borrow from Into the Wild, happiness is meant to be shared. And personally I want to wake up next someone I care about, kiss them each day on the cheek or on the forehead and wish them good morning. Someone to cuddle up with later on the couch and buy things I know they'll love. And I want to at least try to do this for as long as fate allows. Since I do want to get married if I can find someone who likes me too and isn't afraid to tell me. But again interesting video. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Still love listening to you! Take care and bye for now Erin

[@ErinsHoose]

When I say 'live for yourself', I definitely don't mean that in relation to caring for others, I mean it in relation to living in a way that you want to, not in the way other people/society expects you to live. Thanks for watching and for your takeaway :)

[@henrytaylor492]

Incredible Erin. Somehow I missed the notificaton of this vlog so just seeing it now but once again you are sharing thoughts WISER than your years. I have missed seeing your vlog but now it makes sense. As someone older, everything you said is right on the money as they used to say. You are truly incredible.Please keep Vloging and being YOU!!!

[@cambeul71]

Thank you for this video inspired!!

[@simonmcglary]

Societal norms need to change as everyone is different. This has been brought home to me even more over the past 7 to 8 years, especially since being diagnosed autistic. Being autistic brings out greater, more intense differences than someone who isn’t. It also took me to me mid 50s to realise that I’m asexual. Forget stereotypes, forget expectations and be you!

[@ErinsHoose]

❤

[@johnnyphoenix1223]

Life happens nothing is set in stone so stressing about it will only make you crazy everything happens for a reason you will find your own way ( in a world when everyone fears everything they forget to “live” enjoy life)

[@richardpichan6916]

Good good stuff. I think we're all definitely removed from our immediate situations to various extents due to social media. There is an overwhelming amount of information at our fingertips and curiosity can often drive us to emotionally involve ourselves in situations, ideals and concepts that we, as observers cannot fully understand. We can to find inspiration from well outside our own situations, but we need to find that which defines us IN our situations. ....hoping I conveyed that properly.

[@saramartin179]

This resonates with me, thanks for sharing

[@richardpichan6916]

I had to tune in, I'm in a similar boat in the storm....don't feel bad or lost. I'm 45 and just switched jobs, as far as figured out 🤔....I have 3 classic motorbikes to put together 😁 I figured that much out lol.

[@murrayscott9546]

I'm dangerous enuf on 4 wheels but I'd like to do the full Che Guevarra. Motorcycle Diaries.

[@richardpichan6916]

@@murrayscott9546 I grew up riding dirt, then motocross, then '90s & early '00s sportbikes. Up to 7 now, 5 were basically "bikes in boxes" or hefty refurbishments. Can't resist them though lol.

[@penhallj]

This has come at the perfect time for me. So I'm going to use this comment section as my own diary of sorts. I have just come out of a 10 year relationship 3 months ago just before my 31st birthday. I literally went from house buying and trying for a baby to having to move out and look for a houseshare for my first time since uni. I've had to switch my entire mindset of what I want in life and I can't say it hasn't been hard but I'm trying to not stress about the long term and to enjoy prioritising myself and doing all the things that I haven't been able to. 3 months out of the break up I am now living in a really nice house in an area I've always wanted to live in and have made a friend for life in one of my housemates. I had a great 31st birthday with all of my closest girl friends and took an amazing week long solo holiday. I am also dipping my toes into dating and, although I'm not ready for a relationship, am enjoying meeting people, feeling attractive and figuring out what I am attracted to in a man and what I would want out of a relationship when the time comes. Sometimes I have slightly panicked thoughts about my biological clock and the timelines from meeting someone to having children with them but I am trying to push those thoughts away and focus on the present. What will happen will happen but now I can be number 1 priority for the first time in a long time.

[@richardpichan6916]

I really enjoy your rambles 😁 (and that's a compliment)

[@ErinsHoose]

cheeers!

[@doogers20]

Spot on Erin life is too short x enjoy life 💚

[@jpn_119]

This video made me feel better, thanks Erin, as a lady in her late 20s whos sibling is living that "normal" life, i do feel the pressure a lot...its tough sometimes, but i'm happy with my dog, and i'm still figuring out my life, what i want etc. I'm finally happy in my career, and the rest will come in time. I wish you the best too, and hope you achieve what you want in life. ☺️

[@toddarmstrong1167]

You are and always have been, genius.

[@cloverlynnfurhop]

I'm so glad to have found this video, even if it's a year later. I needed it so much. Thank you Erin!! ❤

[@shawnmcdowell5477]

I will say that I agree with you and what you had to say. And I say keep on doing what you are doing.

[@sanjuro66]

Erin, don't feel pressure into doing ANYTHING. Life is all about "going with the flow"...with minor re-adjustments. :)

[@ErinsHoose]

exactly!

