NEUROSCIENTIST: Worst Thing To Do After Breakup | Andrew Huberman

Neuroscientist explains how to get over a breakup. Andrew Huberman reveals truth about moving on from relationships, heartbreaks and breakups.
Breakups are an unfortunate but inevitable part of life. Whether it's the end of a long-term relationship or a brief fling, the pain of losing someone we care about can be overwhelming. It can be hard to understand why it happened and how to move on from it. The feelings of rejection, loneliness and sadness can be overwhelming and all-consuming. However, it is important to remember that a breakup is not the end of the world. It is possible to heal, grow and find happiness again. In this video, Andrew Huberman shares the different ways that people cope with heartbreaks and breakups, their effectivity, and how to move forward in a healthy and positive way.
Andrew Huberman is an American neuroscientist and associate professor in the Department of Neurobiology at the Stanford University School of Medicine who has made many contributions to the brain development, brain plasticity, and neural regeneration and repair fields.
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[@blase7733]

Breakups used to bother me; then I realized, why would I want to be with someone that didn’t want to be with me. Now, I view it as an opportunity.

[@JoseMora-wc5zz]

That’s a good way to look at it, for someone that has no blood sweat and tears in the years. For someone that doesn’t feel the weight of the decades. This is a good way to look at it for someone that can’t understand what true love is. When you’ve put in much, to realize years later you’ve been cheated. For years.

[@MichaelsPaintingChannel]

That way of looking at it saved me once.. There are also questions like: did we really fit that good together....

[@kingbaby8761]

I used to be hurt by breakups. Then I stopped caring enough about people to be in relationships. I can interact with someone for 2 minutes and tell whether or not they are garbage, now. It's a wonderful gift.

[@Verasevos]

Dang Strike!

[@dedalnok]

It's more difficult if it's because one moving away or something like that... Not because the people don't want to be with each other.

[@macdavy70]

I've had 3 bad break ups in my life, they progressively got easier, I've learnt to separate the fantasy of that person attached to me and the actual reality of that person, i cant control them. My therapy is self improvement.

[@sister2mysoul]

My therapy is self-improvement too!! Feel the feels and heal. 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽💫🫶🏾

[@LevvyJFoxxy]

I'm with you man.

[@raymondotoole2600]

That’s literally it 👌🏼

[@opa8928]

only 3 of them:) No, they are never easy.

[@GordonLF]

@@opa8928 3 bad ones is a lot.

[@eyatakfaoui8177]

Just remember, the right one..Won't leave .

[@joana9904]

😢😢😢

[@estherchinasa5327]

😭😭😭😭😭

[@estherchinasa5327]

Okay

[@jyothishkamal7722]

😢😢she was my everything

[@RobertSmith-tu7rl]

@@jyothishkamal7722 she was 1 of 3 billion

[@miguelcrv2]

I lost my girl yesterday. We didn't get along we loved each other hard, but couldn't get along we had so much love and so many highs but the lows where insane. Constant comparisons, constant complaining, constant apologizing, then bottled up frustration and anger on my end. It's sad, I lost my best friend , but I lost my worst enemy. Idk how to feel.

[@joyhsm6248]

same thing. i gave it one last shot, i told him we were perfect for each other inspite of. how we constantly drove each other crazy. the highs and lows were insane. he said we could never work. after 2 years of ups and downs its over for good now. i feel the same. i lost my best friend and my worst enemy. starting my healing process now

[@standground7956]

You guys should be excited, not hurt. Why do you want to be in such drama filled relationships. That’s like saying- I’m going to continue to eat something I’m allergic to because it makes me itchy and I love scratching an itch. Make absolutely no sense, I’m glad you both ended unhealthy relationships and I feel no sympathy because you both did the right thing.

[@valeriazelada2300]

That sounds like it was a toxic relationship. A relationship shouldn't feel like you're competing or fighting with someone, but rather it should feel like you're a team in every aspect of your life. Even when a problem arises or you have an argument, you should sort it out together through communication and maturity from both sides.

[@israeldelagarza243]

Hey man how are you doing now? My girl broke up with me yesterday after 6 years. Sounds similar to your story.

[@Autisticbanmeforbeingdifferent]

You can find that level of love with someone else without the bad crap, she:he just showed you the good things to look for

[@serbal4747]

I lost my relationship of 6 years yesterday. Sending my love to everyone else going through the same thing. We will get through it and come out of the other side stronger. One love❤️ (Edit): Thank you so much for everyone's care. For anyone asking, I'm much better; I was denied the closure I wanted but life isn't perfect. Still wishing everyone the best that is going through something, people love you more than you think and you'll make it to a better place :)

[@beckyjonah1703]

Srry dear my relationship of almost 2yrs just ended yesterday I didn't know I was dating a narcissist 😥😥😥😥

[@serbal4747]

@@beckyjonah1703 ahh I'm sorry too. The good thing is we are already healing! Sending you my blessings

[@beckyjonah1703]

Ammmmenn tnks dear

[@salutoitoi]

Sorry to hear that, it must be really difficult right now, you know that things will get better with time but for now allow yourself to settle down, cry, and eat some chocolate. Take care of yourself ❤

[@larskaldenbach4233]

4 years thrown away for me this week, im devestated. Partially my own faults since it was my first relationship, but the thing i have most issues with is for me not getting a second chance to prove myself that i changed with most things. We where living constantly together at our parents, but when we got our own house and moved in together it was to hard for my gf in combination with her stressful job.😢

[@naterksmr]

"Allow yourself to feel the feelings" is one of the best pieces of advice I was lucky enough to hear from a good friend of mine after my first breakup. If you want to scream, then scream. If you need to cry into your pillow, cry into your pillow. One of the worst things you can do is have the urge to experience a feeling and tell yourself you need to suck it up and not feel that feeling. It's easy to tell yourself "No, it's been two weeks since the breakup, I need to be over them and move on." Take. As. Much. Time. As. You. Need.

[@PieTalle]

but time seems to move so slow if you're in pain right?

[@picies2020]

Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I close my eyes, take a few deep breaths, and repeat the phrase "calm down, think." it has helped me gain some control back when it felt I had none.

[@JustMalcolm914]

Good thing is I don't have that type of time anymore. At one point I wasted several months to get over one person I can't do that again

[@sabrinafairchild1058]

That's what I'm telling myself now. I never really did that. Feel it and go through it.

[@RenataCassari]

It took me 9 months crying 😅 but nowadays I don’t even remember he exists

[@ComradeHanzo]

I just had a breakup recently from a 1 year relationship. It was tough. I was in a codependent relationship. It was like a drug. After the breakup, I experienced withdrawal symptoms like I was an addict. I felt nauseous, anxious, depressed, chest pains, shortness of breath, and shaky. It has been 3 weeks, and what didn’t help is that the day I broke up my auntie died. So I was experiencing grief twofold. I hope and pray everything goes well. But the process is tough. I cry everyday, and at work I cry in the bathroom because I get reminded of my ex from time to time. I hope I recover from this, I don’t know how long.

