Necessary Endings Protect Your Future | The Dr. Cloud Show - Episode 294

In this highlight from The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Cloud talks about how to use necessary endings to protect your future. Ask yourself: What is in my life that doesn’t fit my tomorrow?
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[@Marchelette]

This was really great 😊. For me it’s not letting other people talk me into staying somewhere longer than I need to. Recently there were times where I knew it was time to leave a job, a church ⛪️, people etc and other people tried to talk me into staying because “that’s family” or “they’re counting on you” etc. I had to learn to follow my instincts not what other people said.

[@Iam_anHeir]

@Renee McGruder Appreciate your comment. I can very much relate. Other people (op) do not always know what is best for us, but God does! When we honor our instincts, our gut, or that witness/check in-our-spirits, we are wise because I have learned that is The Holy Spirit leading us. He is always right on. I also learned that I do not have to explain myself to op. Many times op have tried to pull info out of me in an attempt to manipulate me into doing what they want me to do. So I have learned the less said the better. It is my life and I will not give my power over to op anymore. Still learning to be wiser still, but I have come a long way from where I was and it feels good to honor my choices and follow my instincts. Blessings 🌈

[@believestthouthis7]

Often other people have plans for us that serve them and they are disappointed when God has other plans for us. They may have thought God brought us into a situation for their benefit and then it turns out that season has ended and the Holy Spirit is moving us into another direction. Generally we cannot please very many people and also please God. We all have to trust God and focus on what He wants, not just what we want or what other people want. Our Heavenly Father knows best and He makes life an adventure for His purposes. Psalm 16:11 - Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.

[@jill8777]

Just what I needed to hear… time to let go of what isn’t serving me in this season.

[@laurar8486]

This is exactly where I'm at, and you are right, it's actually doing what needs to be done. I told my therapist today that it's like I'm at the edge of the cold ocean and I'm afraid to my jump in because I find cold water so painful. Thank you, Dr. Cloud. A year later and your video is still helping people. 🙏💜🙏

[@tearthangel373]

Great book, “Necessary Endings”! There was no mutuality, reciprocity or freedom

[@zuuumbaaa]

This is also regarding an abusive marriage, but very few people are courageous to say this.

[@janhardeman1309]

This was an on time word for my life. After the shutdown I made the decision not to return to all of the small groups I attended. It was very helpful to know the people who really belonged in my inner circle. Thank you for the valuable wisdom. Be Blessed

[@lindachurch5392]

You know when it is time for a change: you can feel it. I have been criticized for being a quitter in relationships, but i know when it is not working and when we tried and tried and it still wasn't working, I was the one who left even though it was painful.

[@ENDGAME.GRATIAN]

Looking back to my past and noticed how much I forgive.

[@rebecca_stone]

This is definitely a blindspot for me after an upbringing of many sudden house moves, school changes, family heirloom throwouts, where my parents would just decide these things with zero checking in on the impact. Compounded by being refugees and leaving our country of birth day when I was 3 with v little contact maintained with relatives. Hence even though my natural personality is very dynamic and adaptable, I hang onto situations, people, etc past their expiry date because I feel like so many significant things were discarded in my past, I seek stability that way. It's very interesting to hear Dr Cloud's clinical perspective on this.

[@user-zx6kn1sn9y]

I listened to this one, loved it and then listed to the one on narcissism. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@frankagliotti3626]

Dear Henry, thank you for sharing your wisdom and counsel. Kindest regards, Frank

[@relanaallen5513]

If you love what you're saying goodbye to, it's hard.

[@heidiklessard8440]

Absolutely love Dr. Cloud. Outstanding wisdom and lessons of life. Thank you.

[@KimFsharpHarp]

Necessary Endings is a great book, as are all of the Dr.’s books.

[@karenlynnpoulos3576]

I am there at the necessary ending- it’s time for something new.. so amazing your book coincidentally crossed my path- God at work for sure- thank you what a blessing 🙏

[@tearthangel373]

You can lead a horse to water and you can’t make him drink!

[@AntonioLopez-pq7qk]

Thats true. What is wrong with me that doesn't fit my tomorrow.

[@Amy.]

2:17 Yes, Ecclesiastes 3.

[@BlessedForever888]

James 4:7 also comes to mind. Just shut the door on satan! A no to satan is a yes to Jesus

[@nunuallen4327]

Thank you.

[@Grace_HisAmazingGrace]

Thank you for the “necessary” word!

[@lucyhazel7696]

Timely wisdom in my current season, thanks Dr. Cloud.

[@wellnesssmith9206]

Thank you Dr Cloud for all you allow Jesus to use you for.

[@Mindsetolympics]

THIS IS SOOOO TIMELY !!

[@sh6460]

good word.

[@user-pj9ms1bj2c]

Thank you

[@c.l.j.jardell5811]

Yes I. Remember. That song. Eccl.

[@Ang-ie3qy]

I am recently separated for the 3rd and Final time since last Father's Day when I was physically attacked over money. I have been Physically and Verbally Abused for 3 1/2 year's. Started immediately after I married him.

[@noreenstarck992]

God bless you, it's him, it's your spouse's issues, you see it, go, leave, get loved by your group, rebuild yourself, if it's a pattern , unless he admits it and becomes conscientious and has a complete change of mind and ❤️ heart , he needs Jesus, pray 🙏 🤲 for him, but take good care of you first and get healed and love and live healthy. An unhealthy relationship is toxic. God bless you 🙏

[@gregbeck7276]

Was he a Christian? If so was he into the prosperity and wisdom of faith movement? You've done the right thing and you can get healing God bless you. Ps I'm finding out more and more the decay of the prosperity theology with money.

[@c.l.j.jardell5811]

Being taken. For. Granted. He. Binds up. The brokenhearted. Sets us. Free. Saves. Our. Children from. Destruction. Tho. Hard. To do. The end of a thing is. Better than. The beginning.

[@caredfor391]

Yes.

[@tearthangel373]

Amen 🙏

[@catherineesavas8466]

Outstanding biblical wisdom!!

[@BlessedForever888]

There is a meme that states "Let go or be dragged"

[@stevearveschoug8225]

What are the signs "an ending is in order" when it comes to your life's work? I have been doing great work for 20+ years leading organizations centered in community and economic development. What actions and attitudes should I look for that says-- move on to your next.

[@lindaknode2567]

Where can l get your books l broke up with a abuse men today lneed tolern new patterns

[@ladykathyrnroyster8393]

Check amazon. I’ve found a couple of his books there. God bless😊

[@Nikki-kj8uw]

What do I do when it's a toxic family member?

[@tinajenkins8410]

@3:11 I hope Mica Miller didn't use this message incorrectly (pulling the trigger). JP needed to end in her life, not herself. Why can't people like him just LET GO!? So controlling.