Neurodiversity and Room Cleaning! | Why I'm Cleaning My Child's Room For Her.

This cleaning video is going to be very different from others I have done! Today I'm going to talk about why I am cleaning my Childs room for her, and the steps we have taken to try and ease what seems like a simple task for neurotypical people. I hope this is helpful in some way to anyone who may also live in a neurodivergent household!
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[@japhyh3160]

Hey fellow ADHDer here, I thought I’d share one way my mom used to get me to clean my room which was a major struggle. So similar to your list idea but more of a game with it, she would put each separate task(could be pick up all papers on floor every blue item or something) on a sticky note or index card and would only give me one at a time. I would run down stairs when done to see what the next task would be and such, It made it a little more fun and allowed me to focus on a single task rather than getting overwhelmed or distracted. Love your minimalist and understanding approach, sincerely a college kid who doesn’t have kids haha

[@ariannapflederer]

That is such a fun idea! I may have to give that a try!

[@alyssaball6129]

I love how you communicate with your daughter to help her and work with her to figure out her own thing and while being mindful and respectful to her thoughts and feelings. I got a lot from this video and I appreciate you making it.

[@naomikroeker8653]

So respectfully done with kindly teaching her skills of personal management. Great Mom Moment 👍

[@ariannapflederer]

Thank you Naomi! That means a lot 🙂

[@SnowsLunchbox]

I have Aspergers and minimalism is the best lifestyle for myself, and my family. My children , my son in particular also benefits from minimal clutter. Having less clutter makes it so much easier to focus! This video will be so helpful to many❤️❤️

[@rockabyecayleigh1984]

Awesome! My oldest is 2e and she absolutely loves when I clean her room. She loves a fresh clean space, but naturally she is a pack rat and the task is so overwhelming- even though she doesn’t have that much in her room. She doesn’t even know where to start. I have to be careful though because certain things are very special to her so I have to remember which things to keep in her room :)

[@allison9541]

Thank you! This was SO helpful and validated how I have been feeling about my daughter and her room! This is giving me the motivation to get it done 😊 Her room, respectful of her items and space, but still helping her enjoy her room!

[@UnDefinedLegacy]

OMG the explanation of you daughters artwork was so illuminating to me! it made me think of how my anxiety at creating may stem from.

[@ashleywillis6601]

Your daughters are so blessed to have you! ♥️

[@chyannecook6065]

Normally people would prejudge but the comunication and understanding between both of you is outstanding. You can tell she wants to be organized but it is hard for her. You as a mom has done a amazing job listening to her and you can tell it’s not lazyness. Your kid is so blessed to have you. I think a lot of parents would assume it’s just the kid acting up. 👍Ps I’m leggaly blind so sorry for any spelling or grammar issues

[@ariannapflederer]

Thank you Chyanne! That means a lot. I’m definitely not perfect, I have a few areas of motherhood I for sure struggle with. But as long as we are all (truly) trying our best, that’s what matters!

[@chyannecook6065]

@@ariannapflederer It definitely shows you are doing your best👍

[@LilyBudsBeauty]

Thank you so much for sharing this! I have ADHD (and EDS) and my oldest daughter does too and room cleaning is definitely a struggle!!

[@melissarichard8920]

This is so helpful. Thank you!

[@shanah2900]

So, I have five children ages 31 down to age 10. I have some great adult kids and a great 10 year old and think I pretty much know what I’m doing for the most part. I enjoy watching parenting videos and organizing but I don’t feel like I learned too much more than I’ve already learned through the years on my own. That being said, you totally taught me something! I love the idea of putting all their things in a bag and having them live without it for a week in their room without looking at it or for things. What an ingenious yet extremely simple idea. It helps your kids deal with the anxiety of parting with things just in the same way that we would. It gives them control or a feeling of it while you actually still control the clutter in your home. So thanks for that!!🙌🏻👍🏻😁

[@ariannapflederer]

I’m so glad you were able to find something helpful! 💛

[@valerietorrence4318]

My oldest used that feelings book a lot when he was younger. It was so great when he was having a difficult day! He has SPD and Asperger's (High Functioning Autism).