[@darrenmr]

I'm reading about Scottish Christmas and Hogmany

[@charlestaylor9424]

Be a godparent, you get to have fun with the child, get random phone calls at midnight, and none of the usual hassles.

[@hermunkulus]

I get it. I’m 31 and had to completely change my direction a few years ago. I got fired from my job in film and realized it wasn’t the answer for me and had to start over. It took a while, but I found something. It’s frustrating, but when push comes to shove you’ll be okay in the end. Focus on what makes you happy and use it as fuel. It will work for you. I promise.

[@runawayplane6166]

Fired? Was it bad…?

[@andrewbartlett2125]

I like seeing your videos. I'm 40 and I'm trying to build my business of freelance photography. Also single for a few years myself.

[@Doctom1515]

Good job!!.. you definitely dove deep into your own psyche and probably a good part of your audience . You were honest , confused, and profound all in the one video. It sounded like it came from the heart which was fantastic. Anyway I’m older but definitely could relate from my own past and even my own present . Anyway, screw everyone Erin you do what makes you happy !!.. keep up the good work !!CHEERS

[@JSandwich13]

Used to watch u years ago an u just randomly popped intae ma head. Hope ur good

[@jaywass6289]

I can relate to this. I’m 32 still living at home and haven’t had a relationship for a number of years. Most of my school friends are married have kids etc and I’ve been engaged twice but have no kids. My mum is always on at me to join a dating app. But I would rather meet someone face to face. Even my cousin who’s never had a boyfriend before now has one and I’m still on the shelf. But however much it would be nice to meet someone. But I’m just out here living my life while I can.

[@ErinsHoose]

that's the best way! nae hurry

[@stickytapenrust6869]

Just chiming in here to say that I’m coming up to 32 and in the same situation. Hadn’t been single for a day between 16 and 30 (though not engaged), was in an LDR for the last 9 of those 14 years but am still living at home. You might be like me and feel kind of mentally restricted in your personality because you can’t do everything you want to do and that may come across in your mood towards others.

[@scruffy281]

You did the SMART thing....you saved your money and bought your home. Your friend sounds jealous. Good for you! If I were you I would be sooooo proud of myself!!You are on YOUR path and seem happy. Way to go!

[@TheBrianRaglandChannel]

Hey Erin, I've been away for awhile,... but I've found myself missing you Lately,... and missing all the Scottish Vloggers that used to vlog all the time that don't ANYMORE (BZVLOGS, SHERRYSVLOGGIN, DAVIDWANTS, ESC.),...... I'm glad you're still Vlogging and making GREAT content, ....PLEASE never stop,... thank you so much, ........From an old friend in the USA....

[@campbellw1963]

Erin there is only 2 words thats needed. BE YOURSELF :)

[@pauly1dad]

Erin , once again you produce a brilliant, thoughtful expression of your thoughts. I wish I could have heard some of this when I was younger. I was 27 before I moved from home, and I heard all the junk you talked about from some of my friends. My closest two friends were married even earlier, and they had children by that time. I went through all the doubts you talk about, including 2 more failed relationships. ( Actually, either would have been miserable or disastrous had they continued). I was 35 when I met my wife and my son was born a year later. We’ve been together 25 years now and some hard and good times. I can tell you are absolutely right.. people who think they have the answers are fooling themselves. They may have been unusually fortunate in their choices, or they are carrying on an act. There are times I would have acted differently but for my friends’ opinions, and things went badly. I think because we are communal creatures part of us wants to go with what’s expected. I can tell you I was actually jealous about some people who I graduated with, that had their life planned out. Well I have ran into them years later and they were all divorced (some twice) and children were estranged, living on friends property, etc. Goes to show you nobody has a line on what is right. You didn’t ramble or talk too much.., by all means do a follow up vid or vids, for that matter. I don’t think I only speak for myself when I say that the amount of heart (and humor) that you put into your videos means a lot. Now I’ve talked a lot more than I should!

[@gaurangbarot625]

Hi Erin! Hope you are well!

[@DayZer1987]

I think you're reaching that point in life that I hit around the 30 mark. It was like I just started to say "fuck em" I found out a hell of a lot about myself when I spent time on my own after a shitty relationship. Without sounding hippy, time alone in nature seriously grounded me, I fell in love with everything life provided. I'm 35 now, have a fiancee, a dog and we always say to each other that the three of us is all we need to be happy. Others can expect things of us whether it be work, lifestyle or whatever but...fuck em lol we are doing us and that's all I care about now.

[@philcampbell3616]

Happy Scotts Day Love, miss you

[@Lutessa853]

I'm 27 and my parents have certain expectations of me. I think its because they see me as an extension of them and their goals, personally. Anyways, I want to make both my parents and myself proud. However, I think the tricky thing about life is how would we know whats the best route for us to take? My parents thinks they know what's best for me, but I feel like I know what's best for me. I think its best that we take control of our own lives because if we go by what our parents said and we aren't happy, they won't feel sorry for us. If we go our decision, atleast we can learn from what life has to offer us. With that being said, support is key.