[@gowsalyasrinivasagam1997]

Hope you are doing well...sending love from India

[@LocalJollyRoger]

Reminder: You are super strong, I really mean it and you deserve way better. Healing takes time and if u feel its embarrassing, don't be ashamed of things, crying etc. You will get through within your pace and that's okay. Grief takes time and you're doing your best. Things will get better. From a stranger to another sending love ❤️

[@eazy_bread5587]

Just know you don’t ever have to feel alone . I feel this same exact way . Stay strong

[@PsychoticLeprachaun]

All things come to an end, including the pain you're going through at the moment. It's perfectly normal to cry and feel bad. Your whole mind needs time to adjust to these changes before you're ready to move on

[@maficolamakhata]

You have my support. Gong through a tough time too but it seems like yours is heavier than mine. U know in life u don't know what u r going through till u see sm1 going through more. And I'm sure sm1 is out there also in a situation worse than urs. The bottom line is to be strong, allow urself to hurt and heal with a scar. I say scar cos it won't fully go, but won't hurt as much over time

[@NFGU13188]

Let it hurt, it’s suppose to. Embrace the feelings and learn to be alone. It’s been 2 years, still think about it but I have come to learn that I don’t miss the person, I miss the feeling of being able to be vulnerable to someone and having someone there. As bad as it hurts, DO NOT sit there and be sad. Go find a hobby, go work more, hit the gym, get a new routine. Put more time into yourself. As bad as I wish it didn’t go the way it did, I realized it had to happen for me to be where I am right now. If I was still with her I would not have the job I have now and I would not have made a huge transformation in the gym. Don’t let your emotions dictate you as a person. Time heals all, just keep going, I promise it gets better and you will attract better. Hit the GYM!!!

[@gintonicx6]

Yep, best advice 💯

[@Hamzak786]

Thanks man needed to hear this

[@Sly8822]

Thank you for sharing! I really needed this read.

[@pyrrhicvictory6707]

Time heals all. Yeah right

[@linata6112]

I am 42 and for the first time in my life I allowed grief to take over emotionally after a significant breakup. I could never process grief after a breakup or even death of someone. I’d just do anything to escape..drink..work…focus on something else because it was just unbearable. This time I allowed myself to cry on the floor on more than one occasion. It was hell when I was feeling all those emotions but for the first time in my life I now feel profoundly alive. I still get sad as a result of that loss but I no longer have the need to escape the reality. I feel present and that’s incredibly empowering. I feel like I was born again. So if you’re going through something tough I can assure you that you’ve got this. Stop resisting and allow yourself to feel everything you need to feel. It’s tough but it’s worth it. Your career, goals, ambitions can wait. You’ll become 100 times stronger if you allow yourself to grieve and to heal.

[@ruthchange8893]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@CursedWheelieBin]

That’s the secret 😃. It’s like taking a cold shower and deciding to surrender to the discomfort vs trying to fight it. Addressing your negative emotions is not romanticised as an ultra macho thing the same way training montages are though, so many guys don’t wanna hear that. They wanna David Goggins or Rocky Balboa their way out of it. I’ve worked out since my teens (37 now) but it’s never meaningfully helped with breakups long-term. We all know there are countless other benefits so I would mindlessly convince myself “this is gonna get me over this” I was in denial. These unaddressed negative emotions would be waiting right around the corner. No amount of bench pressing can assuage that. When we ignore these feelings and try to bury them they come back with a vengeance, usually when we’re at our most vulnerable.

[@chrisphillips9800]

This is sound advice. I'm allowing myself the time to cry and grieve it, but it's almost a month later and I'm still surprised how how often I still want to cry. Now I'm in the anger and resentment stage of the grief. How long did it take your to get to this place of relief?

[@HugeAnes]

After a almost 2 years it’s over she’s leaving I can finally take breath of fresh air I might go homeless I might struggle for the next year I’m just happy I can finally be at peace

[@AlphaSigmaRichMan]

Same here

[@HugeAnes]

@@AlphaSigmaRichMan it’s gonna be okay all I have is my dad and brother and without them I would be zero stay strong. Maybe try enlisting space for or Air Force if you got book smarts Army if you got not book smarts. Find some hobbies. Down size. It’ll be okay brother.

[@oddnybsgarage]

It took me almost 5 years of my life to finally see a new perspective for myself after my highschool "sweetheart". After 4 years, my spirit can now consider opening it's doors again. I may not end up in a relationship with the lady I'm now interested, yet I can finally say "it's ok, my future doesn't have to end here" and finally at peace

[@oddnybsgarage]

Good men reading this message, don't give up your spirit. Someday you are going to make it through just don't give up. The moment you give up on yourself, only you will be able to save yourself

[@madrigaldevelopment438]

@@oddnybsgarage Appreciate the support brotha. Our future doesn't have to end here. This can be the beginning of a beautiful new journey. I find that I can be at peace with that.

[@oddnybsgarage]

@@madrigaldevelopment438 Love your thinking, take care my man

[@chedz1lbong]

something bout being denied closure when being dumped is extremely frustrating and upsetting

[@filmyoutube3295]

I cant thank Elowen Rasmusov enough for helping me navigate the emotional turmoil of my breakup. Her expertise and empathy were truly life-changing.

[@Notallowed101]

Obvious Scam

[@TheLaiRoU]

What does she has to do with this video?

[@fidericasaenz9786]

It’s been about 2 weeks since my break up and I’ve been keeping busy with working out, being with my girlfriends and reading. When I felt sad, I did my best to let it out with a sigh or cry or anger in my alone time. It sucks. I’m not with that person anymore but I learned a relationship with God has been so healing. I’m not self-medicating with drugs or alcohol or sex or partying. I just talk to God and it’s healed my heart break faster which I’m so grateful for ❤ you’re not alone, Jesus sees and hears and loves you.

[@accountonline7441]

"Hey there, beautiful soul! I know it's tough to hold on to love when things get rough, but I want you to know that your love is worth fighting for. Don't give up on someone who makes your heart skip a beat, who makes you feel seen and heard, and who brings joy to your life.Remember,relationships take work, patience, and understanding. It's normal to face challenges, but it's how you overcome them together that matters. Your love is a precious gift, and it's worth nurturing. Keep communicating, listening, and supporting each other. Don't let go of the love you share, even when it feels impossible. You got this, and your love will only grow stronger with time. Keep believing, keep hoping, and most importantly, keep loving with all your heart. You are capable of overcoming any obstacle, and your love will be the light that guides you through the darkness. Keep shining, beautiful. I was in this same situation of yours nothing knowing that there is a solution to my problem, I was thinking how will I get out in this situation because I really love him so much I was going through a lot of pain in my heart at that point, one faithful day I was watching a tarot reading video, and I saw a message that there is someone who can help me to bring my ex back, I was thinking how can that happened then the person gave me the number, then i message the person the next day, he’s name is Dr Felix he also a tarot reader, then he told me I should not worry about anything everything will be fine and I said okay, few moments later I was seeing some messages on my phone, I was shocked i couldn’t believe it was my ex he was apologizing to me that he is sorry for all the he put me, well let me cut it short it’s a lot to say I can’t say it here because is my private life Dr Felix is an amazing person and very powerful he can also help you too. You can reach out to him via WhatsApp [phone] Greetings from Germany 🇩🇪

[@Brinkburn_Gymnasium]

I went through a rough break up. After years of toxicity I exited the relationship and took a ‘Cold Turkey’ approach. I felt the pain, let it in fully and I took a mental approach to the break up as though it was a challenge. I told myself it would make me a better person. After 2 months of intense pain I started to feel better. I didn’t blunt the pain, I didn’t drink, mess around with girls or try to make myself feel better. It was the best thing I could have done. It’s a shame that people won’t let themselves experience the pain and come back better and stronger. I’m not afraid to enter a relationship now, as I am so much better equipped but with that being said, I am very comfortable in my own skin, I’m my own space. I think every man should allow themselves to enter this place. Remember, if you don’t get over your last relationship, those problems will re-occur into new relationships.

[@Deatonis]

To an extent I always think this mindset is silly. Because to truly love you give people the option of destroying you but trust them not to. What y'all always pine for is partnership not a real relationship I've even seen it in marriages it's like room mates instead of lovers it's a cycle of never truly forming a deep bone but being able to claim you do and happily moving onto thr next throw awayible relationship

[@Brinkburn_Gymnasium]

@@Deatonis I don’t fully understand your reply. I guess everyone has their own approach. All the best.

