I don’t know how to balance feelings and God. I feel guilty when I feel things, I feel like I have to be perfect for God and be and think a certain way. Feelings make me so uncomfortable 😬 I tend to control my feelings, so I don’t have to be vulnerable and I also feel guilty for having feelings 😩

What if your numb to your feelings? How do you go about that?

Leaving a covert narcissist now. I always questioned myself the entire relationship whereas before I was call ed a very confident extroverted person.

Why do I choose unsafe people for my intimate relationships?

Happy Father's day to you too Dr Henry ❤

Thanks Doc! We love our Dads. Always on my mind. ❤ Happy Father's Day to you too Dr. Henry Cloud.❤

The voices in our heads are so powerful. It’s good to realize that those voices, when negative, should be shushed rather than listened to. “Life is a daring adventure or nothing at all.” -Helen Keller

Wow didn’t think to do this, but then that’s what I’ve been doing when confronting/having conversation with a difficult person in my life. I found I couldn’t go in without bringing my fear with me. And had to be comfortable with this person being mad at me because they were always mad anyway. Helped me to see I couldn’t base if I’m ok or not based on their mood towards me!

After fours years of no contact with a narcissist I have still struggled with my sleep. I’ve had to start eating healthier, working out, therapy, EMDR, reading/research on Narc Abuse, c-PTSD, etc. I journal. Bible reading. It’s been a slow process. Healing has been hard and not something I can rush because it is a multifaceted issue.

Being a grandparent also gives me the joy of getting a chance to do better the second time around too!😊

Once again your words , reach my inner being, once again thankful for them... One can not go back in time, but one can learn and grow no matter what age and become calmer and more settled ....

One of the most difficult things to do for me !thank you so much Dr Cloud for everything that you do for us✝️ Thank you! from colorado .

Oh, course! Face my fears! Thank you so much, Dr. Cloud.

This is so hard.

This describes me to a T. 20 years of all the talk therapy didn’t resolve my issues. They always came back. Plus that inside feeling of never being comfortable, always feeling “wrong”, unwanted, second, not good enough, etc. I had health issues galore… seizures, chronic fatigue, GI stuff, insomnia… two years ago I found a therapist who understands trauma work, how to help your nervous system calm down while you deal with root cause of the trauma… And wow the difference in my life and in my BODY. I FEEL different. I am confident in my own skin now. I don’t have that constant vague fear or caution at the back of my head and the back of my soul all the time. It’s GONE. And my body, my physical health, is improving. I spent 50 years weighted under trauma so I’m not magically cured overnight but wow the difference waking up every morning. I will forever encourage every person I meet to take that step and find a therapist or counselor who is TRAINED in trauma and somatic methods. The freedom is SO worth it!

i had 30 years of trauma n im so healed of it but still abit to go .

god sets us free when we pray

“The ‘something’ is not causing the fear.” Brilliant!

Yes! Exactly 💯i didn't do a thing , my sister behaves this way , so down & out , & complains & gossips & causes drama & ugliness in her black heart of bs !

This is so familiar to me. I’m now out of that snare but have to be very careful not to get ensnared again. Your programmes are helping to reinforce what I have learned

Moving back to the prairies where winters are cold and hearts are warming kind.

Tone of voice, body language, is it me you're not happy with or are you upset with someone else but I'm the available target?

God’s perspectives rule out man’s spin cycle 🔃 thoughts 💭and preferences about life situations

Thank you Dr. Cloud. This affirmed what I was thinking my husband does and, yes, he likes to turn it around so it becomes about me. He has judged my therapy sessions, as I just found out, some are good and some are not good. He has no involvement in my therapy sessions and therefore has no right to judge what is working or not working without any knowledge and I told him so. But, you know, he has to turn it around that it is somehow about how he says is going on. I have CPTSD. He doesn't support me in any way during this, but is ready to blame me for how he feels. I know that you know what that entails and I will leave it at that. I am learning to stop the conversation if I see it headed in the wrong direction.