[@alexayork363]

I’m starting to wonder if I have a sensory processing disorder/adhd. I deal with the exact same issues as you and Rev. As an almost 27 year old I’ve struggled for as long as I can remember. If any room is too cluttered I walk away. I know I have to clean it. I just don’t know where to start. My mom used to have to come into my room and sit with me and say okay, this is where we are going to start, she still has to do that sometimes and I’ve moved out of her house. You’re doing an amazing job Arianna! Thank you for sharing all of your tips and tricks I’ll have to apply them to my own lifestyle. Love from Oregon! ❤️

[@ariannapflederer]

It’s never too late to also test and try out new things, I am doing that for myself as well! It’s a journey, and weirdly tiktok has been super helpful for me for ADHD coping strategies. I was diagnosed in 6th grade, and they tried so many medications that never seemed to help. I’ve learned more from ADHD experts and others with ADHD in Tiktok in just a few months. Odd, but if it works it works! Haha.

[@CrAzYhairShOw]

@@ariannapflederer could you share a few videos that helped you?

[@TheMermaidMama]

I love this so much, when our kids ask for help we should help. The learning to clean and do these things will come with time, and will come by watching and learning from what we do. It just takes time, good job I love this so much

[@courtneyarnold4276]

I am so glad you posted this! I have also been Doing these things with my son!! It's so important for other people to learn and understand. Not to mention this really applies to all kids.

[@kristinodwell8509]

Arianna, sorry I've not been on your channel my father died unexpectedly on Easter Sunday of 2021 but now I'm back. Love you and your family. GodBless you.

[@ariannapflederer]

Hey Kristi! Good to see you back 💛 I am so so sorry for your loss. I hope your are doing well!

[@ariannapflederer]

Hey Kristi! Good to see you back 💛 I am so so sorry for your loss. I hope your are doing well!

[@deyaaa7710]

Thank you for sharing this. I struggle with the same thing with my 6 year old!! But she is the exact same way. She puts things where they belong but really random things make the room seem messy.

[@tinaninteman3922]

Great video. Thanks for sharing.

[@ariannapflederer]

Thanks for watching Tina!

[@melesa]

I love the cleaning list! I am going to try that with my children.

[@jessicaderstine4061]

I'm.a new subscriber. Can't remember just now how I got here but I'm all about minimal mamas. 🙌 My daughter is neurodivergent also. I wonder if she'd be down for trying that room cleaning style? It's worth a try!

[@ariannapflederer]

It’s definitely worth a shot! We have tried many things that didn’t work, but I feel like with each different thing we have attempted we have learned more! So it’s still worth it, even if it’s not the final fix 🙂

[@morgankirkendall5829]

You can try a timer... there are basic one all way up to more advance ones that are green, yellow, red count down timer that have sounds and voice reminders... at dollar tree sand timer in the school section.

[@Playing_with_a_Purpose]

I remember when my girls were young they had so much paper clutter.

[@autistictips1161]

I'm autistic with ADHD and so is my son. I was the same way when I was a kid, my mom could clean for me occasionally and I would have a much easier time keeping it clean. So far my kid doesn't care about clean and I'm still not the best. We all need to purge more but we all hate to do that. I kind of love/hate it now though because I like the freedom.

[@sarahk8464]

This is our struggle too, we really try to minimize it but her big thing during quiet time is putting everything on the floor and rolling on it (sensory seeking). So if she has limited toys or books she pulls all the bedding down. Even the single step instructions to clean leaves her flabbergasted as to what to do. It is just easier for me to clean it myself. 🤷🏼‍♀️. She’ll figure it out one day.

[@ariannapflederer]

Hopefully she does! Sensory seeking can be so hard. Rev has to have a lot of outside time and a weighted blanket. They help her a ton!

[@tialuv51]

You did an awesome job on the room.. ..i moved from a house to an apartment after my husband passed, ive been here over a year, i still haven’t finished unpacking boxes..suggestions on how to organize it...

[@morgankirkendall5829]

Just a suggestion.... that improves reading comprehension is having only one chapter book at a time.

[@kristinheckman7767]

Can you have like a time every night or day where she cleans up that specific craft stuff? Just to keep up on it?