[@nsideoutn8439]

I am doing the same, for once in my life. I’m 41, and this time not drinking, working out hard, and not trying to date others right away. My ex had given me some bad vibes throughout our relationship was one of the reasons I broke up with her. Afterwords, she said some pretty nasty things to me and tried to sleep with my best friend. It hurts deeply. I never contacted her about it. Sometimes I still want to ask her wtf, why, how could you,… but I am just trying to move on. I don’t think I’ll get the closure I feel I need. Would you contact her and try to see what she has to say about it? Oh just move on and let her be??

[@Brinkburn_Gymnasium]

@@nsideoutn8439 you will never get clarity from a female even if you do ask. Trying to understand a woman is impossible, they don’t understand themselves! Move on, complete your mission. One day you will laugh about it. Stay strong.

[@mast3rchief536]

I really ruined an opportunity recently, I was so adamant about doing this exact approach but one night I got drunk and texted her, now it’s like we’re texting and it’s affecting me again. I really blew that window of opportunity.

[@beritabola7226]

Elowen Rasmusov is a compassionate psychotherapist who has guided countless individuals through the challenging journey of a breakup, providing invaluable support along the way.

[@Notallowed101]

Obvious Scam

[@allwynmasc1]

​@@Notallowed101I googled the name and there was only one result. Didn't open the website. I wonder what the scam is.

[@thevishdoctor]

The scam is preying on people going through a difficult time by someone who's a second grade therapist and a Frist grade make-up seller.

[@sweetgirl4u247]

Break-ups are hard. No matter what the situation or circumstance is. The one thing that is important is acceptance. No matter what, there was a reason it ended. Keep your head up.

[@VaraohGaming]

I lost my girl two nights ago.. men please control your emotions and stay strong to protect your loved ones and never disrespect them

[@no-name1025]

what i learned from my experiences is to see the other person as someone who is not responsible for my happiness. so whatever happens in the relationships, it is not their jobs to makes me feel happy or secures. and definitely, focusing 100% on yourself, without making the relationships as the number one priority. i did cried a lot, but that's a way to makes me feel better afterward. it's only been 2 months but my heart is no longer aches like the first time. i hope y'all heal from the heartbreak, and know that things are getting better.

[@nvsni]

Same here!

[@rjnewton7325]

My 5 year relationship just ended this weekend, I feel so upset and lost. We ended on good terms and plan on staying friends, but it honestly hurts a lot. This video helps though, thank you for posting this ❤️. This comment section makes me feel like I’m not alone, thank you to everybody here talking about their experiences. ❤️

[@Death.is.our.Salvation]

Stay strong my friend. I know its very hard. Be brave for your self. Υou will get over it little by little and don't stress situations.

[@ramachandrabhakta4200]

Really sad to know that. And I totally understand how you must be going through. While I am nobody to give an advice here, I just want to ask you to think about moving on completely and not staying friends with your ex. I know it hurts to even imagine that this person who meant the world for you for 5 years (and possibly more), is now gone will never be available. But I believe it would be for the better of your future. Keeping in touch will always keep some strings attached to them and may prevent you from ever fully moving on. It's just my opinion. Ultimately it's choice on whether you want to keep this person near or not. Wishing you a speedy recovery and a happy future. ❤

[@MerryMoss]

Heyy, I had a 5 year relationship end in April this year. He and I are still good friends - which is the first time in my life that I've been able / wanting to stay friends with an ex. And I think it only works now because we _both_ knew the relationship wasn't working out, we tried for several years to make it work, and neither of us wants to get back together. That, combined with a period of about 3 months of barely talking really helped us find ourselves again. ~ Choose whatever you truly think is best for you, and it's okay if it takes time. Just try to live for yourself and take care of yourself 💖

[@zbigniewmazur819]

don't stay strong, feel pain and cry - it will purify your mind.

[@Jotun2279]

@@MerryMoss Yes, when the feelings are mutual on breaking up it's easier to remain friends. My first serious relationship lasted a few years and we both knew it was coming to an end and we agreed to break up. We've remained friends ever since for 20+ years.

[@pauloramirez8216]

3 weeks today, my 10-year relationship ended. While I was on a hike, I stumbled upon my ex holding hands with another man. I want to wish her the best. As for me, my self-healing journey has begun, and I need to love myself before I can love someone else.

[@chrisfir]

You will be ok my friend be kind to yourself 🤴

[@mrvocal21]

Had a breakup last year. Ended a 2.5 year relationship. He had someone else three weeks after we separated. When I saw them together I nearly collapsed. Needless to say its been extremely difficult bouncing back. He sent me an email apologizing for he hurt he caused...but you know it is just what it is.

[@adrenalineadrian4166]

Did you reply to the email or in any way ?

[@Roobixfacts]

@@adrenalineadrian4166 If you're truly curious, I advise sending a written letter if anything. It's easy to send an email and it may hurt if you don't hear back. A letter does wonders, from my experiences.

[@patzeb21]

My 4 year relationship just ended today. She told me we drifted apart, I wanted to pursue some things that she just didn't, and vice-versa. That she felt frustrated with the relationship. That for two years, we were together only out of habit. That I put in no effort. She was my first real relationship. And the first woman I ever truly loved. The only person I saw any future with. I am 28, so, not all is lost, but I feel lost, and confused. A huge part of my life is just gone. I feel empty. It's not that I didn't see it coming either, we've been declining for months, but for me, there were more important things to focus on at those moments, for my life. I guess, she was right to leave, as I did neglect her. But all those things I gave more importance to, were things I was trying to build for us... She got spent... And now, I have to start my life again, without her. I don't know how to do it.

[@lexirelle]

I'm so sorry. You will get out of this much stronger and able to find a better partner. The world we live in is a real love killer. But there are still loving souls out here.

[@night7185]

respect

[@deportedsouls3165]

1. See this as an unavoidable life-lesson/experience. And something that will make you grow. 2. Focus on rebuilding/strenghten the different "legs of the chair". One leg is health, including fitness and eating right. Another leg is other relationships, like friends, family etc. A third is wealth, finances, which you build by improving your skills and competence. If these three legs are strong enough, the fourth (romantic relationships) can be replaced once you are ready. Summary: The remaining three legs of the chair, are there to hold you up during situations like this. Just start doing! Go out for a run/swim, gym-session, make a plan regarding skills-improvement, and identify the first step.

[@okasart]

@@lexirelleit’s so hard to think I would want anyone else. He was there for my when my mother died. I’m only 17. He stuck around till yesterday. Four months of him helping me be able to be happy and normal and functioning. He’s leaving for four years to join the navy after he graduates. Five years. A part of me is crazy and I want to wait for him. But we’re talking about someone that rather pursue his own paths then be with me. I lost my two best friends in less then half a year. My biggest fear after my mom died was him leaving me. What am I still doing. Why can’t I see he’s left me already. Two heartbreaks and trauma all in one a one package deal. Why did I get delt such a crappy hand.

[@ragingphoinix9144]

Me and my ex but only 11.5 years. He's an amazing human just not my human.

[@SamuelSmith-ol6jc]

My wife I was with for a total of 10 years had been my first kiss, first girlfriend, first lover, and finally my first breakup. She cheated then left me. She waited till it was too late to tell me what I was doing wrong. I watched her come and to visit him as I begged her not to leave me. The grief hit me so hard mentally I physically could barely leave bed for about 2 weeks until I told her to move out. She cut all contact with me over 2 years ago. It still hurts to think about her. I still love the person that she was. It sucks grieving someone who is still walking around.

[@korykwok2324]

Stay strong ,wish you all the luck

[@wouterkoops9024]

Damn thats tough! How are you doing now, a bit better I hope?

[@gentrixachieng5592]

This is my situation right now 😭😭😭😭.... My boyfriend cheated on me and dumped me 💔😭

[@SamuelSmith-ol6jc]

@@korykwok2324 thanks for the kind words. I'm doing my best to practice positive mindfulness.