[@ErinsHoose]

Nobody knows yourself better than you!

[@shrekogre6597]

As a nobody on the internet watching your videos i must say it's nice to see that at 31 you have an excellent understanding of whom you are.... Always do what best makes you happy others be damned... Because of you i just returned from Scotland for my first ever trip anywhere.... Well done... P.s. i have no children either wanted when younger glad as all heck now i dont have

[@ErinsHoose]

Thank you!

[@ShiinaRingo13]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 You are brilliant. Do what ever YOU want with your life. Its your life and you choose how your story is going to be written.

[@ErinsHoose]

Preach!

[@justnatalie3390]

I love this. And really needed to hear this. Only thing that's pushing me to get a house... is I have a lot of pets. I currently live in a 1 bedroom apartment/flat that only allows 2 pets. But pet reptiles are addicting, and now I have.... let's just say what the average person who isn't into reptiles would call A LOT. But I feel stuck in this hamster wheel. Trying to save money. But every year rent gets more expensive. And I feel like I'm a ticking time bomb. Like eventually maintenance is going to find out about my reptile collection and kick me out. And then I'll have to beg my parents or ask my boyfriend to let me and all my critters move in with them. And both my parents and my boyfriend live at least an hour drive away from my work. And I'll probably have to pay a huge fine for having all my pets in my apartment in the first place. So then I'll be super broke, having to spend a lot of money on gas each week to drive over an hour to work. Or find a new job, which probably won't pay as good. And then I'll have to "start over" with my life trying to have a good footing on my own. And I'll feel like an absolute failure.

[@clifftreadway365]

Yep.

[@deckardmorillo4405]

I live with my mother and sister and I´m bloody 48 now. I´ve never been married. No fiancee. Still happy.

[@deckardmorillo4405]

Straight. Thank you.

[@dougblundell378]

Hi Erin, just to prove you are right about careers and progression. I changed my job at the age of 57 after working for the same company for 30 years, which brought me to Scotland and Balloch. Anything is possible if you stay positive and believe. Good luck and stay positive!

[@ErinsHoose]

Love that!

[@dany13flash]

Missing your videos ❤😊

[@klondikechris]

I am very happy to live in a place that is non-judgmental. No-one cares about your race, gender, sexuality, or wealth. If you want to live in a cave, go for it (Caveman Bill has been doing it for 20 years). If you want to change careers: sure! At my 40th year high school reunion, one of my classmates, at 58, was just finishing her training to become a chiropractor. I went back to school after retiring from a military career. Change is good, and changing expectations - why not just remove them, and live life!

[@bmw-e30]

The older you get, the less concerned one is about societal pressure so a waste of time even dwelling on it in the first place.

[@ErinsHoose]

I've had quite a lot of comments/messages saying that this doesn't change with age and so many people still feel like they don't know what they're doing etc. It's interesting.

[@mocuishleheart6537]

I love your accent

[@treatmelikeaslut]

Not me watching this being 17 years old but feeling this same pressure of what I'm gonna do with my life when I get older, it's scary to grow I don't even know what I'm gonna do with my life in one year when I'll be graduating from high school 😩🤌🏻

[@putmanmedia]

You're Fn Awesome😍

[@Awetopsy1703]

Good on you Erin the best part is to just be a kid and find your way as your soul leads you

[@ErinsHoose]

🙌

[@prideoflanarkshireMotherwellFC]

I used watch you ages ago on my other channel and you came into my mind.. see you not doing videos anymore thats a shame, hopefully you come back 👍👍

[@Shwee113]

Hoping you're well :)

[@catchyname5403]

You are missed 💚

[@rolfsinkgraven]

Just live the life you want to, dont follow the leader, changes will come in time, if you want them or not, happiness makes you live a better life, a job you love too do, creates that happiness aswel, doing what the norm writes you too do just bring stress, like my grand dad uses too say: a happy puppy lives longer :-)

[@vernonchelski7385]

I screebed! Those big blue beautiful eyes got me besides all the interesting videos. BTW, some women use surrogate mothers to have their children late in life. You can store fertilized embryos for years, too. One problem is that a lot of people get college degrees and can't get a job in their field. The avatar I'm using with this channel is an old picture of James Clerk Maxwell mainly known for the Maxwell equations. -Alvin

[@marion.saturn]

Love the video! I remember wanting to get married, live in a big house and have children so bad at 13 and then - a year later - I started to question if I really wanted that. And since then I can happily say that this isn't for me. It wouldn't make me happy. But today I'm still struggling with my career. I don't know what I want to do but that's okay. I don't need to figure it out now (I'm 22).