[@ariannapflederer]

We do! Every morning she has to clean up her room before coming out of quiet time. But there are several reasons that, that isn’t always successful in and of itself unfortunately!

[@kristinheckman7767]

@@ariannapflederer Makes sense :) Keep up the good work, hopefully with time the right way will come along and work well!

[@meshell4993]

Honestly she’s just like all kids I’m guessing as it’s been exactly the same for my girl but my girl was happy to gift stuff when I told her kids that have less than her will be happy to receive toys and arts n crafts that they couldn’t afford at a store so take them to the second hand shop. I will say ( and I hope this doesn’t come off horribly) but American kids have a lot of stuff our kids don’t in their rooms and they do fine without it all but in your case being homeschooled they need it and I understand that but it does do theme good to not just collect everything and have it junking up the place, even myself I love my room when it’s had a good clean up 😊

[@livinglifeforward4560]

My daughter and son are adhd and it's so hard for both if them as well.

[@clarebeorhte]

It's interesting to see the similarities with Mummy of Four UK, who also has neurodivergent children and has similar cleaning issues/strategies.

[@dailylifemom1046]

this gave me ideas my 7 year old daughter has really severe adhd along with alot of other issues such as sensory processing disorder and medical issues and shes struggles cleaning her room and me and my hubby struggle to find a balence of getting her to clean her room she has way to much in her room tips to getting her to let go of things? we live in an apartment so storage is hard and im also adhd so is my husband so i could use tips

[@caylac3268]

I am someone who's craft space is always a mess. I'll leave scraps if the garbage is too far away. I do much better with a trash box on my workspace or a bin under my desk. It's there and things get tossed right away. Otherwise my brain says "one piece? That's not worth the 10 steps to the garbage" and it just stacks up. By the time I'm done crafting all the added clutter makes it seem so much worse and I don't clean up after myself. I'm 21 and still learning how I best keep a space clean. Currently my routine is hope no one comes over 😅

[@ariannapflederer]

I had to giggle a bit at the last sentence. I’ve definitely been there, and for sure feel you on the garbage can thing! That is part of the issue for rev. Right now the garbage can is in the hall for her and aerie to share. It was in her room, but we had issues with not sharing the garbage can...so in the haul it went. 😅 getting an extra garbage can is next on my list!

[@jodiupchurch]

Great Idea Arianna

[@ariannapflederer]

Thank you Jodi 💛

[@nebeta100]

The hair is not growing faster, it breaks as you put the hair over one shoulder to one side :)

[@ashleyfortag7695]

This is a different take on cleaning. I am not sure how it makes me feel. I have a struggle with my kids room as well. They don't clean it unless I walk them through step by step. I want them to be able to keep there stuff picked up, but I don't want them to think I am going to pick it up for them.

[@ariannapflederer]

Cleaning her room for her, is never the final long term fix. That’s the important thing to remember :) it’s about guiding your kids to help them figure out what works best for them so they can be successful on their own one day! I talked about that in the video! This was definitely not a way to go about it that tells your kids you will pick it up for them 🙂

[@home_edventure]

This sounds like my eldest kiddo 100% but we've no idea how to go about getting a diagnosis etc

[@melissarichard8920]

Same

[@dailylifemom1046]

what kind of board is that u have on her wall at her desk

[@ariannapflederer]

It is from ikea! 🙂

[@jacintamrsdarcy]

Do you guys support trump??

[@ariannapflederer]

Usually I delete comments like this, because I find them a bit absurd since I don’t make political content. But, I’m feeling spicy today 🤪 I don’t solely affiliate with either major party and haven’t for 6 years. So do with that what you please. But again, this isn’t a political channel. I don’t make political content. I am a vegan, who conceal carries, doesn’t agree with the new age feminism movement, thinks men should share household and child responsibilities, thinks people should wear what they want, thinks marijuana should be legalized, appreciates my husband being the leader of our household, and believes Jesus died for my sins. So let that confuse you for a long while 🤪 But I am curious, why does your question matter? Does my answer decide whether my content about minimalism and a video helping neurodivergent households is something you want to listen to? Does it suddenly make everything I say not applicable anymore based on whether I say yes or no on a completely unrelated topic? If it does, you should ask yourself why.