[@SamuelSmith-ol6jc]

@@wouterkoops9024 I'm doing better, way better than the worst, but not 100% but all things in time they say. Haha

[@sophiebecks1938]

My boyfriend broke up with me after 4 years. Friday will be 1 week of no contact. I wish I could give my heart up. It longs for forgiveness and to start again. The pain feels like falling through glass ceilings. We didn't change for each other and didn't make time for each other. I wish we could do so once more.

[@purplehaze658]

Be strong, pray, heal and rebuild x

[@valeriaarboleda1324]

How are you doing now? Have you been able to mantain the No contact? 😞

[@standground7956]

@@valeriaarboleda1324 I’m cut from a different cloth. In college I had a 3 year relationship and she broke up with via text. I didn’t even respond or call and went no contact immediately. After about 6 months she contacted me wanting to reconcile but she was angry that I preferred to stay alone compared to getting back with her. My opinion- going no contact should be incredibly easy when they tell you they no longer want to be with you.

[@sishaw5005]

@standground7956 just had a literal situation like this. Highschool sweetheart of 2 years broke up with me via text last month and immediately went no contact.

[@standground7956]

@@sishaw5005 I know it hurts. The only advice I can give is to not contact her or respond if she attempts to contact you. You will look back and thank yourself for doing so.

[@tiennguyen5918]

I decided to end my 9 year long distance relationship today. There was no goal or motivation from them to close the distance even though we mutually agreed upon it. Today I lost my girlfriend and best friend. I’m lost, scared, and sad. I’m 27 and this was my first relationship that so happened to be a long distance, long term, and first breakup. I was living in fantasy all these years that we would be together, when in reality she was never going to make the effort to be with me. Tonight is the first night I’m going to be alone in 9 years… I hope there’s light at the end of the tunnel for me. I’m a helpless romantic and it pains me so much to end the one thing that was keeping me going in life for so long…

[@tanayadeka9019]

Hey there, same happened with me few hours back, long distance and love. I don't know who you are but life is gonna treat you good, heal and Goodluck. Sending you strength and love

[@darkboyx7]

Not long distance for me or long term really. But fuck if you care, it hurt. Wishing you the strength to face the pain and get trough this

[@tiennguyen5918]

@@tanayadeka9019 thank you, it's been one month... To my surprise I'm still living and pushing harder than ever before. I'm going to the gym to fill up my days. And connecting with old friends and family. I hope in a years time I will grow and look back at this as a learning experience.

[@duxmusonda]

My relationship of 2 years ended last month…trying to be positive and move forward it definitely ain’t easy…hugs and love to anyone going through a breakup

[@valeriaarboleda1324]

How are you doing? I'm going through a similar situation, the pain is unbearable

[@duxmusonda]

@@valeriaarboleda1324 some days I’m okay and some days I’m not…trying my best to be positive and move forward…I know it’s easier said than done but try to keep your mind busy…try new hobbies and going out more even just taking walks…we’ll get there in the end

[@duxmusonda]

@@valeriaarboleda1324 some days are easy and some days are hard but I’m trying to be positive and move on with my life…we’ll make it through it…try to keep your mind busy and try your best to have positive thoughts you are the prize

[@duxmusonda]

@@valeriaarboleda1324 better but I still feel like there’s something missing in my life…some days are good and some days are bad…had a self destructive period of drinking and sleeping around thinking it will make me feel better but I was wrong…therapy helped me a lot and hanging out with my friends as well

[@amadouiyawa5648]

Same situation for me. I have tried everything possible to make her comeback.

[@AndeanPuma5]

I was stupid enough to start dating someone after almost 2 months of breaking up with my fiancee of 4 years of relationship. Please don't do that to yourselves, I'm telling you. You can get to hurt somebody else that has anything to do with your pain and in the process adding more self damage. Best thing to do is to acknowledge the grief of a past relationship and allow one self to meditate about it and grow afterwards.

[@elisamuelpedraza8228]

This exact same thing happened to me a couple of years ago... It felt good at the start, and then all went down 'cause I didn't give myself the space I needed to heal and ended up hurting one of my best friends

[@drew3693]

You definitely can recover from heartbreak. Being be betrayed by the one you trusted does make it harder. But by truly working through your feelings and allowing time to do its thing, you will be healed. I promise.

[@byebye764]

Had my heart shattered on Monday after being together for 6 years and best friends for 17 years. She lured me into a false sense of vulnerability and then did what she never said she would do..despite me taking care of her whilst she had a cold just a few days prior. I wasn’t perfect in the relationship but I never abandoned her. But she abandoned me and it’s starting to hurt very much 😔

[@NegativeCreepShow]

Same thing with me, I’ve known her for 25 years & was with her for 2, I don’t know what to do at this point. One day at a time I guess, stay strong!

[@byebye764]

@@NegativeCreepShow Stay strong brother! Gym!

[@NegativeCreepShow]

@@byebye764 ty 🙏

[@mindgames50]

The best thing I heard was to realize that the person in you’re head would supposedly take all your problems away. That person does not exist. You only imagine a perfect version of that person who just isn’t there.

[@MaximusA444]

Lots of wisdom here. I healed more in 5 min of crying after my breakup than 3 months of not.

[@NegativeCreepShow]

I’ve known her for 25 years, been with her for over two years, lost her to someone else last month. I would not wish this pain on anyone, not even my worst enemy, I’ve been doing a lot of reading/research about trying to keep a friendship after a breakup because I don’t want to throw away 25 years of friendship. This is the most difficult thing I’ve ever been through, I pray everyone here can find the peace they deserve!

[@juliane4840]

My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the KZbin channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back. If you are still interested in his service You can hit him up on WhatsApp ‪[phone]

[@dronebtw3737]

It hit me like a storm when I discovered that my girlfriend was pregnant with her ex's child. The shock left me grappling with a mix of betrayal and disbelief. Every day, I had been living a lie, unaware of her hidden past. She claimed to love me, but it felt hollow, a mere echo in the face of deception. I can't help but feel like a fool for trusting so easily. Amidst the pain, a silver lining emerged-I recently landed a job I had been longing for. It's as if the universe is signaling that I don't need her in my life. Perhaps it's a twist of fate, ending a relationship that wasn't meant to be. As I navigate the aftermath, I reflect on the irony of a caring heart being taken advantage of. Feeling discarded, like a pawn in her game, stings, but I find solace in the resilience within me. Though wounds are deep, there's a chance for renewal and self-discovery. Life's tapestry, woven with threads of pain, might still reveal a masterpiece of strength and growth.

[@yameitv4668]

this made me shed a tear reading. When certain energies are removed the universe can operate more effectively for you. Your were more aligned without the individual after all. Hope you took that job

[@Amandalee185]

I went through the same thing. Found out my ex had just had a baby from a one night stand. He hid it from me for months and I found out through the rumor mill. We were together for about 5 years. To say I felt like bozo the clown was an understatement. The mixed emotions I felt were surreal. Shock, anger, shame, betrayal. But the fog is starting to clear. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. It’s time that we love and care for ourselves! Hang in there ❤

[@Amandalee185]

Also, I pray the universe continues to align and bring more to your table. Be open to receiving. Congrats on the new job!

[@AnabolicSaagAloo]

My first breakup was tough and it really threw me into a spiral. I'd like to say I was much stronger mentally by my second but sadly I wasn't. The 2nd breakup nearly killed me. It took me the best part of 3 years to feel somewhat normal again.

[@pavelhanek9790]

How long was your second relationship?

[@AnabolicSaagAloo]

@@pavelhanek9790 2.5 years

[@Jiscold300]

I don’t understand why it’s so hard for men to move on. Women move on in a blink of a eye. As a man I feel like I love with everything I got in me. Men love different, we love unconditional. As of women they only love for what you do for them. Only women that will ever love you unconditionally is your mother.