[@noc4urne]

There's so much "have-to's" in life 😩 Let them all go (well, just some of them) 😆💜

[@sues7743]

You are wise beyond your years.

[@user-vo9pf2ex6z]

I love your content! Are you still doing videos? 😊

[@KikiFu]

Erin- This was a very encouraging video! What was the title of the book about things that will change your life? I'd like to check it out :) Thanks and have a great day.

[@Scorpion6174]

I'm 48,...just turned,...and I've watched all of my friends and family grow up throughout the years, marry, have kids, those kids grow up, get married, and have kids of their own. Since I was about 10, I've always wanted a family,...a wife and kids. But, I've never married or had kids. Complete honesty, I'm pretty disappointed in that. I've had many jobs throughout the years, and may soon be starting my own business for the first time,...at 48. I came across your channel, because I've been watching a lot of KZbin videos of people and places in Scotland since April. I was in Scotland this past April for the fourth time since 2001. I love Scotland, and desperately want to move there. I've investigated and researched what it would take to move there,...specifically getting a Work Visa. But, it doesn't appear that it's gonna happen. That is incredibly disappointing. Being in Scotland makes me so happy, so at peace, so calm, and so euphoric. I say all that to say, that you can only try and do your best, to make the life you're allowed to have. That's the most accurate description I can think of,...the life you're allowed to have. You may have goals, hopes, dreams, aspirations, etc.,...but, in my experience, there are always things and people that, for some unexplained reason, may insist upon not allowing you to attain your goals, hopes, dreams, aspirations, etc. It can be so crushing. But, you do the best you can,...or play the cards you're dealt,...and even if you have the worst cards in your hand, you play those cards to the best of your ability. And, when you get the smallest of victories,...celebrate like you've just won a million pounds. Because, when it feels like everything in life is confusing, or things seem to rarely go your way, or life just isn't what you'd hoped for 5, 10, 15, or 20 years ago, those small victories can be the best feeling ever. So, celebrate them like you've just won a million! Take Care.😊

[@Scorpion6174]

@Kip Drordy Well, at 48, hopefully, before I die. Or, maybe that's when it'll pass,...when I pass. 🤔,...😆😆😆😆😆😆😆

[@Justsomebody009]

I’m turning 25 this year. When I was 16 I worked in a soft play area. It was just so it looked good for going to college to do childcare. I hated it. Then I did an apprenticeship for nursery teaching. Qualified and stayed for 4 years. I left because my partner left the army and the job he got went bankrupt after 6 months and he lost his high paying job. So we moved to his mums and I had to give up the job. I started teaching English online and working in a Chinese takeaway. I am now a darner. It was a new job came up. Just 10 minutes walk from my house. It pays better than any job I’ve done before and I could not be happier. 2022 has not been so bad.

[@Yertle_Turtle]

There’s so many ways to look at life, and as we move through it, we have a laugh at our past notions of what it held in store for us. Paradoxically, our parents suffer from our random expectations towards them of sharing their knowledge on this critical aspect of life (figuring out our life holds in store for us). Do they share too much? “$!%* off! I can take care of myself!” Hardly, we don’t know #%$! in our early life. Do they share too little? “Oh Mom, you don’t give a %!#$ about me. Where were you when I needed you for [3 hours]? That was the most important thing ever!” If our parents don’t know (or don't care), there are almost always older people who can lend experience or wisdom on what to expect, plan for, or just be grateful for. Sadly nobody gives perfect advice, so we have to piece things together. Parents can be +1000 to our early lives, or scale down to -1000. But we have to move on from them to other people. Triumphs to expect: buying something big? How long does a new thing actually “feel” good, more than a month and we’re kinda over it. Making little people? That’s not a triumph, that’s a lifetime commitment to slaving, misery, joy, terror and wonder. You’re right to set it aside, because in this day and age making kids should be a lifetime goal, or not considered at all. Amazing job or “promotion?” That is important, but totally dependent on the day to day grind of the job. The key to "the job" is building flexible relationships (which is a skill), learning a swath of other life skills & helping yourself find satisfaction in a huge variety of things. None of that has to do with the particular job either! Romance? It’s impossible to know what your heart wants before you try, and trying is the foundation to the whole enterprise. Parallel to that is everything in the other person’s heart -totally alien. A joy of discovery, imho. Any period between romances is normal, all gaps happen because romances require a lot of circumstances to coincide. Tragedies to expect: truly, this is the best thing to learn about before they wash over you. Because coping with them can either shut you down or make you more durable & grateful for the good things in life. Best wishes for you Erin, its so rewarding to listen about your life in another land.

[@mrunknown7714]

She reminds me of Lucy from the "English with Lucy" channel.

[@Moon_140]

Very knowledgeable and inspirational:)! I’m 26, have you ever talked to or ever thought about getting to know a man from America?