[@firemage8707]

yes im in the same believe right now. But i think its not a healthy thought though there might be some truth to it. I think noone loves unconditionaly. As men we expect sex, affection the ability to be a good mother maybe. but yea... i know where you come from. Lost my relationship of 4 years 4 months ago shortly before i was planning to propose. Im still in so much disbelieve and pain ins unbarable

[@analelevic1024]

That's not true. I loved unconditionally and gave 110% of my care and love and effort and still wasn't appreciated.

[@PS-qn4oz]

@@analelevic1024 Same. My ex and I dated 20 years ago, I thought he was my soulmate. By his own admission, he was always just playing games with me. Finally I "took the hint" and left, and THEN he realized what he had with me. Recently, we reconnected to go over the past and he told me how much I had hurt him (A LOT). Well I'm dumbfounded. If he cared back then, why did he always just play games? I've never stopped hurting, because I'm always confused.

[@cejka30]

@Jminey459_ Generally speaking I think you are right but that could probably be because I've been on the wrong end of it. Could be that men are not in touch with their emotions as much and when a break up happens, it's too much for them. Total guess though

[@Cryskras]

I also broke up with someone i loved for 1,5 and he moved on so fast... He had like 2 or 1,5 months later already a new girlfriend, even when we still lived with each other... I was heartbroken because i loved him more than myself.. (i still do tho) I lost myself because of that. .. And I'm still heartbroken... I even dream about him... Lol Woman don't go over someone really fast, it's just that we try to accept it more.. We don't want to feel the pain anymore so we try to block that person from our memory's (we delete faster the pictures and stuff) just to not feel the pain anymore in our heart... We try to accept it because if we don't we stay emotional... (what they say about woman that they really emotional, it's true) that's why it looks that we move on fast but deep down and af course in our head, we think or over think about that person... But we try to accept and forgive everyday that it is what it is...

[@Jh9517gym]

Who ever reads this just know it gets better, yeah it is so hard you feel like a part of you dies the overwhelming feeling if sadness and loss takes over but try stay strong hit the gym get to the best version of yourself thank god it was a opportunity to better yourself youll bounce back harder❤️

[@MagnusStormfist]

I broke up with my girlfriend today, she truly was the love of my life but I knew that deep down we had different value systems and that in the long run it would no have worked out and we would have just wasted each other's time in our mid twenties. I still love her and part of me always will, but in order to get over it, I have to block her out completely and not allow it to enter my mind, despite the great times and wholesome memories.

[@missmcphee8859]

Thank you for sharing, I am in a very similar situation

[@adambouchareb5167]

Same, strong choice make strong men

[@kB5TVP]

I've been with a narcissist for 6 years. It was all good untill 3 years into. I finally told him to leave. Being with him, I lost all my friends... relationships with family. He wanted to do nothing but ruin my life. I'm in my 30s and it's hard. Hard moving on, and packing when you and that person had a life together.

[@ns88ster]

I just ended things with an alcoholic narcissist after 9 years. I'm 42 and its time to live life again.

[@kanashiiro_6399]

I just got broken up with today, I felt like she was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, the perfect girl, and now I'm all alone, I'm in pain alot of it, I don't know what to do know, I've never been able to do things for myself so I feel extremely lost, I need help.

[@Allan_Deany_Moyo]

I broke up with my GF of two years last week. I can't sleep or eat. All I do is think about her and what could have possibly gone wrong. I'm shuttered. She went from the sweetest girl ever to being a villain.

[@moistnapkin181]

Take care of yourself man I was in that position and it will get better just don't give up on yourself. My advice is to communicate with family and friends maybe find a new hobby. The only thing to do is to keep moving forward

[@Allan_Deany_Moyo]

I'm trying my best. Everything happens for a reason

[@lifeofsin__]

It happened to me too.... am going thru some much pain.. she became a villain at once and am like wtf should ......... am pushing myself but I feel torn apart ..what should I do... !!!!!!

[@srianna0416]

Going through it now, does it get eaiser

[@lifeofsin__]

@@srianna0416 yes its hard but yes it does

[@mickeyray9607]

This is such a gift because grief is so hard to handle and we have so little skill to know what to do and when he mentions packing down feelings, we need a billboard to warn people in our culture becauses so much sickness physically and then emotionally it’s just so difficult to get current with ourselves. This teaching is such a gift and I so appreciate how transparent u r , I trust your information is so precise, thank you

[@Salem956]

I lost my relationship of 5 years yesterday due to constantly fighting for my place in his life. All this time has been a traumatic experience and what hurts the most is that he is a good father to our children but he NEVER truly opened up to me. He said "I am miserable living with you" and those words cut me deeply.

[@brendanruggles4575]

I lost a relationship of 5 years a couple weeks ago. We have kids involved so it makes it extremely difficult to get through because I have to be in contact with her. It was a deep love and I never thought it would end. I made mistakes and I’m afraid I’ll never get over this regret.

[@Inside_the_Male_Mind]

I wish you the best 🤞

[@zerox615]

After a heavy dark storm, the sun ALWAYS shines the brightest at the end. You have to be strong and stay strong until the sun shines. And you will realize that there are better and more beautiful things to live for than a bad break up.....

[@ghaliashaheen]

Ended a 20 year relationship back in 2001. I’ve been on an amazing healing journey . Felt like death . Was the worst pain Iv ever experienced. But felt through every pain , then healing took place . Still healing and now found a beautiful human being to be part of my journey . Healing can happen .. just feel through it all . It does get better , i promise you. Find yourself a good therapist , who is willing to hold your hand through it . Wishing you all the best 🤍

[@is.72]

Today, I lost my relationship of 3 months and 4 days, just keep your head above men, we just can’t fall into depression because of 1 or more breakup(s). I hope anyone who is going through a breakup I hope you get through it and not be discouraged, all the best.

[@Leaveitalone1382]

Same. 3 1/2 months and I feel daggers through my gut. He enjoyed being so ruthlessly cruel in the end. Half of my hurt is how he feels nothing at all.

[@rogerward3390]

You are too sesative...counting the days, seriously bro get a grip..she doesn't want you, end of move on

[@Zero2Jero]

All my relationships ended through them cheating. I always thought i was the victim. Now it happened again. But its weird. Now i understand. If they want to walk away let them. Youre not the victim. Youre the victor.

[@rhahnabunaid]

It's been over two years and I'm still struggling. Not because I still miss her, but because the break-up was so painful that I'm having immense difficulty allowing someone back into my heart again. I've dated a couple of times, but as soon as things started to get mildly serious, I completely closed down and, in response to that, got dumped again and again which just made it worse. Now I don't even have the courage to ask a girl out anymore in fear of the same result. It's paralyzing.

[@FranciscoViezcas]

I am going through a really bad break up. 5 years with her and it just ended so sudden. We had plans for baby number 2 and to finally get a house and build our dream home. A week before we broke up we got in an argument over some drama with her family and she tried apologizing to me but I was too prideful to let it go. and that's what I regret the most. She tried to kiss me and I didn't let her because of my ego and pride and a few days later she broke up with me because after 5 years I had finally pushed her to the edge. Now I'm going to have to see her happy with someone else, be intimate with someone else, and have kids with someone else and I do not think I will be strong for that. That will for sure be the end of me.

[@Layman927]

Similar thing happened to me but no kids involved. Sorry for your loss man.

[@37DAPJ]

How’s it going now?

[@FranciscoViezcas]

@@37DAPJ its going great, turns out she was cheating on me it still sucks but I'm excited for my future plans

[@jovanygaytan1153]

4 year relationship came to an end! Such a devastating experience, learning to navigate through it. None of you experiencing something similar are alone. Sending my love to you all.

[@Vuitton-uj1hz]

After my break up with my ex I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years. With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms

[@KenDeep-ky8oi]

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health

[@Nicoleniccypal]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need

[@HealthyPriestessSophie]

Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@ElizabethJenny-xu3ky]

The shroom experience stands as my most remarkable journey, an awe-inspiring encounter that left an indelible mark of amazement.

[@AnneRodrigo-fz6ks]

He’s on insta?

[@TheGrea81.]

My last relationship ended a little over a year ago. And i went to therapy after (not just because of the break up, but other things from my childhood and growing up). It really helped a lot. I had to take a hard look in the mirror, i wasnt perfect, i got complacent with things, and she wasnt perfert either, but i choose her everyday and she was the only woman ive ever been in live with and wanted to get married and have a family together. I've healed quite well, but there's still days that i miss her and i do have little moments of sadness, but I know deep down we weren't meant to be together and my person is still out there waiting for me to find her.

[@davidjd123]

I lost my first love when I was 16, And I felt every feeling, dreamed about her every night, not a day went by that I didnt think of her. Id cry all the time. It took me years to get over her.

[@rulinghabs]

I have found that the person who gets broken up on deals with it better in the long run. You are forced to deal with the weight of it right away. It can be crushing when someone does not want to be with you. You can come out of it on the other side ready to move on. The person who breaks up, unless they really have no feeling for that person, never really deals with it. They could come to regret it or feel that they could use that persons comfort years down the road when they are lonely.

[@m.l.7558]

Not true. I'm regretting so muchsinve I broke up but decided to stay consistent because they deservs that

[@alvapazz]

I went a year in between yes and no after a break up of a 4 years relationship. at some point I just accepted reality. we do not work together. it hurts but I’ve learnt that I can’t fixate over something is causing so much pain.

[@sunbeam9222]

Shows love is an illusion lol. We mourn the relationship we thought we would have, the person we thought they were or were going to be. Basically nothing set in reality. We make projections and cry over them ( me definitely included). To end suffering we got to align with life and learn to want just what we get right here right now, all the rest is fantasy.

[@alliecat6342]

I’m over my 2 yr relationship within 3 months now. Never looking back! He better hope his rebound relationship was worth it. No more chances.

[@juliane4840]

My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the KZbin channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back. If you are still interested in his service You can hit him up on WhatsApp ‪[phone]

[@katezatt]

3 weeks ago my fiance kicked me out of his apartment at midnight, took all the keys and the next day deleted all our chats, photos. We were supposed to get married in 3 months. It was a few days before my graduation party. He never came. I was begging him to come since it was difficult to graduate. I cried every single day but at the graduation party i felt like a really strong woman with wonderful people around me. Now 3 weeks later im moving on, I blocked him everywhere since he told me that conversations will not change his decision to stop the relationship. Im grateful he did it now when we are not married and have no kids. God saved me. Trash took itself out. Im curious of how i will feel in one year when i come back here. Maybe i will have a wonderful man by my side who truly deserves me. So we will see 😊 Ps: i was his 1st relationship at the age of 28 and he lives with his mom.

[@ivyrain9647]

I pray and hope that I do not grow bitter towards him. I tried my best, but I keep looking back and telling myself that it was an illusion & how he probably didn’t even like me… every time I asked him to stay I did myself a disservice and prolonged a very hurtful heartbreak. Healing from this heartbreak has been easier, I haven’t gone out I haven’t done things to avoid my feelings, rather feel them in full and accept what is. What’s meant to be mine, no one can take away. It will follow me, at least we share the same sky. I pray we heal and find each other again someday.

[@ismael8926]

i've made the mistake of keeping a "friendship" with the person, now everyday i am reminded and have to hide it, if the break up was one sided then cutting communication is the best thing for you

[@ABrokenSociety]

Lost a relationship of almost ten years. I am in a new one now of five, and I can tell you this is spot on.. I'm a man, and I know I have not fully recovered. I still have trust issues here and there. I still have trouble saying, "I love you," even to my own mother. I'm more strict in how I treat myself... I'm always ready for things to end, like I've pre-braced myself. And I know that's not where I should be. Yet here I am. :\

[@zacharyullom4614]

I relate to this completely.

[@raversfantasy8873]

Do you think your gf's stayed with you for so Long because you are this way? I actually think thats why your relationships Last lol

[@ABrokenSociety]

@@raversfantasy8873 Nah. I was a different person with my ex. I was goofy, didn't care about the time of day, played video games all the time cause she "didn't mind." I wasn't very masculine. Now I'm much hardened. My emotions are kept in check. I'm stoic in most situations. I analyze and am prepared, mentally at least, for anything. I have thought about many outcomes and many things that could come up. Hard men are good men. Trauma sucks, but it builds character, and that character is what my current gal is attracted to. She can see what I've been through, she can see I'm tougher because of it. She knows I'm the shoulder she can lean on. She knows she has my time when she needs it and she knows I will fight tooth and nail for her. And I know this because I can feel it from her. I can literally feel she's not going to break me down like my ex did. If this relationship fails, it would be because of me this time, not the other way around like last time.

[@rutvik108]

i can't tell anyone what i'm going through man, it hurts so much i hope no one has to experience what i'm feeling..

[@aurthor3329]

Every person came here either woman or men both are hit by breakup so thats is the life lesson your are not alone/ i am not alone.... Hope you will recover soon and instead putting emotions in other person you will makw yourself better...

[@roshanravi6707]

I’m really going through a lot recently broke up and I have tons of negative thoughts . Feel like giving up . I really need people to talk to.

[@codaboi138]

I myself am working though a break up. I was the one to instigate on my own terms and that definitely makes it easier, but its still not easy. I've found that finding your "cry button" is so useful. I had not long before suffered absolutely intollerable physical pain, spent weeks in and out of A&E and during that time I found my cry button because it was the only thing I could do in response to the pain. It was the only thing that gave my mind and body a release from the torment of it all. Eventually I figured out that just crying and letting the physical and emotional pain run through me was necessary to getting through it, resisting it made it so, so much worse. Most kids are taught to say "ow" instead of just crying but we also need to know when crying is absolutely the right response. Its so important to feel everything your mind is telling you to feel, because it not going to go away by sucking it up. It will come back to bite you, exactly as this guy explains. It's still good to have the control where necessary to "suck it up" in the moment if it's inconvenient, but absolutely find that emotion again within you to flush it out later. Emotions are not our enemy, they are absolutely useful in dealing with the mental damage that comes from a traumatic event. Even in my case, where I called the break up, I still am heartbroken I've had to lose this person but it had to be done. I feel proud that I can still feel that pain of loss even though I took the action for that loss. It still hurts because I loved that person deeply, always will for the time we had. Thats a strength I think. Feel everything you need to without judgement and allow your body to respond how it wants to. Might be obvious to some but men's brains just dont have the wiring to figure it out right away. Our emotional circuitry is not as robust as womens, so we need to put forth the effort to strengthen it and intern be happier and more resilient. Also to be there for eachother, regardless of gender. Being a human is tough no matter whats going on between the legs.

[@weedgrass2338]

Stay strong fellas. I was with my gf for 7 years and I joined the military to help us because Covid made me lose my job in LA. Just got out and she left me because she did not want the type of life of me being gone and we became distant. What makes it more heartbreaking is that she was in a wheelchair. For those 7 years I made her life easier by helping her around instead of hiring a caretaker. I am not asking for special points or pity because of it. But damn she made me feel as if I wasted my time for nothing.

[@beautifulmoster1988]

Be the best version of yourself and leave shitty people who take ur time behind.

[@AngelHoliday275]

Just lost my 9 year relationship last month. Hurts more than anything. All for some other guy, I tried to save the relationship after I caught her, and she insisted on leaving anyway. I've never felt lower

[@AaronAtkins1.]

My mum died shortly before I met my boyfriend. A year later I broke up with him as I was angry about how our first valentines was. I then found myself dealing with the loss of him and the grief of losing my mother was in that

[@geelinedy702]

The break up with my boyfriend was hard. I really thought he was the one I was going to spend my life with. This was my first relationship and it was serious too. I'm in my mid-20s and I feel like I just lost such an important person in my life. I cursed the world and cried, and I hate how I still love him so much. He's always going to have a special place in my heart. 🥺

[@poface4827]

I tried to feel as much pain as I could at first with the aim of getting through it. I thought this is so much pain but I'll smash through it. Would meditate for an hour each day trying to process it and feel everything. Didn't work. Sure I used some of the anger to workout and start some projects, but time was the only thing that worked for me, eventually. I didn't have peace for a lot longer than I could have imagined. Doesn't help that the ties all around me with friends and family were and still are so close, meaning the person couldn't disappear so I couldn't consider them gone in the absolute sense. Survive through it. That's the work. It can be a marathon and it may take some way longer than others but all I can say is as much as I tried to figure it out, to reason my way to peace, only time actually helped and finally I'm starting to feel some self acceptance.

[@Noozi666]

Can i ask you how much time was it in your case? Im feeling we are in the same boat... Just im at the beginning of a loss (40 days) But try my best and try different things.

[@poface4827]

@@Noozi666 I think it depends what your options are in terms of moving on. Some people fix up quick. Mine was from a breakup rather than a true bereavement even though it's like a bereavement anyway. I'm older and busy with kids, also no spare cash so I unfortunately couldn't just up and leave and change my life around immediately so I didn't have options which would have helped. My friends were also her friends so it was all cagey and it kind of broke the group. Because of that , moving on was slow . healed over 2 and half years. First 6 months was crap. The next year was bearable but I full of anger. The next year it settled and now I'm feeling peaceful doing my own thing. Shame was probably the biggest issue. I read that heartbreak from relationships is a symptom of low self esteem. Also 'when you fall in love you meet another person, but when your heart breaks you meet yourself' Another very true statement so once the pain subsides and your done reflecting and accepting the lessons, take your time and chill, find something to work on. I learnt a ton of harsh lessons and to be honest it's profoundly changed the way I look at relationships. ... If the girl wasn't in my friend group I think the whole process wouldn't have been done much quicker. Could have wiped the slate and deleted her from my life. But that's life. Best lessons come from pain.

[@JL-xi8qc]

I had someone who truly loved me for who I was and motivated me through everything. But it wasn’t enough for me, I still felt some part was missing and broke up with her so I can explore life on my own. I am currently conflicted if I made a mistake and if it was even worth leaving her for.

[@m.l.7558]

Same, dude. I think I made a mistake but I have to move on for both of our sakes

[@snowwhite4946]

Fight for her!

[@LunqCharlotte]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[@QueenJessica-z5j]

It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

[@LunqCharlotte]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@QueenJessica-z5j]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@QueenJessica-z5j]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@LunqCharlotte]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@Wooly_Owl_Creations]

My fiance and I had been together for 14 years this December. Less than 24 hours after getting our first apartment a disagreement led to him breaking it off. This happened yesterday. Trying to be strong 💪

[@dv670]

I am breaking down bcz my partner of 4 yrs broke up with me left me crying, weeping and begging for affection. I hope no one has to go through this.

[@JeniferLopez-lb2og]

You need to stay strong darling. I can recommend you to the great love spiritualist who can manifest your partner back to you with more love and commitment within few days

[@JeniferLopez-lb2og]

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[@JeniferLopez-lb2og]

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[@beaker7353]

I was dumped via txt over a plate of salmon, that he was offended with. I done no contact. He reached out and said sorry and that he loves me. Went down on Friday. Things weren't right and he made a few nasty comments. Yesterday i spilt a cup of of tea. He erupted. Called me reckless. Wasn't concerned if i had burnt myself. More concerned about the stain on the wall. I said I'll go. He said to take all my other possessions. I walked out, with dirty clothes on. Didnt have a wash, as id just woke up. Drove home in tears. Just trying to fathom why he reached out to say he loved me when he obviously didn't. I feel such an idiot. Heartbroken and lost 💔

[@jupitermane7821]

I lost my relationship of 2 years recently, this helped in a way.. I've been feeling my emotions strongly and overwhelmingly, im glad feeling them will help me eventually come out the other side of this

[@laurapolin]

My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the KZbin channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back. If you are still interested in his service You can hit him up on WhatsApp ‪[phone]

[@ciaranmac8689]

He is 100% right I broke up with my oldest daughters mum she ended it when I was 21 it fealt like when my mother died when I waa 17, I siad that at the time it I did get over it after a few years, I meet another woman we have 5 daughters and are still together.

[@aaronbell5994]

"I'm gonna David Goggins it", of course we made him a verb! 😁

[@dylanl6445]

that's so funny ! it caught me off guard lol

[@sweetiesweetie6368]

I mainly feel stupid for loving someone who made me think they loved me back. I’m haunted by their words and actions. I’m tired of mourning, it’s been six months and I know he doesn’t care. He’s able to manage but I’m just sleeping to avoid missing him. I wish I was free from him already.

[@juliane4840]

My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the KZbin channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back. If you are still interested in his service You can hit him up on WhatsApp ‪[phone]

[@2raw2war2]

Feeling is healing

[@BullyMaguire4ever]

I didn’t fully recover yet from a breakup 5 years ago. I really want to be healed, and able to fully move on.

[@MamesoooR]

3 breakups. Last breakup was just few weeks ago and this was definetly the hardest. She was everything i dreamed of and i thought she will be my wife. Now im just getting anxiety every night before the sleep. Love is everything for me because of the life i had before.. I know myself and i know that it will take a lot of time this time to make it through because she was the first one with whom i could imagine the rest of my life. When im at work it is much easier. When i feel that im starting to get anxious im trying to focus on something else or talk to someone as fast as possible so it will stop. After work im going to gym or bike so another few hours are fine but weekends alone and nights before sleep are so damn hard. Usually i fall asleep just because im exhausted from crying..But every morning im trying to start the day positively, im trying to use the anger for exercise so i can get more power from myself and i can feel that it is helping a lot. I hope everything will be allright and also that she will be happy as much as she can.

[@milanaisms]

I lost the love of my life. It’s my own fault. I’ll miss them forever and a day, but I know it’s for the best. Learning yet another lesson the hard way.

[@polynightingale3969]

lost my relationship of 8 years and i feel like i am nothing without her. But saw her with the new guy it literally burned my heart. I don't know how to go through this process.

[@TheUrbanUmmah]

I’m sorry to hear this brother. It’s been 65+ days since my wife of 3 years asked for a divorce. This was truly a blind side. Sudden and unexpected. With no opportunity to discuss or understand the reason for her decision. Leading up to it we were doing well and things were healthy. Nothing abnormal or no signs of fracture. Then suddenly I’m stonewalled. These 65 days or so have been amongst the hardest days of my life. You’re not alone brother. Take care of yourself first. The waves will come and they will go. When it’s calm focus on your health and mental. Then you will be stronger for the next wave.

[@oman9492]

First one is always the hardest. Think of all the new people you will get to meet. Enjoy yourself and friends and family. Never look back if the relationship is definitely over.

[@mid_0]

My bf told me he didn't believe i was doing anything to change myself, but I've been exercising more often, stopping to spend money unless its for my phone bill, groceries, and school. And he told me if i didn't change he'd break up with me and it's been a lot because out of everything he mentioned, i only agreed with 1 thing because I knew it was true

[@jess.shea.1]

My boyfriend of 2 years and I decided to end our relationship a week ago. There was a few big issues we avoided for a long time resulting in the inability to move on from those issues. We made the decision together. Still doesn't make it easier, it still sucks. Sending hugs to anyone else going through a breakup. We will get through this and we will be stronger as a result.

[@juliane4840]

My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the KZbin channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back. If you are still interested in his service You can hit him up on WhatsApp ‪[phone]

[@ramonbarajas2813]

My wife of almost 20 years has fallen out of love with me and I'm devastated. How could someone I love with my entire being just fall out of love with me. I'm just struggling to live my days. I feel the end is coming and its around the corner😢

[@ms.helpmeet4753]

Lost the love of my life 10+ years ago then we reconnected and broke up after months of trying. His religion and demands are just too much for me...but I love him and miss him.

[@blockchaining]

I want nothing more than to not exist right now, heart is physically aching, nerves shooting through my body, in the middle of screaming till my head explodes or crying till I’m sick, butterflies in my stomach. I’m 27 and never had love before, I gave everything to an illusion, I don’t know how to survive this. But I will..

[@halospartan117899]

Hey man, I'm also 27 and lost my first girlfriend and first person not my Mom or Dad that I told I love them. I worked with her for a couple of months post break up and it killed me seeing her everyday and being unable to heal. For those 2 months still talking in hopes of one day time would heal all wounds and we'd eventually come back together. It didn't work and she chose the guy who fed her stuff saying I didn't really love her, just the idea of the relationship. We'll all get through this

[@TheEko42]

Same here, it was exactly the same over 4 months pain like you described. I tell you the solution, if you will try it or not is your own thing. I found the connection to god, started reading the Quran and practising islam. The connection to god you will reach trough the prayers. Since them im free and happier then ever. I sent this problem to god and said do what you will with it and excepted no outcome of it. Here a link to the video ehat changed all for me: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXrYkKB3d6h0ppo

[@rasnamishra1320]

Today is my Break up day.. God knows and my trauma is hard to death... This video was warmth to my pain .. Thank you.

[@brandoncarter2708]

I did something the other day that really helped my anxiety with a potential relationship that wasn’t working out. I sat in my room, alone, and said out loud “Can you control how the other person feels? No, so don’t worry about it. You know this person is not right for you. Quit letting them control your emotions. You are so much more than one potential relationship.”

[@natashachisenga9524]

This is the best way to heal

[@Cori86]

God bless you ❤ I can't even last long in a relationship because of my past. If my partner does anything to me, even the slightest... I disappear

[@trevonrichardson4786]

I needed this! Thank you!

[@hannahedwards4330]

I broke up with someone for this same reason today, I felt like I was losing myself seeing the potential in him and the relationship. Great guy, we just aren’t right for each other sadly, it took me a year to accept that bc I love him so much and we had great chemistry. But chemistry can’t make up for everything, the differences we do have our quite important ones. So sad to see it end…but it’s the best for both of us as individuals. Maybe one day we’ll circle back to each other

[@pikabobchupants]

Needed this bro. Thank you.

[@defacto2417]

It means a lot to read all these comments, it makes me realize that im not alone.

[@Rankutubuki88]

Me too❤

[@DMuvvy]

You so are not❣️❣️❣️❣️. Love and peace to you and your broken heart😊

[@vigneshs2815]

me too

[@wakeupdan9668]

same, its like my heart gets a little lighter.

[@stephennixon6600]

It's honestly astonishing how many of us are going through this.

[@nicholasferrara4327]

It’s hard to suddenly stop talking to someone, especially if you talked to them every day. Another hurtful thing is when you not only lose them, you lose their friends who had become your friends and not seeing their family again.

[@elwinjohnson4004]

That shit hursts cause my people loved her and her people loved me

[@boy_087]

​@@elwinjohnson4004same here ☹️

[@darkexe867]

@@elwinjohnson4004same

[@Sueko2009]

Yes that's true, its so hard, you lose a lot people that was inside that circle. I have a friend of my ex who has kids, she always calls me to see them, they miss me... but i dont feel the same energy to go to her, because what made go to them was her, my ex.

[@LCD04]

Do you ever truly love or do you get accustomed?? People come in and out of your life. A break up shouldn’t be any different.

[@hannahborski6628]

Hardest part of any breakup is thinking about the memories. What is difficult is that people change over time and something that helps me get through breakups is “People are not the sum of our memories with them, but who they are in the present moment.”

[@laurapolin]

My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the KZbin channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back. If you are still interested in his service You can hit him up on WhatsApp ‪[phone]

[@randabuffer6562]

Hi, when did you brake up?

[@blondeevan4731]

Love that

[@Cl4rendon]

Favorite comment ❤

[@medisa-vx7dr]

I just lost my 11 year relationship iam depressed 😢may God strengthen me

[@pecansandies9521]

They lost someone who loved them. I didn't. That quote has kept me going for 8 months after a 6 year relationship from 18-25

[@micahrutland9021]

That's a great quote. Thanks.

[@bobdud3176]

Hurts the most realising, they didn’t loved you…

[@sethtenrec]

Great quote. Thank you!!!

[@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine]

Oh yeah that emergence on heroin and what I had to do to reverse it someone convinces them they needed to take it when you shouldn't have to this girl had been the same thing as my cheap mattress - I even tried to throw it in the dumpster but my uncle retrieved it - so for a year even more, without knowing who they were, losing my mind during a critical study on philosophy of the mind then we traced it back and found out with antipsychotics removed her child and family out of her life and made it even worse and dumped her in some shithole. The most insane experience ever and they just don't care.

[@AwesomelyDorcas]

Me to from 18-25,6yrs relationship ended..for me I take it too positive and I have learnt alot from the breakup I feel so easy everyday for as long I picked the lessons from it I am elevating henceforth.. with my ex it was a physical meeting,now am trying online dating.we keep on moving regardless

[@PhilipTomisi]

Great video! Sadly, my two year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.

[@GloriaStenium]

Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.

[@PhilipTomisi]

Wow, that’s incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?

[@GloriaStenium]

His name is Fatherabulu, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their ex.

[@PhilipTomisi]

Thank you for sharing this valuable info! I just looked him up, and he seems impressive.

[@HunnyBee23]

DO NOT get into another relationship in order to prevent yourself from mourning the last one. Feel the grief. Mourn your loss. Get yourself up and running as a single person and THEN you can start looking. Especially if you are a codependent person.

[@NoahS4226]

Needed this reminder. Just got out of a relationship and really hurting right now

[@386joedaddy]

I tried to use sex and it just ruined it and masterbating as well. Its been two years and i did everything to get back to 100% and it hurts to smile.

[@iHopBathroom]

@@386joedaddy you know you’re sad when you don’t even want to masturbate man. Fuck. I’m proud of myself for being able to diagnose my feelings and what they mean though. I’m stronger than she will ever be. Nothing she can do can hurt me anymore

[@diveshpote2669]

@@386joedaddy Have control over thoughts action and reactions, it'll save you

[@Skeeeeeyeeeeeeee]

@@NoahS4226 same smh

[@QrangesYT]

I just lost my 4 year relationship today at 5:37pm. I don’t know how to feel, my mind is racing and I can not sleep. I hope whoever is going through this keep your head up.

[@akankshasuman7438]

Everything will be okay just breathe and focus on you.

[@tejaswinimallick48]

Yea everything's gonna be okay . Cry as much as you can , grief and heal that's the only way to cope up. My 4 yr relationship got ruined as my ex chose another girl over me. And I'm shattered and I'm healing I wish you would also heal completely and be happy again.

[@ElBurroLolo]

Keep your head up, lost my 2 year relationship like a month ago, started drinking heavily and got a dui, I really wanted to get her back because she was a really good girl but I have fucked everything up now. You are not alone brother, focus on yourself, go outside, go on runs, get that dopamine up and work out. ❤

[@hollyfreeman2117]

I know it may seem like your entire world is dying but time will heal you!! I went from sobbing and screaming every night for two weeks and slowly got better. Two months now and I feel SO much better. And you will too! Don’t give up or give in. Time WILL heal💪🏻

[@micahrutland9021]

I lost my relationship at that Same time of the day on Dec. 5. It hurts, but I'm always hurting my whole life, so used to it.